Sadness mixed with humor in a perplexing, chaotic, and confusing way—that’s what the r/FunnyandSad online group over on Reddit is all about. An old-hand on the net, having been founded in November 2013, it has since then grown into a community of nearly 700k members.
The subreddit does exactly what it says on the tin and documents posts from all over the net that are funny and sad at the same time. It’s a melange of laughing through tears (or is that crying while you laugh?) that will show you that life is far more varied and nuanced than the black-and-white we’re used to seeing on the news and on social media.
Sadness is a very natural part of life and we ought to embrace it, instead of running away from it. After all, we can’t be happy-go-lucky all the time (I would know, I tried). And while being sad can even have certain benefits, like improving our memory and judgment, getting stuck in negative thinking patterns and endless loops of sadness isn’t healthy for our mental wellbeing.
I had a quick chat with an expert in the field of psychology about how to identify what these negative thinking patterns look like and how focusing just on our failures, having black or white thinking, and holding ourselves accountable for everything that goes wrong all harm our mental health.
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Emma Morton, a researcher at the University of British Columbia, told Bored Panda that, for example, what we tend to focus on more, our successes or our failures, can influence our long-term mental health. For instance, hyper-concentrating on all the things that go wrong or could potentially go wrong can trap us in a perpetual loop of self-criticism and anxiety.
This, in turn, can lead to feelings of very low self-esteem and even depression which, in turn, can make us unwilling to ask for help and support even though we might desperately need both. However, there are other ways how we can end up trapped in negative thinking patterns, too.
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“Negative thinking patterns can include only paying attention to failures and ignoring successes, black or white thinking (e.g., ‘If I get anything less than an A+ on this test, I’m a failure’), labeling oneself based on mistakes (e.g., ‘I’m a loser, an idiot’), [and] mind-reading (e.g., ‘Everyone will think I’m a loser for not getting this promotion’),” Emma went into detail with Bored Panda how we can end up being overly harsh with ourselves.
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My husband and I were curious a few days ago about how much rent we have paid to our current landlord. It's over 160k. The house we just found and got denied for is only 149k, lol
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And when the garbage man clocks out for the day that's it, job is over till you clock back in.
And they get a workout. I saw a woman doing the same job and she was great shape.
Load More Replies...why do people always insult the people who work the hardest? (Sanitation, custodian, waitress, etc.)
Probably because it is cooler to work less while getting more money?
Load More Replies...I once dated a truck driver whose dream was to attend university. When I told him that as an English teacher, I make half of what he does , had had a fit.
It’s not all about money. I’d rather have an interesting job that pays less than a boring job that pays more.
Load More Replies...Plus when you're a garbage man you find all sorts of cool stuff and you're allowed to keep it!
Plus not easy & very dirty. Also possibly hazardous if you end up sticking your self with used needles or come in contact with chemicals & hazardous waste
Load More Replies...Depends in which place. NYC teachers start at 57K a year and max out in 23 years at 115k with eligible for retirement at 25 years. DSNY starts at 48K maxes out at 105k (unless you move into management, and switch from trucks to a desk), and have to wait till 30 years to retire. On the other hand they get a lot of money from the double overtime they get paid for snow shoveling. A really bad snowy winter can net them 20k extra, which is why they pray for snow.
Still in the same wage bracket with potential to make even more
Load More Replies...Not to mention teachers work tons of hours extra without pay and have to pay for supplies out of their own pocket
I agree with the not paid extra hours, but our teachers do not pay for supplies out of their own pockets.
Load More Replies...This is not true where I live. Actually, in my country, the teacher makes more than 2x what the garbage man does
Dito. Teachers at our highest (not Univetsity) schools start with 50000€ and can go up to 65000€ (according to the internet). While garbage men get around 34000€ at the beginning.
Load More Replies...Garbage man makes more than me. I'm a paramedic. Garbage man also gets way better benefits and a pension. I wish we were compensated as well as garbage people.
I wish you were, too. Nurses and paramedics are underpaid in many countries and are important.
Load More Replies...These are two very unfairly underpaid jobs, tbh. Also policemen, at least in my country.
I've never been told this by a teacher. Other adults? Yes. Not by a teacher.
Where I live garbage collectors don't even have to touch it. Everyone has a plastic wheely bin and it gets tipped into the special truck with two mechanical arms.
Maybe in NYC, I knew a garbage man once in NYC and with overtime he made about 120K a year, he lived in NJ
Plus great pension & benefits. Also, often able to retire fairly young. Since you don’t go to college you can start doing this job at 18 & have 25 years in at 45.
Load More Replies...I love this, but as I told my kids, hope to find, a job you like, that also pays well, however, times have changed, now is not about having a degree, it depends more on the wages, to survive !!!
My dad was a garbage man in collage, and he made twice as much as one of his friends while working half the amount of time. Hard work, but pays well and is necessary.
Sanitation workers have one of the most dangerous and critical jobs in our society. They’re more likely to die on the job than members of the military, and unlike the military, their work actually keeps us safe. Honestly we should be thanking sanitation workers for their service.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a "garbage man." Try living back a couple of centuries ago when everyone dumped everything in the streets. Those parents should be ashamed. It's sad that the jobs we need the most are paid so little.
Isn't that some sheet ? We were pushed so hard to believe you can only be successful if you go to college . I'd never even heard of vocational colleges because they had very few where I lived ... by very few I mean one. Kids could go there and get their high school diploma while earning a certification for a career. The schools used it as alternative school basically. I never even knew about it until I was a junior.
Apparently "sanitation engineers" in NYC can earn 6 figures annually within 5 years!
And don’t have student loans plus great benefits & vacation as they are mostly government workers… even if you make more than a garbage man you may work more hours than him AND you probably earn about the same when you subtract what you pay out in student loan (often interest if some loans are not subsidized). Also most government employees pay into a pension plan so the can retire comfortably & often young- 55-60. Used to work for NYC schools & at the time teachers could retire at 60% pay once they were (if I remember) 50 years old & worked for them at least 20 years. If you manage to have your mortgage paid off by this time 60% pay is good. Plus you can still work- maybe just PT as you have benefits thru pension. Plus once you hit 62+ you can also collect Social Security. My dad worked for the state for 30 years & retired at 55 & was getting 5k a month until death & no longer had a mortgage. PLUS for a few years after retirement he worked for some global corporations as a contractor
He made $150,000 a year for a few years doing this basically working PT. These companies hired him because of his experience with the state DOT & his connection. They weren’t paying him to work but to get contracts thru his connections & knowledge of the system
Load More Replies...In the UK at least, the garbage man is paid for their shift and often does fewer hours because they've cleared their route early so end up being paid to sit on their sofa
Nothing against garbage men, but you sure about that salary? https://money.usnews.com/careers/best-jobs/garbage-collector/salary
yeah garbage men have it so bad. they have a pneumatic arm that picks up the trash totes, they don;t even have to touch them nowadays, let alone lift them, yet it still can't weigh more that 50lb.
She continued, adding that another negative pattern includes “holding yourself personally accountable for things that go wrong and attributing successes to luck or the contributions of others (e.g., ‘I only got that award because nobody else applied’).”
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As such, having unrealistic expectations of what we’re capable of and being unreasonably demanding of ourselves can lead to “feelings of depression and worthlessness” that in turn “make it harder to reach out for help.” So while it’s perfectly fine to feel sadness, we all need to know when to ask for a helping hand if we find ourselves constantly stuck with only negative thoughts.
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Totally. I am now halfway through my second health degree and my father still tells me what medical advice he got from the TV, and when I say, "No that is not correct info" he gets irritated, "I watched the thing on TV!!" Yes coz 6-8 years education on the subject has taught me absolutely nothing....What can you do...still love him...
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It's also because in the US you have to pay thousands of dollars in medical bills for prenatal care and labour and delivery, even if nothing goes wrong. You also get 2 weeks maternity leave, if you're lucky. A lot of people literally cannot afford to *have* a baby, let alone raise a child.
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This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
Load More Replies...This is the most diverse post I have ever seen- stupid stuff, dark jokes, sad stuff and everything, very confusing indeed
facts for some ppl, maybe confusing for others, depends on which country u come from
I think they mean it's confusing because you don't know whether to laugh or cry.
Load More Replies...Clearly BP is not for you. Maybe go watch Tucker Carlson rant about "the left", or Ben Shapiro ask why crime hasn't been banned.
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