I Want To Share These 7 Faces And Stories Of Trans People To Create More Understanding In The World
In March, just before countries all over the globe closed their airspace, I spent two weeks in Medellin, Colombia, photographing transgender youngsters.
Colombian society behaves extremely negatively towards the LGBT community, despite having relatively favorable laws for their members. The majority of my models were kicked out of their homes after their coming out. Trans people are regularly killed, mainly female sex workers. Last year, 17 murders were reported, but the actual number is probably higher.
Today, one day after the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia, I want to share with you the faces and stories of seven Colombian youngsters. They were without exception extremely kind, brave, and powerful, despite their vulnerable position. When asked why they participated in my project, they all said it is important to be visible as a community, to create more awareness and understanding.
By reading (and sharing!) this article, you can help them with their mission.
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Julian (Medellín, 1998)
“I want to become a psychologist to help other trans people. Taking care of mental health is very important when you’re part of a minority group like we are.”
“When I go to the gym, I never wear a chest binder, so that people are able to see my breasts. Sometimes men ask me questions and this is the moment I can educate people about transgender topics. If we want people to understand us, we should be visible.”
Ander (Barrancabermeja, 1998)
“At the age of twenty, I felt extremely depressed. I knew I wanted to transition, but I did not know how to. And I had this fear of my family, my friends, and society. Would they ever treat me like a man?”
“When I finally came out, my sisters supported me. But my mother is blinded by religion. She is a member of the evangelical church and in that community, they don’t accept people like me. She refuses to learn about the topic and eventually made me leave the house. When this happened, she hugged me in tears saying I would always be her favorite daughter.”
“Alas, I don’t have access to chest binders that meet safety standards. Binders from Colombia are of poor quality and I can’t afford to import better ones from the U.S. That’s why I use bandages. I know it’s bad for my health, but it’s the only way to make my chest flatter and that’s important to me.”
Alisson (Cocorná, 1994)
“Since 4 years, I work as a teacher. My pupils have always accepted me completely, but some of my former employers had problems with my transition. At my current school, I warned them, ‘It is forbidden by law to discriminate against me.’ This time I did not get any complaints. My father, however, will never accept me. He forced me to leave my house and my town, and he told me to commit suicide.”
“I have not been raped. Not yet. But life is dangerous for trans women. In Colombia, their life expectation is 35 years, because they are often killed to cover up a rape. Policemen are the biggest danger to us. Once a group of officers stopped me and told me we are prostitutes, thieves, and the s**t of society. After that, they beat me. I sued them and they were sanctioned based on footage from camera surveillance. I decided to defend my rights because I am a normal person who doesn’t deserve this kind of treatment. And I comfort myself with the thought that it’s because of my suffering I enjoy happiness more.”
Laura Daniel (Bogotá, 1996)
“When I changed my name to Laura Daniel on my legal documents, I declared my gender to be ‘female.’ I would love to have another option, to express my non-binary identity, but this is forbidden in Colombia.”
“The ‘f’ in my ID, combined with my masculine appearance, could cause problems with the police, but so far I’ve never had any trouble and I am ready to defend myself. I have the right to be who I am.”
Julio (Medellín, 1996)
“I had only one person in my life who supported me. My mother. She died two years ago. My father fought me aggressively over my transgender feelings and said I would never be a real man.”
“After my mother’s death, I lived with my uncle and aunt. But they deliberately used my female birth name and asked me to leave their house. Now I am all alone. To make a living, I work as a webcam model. In the future, I hope to become a trans role model.”
Nicolás (Bogotá, 1998)
“In my childhood, I had a very strong bond with the partner of my mother, to such an extent that my mother was even jealous of us. I expected him to be my ally when I came out, but it turned out to be on the contrary. He responded in a very bullying tone, ‘You will never be happy with this decision.’ That sentence has haunted me for many years, especially in moments of depression.”
“After my coming out, I was kicked out of my house. I did not get any support from my parents. But I am also independent, with a good house in a nice neighborhood. I speak fluent English. And I have a well- paid job at an international call center where I am not discriminated for being trans.”
Ariana (Mexico, 2002)
“My coming out was relatively easy. Both of my parents are doctors and well-educated. In the beginning, they kept quiet about it, but I pushed them little by little by buying female clothes and wearing makeup. At some point, they went to an organization for LGBT families to learn more about the topic and from that moment on, I had their full support.”
“On the streets and at school, I make myself visible as a trans woman to encourage other young trans people to come out. If you walk on the street and see LGBT people, it means it is safe to be yourself. Of course, I do take precautions: I only go outside for a walk with big groups.”
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Share on FacebookSomebody please send the guy without a safe binder some safe ones! I really worry for their health.
Ander has a binder now. No need to worry anymore.
Load More Replies...Personally, I do not understand concepts of gender and so forth, but if this makes you happy and comfortable in your skin, then go for it. It is your life, no one elses. Never forget that.
Hi there! I appreciate your comment and wanted to offer some information :) Cisgender (not trans) people thinking they don't understand the concepts of gender is actually a myth! You do understand the concept of gender because you have a gender (everyone does). It just so happens that your gender, your internal sense of self, matches the gender you were assigned at birth. Because your body and gender match, it isn't something you have to think about. It's normal for you. Transgender people don't have that privilege. Their gender identity, their internal sense of self, doesn't match their sex (genitalia). I don't want to put words in your mouth, but what I think you meant to articulate was that you don't have the experience of needing to transition to find harmony between your body and your gender. Not trying to be rude, just trying to educate. No hard feelings intended.
Load More Replies...Thank you so much for posting. I feel so proud. I hope our stories can help others to realize that being themselves is the best thing they can do.
As a being part of the transgender community, these problems are all too common. I believe that there needs to be more accepted as who we are as people. We are like everyone else. We are people and we are valid. Thank you for everyone who shared their experience on here.
Laura's hair is AMAZING. Talk about a work of art! I have met quite a few trans people, and I know it's wrong to stereotype a group based on fairly limited personal experience, but I'm gonna say it anyway: I never met a trans person I didn't immediately like. They're some of the nicest, friendliest, most open-minded people I know. And they all had really cool fashion sense (unlike me, heheh). Maybe I should ask one of my trans friends for advice on where to get my hair done...
Laura Daniel's hair is done by their sister, who happens to be a true artist. I will pass your compliment to both of them!
Load More Replies...Many thanks to these awesome individuals for sharing their stories! Sending love and good vibes out to them.
Thank you for taking the photos and sharing these young people's stories
You are all very brave. But without you, even knowing you are marked for abuse by people who fear what they don't know, but are afraid to learn, there will come a time, when you are heroes to those who come after you! So, keep up the good work, the hard work. Being your true self, should never be this hard for anyone. You will be ever defended by me.
Alisson´s story is so f****d up. I have hit rock bottom. I tried to commit suicide. That feeling of loneliness and depression is something I would not wish upon my worst enemy.
Did anybody say it was the biggest issue? Just because something isn't the biggest problem doesn't mean we can't talk about it. I mean, if that were the case then nobody should have tried to solve any problem but climate change for the past 30 years and that's definitely not the case.
Load More Replies...Somebody please send the guy without a safe binder some safe ones! I really worry for their health.
Ander has a binder now. No need to worry anymore.
Load More Replies...Personally, I do not understand concepts of gender and so forth, but if this makes you happy and comfortable in your skin, then go for it. It is your life, no one elses. Never forget that.
Hi there! I appreciate your comment and wanted to offer some information :) Cisgender (not trans) people thinking they don't understand the concepts of gender is actually a myth! You do understand the concept of gender because you have a gender (everyone does). It just so happens that your gender, your internal sense of self, matches the gender you were assigned at birth. Because your body and gender match, it isn't something you have to think about. It's normal for you. Transgender people don't have that privilege. Their gender identity, their internal sense of self, doesn't match their sex (genitalia). I don't want to put words in your mouth, but what I think you meant to articulate was that you don't have the experience of needing to transition to find harmony between your body and your gender. Not trying to be rude, just trying to educate. No hard feelings intended.
Load More Replies...Thank you so much for posting. I feel so proud. I hope our stories can help others to realize that being themselves is the best thing they can do.
As a being part of the transgender community, these problems are all too common. I believe that there needs to be more accepted as who we are as people. We are like everyone else. We are people and we are valid. Thank you for everyone who shared their experience on here.
Laura's hair is AMAZING. Talk about a work of art! I have met quite a few trans people, and I know it's wrong to stereotype a group based on fairly limited personal experience, but I'm gonna say it anyway: I never met a trans person I didn't immediately like. They're some of the nicest, friendliest, most open-minded people I know. And they all had really cool fashion sense (unlike me, heheh). Maybe I should ask one of my trans friends for advice on where to get my hair done...
Laura Daniel's hair is done by their sister, who happens to be a true artist. I will pass your compliment to both of them!
Load More Replies...Many thanks to these awesome individuals for sharing their stories! Sending love and good vibes out to them.
Thank you for taking the photos and sharing these young people's stories
You are all very brave. But without you, even knowing you are marked for abuse by people who fear what they don't know, but are afraid to learn, there will come a time, when you are heroes to those who come after you! So, keep up the good work, the hard work. Being your true self, should never be this hard for anyone. You will be ever defended by me.
Alisson´s story is so f****d up. I have hit rock bottom. I tried to commit suicide. That feeling of loneliness and depression is something I would not wish upon my worst enemy.
Did anybody say it was the biggest issue? Just because something isn't the biggest problem doesn't mean we can't talk about it. I mean, if that were the case then nobody should have tried to solve any problem but climate change for the past 30 years and that's definitely not the case.
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