Here Are 30 Silly Yet Valid Reasons For Refusing To Date Someone As Shared In This Online Group
Author and cartoonist Scott Adams once noted that “Nothing defines humans better than their willingness to do irrational things in the pursuit of phenomenally unlikely payoffs. This is the principle behind lotteries, dating, and religion.”
And while you can explain lotteries using numbers, and religion using philosophy, dating, relationships, and love in general are tough nuts to crack. But some still do try to explain themselves when it comes to dating, even if their reasoning is petty.
Not too long ago, folks on Reddit shared reasons—petty, yet more or less still rightful or fair enough ones, and sometimes just plain weird—to not date someone. And if you’ve been here long enough, you’ll know we covered a similar thread not too long ago, so you can check that out once you’re done with this one.
So, scroll down to enjoy some of the best and most entertaining responses to the now-viral thread, which garnered over 36,000 upvotes, and be sure to share your petty 'never dating this person' stories in the comment section below.
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Chews with their mouth open.
Not petty - if you can't share a meal with someone because they eat like an animal, it's hard to date them.
Unless you literally have no choice, such as a serious head cold with stuffed sinuses, there is no good excuse for an adult to chew with their mouth open.
If someone has a serious head cold & stuffed sinuses, they have no freakin' business going out on a date. That would be even more of a reason to not date them.
Load More Replies...Omg, I wish I could upvote this a thousand times! It's like nails on a chalkboard to me when someone is chewing a piece of gum like they haven't eaten in months. 😳 *Urge to kill, rising...*
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“‘cUs sHe TeXteD LiKe dIs! :):):):) :p:p:p:p =))))))”
Hey, I only use ThIs TyPiNg when it's to convey sarcasm, and I use the smileys because I like them :)
Ye ThIs StYlE of typing i associate with mocking or sarcasm
Load More Replies...I'm fine with it if it isn't their native language. But to do it on purpose/"it's easier" is a major turn off. Or only text trough emojis.
I swear to god I will chop off their heads if they do that all the time. It pisses me off so much that words cannot explain my rage 😤
I can't date anyone with lip injections. It felt super unnatural kissing her. Like kissing a baboon with rigor mortis.
OP didn't mention Botox, the caption was written by the BP author.
Load More Replies...I cringe seeing this, especially if they feel like we don’t notice and do that stupid fish face
My dad has this joke that when Brad Pitt gets tired of Angelina Jolie talking, he licks her lips and sticks them to the wall
Did anyone else find the picture unsettling? I can't look at it without a shudder.
I instantly noped out of an otherwise fine blind date when she ordered apple juice - off menu - at a fancy restaurant. 19-year-old me only knew apple juice as a toddler's drink, and I just couldn't get past it.
I'm no longer that petty. But I did make the mistake of mentioning this to my wife once, many years ago. And she now makes a habit of ordering apple juice whenever we're at a fancy restaurant, just to see if I squirm.
I'm in end stage renal failure and apple juice is one of the few beverages I'm allowed to have. No dairy, no sodas except for ginger ale and only certain brands, no bottled iced teas, no oj, (no phosphorus, no potassium, no bubbles because I had biliopancreatic diversion with a duodenal switch - 4 oz stomach and only 1 meter of small intestine).
I am so sorry to hear this, love hugs and good vibes and prayers if accepted. Fingers crossed you find a match soon if that is what you want.
Load More Replies...I love apple juice, and I'm 42 years old. I will never abandon it. Ever.
I love the ending of this one 😍 Also, Germans will do this all the time. We love our Apfelschorle and will even drink it also at fancy dinners.
Exactly! Such a pity that most countries don't know Schorle!
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I almost broke up with a girl when she was trying to be seductive and yanked my book out of my hand and closed it losing my spot.
No no no. Instead you ALSO get a book and lean on each other and read.
It's far more sexy to slide a book mark in slowly, stroke the hand as you gently take the book from them and place it on the bedside cabinet. Bonus point's if you say '[main character of the book's name] can wait...'
Wellll I dunno, it's hard for me to quickly switch mentally from something I'm immersed in. I think I'd still be like "No wait! Let me finish this paragraph and see what happens!"
Load More Replies...Almost? I would banish her to the underworld. Ain’t no one gon’ mess with my books.
My wife once told me she couldn't be with someone who wasn't around the same level of intelligence as she. I have no idea how I'm going to keep it a secret that I'm a f*****g idiot the rest of our lives.
Lol its kinda like when youre in an argument with someone stupider than you
Made me think of this quote: “It's hard to win an argument with a smart person, but it's damn near impossible to win an argument with a stupid person.” – Bill Murray cinespia.
Load More Replies...To be honest, people who claim to have a high iq and can only be with people of "similar intelligence" are actually just the stupidest stupid that ever did stupid.
The wife might not be talking about IQ specifically. She might simply want stimulating conversation. Not every form of intelligence is measurable on an IQ test. Now if a sense of humour could be measured in digits, I think the husband would score a very high HQ. ;)
Load More Replies...You aren't an idiot, I've very seldom met any, and I've only recently seen one (on TV), and he was sort of orange-ish. I think if you just read more (make the effort), it fixes things. Decide on your topic. History and current events are usually interestnig to most people.
Lol either your wife perhaps isn’t as intelligent as she believes or that you are smarter than you realize. Also intelligent people don’t think that they are that smart because they get that there is vastly much more knowledge out there that they don’t yet know or understand. If someone thinks that they already know everything, you can know that they aren’t that smart.
To be fair, the wife didn't say she was intelligent. She said she wants someone with the same level of intelligence.
Load More Replies...Actually this is a real problem for some people, finding someone to have a stimulating conversation can be very difficult for those with a high intellect and can indirectly reduce the size of ones potential dating pool.
I'm book smart and would have killed it on Jeopardy! - I just know a lotta stuff, reading all my life. But it's hard for me to talk, sometimes. So people think I'm not too bright.
Load More Replies...It's not unusual to be both intelligent AND a f*****g idiot. You can be a rocket scientist and still be clueless about manners/conversing/blending in with your peer group.
If it ever arises, just mention you were smart enough to ask HER to marry you!!! 😉😉😉
I had a guy break up with me in high school because God told him to… I was like uh okay guess I can’t argue with that one.
Some people who hear voices treat them like auditory hallucinations, not gospel truth. I read of a businessman in the UK who let his talk for an hour in the evenings. They had no say in how he ran his company.
Load More Replies...A 50 some fat old guy from church, who was also a bit nuts, asked me to marry him. I was 19 or so. I said: Oh you should never just marry someone. You really have to ask God who you should marry. He wasn't so smart, cause he could have said: How do you know God wouldn't want that? Ehmmm yeah I just know lol.
Load More Replies...Lol, this makes me remember the time I tried to get out of trouble by saying, “Satan made me do it!” Sadly, my mom didn’t buy that explanation. I didn’t grow up in a religious household but we did have a few outlying family members who were super religious. This was after one of the visits to them. 🤦🏻♀️
After 2yrs I got by my then girlfriend that she had to give up something she loved for Lent and that something was me.
There is a name for that and that name is schizophrenia. Bullet dodged.
In Mormon culture, it's not uncommon for a guy to claim, "God said you should marry me." And way too often the young woman replies, "Okay."
I broke up with a girl after she told me "God puts dinosaur bones in the ground to test our faith"
She said i drove slow on our date. She likes men that live "dangerously"
It snowed heavily while we were at a fancy dinner. I was in my father's car because I had just gotten back from Iraq.
She called me a week later, I said I need a woman that is more down to earth.
I have an honest question (so please don't just downvote bc I don't try to be disrespectful): why do you say that phrase: " thank you for your service"? As an European I've heard this in so many movies and read it in books and I don't get it. And people I asked, don't get it either. I mean it's a profession, correct? Dangerous, yes, but there are many more that are dangerous as well. And one doesn't say "thank you" there. It's got the feel of an expected automatic response somehow. Does that have an origin somewhere? Or is it guilt, bc someone other didn't go to the military, or had to go to the military for lack of choices? I've never even heard this phrase outside the US. I just don't get it. Sorry 🙈
Load More Replies...My grandad served in the Air Force but i think he was in signal towers and stuff but in Vietnam he flew those planes that paratroopers jump out of
“Dangerously” This man has risked his life for his the safety of others (if he was actuallly serving or just going on holiday). How much more “dangerous” can u get bitçh?
You fought in Iraq, but she didnt perceive that as living dangerously?
She obviously could't connect that you had been living "dangerously" all the time you were in Iraq. You dodged a bullet by not taking that any further.
Live, laugh, love style home decor.
I was in my late 20's when a guy told me that my living room looked like his grandma's. I had plaid sofas and collected figurines. In hindsight, I guess it did. LOL
My life is now complete, I have quietly lived with the hatred of this c**p for many years.
I don’t know… I know it can be cringe, but sometimes I genuinely need the reminder to smile and laugh.
It's like seeing the words dispels the miserable ones like Holy water on a demon. XD
Load More Replies...To me, it’s just banal sentimentality. Sure, we all need affirmations now & then and it helps to have a supportive tribe lifting each other up. The people I’ve met with this decor (a couple of relatives & co-workers) use it as their concept of style and hardly are affirmed by it. Throw pillows that say “Home?” No shot it’s your home. Wall hangings that say “gratitude?” Shouldn’t that be a given?
The reason this style is so popular is it is how a lot of people feel life should be. Tbh, it's their home, they can decorate however they want. Nothing wrong with positivity.
People that like to “debate” too much. I’m all for having your own opinion but when someone thinks they have to be the devil’s advocate constantly? No thanks.
I know you are joking, still... it depends on where you are from. In Switzerland we have a big culture on constantly discussing and debating things, well, we constantly vote on anything and everything. So there's that. Discussions deteriorated to screaming fits and such in the last years, thanks to COVID, but still...
Load More Replies...The devil doesn't always need an advocate, and it definitely doesn't have to be me. For example, we don't need to hear "both sides" of whether racism is bad.
Ugh, there are about a billion problems I see with this statement. First, probably 99% of the world population will agree on that statement, so there aren't any really sides opposed to it. Racists don't usually consider themselfs racist and will be honestly offended if called out. Second, racism is an extremely broad term and while some forms of racism are clear as day, some others can definitely be debated. This leads to the next problem. If racism is diverse, the ways to combat it, will be diverse to, which gets really complicated, because some of these ways will disagree, and people end up accusing each other of being racist, because of minor disagreements about what is racist and what is not. If there are to many disagreements about how to achieve social justice, there usually will be some fascist, who will help end this struggle. Basically look at Europe in the 1930s.
Load More Replies...My husband in a nutshell. Thinks he is a walking debate team. Point and counterpoint on every thing. I have to constantly defend what I say. Everything is not an argument. Sometimes it is a statement of fact pure and simple. The sky is blue does not need a counter point.
I've known people like this, and with a few, it was bearable because at heart, they were truly great people. But most of them were just wearying to the point of having to go no contact.
Load More Replies...I'd be more likely to write someone off for the opposite and never wanting to talk about something real. ETA: On the other hand, I know a guy that delights in contradicting people with things he read on Reddit or wherever, and yeah, it's super annoying. I was probably way more frustrated than is reasonable when he told me I shouldn't buy salted butter, because "Actually...".
Never Question Anything. Your CIA handler doesn't like it.
Load More Replies...Someone who thinks that you have to agree to their point of view and that it’s not enough just to understand it. They argue with you to try to force you to agree with them, they can’t respect that your POV is different.
Agree here, when someone feels like everyone should also feel the same about their own beliefs/opinions, gets upset when you don’t
sounds to me like the original poster doesn't like engaging anyone who disagrees with their beliefs, actually.
Load More Replies...I hate people who judge without the facts. I'm the devil's advocate. Except for terrorists, most heinous crimes and Amber Heard.
She ate pizza with her hands.No, not like you think. She would scoop up the toppings in a messy pile and like a animal, claw them up and eat them then rip the bread and eat it.We were at a fancy italian place and I got horrified.
On another note, does anyone happen to know which restaurant the picture was taken at? (asking for a friend...)
Big Lou's Pizza, San Antonio, Texas. Have your friend treat you to one. ;)
Load More Replies...My friends pick on me for eating pizza with a fork and knife....I'm going to screen shot this so I have proof that my way is not the worst way someone can eat pizza lol.
Barbarians 🤣😉 anyway, you would NEVER see me eating pizza in a restaurant by hand! I too always use a fork and a knife. Come to think of it, I've never seen any adult eat pizza by hand in a restaurant in Europe (I know it's not unusual in the US, but here that's just bad manners and a bad habbit to have 🙈😅). At home - a different matter...
Load More Replies...I don't even need to use my imagination for this as I have seen it for real.For the first time I ate Pizza with someone I knew for quite some time (at least 8-9 years by then).And like OP says she would scratch the toppings with her nails and then keep them on a plate and then just eat the Pizza base .I looked at her using her nails to dig deeply and told myself this is the first and last time we ever ate Pizza together.
Into star signs and the like. To the point of being reminded what sign you are which somehow has an effect of who you and your personality traits lol
Do not worry, I am a Leo, and we Leo's do not believe in that astrology nonsense.
I really liked a man who had to check with his reader & advisor if we were going to sleep together. So someone who didn't know me, that was directing his life, would tell him about his love life. I told him I could already see his future . . . he would be sleeping alone . . .
If it is fun, why not, but the moment it gets shoved down one´s throat, NOPE! Same with religions, politics, anything that a person can be too obsessed with and preachy about.
My mom says my fire sign is responsible for my temper. I guess it's either that or the untreated autism.
If someone asks me my sign, I automatically lose some respect for them. I don't remember what my sign is.
This isn't a petty reason at all. anyone who believes that the positions of stars have ANYTHING to do with their lives in any way implies they dropped out of school after 2nd grade, are susceptible to all kinds of b******t or just plain stupid.
If their Instagram is nothing but selfies, especially if they’re striking the same pose in every shot. I had a match like that and it honestly creeped me out.
Or someone who is insecure and needs internet approval 🤷🏻♀️ who knows
Load More Replies...A guy I met online kept sending me selfies all the time. I was busy. I had a job. They piled up. I finally got around to looking at them. They were all the same too just in different rooms. He had rental property and didn't have to work. I had sent him one photo. He printed it out and put it on the pillow next to him on his bed. It was a head shot of me. Uh....nope.
I'd say you dodged a bullet! That would bug the heck out of me too.
Load More Replies...I do not understand what is wrong with people who post selfies all the time. Are you really that desperate for a "you look beautiful" comment??? People are BROKEN
I would never date, or even be friends with, ANYONE, regardless of gender, if their social media profile was nothing but selfies! I'm sorry but your extreme self-love leaves no room for anyone else, and I'm quite sure you would expect me to fawn over and worship your selfies. Not going to happen as I respect myself too much.
If they're super into Disney stuff, it creeps me out for some reason.
I have a cousin who loves Disney. So does her hubby. For years, they would only go to different Disney Parks for vacation. I had to laugh one day when their oldest, about 10 at the time, asked if they could please go somewhere that wasn't Disney
Knew somebody years ago (friend of a man I was dating) who was SUPER into The Beatles, to the point he could talk of nothing else. Felt sorry for his wife & kids, and his co-workers.
Load More Replies...There is a BIG difference between liking a thing, collecting a thing, and finding happiness in sharing that thing with the person you're with. If you enjoy Disney, cool...let's have a fun day at Disneyland. If your house is filled with Disney stuff, you spend all of your money on Disney things, and the vast majority of your personality is just "Disney fan," there is someone better suited for you than I am (this applies to all fandoms - Star Wars, Star Trek, Marvel, DC, etc etc etc)
Yep. For me, that actually extends to "collecting". I don't think you're a bad person if you collect stuff as a pursuit, but I am likely not your person. Ok. I have a little problem with it environmentally, but I'm not a perfect global citizen, either. I have friends that collect, and they're great people. It is often part of their fandom, because I'm a geek and have geeky friends. However, it would be an issue for me in a life partner. Have your fandom as long as it's not an obsession, but filling our house with it? No. I fundamentally do not understand the drive to acquire stuff simply to have it, to complete a collection of a thing. I can't devote money, space, time, or energy to that. Some people do, and it gives them satisfaction. It's a pretty common hobby! We're just different that way. However, when you share a life with someone, that collecting is part of it.
Load More Replies...Kinda understand.... I feel like both need to be interested in Disney for it to work... Just me? 🤔(my opinion)
Exactly. I truly dislike auto racing, so I would never date someone who loves it. To each his own!
Load More Replies...What a post to read two days after I finally got a Judy Hopps Tsum Tsum that I've been searching for for five years. 😬
My wife is not a Disney fan. But she doenst mind my expanding collection of Disney Villians, I think it makes it a lot easier to get me a gift also.
Ooooh, Disney villains as queer coding is a whole thing, too! Who's your favorite?
Load More Replies...Are you kidding me? This means they will be so easy to buy gifts for!!! Lol, seriously though don’t shame people for their interests. People are different and it’s healthy to enjoy things separately in a relationship.
Not agreeing with someone doesn't equal shaming them for it...
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They pronounce the word "expresso" when they mean "espresso", or "expecially" instead of "especially."
You're gonna kick yourself when you find that 'Expresso' has had enough use that it has been entered into the dictionary and is officially an acceptable word. It's perfecty acceptable anyway. It's to do with the Italian language not really using the letter 'X' and in translation it is substituted. "Excuse" becomes "Scusa", "Express" becomes "Espress". Also, fun fact, the inventor of the Espresso machine, called it the 'Expresso machine'!
Espress is the Italian word for express... Espresso was simply translated into Expresso... https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/espresso-vs-expresso-usage-history
She talks to people like they're a hundred meter away from her.
Or someone close to her is hard of hearing, like a parent or sibling
Load More Replies...I admit, I speak loud, but growing up my mother had hearing issues which was hereditary so it led to me, so I grew up speaking loud so she could hear me and myself as well. I hope someone will love me because of my loud talking lol. 😂
I have a friend who does this. She is just…loud. I have to constantly remind her to lower her voice. She doesn’t have a hearing impairment, just a booming voice!
Brother's grandfather gave me a plaque when I was about 10. It said "Oh, Lord Fill my mouth with worthwhile stuff and nudge me when I've said enough!" It was a joke in my family so no hurt feelings on my part, but I really can be very loud
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She did that thing with her voice where every sentence she said ended with a question mark.
Follow-up: Since so many people have asked, she was not Australian. She's American.
This or up talk. Either can be used. It can also be sign of insecurity or need for validation.
Load More Replies..."She did that thing? with her voice? where every sentence she said ended with a question mark?" AARRGGHH!!
I didn't know that was stereotypically Australian thing, not really noticed it here. First time I heard it was on the tv show Daria actually.
I've never noticed that with AU/NZ folks but I have noticed it with Californians?
I've been here all my life, never met an Aussie like that?
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Ended things with a guy over various other reasons, but the most annoying was how many times he told me that "He'd leave me for Miranda Lambert in a heart beat". Which okay, I get it some people have a 'list' of celebrities they'd leave their S/O over, mostly as a joke. But this was like everyday, just randomly said not related to the conversations we were having at the time, and he meant it. He made sure I understood that if for some god forsaken reason Miranda Lambert walked in through the front door, I was gone.
If one of my crushes, like for instance George Clooney, came to my door to profess his undying love for me, I can’t say I wouldn’t be sorely tempted to take him up on it, but I still love my husband with a heart and a half. I mean, I am not a tall gorgeous—-younger (I’m about Clooney’s age)—-human rights lawyer, though I have a lot of points in my favor. But would someone who can have his pick of all the beautiful and accomplished women still love me AND all my faults and imperfections? Would he stay with me through menopause? Would he see me through miscarriages? Would he take good care of me when I’m sick or have a cast on my leg? Would he stick around after an argument? Would he still be my cheerleader when I try something and fail? Can someone who basks in the spotlight and love of his fans be content with only one, imperfect person? I don’t know. But my husband has done all that, and that’s what really counts.
This is unbelievably sweet and beautiful. Wishing all the best to both of you.
Load More Replies...I would, but then again I'm single so there's that. Just in case Miranda Lambert is reading this.
Why miranda lambert? And if he left her for miranda lambert why would she want him?
She insisted on hanging out at home. She lived with like 6 people, and they always had friends over. I felt like a bf extra on Friends or Seinfeld.
thinking of Roger from FRIENDS right now - '"Actually it's, it's quite, y'know, typical behavior when you have this kind of dysfunctional group dynamic. Y'know, this kind of co-dependent, emotionally stunted, sitting in your stupid coffee house with your stupid big cups which, I'm sorry, might as well have nipples on them, and you're like all 'Oh, define me! Define me! Love me, I need love!."
People who know nothing about being outdoors will be the first to go during the apocalypse. That’s one positive to our eminent demise.
If you were getting the $1 million an episode like the cast on those shows it would be tolerable.
She didn't like museums.
I'm really, really fond of museums, so much so, I'd rather go by myself.
There are so many different kind of museum out there, so many choices; they are not all boring stuff (for her) to look at and not all of them are about the past. We have one here that shows you how they mint our money. How chocolate is made. What our bodies look like inside and out. So much more.
I once met a guy who didn't like art. It was baffling. There is so much variety and you can't find something that you like? That seems impossible. It was not that he wasn't interested in art but he actively hated it, all of it. Which painting or sculpture hurt you bro?
Load More Replies...As a child I was forced to go museums when all I wanted to do was play sports and video games -- museums are only good for dates and then the main attraction would still be the girl and not the museum lol
Load More Replies...I think she probably liked museums just fine. I was invited to an art museum on a first date. I thought he asked me to go to the museum because he knew I studied Art History. Nope. He spewed ridiculous "facts" about the pieces and was angry when an associate gently tried to inform him of authentically documented truths. I was able to look past the lack of knowledge about Art History, because who cares, but I couldn't look past him getting angry after the associate was so gentle with their correction. He got so angry, like fists balled up, and telling me that they don't know what they are talking about. Yeah, that'll be a nope for dinner and drinks.
Some people find museums to be boring and I respect that. Some people find those people weird and I respect that as well. Just don't be a douche about it to or with either one of them.
He ate with closed fists around his utensils like a toddler and his face right up to his food like someone was going to steal it.
Or grew up with siblings who would steal your food off your plate.
Load More Replies...Some people struggle with fine motor skills due to invisible disabilities. Maybe it wasn't about someone trying to steal his food but doing his best to be polite and not let food drop off the utensil onto the table. Then again, I wasn't there so could have been totally different than I'm envisioning it. Certain things like that tug at my heart strings because my 28 year son has an invisible disability and fine motor skills are not his strong suit.
Sometimes people who grew up in very large families develop habits like this, too.
This is actually sad and unfair. I've worked with many children in group/ foster homes where this was a common thing and if no one corrects the behavior, they don't know any different/ better. .
I know right? My husband holds his utensils like this only with his right hand, and it does bother me. He doesn't have a disability but he rather chooses to eat like this because is more comfortable. He's also a Loud chewer and he gobbles his food which is more annoying!
My grandparents were very southern. When I was a kid, I spent the night at their house and heard them…wrestling. I heard my grandpa say my grandma’s name, Sarah, but with his accent he said “Ooh Say-ruh!”
I met a girl named Sarah who was also southern. When she introduced herself as “Say-ruh” I had to nope out. It just gave me the heebie jeebies.
I’m guessing this is a post from the US, but as a Brit I’m pissing myself imagining someone trying to talk seductively with a strong Somerset accent.
Yeah, because everybody knows that, in contrast, a Boston accent is so.... um... (I got nothin').
You'd love my MIL's accent - a classy lady from Alabama roll-tiide roll-tiide!
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He wore fake glasses and didn't like vegetables.
I hate people who do that. I WISH I didn't have to put anything on or over my eyes in order to be able to see!
Load More Replies...I met someone who did this at Uni. They would put on frames (no lenses) when they were reading and then take them off again when done. I asked them about it and they said it helped them to concentrate.
I used to wear 'fake' glasses in the early 2000s because I wanted to switch up my prescription frames but either optometrists didn't stock what I liked or I couldn't afford them. So I would wear my contacts for the night with my knock off frames, and loved every minute of it. Now I'm lucky enough to have a few frames (my prescription almost never changes so I have built up a few).
Some people, usually from Asian cultures, wear glasses as a fashion statement. They will buy luxury brand frames with faux lenses just to show off. Other people think wearing glasses makes them look more intelligent. A strange reason to reject someone. Even more, strange is to reject them for not liking vegetables unless you are a judgemental vegetarian or vegan.
It's not even the taste that's bad, it's the texture of them that throws me off.
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White spittle gathering at the edge of the mouth. I can forgive or overlook a lot of things, but that’s an instant turnoff.
Edit: Every day is a school day! Apparently this can be a sign of dehydration or linked to another condition I’ve seen called Angular Cheilitis.
I have a friend who gets this. We went hiking and she was chewing nicorette gum and it got so bad I began dry heaving while she was speaking to me.
Someone tried to kiss me one time with the spittle, plus tuna mayo in the corners of his mouth. I noped out
I dated a guy with this many many moons ago, yuck, then the bad breath, instant good bye
Loud person. No. I hate it.
Mute button is to kill off convos. Volume is because they are too loud. I would use both.
I’m use to this, sometimes it’s cultural, my MIL is Puerto Rican, my mom Laotian 🤷🏻♀️
Same with my husband. He talks really loud because he can't hear himself.
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She had the same name as my mom.
Yeah, I agree with this one. Too weird getting hot and heavy and then saying your mum's name.
Or one of my brothers' name. Nope. Won't go there. My Dad's name is ancient and I only met one guy with that name in the last 30 years and he was married so that was okay.
I was once engaged to a woman who had the same name as my sis. I did feel a bit weird about that, but that's not why we broke up
They are deathly allergic to nuts.
The idea of never having Nutella or Snickers again- or risk killing my partner with a kiss- is too much.
My daughter had a dog who liked PB and her BF kept giving it PB and cheese. She's extremely allergic to PB even the smell of it can bring to a choc. Well, she gave up the BF and the dog had to give up PB. Win-win.
What the... who would do that! Win for sure, good riddance!
Load More Replies...But if you Truely and Deeply love that person, wouldn't you willing give up those things?
Probably so, so they apparently didn't love the person anyway. I'm imagining a lot of these are things they found out within the first casual date or two and decided it wasn't a fit, as opposed to be being deeply in love with someone but breaking it off for a shallow reason.
Load More Replies...Immediately after reading this I think of Poison Ivy in her hot outfit killing me with her poisonous kiss and was like...I might try this! Adjusting my Tinder profile...lol 😈
I would give up nuts in a second if it was going to cost me my wife
Don't blame you. You would just resent it - and your SO. Not worth the aggro.
Only went on one date but he named his cat Creamy, and the way he said it grossed me out.
I once had met a guy through friends and had only previously met him directly after he had walked out of his work office with other people. We had also been talking on the phone and texting for a good while, so eventually I invited him to my home to have a meal. I live in a small rented flat. He (without any previous mention) brought his very old very big, very slobbery dog to my flat for our dinner. He sat with the dog on his lap, talking to it in a baby voice and calling it his precious boo boo, did the whole, pet kissing where the dog licked his face and literally their tongues were touching, literally the entire night. Eventually the dog sat on the floor next to us. Every time the dog made a slight movement or any noise at all, he'd interrupt our conversation to immediately ask the dog in concerned baby voice what was wrong. It was such a bizarre experience. No he didn't get a goodnight kiss or any future dates. It creeped me out so much. And this is only the tip of the weirdness.
Years ago I met a guy at a wedding who brought his gf with him… an “anatomically correct” rabbit doll… to the wedding. He had some issues… and her name was Creamsicle.
She had the same first name and last name as my grandpa.
maybe it was a gender-neutral name like Leslie, Francis, Robin, Jordan...
Load More Replies...I once spoke with a couple who were both named Leslie. That really complicated my job.
Load More Replies...I knew someone who didn't get hired for a job he was qualified for because he reminded the hiring manager of his uncle & "I hate my Uncle Charlie...you would remind me of him every day." Wow, life IS difficult. You get blamed for things that aren't your fault but you have to pay the penalty.
I broke up with a pretty hot girl when I was younger because she didn’t swing her arms when she walked. It just looked weird and reminded me of a gorilla. Really stupid reason I know, but it just looked so stupid and I couldn’t overcome it.
Well that what you get for buying the cheaper version of the new life like dolls. Next time spring for the upgrades, like I did.
This can be a sign of certain neurological disorders. Lacking an arm swing is neurologically abnormal.
That can be signs of more serious conditions such as Parkinson's disease.
Friends with voices that annoy me.
High pitched voices grate my nerves. Deep voices with a lot of resonance make my eardrums vibrate. So distracting.
If they have the same name as either of my brothers or my dad lol, no.
Haha, my brother is mark Paul, my husband is mark Paul. I have a brother called Scott, so does my husband. Gets a bit confusing at times
My brother and father are both named David. Same with a few cousins and uncles. It's a very popular name in my family. I also have a good friend with the name David and the same last name as me.
Inability to form a coherent sentence in text
In my case that is called (mild) dyslexia, i use autocorrector and have to trust it. But whenever i do not have access to it (laptop for work or whatever) i tremble knowing my messages will be a complete nonsense, with all the letters but in different order.
I have the opposite issue. Whenever I text, I write a completely full and grammatically correct sentence, then delete it, and use slang terms, dunno why.🤷♀️
I was raised as a fairly sheltered white kid in a very white American suburb. When i was around 20 i went on an okcupid date with a guy named Manuel, and although i had several valid reasons for not pursuing a third date, im ashamed to say that i distinctly recall feeling weird about the prospect of getting into a relationship with a guy named Manuel because it felt weird for me to pronounce his name. Yes, I was THAT sheltered. Akmost 15 years later, after having lived the past 8 years of my life in a South Asian country, and 5 years into a committed relationship with a man from this country whose name as as far from white/western culture as it gets, I cringe so hard at the thought process I had at that time
No cringe needed. You have grown as a person. Just the fact that you do cringe tells you just how far. Many folks never get anywhere close to that far. You pay yourself on the back for moving past the small minded, narrow view of the world and celebrate your appreciation of the differences of others.
My boss's daughter's ex bf broke up with her because they had a Dyson and he said he wouldn't be able to keep up with her extravagant lifestyle.
boss's daughter's ex's uncle's wife's sugar daddy's son's wife
Sounds like he wanted to break up for her and was just looking for an excuse
I looked up "Dyson" - and got a brand vacuum cleaner. Is Dyson considered the Ferrari of floor cleaners?
Some people think they are. We have a Dyson, and it's a good vacuum cleaner, but to me it's a bit overpriced. They do seem to last a long time though, and the one we have is lightweight, easy to use, & really easy to empty out. You should check out the Dyson hair dryer - it's very expensive, but I've read reviews that say it's worth the money.
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Wasn't my pettiness, but a girl I went on a few dates with wouldn't date me because she wanted to be the "artistic" one in the relationship and she was worried that me being a musician would spoil that for her.
Edit: wasn’t real deep into it, it was just a couple of dates. I don’t feel negatively toward her. She was a nice enough person lol. Also, music isn’t my career, more of a passionate hobby. I work in IT by day.
I had to quit dating a songwriter (he called himself since no one else would) or I was going to have to listen to his terrible atonal C&W songs the rest of my life. No thanks!
Minions. Really hit it off and couldn’t look past the love of minions. Can’t stand em.
whoever was downvoting people here just because they like minions, I have undone your grinchy work.
I personally think we've been oversaturated with minions and I'm honestly over them at this point. There was literally no need for so many Despicable Me sequels and spin-offs. They were funny for a while but one can only take so much of lowbrow humor and gibberish.
We have 2 minion stickers on our car so we can recognize it. Three years ago, my husband's staff birthday card theme was minions - I made all their cards with minions on them. My husband is an older guy but he loves the minions and everybody just went with it.
She had the feminine version of my name and that’s just too cutesy.
One of the sweetest couples I have ever known were Jack and Jacki. RIP, Jack.
I don't see what's wrong with this, You could never forget his/her name again.
My aunt’s name is Chrissy, my uncle’s name is Chris, I rlly don’t see the problem 🤷♀️
I dated a guy and he pulled out Sudafed nasal spray. Said he had bad sinuses. I too had Sudafed and bad sinuses. Decided to cut it short so as to not breed the chronic rhinitis.
I should have said, it doesn't cause them, but it causes sinus problems to be worse in the long run because your body gets dependent on the spray.
Load More Replies...This is similar to constant use of chapstick, & other lip balms. It perpetuates the issue & becomes chronic.
I thought that it was only the ones with petroleum jelly that did that?
Load More Replies...Knew a guy, years ago, who would dissolve... um... stuff... in water and put it in nasal spray bottles. Dude was always high.
used to do that on plane trips when i was living in florida in the 70's.
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Her favourite song was "The Shape of You" by Ed Sheeran.
The club isn't the best place to find a lover so the bar is where i go
Me and my friends at the table doing shots, drinking fast and then we talk slow
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Load More Replies...This is kinda random, but related to Ed Sheeran and the popularity of the song "The Shape of You". Does anyone else get annoyed that the songs on the radio aren't, in your opinion, the best songs from that artist? My whole life has been like that; like that song's fine y'all, but these other songs are so much better, and I've heard them on the radio like one time, if that.
I like that song? Like it's not one I'd actively listen to, but as far as "mainstream" music (is he mainstream? idk I don't keep up with it) it's not a bad song
what's wrong with ed sheeran? I mean i'm not gonna listen to him in my spare time but if shivers comes on the radio i won't turn it off either.
No, you dodged a bullet. Ed Sheeran is everything wrong with popular music today - the blandest of the bland (see also Coldplay, Snow Patrol, etc.)
Years ago I stopped dating someone once I realised he had weird nails. *edited to add - weird as in clubbed fingers - so it was a medical or genetic issues - which makes my 20 year old self a vain biatch a*****e!!
Imagine if it were Megan Fox you turned down. She has club thumbs and people have called them "toe thumbs".
I was turned off by a guy who bit his nails past the tips of his fingers - way past.
my brother keeps accidentally biting off his nail. his remaining ones are hardly there. it's due to anxiety in his case.
Load More Replies...I didn't like the way she ate a grilled cheese sandwich. There were more reasons, but this was the deal breaker.
Now I really need to know how she ate the grilled cheese that was off putting. How do you mess that up so bad that someone leaves you?????
She was too aggressively normal. Edit: I meant she was too sane and well-adjusted. Anyone like that is clearly hiding /something/.
I am not hiding anything. My mum hides though, in the basement. For some reason people think she died years ago.
My mother is in the attic! She looks as good as the day she didn't die.
Load More Replies...For a VERY short time I dated a man who didn't like anything about me . . . not the way I dressed, the car I drove, where I lived. When he broke off seeing me it was a relief. Wonder why he spoke to me at all . . .
Reminds me of that Spongebob episode where he snapped and turned normal and boring.
I dated my second partner because, and precisely and only because, on her dating profile, she said she had baggage and explained it. That lasted over a decade, so ... yeah, be honest out there, people. Let people know what you are damaged about. It's more interesting.
Taking a long time to reply message but having read the message, and replying with one word.
Having dated two, I now have a "no nurses" rule.
There can be several reasons. 1 - rotating days on/off work makes it hard to schedule dates. Most nurses in the U.S. work 12 hour shifts, 3 days on, 2 off, 2 days on, 2 off, every two weeks, so it's tough to make plans. 2 - nurses tend to not have filters when talking about illness/disease/injury, meaning you might get some pretty gory details about their day at the job. 3 - yeah, being tired a lot from working 12 hour shifts 2-3 days in a row could be a good reason, at least here in the U.S.
Load More Replies...I can understand this - we all have our reasons to avoid professions. I'll get downvoted to hell for this but I will not date anyone who is in (or has been in) the military. My dad was a veteran, he warned me about dating military guys, I ignored him and regretted doing so (twice.) I also won't date anyone in law enforcement but that's mostly based on statistics since 40% of them abuse their partners/spouses.
Military, no way. You're always alone and hope he comes back alive. Police, nope. Not that police in Holland is abusive, as far as I know, but I talked to a really friendly guy on a dating app and then he sent a pic and he looked so severe and he said he was a police officer. Nope. Scary. They barked at me when I was 16 that I was on a bike path w my moped. No police.
Load More Replies...Helping people as a career is honorable & needed [It's gory, that's why there's a nurse shortage in U.S. & other countries]. Every profession contains a few pedantic people [teachers]~~but once you tell them, "I know that," they'll stop telling you how to do things. A lot of them had "helping" parents, i.e., allowing them to lean on them & not becoming independent. So they grow up telling others what to do, how to do it, when, where, for how long. They'll get mature when they find out no one wants to be around them for too long. Try again, everyone's different.
Arrogant know-it-all’s are intimidated by nurses. Arrogant family members are also intimidated by nurses.
No medical personnel, no one in the hospitality or retail industries either.
I once left a date sitting in a restaurant because he kept dipping his fries in my ketchup. Let me explain: first date, we just met and went to a burger bar. We both ordered burgers and fries, and the ketchup was there on the table. I made a little puddle of ketchup on my plate and he just reached over and used it. Now, I come from a family of plate sharers, so it isn't like I am a germaphobe or anything, but I just met this dude, he reached across the table dragged his half-eaten fry across my plate. I pushed the bottle of ketchup towards him and told him to make his own puddle. He did it again. I told him I didn't like that and get his own ketchup. He did it a third time and winked at me. I grabbed my purse, put down enough cash to pay for my meal and walked out. It was the creepiest thing in the entire world and after being told it bothered me, he did it again.
100% the right call to leave, I wonder if he was deliberately testing your response to him ignoring your boundaries after you told him not to?
Load More Replies...I had a co-worker (who I never dated) a really long time ago who couldn't understand why he never had more than 1 or 2 dates with women. It was because any conversation with him couldn't be a regular conversation - literally anything a woman said to him was responded to in a sexual way. He turned everything into something pornographic. News. Weather. Work. Car trouble. Ex partner problems. Landlord issues. Problems paying bills. If you had a headache or any pain/illness, he suggested a sexual cure. I do give the guy credit, he never did that if children were mentioned. But wow, it was a major turn-off after 10 minutes for me, I cannot imagine how he got more than one date!
That is super creepy! Did no one explain to him why since he wondered himself?
Load More Replies...Happen to be walking behind him one day for whatever reason and noticed he walked like a duck, kinda, sorta. It was just weird and I had never noticed it before. I was ready to break up anyway, so I use that as my excuse. It had been a year and I was getting really bored.
There's only a few things I notice right away in a person I'm just meeting. His hands, his fingers, his nails. Then eyes and a smile. And last but not least, the way he walks. Order doesn't matter, those few things matter to me. There's no way that in a year I wouldn't know the way my bf walks. Well, that's how I can single him out of a group of people from afar. :)
Load More Replies...I kicked a guy out of my car and didn't even finish the date once...it wasn't bad enough that I had to pick him up but as we were driving off he decided to pop in his Eminem CD in my radio and turn it up loud...HELL NO...GTFO!
I dumped a guy because he was a horrible driver. I feared for my life every time we went out.
I dumped a guy for calling me too much. like he'd call 2-3 times a day and usually while I was at work. wtf. back off, dude. When I asked why he was calling me at work and explained I am busy working(I was managing a 4000 sq ft store with 23 employees) he got indignant and said that women like to be paid attention to and love it when you call them. I said not this woman. I don't want to hear that you miss me and talk about nonsense. I don't have time for that c**p b/c I'm an adult, not some needy 16 year old. Shoot me a text once a day if you want, spend a few minutes on the phone in the evening when not at work. Then he got attitude and said I was bossy...dude, I am the boss. These people work for me. Don't call me between 8-6...better yet don't call me again.
Oh, I hate the clingy ones! I dated a guy that was off work on a disability, and he would be waiting in my driveway every. single. day. when I got home from work. And he never wanted to stay in for dinner, or any other meal - he only wanted to go out to a specific handful of restaurants, on a weekly rotation. Had to dump him after about 2 months. Then he showed up at my parents house, 40 miles away, with flowers for my mom & begged them to convince me to take him back. That was way over the line, & I had to get a bit hard with him. It was really kind of sad.
Load More Replies...My reasons for rejecting someone on a dating app: 1. They say they are "fun, and live life to the fullest." NOPE. you are boring as f**k, I have zero doubts about it. 2. They say they are sapiosexual. NOPE. IF you have to say you are smart/attracted-to-smart you probably aren't. 3. They are kissing their dog. Sorry, not into sharing your mouth with your dog. Gross, but that's the fact. 4. They are posing with duckface/holding a fish/dead animal/gun/sports car. NOPE. That means you are superficial and do not think beyond the moment. Also almost certainly means Republican. 5. They say politics doesnt interest them. 6. They 'have a personal relationship with jesus'. NOPE, yall ALWAYS try convert me at some stage. 7. "Whites only". Nope, if you want to be a Nazi, there's the door.
I once left a date sitting in a restaurant because he kept dipping his fries in my ketchup. Let me explain: first date, we just met and went to a burger bar. We both ordered burgers and fries, and the ketchup was there on the table. I made a little puddle of ketchup on my plate and he just reached over and used it. Now, I come from a family of plate sharers, so it isn't like I am a germaphobe or anything, but I just met this dude, he reached across the table dragged his half-eaten fry across my plate. I pushed the bottle of ketchup towards him and told him to make his own puddle. He did it again. I told him I didn't like that and get his own ketchup. He did it a third time and winked at me. I grabbed my purse, put down enough cash to pay for my meal and walked out. It was the creepiest thing in the entire world and after being told it bothered me, he did it again.
100% the right call to leave, I wonder if he was deliberately testing your response to him ignoring your boundaries after you told him not to?
Load More Replies...I had a co-worker (who I never dated) a really long time ago who couldn't understand why he never had more than 1 or 2 dates with women. It was because any conversation with him couldn't be a regular conversation - literally anything a woman said to him was responded to in a sexual way. He turned everything into something pornographic. News. Weather. Work. Car trouble. Ex partner problems. Landlord issues. Problems paying bills. If you had a headache or any pain/illness, he suggested a sexual cure. I do give the guy credit, he never did that if children were mentioned. But wow, it was a major turn-off after 10 minutes for me, I cannot imagine how he got more than one date!
That is super creepy! Did no one explain to him why since he wondered himself?
Load More Replies...Happen to be walking behind him one day for whatever reason and noticed he walked like a duck, kinda, sorta. It was just weird and I had never noticed it before. I was ready to break up anyway, so I use that as my excuse. It had been a year and I was getting really bored.
There's only a few things I notice right away in a person I'm just meeting. His hands, his fingers, his nails. Then eyes and a smile. And last but not least, the way he walks. Order doesn't matter, those few things matter to me. There's no way that in a year I wouldn't know the way my bf walks. Well, that's how I can single him out of a group of people from afar. :)
Load More Replies...I kicked a guy out of my car and didn't even finish the date once...it wasn't bad enough that I had to pick him up but as we were driving off he decided to pop in his Eminem CD in my radio and turn it up loud...HELL NO...GTFO!
I dumped a guy because he was a horrible driver. I feared for my life every time we went out.
I dumped a guy for calling me too much. like he'd call 2-3 times a day and usually while I was at work. wtf. back off, dude. When I asked why he was calling me at work and explained I am busy working(I was managing a 4000 sq ft store with 23 employees) he got indignant and said that women like to be paid attention to and love it when you call them. I said not this woman. I don't want to hear that you miss me and talk about nonsense. I don't have time for that c**p b/c I'm an adult, not some needy 16 year old. Shoot me a text once a day if you want, spend a few minutes on the phone in the evening when not at work. Then he got attitude and said I was bossy...dude, I am the boss. These people work for me. Don't call me between 8-6...better yet don't call me again.
Oh, I hate the clingy ones! I dated a guy that was off work on a disability, and he would be waiting in my driveway every. single. day. when I got home from work. And he never wanted to stay in for dinner, or any other meal - he only wanted to go out to a specific handful of restaurants, on a weekly rotation. Had to dump him after about 2 months. Then he showed up at my parents house, 40 miles away, with flowers for my mom & begged them to convince me to take him back. That was way over the line, & I had to get a bit hard with him. It was really kind of sad.
Load More Replies...My reasons for rejecting someone on a dating app: 1. They say they are "fun, and live life to the fullest." NOPE. you are boring as f**k, I have zero doubts about it. 2. They say they are sapiosexual. NOPE. IF you have to say you are smart/attracted-to-smart you probably aren't. 3. They are kissing their dog. Sorry, not into sharing your mouth with your dog. Gross, but that's the fact. 4. They are posing with duckface/holding a fish/dead animal/gun/sports car. NOPE. That means you are superficial and do not think beyond the moment. Also almost certainly means Republican. 5. They say politics doesnt interest them. 6. They 'have a personal relationship with jesus'. NOPE, yall ALWAYS try convert me at some stage. 7. "Whites only". Nope, if you want to be a Nazi, there's the door.
