In this regard police is really useless from my experience. I called the police twice in regards of domestic violence and one count of stalking. In the first case they didn't file a report snd drove the offender 200 m to the train station. He came back 30 minutes later, unlocking the door with the key to our flat. In the second instance I was told it was my problem, because "You took the guy home once". I'm a feminist, but I was so done afterwards, I wanted nothing to do with police after a vicious sexual assaul. No, thank you, I cried for hours in the shower afterwards, but at least I wasn't ridiculed by some 20 year olds afterwards. The policw just terrifies me, and I know there are some GREAT policemen out there. But the faith is lost...

In my case, I got to work with an officer whose job was devoted to DV cases. My ex got jail time because of that officer. I wish every survivor was so lucky.

What really infuriates me is they didn’t take her word for what happened, but 100% believed the lie her abuser told them! Of f*****g course he’s going to deny deny deny and rely on being able to lie effectively enough to the MALE officers to get them to take his side. Bet if there was a female cop there, the results would’ve been very different. Just because one woman in a million might lie about being stalked or abused—-or raped—-does NOT give anyone license to doubt and dismiss the other 999,999 women’s reports of those attacks or the stalking. That’s Nine Hundred Ninety-Nine Thousand, Nine Hundred Ninety Nine to One that the woman is telling the absolute TRUTH. Those are such good odds that it’s smart to believe every report until, after thoroughly investigating it, you discover if it’s the truth or a lie. Chances are way greater that she’s being 100% honest about what happened to her, and that there’s a bad guy out there they need to catch before he does worse to her, or attacks another woman, and another, and another—-one of whom might be a woman you know, a woman you love, a woman you want to protect from such treatment. But no, the simpleminded who somehow manage to bluff their way into professions they are patently unqualified to be in don’t take into consideration the fact that allowing an aberrant individual such as an abuser or rapist to walk free, through male law enforcement officers’ denial that another man just like themselves could be capable of such a crime, could then put their OWN loved ones into potential danger. They don’t realize that aberrant individuals like that are masters of deceit, who have learned how to draw people in like a spider in a web, completely entangling them, before violently striking at them. Those male officers initially don’t realize they’re being duped, then when they do realize it they’re too embarrassed to admit it, so just double down like the idiot a******s they are. We need to upgrade our police forces, and start replacing all the bad apples with new and more evolved individuals, who truly will protect and serve, instead of overreacting and making things worse.

Seems like they support him, and the "office" in turn supports the officers supporting the assailant. They were buuusted and they're trying to play it cool. Even if she had dialed the job emergency line, if officers were caught on HER voicemail making fun of her or the call, there would have been discussions regarding the continuation of their employment.

I had an ex boyfriend was harassing me and stalking me a year after we broke up. I had been taking careful note of everything. In one email he said, "I feel like I'm becoming a monster, and I'm afraid what I might do." Finally he left three crazy voice messages, with the last saying, "I'm coming over. I have to see you. I don't care if the police get involved." I went to the police in Minneapolis, MN, USA (where George Floyd was murdered) to talk to them. The officer I talked to said, "You need to pick better boyfriends," and dismissed me. I read the Minnesota statue on stalking, and he definitely fit the bill. Also, a judge (when I filed a harassment restraining order) later told me that if what I was saying was true, he had committed "felony harassment" (and as such, I didn't have to pay the filing fee).

When I went to police about my ex trying to kill me, they literally said there was nothing they could do, as it was just "my word against his." I had witnesses! I had medical records from when he broke my nose! I had half a dozen neighbors who heard him beating me almost daily! He's a convicted felon, worst I had was a speeding warning for a tail light out! There were 3 awesome officers in that department that DID go out of their way to help me - the only female officer, who was amazing, the old guy who was chief, and another that would stop at the store to check in on us at night. All the older cops were lazy or sadistic.

She may have been better off saying " i dont know who came in". Not that she should have to.

Yep. Just locker room. Boys will be boys. 🤢

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It's the "boys will be boys" mentality/excuse.

Lets say... She had called about another issue, animal cruelty, and the officers were caught in her voicemail mocking her? There would be an outrage. Misogyny is not only sourced in men.

Exactly. The vibe I'm getting is a half-arsed rehearsed apology from the officer and a whole bunch to people looking at you, waiting for you to say 'ok', which you do, because you realise you're not going to get anywhere.

If she had said anything they would have manufactured something to arrest or intimidate her.

she's 'satisfied' because clearly the entire department is inept & corrupt at best, so she is satisfied because she shouldn't waste time trying to find a solution with those part of the problem.

I always thought that when someone is a victim of domestic violence/ràpe, the aftermath is often worse. The victim is assaulted by the police, the hospital staff, friends, family, sometimes even the district attorney's office. I thought we were past this cràp years ago.

Wow, you should have alerted the media.

Yup. Don't date or marry military, police or lawyers. Any bump in the road could end your life or your freedom.

Then she wouldn't have to worry about JUST her abuser attacking her. Police are vindictive SOBs who truly think they are above the law - because thin blue line - abusers protect abusers.

Honestly this is the best idea. Post the voicemail ✨everywhere✨! I mean if it's no big deal!