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Nobody enjoys being cut off or bumped into, yet these things happen all the time — both to and because of us.

Experts say that such behaviors instigate a self-perpetuating cycle, hampering our productivity, our happiness, and our health along the way.

So incivility is like a virus. Contract the stuff, and there's a big chance you can spread it without even consciously wanting to.

Interested in which of its forms are the most common, Reddit user MaximumHemidrive asked others on the platform to share what people say and do without realizing it's actually quite hurtful.

#1

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing If someone declines alcohol, do not insist, and do not ask them why.

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TotallyNOTAFox
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Say you don't eat meat and everybody offers you some, say you don'T drink alcohol and everybody offers you some, say you don't have sex - nothing!

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#2

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing LISTENING TO ANYTHING IN PUBLIC WITH YOUR VOLUME ON. This includes TikTok, YouTube, social media, face timing, phone on speaker, music, etc. No one gives a f**k what media you’re consuming. Airports especially seem to attract this in droves like earbuds or headphones don’t exist?? If i can hear your phone you are getting The Glare. Learn to adjust to polite society.

merlinshairyballs , Rasheed Kemy Report

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Loverboy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know people that do this, unfortunately. They know it's annoying, they just don't give a f**k about other people

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Looking at your phone whilst someone talks to you. Put your phone DOWN and live in the moment that is REAL. Your phone is just a waste of your time 90% of the time! Enjoy a real face to face conversation!.

CountOk9802 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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Zoey Bear
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, what did you say? Sorry, I was looking at Bored Panda on my phone.

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#4

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Why don't you have kids yet?.

AudibleNod , Caleb Oquendo Report

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#5

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Asking when you're going to have kids.

My fiancée had a hysterotomy a few years ago because reasons. We're planning to adopt and we're both fine with it. There's enough people in this world and we don't need to make more ourselves. She gets asked a lot when we're planning to have kids and she replies, completely deadpan, "I'm infertile" and the uncomfortable look on their faces when they don't know how to respond gives us both great joy. We hope it helps them think twice before asking someone else. I can't wait to marry that woman.

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Jennik
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a similar situation, I used to be asked why I only had one child. Or told I was "selfish" for only having one. Or, in a slightly more positive way (I guess), "Your daughter is so gorgeous! I hope you're having another!". Yeah, well my daughter is the only surviving baby out of 10 pregnancies. I had 9 first trimester miscarriages, some of which became seriously life-threatening, so I consider myself pretty lucky to have one child, actually.

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#6

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Giving any sort of unsolicited advice on someone's physical appearance.

Particular-Natural12 , Ketut Subiyanto Report

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Karri Berkowitz
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my disliking of the whole "girls hating on girls" cliché, I always compliment other females on something they r wearing. I don't care that they didn't ask for it cuz sometimes ppl just need to hear something nice from a total stranger.

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#7

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Saying "it was God's will" when someone you care about dies. So inappropriate yet so many people do it anyway.

MetamorphicMermaid , cottonbro studio Report

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ScarletRos
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where I used to work, a colleague miscarried. Another colleague told her, “God needed the baby more than you” in some weird attempt to be comforting. Everyone else was like WTF?

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#8

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “Smile!” Had a coworker that kept telling me to smile and I had to talk to a manager about it. I’m a large rough looking man and apparently my resting staring off into space face offended her. I live with chronic pain, so no, I don’t feel like smiling when I’m not interacting with anyone. I’m not scowling, I’m not mad I’m just not happy.

Corey307 , Jonathon Burton Report

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Richi Weiss
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can totally relate to that. I hope the pain u suffer is at least bearable. Hope u find something that helps u out!

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#9

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Being chronically ill and constantly being told "well at least it isn't cancer". No but it's stuff I have to live the rest of my life with. Also "but you look ok". Crazy how most all of my body is on the inside me.

Tarantulagirl , Sora Shimazaki Report

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Louise Clarke
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, as someone with chronic daily migraine headaches, invisible and painful, I have had a headache every day for 20 years. And I hate when people tell me to pop an aspirin and it will be fine, or tell me that if I lose weight it will improve.

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#10

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Stepping off a full escalator and then standing still while looking around. Bro, just take 4-5 steps forward to figure yourself out!.

Viviane445 , Felipe Cardoso Report

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Hans Georg
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not just escalators, but also stairs at the train station. Or sitting on them. I do not want to hit them with my bike.

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#11

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Commenting on weight in any way - “you’re so skinny” isn’t always a compliment.

Alley_cat_alien , i yunmai Report

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Loverboy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao, having heard this for most of my life, definitely not heard or taken as a compliment most of the time. Certain people can get away with calling me skinny cuz they say it a certain way and I love 'em. Other than that, no.

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#12

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Leaving your grocery cart in the middle of the aisle so others cannot pass. It’s inconsiderate and infuriating.

1980pzx , Wallace Chuck Report

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Donkey boi
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh I'll move it! I'll take it for a little trip around the store if you're not paying attention. Might even add a few things it.

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#13

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Touch a pregnant woman's stomach.

LuminousZephyr , Helena Lopes Report

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Loverboy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Touching a stranger randomly, without permission, for any reason at all is just a big no.

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#14

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “Why are you so quiet?”.

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#15

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing People getting on an elevator before allowing people who are on it to get off.

FalcorFliesMePlaces , Gaurav Baya Report

#16

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Approach a disabled person you don’t know to call them brave, inspirational, etc. Especially if you are using them as an example to children. Every single disabled person I have ever met HATES when people do this. It’s calling unnecessary attention to them and a lot of people feel put on the spot, so it’s not a kind or respectful thing to do.

Just leave people the f**k alone, they’re not here to be your example or your teachable moment.

captcha_trampstamp , ThisIsEngineering Report

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censorshipsucks
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always think you can figure out how it feels by swapping the person around. If you think for example that hotpants are ok, visualise your dad in them and ask whether they're ok. No, they're not. They're lechy. Now, do the same thought with the above. Swap disabled person with black person. "Oh look how inspirational, a black person in a store!" ... f**k off. So if your gut reaction to the person swap is "ewww gross" then yes, ANY comment on ANY person in that scenario is "eww gross".

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#17

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Talking loudly while traveling in herds with no spatial awareness. The random scream. Think college freshman packs or middle schoolers at the mall.

gator_grinder , Rich Smith Report

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Loverboy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been guilty of this. Not screaming or being super loud but kinda disregarding my surroundings while with a bunch of people unless I had to interact with said environment

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#18

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing People who let their dogs jump up on you. Hey I love dogs but I’m not in the mood of having dirty paws on my nice clean clothes.

son_berd , Lisa Fotios Report

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Loverboy
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who is slightly terrified of random dogs, I agree with the first sentence

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#19

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing "You don't look autistic"

Oh you don't say?.

Cherokeerayne , cottonbro studio Report

#20

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Talking to someone about work when they're eating their lunch on their lunch break.

BallScratcher123 , Marcus Aurelius Report

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Nika Strokappe
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't mind discussing work with colleagues while on my lunch break, so not everyone will think this is rude...

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#21

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing It amazes me how many people cut each other off mid-sentence. It doesn’t matter how many people are in the conversation, the topic, or nature of it, inevitably someone will cut the other person off mid-sentence.

Broderickboggs , SHVETS production Report

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#22

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Immediately walking up the aisle once the plane lands and not letting those sitting in front of u get out first.

kingkpooh , Chris Brignola Report

#23

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Sharing your own experience before reacting to someone else sharing a story. No matter your intentions behind sharing your own story it will always seem like you are trying to one up someone or make everything about you. I'm not trying to say you can't or shouldn't share your story but react and ask a few questions before you do. Show that you care about the other person first.

Excellent_Price_8762 , Ricky Esquivel Report

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Richi Weiss
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is super easy to step into that trap. I have to admit I also do that sometimes but if I do I wanted to tell the other person that they are not alone but I am also thinking "dammed u shouldn't do that" while talking. But then it's too late 😔

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#24

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing *why are you so quiet?*

Why do you talk so much? See how rude that sounds?.

goated95 , cottonbro studio Report

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Mrs Irish Mom
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uncle asked my kid why are they so quiet and she said, why are younso loud, i could hear you even before i walked tru the front door the poor neighbours

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Commenting on a stranger's acne. Holy s**t, doesn't matter what 'hack' or trick or advice you have that you just have to share, the person KNOWS what their skin looks like, has almost certainly tried everything and then some, and is just trying to get through their day. That s**t hurts from friends and family, let alone some a*****e customer at your job or d******d at the bar. Just /don't/.

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censorshipsucks
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

same for anyone suffering anything. I have loads of allergies and people tell me stupid s**t like "well if you only ate healthy like more nuts"... f**k right off... I am precisely allergic to that "healthy" s**t.

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#26

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing When someone shares something tough they're experiencing, saying "Welcome to the club" is really invalidating.

WildShadow163 , Rosie Sun Report

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Daria
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always understood it like "you're not alone" and actually felt better?..

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#27

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Touching people’s hair without their permission. As a black woman who wears protective styles I get this all the time. I am not a petting zoo.

Cleonce12 , Bennie Lukas Bester Report

#28

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Rude to do? Cancel plans to attend an activity for the last minute or just not show up to something you've RSVP'd for. I understand sometimes people suddenly get sick, their kid gets sick, or they have a last minute work assignment, but I hate the "I changed my mind," or "I didn't feel like it" excuses. I actually had a birthday party where everyone I invited decided they'd just not show up, but it was okay because they assumed other people would come. I only invited four people, and nobody came. It was very hurtful and disappointing. Happy birthday to me!.

SuLiaodai , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

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Lucky2BAlive
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just so you know, I would have shown up (unless death or a family member, or serious illness) - I don’t get invited to parties so when ai do, I take it seriously.

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#29

30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing “You look good for your age.”

There are so many ways to compliment someone on aging well, but that is not one of them.

graygemini , Craig Dennis Report

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censorshipsucks
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm ok with this one. I'm definitely heading to old age now so if a youngish person says this I feel quite good about myself.

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30 People Hold Nothing Back Discussing The Rudest Behaviors They Hate Seeing Leaving your highbeams on whenever there’s a car in front of you, whether they’re on the same or opposite side of the road. I know for a lot of people this is obvious, but I was once in front of somebody who would always turn their highs off for oncoming cars and turn them on once said car had passed, even though they were 15 feet behind me and were still shining their highs into my face. I did not know this person, and had not committed some sort of traffic faux pas.

Beetlejuice1800 , Luke Miller Report

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Philly Bob Squires
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pitch dark on the turnpike. Some moron 100 feet begind me with high beams blaring. If you're 1000 feet behind me, it's blinding. If you can see me, turn them off! (Especially if you have those newer "brighter than the sun" type of headlights!)

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