Ya what the hell is that?? Like I didn't ask to be born.

Children should never be used as weapons against the other parent. No matter what happened. Be a grown up.Just don't do that, it made my siblings and I have issues.

If your child perceives that they can do no wrong, they will proceed to do very little right.

I’m genuinely curious about this. I live in the US and there are strict child labor laws regarding child actors. If parents are monetizing their children on video on the reg, are they/shouldn’t they be held to the same standards?

My mom constantly makes fun of me for being interested in science (more specifically astronomy) as she believes that almost everything astronomers say is false. She says that the universe is 5000 years old and the big bang is not real, aliens are not possible, evolution is false etc.

My dad “attacks” me from the behind with a hug and that makes me panic a lot. He says he does this because I’m “not a loving person” because I hate being hugged.

This is child abuse! Poor kid

My dad loves to yell at my family in public. There was one time where I started talking loudly without realising so my mom told me to be quiet but my dad started shouting and mimicking me loudly so I started crying and more people started to look at us. Why is he like that?

I’m adopted. My mom spent my entire life, since early childhood, telling me that my biological mom is a “druggie” and a “junkie” and an “alcoholic” and that I’d end up just like her. (And that I should be “grateful” that she’d adopted me.) After my dad’s death two years ago, amidst a really bad period of time with my boyfriend, I found out some of my co-workers had access to drugs and I started using. I also got blackout drunk a few times. I figured since my mom always said I was “definitely” to become a junkie after all, I might as well use drugs. Good work, Mom, looks like I became a “druggie” and “junkie” after all, just like you told me I would! (The good news: I’m 7 months clean and sober! I’m more than my adoptive mom’s prophecies.)

We are all human. We make mistakes. Own your mistakes. Grow as a person. Your child will learn to be stronger. You will be stronger.

My dad thought that if we feared him that meant we respected him. Wrong. Fear is not respect. We feared and hated him.

This kind of b******t also happens to the kids after they’re all grown up. I have had too many a*****e authoritarian bosses who pulled stunts like this—-and heaven forbid you ask them to clarify what they want. They get pissed off because they either don’t have the vocabulary to clarify what they want, or think you asking them to do it is disrespectful, as if turning in work that’s not what they wanted isn’t disrespectful—-unless it’s in the context of you robbing them of an opportunity to rant and rave at you. I am not psychic, and even if I was I couldn’t see through all the s**t inside their craniums. When I was young, I didn’t ask because I didn’t want to get yelled at, but got yelled at anyway because it wasn’t what the boss wanted. Then I got older and bolder, and would ask clarifying questions. If they yelled, I then asked them if they want it done correctly or not; I’m glad to give it to them either way, but really think they’d prefer it to be right. Believe it or not, that got me a bit of respect from some of the a******s. But it also put me on the others’ s**t lists. I preferred to take that risk, tbh.

My parents just think it’s a waste of time and money getting diagnosis for their 2 kids. My brother has always struggled in school and the teachers told them to consider getting a diagnosis but they didn’t listen and instead tried to beat him and yell. It didn’t work as you’d expect and he’s struggling socially as everyone thinks he’s weird

I have no qualms grilling someone else's kid. Someone's gotta teach them. Meet the village. I'm part of that village.

love this movie!

Did you? Really?! But ,that doesn't explain why your children don't like you.

In my childhood, it was TV.

This happened to me, twice, and actually I think my parents did the right thing at the time. I would just stand in my room and slam my door over and over and over again when I was upset, so they took it away, for like a week each time. It helped me to realize that I needed to talk thru what was bothering me.

My parents did that. It's a real invasion of privacy when you're a teen

It's actually a very effective parenting tool which helps with some kids. Depends on what's going on and the particular child.

If they do it just to be jerks than I don't get it either. But when the kid is slamming it to the point of disturbing anyone sleeping. Atleast replace it with a sheet or curtain so the kid still has privacy.

Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean it is bad parenting or makes someone a terrible parent. You don’t know why people do this. There are way, way, way worse parenting choices than removing your child’s door as a punishment.

I did this. My son stole. A lot. Also had other behavioral issues that were safety concerns. We got therapy and medication…worked with the therapist on reasonable expectations for him to get his door back. Once we weren’t concerned about his safety being unsupervised we put his door back. He’s grown now and still says it was the right choice because we probably would’ve found him hurt or dead. I never thought I’d do it because I have always been an advocate of my kids personal space and have knocked before entering but you do what you need to keep them safe.

MY dad always said that privacy is a privilege not a right. He would actually pick the lock to my door if it was locked and would come into my room all the time without knocking or asking to come in. I was often changing and would then yell at him, and he would get mad that I was mad. And then I would lose my door for having it locked.

I was never allowed to slam my door. It would just lead to my mom stomping up to my room, slamming it open and threatening me in her scariest tone. She freakin' scares the s**t out of me. I don't think she likes kids.

I have a 12, 5 and 2 year old. My 12 year old loves slamming her door even a couple hours after little siblings are asleep so they wake up scared. As soon as I go downstairs “BANG BANG BANG BANG!” I go back upstairs and say “stop that now.” 12 year old “Stop what? I wasn’t doing anything, you maybe just imagined it.” Usually followed by “can I have my (whatever privilege lost) now?” Me “ definitely not.” Her “okay” As soon as my foot is on bottom step “BANG BANG BANG BANG bangbangbangbangBANG!” Little brother and sister are awake now, little sister crying. Me “(Kids name) ENOUGH!” They need to sleep and you should be sleeping.” “Keep it up and I’ll take it.” 12 rolls eyes. I go in other room to lay down with little kids so they calm down, 90 seconds later BANG! 2 minutes after BANG! Another minute BANG! I get up with a growl and hear 12 scurry to bed. I turn on light and she blinks from her bed “hmmm? What happened? Why did you wake me up?” I go downstairs and return with screwdriver.

It happened to my cousin once....she had been sneaking out of her house through a window, with out cousins. They were stopped by cops after curfew.

I share a wall with a neighbor. My kid has only slammed his door a few times and I've told him he absolutely can't do that because we need to respect our neighbors peace of mind. These comments are interesting to me in case things ever get worse.

I don't agree with this one to the extent that there should be a good reason for doing it. I think it was a technique that was popular during the era of tough love. When children misbehaved badly enough and nothing else worked, the door was removed (no curtain), mattress on the floor, one change of clothes, no TV, no computer, etc.

Actions have consequences, and losing privacy is a big consequence. Live and learn. Really not a big deal. People make mountains out of mole hills.

When my teen was sneaking alcohol into his room through his window, smoking marijuana in his room, (illegal) and using his window to sneak out or to sneak others in so they could party together, you bet his door was taken away. Those activists put him, his friends and my family at risk of law enforcement deciding the future of people I would be held responsible for. Door for privacy is one thing, go change in the restroom, door for sneaking and committing illegal acts in MY house, absolutely not.

The child pyromaniac. Stop judging. Other peoples lives could be at stake.

I considering doing this or taking the door k**b. We had an issue with slamming and/or locking. The slamming stopped when I told them I'd switch their door for a curtain. The locking stopped when I opened it with the safety key.

I have no problem with this. If specific rules are broken. Closing the door when the opposite sex is over goodbye door. slam your door cause you are throwing a tantrum goodbye door. You don't get to destroy your parents belongings just because you are upset, and the door is a part of THEIR house.

I think this depends on the kid and the situation.

If you are doing something behind that door that you shouldn’t or you slam that door or you refuse to come out or a myriad of other reasons, that door will come off until you learn to behave. You are not entitled to lick yourself behind a closed door. Sorry, that IS good parenting.

I don't care if they're a door slammer or what else, this when they're tween or teen just teaches them that their safe spaces (their room) aren't actually safe, and you break the trust. I rebelled hard against this, and I was a straight up goody two shoes as a teen. I was a smart alec that realized grades weren't a true indication of your subject comprehension, so I had a real hard time caring about them. But I wasn't trouble. I did nothing to deserve losing that freakin door, but I was insanely shy and private, losing that door pretty much ensured I never trusted them again. I am now a grown woman, and I'm still salty about it.

Lol, when I was a kid one slam got you no dinner, two slams and you couldn't sit for a week from the beating.

Well I’m the kid and I don’t know me either

The excuse I was given was , that's how her mother was. I wouldn't want to do that to any child.

We are the other way. Our son can go into a meltdown if he makes a mistake so we have to calm him down and tell him it’s ok. Mistakes are how we learn. Just try again when you want to.

My mom is a jehovah witness and a bigot. Two of her kids are being shunned. It's sad my nephew can't meet his aunt or uncle and he's being brainwashed by the jw culture. I know a lot of kids have been molested and the watchtower society refuses to reveal abusers to the police.

Sometimes it’s better to come from a broken home than to live in one, especially if you’re a child. My parents did this too. Taught me absolutely nothing about what a good relationship looks like. As a result, my young adulthood was full of dead end or bad relationships. Took me until my later thirties to realize I needed to look for someone I really clicked with and be in a good working relationship, instead of ending up constantly being the only one trying to salvage bad relationships.

Yes and no. As long as you really want kids and want to give them a good life, sure. But if it's just to fill a void and have someone to live the life you wanted, no.

That expression must mean something entirely different in those parts of the world. Here, it would be incestuous and illegal.

cry. The family believed she was just a cold hearted woman.

Even more points if they then proceed to b***h about how hard it is to put the baby to sleep, and a few years later b***h about the dental bills.

it just makes kids deathly afraid of any stranger ever, and makes it impossible to talk to people. trust me, i know 😔