“What Screams ‘I’m A Terrible Parent’?” (30 Answers)

Ya what the hell is that?? Like I didn't ask to be born.

Um, you chose to give birth to a human being. That means you're responsible for raising and providing for them. No, they don't owe you a damn thing.

My mom uses this often in many ways. She thinks I owe her for having to raise me. I didn't ask her to be brought into the world. She brought me into the world and I should expect that she would want me for who I am. Not who she wants me to be. The resentment is thick with every interaction we have.

I worked in a chemical lab between junior and senior year and loaned >$1000 to my parents (80's money). When I asked for it back when I was getting ready to go to college, my mother said, "You eat, don't you?"

This is the worst. All that will happen is that your kids will disappear and you will never see them again

Children should never be used as weapons against the other parent. No matter what happened. Be a grown up.Just don't do that, it made my siblings and I have issues.

Right! Parents, keep the nasty divorce business to yourself (even worse getting a child to favor one over the other otherwise). We were fortunate enough that, even though our parents divorced when the 5 of us kids were ages 1-8 (respectively), we were never told the reasons until we were old enough to understand and was explained in a way of "this happened, we moved on. Even still it wasn't until we were adults that our mom also told us the more meaner tactics my dad did to get her to lose custody. My half sister was almost 30 before she learned what our dad and her mom did to my mom. We were actually almost denied any relationship with her lest she learn the truth before then. Even with all the bad stuff between them, mom never spoke a bad word against him (just the facts deal), and always made sure there was no interference with relationship with dad. It was dad's direct actions toward us that ruined things. He admits no wrongdoing on her part. Won't admit nor deny his actions 🙄

It's a really heinous form of manipulation. The kid will never be able to trust either parent, because much of what the parent says bad is really not a concern of the child.

Happened to me unfortunately. Ex alienated my daughter, she wouldn't even want to see me when I went to visit her/take her home with me when as legally settled. All because my ex could never get over the fact that I left her (and on top of all she's convinced it was for someone else), and also this theory of mine that she just wanted to get pregnant and do anything necessary to not have me in her life as son as I was of no use. Apparently she's doing the same thing to the father of her second child.

These were literally my parents. They hated each other and I was between them: "You surely learned all those idiot things from your mother!" "You're a lazy brat, just like your father!"

If your child perceives that they can do no wrong, they will proceed to do very little right.

My mom would have nipped it in the bud and drag me to the bathroom for a 5 minute lecture and make me apologize to the person. I never really see parents make their kids apologize to people.

Most people understand that kids are kids and they're underdeveloped brains will result in certain behaviors. But when parents sit by and Do Nothing to parent their child or teach them thoughtfulness or empathy, it's maddening.

I had that problem on a flight. I asked the mother a few times to make the kid stop kicking my seat and she literally looked at me with "whatever" all over her face. I asked the kid (5-6?) to please stop, but now that he knew it pissed me off & his Mom didn't care, he kept doing it. Finally, I stood up, turned around and SCREAMED in his face "Stop kicking my f*****g seat!" He burst into tears (I can be pretty scary) and his Mom started b*tching at me. I wasn't having it, "Maybe if you got your fat f*cking a*s off your phone for five minutes and actually acted like a parent, I wouldn't have yelled at him". She was beet red, the flight attendants and everyone in our immediate area were smirking (I swear some people wanted to applaud) and I got a few free beverages.

Sometimes I feel lucky as my son has never kicked the seat in front. He will play with the tray table but that’s it really.

I’m genuinely curious about this. I live in the US and there are strict child labor laws regarding child actors. If parents are monetizing their children on video on the reg, are they/shouldn’t they be held to the same standards?

This is just so bad. There is many sharenting mums or dads out there

I'm actually surprised this hasn't been brought up for monetized channels. SAG and Hollywood have specific rules about child actors.

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My mom constantly makes fun of me for being interested in science (more specifically astronomy) as she believes that almost everything astronomers say is false. She says that the universe is 5000 years old and the big bang is not real, aliens are not possible, evolution is false etc.

Or comparing siblings. My oldest is an adult. The youngest is a lot like her personality wise. But I don't want her to feel like she is destined to be her clone. Admiring her older sister, she likes hearing she's "[older sister name] 2.0 with a [her name] twist". She knows just because something she does may or may not be similar, they are each their own person. Putting the "2.0" part in there also makes her feel like a newer, better, modern version, too. The oldest and middle are both anime artists. Each having their own style, while the middle asks "am I as good as" we emphasize that with the differing styles and huge age difference, there isn't a "good as" nor "better than". She is excellent for where she is in the "learning how to" stage she's in.

'Different' isn't wrong but SO many people can't cope with anyone liking something different to them..

Got this so much from my parents for being sciency and non-religious

If I grew up in today's age, I'd probably be targeted by some.real loons not just because of my hormone disorder, but because of my interests. Both my younger sisters were tomboys and I was.more into shows that targeted girls (like Anne of green gables.from the 80s as an example). None of us grew up gay and none of us outgrew the tomboy or tomgirl things. My father berated me a.lot growing up...for being too shy, too sensitive, too much of a girly boy, yada yada yada. I'm 45 years old and he still berates me about some things. Can't and won't talk back. The mere thought reminds me of that first time I spoke back to my parents. Had to eat a bar of soap for that. Lesson learned.

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My dad “attacks” me from the behind with a hug and that makes me panic a lot. He says he does this because I’m “not a loving person” because I hate being hugged.