30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing

Nobody enjoys being cut off or bumped into, yet these things happen all the time — both to and because of us.

Experts say that such behaviors instigate a self-perpetuating cycle, hampering our productivity, our happiness, and our health along the way.

So incivility is like a virus. Contract the stuff, and there's a big chance you can spread it without even consciously wanting to.

Interested in which of its forms are the most common, Reddit user MaximumHemidrive asked others on the platform to share what people say and do without realizing it's actually quite hurtful.

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing If someone declines alcohol, do not insist, and do not ask them why.

Weak-Snow-4470 , Inga Seliverstova Report

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206points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing LISTENING TO ANYTHING IN PUBLIC WITH YOUR VOLUME ON. This includes TikTok, YouTube, social media, face timing, phone on speaker, music, etc. No one gives a f**k what media you’re consuming. Airports especially seem to attract this in droves like earbuds or headphones don’t exist?? If i can hear your phone you are getting The Glare. Learn to adjust to polite society.

merlinshairyballs , Rasheed Kemy Report

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165points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Looking at your phone whilst someone talks to you. Put your phone DOWN and live in the moment that is REAL. Your phone is just a waste of your time 90% of the time! Enjoy a real face to face conversation!.

CountOk9802 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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135points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Why don't you have kids yet?.

AudibleNod , Caleb Oquendo Report

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131points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Asking when you're going to have kids.

My fiancée had a hysterotomy a few years ago because reasons. We're planning to adopt and we're both fine with it. There's enough people in this world and we don't need to make more ourselves. She gets asked a lot when we're planning to have kids and she replies, completely deadpan, "I'm infertile" and the uncomfortable look on their faces when they don't know how to respond gives us both great joy. We hope it helps them think twice before asking someone else. I can't wait to marry that woman.

fridgidfallus , Marisa Howenstine Report

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130points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Giving any sort of unsolicited advice on someone's physical appearance.

Particular-Natural12 , Ketut Subiyanto Report

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129points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Saying "it was God's will" when someone you care about dies. So inappropriate yet so many people do it anyway.

MetamorphicMermaid , cottonbro studio Report

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127points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “Smile!” Had a coworker that kept telling me to smile and I had to talk to a manager about it. I’m a large rough looking man and apparently my resting staring off into space face offended her. I live with chronic pain, so no, I don’t feel like smiling when I’m not interacting with anyone. I’m not scowling, I’m not mad I’m just not happy.

Corey307 , Jonathon Burton Report

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119points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Being chronically ill and constantly being told "well at least it isn't cancer". No but it's stuff I have to live the rest of my life with. Also "but you look ok". Crazy how most all of my body is on the inside me.

Tarantulagirl , Sora Shimazaki Report

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118points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Stepping off a full escalator and then standing still while looking around. Bro, just take 4-5 steps forward to figure yourself out!.

Viviane445 , Felipe Cardoso Report

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114points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Commenting on weight in any way - “you’re so skinny” isn’t always a compliment.

Alley_cat_alien , i yunmai Report

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106points

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#12

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Leaving your grocery cart in the middle of the aisle so others cannot pass. It’s inconsiderate and infuriating.

1980pzx , Wallace Chuck Report

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104points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Touch a pregnant woman's stomach.

LuminousZephyr , Helena Lopes Report

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103points

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#14

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “Why are you so quiet?”.

bobaboat , Etienne Boulanger Report

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97points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing People getting on an elevator before allowing people who are on it to get off.

FalcorFliesMePlaces , Gaurav Baya Report

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91points

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#16

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Approach a disabled person you don’t know to call them brave, inspirational, etc. Especially if you are using them as an example to children. Every single disabled person I have ever met HATES when people do this. It’s calling unnecessary attention to them and a lot of people feel put on the spot, so it’s not a kind or respectful thing to do.

Just leave people the f**k alone, they’re not here to be your example or your teachable moment.

captcha_trampstamp , ThisIsEngineering Report

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87points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Talking loudly while traveling in herds with no spatial awareness. The random scream. Think college freshman packs or middle schoolers at the mall.

gator_grinder , Rich Smith Report

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87points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing People who let their dogs jump up on you. Hey I love dogs but I’m not in the mood of having dirty paws on my nice clean clothes.

son_berd , Lisa Fotios Report

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85points

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#19

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing "You don't look autistic"

Oh you don't say?.

Cherokeerayne , cottonbro studio Report

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77points

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Richi Weiss 8 months ago

My question would be: "how should an autistic person look like?" 🤦

46points

The Original Bruno 8 months ago (edited)

"I'm sorry, I left my pocket protector in my other shirt." (I can say that; I'm slightly on the spectrum myself, even though I ruined 273 pairs of pants by putting my pen in my pants pockets in school because I didn't wear a pocket protector.)

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Michael Largey 8 months ago

"And you don't look stupid. Just goes to show."

14points

Corvus 8 months ago

I always thought autistic people have a big red "A" on their foreheads :P

8points

Louise Clarke 8 months ago

What exactly does autistic look like??

7points

Blyss Blyssylb 8 months ago

This is when I become a superhero, Aunt Slappy

6points

Gen X Feral 8 months ago

Towanda!

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Guess Undheit 8 months ago

This is true with all "invisible" disabilities, or with disabilities that come and go (i.e. some days people can walk, sometimes they need their wheelchair).

6points

Upstaged75 8 months ago

"You don't seem depressed". Thanks mom, that's super helpful....

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StrangeOne 8 months ago

What is Autism supposed to look like? Also anyone with an Intellectual/developmental disability. It's not always apparent in someone's appearance.

5points

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BlackCatWithWhiteSocks 8 months ago

My best friend told me when we were discussing my aspergers " but you are so intelligent and you got uni degrees "...duh

4points

JuniorCJ82 8 months ago

Neither do I, but here we are.

4points

Idgafwyt 8 months ago

Official member of The Invisible Disability Club here.

3points

Linden 8 months ago

Even worse when it's preceded by "Don't worry..."

2points

Trophy Husband 8 months ago

Now I'm heading "that's funny, she doesn't look Druish" in my head...

2points

shawna Reich 8 months ago

you don't look like an idiot?

2points

BookFanatic 8 months ago

I have a buddy with autism. When he gets this question he apologies...and then crosses his eyes, wrinkles his nose up, and sticks out his tongue.

2points

Regina Holt 8 months ago

"you don't look like an idiot" Oh, you don't say?

1point

Pixie 8 months ago

And you look smart so... so much for that !

1point

Steve Hall 8 months ago

Why would anyone else know if you were autistic?

1point

Dread Pirate Roberts 8 months ago

Wow, that is not cool...

1point

HarperTheCentaur (they/them) 8 months ago

Had someone say this to me and then go "That's a compliment, by the way." Mind explaining that to me? So looking autistic is bad, then? Maybe we should call up some of my friends who are more "visibly autistic" and you can tell them that. No? Hmmm, wonder why you think it's ok to say to me, then. (Also, I'm pretty clearly autistic to anyone who knows what it ACTUALLY "looks like". Everyone I know who has experience with autistic people has clocked me within a conversation. I've got a noticeable speech impediment, impaired social awareness, long rants/tangents in conversation, hyperverbal vocabulary, and I visibly stim with my hands ALL THE DAMN TIME. That's all among other social and physical signs. If I really don't seem at all on the spectrum after actually paying attention to me, maybe you don't know it as well as you think you do.)

0points

Mr. D 8 months ago

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Talking to someone about work when they're eating their lunch on their lunch break.

BallScratcher123 , Marcus Aurelius Report

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77points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing It amazes me how many people cut each other off mid-sentence. It doesn’t matter how many people are in the conversation, the topic, or nature of it, inevitably someone will cut the other person off mid-sentence.

Broderickboggs , SHVETS production Report

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76points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Immediately walking up the aisle once the plane lands and not letting those sitting in front of u get out first.

kingkpooh , Chris Brignola Report

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70points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Sharing your own experience before reacting to someone else sharing a story. No matter your intentions behind sharing your own story it will always seem like you are trying to one up someone or make everything about you. I'm not trying to say you can't or shouldn't share your story but react and ask a few questions before you do. Show that you care about the other person first.

Excellent_Price_8762 , Ricky Esquivel Report

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70points

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#24

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing *why are you so quiet?*

Why do you talk so much? See how rude that sounds?.

goated95 , cottonbro studio Report

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69points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Commenting on a stranger's acne. Holy s**t, doesn't matter what 'hack' or trick or advice you have that you just have to share, the person KNOWS what their skin looks like, has almost certainly tried everything and then some, and is just trying to get through their day. That s**t hurts from friends and family, let alone some a*****e customer at your job or d******d at the bar. Just /don't/.

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63points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing When someone shares something tough they're experiencing, saying "Welcome to the club" is really invalidating.

WildShadow163 , Rosie Sun Report

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Touching people’s hair without their permission. As a black woman who wears protective styles I get this all the time. I am not a petting zoo.

Cleonce12 , Bennie Lukas Bester Report

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58points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Rude to do? Cancel plans to attend an activity for the last minute or just not show up to something you've RSVP'd for. I understand sometimes people suddenly get sick, their kid gets sick, or they have a last minute work assignment, but I hate the "I changed my mind," or "I didn't feel like it" excuses. I actually had a birthday party where everyone I invited decided they'd just not show up, but it was okay because they assumed other people would come. I only invited four people, and nobody came. It was very hurtful and disappointing. Happy birthday to me!.

SuLiaodai , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Final score:

57points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “You look good for your age.”

There are so many ways to compliment someone on aging well, but that is not one of them.

graygemini , Craig Dennis Report

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57points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Leaving your highbeams on whenever there’s a car in front of you, whether they’re on the same or opposite side of the road. I know for a lot of people this is obvious, but I was once in front of somebody who would always turn their highs off for oncoming cars and turn them on once said car had passed, even though they were 15 feet behind me and were still shining their highs into my face. I did not know this person, and had not committed some sort of traffic faux pas.

Beetlejuice1800 , Luke Miller Report

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52points

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#31

Coming up to someone with a baby and giving unsolicited advice and touching the baby.

Worried_Appeal_2390 Report

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20points

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Random people coming up to me (a smoker) and saying “you know those will k**l you”. Yeah, I know.

xxxtravirginoliveoil , Donny Jiang Report

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20points

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#33

“You look tired”.

May_999 Report

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19points

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#34

Commenting on a pregnant woman’s belly size. That goes for both “I can’t even tell you’re pregnant” and “wow you’re so big!”.

You have no idea how the mom will feel about your comment.

vanillayanyan Report

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18points

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#35

Complimenting weight loss when the other person has not talked about exercising or dieting. When i was starting medications, i really struggled with making myself eat and lost around 10 pounds. Was really annoying getting reminded all the time.

karanas Report

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16points

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#36

Saying to a non-native speaker that their english needs improvement or that they don't speak it well. If it's true, they already know that.

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15points

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#37

People used to ask my mom all the time if I was her “real child” cause she’s blonde and I’m brunette lol. So extremely and terribly rude.

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14points

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#38

I hate compliments like "OH your hair looks so much better now" or "You look so much better now that you've lost weight" or "That paint color is so much better than your last one."
Like thanks for letting me know you thought the things before were hideous.

Acrobatic-Duck7738 Report

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14points

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#39

Someone accomplishes something and they respond, "It's never too late!!" No, dude, just say congrats.

ifnotmewh0 Report

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13points

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A stranger asking when your baby is due but you’re not pregnant. Why would you ever ask someone that??.

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11points

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Sky Render 8 months ago

Asking a transgender person if they've "had the surgery" is extremely rude, it's none of your business and has all sorts of unpleasant connotations when you ask about someone's genitalia. Although really, asking anyone what's in their pants is a huge WTF social faux pas, and I am quite shocked that it ever became normalized!

20points

Guess Undheit 8 months ago (edited)

Asking should be considered sexual harassment. It's nobody's business other than their doctor or their sexual partners.

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Jeevesssssss 8 months ago

Agree with this SO MUCH. It says a lot about the person asking imo.

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MurderMittens 8 months ago

Women may not mind sharing bathrooms/showers with a Trans woman who has had the surgery, but if she still has something to assault other women with, then she may not be welcome. Would you let your 12yo daughter shower with a fully intact male? If they haven't had the surgery, then the best thing is to avoid women's bathrooms/locker rooms. But moms/dads are going to want to know who is in there with their naked child.

-3points

Steve Kenney 8 months ago

unsolicited advice on anything is rude. "I didn't ask you, so shut up"

9points

DB 8 months ago

Sharing your political views with me. Shut up and keep them to yourself.

5points

rabbitthorn 8 months ago

adding my own, commenting on/blatantly staring at someone's scars. i have them on my arms and legs, and no matter what people have to comment or stare at me like i'm dangerous. i understand it's something different, but i'm still a person who lives with them. you can see them and move on, i live with them. just don't comment on anyone's scars or anything of that nature really. if i offer to tell my story, then by all means you can ask me things. but don't interrogate people, ESPECIALLY if you're a stranger

1point

VOTE if you live in the USA 8 months ago

Taking up the entire aisle at the store with your cart/body/conversation is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. It amazes me that people are so situationally unaware and surprised other people exist.

1point

Rose Thorny 8 months ago

I don't drink. When I'm offered a drink I politely decline and we go on with our lives. I guess my peers aren't pressuring me enough for me to fully understand why some posts make such a huge deal out of someone declining booze and being quizzed about your lifestyle choices. So much that they need articles and advice columns on how to deal with it??

1point

Jeevesssssss 8 months ago

If I wasn't drinking I'd not be pressured either, but in some circles it really is a thing. I've had other friends who have struggled with it previously. It often happens when people don't want to look at their own drinking habits...

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UncleJohn3000 8 months ago

So the basic problem here is people. I've always liked this one because there's no positive way to accept it - "You're a lot brighter than you look."

1point

Hey! 8 months ago

I'm not just a pretty face! LOL.

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Will Cable 8 months ago

Speaking to someone on the phone and they have the TV volume up and so you are struggling to hear what they are saying. Please turn the TV volume down.

1point

Don Adams 8 months ago

I am a former smoker. This May will make 23 years smoke free. Quitting is very difficult, and it really took several years to not have the urge, and it is one of the things I am most proud of accomplishing. That being said, the condescending "superiority" of non smokers who would offer non solicited commentary and advice, people who would start coughing loudly, and that idiotic hand fanning just annoyed the royal p**s out of me. Pretty much all smokers know it is a horribly expensive and unhealthy habit, they need support, not insults. Pretty much makes a smoker want a cigarette more every time it happens. If you are a smoker and want to quit, try. Don't get disallusioned if you stumble, just keep trying, get support from family and friends. You'll get there in your time. Best of luck!

0points

Samara Morgan 8 months ago

You smokers are entitled a******s, you poison others with your disgusting, smelly cigarettes. People were acting like that because you didn't respect their space, just like a typical smoker. Thanks for my migraines.

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David Paterson 8 months ago

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Sky Render 8 months ago

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Guess Undheit 8 months ago (edited)

Asking should be considered sexual harassment. It's nobody's business other than their doctor or their sexual partners.

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Jeevesssssss 8 months ago

Agree with this SO MUCH. It says a lot about the person asking imo.

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MurderMittens 8 months ago

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Steve Kenney 8 months ago

unsolicited advice on anything is rude. "I didn't ask you, so shut up"

9points

DB 8 months ago

Sharing your political views with me. Shut up and keep them to yourself.

5points

rabbitthorn 8 months ago

1point

VOTE if you live in the USA 8 months ago

Taking up the entire aisle at the store with your cart/body/conversation is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. It amazes me that people are so situationally unaware and surprised other people exist.

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Rose Thorny 8 months ago

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UncleJohn3000 8 months ago

So the basic problem here is people. I've always liked this one because there's no positive way to accept it - "You're a lot brighter than you look."

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Hey! 8 months ago

I'm not just a pretty face! LOL.

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Will Cable 8 months ago

Speaking to someone on the phone and they have the TV volume up and so you are struggling to hear what they are saying. Please turn the TV volume down.

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Don Adams 8 months ago

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Samara Morgan 8 months ago

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