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“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having

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It’s safe to assume that we all have annoying traits; something that can drive others—our co-workers, for instance—or even us ourselves completely crazy. But something mildly aggravating is unlikely to do much harm in people’s lives, unlike toxic traits, for example.

Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community recently opened up about the latter, after one user asked them about the toxic traits they recognize in themselves. In their answers, netizens were quite honest, oftentimes detailing not only what the character trait is, but how it has affected their life, as well. If you’re wondering what toxic traits seemingly bother people the most, scroll down to find their answers on the list below.

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#1

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I tend to overthink a lot which sometimes makes me my own worst enemy.

mnbvyjdghhs , Nataliya Vaitkevic/pexels Report

Final score:

86points

DennyS (denzoren) 2 months ago

I overthink everything and yes, it's my own enemy.

16points

Clown fish 2 months ago

Normally at night when I'm meant to be sleeping

5points

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Nina 2 months ago

For neurodiverse people overthinking is usually just their regular thinking. I still can't imagine the peace and quiet one must have with a neuroptypical mind.

6points

Sergio Bicerra 2 months ago

Sadly, when you've been wronged so many times, of loved ones had a hard time with others, you tend to overthink and make the worst case scenario in your head.

4points

Liz The Biz 2 months ago

This.

2points

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Grace Knowlton 2 months ago

I over think my over thinking lol 😂

4points

Sam Lombardo 2 months ago

Me, everyday

2points

Michael Largey 2 months ago

I spend hours and hours every day trying to decide whether I overthink things, and I still haven't got an answer.

2points

SuperChicken 2 months ago

As long as you don't start arguing with yourself. j/k

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Moirrey 2 months ago

I feel like this trait is just an expression of anxiety. Doesn't make it okay, but I "overthink" a lot less when I'm more relaxed, personally.

1point

kansasmagic 2 months ago

Yep. Can turn any good thing bad, and any bad thing into, like, the worst thing ever.

1point

Pansexual-Kat 1 month ago

If your happy and you know it Overthink! If your happy and you know it Overthink! If your happy and you know it Give your brain a chance to blow it! If your happy and you know it Overthink!

0points

Kilo Jones 2 months ago

It's not the overthinking, it's the projection and reinforcement that poor behaviors are inherent to an artificial construct that polarizes human intentions as if they're divided down the center and in direct opposition.

0points

devotedtodreams 2 months ago

Oh yes. And when it turns out I caused myself way more stress than would have been necessary, I tell myself how stupid I was XD

0points

Joshua Moore 2 months ago

FFS, I thought everyone did this and couldn’t sleep more than 2 hours a night 🙄🤷‍♂️

0points

Sojourner 2 months ago

I'm in this picture and I don't like it.

0points

SuperChicken 2 months ago

Guilty.

0points

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#2

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I am lazy af and procrastinate like a b***h. It's my worst flaw. It affects my health, my relationships, and is now magnified by my depression.

MilleniumPelican , Ketut Subiyanto/pexels Report

Final score:

74points

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#3

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I don't communicate my needs and then get frustrated when they aren't met.

unisetkin , Karolina Kaboompics/pexels Report

Final score:

69points

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#4

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I don’t set boundaries with people which leads to me becoming angry with them at a later date because they are taking advantage of my being too nice.

rando_mike , Ketut Subiyanto/pexels Report

Final score:

55points

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#5

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I'm very cynical and mistrusting about peoples intentions. Always thinking they have ulterior motives when they're friendly to me. Basicaly I have no good faith in humanity.

alles-moet-kapot , Vitaly Gariev/pexels Report

Final score:

52points

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#6

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I dont always speak my mind for fear of being emotionally abandoned and it has NOT served anyone well.

thoughts_are_hard , RDNE Stock project/pexels Report

Final score:

46points

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#7

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I am one of those people who will jump full blast into a brand new hobby but then promptly quit when it turns out I am not immediately great at it. This has led to a lot of credit card debt, unfinished projects, and unused stuff around the house.

edit: yes this is definitely due to ADHD, I've been diagnosed twice in my life but am unfortunately not currently medicated.

kgkglunasol , Porapak Apichodilok/pexels Report

Final score:

40points

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#8

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I create ridiculous situations in my head and allow my anxiety to control and cripple me. I'm working on it and actually making lots of progress but it's caused me many problems.

I also get incredibly defensive if I feel like I'm being looked down on in any way.

Edit: Definitely a self esteem thing which always makes you take a good hard look in the mirror. If you experience this go to therapy/start finding ways to build yourself up. It goes a long way.

Belmer13 , Juan Pablo Serrano/pexels Report

Final score:

40points

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#9

I’m not good at cultivating relationships, reaching out to check on people, keeping track of what is going on with far-flung relatives. I’m not sure if it is a self-esteem issue or a self-protection issue. I vacillate between it being either one.

HOU-Artsy Report

Final score:

36points

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#10

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Narcissism. Didn't even know the term until a few years back, and then I started to learn all about it. Now I realise I have picked up so many traits, I am trying to unlearn them and be better.

hardyflashier , Miriam Espacio/pexels Report

Final score:

34points

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#11

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I don't talk to myself in a positive way. I've gotten better at it, but as the saying goes we are our own worst critics.

treehouseleader , Andrea Piacquadio/pexels Report

Final score:

34points

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#12

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Inflexible. I want to do things my way. Trying to learn to overcome this but old habits die hard.

workinghardyes , Antoni Shkraba/pexels Report

Final score:

32points

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#13

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I expect people to treat me like I treat everyone.

In3briatedPanda , Mizuno K/pexels Report

Final score:

31points

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#14

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I don’t talk about my feelings at all. It’s hard to know if I’m sad or mad about something.

Avocado-Toast-93 , RDNE Stock project/pexels Report

Final score:

30points

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#15

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I’m very complacent, just because I don’t like making a fuss or making people feel upset. For example, if something is $20 but I get charged $25 i’ll just pay the $25 rather than even attempt to argue bc I don’t want to be rude to anyone. I need to get better at putting my foot down and saying no, or not just capitulating immediately.

Swiftstar2018 , cottonbro studio/pexels Report

Final score:

30points

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#16

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I let anger take over. It affects my kids, my husband, me.

DesertSpringtime , Anna Tarazevich/pexels Report

Final score:

30points

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#17

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I don't really say anything when it upsets me to try to keep the peace. Then all of a sudden, one little thing can make me become a total b***h which hurts my relationships.

Normal-Writing-8524 , Vera Arsic/pexels Report

Final score:

28points

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#18

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Perfectionism that leads to an unwillingness to forgive myself for my own mistakes.

whistlepig4life , Tima Miroshnichenko/pexels Report

Final score:

28points

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#19

I’m trying to work on it but I have a really hard time prioritizing myself when it comes to things like saying no to helping people or picking up extra at work when I really don’t have the mental/physical energy to do so.

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Final score:

26points

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#20

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Self-Sabatoge. Whenever I have expectations placed on me, I immediately fail at the task regardless of whether doing the task is good for me or not. Failing becomes a habit and confidence is shot. Then any goal becomes not worth pursuing. It becomes a cycle of self-harm.

Could_be_persuaded , Ba Tik/pexels Report

Final score:

23points

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#21

Overthinking when someone has hurt me, I'll actually make myself sick doing it.

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Final score:

21points

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#22

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I can be very avoidant and self isolating at times.

Andromeda-Ultra , Juan Pablo Serrano/pexels Report

Final score:

21points

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#23

Oversharing. I tend to yap about things about my life that many people can't handle, and I don't realize because it doesn't phase me.

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Final score:

21points

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#24

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I think really badly of myself. Every day I tell myself how stupid, ugly, worthless, and undeserving I am. I think it throws my whole energy off and makes me attract people who agree with me instead of people who will love me and be real friends.

ivegivenallican , Liza Summer /pexels Report

Final score:

19points

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#25

I interrupt people when I already know what they are going to say instead of letting them finish their sentences. I also overshare at times when it would be better to keep more things to myself. I also have a tendency to view the world in a negative light and assume the worst out of people.

Final score:

18points

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#26

I don’t take criticism well. It feels like I’m being told that something is wrong with me at my core. I struggle between feeling enough as I am and needing to make changes.

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Final score:

18points

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#27

People pleaser. It's called self-abandonment & leads to resentment.

So I work on saying how I really feel (nicely of course), & even if it's uncomfortable or awkward or could potentially make someone unhappy with me. It's so hard. I just want everyone to be happy.... but I deserve to be happy too.

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Final score:

16points

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#28

I have really bad ADD and have a bad habit of talking over people. its not that I am not listening but I am also looking at the cute dog down the street.

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Final score:

15points

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#29

This is more flawed than toxic, but I'm very level; no highs, no lows, and it means I struggle to have empathy. It all feels a bit of an act. I've gotten better over the years, but I always feel like an imposter. Often I used to jump to problem-solving, to skip over the messy part, and fix it. But over the years I learned this doesn't help. Not really. There's a time and a place for that and it's when emotions are settled and stable.

Sometimes I picture the death of my parents, or a friend, just to try and feel emotions that some people must feel daily. This might make me sound dead inside, or depressed, but it's really not the case. I wouldn't trade it, I like it. But I'm not the best person to turn to in times of need. I just keep quiet, let them vent, and support them without judgement as well as I can. Sometimes that's okay. Sometimes people may need more, but it is what it is. There's no point pretending or being disingenuous. I'd rather people see a flawed authentic version of myself than a bad actor.

Final score:

15points

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#30

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I get angry when people don't like what I like.

woMen_littlebad , Karolina Kaboompics/pexels Report

Final score:

11points

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#31

I have a tendency to overthink things, sometimes to the point of paralysis. It can lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety, and it can also prevent me from taking action or making decisions.

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Final score:

9points

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#32

I never really have strong feelings about anything, I’m very apathetic, I’ve noticed recently that I also lie compulsively about little things sometimes.

I also have a pretty chronic inferiority complex and my baseline is to assume that everyone thinks I’m really stupid.

I also feel like I don’t love my friends as much as I should, I could quite happily never see most of them ever again.

SpiritualMayonnaise Report

Final score:

8points

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#33

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Dispensing advice like I have a degree in psychology... when really, I'm just a soap opera and coffee girl.

lika_klaar , SHVETS production/pexels Report

Final score:

8points

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#34

I'm too self centered sometimes.

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Final score:

8points

#35

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I am very controlling and inflexible with my beliefs.

I think this is related to my own upbringing with having a disability. I've had very little control of my life and medical/health/future choices. I have been shut down and made to feel stupid and like my opinion is worthless. As my parents age and lose control of me, I'm starting to make my voice heard. I also feel like it's got a lot to do with controlling outcomes and avoiding getting myself hurt by them.

As far as being inflexible with my beliefs, that I think is also a trauma response from not being heard or taken seriously by my family. Because I was always made to feel stupid and dumb, I made sure to always do my research before I opened my mouth. Therefore if I know you're wrong, I'm gonna fight til my last breath on it. The only way I'll ever change my mind is if they have compelling evidence against my own beliefs.

I am more than happy to relinquish control or change beliefs if people prove they're worthy enough for it.

Low-Maintenance1517 , Alena Darmel/pexels Report

Final score:

8points

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#36

That I have a kind heart and that I tend to care for people who couldn’t give a f**k if I died.

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Final score:

8points

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#37

I get very annoyed when people tell me basic information assuming I don't know it. If they were condescending or something then maybe i'd be safe. But no I am a massive prick when it comes to this. They are just trying to help but I always take it as "oh he doesn't know this, he's an idiot". I mostly blame my mum for this.

Final score:

7points

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#38

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I judge people too quickly and I'm really petty.

ULTRAPUNK18 , Sam Lion/pexels Report

Final score:

7points

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#39

I'm not sure what to call this but I have this thing where I cannot stand being around people I have nothing in common with whether it’s friends or family etc something in me is just so against “faking” like i can relate to someone for whoever sake on top of that I have an extremely low social battery unless im around people I grew up with.. its taking a toll on my marriage.

Livid-Wear-7164 Report

Final score:

7points

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#40

Autistic trait: I don't always notice the tone of my voice when I talk to other people. It may come out as I'm rude or angry.

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Final score:

7points

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#41

Pride, sloth, cowardice. There, you got three for the price of one!

(edit): Self-delusion and a general lack of wisdom too. Gosh, it's like being sick - you think you're done then your stomach gives another heave...

Cheeslord2 Report

Final score:

7points

#42

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I can be very inconsiderate. I do care when someone tells me, but so many things that others want fly past me because I am too preoccupied with myself.

Orzagh , Andrea Piacquadio/pexels Report

Final score:

7points

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#43

A lot of my friendships are solely based on talking s**t about people. I could sit with a likeminded coworker or friend and bash our other coworkers/friends for hours and hours. So judgy, all the time.

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Final score:

7points

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#44

Unreliable. I say I will do things with every intention of doing them but don't.

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Final score:

7points

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#45

The reason I am not in a relationship or seeking a relationship is because I am obsessive. I would literally do anything for my partner even at the cost of my wellbeing. I become clingy and overbearing. I don't make any effort to speak to anyone other than the partner. My reason to live literally changes from wanting to be a happy, independent individual into wanting to live to make them happy. I cannot trust myself to be in a relationship ¯_(ツ)_/¯.

NecroticTooth Report

Final score:

7points

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#46

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I give people the silent treatment when I'm hurt or angry. Toxic for me and them.

EmondaBlue , Timur Weber/pexels Report

Final score:

6points

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#47

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I'm not the best listener. I'm a major projector. I'm constantly talking about the past.

Natural_Collar3278 , Christina Morillo/pexels Report

Final score:

6points

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#48

I get really snippy when I’m really hungry, overly tired, or overwhelmed with a situation and end up lashing out at others, especially my husband. I know this is pretty common but I really wish I could keep my cool better. I feel awful every time it happens.

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#49

I talk wayyyyyy too much. I don’t even enjoy it, I’m just nervous. Always nervous!
Oh and I also try to make people dislike me. I feel safer.

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6points

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#50

I'm stupidly paranoid.

I've never been cheated on but I always think the person I'm with is cheating on me, despite them showing 0 signs of cheating.

I usually manage to keep it bottled up but on the rare occurrence it slips out it's embarrassing to explain my reasoning.

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6points

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#51

I tend to self sabotage by putting myself in questionable traumatising situations. Till this day, I can’t figure out why or maybe I do know but I am just in denial.

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#52

Fear of abandonment. I literally have like 6 months annoyed at my bsf because i'm not her daily chat anymore. She met a dude at the gym, they are now in a situationship ig and they text each other at every hour and everyday as if they were actually together and it makes me feel replaced. I am not being replaced and she has done nothing wrong to me, it literally is just me that is so scared is going to be left alone. its like ptsd but idk from where i got it lol.

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#53

I can be stubborn at times, even when I am aware that I am wrong. It's something I'm working on, but it's difficult to let go of the need to be right.

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5points

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#54

I get bored super easily & quickly. Whether it be jobs, any type of relationships, hobbies etc. That also means that i don’t have strong emotions or feelings towards something such as friends, partners, acquaintances, hobbies etc. Idk why Ig I just don’t like sticking to one thing.

Final score:

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#55

I have an avoidant attachment style and I’ve been told by past partners that I’m too independent. Guess I should stay single lol.

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#56

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having I will find your weakness or something you did that was bad and hold it in my back pocket. If you p**s me off, which takes a lot, I will use it against you. I also hold grudges.
Other than that, I'm pretty good.

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5points

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#57

I talk about myself as a nervous tick and will fudge insignificant details to seem like my rambling has relevance. It's not big stuff just tiny stuff about my hometown and things like that. It started after I emigrated, I think it's an attempt at assimilating. I want to stop 😢.

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#58

I start making mean af jokes about people when I don't feel like being alive 😭.

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#59

I tend to crave affirmation, status, and recognition; life balances this out by saddling me with crises that prevent my experiencing them.

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Final score:

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#60

I have poor emotional boundaries which leads to me being dependent on other's moods and reactions to feel okay which leads to trying to control them.

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5points

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#61

Letting people walk all over me and have them influence my mood, feelings and decisions.

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#62

I ghost people.

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#63

I’m a terrible loser. I can’t enjoy any game of there is competition involved. It will upset me so much to lose. More so if someone is showing pride for their good performance— makes me angry. I was raised with expectations of always outperforming everyone. It’s not healthy, and I don’t like that I’m that way.

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5points

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#64

Even though I give everyone a chance, I am horrible about giving second chances. I used to be a doormat and just let the world walk over me, I think I over corrected.

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Final score:

5points

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#65

I'm irritable, and I have a hard time hiding that fact sometimes.

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#66

It’s not toxic but it’s not healthy: hyper independence.

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#67

I can be way too quick to dismiss other people’s opinions when i’m stressed.

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Final score:

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#68

I'm too chill and "go with the flow" and it leads to resentment when I let someone walk all over me instead of setting a boundary.

Final score:

4points

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#69

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Codependent. I'm learning that it's due to generational trauma. I finally re-started therapy and being honest with the therapist and myself (and others). I have many regrets, but I'm determined to be a better person and build the life I want and deserve. Codependents Anonymous has been very helpful for me.

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Final score:

4points

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#70

Apparently, if I really like a guy, I get really clingy, needy, jealous and possessive.

I know it's not healthy but my bf actually thinks it's hot so...doubt I'm going to rectify it any time soon.

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#71

When people I’m jealous of fail I REALLY enjoy it.

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#72

My moods aren't something I always have control of so some jokes I'll laugh at one day will also hurt my feelings the next time. I could be having a good day but sometimes my mood just drops. I hate this about myself and if I fight against the bad mood I just cry. It's hard to explain to my partner and it's hard for them to understand it's not their doing. Also, I'm stressed in loud social settings sometimes it becomes impossible for me to talk with people so it looks like from the outside that I'm in a bad mood or upset. I forget things to the point I'm convinced I never heard of the thing or plan. I realize often too late that I am the wrong one.

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#73

I've had a tendency to be manipulative in the past, something I'm trying to stop doing.

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#74

I can be mean to perfectly lovely people, especially when I was high school.

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#75

Lack of an effort to improve.

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#76

I’m extremely vain.

To be fair I work very hard on holding my appearance to a high standard. I’ve been in the gym for a very long time and do work hard for the money that it takes for everything else.

But the vanity comes from a place of major insecurity and that in itself is majorly toxic as well.

I wouldn’t say I put this on other people though. But it can be an issue that comes out in different ways in romantic relationships.

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#77

I don't accept apologies and refuse to "be the bigger person" and forgive people. I treat people the way that they treat me.

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#78

I like to argue. It's fun to me. It's not fun to other people.

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#79

“It Affects My Kids, My Husband, Me”: 30 Toxic Traits People Admit To Having Me: sees missing kid notice
Notice: 17 year old with blonde hair, tattoo on shoulder, 5’7”, 230 lbs,….
Me: that’s really heavy for that height.

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#80

I'm shallow. Like, REAL shallow. I hate it but can't fix it.

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#81

I’m jealous but I love the attention of others myself 😬.

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#82

I punish myself for being late, and then I punish everyone else for being late too.

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#83

Idk about toxic, but I act like "prey" for lack of better word In english. I'm extremely naive and easily gaslit lol. Hoping to grow thicker skin as I enter my ~~300s~~ 30s.

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#84

Constantly checking your ex's social media even though you know it's not healthy. Let's just say I'm a pro at lurking.

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#85

I’m a control freak, which isn’t good when you’re trying to figure out a co-parenting relationship.

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#86

Too passive aggressive where people might not recognize it.

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#87

I detach from friends who get upset when they don’t hear from me.

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What’s a toxic trait you recognize in yourself?

Beak Hookage 2 months ago

I'm too much of a people pleaser. I'll go out of my way to help people with the least little thing. I do enjoy making others happy and people like that about me, but it also means I tend to put myself second more often than I should and is probably linked to my incredible reluctance to ask for help or even admit to having a problem. And being bad at standing up for myself. I also get really triggered by being condescended to (even if it's just in my own perception), which makes me get angry and resentful or miserable and anxious.

2points

Foxxy says Hello 2 months ago

I'm a walking toxic waste sign. I'm an oversharer, I'm a people pleaser, I'm emotionally reactive, I put myself down all the time and more.

2points

Kristal 2 months ago

Sounds like you may benefit from therapy. I say in sincerity.

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BookFanatic 2 months ago

This was oddly depressing and reassuring at the same time. Like, I'm not the only one out there who does X, Y, Z. I'm not excusing it, but it's nice to know it's not just me.

1point

Sky Render 2 months ago

Apparently my toxic trait is that I just don't understand most social taboos and have a habit of forgetting about them at inconvenient times. It's not due to lack of respect, it's because I cannot fathom why they're a big deal to begin with. As in my brain cannot process the concept at all no matter how much I try. I can and do assemble fully cohesive models in my head for why these taboos exist and need to be respected, but it's basically an emulation layer on top of my default system and it can be overridden at will without any conscious input. Apparently this happens to a lot of neurodivergent people besides myself as well.

1point

kansasmagic 2 months ago

I wouldn't call that "toxic" but rather, as you say, a neurodivergent trait. Social games are often stupid and the "rules" don't make any sense.

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Kristal 2 months ago

I am emotionally draining. I just ... need a lot of emotional reassurance. I have worked on my toxic traits over 10 years and, I must say, I've done pretty well. But after the massive abuse that caused me needing to work on myself, it's going to take A LOT for me to trust someone again in a romantic capacity ... and that "a lot' is sincere energy, actions, and words of love and acceptance. Yup. I'm going to be single for a while.

1point

Talking Raven 2 months ago (edited)

I have too many issues... I don't trust anyone anymore. I'm always complaining about my day. I don't follow through with advice, even stopping having councilling despite it being free at the time. I f*****g hate my father. I feel trapped in my marriage. Stopping taking anti-depressants and I've nearly gone out to kill myself about 4 times in past 2 years. Do these count?

0points

Roxie Carter 2 months ago

I hate complainers. I can listen up to a point, then I get impatient. Is there a solution to your problem? Do it. Is there no solution? Complaining won't change anything.

0points

Sojourner 2 months ago

Yikes. I show a lot of these traits, mainly from not understanding social cues.

0points

Ellinor 2 months ago

I was diagnosed with Anger-Issues when I was 11 years old, and I've been learning to live with it ever since. The only thing I found was to physically isolate myself if I get Angry during a fight (verbal fight of course, I'm deeply against physical violence) until I get calmer enough to talk about my feelings. It's hard but I make it work, the hardest part is feeling my anger goes to 0 to 100 in less than a second.

0points

kansasmagic 2 months ago

Is it bad that I identify with, like, 60 of these?

0points

kansasmagic 2 months ago

...or does that just make me a typical BP user?

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Austin L 2 months ago

To be honest....it might be a sign.

0points

Sojourner 2 months ago

I do too, so yes.

0points

wowbagger 2 months ago

Some of the comments on these were really disheartening. Jumping to global negative judgments about a person's character when they just made themselves vulnerable by revealing something they don't like about themselves is really not helpful. How can we ever improve ourselves if we don't feel comfortable talking about our own flaws and getting help changing them?

0points

Lavern Defazio 2 months ago

Thank you. I read only a few posts and moved on. Armchair therapists.

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Susie Elle 2 months ago

I can be dramatic, kind of a 'woe is me' mood. Usually I know this, and then I tell people I'm being dramatic, which is true, but I'm also really tired of A, B or C or whatever it is I'm being dramatic about. And I find it very difficult to find meaning in the things I do, especiialy work. Some people really have that "This work is important" ethic, I just don't have it. I honestly don't care that much, what I care about is my hobby and friends.

0points

Tempest 2 months ago

I have BPD and OCPD and I can relate to about 90% of these people (not that they all have BPD or OCPD but several individual symptoms together can make them). I had depression first and now it’s more like dysthymia. In my childhood I told myself I can fix myself. What I did was bottle up all my problems and started living in a sense of an idealistic future in order to pull myself through school. It worked. Then came my uni years and the flood gates opened with things being a 100 times worse. I finally started therapy this year but I wish I started when I was first unwell. I probably wouldn’t have developed personality disorders and my depression would have been history. I encourage anyone who’s suffering to seek help in time. Please don’t try to wing it alone when there’s help out there. Be kind to yourself and your future!

0points

kansasmagic 2 months ago

Dysthymia is worse than major depression in some ways. It's milder, but doesn't go away. I've been sorting through stuff the last year (in counseling) and I think that I had dysthymia since my teens. It would explain a lot. But it's mild enough and comes on slowly so you get used to it, and then "always mildly depressed" becomes a part of you.

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Beak Hookage 2 months ago

I'm too much of a people pleaser. I'll go out of my way to help people with the least little thing. I do enjoy making others happy and people like that about me, but it also means I tend to put myself second more often than I should and is probably linked to my incredible reluctance to ask for help or even admit to having a problem. And being bad at standing up for myself. I also get really triggered by being condescended to (even if it's just in my own perception), which makes me get angry and resentful or miserable and anxious.

2points

Foxxy says Hello 2 months ago

I'm a walking toxic waste sign. I'm an oversharer, I'm a people pleaser, I'm emotionally reactive, I put myself down all the time and more.

2points

Kristal 2 months ago

Sounds like you may benefit from therapy. I say in sincerity.

0points

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BookFanatic 2 months ago

This was oddly depressing and reassuring at the same time. Like, I'm not the only one out there who does X, Y, Z. I'm not excusing it, but it's nice to know it's not just me.

1point

Sky Render 2 months ago

Apparently my toxic trait is that I just don't understand most social taboos and have a habit of forgetting about them at inconvenient times. It's not due to lack of respect, it's because I cannot fathom why they're a big deal to begin with. As in my brain cannot process the concept at all no matter how much I try. I can and do assemble fully cohesive models in my head for why these taboos exist and need to be respected, but it's basically an emulation layer on top of my default system and it can be overridden at will without any conscious input. Apparently this happens to a lot of neurodivergent people besides myself as well.

1point

kansasmagic 2 months ago

I wouldn't call that "toxic" but rather, as you say, a neurodivergent trait. Social games are often stupid and the "rules" don't make any sense.

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Kristal 2 months ago

I am emotionally draining. I just ... need a lot of emotional reassurance. I have worked on my toxic traits over 10 years and, I must say, I've done pretty well. But after the massive abuse that caused me needing to work on myself, it's going to take A LOT for me to trust someone again in a romantic capacity ... and that "a lot' is sincere energy, actions, and words of love and acceptance. Yup. I'm going to be single for a while.

1point

Talking Raven 2 months ago (edited)

I have too many issues... I don't trust anyone anymore. I'm always complaining about my day. I don't follow through with advice, even stopping having councilling despite it being free at the time. I f*****g hate my father. I feel trapped in my marriage. Stopping taking anti-depressants and I've nearly gone out to kill myself about 4 times in past 2 years. Do these count?

0points

Roxie Carter 2 months ago

I hate complainers. I can listen up to a point, then I get impatient. Is there a solution to your problem? Do it. Is there no solution? Complaining won't change anything.

0points

Sojourner 2 months ago

Yikes. I show a lot of these traits, mainly from not understanding social cues.

0points

Ellinor 2 months ago

I was diagnosed with Anger-Issues when I was 11 years old, and I've been learning to live with it ever since. The only thing I found was to physically isolate myself if I get Angry during a fight (verbal fight of course, I'm deeply against physical violence) until I get calmer enough to talk about my feelings. It's hard but I make it work, the hardest part is feeling my anger goes to 0 to 100 in less than a second.

0points

kansasmagic 2 months ago

Is it bad that I identify with, like, 60 of these?

0points

kansasmagic 2 months ago

...or does that just make me a typical BP user?

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Austin L 2 months ago

To be honest....it might be a sign.

0points

Sojourner 2 months ago

I do too, so yes.

0points

wowbagger 2 months ago

Some of the comments on these were really disheartening. Jumping to global negative judgments about a person's character when they just made themselves vulnerable by revealing something they don't like about themselves is really not helpful. How can we ever improve ourselves if we don't feel comfortable talking about our own flaws and getting help changing them?

0points

Lavern Defazio 2 months ago

Thank you. I read only a few posts and moved on. Armchair therapists.

0points

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Susie Elle 2 months ago

I can be dramatic, kind of a 'woe is me' mood. Usually I know this, and then I tell people I'm being dramatic, which is true, but I'm also really tired of A, B or C or whatever it is I'm being dramatic about. And I find it very difficult to find meaning in the things I do, especiialy work. Some people really have that "This work is important" ethic, I just don't have it. I honestly don't care that much, what I care about is my hobby and friends.

0points

Tempest 2 months ago

I have BPD and OCPD and I can relate to about 90% of these people (not that they all have BPD or OCPD but several individual symptoms together can make them). I had depression first and now it’s more like dysthymia. In my childhood I told myself I can fix myself. What I did was bottle up all my problems and started living in a sense of an idealistic future in order to pull myself through school. It worked. Then came my uni years and the flood gates opened with things being a 100 times worse. I finally started therapy this year but I wish I started when I was first unwell. I probably wouldn’t have developed personality disorders and my depression would have been history. I encourage anyone who’s suffering to seek help in time. Please don’t try to wing it alone when there’s help out there. Be kind to yourself and your future!

0points

kansasmagic 2 months ago

Dysthymia is worse than major depression in some ways. It's milder, but doesn't go away. I've been sorting through stuff the last year (in counseling) and I think that I had dysthymia since my teens. It would explain a lot. But it's mild enough and comes on slowly so you get used to it, and then "always mildly depressed" becomes a part of you.

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