The parents are absolute hypocrites. "Being too harsh on them, refusing to let go of the past and embarrassing them in front of family members". What the heck do they think they did to her? I would just say, "now you know how she feels". I think though that they're more concerned about what other people will say, rather than actually being ashamed of their past horrible behaviour towards their new daughter-in-law. It's probably best to keep them at arm's length; they seem like the type who would be overbearing towards their grandson, and might even try to get her legally condemned as an 'unfit mother'.

Gotta love the ones who see nothing wrong with throwing your past in your face, but it's "going too far" when the same is done to them. Tsk tsk.

I have a cousin who use to be a stripper. She got marry and stop. Her 1st husband cheated on her so she divorced him. She met a great man that loved her and her kids unconditionally. So her ex husband took her to court to sue for full custody. He not once before she got with him try to get custody over their son. There was a pfa on him he try to attack her I put myself in between them and stopped him. Well in court he kept bringing up the fact she was a stripper. The judge said and you didn't have a problem with that when you marry her. How does that effects on what kind of mother she is. He asked my cousin what she does now at the time she was a manager for a bank. The judge ignored him. So he decided to lie and call children services and said her house was dirty she leaves the kids home alone every night there's no food. So a social worker came over and he laughed. Her house was super clean. There's a house full of food and drinks etc... Her mom gets the kids after school and she gra

I was never a s*x worker. I was married a virgin at 20. My 2nd partner turns out to be the one I married as a 2nd husband. I got pregnant and my MIL, still thinks to this day (30+ years later), that our children are not my husband's. Why? Because he was married before - like me - and never got his wife pregnant. My husband made me a proposition I couldn't refuse and the fine prints were that we both pass fertility tests to which I agreed (less embarrassing than a virginity test I assure you). He's sterile, I'm extra fertile. The doctor's verdict: miracle happens and I believe in them. We did too. At the time I was a specialist in getting people pregnant the natural way so I boosted my husband with mega doses of certain vitamins and minerals. I got pregnant the first time six weeks after. Shock in his family; the baby is surely not yours. Yeah, okay, just take a look a them, will you? They look so much like their father. NTA. Like someone else said, keep that picture up.

It seems like the majority here already agree with me here but I have to say it: sex work is real work

You are NTA I would have did something even more petty. I would have put it on social media if they have a Facebook page and tag them in it. Show it to all of their friends and let them know why

I hate it when people want you to hide their actions. (Like the parents want OP to hide what they did from family and friends) I like to live in the sunshine. I try my best not to do things I would want to hide from others. They should have not missed his wedding. Then the truth would not bother them so much. He can tell whoever he wants. Don't do something you're ashamed of. Easy! We all make mistakes but that was not a mistake. It was intentional infliction of pain. I was a heroin addict for 14 years. So I understand embarrassment. But I live in the sunshine now and it feels GREAT. If I feel myself going down that road, I always ask if I'd be embarrassed for people to know? If yes, I probably shouldn't be doing it.

Wow! What kind of relationship is the daughter in law suppose ti have with these parents? I think they basically destroyed whatever chance they had by doing what they did.

The idea that sex workers are less honest than other people is horrible. The idea that they're unfaithful, even after retiring, makes no sense. The placing of conditions on attending your child's big day is reprehensible. This guy married a treasure. I'd have been much less patient and gentle about it if someone treated me and my partner that way. She's the better person.

Sounds like the parents need to be beat over the head with the book of Hosea. Gomer was a sex SLAVE. Hosea rescued her. Twice. Why should he be judged for that rather than upheld as a hero?

I would have shown them a DNA sample from a Platypus, not like they would know the diffetence

I agree with other comments, take it down. You either have all made up and moved on or have not. At this point the parents get that they were wrong not to have faith in you two. As your son gets older, he will have questions, you won't want him to have to shoulder pain from this hurtful experience.

What matter's is the bond between you and your wife and to make a home for your child.There are probably skeletons in your mom's closet and your dad's and who cares about your brother he probably doesn't even know what day it is or time of day let him do his thing and your parents do their thing and you focus on your family don't let others bring you down.They are judgemental about your wife's work performance and they will always have a bad opinion of her

Do your parents deserve this? Absolutely! What they did was unconscionable. Does your wife deserve this? She says she doesn't mind, but at some point she might get tired of the story being repeated, and then it would be her right to take it down, and you should be fine with it. Does your son deserve it? No. Not one bit. He's yours…both of yours. For his sake, you should take it down. Keep it though, and tell him the story as needed, if needed.

he should take it down but if anyone brings up the wife's past ever again than they should go NC on the family.

Get rid of that thing. I would not say anything too my husband but it would be hurting my heart any tine I saw it. I would not ever be cozy with that family but concentrate on my own. Your wie must be a gem to to have not let.

That's not petty. I would have made the DNA test my Christmas card and mailed it to everyone. Making sure to note that your parents demanded it be done to accept your child. Heck, I would have had a few hundred extra printed and sent a copy to their neighbours, local corner stores, gas stations, parents work / coworkers, that type of thing.

My mom did the same thing to my brother. This chick he was sleeping with said the kid was his and he believed it. Hell I believed it. My mom did the test on the DL and guess what? It wasn't his. This is thread only exists b/c the parents were wrong.

I kinda think OP was hoping for this reaction from his parents by them seeing the results/letter on the wall. If his parents saw the letter on the wall and then laughed about it, OP would probably be even more upset becuase he wanted to see a negative reaction from the parents. If the parents laughed and said "you should go to kinkos and get it enlarged in a big frame", OP would be more upset and then he would care less if the results/letter stayed on the wall. (Uno reverse card) He may even take the results/letter off the wall sooner becuase he got the opposite reaction from his parents from what he wanted.

The parents are clearly out of line. I do find it curious that you find it necessary to inform people that your wife is a former sex worker. I'm not judging her either about that either as I'm not really sure what a sex worker is. I do think it is odd that the only job she could find was as a sex worker though. It sounds like a horrible job.

Sh*t, I would have paid for weekly singing telegrams describing the child's parentage. At least the 1st year. Then monthly the 2nd. Then every year on his birthday. Screw them.

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OMG, please let it go, life is to short carry bad feelings. Yes they might have been judgemental what parent isn't. My mom criticized my wife for 40 years, on her death bed she apologized and said I know I wasn't happy about your marriage but you married a good woman that raised your kids and took care of you. When you reach a point of losing a loved one ask of if hurting was all worth it?

With parents like the OP has, he should be the one asking for a DNA test. But looking forward, take it down. When the kid's old enough to read, this will raise questions that he in no sense should have to deal with. (Alternate plan, you'll take it down at your house if your parents will display it at theirs. After all, it was their idea - demand, in fact).

Dude, your parents made a mistake, yeah.... BUT! Come on now, they ARE your parents-- they were merely looking out for YOUR WELL BEING. Considering the situation, it's only natural they'd be reluctant to believe that the baby was yours. After all, it's very easy for someone in a relationship to see through rose colored glasses. I'm sure they already deeply regret missing your nuptials. But to be fair, it's been well proven that someone working in that "industry" tends to go back when/ if financial woes arise. Think of your own son in the future, realistically. Take the facking thing down now, shred it, have a nice, long sit down with your parents & your wife to lay all cards on the table, dialogue like adults, and squash this ridiculous thing once and for all! Stop taking pride in being "petty". Again, your parents were in a position, rightfully so, where they were worried that you *WERE potentially being taken advantage of-- that came from a place of love. Time for love

Lol. I font blame the guy for not taking it down and rubbing it in but I don't understand the embarrassment of the parents. As a person who may have suggested one of my sons get that test done also , if I questioned the girls morality..the fact he had it up as a conversation started would not bother me one bit .Yes I asked cuz as a former jo there od no way yo know what the heck you think is moral and have been up to..and I might ask for additional DNA tests for any other kids too but I never would have given an ultimatum. This is close to the story of my brother and his ( now ex wife) gf who used to be his side chick. She thought to impress me by telling me a male stripper asked for her phone # and she gave it to him..I told my brother. He confronted her and demanded the reciprocated number. She denied having it and said I lied on her. BUT 3 Others stepped up and agreed they saw the exchange too. Finally she handed over the paper. He stayed with her .

I love how they claim that the parents are "just human and humans are terrible" and then ignore entirely that the woman he married is also "just human". They act as though the mere act of being a female makes her infallible. Like we have never heard of a woman who let a man raise a child for decades and then found out the kid wasn't his. Do you have ANY idea how devastating that would be for that man? Or are we just not supposed to care because being promiscuous is magically seen as being a positive for women these days? Fun fact, ladies: you've ALWAYS controlled access to s*x. The reason there is a push to make promiscuity a net positive is because it's a negative to most men, who control access to relationships.

Why is pregnant spelled wrong?

Did you marry her to deliberately upset your parents? If it was true love and you DO, in fact, want to move on and show people how mature you are then take it down. Stop sitting on the fence and making people guess at your sincerity. If you don’t want to take it down as a reminder then offer to visit them at their home but let them know you’re not taking it down at your house. Your anger hurts other people, too. Maybe ask for a real apology?

"my wife was a sex worker -- don't judge! She did what she had to do to survive!" As opposed to...getting a job? Sorry dude, you blew it +- I'd never marry a whore.

Some women will date men, get pregnant by someone else then divorce the man and ask for alimoney and child support. They will bleed a decent man dry and repeat the process with other men. Your parents are older and wiser. Their advice was not unreasonable. Not all former sex workers are bad people nor are they all good. People in the sex industry are usually surrounded by people dealing drugs, human trafficking, the exploitation of children, etc. If not directly involved , they turn a blind eye, which reveals their basic character. Some people allow their idealistic views to blind them to reality. I have two relatives that I love dearly but will lie, con and steal anything for drug money. They done it for years to the entire family. It's a common trait among addicts just as there are common traits among sex workers. His parents were cautious, skeptical and concerned for their son ... and with good reason.

If I were the parents, I’d own it and call it “A Memorial to Looking AfterMy Son’s Interests” and ask for a copy for my own house. That would get him to take it down pretty quick.