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In many cultures, in the old days, traditions dictated that the bride and groom could only see each other for the first time at the wedding - and in fact, they had very few options. Especially considering that divorces in ancient times were not welcomed, or were generally prohibited per se.

Today the situation is completely different - and each of us, when choosing a partner to date, is guided by some of our own criteria regarding appearance, behavior or everyday habits. Criteria, or prejudices - depending on how you look at it. And so, in this viral thread in the AskWomen community, women (and, I guess, men as well) answer the question: “What is the pettiest reason you won’t date anyone?”

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#1

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online They have to be an animal lover. I can tell when someone doesn’t like animals and I couldn’t see myself with someone who doesn’t tolerate animals

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Happy to be a wallflower
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes because if we start living together you will have to tolerate my obsession with my animals

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#2

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Deeply religious people. Nope.

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Captain McSmoot
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You shouldn't date someone who has deeply held beliefs that don't jive with your own. Religion has little to do with it. There are people of the same religion who don't date because other deeply held beliefs don't align. They may both be deeply Muslim, but one is Republican and one is Democrat or because one is more of a homebody and the other is social. The aged "blame religion first" is a shallow excuse to throw shade on people who believe in something.

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#3

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online I won’t date someone who wants me to watch them play video games. They want to play video games while I read or do something else in the same room, that’s great. They want me to sit there while they play video games and I have to actually pay attention to their Fortnite kills or whatever, absolutely f*****g not. It gives strong “Mommy look at me!” energy that I find a complete turnoff from an adult man.

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If you look at the statistics of responses, you can perhaps divide them all into two categories: sincere and superficial. Because, for example, how can you recognize a bad person literally on the first date, or even before it? Of course, there are many verbal and non-verbal signs, but still, only an incredibly insightful person can correctly assess someone after talking with them for just an hour or a couple of hours.

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#4

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Any run of the mill average Joe who thinks all women are golddiggers coming to take their $45,000 annual salary ... 😆

Reeks of him watching too many podcasts from other dudes who also can't get laid.

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Happy to be a wallflower
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

fr, alpha males always seem to assume that women are making less than them and going after their money even if they don't make that much

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#5

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online when a guy treats their mom or their sister(s) like s**t. i’m looking at our future boy, and you aint it.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same goes for everyone in the service industry. If they're rude to a waiter it's a red flag.

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#6

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online I’ve had people give me s**t for this before, but picky eaters. And I don’t mean people who have allergies or other food issues. I can understand that. I mean grown a*s adults whose main course is chicken nuggets and French fries. Or make faces, or refuse to even taste a new dish. I have friends like that, but I don’t think I could date anyone long term.

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Sonja
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am with you OP. I fully accept if someone doesn't like something. But extremely picky eaters who have no issues that explain it are difficult to be around and very exhausting. If all they ever eat are the same three dishes I'm out. It's different if they were autistic and have sensory issues, but even then I'm not sure I'd be strong enough to have a relationship with them.

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You can also divide all the answers into the categories "Appearance" and "Social Rating", let's call it that. After all, nobody's perfect, and many of us initially judge people by purely physical attractiveness, which can completely overshadow even a person's negative social role. Just remember what Britney Spears once sang: "And this type of love isn't rational, it's physical..."

#7

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Using "your" when they should use "you're". That really bothers me.

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#8

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online If they're really hard into social media. I know it's much more of a girl type of thing, but guys can be clout chasers too. Or just really into their phone in general. Put the f*****g thing down and genuinely talk to someone.

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Luke Branwen
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also men who are chronically on Reddit/4Chan are likely to have bigger issues than just social media addiction.

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#9

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online If they don't use sheets or pillow cases on their bed. It's just gross. If I walk into a dudes room and all I see is a yellow stained mattress and a s****y blanket with no "it's laundry day" explanation, I'm out

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“There is nothing strange about this, because a person is, first of all, a living being, and we perceive people around us not only with a cold mind,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment here. “Despite centuries and millennia of development of our civilization, there is still a lot of primitive stuff in our bodies. And often this only hinders us.”

“After all, those personal traits that would have been very valuable in the era of ancient people, and which still resonate in our subconscious, today can carry an obvious negative and sometimes even criminal connotation. And then, after we enter relationships, we sometimes ask ourselves: 'What were we thinking?' However, mistakes are inevitable - it’s important to simply learn from them, both from our own and from others,” Irina summarizes.

#10

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online People who breathe or chew or drink loudly give me the biggest ick. I have severe misophonia.

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Tabitha
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or chew with an open mouth. Or talk with their mouth full of food. I don’t want to see that.

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#11

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online I refuse to date anyone that says I’m cute when I’m mad. They always play with my emotions for entertainment.

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Amy S
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is legitimate, it's belittling your emotions. People who care about you should care when you are upset.

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#12

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online A beard that isn’t well-groomed. I need to see evidence that the edges are tended to, trimming is happening, whatever. Nothing turns me off like a pube-y beard.

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Tabitha
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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Goes along with general hygiene. Beards and mustaches, as well as longer hair, all require extra effort to groom, if the goal is looking neat, clean, and presentable. Trim the beard and mustache, and ffs, keep them CLEAN! Same goes for the hair on your head—-well, anywhere, tbh. Shower regularly, and I don’t mean every month. Wash your junk and your asscrack while you’re at it. Do the laundry so you’re wearing clean clothes. Make your bed when you get up and change your sheets every week. Pick up your towels and hang them to dry after you have used them, and change your towels every week. Buy more than one set of sheets and towels, ffs. Clean your house every week, and pick up after yourself every day—-wash your dishes after eating and wipe down your counters in the kitchen and bathroom after you’ve used them. You want a woman to like you enough to spend time with you? Then make the damned effort to be presentable to her! This isn’t rocket science, ffs.

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By the way, regarding learning from other people's mistakes - from this point of view, it is especially useful and interesting to read what other people consider a dealbreaker for a possible date and, who knows - maybe someone else's experience will really come in handy? So please feel free to scroll this list to the very end, and maybe add your own pettiest reasons to not start dating someone in the comments below. After all, exchanging experiences is no less great, isn't it?

#13

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online I don’t think I could date someone with a peanut allergy, I love peanut butter and don’t think I would want to live a peanut free life for anyone

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Tabitha
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same goes for someone allergic to animals. Sorry guy, they come with the territory.

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#14

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Someone who is over the age of 28 and uses the phrase “ Saturday is for the boys”

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Sara
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No age stipulation on that one, anyone with that mindset is a no.

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#15

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online As an adult, I seriously dated THREE guys named Dave. Someone named Dave would have to be an 11/10 for me to go this route again.

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Angrykitten
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A friend of my mind has dated 6 or 7 Amanda's. After the last breakup I suggested he move down the alphabet for the next attempt

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#16

I have synesthesia (letters/words/numbers have colors) and I had a hard time dating anyone whose first and last name didn’t look synesthetically aesthetic. Happily married to someone whose name has colors that harmonize lol.

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30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Omg I feel bad for men reading these posts but of course I have my own. I get really disappointed when men have a purebred dog they bought from a breeder. Tells me they have no compassion for animals, want to boast wealth/status, and they waste money on stupid s**t. This perception is particularly heightened for having brachiocephalic breeds like bulldogs.

I am very aware I might be taking it too far on the meaning of it but my brain works in mysterious ways. Please don’t hate me.

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#18

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online I wouldn’t date someone who smokes pot or vapes 🤷🏼‍♀️ or anyone super into astrology

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Sara
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's absolutely nothing wrong with smoking pot, but of course it's fine to say you wouldn't date someone who does, personal choice. But weed is not the enemy and not everyone who smokes is a deadbeat. I have smoked practically every day for the past 30 years and I have a master's degree, make well over $100k/year, and have a solid family and social life. Don't judge us stoners 😊

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#19

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Anyone who listens to Jordan Peterson

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Luke Branwen
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so far the most reasonable one. Someone who takes the Misogyny Personified seriously can never be a good partner.

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#20

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online If their ideal home temperature is lower than 70 degrees. I’m very cold natured and have lived with someone hot natured.

I can’t do it again. I refuse to live under a blanket in my own house or argue because they lowered the thermostat and thought I wouldn’t notice. It just makes us incompatible because it’s too big a deal to me.

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Ace
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does the whole house have to be the same setting? That's far too warm for a bedroom, how do you sleep in that heat?

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#21

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online No job

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LilliVB
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too vague. A person can have multiple reasons to not have a job. And not having it doesn't necessarily mean you are lazy, a deadbeat, broke or that you live just on someone else's shoulders. I would consider every person's case.

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#22

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online If we don’t have similar tastes in food. I once stopped seeing a guy because he didn’t like cheese.

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#23

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online If they spell my name wrong in the initial messages on the dating app. It’s right there. Immediate unmatch

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Amy S
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a dyslexic person I can be literally looking at a word while writing it and I still get it wrong, the letters don't always stay still long enough for me to catch them.

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#24

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Bad teeth

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Felicia
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well in that same token, the dentist is almost as expensive as a doctor.

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#25

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Socks with sandals is my pettiest, but most strictly enforced, dealbreaker. I simply can’t be seen with you.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember people trying to convince me of this in high school. Also that white socks outside of sports are a total 100% no-no. What reasons, grounds, justifications? Absolutely none beyond parroting others that said the same --- if you wear that, you're out of the herd. No other reason. So yes, I will go out of my way to wear socks in my sandals and if that steers me clear of you we both win.

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#26

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online There’s a local bar that gives out smiley face stickers. Yeah idk it’s a thing I live in the middle of no where. Anyway, A lot of guys are covered them on their dating app profiles. Instant no. I don’t like party boys.
Also, if you have a “type” and I clearly don’t fit it it’s not happening.

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#27

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online When I was single many years ago, I learned not to date anyone who was new to my city. I wasn’t interested in becoming someone’s personal tour guide, who would then use all the fun things I showed them to eventually woo another person.

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#28

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Anyone with a solo mustache (no beard) is an immediate no. You look like such a goober, sorry.

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#29

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online If they're not a cat person

I don't necessarily dislike dogs, but the people who have them are most often very dominant and selfish in my experience

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#30

As a native of Cleveland Ohio usa, I don't think I could ever date a Pittsburgh Steelers fan. 

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could never date anyone whose entire personality is "(insert sport/team) Fan" 🙄

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#31

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online Lips too thin

Completely hairless body

Massive football fan

Certain jobs- police officer, army, teacher

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Lama
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's wrong with teachers?? They're among the most selfless people on earth..

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#32

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online I absolutely refuse to date anyone who has the same name as any of my exes. For the most part, they’re all common names, so not ideal. I’m in a relationship though so hopefully won’t be an issue again 😂

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am Gen X and the name Michael is very prevalent among men my age. My ex is a Michael and one day, I was at the bank for work and this cutie with an Irish accent came in and went to the teller beside me. He was there for business and the teller asked him his name and he said "Mike". Nope.

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#33

Omg. I have a list. But here are my top ones. He has Bad hygiene. He has never lived alone and his parents do everything for him. He is controlling or he has to be right on everything. He is vegetarian or a vegan. Specially a vegan. He refers to himself as alpha. He is a mommas boy. Smokes or is an alcoholic. Has cats and that’s mostly because I’m allergic.

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#34

30 Hilarious Yet Petty Reasons People Won’t Date Someone, As Shared By Folks Online This list includes people who I won’t swipe on on dating apps but for me it’s:

-Lawyers. Naturally argumentative and I feel like they’d have a leg up if we got married and divorced.

-Guys who have fish or golf photos. The fish people know why, guys with golf photos have historically been too full of themselves for me.

-If their instagram handle is on their profile. I don’t have one and have no interest in just giving you more followers.

-Dog owners. Too much time needs to be dedicated to their dogs. Can never sleep at my house. etc. I’ve done it in the past and it was majorly inconvenient and annoying. I’m also just not a dog person and don’t want them all over me.

-Family member names

-Smokes pot/cigs. I don’t and people make it their personality. I also HATE the smell

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

😂 Lawyer here (& divorce lawyer no less) - I can honestly say from speaking w my colleagues, (1) we prefer to not argue at home, even to extent of letting our spouses win every disagreement bc its not worth it to argue & (2) we tend to roll over & settle own own divorces by giving our spouse way more than deserved, just so they go away & get it over - while there are exceptions, the non lawyer spouse gets a sweet a*s deal in arguing & divorces

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