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Someone Asked “What Ended Your Friendship With Your Best Friend?” And 30 People Got Honest
Contrary to what we would like to believe, friendships don't last forever. Even the best ones.
So when Reddit user gli-tc-h made a post on the platform, asking everyone to share what caused their BFF breakups, they got a collection of honest, heartfelt replies — I guess it's something we all just need to get off our chests.
From secret affairs with their partner to evil schemes that were supposed to get them fired, continue scrolling to learn what these folks have experienced. Who knows, maybe their stories will help you navigate your own personal dramas.
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#1
When my father was dying of cancer, my “best friend” called me to catch up and I told him about it and he nonchalantly said “your dad's dying because he isn’t praying enough and that he would be healed if someone spoke in tongues over him” I was in disbelief that he got roped into the insane religious cult like his parents.
I told him that was the grossest thing I could ever hear from him and hung up. My father died 2 weeks later. It’s been two years and he hasn’t called or texted once. Good f*****g riddance. F**k you tim.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
I'd be just as angry if someone called me to tell me something like that in this situation...worse yet my best friend.
We managed to get in touch with gli-tc-h and the Redditor agreed to have a little chat with us.
"[At the time of making this post], I had just ended one of the longest friendships I've ever had," they told Bored Panda. "I wouldn't call him a best friend but whatever."
"I didn't really expect for [the post] to gain so much traction but soon after, I realized that it is quite a popular topic, there were recurring themes such as just drifting apart due to moving, family matters, and some to do with taking spouses. There were a few stating that the friendship ended when it became more intimate."
#2
My husband at the time had to step away from his job because he was dealing with pretty severe mental health issues. We had a young child and I was a stay-at-home mom and it was really devastating not only financially, but socially as a lot of our social life revolved around his job and work friends.
I was really good friends with a coworker’s wife. The coworker moved into my husband’s (higher up) position when my husband had to resign. We had to sell our home since we couldn’t make the mortgage payment anymore. The friend came to help me pack, and while doing so told me that they always knew this would happen because the Lord had revealed it to the husband in a dream several years earlier. They had basically been waiting around for my husband to “fail” so that coworker could “succeed” and fulfill the Lord’s prophesy.
Yeah no. Said goodbye to her, moved out of state, and never looked back. I won’t tolerate people using religion to be d***s.
According to a study by scientists from Aalto University in Finland and the University of Oxford in England, our social circle shrinks soon after our mid-20s.
The teams analyzed data from 3 million mobile phone users to identify the frequency and patterns of whom they contacted and when, as well as overall activity within their networks.
Men and women were socially promiscuous – making more and more friends and social contacts – until the age of 25, after which point they started losing them rapidly, with women losing them at an initially faster rate than men.
#3
Bacterial meningitis ….after a few days of unanswered calls ( thought maybe I had pissed her off) I drove over to her house. Found my BFF deceased on the couch. Her 5 year old had luckily survived several days on her own.
The average 25-year-old woman contacts about 17.5 people per month, while a man contacts 19.
(This decline continues for the rest of our life, or at least until retirement, where it plateaus, probably due to reduced data among this age group.)
Scientists theorize that around this age, people begin to decide who is most important – and valuable – in their life and make a greater effort to hold on to those friends. This, as a result, hurts other relationships.
#4
In 2020, my mom was diagnosed with cancer. At this time by grandfather was also fighting colon cancer; both of whom were in the “high risk” category for covid-19.
During the first summer of the pandemic, I would occasionally share things on social media about why it’s important to make up and social distance, then later on why people should get vaccinated.
Well, my ex best friend married a complete right-wing trumper POS that thought covid was a sham. He commented on one of my posts and we got in a mildly heated debate. Eventually, he said that he didn’t care that people would die, and that it’s a sacrifice to make for everyone’s freedoms.
When I expected my ex best friend to come to my aid, she backed him up. I was sickened. Have not ever spoken a word to either of them since.
I say good riddance.
deanna woods 2 years ago
Trump's bs has ruined so many friendships and family relationships. Covid is real and I will never understand why people still refuse to take it seriously.
“Once you’ve made decisions and found the appropriate people, you can be much less socially promiscuous and invest your time in these people,” said Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary psychology at the University of Oxford who co-authored the paper.
“But they can’t be just anybody,” he added.
Narrowing down the people you're close to includes friendships as well as life partners, particularly for women, due to the support and help they can provide in times of need.
#5
my own transphobia
i've told this story countless amount of times now, but i'll say it again.
i had a crush on this person, ever since i was in 4th grade. always tried to be close to them, and half the time, i was. best friends, we trusted each other with every secret, told each other things we wouldn't tell anyone else. one day, they finally came out and told me they were trans and identified as a male.
i was devastated. my crush suddenly comes out as trans? this has to be a stupid trend, right? i acted cool at first, heavy emphasis on ACTED. i tried to remain friends but they definitely noticed me drifting away. one day, out of my dumb horny state, angry that my crush was a male, i came to them saying i was having a crisis and ghosted them for f*****g months.
didn't talk to them in the halls, didn't contact them afterwards, they were probably worried sick about. they eventually noticed this behavior and at somepoint, blocked me on all platforms. me, unable to speak with them, saw them in the halls of school one day and thought "huh, they look kinda cute" and realized i was still attracted to them.
i left them in a vulnerable state, in a confusing time, for f*****g nothing besides transphobia. since then, i've tried to find anyway to make contact with them. not to reconsile our friendship or give a shot at dating, but so i can say i'm sorry. i just hope they're successful in life, that's it. i just hope they didn't let a dumba** like me dictate their emotions and feelings. i was a huge jerk who didn't deserve them at all.
ever since, i've been making attempts to be less bigoted. more open, less misogynistic. i just don't want a repeat of last time, and don't want anyone to go through what they did.
my only real friend, the only one who actually cared about me, who would go through hell and back for me, pick me up when i'm broken and down, pushed away by my own f*****g transphobia.
sorry for the long read, i just don't like settling for small paragraphs. even then, i don't think this did it justice.
Personally, gli-tc-h thinks that it's "possible to keep a friend for most if not your entire life without falling out, but it all depends on if you have the same interests and ... [whether or not] your personalities clash. There are a whole bunch of cases where friendships last a lifetime."
And the secret is, you guessed it, talking. "A million factors go into a lifelong friendship and no two friendships are alike, but there is one key thing that all ride-or-die friendships have in common – crystal clear communication," Lori Harder, author of A Tribe Called Bliss: Break Through Superficial Friendships, Create Real Connections, Reach Your Highest Potential and host of the Earn Your Happy podcast said.
You and your BFF won't be the same people as years go by. So you won't have a successful relationship without speaking up about your ever-changing needs, desires, and expectations.
#6
I was diagnosed with bipolar after a very traumatic and public event when I was manic for the first time. Lost all my friends including my best friend. Mental illness sucks.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
It's not your fault. I hope you make a new best friend and they'll be an even bester best friend!
#7
I had a good friend in 8th grade who was a very kind and affectionate person.
Never had a crush on her at all.
We were physically affectionate people, never sexual. She would mess with my hair, and sometimes put her hand on my leg, so I did the same.
At the time, her boyfriend was aware of our relationship, and was cool with it, I even was good friends with him.
One day, I got called to the principals office and I walked into my mother, father, principal, and a police officer asking me to sit down. I felt like someone I knew died, but no, they said that she had accused me of sexually assaulting her.
I spent 2 hours crying, giving them my phone, watching them comb through my texts, reviewing, video footage, and interviewing the boyfriend and the girl.
In the end, she lied to her parents because she got caught that she was dating her boyfriend, and used me as a scapegoat, and saying her boyfriend hit her.
The police called my household and said that I was free, and that if we wanted to sue, we would win.
The rest of the year, anytime I saw her, I walked away and threw up because I felt like I was a monster.
After severe depression, I sat in my room and got over it.
The following years, the boyfriend and I would joke about it all the time.
Good man, terrible friend girl.
#8
She was very pro-life, and shamed me for being pro choice and pro women, even though she had an abortion at 15 and it literally saved her life. I instantly cut ties with her. Dropped 10 years of friendship with one sentence. Never looked back.
Kate Jones 2 years ago
My mother is this way. My parents are both staunchly pro-life but my mom paid for my brother's old girlfriend to get 2 abortions. They were both drug addicted at the time and it was absolutely the right decision but I knew about it and she made me promise to never tell my dad because he would never forgive her. And it would be one thing if she just kept her mouth shut but she's a big Trumper, conservative sign waiver and it's totally hypocritical. So one time we were arguing about abortion rights and she's arguing with me like I don't know she literally drove the girl to the clinic. Like, do you have amnesia or something? So I scared her once and made it seem like I was about to talk about it in front of my dad and her eyes bugged out like 'no please don't'. I didn't, because I'm not going to cause problems in my family but so many people feel like their problems are different or they are different somehow and don't have to live by their own beliefs but expect others to.
#9
She didn't invite me to her birthday party. It was my first time back from college and I would have been able to go. She made a whole Facebook event page and invited everybody but me. I found out through mutual friends, the kicker was no one showed up and she called me crying that this other girl didn't show up.
#10
He cheated on his wife with my girlfriend. Killed what I thought was two great relationships with one f**k.
Actually it was a lot more than that, but I liked the way it sounded.
Edit: Thanks all, it was a long time ago (30+ years), so plenty of time to get over it. For a very long time I held onto a lot of hatred towards the guy, but for some reason not my ex. I realized at some point that the hate was only harming me and not affecting him in any way so that helped me let it go.
Felice Coles 2 years ago
He and your ex will deal with the consequences forever. You: live well.
#11
I got cancer twice. He didn't bother to call, text or visit. Oh, this was pre pandemic so the hospitals were allowing visitors.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago (edited)
Sure we fall apart as we get older but when you friend has cancer and is in hospital you bloody make time to go see them. Not even a text or call? That's not a friend.
#12
Mental health, fell into depression which isolated me, and eventually made me forgotten by the world
#13
He tried to get me fired from a job I hired him at as his boss
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Well that's just very backstabbing...quite a Brutus move there. Even after you got him a job.
#14
Every single time that I would tell her I was interested in/talking to a guy, she would try to get with him. She was never successful but it hurt that she kept trying. I confronted her about this in a very nice and civil way and explained to her how I felt about this. She apologized profusely and promised it would never happened again. And then it happened again. I just immediately cut her off after that, no explanation or words needed. She knows what she did. Haven't spoken a word to her since
#15
she was my best friend for two years.
we were in similar traumatic experiences and we helped each other throughout the 22 months we were best friends and we had a great friendship. we protected each other.
one day she told me her father was back from jail and she was scared. i don't remember exactly what he went to jail for, but he was gone for about 6 years. she told me, on may eighteenth 2020, that she could not handle it anymore, that she was exhausted.
two hours later, her older sister finds her and tells their grand parents and then me that she had hung herself. her exact words were: "im so sorry Grace, she's gone. my little sister is gone."
Weirdest Bi You’ll Ever Meet 2 years ago
I’m so sorry. I must have been hard. I was down there with your bestfriend. Know even though I don’t know you I support you! <3 🥺😅🙂
#16
Over the years be became increasingly more abusive to his wife. She is a stay at home mom and he is out of town 9 months out of the year for work. He moved her from CA to TX after driving a wedge in every relationship she’d built there. She got a job in TX to get out of the house while the kids were in school. He didn’t like her having friends. He came home for the summer and discovered the owners of the kids’ daycare were lesbians, so he pulled them out because he “doesn’t want them thinking that is okay.” He took them home and told his wife she needs to quit her job because they kids don’t have daycare anymore.
He will come home for the summer and smoke weed and do shrooms since he doesn’t get drug tested during that time. It was only okay for him. If she smokes, she is a “bad mom” because she cares more about drugs than she does the kids. He refuses to contribute to anything around the house - dishes, basic cleaning, garage, yard, feeding the kids - because he brings in 100% of the money. “Chores are the 100% her job”.
He had an affair last summer for 2-3 weeks. He’d just disappear for a week at a time. When he’d come home and the kids asked where he was, he’d tell them “I needed a break from mommy.” He almost got caught so he broke off the affair.
Trying to keep this short to maintain people’s interest, but the last straw was when he started locking his wife outside because she wouldn’t obey him. He hides the car keys so she can’t go anywhere and does not give her access to money. Essentially, he just makes her homeless at will whenever she doesn’t anticipate and tend to his every need.
F**k that guy. I put up with it for so long because we’d been friends since high school and our kids are good friends. After he started locking his wife outside, I decided that I can’t be civil anymore. He is not welcome at my house. He is not welcome around my kids. He is not welcome to LOOK at my wife, because I know how he views women and the superiority he feels over them. Knowing he looks at her as sub-human really gets my blood boiling.
I am ashamed that I ever called this poor excuse of a man my friend.
Aubrey Theo 2 years ago
I hope the wife got out safely with the kids, who knows what the sad excuse of a husband was doing behind closed doors
#17
He passed away at his job after we graduated high school. He worked at a asphalt creation center and fell 30ish feet into a boiling asphalt silo and boiled to death. He had just turned 18, and it was a few days before my 19th birthday.
Raven Null 2 years ago (edited)
sounds fast though. he fell from 30 feet, probably knocked him out. and if he didn't, his nerves probably went into overload
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Elaine Roberts 2 years ago
This is just horrible. A young life wasted and ended in such a terrible way.
#18
Time. We grew up, had kids, and moved apart.
Edit: I've know this guy since I was 6 or 7, which has now been 40+ years (ugh). He was my best friend, and I'd still consider him as such. We were both best men at each others' weddings, and I was the first non-family member invited to the hospital to hold his children after they were born.
Time just sneaks up on you - it's the small things to start with, and eventually, the relationship is still there but there's no significant time or contact spent on either side. We still text/call each other about 1-2 times a year about serious matters (family/jobs) but the regular "screwing around" time we used to have is done and gone. I know if either of us called the other and said "Hey, I need help ASAP" we'd both still drop whatever we were doing to help the other, but what I really miss is the small goofy interactions we used to have.
Felice Coles 2 years ago
Sometimes that level of goofy is just unsustainable. Nothing bad, just poignant.
#19
My best friend was my cousin. Born the same year and raised together in nearby towns. We are from a purple state which bleeds more red every year. He turned Trump, very hard.
This was a cult conversion. He didn't watch Fox, because theybwere part of the MSM (in fact they are!). He went to conspiracy reddits, 8chan and discord and decided "for himself" that only an outsider like Trump could "break the wheel" and bring a new voice into US politics.
After that, nothing could turn him away. No moral failure, no policy failure, no amount of corruption.
We finally cut everything off when I said his illegal immigrant wife ought to suffer the same consequences others do under Trump. He said THIS DOESNT APPLY TO HER.
that was the end. It was a good friendship for 30 years.
Luke Branwen 2 years ago
Yeah, reminds me of my former best friend. That was before Trump - she started following Jordan Peterson and fell into some weird alt-right rabbit hole. The last straw for me was when she just casually mentioned she supports conversion therapy.
#20
I got tired of always being the one to put forth any effort. Fly across the world to meet up, attend family gatherings, reach out, be patient, make sacrifice. It was good times when we were together. So it was worth it for a while but when she moved close and still never bothered to make an effort, I was over it. Wish her nothing but the best.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
That sucks. Sometimes you try your best to make the effort and they just don't care. One day you'll find a friend who will reciprocate the effort just as you do.
#21
She cheated on this guy she was with almost constantly.
She cheated on him while miscarrying his child.
She cheated on him after she got a disease and he helped her learn to walk again.
She cheated on him after he raised her son and took care of him like his own.
She cheated on him after he dropped charges of assault against her and property damage.
She cheated on him after she ruined his reputation in the town (he comes from a big family business)
She cheated on him with the guy she left for him
She cheated on him and then posted screenshots of him having a breakdown (of course only his messages) calling him abusive - and everyone on FB ate it up, ‘cause “single mom with a kid is being mistreated!” 🙃
After I confronted her about how awful she was being, she said, “If you’re not on my side, you’re not my friend.”
12 years of best friendship down the drain. Just like that.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
Apart from your relationship, I feel really bad for the guy, like damn. Did someone check on him?
#22
He died. Miss him. We met at 4 yrs old. Friends for about 30 years. He’s been gone 8 years now.
#23
She was dating a really toxic guy and wouldn't listen to anyone who said to break it off, including me. We got in multiple fights about it until the guy said she wasn't allowed to talk to me anymore, that last fight was pretty ugly. So she called it quits with me. She's long since moved on to a better guy but I still miss her she was special to me.
DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago
I think a big red flag for her there was him "allowing" her to talk to people.
#24
After 14 years of friendship we get an apartment and suddenly he loses his job as a personal trainer because of a dress code violation (he wore a hoodie to work, allegedly) and then 2-3 months of him not working. Then after he agreed to pay me back eventually, all he ever gave me was $400 from his mom (I paid over 14,000 for the year). So I paid the full year lease and he stayed 8 months total. I never talked to him again also because I found a receipt where he was trying to make a copy of my car keys make and model. F**K THAT GUY
ERIKA H. 2 years ago
A hoodie being a dress code violation for a personal trainer makes as much sense as a duck being afraid of water. That is like the uniform for anyone who works out! Sorry that happened. I had to cover rent for my friend/roommate of many years ago, but i made clear i had to be paid back within the month or they were getting kicked out
#25
I came out to him
Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago
He was never a friend in the first place. Good on you for living as yourself.
#26
My family was going through a hard time and had to move to an apartment suddenly. We had eight cats and they would only let us bring two. So my friend said she had really bonded with one of my cats and asked if she could take her. I really didn’t have many options for people who would take my cats on such short notice and was so heartbroken over this situation so I was absolutely delighted that she wanted to take the cat. Well a couple months into her having the cat I asked her how it was going and she told me the that the cat had started peeing on the furniture so they let her go outside. They hadn’t seen her since. I went and searched for the cat and couldn’t find her. After not speaking to her for weeks I decided to try to have a friendship with her again but it literally won’t work- I simply don’t like her anymore after that. Every time she would text me I would just roll my eyes and barely had the energy to respond. Then I finally just let it all out and blocked her on everything.
Felice Coles 2 years ago
Hope that "friend" never has kids either. What happens when they make messes? Do they get dumped outside too? You can always tell the type of person by how they treat animals.
#27
I heard him making fun of me to other kids in school. That one really cut deep.
#28
We idolized each other, but then she started to adopt aspects of my personality, how I dressed, what music I listened to, etc. Then she started throwing herself at anyone she knew that I found attractive so she could “get” them first. Then she tried to screw my brother. In my bed.
#30
He had a horrible birth defect where his brain formed in his d**k and he f****d my, at the time, girlfriend.
What do you think ?
idrow1 2 years ago
My best friend turned into a momby and I tried to be understanding. We had mass layoffs at work and people all around me were packing up their cubes. A guy who was on my team and was the sole provider for a family of 5 who was next to my cube was packing his stuff and you could tell he was holding back tears. Friend calls me, I tell her it's like a death march here and it's surreal and we're all stunned and devastated. She says, "Yeah, I'm having a hard day, too. [kid] dropped her light brites on the floor." That she even compared the two told me she was no longer the same person I once knew. I was disgusted and done.
Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago
My best friend passed away when he swallowed an unknown object that blocked his intestines. We took him to the vet, but they said as long as he was walking, and drinking water, he'd make it. However, when my aunt, brother, and uncle were at a baseball game (my little brother plays baseball), and I was keeping charlie company, he stopped drinking, and ended up laying down in my room for almost an hour before my aunt came home and rushed him to the vet. He died on the way there.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Diagnosis with epilepsy showed me who was a friend and who wasn't. Turns out, there are good friends in my life. And some I don't miss a da*n bit. (One called my epilepsy "baggage she didn't want to carry". Oy.)
LittlePiggie 2 years ago
She called and yelled at me angrily for not inviting her to the surprise engagement dinner my now husband and my two brothers set up, that I knew NOTHING about. She'd done some horribly selfish things (like in college calling me a self a-hole for not asking her how she was when MY mom died), and I don't know why I didn't end the friendship earlier. Was like a breath of fresh air letting her go.
An Unpopular Opinion. 2 years ago
I had the best best friend!! She was the nicest, and while we shared different world views/ religions, we never talked about it in a bad way. She was depressed, and I would listen to her vent and offer advice and my love, and I struggle with anxiety and she's so the same for me. And we had plenty of fun conversations too. Anyway a little more than a year ago her parents found out she was talking to strangers online (we'd been friends for over a year. We knew what each other looked like. We weren't strangers anymore lol)and they made her stop. I still think about her a lot and pray she's still alive. She lives alllll the way across the world...
Jack Holt 2 years ago
Had a bf who had pretty unfortunate circumstances. Advocated for her for years, supplied her with cash, food and holidays. She met this bloke who was abusive then she turned on me for telling it like it is, even though the guy way breaking her door down of a night and the police were involved. Cared for her despite my own relationship and study commitments, but once I needed a listening ear it was all turned back onto to and I was spurned as being needy. After years of being there for her. Friendship clearly only went one way, as painful as it was I could not continue it.
Aunt Riarch 2 years ago
You are a thoroughly decent person, I hope you find the friends you deserve
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Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
One friend in college (he wasn't much of a good person and neither was I when we were together, so I can't say "best" friend) actually broke our relationship off due to my relationship with my current husband/then boyfriend. My husband is older, had come out of a bad marriage, and this friend of mine flat out says "I don't want to hear you talk about him. I have no respect for someone who would date a married man like my dad did when he cheated on my mom." 1.) He wasn't married when we began dating. (2.) I found the comparison a bit stretched since this guy's dad was an alcoholic who beat his mother as well as cheated on her multiple times. (3.) It was a bit of a shock at how much he couldn't stand us after I stood up for him more than once (he's gay and we live in a very conservative state). Now, eight years married with two amazing stepsons and hoping for another, my life is just fine without him.
FABULOUS1 2 years ago
One of my best friends passed away in her sleep 15 years ago, the best person ever and her death has been a great loss. My ex sister in law was also my best friend but we were more like sisters. We had always remained very close even after her and my brother broke it off. We have known each other for about 25 years and she suddenly started making comments often about me being gay. Then she started with covid is a hoax stuff, and extreme religious beliefs. There was other things that happened but not enough room to explain. We did make up for a brief moment but I realized it will never be the same. Which still makes me very sad, I honestly didnt think something could break our bond especially religion, politics and a damn pandemic.
Ellie 2 years ago
During high school I was in a really dark spot and suffering in school due to my OCD being really bad at the time. She told me that it was because I wasn't praying and reading my Bible enough. And that my OCD and anxiety was no worse than other teens and I was being dramatic and stereotypical. I shouldn't make such a big deal out of it because others had it worse than I did. I'm so glad I cut her off because she was so negative. F_ck you Samantha
Ciara Ann Stone 2 years ago
Was best friends 18 years (we met at 4 y/o) and did absolutely everything we could together. At the end of summer before my soph. college year began, she tells me she's pregnant. I was supportive, did whatever would help her due to the pregnancy. Around her being 3 months pregnant, she stopped speaking to, texting, calling, writing on FB, etc even though she talked to all our other friends like normal...I asked her when I finally saw her a couple months later that she couldn't be around me due to me being a "bad influence." If it were true, I'd understand that, but this came out of nowhere -i rarely drank and quit smoking years before, meanwhile she used IV use of illegal Dilaudid. I couldn't believe what I was hearing.There was no toxicity, no backstabbing, then WHAM! outta nowhere, she says these things and followed through. 18 years disappeared like smoke. It w@s so much crueller than what I wrote on here.
Rose Dawson 2 years ago
She let her husband read all my texts and respond as if he were her. Not just quick answers to things, but really personal stuff about my mental health. I started to notice that her texts sounded nothing like her and some were rants about mental illness not being real. I finally confronted her and she admitted that I was often texting with him rather than her. I cut the friendship off right then and there.
Marian Moore 2 years ago
I had a friend once and it lasted 35 yrs. One day she just ended it because we had nothing left to talk about so don't contact her again. Needless to say, I was shocked. I tried reaching out to her a couple months later to wish her a happy birthday and not a word from her. So, I said fine have a good life. That was 4 yrs. ago. I am 74 now and it is seldom that I think of her. Sad but true.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago (edited)
my ex best friend we were friends for over 20 years there were a few things but it took me being friends with someone else to realise that they weren't really a friend but the straw that broke the camel's back for me the point where i started drifting away from them was when i was going through a tough time depression anxiety and got told by them that unless i cheer up then they and my other friends in the group won't want to hang out with me anymore the one person who i thought i could count on i couldn't its been years since i spoke to them i dont harbour any ill will towards them i have grown as a person since then i hope they are doing well but i have no place in my life for them anymore
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BBsparkster614 2 years ago (edited)
Most of these people are victims or not friends. If we can cut down abuse, then everyone can walk away, leaving them in the dust. For those who need help, help them. For those who are jerks, correct them. If they can’t be corrected, leave them. For all of the above, let them know they @ Ent alone, even if nothings going on in their life right now.
James Tanguay 2 years ago
I met my best friend in college. We lived together, studied together, really did just about everything together. Junior year he moved because he said he could no longer afford our school (idek anymore if this is even true). With the distance we began to grow apart. I was good friends with his fiancée as well and every time she was upset he did something rude or acted weird I’d talk her down - he was my best friend after all and I truly believed the best in him. Well when it came to light he’d been cheating on her for years and using my naivety as a shield for his actions, I fell apart. I went to bat for him hundreds of times and all because he’d been manipulating me for years. Haven’t talked to him since. Haven’t made a friend since.
wifeofweasley 2 years ago (edited)
She was my online friend for seven years. We talked almost daily for years andthis year I could finally visit her (another country, 5 hour drive) so I did. I picked her up and we drove to the capital to have some fun time out. I'm a very active, extrovert person thats always on her feet while she has basically no drive to do anything. We wanted to go shopping but she needed a 15 minute break after every store. I wanted to get up early, she wanted to stay in the hotel. She wanted to get a tattoo, I looked up a studio, called if they have any free time to tattoo us and made an appointment - it was to far to walk for her but she refused to use public transport. I wanted to go to a bar, she was to tired. I talked about my two jobs, she couldn't relate because she doesn't work and never had a job before. This trip was supposed a vacation but I was so mentally exhausted when I dropped her of at her house. I realized we were good as online friends but not as hanging out together friends.
wifeofweasley 2 years ago
We haven't talked for month which is sad but this friendship started to feel like a burden to me.
Load More Replies... Felix Grace 2 years ago
Forced herself onto my bf (in public), then accused him of sexual assault
LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago
We met when she was hired at the store I worked at. She was a shy, quiet little mouse who told me later she was in awe of my power (read: confidence), and wanted to be like me. I really liked her, she was funny and it was clear she needed someone in her life who didn't speak bullsh!t. I spent years trying to help her, so did other friends and family. She had zero confidence, bad anxiety, and an emotionally abusive relationship. It took so long to convince her to leave her girlfriend. I helped her through every problem she had. And when I needed her the most, she vanished. I needed a place to stay with my dog for a few days in between moving out of my apartment and moving to another town. I never got a reply, not even to be told no. I would have accepted a no, I just wanted a reply. Two years later she finally contacted me, but admitted she had been drinking.
LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago
It wasn't even about how she didn't help me when I needed it, but more how she seemed to constantly need the attention to be on her, how she was always playing the victim yet never sought the professional help we all tried to steer her towards. She just wanted attention. I don't want that kind of drama in my life. You can only help someone so many times before you realize it isn't help they want. If she reaches out again, but sober, I'll listen.
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Mary Kay Mann 2 years ago
She slept with my husband while she and her husband and young son were living with us after they were evicted. Her betrayal hurt worse than his. I dropped them both. I still wonder how she's doing sometimes. I sincerely hope she's happy.
ItsJess 2 years ago
I was bff's with someone for years- we saw each other through all kinds of ups and downs, some of the best and craziest times of my life, I was in her wedding and she was there when I graduated from college. Then she started expressing unhappiness in her marriage. I found out that she had a whole new friend group that she was excluding me from and apparently didn't consider me as close a friend that I considered her to be. She was lying to her husband and telling him she was sleeping at my house while she was cheating and spending the night with different people (because he knew and was friendly with me and didn't know any of those new people). I found out that she didn't really consider me a friend at all and was only using me to cheat. I realized that she wasn't the person I thought.
T 2 years ago
I had feelings for her, so I got a boyfriend. She started getting really clingy and jealous, and it irritated me, since she clearly wouldn't want anything "more" between us (staunchly conservative). She'd get mad when I hung out with my bf, but made no effort to hang out with me otherwise. I was annoyed by the whole thing, but loved her to death. Then she started spreading rumors about me at her highschool (that I didn't go to, but my bf did) and giving people my number so they'd call me about them. When I asked her wtf was going on, she tried to convince me it was my bf or his friends. I would have believed her too, if one of her long-time friends hadn't started calling me to ask me about "rumors" that no one else knew about. It was all really bizarre and strange. The last straw was when she started hanging out with my ex-bf after we broke up - even though she had complained incessantly about him while we were dating. Still one of the strangest relationship endings I've ever had.
Lilla Ontherun 2 years ago (edited)
I had a depressed friend, I always had his side, I was always available, when he needed me. Then they broke up with his girlfriend, and he was really AH with her. I still tried to help him. Then he asked me to f.ck off, I was shocked, then blocked him every platform. Still don't have any idea what did I wrong or is he still alive...
idrow1 2 years ago
My best friend turned into a momby and I tried to be understanding. We had mass layoffs at work and people all around me were packing up their cubes. A guy who was on my team and was the sole provider for a family of 5 who was next to my cube was packing his stuff and you could tell he was holding back tears. Friend calls me, I tell her it's like a death march here and it's surreal and we're all stunned and devastated. She says, "Yeah, I'm having a hard day, too. [kid] dropped her light brites on the floor." That she even compared the two told me she was no longer the same person I once knew. I was disgusted and done.
Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago
My best friend passed away when he swallowed an unknown object that blocked his intestines. We took him to the vet, but they said as long as he was walking, and drinking water, he'd make it. However, when my aunt, brother, and uncle were at a baseball game (my little brother plays baseball), and I was keeping charlie company, he stopped drinking, and ended up laying down in my room for almost an hour before my aunt came home and rushed him to the vet. He died on the way there.
Leo Domitrix 2 years ago
Diagnosis with epilepsy showed me who was a friend and who wasn't. Turns out, there are good friends in my life. And some I don't miss a da*n bit. (One called my epilepsy "baggage she didn't want to carry". Oy.)
LittlePiggie 2 years ago
She called and yelled at me angrily for not inviting her to the surprise engagement dinner my now husband and my two brothers set up, that I knew NOTHING about. She'd done some horribly selfish things (like in college calling me a self a-hole for not asking her how she was when MY mom died), and I don't know why I didn't end the friendship earlier. Was like a breath of fresh air letting her go.
An Unpopular Opinion. 2 years ago
I had the best best friend!! She was the nicest, and while we shared different world views/ religions, we never talked about it in a bad way. She was depressed, and I would listen to her vent and offer advice and my love, and I struggle with anxiety and she's so the same for me. And we had plenty of fun conversations too. Anyway a little more than a year ago her parents found out she was talking to strangers online (we'd been friends for over a year. We knew what each other looked like. We weren't strangers anymore lol)and they made her stop. I still think about her a lot and pray she's still alive. She lives alllll the way across the world...
Jack Holt 2 years ago
Had a bf who had pretty unfortunate circumstances. Advocated for her for years, supplied her with cash, food and holidays. She met this bloke who was abusive then she turned on me for telling it like it is, even though the guy way breaking her door down of a night and the police were involved. Cared for her despite my own relationship and study commitments, but once I needed a listening ear it was all turned back onto to and I was spurned as being needy. After years of being there for her. Friendship clearly only went one way, as painful as it was I could not continue it.
Aunt Riarch 2 years ago
You are a thoroughly decent person, I hope you find the friends you deserve
Load More Replies... Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
One friend in college (he wasn't much of a good person and neither was I when we were together, so I can't say "best" friend) actually broke our relationship off due to my relationship with my current husband/then boyfriend. My husband is older, had come out of a bad marriage, and this friend of mine flat out says "I don't want to hear you talk about him. I have no respect for someone who would date a married man like my dad did when he cheated on my mom." 1.) He wasn't married when we began dating. (2.) I found the comparison a bit stretched since this guy's dad was an alcoholic who beat his mother as well as cheated on her multiple times. (3.) It was a bit of a shock at how much he couldn't stand us after I stood up for him more than once (he's gay and we live in a very conservative state). Now, eight years married with two amazing stepsons and hoping for another, my life is just fine without him.
FABULOUS1 2 years ago
One of my best friends passed away in her sleep 15 years ago, the best person ever and her death has been a great loss. My ex sister in law was also my best friend but we were more like sisters. We had always remained very close even after her and my brother broke it off. We have known each other for about 25 years and she suddenly started making comments often about me being gay. Then she started with covid is a hoax stuff, and extreme religious beliefs. There was other things that happened but not enough room to explain. We did make up for a brief moment but I realized it will never be the same. Which still makes me very sad, I honestly didnt think something could break our bond especially religion, politics and a damn pandemic.
Ellie 2 years ago
During high school I was in a really dark spot and suffering in school due to my OCD being really bad at the time. She told me that it was because I wasn't praying and reading my Bible enough. And that my OCD and anxiety was no worse than other teens and I was being dramatic and stereotypical. I shouldn't make such a big deal out of it because others had it worse than I did. I'm so glad I cut her off because she was so negative. F_ck you Samantha
Ciara Ann Stone 2 years ago
Was best friends 18 years (we met at 4 y/o) and did absolutely everything we could together. At the end of summer before my soph. college year began, she tells me she's pregnant. I was supportive, did whatever would help her due to the pregnancy. Around her being 3 months pregnant, she stopped speaking to, texting, calling, writing on FB, etc even though she talked to all our other friends like normal...I asked her when I finally saw her a couple months later that she couldn't be around me due to me being a "bad influence." If it were true, I'd understand that, but this came out of nowhere -i rarely drank and quit smoking years before, meanwhile she used IV use of illegal Dilaudid. I couldn't believe what I was hearing.There was no toxicity, no backstabbing, then WHAM! outta nowhere, she says these things and followed through. 18 years disappeared like smoke. It w@s so much crueller than what I wrote on here.
Rose Dawson 2 years ago
She let her husband read all my texts and respond as if he were her. Not just quick answers to things, but really personal stuff about my mental health. I started to notice that her texts sounded nothing like her and some were rants about mental illness not being real. I finally confronted her and she admitted that I was often texting with him rather than her. I cut the friendship off right then and there.
Marian Moore 2 years ago
I had a friend once and it lasted 35 yrs. One day she just ended it because we had nothing left to talk about so don't contact her again. Needless to say, I was shocked. I tried reaching out to her a couple months later to wish her a happy birthday and not a word from her. So, I said fine have a good life. That was 4 yrs. ago. I am 74 now and it is seldom that I think of her. Sad but true.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago (edited)
my ex best friend we were friends for over 20 years there were a few things but it took me being friends with someone else to realise that they weren't really a friend but the straw that broke the camel's back for me the point where i started drifting away from them was when i was going through a tough time depression anxiety and got told by them that unless i cheer up then they and my other friends in the group won't want to hang out with me anymore the one person who i thought i could count on i couldn't its been years since i spoke to them i dont harbour any ill will towards them i have grown as a person since then i hope they are doing well but i have no place in my life for them anymore
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BBsparkster614 2 years ago (edited)
Most of these people are victims or not friends. If we can cut down abuse, then everyone can walk away, leaving them in the dust. For those who need help, help them. For those who are jerks, correct them. If they can’t be corrected, leave them. For all of the above, let them know they @ Ent alone, even if nothings going on in their life right now.
James Tanguay 2 years ago
I met my best friend in college. We lived together, studied together, really did just about everything together. Junior year he moved because he said he could no longer afford our school (idek anymore if this is even true). With the distance we began to grow apart. I was good friends with his fiancée as well and every time she was upset he did something rude or acted weird I’d talk her down - he was my best friend after all and I truly believed the best in him. Well when it came to light he’d been cheating on her for years and using my naivety as a shield for his actions, I fell apart. I went to bat for him hundreds of times and all because he’d been manipulating me for years. Haven’t talked to him since. Haven’t made a friend since.
wifeofweasley 2 years ago (edited)
She was my online friend for seven years. We talked almost daily for years andthis year I could finally visit her (another country, 5 hour drive) so I did. I picked her up and we drove to the capital to have some fun time out. I'm a very active, extrovert person thats always on her feet while she has basically no drive to do anything. We wanted to go shopping but she needed a 15 minute break after every store. I wanted to get up early, she wanted to stay in the hotel. She wanted to get a tattoo, I looked up a studio, called if they have any free time to tattoo us and made an appointment - it was to far to walk for her but she refused to use public transport. I wanted to go to a bar, she was to tired. I talked about my two jobs, she couldn't relate because she doesn't work and never had a job before. This trip was supposed a vacation but I was so mentally exhausted when I dropped her of at her house. I realized we were good as online friends but not as hanging out together friends.
wifeofweasley 2 years ago
We haven't talked for month which is sad but this friendship started to feel like a burden to me.
Load More Replies... Felix Grace 2 years ago
Forced herself onto my bf (in public), then accused him of sexual assault
LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago
We met when she was hired at the store I worked at. She was a shy, quiet little mouse who told me later she was in awe of my power (read: confidence), and wanted to be like me. I really liked her, she was funny and it was clear she needed someone in her life who didn't speak bullsh!t. I spent years trying to help her, so did other friends and family. She had zero confidence, bad anxiety, and an emotionally abusive relationship. It took so long to convince her to leave her girlfriend. I helped her through every problem she had. And when I needed her the most, she vanished. I needed a place to stay with my dog for a few days in between moving out of my apartment and moving to another town. I never got a reply, not even to be told no. I would have accepted a no, I just wanted a reply. Two years later she finally contacted me, but admitted she had been drinking.
LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago
It wasn't even about how she didn't help me when I needed it, but more how she seemed to constantly need the attention to be on her, how she was always playing the victim yet never sought the professional help we all tried to steer her towards. She just wanted attention. I don't want that kind of drama in my life. You can only help someone so many times before you realize it isn't help they want. If she reaches out again, but sober, I'll listen.
Load More Replies... Mary Kay Mann 2 years ago
She slept with my husband while she and her husband and young son were living with us after they were evicted. Her betrayal hurt worse than his. I dropped them both. I still wonder how she's doing sometimes. I sincerely hope she's happy.
ItsJess 2 years ago
I was bff's with someone for years- we saw each other through all kinds of ups and downs, some of the best and craziest times of my life, I was in her wedding and she was there when I graduated from college. Then she started expressing unhappiness in her marriage. I found out that she had a whole new friend group that she was excluding me from and apparently didn't consider me as close a friend that I considered her to be. She was lying to her husband and telling him she was sleeping at my house while she was cheating and spending the night with different people (because he knew and was friendly with me and didn't know any of those new people). I found out that she didn't really consider me a friend at all and was only using me to cheat. I realized that she wasn't the person I thought.
T 2 years ago
I had feelings for her, so I got a boyfriend. She started getting really clingy and jealous, and it irritated me, since she clearly wouldn't want anything "more" between us (staunchly conservative). She'd get mad when I hung out with my bf, but made no effort to hang out with me otherwise. I was annoyed by the whole thing, but loved her to death. Then she started spreading rumors about me at her highschool (that I didn't go to, but my bf did) and giving people my number so they'd call me about them. When I asked her wtf was going on, she tried to convince me it was my bf or his friends. I would have believed her too, if one of her long-time friends hadn't started calling me to ask me about "rumors" that no one else knew about. It was all really bizarre and strange. The last straw was when she started hanging out with my ex-bf after we broke up - even though she had complained incessantly about him while we were dating. Still one of the strangest relationship endings I've ever had.
Lilla Ontherun 2 years ago (edited)
I had a depressed friend, I always had his side, I was always available, when he needed me. Then they broke up with his girlfriend, and he was really AH with her. I still tried to help him. Then he asked me to f.ck off, I was shocked, then blocked him every platform. Still don't have any idea what did I wrong or is he still alive...
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