Congratulations OP!! 🎊

Cherish the great sister, dump the scumbucket "friend" and mother. Smh!!!

Same. It sucks and I think about it sometimes, but I know I'm better off

That's a narcissist for you. No one is as important as they are, and most other people are seen as lesser and disposable, only good for what they can get from them and only for as long as absolutely necessary. They have so many people to use before everyone gets wise, after all, and their time is the most important thing in the universe.

I wouldn't have taken them back home.

That kind of extremist is no friend, they're a dangerous moron (that goes for both ends of the political spectrum; just because one side is more vocal and obviously visible doesn't make the other any less idiotic, they just stand far less chance of getting into power for some reason).

There are way too many Conservative Christians out there that have the attitude f either it’s their way or the Highway. Which is ironic, because I also view myself as a very conservative Christian, yet I would never push my beliefs on someone else. I don’t hide who I am, but I also don’t shove it down people’s throats.

I'm atheist, yet I've maintained a friendship with a mormon for twenty years. If you respect each other's views and don't try to change each other, friendships can work quite merrily.

I had the same issue with my own brother, alot thanks to his wife. Didn't cut us off but would pray for me under his breath but loud enough that I could hear it when I disagreedcor questioned his religious views. He talked like he was lecturing me because he was a pastor and admitted that he and his wife moved an hour away so our family would not influence their lives.

The friend that placed the ultimatum is stupid, yes, but he did what most basic "christian" churches tell you to do: self-righteously preach to non believers and do not hang out with those who aren't cuz the unsaved will drag you down. I KNOW that's not what the bible says nor what jesus taught but most churches follow their pastor's warped interpretation, blindly.

I lost a good friend in this matter too. He is so full on that presidential candidate so he unfriend me after his Prabowo loose.. Well..

"Join me or be banished" ??? wow! definitely not a friend

Mutual respect is the best religion.

Religion and politics didn't ruin your friendship. His extremism did.

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oh my god i was so much like that a*****e friend in middle school (i have changed sm since then 😭😭)

Religion and politics can be divisive in the wrong brains.

Stay away from him ,always Such people don't even hesitate to think like that about their own family so y matter nothing from them unless u agree to them.

That guy's caught in an abusive church. It's using a tactic to isolate him from his friends, family, and support structures. The church made him believe that the only people worth keeping in his life are the ones who agree to its fanaticism. Anyone who tries to point out to him this church is extreme, controlling, bleeding him dry, unchristian -- they're evil, cut them out. Now he's alienated anyone who's not also being brainwashed. His only social contact, the only influence over his thoughts and decisions, the only thing he can turn to for support, the only thing he gives his money to-- the church.

I had that type of friend too. Her dad was a pastor in the mission covenant church and was super conservative. She seemed less so when we became friends and at one point had a lovely boyfriend who was pretty liberal for being a fairly conservative christian. When they broke up she became more and more conservative herself and ended up marrying a guy who had the same values as her dad. Broke up with her when I got married to my lovely and very female soulmate and she said she couldn't support us but would happily come to the reception for the food...

I've had a few "friends" who told me we couldn't be friends anymore unless I believed the same way they believed. They were all fundamentalist evangelical Christians. I let the friendships go. The heck with them.

That's sad. I love being friends with people with different views. I get to learn so much and when we do disagree, I love learning that we usually agree on what we both want, just disagree about the best way to reach they goal..

Nothing like Christian love

Should of joined his church. That level of dedication to Christ is commendable. Good for him trying to do the good work.

Had a friend like this. Found Jesus, I replied i didn't know he was missing. Went ultra religious and accused me of being a bigot because I'm agnostic and refused to go to church too. Tried to convince me my bf would cheat because her husband did on her. Tried having a who's abuse was worst competition with me and couldn't work out why I backed off fast. She told anyone who would listen what a victim she was and how I was to blame. I flicked the off switch to our friendship and grey rocked her.

In this instance, I really hope OP not only ended the friendship but pressed charges as well. Smh!!!

And then she turns around and complains that she lost so many friends after becoming a parent…hmmm wonder why???

Wow!!! What a plot twist!!

Yeah : shooting the messenger always helps.

I had a relative I thought I was close to. When she got married I said, "Oh, am I a bridesmaid?" She joked that I would be her flower girl, and instead asked the wife of her husband's BM to be her MOH - this was a girl she hardly even knew! She then gave me a small task to perform at her wedding (I suppose thinking this 'honor' would make up for it - it didn't). I pulled back after that because she showed me how little I truly meant to her.

That's really a d*ck move. You just don't out people, you let them do it on their own time.

Oh I do lend friends money now and then. As long as I know what for and get a receipt. If they're good friends, they won't think twice about that. If they give you attitude, you know they never intended to give it back! So far I've lend one friend a deposit for a flat and she paid me back in full over the span of a year. I gave her a receipt too for every payback and for the last one we went out for dinner and used it to pay. The other one was for a downpay on a car and my friend insisted to give me the papers for safekeeping until they paid me back two months later. That's how you know you have great friends.

If you made a mistake, own it up. Admit that you did it, be honest and truthful. We all make mistakes but continuing to do them rather than learning how to stop doing them is just plain out ignorance.

Been there. I didn't want to burden my brother with that s**t, he wanted to know and our relationship has never been better.

How do people become MAGA? Aren't they really always a MAGA at heart but never had an outlet until Trump? Like they were in MAGA closet and now they are out.

That's a really s****y way to behave. At least have the decency to cancel or, you know, don't agree to meet if you can't be arsed to show up.

Did he die?

Not now, but in college and in my early 30s, I was a terrible bully. I really don't know why I did this. I was never trying to hurt anyone, but I can see from their point of view, it was probably hurtful.

Selfish and cruel.

I'm a Christian myself and sh*t like this is why I want to greet each and everyone of these zealots with a mf-ing right hook!!! Smh!!!

I lived with my best friend for three years and we are still best friends. If the friendship is true and the person is decent, living together is no problem. But if you're making lots of excuses for their behaviour before you're even live together, living together will make this impossible. That's why you shouldn't marry anyone you've not lived with for a while. It's impossible to hide their nasty side if you see them everyday but it's easy to hide if you just see them now and then. That goes for friends and partners alike

My bestie called me a lush AFTER I confided in her that I had quit drinking, then said if I wanted sympathy I should ask someone else because she wasn't "that type" of person. I didn't get it then and I don't get it, now. But I never spoke to her, again.

That's not minor. He organised a meeting with the whole friend group and excluded OP in favour of a stranger who had nothing to do with those people, isolating OP and excluding them from the whole group. There's nothing minor about this, this is a very loud message that says: you are not a friend to me! You are just a gap filler until I find something better. And there's no coming back from something like this. On top of that they also lied to OP. That makes it very likely they're lying to the whole friends group too, estranging OP even further. It was something similar that made me realise that a person in my friend group wasn't a friend at all. My bestie and I had cards for a Pokémon event. But I got sick and couldn't go, so she took another friend with her who wasn't that much into Pokémon but was bored and wanted to accompany her. I gave them my games to get me the special edition Pokémon. When they got there, they gave out free figurines, one per person, but that 'friend'refused to get one. They weren't interested. They refused taking the collectible and my friend wasn't allowed to. Their argument was they didn't want it and didn't want to get in line to get it. There were no chairs so the stood at the side of the line, right next to it, waiting for my bestie to come back. My bestie and I both cut him out after this. My bestie tried to gift me hers but I refused. It wasn't her fault. He later told another friend he only went with her to hit on her and was very surprised that his little show of blatant egoism was a turn off and she cut him off completely.

Have a friend similar to this. They lie a lot to everyone and insists on having different personas to feel 'normal'. Always bold with other people but would trauma dump on me. Asked me to be truthful if they did anything I didn't like and when I did, they blamed me for being a terrible friend. Started to ignore me and even pushed their fist so close my face as if to 'intimidate' me. I didn't say anything at the time. Our friendship ended being so toxic since we were both suffering with our mental health. We didn't talk in a while and when we did recently, they casually told me about having an overdose last year because they wanted to make their parents care for them. They laughed about their parents crying for them saying they(their parents) deserved it. Bragged about liking being groomed by their chauffeur, told them to report it to their parents, or any adults they trust but ignored me because the chauffeur was the only person they can get cigarettes from(my friend was underage). Just a lot of things tbh.. Still friends with them but I don't want to be close with them.

This was me. I grew up next door to my "BFF". She moved in with her boyfriend & didn't tell me. Was pregnant & didn't tell me. Final straw was - they got married & didn't tell me. It was a courthouse thing, so I wasn't mad about not being invited. But if she'd told me I would have bought them a gift. And that's when I realized she only contacted me if she needed something - gas money, a ride to the store, pick up lunch, babysit her kid(s). All other contact was initiated by me. So I walked away.

Should have led with meth. All the rest comes with it.

You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Bobby hasn't got rock bottom yet. Probably best not to throw them a shovel