“I Am Baffled To This Day”: 50 Weird Things Guests Thought Were Acceptable To Do
Interview With AuthorPeople say “My body is a temple,” but I have another kind of saying. My house is actually my temple and I rarely want anyone disturbing my peace. It's my place to rest and recharge. It's like Whoopi Goldberg said: "I don't want somebody in my house."
Granted, she meant that's why she doesn't want to get married, but doesn't that also work for having guests over? I guess that's why this post on Ask Reddit hit so close to home for me. The Redditor sodamnsleepy asked the Internet about the weirdest things their houseguests did, and the people did not disappoint. Check out the spiciest answers below.
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I had an extra tix for a chef hosted pop-up dinner. Prix fixe menu, cocktails and wine included. Called a buddy that’s a chef knowing he’d appreciate it. We started hitting the drinks hard, but he was lapping me and he got VERY drunk. We went to two bars after, neither would serve his drunk a*s so I said let’s walk to my house, sleep it off. Had a few at the house and I went to bed. Woke in the morning and he was gone but left a kind note on the counter. Found another note in the coffee maker, and another in the cups. We were finding notes of love and gratitude hidden all over the house for weeks after. Its was really sweet.
I thought this story was going to end badly. I'm glad I was wrong.
Cute story. But how does this fit with the title of “…Lost People’s Respect”?
I was expecting a story of bad behavior, and maybe a ruined friendship. Instead, the story had an unexpected happy ending. Cool.
My friend did that once when she was looking after my cats while I was away. I was finding fun little notes from her all over the house until I eventually moved. Not even sure if I found them all.
Bored Panda got in touch with the creator of the viral thread. The user sodamnsleepy was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. The Redditor says that personal experiences with guests inspired them to post the question.
"I guess I asked the question because some friends/guests I had did a few weird things but nothing close to the stuff people commented," they admitted.
The author of the post also says they luckily haven't experienced anything similar to the things people describe in the thread. They call their experiences with rude guests "kind of tame compared to those in the thread."
God this is probably going to get buried, but at some point before I was born my dad ran a recording studio type thing in our basement. Think an old sound board, mics, instruments, that sort of stuff all set up. My parents were away and his friend stayed at the house to look after things and feed our dog. She was a pretty crazy, then maybe 4 year old, German Shepard. When my parents got back, nothing was out of place or anything. But months later my dad was on the computer in the basement and found a fully composed song that his friend recorded in his absence. Full singing/instrumentals, about the dog. I was so young when I heard the song so I really don’t remember any more details than that, and the file itself has been lost to time, but it’s still a pretty iconic story.
That was Woody Harrelson I think? Can't remember the context.
Load More Replies...I've never considered this before. I used to sing to my previous cat, no idea why, probably because she was so damaged (we got her as a rescue at 7), seemed perfectly normal at the time. I don't sing to my current cats though, they're both odd (also rescues) but they crave love whereas the previous one didn't trust humans and lashed out constantly. Maybe I want to gain her trust, who knows?
Again, why is this "weird" or "can't believe they thought this was acceptable behavior"????
You ever wonder whether watch makers get home and they are all sore and beat up from a day on the job?... Where do they get off complaining I mean..it's not like being a big truck mechanic where you have to beat on frozen metal all day.. OH out of context?? you don't say.
Load More Replies...Love this story! Reminds me of when my brother had a pirate radio station in the bedroom closet. One day, our dad was on his way home from one of the nearby towns. He fiddled with the radio looking for something to listen to… and heard his daughters singing on the radio. That was fun while it lasted.
I sing to my cat all the time-its "You are my fat boy, my only fat boy" to the tune of "You are my sunshine" I think he likes it.
Come on then, let's have them...You ain't nothing but a Hound Dog...Who let the dogs out?...
invited work friend over after our shift on a friday. she asks if her new boyfriend can come too. sure, no problem. order sushi and crack some beers. He seems like a pretty normal guy, but keeps dripping all the soy sauce on the table. My gf offers him a napkin several times. doesnt want it. "hey man, you keep spilling, why don't you take the napkin." he takes the soy sauce container and pours it on the floor. "Wtf man you have to clean that up." Takes the chop sticks (A gift from my GF's mom... not the s****y wooden ones) and breaks them. GF starts crying. Guy laughs and says they were probably made in china. Obviously I kicked him out and found out a month later that he cheated on my friend and sent her a video of the event. Some people really do not deserve air
People casually throw around words like 'sociopath,' but this guy may genuinely be one; this sounds like a person who's unable to have normal social interactions or express remorse. Rude people spill something and don't clean it up. When an adult deliberately dumps food on the floor in response to being asked to clean up, there's something else going on.
The question is can he feel those emotions and ignores them, or is he simply unable to to feel them, which is the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath. I'm still not sure which is worse...
Load More Replies...You grab an earlobe very firmly, and lower him to the floor by the soy sauce he purposely poured there. Hand him cleaning supplies with your other hand, and keep hold of his ear until every single drop is cleaned up. If you can’t keep hold of an earlobe, grab a short collar, or if he has long hair grab a hunk of it. Do not tolerate people acting like disrespectful a******s in your house.
I am trying to wrap my head around the idea that chopsticks made in China would be considered a bad thing.
Should have asked to look at his phone, if it said "Made in China" on it snap it in half, then watch his reaction
A friend of mine broke my favorite chopsticks that I had for 20+ years. He put them in the dishwasher, where they fell through the basket and were broken by the spinning bar. I was really upset, but he was just trying to help. I finally told him not to touch anything in my house because he breaks everything he touches (especially b*ngs)
You're nicer than me. If a friend broke everything they touched in my house, even by accident, I wouldn't invite them over anymore. The whole "three strikes, you're out" rule can apply to a lot more than just baseball.
Load More Replies...Not that that's the most important part here, but for chopsticks, "made in china" should be a good thing, shouldn't it?
I'm assuming that the op is a woman, he wouldn't have done this to a guy as he'd had to have had the chopsticks surgically removed.
We asked the Redditor how they reacted to the strange behaviors of their houseguests. "Most times I just sat there, staring," the netizen admits. They describe themselves as a non-confrontational person, so the times some friends acted inappropriately, they just let it slide.
sodamnsleepy also didn't expect the post to get the kind of attention that it did. "Usually my posts get 50 upvotes and a few comments, then they die." The degree of chaos in some people's stories also surprised the author. "I didn't imagine such wild stories," the Redditor says, not hiding their bewilderment.
Guy was friends with my now ex husband, flew into town to interview for a job. I got stuck picking him up from the airport because ex husband was working nights. He insisted we had to stop at Sonic on the way home, because he would flunk the interview the next day without a drink from there. We get home and I show him to the guest room and guest bathroom, he tells me he needs to watch some TV to wind down before bed. I hand him the remote to the one in the living room and go to bed. I wake up several times throughout the night due to the surround sound, he was watching war movies with the volume all the way up. I get up in the morning and walk into my living room…that has been completely rearranged. He moved every piece of my living room furniture to a new spot. When he comes out of the guest room to take a shower and get ready for his interview, he tells me the room “flows so much better now” and that he watches a lot of HGTV so he knows how to decorate. Then just before he leaves for the interview in an Uber, he tells me he really doesn’t like the shampoo in my guest bath and I should get something better for visitors. I have no clue what he’s going on about, so I look after he leaves: flea and tick shampoo was the only bottle in the shower, left after my dogs last bath and clearly marked as such. He used flea and tick shampoo and then got mad at me for it.
He bombed his interview, my ex husband took him back to the airport and I never saw the guy again. Guess the Sonic didn’t work after all.
That was so chaotic, I had to read it again to understand
I'll never look at flea and tick shampoo the same way again!
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Invited a school friend over (we were both 8). When my friend left, my mom asked if I had used the decorative towels to wipe my butt.
My friend had used the bathroom, bypassed the full roll of TP, the spare rolls in a basket on the floor, the towel to dry your hands, and instead got down a basket that had soaps shaped like swans sitting on rolled up hand towels..... and used the rolled up towel to wipe poo off their bum - it was a lot.... then put the towel back, placed the swan soaps back around the towel, and put the basket back on the shelf.
The towels were light pink. My friend was never invited over again.
Oh noooo maybe their parents use "family cloths" but the kid couldn't find the dirty cloth basket after, realized their horrific mistake and just... put it all back, too horrtified at their now obvious blunder... yikes kid...
Even if they use washable toilet cloths at home, the kid would have used toilet paper at school (8 years old) and out in public (restaurants, ect.). I like that you're trying to give them the benefit of the doubt, but it doesn't seem applicable in this situation...
Load More Replies...Honestly, after forgetting my early years and then re-living them through my progeny, I can tell you that there's no real rhyme or reason to what they're doing. They get 1/2 way into a "great" idea and then bail because something more interesting/fun came along. You're actually good if you get them 1/4th into anything.
I answered someone else's comment on what makes kids so stupid s**t like this. Now I look stupid
Load More Replies...I had a friend sleep over once - she was less my friend and more my mom's friend's kid - around that age. She pooped on the bathroom floor and covered it with the bath mat. Come to find out the girl was "afraid of using other people's toilets"
If she was forced to clean up her own mess (someone has to do it, might as well be her) every time she did this, she'd likely become brave enough to use others' toilets, personally experience how nothing bad happens, and overcome her fear. Was her mom at your house too? Did she do something like this, or did she just...make you/your mom clean it up? 🤢
Load More Replies...8 is still an age where you can't be TOO mad, but you still got to wonder if they're behind the eight ball developmentally a little bit.
I did it cos was funny to me then as an 8yr old, But to be fair, I was watching way to much Tom green show and some Australian comedy show ‘just kidding’ so I was warped
Load More Replies...I got a room in a 4 star hotel in San Fran as a perk and invited my then 50-ish older cousin for a nice weekend. I walked into the bath and she had wiped herself on the thick white towels and thrown them on the floor. Even now, 10 years later, she cannot understand why I refuse to travel with her.
Lots of folks very quick to judge... we have a bidet here and use white washcloths for drying - there's a basket of rolled up washcloths on a small bench with another basket below it for the used cloths. When the lower basket is full, it's emptied into a sealed bucket in the laundry toom and when the supply of clean cloths gets low, the bucket load is run through a bleach wash, rolled and the basket refilled. We go through maybe a roll of toilet paper every two weeks, haven't had to pump the septic in years and are generally a whole lot cleaner "out back" than we could ever get by smearing peanut bitter into the shag rug with toilet paper. Might be the kid lives in a similar scenario and panicked when they didn't see the washcloths. They're 8, for Pete's sake, not 18...
I was getting ready to leave for work (my husband had already left for work) and my husbands friend who spent the night was still there. We don’t really like people being in our house when we aren’t there; not that we are distrustful it’s just weird to us if someone is gonna be at our house for 8+ hours doing whatever. So I grab my car keys and say “alright. Time for us to leave!” And he just says “ok bye.” And starts rolling a joint with my stash. I wait till he’s done, take it from him and say “thanks.” While putting it behind my ear and holding the door open for him. “After you, see you later.” Apparently this was offensive enough that he called my husband to tell on me. My husband obviously was like “uh. My guy. She bought that with her own money and told you to leave. So. Leave?”
In the end, he did; but he really shouldn't have left his friend there for her to deal with in the first place.
Load More Replies...People who can’t take hints about that kind of s**t freak me out. We had a friend who would just turn up and hang out, and expected to be able to stay there regardless of what we were doing (leaving, sleeping, working etc). It started to get frightening. I would ask people to drive by and check he wasn’t waiting outside my door before dropping me off. Urregggbhh
This is when you him/her to get a cup of coffee at a local coffee shop (i.e. in public) and have a serious conversation about boundaries and what you expect from him/her in the future. You gotta keep yourself and your family safe!
Load More Replies...I once had a dinner gathering and someone poured an entire large water glass full of wine to the top. I got up to go to the kitchen and casually took the cup with me and spilled it out. Didn't say a word to the guest. I wasn't interested in someone getting drunk at my table. They had the sense to keep their reaction to themselves.
Their husband sounds nice but he needs to also be more careful and have nice friends.
I think this showed a value dissonance between husband and friend. The friend and the husband might have had this kind of relationship where they would hang out at each others places, but now OP was in the mix. Husband respects OPs rights to their shared living space and her rules as it should be, friend had a bros before hoes mindset and thought nothing changed and only saw their home as his buddies home. Now, the continuity of that friendship depends on the friends ability to accept that things change and that OP has the same rights than everyone. Sadly more often than not, such friends never change. But it's good that her husband validated her and said the right thing.
So because you don't hide your stuff in your own house, it's okay if someone steals your stuff? I agree that they should have hidden it, but not doing so doesn't mean they deserve to be robbed. Let's not blame the victim.
Load More Replies...Many of us wouldn't know how to react politely when a guest helps themselves to a snack uninvited or commits another kind of faux pas. Etiquette experts agree on one thing: don't be rash, passive-aggressive or rude yourself. Below you will find some advice on how to react to weird behavior exhibited by your guests.
We had an apartment warming party after being away for about a year. Some really close friends had stopped by a mutual old coworker’s house on the way and he basically invited himself but I didn’t really mind. He pounded some of our expensive sipping mezcal from Oaxaca and proceeded to ask me why I was wearing a bandana - “what are you, gay?” - and then asked a Black friend of ours how she felt about being the only Black person (currently) at the party. But not before asking her white husband if it was okay to ask her something. None of us have spoken to this man since.
I hope people were calling him out on his behavior. Silence just validates this type of s****y behavior.
He would’ve been loudly chewed out, then drop kicked hard out the door, at the first hint of bad behavior if it was my house. Slamming expensive liquor? No you f*****g don’t, you damned drunk SOB. Making racist and homophobic remarks? Oh f**k NO. I might be able to cuss like a sailor while doing it, but a******s like this guy will NOT be tolerated, especially in MY home. If you decide to act and talk like that, expect to have my boot far up your a*s and my kick launching you into the stratosphere.
Load More Replies...can't stand a******s who ask the husband if the wife is allowed to do something. f*****g pigs
How about when he invited himself in? "I'm sorry, but we're already really too full. Perhaps another time?" That time being two days after the earth falls into the sun.
Load More Replies...Bro needs to go to like a kindergarten where they teach kindness and to not be a sh*thead
Let their child get red sauce all over my furniture, then turn and tell me that #1 I shouldn't have had red sauce pasta as an option for dinner at my home, and #2 they saved me because my child was going to ruin my furniture at some point anyways.... I was pregnant at the time
It was supposed to be a joke, and there was supposed to be one Moe sentence, but somehow it only posted the first sentence, I was in my phone when I commented. I can see how my comment came across instead of what I was trying to post. Good thing BP doesn't still ban people who have been down voted.
Load More Replies...That would’ve been their LAST visit to my house. Sorry to seem to harsh, but I was raised to respect other people’s property, and do not tolerate anyone who doesn’t respect my stuff anywhere, and especially in my home. I see it as a sign they don’t respect me or my family, and choose not to socialize with people like that, even if they’re family. If I had to have this bunch come to my house for dinner (which probably wouldn’t happen, but anyway), they would have to eat outside. Anyone who tried to let them in to eat could join them outside.
I don't think this is too harsh. There are natural consequences to our actions. If you're a bad guest, you don't get invited back. It's simple, proportionate, and directly linked to the poor behavior.
Load More Replies...I know people like this! They're more casual than defensive about it, but I've had this nonsense said to me before. 1# you wash your kid's hands and face before they leave your sight so 2# you're an askhole who owes a steam cleaning service appointment, cus we watched you watch your grubby kid walk away without backing us up when we told the kid to ho wash their hands in the bathroom.
As they show a picture of ketchup. On a grilled cheese sandwich. WTF is wrong with BP?
Lol, so true. Just because you're a parent doesn't nessessarily mean you're a *good* parent.
Load More Replies...When the baby is born, bring him/her to their house and sloppily change his/her diapers on their couch.
My ex father in law and step mother in law cleaned my house when I went into early labor.
Which is really nice right?
Well… whey went through everything and let me know about it.
They folded my underwear and my pajamas. Like, every drawer had been gone through and folded.
Went through my bathroom and cleaned out my drawers.
I think they thought in was on drugs or something, but I’ve never done drugs in my life. (Well, I recently started taking gummies)
I felt so violated and angry, but never said anything because I didn’t want to make waves.
I'd have made waves so big you'd have needed a jet ski inside my house! What a couple of horrid people!
This! There would have been a tsunami warning for the area.
Load More Replies...If you wanna help, vacuum the floor and do the dishes. Keep it to the public spots of the house.
I had a similar situation with my former in-laws. During a visit to our house, they re-arranged my entire kitchen to how they liked it. In private, I pointed out to my husband how inappropriate it was. He didn't speak to me for weeks afterward.
Never be afraid to make waves, the moon does it all the time and she's fine
30 years ago, my mom and her friend once cleaned my car for some unknown reason. I had a bag of 30 joints hidden under the ashtray. When I thanked them my mom's friend said, "It was a JOINT effort". (I had all the weed because we were going on a 2900 mile, 2 week road trip. San Diego to Jersey Shore and back)
My in-laws did the same thing when I was in the hospital to give birth. My husband was not happy when they confronted him about our “racy pictures” - heaven forbid I wear a bikini and he wear swim shorts in photographs from a vacation.
I was raised that it's rude to go into someone's bedroom. Like, the whole room. You don't cross the threshold if the door is open or even touch the door if it is closed. It boggles my mind that these relatives thought it was okay to go through her drawers when it would be inappropriate to even go into the room at all!
When staying with a friend for more than a day, etiquette experts recommend guests offer to help around the house. Washing dishes, pitching in for groceries and all that stuff. However, a polite guest would never start cleaning around the house without the host's permission.
Ash their cigarette on the floor then get really, really mad when we asked them not to do it again.
His ash would have been kicked out so fast, he wouldn't remember when his feet left the ground.
Load More Replies...I was on a sales trip once. My company was cheap, so I had to share a room. This guy smoked 2 packs a day. He was so addicted that he would wake several times a night to smoke. He left a cig burning on a nice wooden window sill and ruined it. Smokers are addicts but that doesn't excuse being clueless. That wasn't even my worst trip with that company. I drove to Cheyenne WY from Denver with that same guy's wife. She was afraid of driving on the freeway and wanted me to take back roads the whole way. I asked her to close her eyes instead.
Sounds like he almost set your room on fire. In addition to the wooden window sill, I'm sure there were some cloth curtains close by too. Dude might've killed you. And if that wasn't bad enough, burning to death is a terrible way to die. I would've made a point to never share a room with him again.
Load More Replies...Years ago I shared a house with several other people, one of whom was a smoker. We eventually kicked him out for other reasons, and when we went into his room to make sure he didn't have any of our stuff before he packed up (spoiler alert: he did), we discovered he'd been smoking in his room which was in violation of the lease. There were several glasses filled with a noxious mix of water, ash, and butts; and it was blatantly obvious that he'd been snuffing the cigarettes out in the carpet prior to dropping them into the glasses.
Hah! I do not allow any smoking in my house, so as soon as he lit up id make him go outside. Warming#1. Do it again and then stub it out on our floor?!! They are out the door and do not come back again. They can stay in a motel or hotel!
My aunt, uncle, and my cousins took a vacation out to my area once, and we invited them over for dinner. I haven't seen them in years, so I don't know my cousins very well. One of my cousins upon entering our home immediately started quietly walking into every room in the house, and started opening up closets, dresser drawers and cabinets. There wasn't anything he could stumble upon that was embarrassing or valuable, and we didn't want to make a scene, so we just kinda let him have the run of the house. My Aunt and Uncle acted like this was just a normal thing. Later on I called my mom and asked about that and she said "Oh yea, that kid is super weird. We have to lock all of our bedroom doors when he comes over. He tends to just riffle through peoples personal lives. He doesn't take anything, he just likes to snoop." People are strange.
They might have given a head's up before the visit.
If there is some kind of disorder going on, I might get it but if not; those parents need to set some boundaries.
And even with a disorder, the parents should be trying to install boundaries. Or at least warn the people they're visiting to lock as many doors as they can. If I was the parent, I would even provide those portable door jammers that you can stick in the top part of the door. Parents are reasonable for their kids, even if their kid has a disorder.
Load More Replies...If given a gap when visiting someone, or at a party in someones home, I'll look at their bookshelves.
Bookshelves are open. Closets, drawers, and cabinets are not. It's reasonable to look at an open shelf. It's unreasonable to look inside closed spaces. Plus, most book readers like showing off their collection!
Load More Replies...I have a friend whose habit is to look in people's fridges. Whenever she visits, she makes a beeline for the kitchen, opens the fridge, and looks inside it. She is not digging in there, not grabbing anything - just looking. However, before visiting anyone, she warns people about that quirk of hers, and "...if it feels weird or uncomfortable, just tell me to knock it off & I'll leave your fridge alone." People in the post ARE strange.
Neurodivergent maybe? And don’t we all secretly wish we could do this? :p
No. I don’t WANT to know about peoples’ private lives XD
Load More Replies...The only door in my house that has a lock is the bathroom, and we never use it. The only snooper we had was the dog I used to mind and she couldn't open doors or drawers, though she did follow me into the bathroom in a thunderstorm. She just seemed to like to know where she was and what was in each room. Funniest part is that she always used to reverse out of the kitchen, even though there was room for her to turn round.
Was this a kid or adult? You would think a kid or teenager would be made to stop.
Our friend had his auntie over from somewhere, and we invited them over for some drinks.
The auntie started rubbing my leg under the table.
I just sat there talking, trying to ignore it.
My wife went to the bedroom to do something and our friend followed her, making a move.
It was literally like they had it planned all along.
Hence to say, we never had anything to do with them ever again after that.
did they try to do a foursome with op and their wife or sth? im confused
Friend has wanted to sleep with OP’s wife for a while and brought over their “auntie” as a “here, you can have THIS while I bone your wife” kinda thing, is how I interpreted it.
Load More Replies...Why th didn‘t they say anything? You don‘t ignore such stuff! Either take their hand and put it away from your leg or SAY something!
for real, not saying anything about it means being a part of it. was he enjoying it? did he hope to get away with it? did he plan to call her later and find out when they can meet? why would you let a woman molest you in front of your wife and just...sit there?
Load More Replies...I think I've seen this film before... and I didn't like the ending
Load More Replies...You just sat there while she rubbed your leg? tf? So many of these posts could have been solved if the people would just speak up.
Speaking up can be hard. Tbh the times I've been assaulted I was afraid to speak up. People's trauma can make them silent. Let's not be hasty to judge. When it's happening to you in real time you don't know how you will truly react.
Load More Replies...Patricia Napier-Fitzpatrick, founder of The Etiquette School of New York, offers Elle Decor a possible script to let your guest down easy. "Tell them it's not necessary by saying, 'Don't worry! My housekeeper is coming tomorrow after you leave.' Whether or not that's true, it doesn't matter. Maybe you're the housekeeper the next day."
I had a friend take an hour long s**t in my bathroom once. When he came out, finally, I asked if he was ok. He sheepishly said, "yeah, sorry. I had some cleaning up to do." When I asked what that meant he said, "well, I went in to just pee but then decided to try to squeeze out a fart but sharted all over your wall. I've spent the last hour cleaning the s**t off of the stucco."
Yes but why was his a*s uncovered when he was urinating, presumably while standing? Another reason to sit on the toilet. (I would suspect this explanation was a joke and not a real answer as to why he was in there so long.)
Load More Replies...He apologized and cleaned up after himself, so that's better than most guests on this list. Meanwhile, I remember the unfortunate day working at a preschool when I discovered one of the three year olds was lactose intolerant. He exploded all over the bathroom after having quesadillas for lunch and asked, "Is my butt bleeding?"
When I was younger my mom woke up at 6am on a random weekday and found a neighbor kid from a few blocks away just eating cereal at our kitchen counter. He was completely unphased. Didn’t have mental issues and didn’t have a broken home. Just felt like cereal I guess
People can just walk into the house at night? Cereal is a cheap prize to find out that this is not such a great idea.
Yeah, they kind of lucked out with that being the penalty of discovery...
Load More Replies...I once woke up to a 'clunking' sound. It was 5am and the neighbour's 2 (yes two) year old was throwing stones at my car in the drive way. Took him back home - front door open, and yelled at his mother (who was asleep on the couch), that if it happened again, I'd call social services (to whom they were already well known) UK council estate in the 80's.
A family friend was staying at my house for the week. At the end of the week, my desktop was working real slow. After a brief look through of the history, I noticed two things. The amount of cartoon p**n both viewed and downloaded was ridiculous. I didn't know how to react in the moment, but on the drive to his home, I had to let him know that he was definitely banned from using my desktop after that.
Only if they viewed a particular kind of pictures. Cartoon porn in itself is not forbidden.
Load More Replies...Windows has a guest account. That's the only way I'd let anyone using my home/work desktop, and I'd fire up the Sandbox for good measure, so I can just nuke it the moment he leaves.
And what was the second thing you noticed, OP? Or do you mean "viewed" and "downloaded" as the two seperate things?
What if your houseguest is all up in your fridge? The co-host of the "Awesome Etiquette" podcast Lizzie Post advises to let your guests know what's off-limits upfront. "You might let someone know, 'Oh, help yourself to anything in the fridge, but the chocolate cake is going to be dessert on Friday night.'"
In my first apartment I made the mistake of telling a friend to "help himself" to my fridge thinking he'd grab a drink. He made a sandwhich, grabbed a parfait I had in there for me to have later in the day, took a whole family sized bag of doritos, and then decided he also wanted to clear out other portions of my food. When he came back with all this s**t and started pounding it down I was in shock. Worst part? I was a poor college student working two part time jobs to afford anything I had, and he -knew- I didn't have a lot. He lived at home with his parents and was allowed to binge eat like this whenever---I didn't have that luxury. I didn't invite him over, and if he tagged along with friend I told them all the fridge/my food was off limits.
Why didn't OP just stop him? "Hey, that food is for my family, not you. I meant you can have a drink. Put the food back."
Yeah, I mean, the guy wasn't standing in front of the fridge instantly stuffing his face. OP should have said "hey wait! That's my food for the week! Sorry, I just meant you could have a drink"
Load More Replies...I, too, made the mistake of telling a couple (man and woman) to help themselves to some food and drinks, if they were hungry. I went upstairs to tell my husband they had arrived, and when we went back downstairs, they had grabbed shopping bags and were loading them up, saying "this is great, it's like a supermarket". I was dumbfounded. We had a recording studio at home, and my husband knew the man casually, but had heard he was a talented studio musician, so had set up the meeting with the guy to potentially hire him to play. I still cringe when I think of it.
You're right. It IS like a supermarket. That'll be $103.47.
Load More Replies...This happened when we invited my husband's deadbeat friend from high school over. We were still on food stamps at the time and he took this as free reign to take all of our food. I was like "what the f**k are you doing?" And made him stop. He would brag about spending all his family's food stamps on parties and just assumed it was free for us so he could take it. We could not afford food otherwise. Really funny part though- we were watching our home movies and at the end of one, there was a video of him shoveling macaroni salad into his mouth with a shovel sized spoon like an animal. It was sitting on the counter and got turned on somehow. That was food I was throwing out because we had just got over a stomach flu, and I was finally feeling better. I told him it was a week old and not to eat it lol
Probably just did not… „think“ about what OP was going through. Sometimes people are just tone deaf. Should have told them their behavior was bad. Otherwise they will never learn to be empathic.
Why tell a guest to help themselves then get mad when they do? am I the only one who thinks that's weird? When I have a guest stay I offer them drinks and food but rarely say 'help yourself to anything' unless it's someone I know really well (like a family member or my best friends.) I've had times when I've struggled to feed myself and had still had loads of people over all the time and would have never just told anyone to help themselves. Some people are so used to having plenty of food that they it doesn't even occur to them that others may struggle, they think nothing of actually helping themselves because they've never had to think about it before.
People use this phrase and most other people only politely take something to drink or a small snack. What we have here is 2 people who came from 2 totally different backgrounds. I guarantee you it didn't even cross the friend's mind that this was his host's only food. He came from a background where the fridge was constantly stuffed and when his friends came over they all "helped themselves" with bags of chips and giant sandwiches. Some communication from the host could've nipped this misunderstanding in the bud. I don't think the friend was trying to be rude. He just came from a background of tremendous food security where "help yourself" meant go make yourself a giant sandwich.
Load More Replies...I never tell someone to make themselves at home for this reason. Even when someone tells me I feel I should be expecting a disaster. Not everyone's definition means the same. And some people as demonstrated above don't have a limit. I'll open a drawer as if I own the place, but I won't walk around naked. I don't even do that in my own home. Among other bad behaviors.
Exactly. Proper communication is so important. Unless you know the person well enough to trust, don't assume someone will not take what you said literally.
Load More Replies...Ask them what they would like and get it yourself. Don’t ever let somebody in your fridge
Stuck his head between my couch cushions, threw up in there, and left.
At this point, all I want to ask is: does the visitor happen to be a cat or dog or something. Because that would explain it very much.
Load More Replies...Gross!! It's just reminded me of a story. At college I went to my friends house for a film night, (E and S who house shared). Another friend (A) came along too, we hadn't known her very long but she had already told me she had a crush on E. A then proceeded to get drunk and tell us all about how she had an abortion and she got really upset. S had gone to bed by this point. We tried to comfort A, and E left the room to get some tissues. As soon as E left the room the crying changed and A started to sob about how E didn't like her and how much she wanted her. As soon as E came back in the room she swapped to crying about the abortion again. It happened several times when E left the room. A ended up staying the night at E and S's house and I wandered home. A few days later S sent me a text message saying that whilst A was asleep on the sofa she must have thrown up and instead of cleaning it up she turned the sofa cushions over and didn't tell anyone. She didn't come round again
One time I was having a party and a friend asked if he could bring his friend. I said sure. Said friend got really drunk and started eating grass and mooing like a cow 🤷🏽♂️
Etiquette experts claim guests should know to clean up after themselves. Make your bed, and keep your bathroom clean. But don't snoop around. "It’s not polite to open medicine cabinets or rifle through drawers," etiquette experts warn, certified etiquette consultant Nikesha Tannehill Tyson told Casa De Suna.
My mother-in-law twice rearranged my furniture and all my kitchen stuff. Obvious boundary issues, but I still don't know how that even gets in a person's mind as a thing to do. This is the same woman who would clean out her closets and come dump literal trash bags full of stuff on us with no regard to whether it would even fit any of us, much less finer details like style. Naturally, she took offense when told to stop.
Does my husband have two wives? Is your mother in law also mine?
While I can see cleaning the countertops and other surfaces, though it’s always best to ask first, it really crosses the line at going through drawers and closets. Even further when they not only go through drawers and closets, they start throwing stuff out without permission. That’s when it becomes intrusive, and unacceptable. Whatever possesses a person to cross that line, ffs?
My (once) MIL bought 2 wall clocks. One was for me and the other for herself, for Christmas. After the holiday she came over to my place and took the clock off the wall and said she liked the one she gave me more and then hung the other one up in its place. I was stunned to say the least.
Wierdly enough this might be a partner issue. I know a few people that have been in similar situations. 100% of them were men who couldn't tell their mom no and would insist that MOL could do what she wants. Not saying it's okay even then, but it's often enabled by a partner with poor boundaries as well.
Invited a guy over for game night. Start time was 7pm or 7:30. He shows up at 6:00 pm. I have a long driveway. He parks in the center. I have to have him move for other guests of course. He comes in the house and I try to gain insight into why he's here so early. He says can't predict traffic and better to be early. He helps himself to a coke without asking. Then asks me what streaming services I have. He then puts on star wars the clone wars animated series and starts watching. He then asks for a snack so I get him one. When everyone else arrives he whips out his own home made card game. We play the game until 9:00 pm on the dot. At which point he promptly stands up. Proclaims he has to leave and does. Takes his game with him too of course. I still haven't recovered from this.
Look, as someone that actually IS autistic, don’t do this type of thing. It’s offensive. And plays into the already harmful stereotypes about those with autism. Guy was just a d**k. It’s not that deep.
Load More Replies...Man all these people just living their best lives, just doing exactly what they want, when they want, how they want. It’d be hell on earth if everyone lived like this, but I gotta admit I’m a little envious.
I’m still thinking about this: again in this case nobody seems to have objected or communicated to the guy that his behaviour was weird. It seems obvious to us, but if it isn’t obvious to him, and nobody tells him… how is he supposed to know? (If you can’t tell I’m kinda freaking out thinking about what *I* might be doing that I don’t realize is weird…) >.<
My college friend came down to my dorm room sobbing because she “couldn’t stop sucking d**k” and then proceeded to eat my roommate’s Mac and cheese out of a pot while crying between spoonfuls. I was speechless.
Me too... What is her name? What is her phone number? I also like Mac n cheese
Load More Replies...I guess drunk. Stoned people don't cry much, but drunk people sure do
Load More Replies...For those hosts whose guests are prone to snooping around, Napier-Fitzpatrick recommends telling them your boundaries. "Say, 'Oh, I'm very private, I'd really prefer you don't look through my closet,'" she says. The best solution is to put away the things you want to keep private altogether.
Had a colleague turn up two hours early for a party once. Brought his whole family. I didn’t know this guy that well but had basically opened the invitation to anyone at work who wanted to pop round. His kids didn’t play with mine and his wife barely spoke. Nothing was ready and there was no food and I hadn’t even showered and got ready yet. When the designated time for the party came around and other guests started arriving, they left. I’ve never invited them around since and the rest of the party had a good old chuckle about it when I explained what had happened.
Did the guy think it was a dinner party for the two families? This just screams horror movie...
Better than two hours late. We had a housewarming party when I was a student. The girl I invited turned up on time, we had fun, and sometime around midnight (we were so wild - not!) I escorted her to the bus stop to go home. About 2am, there was a knocking on the door. Girl (and her boyfriend) that one of my housemates invited had come hoping the party would be well under way. We had to tell her we were all in bed. The saddest part, is when I look back, there was a distinct possibility that the girl I invited wanted more, but as I knew she had a boyfriend, I let her be. Damn!
Take a shower. She’s just excused herself half way through dinner and went and took a shower. Never met her before that night
I have anxiety and showering sometimes helps. You just wash away your problems for a moment, bonus if you have some nice smelling shower gel. If I am somewhere and stressing out, it would be awesome if there was a shower. I don't do it often, only when I sleep over somewhere or if it's a really hot day and I cannot cool down otherwise... Or if I am stressing so much that there is no other option in my mind to calm down.
But you would ask permission first, right? I mean, if I knew showering would help you release stress, you would be more than welcome to use my shower but I woul appreciate it if you would ask first.. :)
Load More Replies...Was this a date? If you had never met her before, that sounds plausible. She might have been making (a rather strange and unexpected) move if it was
Sometimes, in the absence of a bidet, you need a little extra help. I wouldn’t embarrass someone about hearing them have a quick rinse as long as they behave themselves in there.
I’ve taken a shower at ONE friends house in my life, and it felt super uncomfortable. I had a good reason though. I had just thrown up all over myself, including in my hair, so it was really nice of them to let me use the shower, but it still felt weird.
Wait she was in your home and just went and took a shower?? Was she stoned and tripping out trying to kill her buzz or something?
My mother-in-law was coming to visit, and I saw her arrive. Instead of knocking on our front door, though, she went in the backyard. I was so confused. I looked out back to see her going behind a bush, dropping trou, and squatting. I assume she peed. I am baffled to this day. I said nothing.
I imagine scenario when older laby with weak bladder just had to go immediately and walking through the social norm steps at the house would have taken to long so she did it behind a bush. It's embarasing to run to someones house to pee the moment they open the door, or risking too pee yourself at the in laws doorstep. So either that or she's crazy
I don’t think it’s embarrassing at all to run to the loo soon as you arrive? I wouldn’t care if anyone did that, and I’m sure no one would care if I did it? You’re very welcome to visit and use the facilities immediately on arrival while I put the kettle on!
Load More Replies...Is this legal? I'm talking about the part where she goes into the back yard instead of knocking.
A lot of the nightmare scenarios in this list have to do with the bathroom, so let's tackle that issue. Napier-Fitzpatrick says that this topic is best approached with humor. If your guest is taking suspiciously long in the bathroom, jokingly call out "Yoo-hoo! We're waaaaaiting!" or hum the "Jeopardy" theme song.
Tried to convince us that the earth was flat, then to demonstrate, grabbed an orange and dumped a glass of water over it. He thought we would see that because the water didn't stick to the round object, the earth couldn't possibly be round. I was just kinda pissed he dumped water on my floor.
Saw someone recommend a reality show about flat earthers searching for the edge of the earth and now that’s all I can think about whenever these yahoos are mentioned. Seriously though does anyone have a hookup cuz I absolutely need to watch that show
Srsly, I hate reality shows, and I would absolutely watch that!
Load More Replies...If the earth were flat, cats would have pushed everything over the edge by now. That's a scientific fact.
I feel like oranges and the earth have a few differences
Yep, there are words that rhyme with "earth" for starters.
Load More Replies...Yes. Of course that works. Everyone knows oranges have their own gravitational force.
Anything that has mass has gravity, including oranges. The more mass an object has, the stronger the gravity; hence, the pull of the earth's gravity is stronger than that of the orange, preventing the water from sticking. (Hey, look at that, I finally get to use a bit of knowledge from that physics class I took 30 years ago...)
Load More Replies...If the earth was flat then cats would have pushed everything off the edge by now
There are invisible forces to take into account. Just because you don't understand it doesn't mean the world is flat. I don't get these lunatics, do they literally think someone can walk to "the edge of the earth" and fall off into oblivion? So fuxxing dumb
The part that baffles me is how to they ecpain sunrise and sunset ?
Load More Replies...Did he miss school on the day the rest of you learned about Newton? Clearly.
Floating around the internet there's a short video in which Carl Sagan tells the story of Eratosthenes, a Greek mathematician who, about 2200 years ago, calculated the circumference of the Earth to be 40,320 kilometres. He was wrong. It's only 40,075!
Friend of mine had his buddy house sit for his family and the buddy setup all the christmas decorations in summer
On the one hand that's a pretty funny prank, but on the other hand unless they knew exactly where the decorations were kept, it sounds like they had to have done quite a bit of snooping around to find them.
Where my mind went as well, TOG. I mean, they're not usually left out on the kitchen counter. Often stashed in the attic/basement which is tantamount to possibly exposing skeletons...
Load More Replies...sounds like it was a joke, i swapped every picture of my friend for a pic of me when i house/dog sat, and filled the toilet with jello. He was findiing my pic for months afterwards. I even went through his photo albums. It was the baby pic with my face that made him finally lose it, 10 months later, lol
Years ago. Had a small gathering. People chipped in for pizza and a guy and gal (not the guy’s wife, who was there) went to pick up. They never returned
Like hell my husband would be leaving a party to pick up pizza with some random girl.
Say you have security issues without saying you have security issues.
Load More Replies...I had a friend over and gave him money to get a pizza and he never came back. I'm poor and the crummy part was I gave him two $20s because I didn't have change.
But you are richer now because you only spent $40 to find out a friend wasn't.
Load More Replies...I wish you could always get some people out of your life for the mere price of a pizza. For certain ones, I'd include a substantial tip.
Were they abducted? Never to be seen or heard from again? Did the husband and wife divorce?
One more common behavior of strange guests can be sitting down at your computer. That can be worrying, especially if you don't password-protect your device.
Lizzie Post suggests simply saying "Hey Jim, my computer isn't something I typically invite people to use whenever they want, so if you don't mind just checking with me first, I'd appreciate that. If you're just looking to check emails, I'd be happy to set you up with the iPad."
Ate an entire loaf of sliced bread like potato chips. By the time we noticed, half the bag was gone. He’d just grabbed it from our pantry and started eating it one slice at a time, directly from the bag…
I love baguettes... As a small kid I always wanted plain long baguettes as a treat when we were shopping with our family and my parents usually said no, because they thought I would not finish it. Well... When they occasionally did provide me with my favourite treat, I would slowly devour it almost every time. It would take big distractions or something bad on the baguette itself to stop me.
My daughter is 9, and has been doing this since she was a toddler. Plain baguette is one of her very favourite foods. Sometimes with a big drink of water. Good ol' plain bread and water.
Load More Replies...When I was a kid, I would grab 4 slices, remove the crust, and mash it until it was doughy, then eat it.
This reminds me of a girl I know who ate like a two-foot long baguette in one sitting. Like how
I did that once. Had a baguette while walking the streets of Paris. Best experience of my life.
Load More Replies...My son (15) likes to eat plain bread straight from the bag sometimes. But he doesn't eat half the bag or more at once. He grabs like, one or two slices. I've been known to do the same, myself, lol.
could've come from a weird background; i once stayed with a friend whose mom had set mealtimes and very minimal snacking allowed in between, and i watched my friend eat four bananas in a row because that's all that was available and it was hours until the next meal. but still weird, yes.
Yal underestimate the power of a bread sammich, it beats having air for dinner and sleep for desert
A buddy and his girlfriend were playing cards with me and my wife. While playing, she thought he was looking at her hand to cheat. (He wasn't) They were also on the same team since it was spades. She open hand slapped him hard right across the face. We were all just stunned and frozen in place. That chick was crazy.
To be fair I love it when my husband Jokeingly slaps me for stuff, making a bad joke is grounds to be slapped, cause it's funny {I wouldn't ever slap back unless he consents to it, he doesn't like it, but I don't mind and it makes me laugh and...Fairly I'm a masochist, so I love "physical" jokes}
That needs to happen each and every time an elected official lies, cheats, steals and/or betrays their Oath of Office.
Parents were out of town. Had a small gathering - 10 people max - and A friend of mine who wasn’t part of the big circle of friends decided to drink a bottle of Dom my parents had been saving for years. Found him chugging it and I knew I was f****d. Spent a large chunk of student loan cash on replacing it. 🤦♂️
Depending on how long that bottle was saved, you did your parents a favour. Even the best of champagne will loose its fizz and taste after a couple of years. The age old bottles which are sold for crazy amounts are never meant to be consumed, btw.
So, I had to follow up bc I had the same question as one commenter on reddit... why not get this a$$hat to pay for it? They said, "try asking an mma fighter when he's drunk" to which the obvious response was "ask the next day," and the OP didn't respond. FFS, don't let "friends" walk all over you.
When we were away in France and my daughters were 7 and 5 my ex decided to buy two magnums of Champagne they could open on their 18th or 21st birthday. Advised that it wasn't a good idea but got pooh-poo'd (as usual). Roll forward 12 years, by which time we were divorced, and not so much a POP! as a Phut! Apparently it tasted like "watered down cider".
Reminds me of a party where my father walked into his bedroom where friends-of-a-friend were getting it on on his matrimonial bed. The a$$hole had also taken my father 9mm Beretta out of the drawer and for some unknowable reason had taken it apart. This was in Italy BTW, where gun laws are a bit more strict than here in the USA. I was afraid my father was going to use the gun on the horny rabbits and then on me.
Having people over at your place is a normal part of socializing. If you're a guest, don't forget to always be grateful to your host. Leave them a handwritten (feels more personal) note at the end of your stay and always bring a gift when coming over. In return, hosts should tidy up before any guests arrive and be gracious if the guest breaks something – accidents happen.
Walked into the kitchen, turned the tap on, farted *very loudly* turned the tap off and walked back out like we didn't see or hear him let rip
Had some friends over for a house warming party. One of them went to my bedroom and put my CPAP mask on his junk and sent me a picture of it three days later.
Well the worst part is if you didn't find out for 3 days you wore it until you did that's the worst part
Yup. That's why the guy waited to send the pic - for maximum effect.
Load More Replies...Hilarious. Also hilarious: take the CPAP hose and shove it up his a$$, make him drink soapy water, turn on the machine and see if he makes bubbles.
Can anyone tell me what a CPAP is? The only search results that come up are CNC machines and sleep tech, which are completely different
Continuous positive air pressure. People use the machines - with a mask - to manage sleep related breathing disorders, including sleep apnea.
Load More Replies...There was this guy my husband and I had met once before, we invited him over to watch a movie with us (we were new to the city, trying to make friends), he said he’d bring pizza. He brought a half eaten pizza. He asked to use our laptop (was on FB the whole time) and proceeded to fall asleep in our living room recliner during the movie. It was an odd encounter.
I would never invite a person I'd only met once before -- essentially a stranger -- to my house.
Ugh. Making new friends sounds like just as big a nightmare as dating.
i don't understand how people make friends, i think. i hang out with people for months or years, and only people who i share 5+ interests with, and THEN i can call them friends.
Steps to making new friends (Pro Edition): 1) Meet people (on neutral ground). 2) Get to know them over time (on neutral ground). 3) Question why the f**k Richard just said he didn't think Hitler was "all that bad" and "Aryans are hot, so who really cares?". 4) Remember why you left your old friends behind in the first place, then give up.
What company was the pizza from? Domino's? Pizza Hut? His fate depends on the answer
If it was either of those cardboard and ketchup flavored abominations, he's a monster. Those *pizza" companies shove ashamed
Load More Replies...I guess OP never saw those movies where the killer socially hooked up with the couple so he could get invited over at some point and snuff them.
Future brother in law unplugged our fridge to plug in a coffee pot.. didn't notice until it was all ruined. No, he didn't offer to cover anything
Why is the fridge plugged into an outlet that is so accessible? I've never seen that for a fridge that was more than a few cubic feet.
Right? And, why was there a need to plug in some random coffee maker?
Load More Replies...Nobody noticed the light in the fridge wasn't coming on for more than a day?
I'd be effing LIT. My kids accidentally/lazily didn't close the deep freeze in our garage all the way and I'd just spent over 100$ on summer ice cream treats and frozen meats for the grill. I made them help me clean it out and made sure they knew how much money was wasted.
I'm guessing this was a smaller fridge, with a more accessible outlet...maybe?
This sounds odd though, it takes a long time for the fridge to warm up if the doors are closed and if you opened it, the fridge light not coming on should've clued them in that it wasn't on...idk
When I was about 8, I did a bunch of chores and saved up to buy an expensive comforter and sheet set. It was the most lovely shade of soft blue and was thick and so comfy. It was $150 for a twin size and this was A LOT of money in 1990. Anyhow, my dad’s coworker came over and brought his 9 year old daughter. She was morbidly obese at 9 and super rude. I tried to be nice and let her play with my Barbie dream house, but she made fun of me for having it. My mom called me to dinner and she said she didn’t want to eat and was going to stay in my room. I thought it was weird, but she made me nervous so I didn’t question it. While my brother and I were eating dinner in the dining room, her dad called her to go and they left. When I got back to my room, my Barbie dream house had collapsed and was unfixable and she had shat on my comforter. I washed it so many times and even took it to get dry cleaned. Nothing got it out and I threw it away.
Did your Dad say anything to his coworker about how the daughter trashed your room?
OP mentions the parents were very angry and that the girl's brother also went through the parents' drawers On the plus side, OP and their daughter both have amazing comforters now.
Load More Replies...Ok I know this is not the point of the story but I have never heard of an 8 year old saving to buy a comforter!
I'm with you, kid had a Barbie dream house and slept in a twin bed but her parents expected her to work for a blanket? Reads a bit like a kid has misunderstood some details, but OP is now over 40 so I don't know what to make of it.
Load More Replies...1) Why is an 8 year old saving up to buy their own bedding? 2) Why aren't the parents guiding the 8 year old to make a less expensive choice? $150 in 1990 is $353 in today's money and that is OUTRAGEOUS to spend on a child's bedding set. I wouldn't spend $150 on my kids' bedding today in 2023.
I’m guessing the parents thought it was too expensive for a 8 yo and said she should save money to buy one herself?
Load More Replies...OMG. This is the saddest story! I hate the poor morbidly obese girl who obviously had a miserable life and was super jealous.
What kind of "parent" doesn't make their kid come to the table to eat when they are invited guests?
I'm angry for you. The dad should've had to pay for the comforter and the toys. Raising a disgusting animal sociopath
Oh I actually have an answer. So I had been flitting between board game circles for a while and had befriended a Danish guy who seemed nice enough. Had attended a few game nights at his apartment which had turned out be quite cordial. He would even go as far as to cook rice dishes for us but in all honesty, the food was genuinely awful tasting. I’d later make sure I’d was well fed before his game nights etc. Fast forward a few months and I decide to host a game night at my place, inviting the Danish guy and a few of my close friends that he had never met. There was around six of us and things were going well. Towards the end of the night we had food and my Australian mate had some food stuck on his lower cheek near his mouth. Then.. out of the blue, in front of everyone the Danish guy leans across the table, picks the bit of food off my friends’s face and eats it… without saying a word. They had had minimal interaction the whole night. The night ended very shortly after that and the Danish guy was never invited again.
Seems harsh, communication seems a more reasonable first action in this case.
Harsh? No, this guy is clearly lacking in normal social skills. It's the sort of thing a parent might do with a young child, maybe he'd just never grown out of it?
Load More Replies...I would laugh my a** off if somebody did that. Weird? Yes. Never inviting him again? A bit harsh.
This sounds like a joke. Albeit a bit gross but I'd have laughed. Sounds like overreaction.
When people complain that they can't get a good Danish, they must be talking about him.
Drunk and awkwardly trying to flirt with the Australian, that was my guess.
Load More Replies...Danish guy: "So sorry. Your world frightens and confuses me. Ladies and Gentleman, I'm just a Viking. I fell in some ice and later got thawed out by your scientists. Your world frightens and confuses me. Sometimes the honking horns of your traffic make me want to get out of my BMW and run off into the hills or whatever. And when I see food on your face, I eat it. (Sometimes part of your face, too.)"
I know I'm weird, but I would consider that an attempt at flirting.
Cultural difference maybe but still bad manners in most parts of the world...
They started scraping a candle and proceeded to taste it to see if they could guess the flavor.
The flavor was pine cone. Don't ask me how I know what that tastes like
it was you huh? you were the friend werent you?
Load More Replies...I licked a candle once because I was curious, it tasted pretty much flavorless.
We threw a party in college and a bunch of people ended up coming that we did not know. It ended up getting super crowded and was becoming an issue, I glanced over and watched a guy ash his blunt on our living room carpet. We made everyone leave right after that and while people were waiting in the culdesac for a ride someone stabbed someone!! It was so crazy. The cops came up to our door and we said we seriously do not know any of these people they showed up!!!
"Ash his blunt" = stubbed out a marijuana joint on the carpet.
Load More Replies...I'm outraged that the word "stabbed" was not censored. I am now scarred for life!
You throw a rager, strangers arrive & you're seriously surprised it went sideways? Have you not seen any 80s or 90s films?
There was major news in my town about someone being stabbed at a party. Supposedly he tried to leave and the guy stabbed and killed him. Other people were also injured.
My housemate/friends dad had to stay over the night (friend had minor surgery and his dad had driven him to and back from the hospital since I worked). Came down in the next morning to see a completely nude dad up and about. I… I don’t even know what I was supposed to do at that point.
I would straight up tell him to put something on. This is creepy, not funny.
Load More Replies..."I get that you're comfortable in your child's home, but I am not comfortable with a naked man in MY home, so I'd be grateful if you'd put some bottoms on."
That kind of "stay-over" has a precarious built in awkwardness to it. I feel for the dad -- certainly out of his realm...
Laydown on my couch and rest his feet WITH his shoes on the arm of my couch... I just stared at him... he seemed confused until I finally said "please take your shoes off" he seemed offended but complied. WTF
One of the reasons I divorced my first (and only) husband was he wouldn't stop wearing his shoes in the house. Freaked me out.
So for context, I (30sF) live with my partner of 8+ years. Anyway, a couple of years ago, I started grad school during the pandemic, and the first classes were on Zoom. I "made a friend" (also 30sF) in Zoom class, and we'd DM during the lessons. I eventually invited her to my place for wine & cheese on my porch, and at first, it was great. We got tipsy, chatted, gossiped, etc. Eventually, I mentioned that my partner and I had a Casper mattress (bed in a box), and she said she'd always thought about buying one but wished she could try it first before spending the money. Maybe this was my mistake in retrospect, but we were getting along great up until this point, so I told her she was welcome to try mine out. So, we go inside and back to the bedroom I share with my partner, and she sits down on the edge of the bed. She's talking about how she likes it blah blah blah, then she says, "But how does this hold up during sex?" She lies down and starts thrusting around wildly on our bed!!! Like violent, jackhammery pelvic thrusting, moving all over the bed, kind of like she was crab walking (?!). We're still in the same program but we no longer talk lol
This would have probably just made me laugh, but you have to know your audience.
Yeah I don't see anything wrong here, I would have gotten along pretty well with her.
Load More Replies...That's funny! Seriously, some of these posts are just people who can't take a joke. "Oh, my word. I do declare! I never!"
I'm trying to figure out why this person keeps mentioning "their partner" who plays no role in this story? Like, were they in the closet? Did they walk in? Why do we need to know about the partner?
So... you didn't have sex with her? She needed to know how it held up.
A drunk person I didn't know once walked in my front door, went straight to my bathroom and then immediately passed out on the floor.
Seriously! Life half of these are “some stranger or neighbor kid showed up in my living room”.
Load More Replies...My friend lived in a total flophouse. One night two drunks were fighting and they broke my friends door down. They burst through the door and were lying on my friends floor moaning. He threw them both into the hallway and used the fridge to prop up the door till he could get it fixed. He then went back to sleep.
My coworker did this and was arrested! He was 21, young and stupid. Just moved into a big apartment complex and walked into the wrong apartment.
had a coworker do the same, broke the window on the door, was screaming thru the mail slot and broke the doorknob lol
Load More Replies...Had a drunk teen that I had met twice turn up at my place and curl up to sleep on my bath mat (it was really thick and cosy). I got her step dad's number from my neighbour and he came to collect her and her less drunk friend. They walked to my place as they felt safe there.
When my mom remarried, we had a small ceremony in our house and had a small spread of food including a honey-baked spiral cut ham that was the circumference of a dinner plate - just huge, green beans and devilled eggs. My aunt Rhonda, my mom's SIL, ate a stack of ham easily two inches thick, got a second plate with the same, ate all four of her kids plates (the kids didn't eat much) that had been piled high, ate 23 devilled eggs and packed up a third plate that had about three inches worth of ham slices. We just kind of sat back in amazement.
"We just kind of sat back in amazement" and that's why people like that get away with the behavior. (This is an observation, not criticizing OP - I'm sure I'd have been too shocked to say anything too!)
Are you one of those rude people that invites somebody over for dinner and then tells them when they've had enough?
Load More Replies...That's almost a dozen full eggs plus mayonnaise. Yikes. She sounds like a Dr Seuss character
Off and on topic, I quite enjoy "honey-baked spiral cut ham" and can unconsciously put away quite a bit of it. Don't get me started on deviled eggs...
I was a freshman in college. I had an off-campus apartment. At one of the many parties, this guy comes up to me and says, "I spilled a beer on your carpet. It's okay though, I stepped on it." I had no idea what to say. We still joke about it occasionally.
Yep. You spilled something and the best solution is to step on it. Lovely.
It was around Christmas time and Christmas lights were hung around the inside of the house, most were connected in a single strand. I had some friends that were in a relationship over for the night and they were sleeping in the other room on the couch while myself and my girlfriend were sleeping in the bedroom. While we were trying to fall asleep suddenly the Christmas lights fell that were hanging, thinking nothing of it we hung them back up and went to sleep. Come morning we talk with the friend in the other room and first thing they mention is “Did you notice anything with the lights last night, it sounded like they fell”, we obviously said yes we did notice and to my surprise the next thing they said was “Haha that’s because we were having sex on your couch and we got stuck”. We soon got rid of the stained couch.
I don't expect them NOT to have sex, but I don't think I would want to know about it either...
They would be buying me a new couch after that. That is so gross and rude.
This makes no sense...were the Christmas lights on the couch? How in the world does getting sexually stuck factor into the lights falling? Did they grab the lights to use as an unsticking tool?!
I had a 13yr old girl friend, whose mom was a divorcee, tell me about 'p****r tracks' on their couch. WOW, what an intro into 'sex' education.
They got stuck? That doesn’t make sense.. it takes time to go from wet to sticky and it never gets THAT sticky, where you actually get stuck.. Unless I’m missing something.
Maybe a body part slipped between the cushions and fell into the crack btween the back part and where you sit. I lost a remote down there once.
Load More Replies...Stupid question: I'm still struggling to read the text on app when it's cut off. Sometimes it scrolls but mostly not. Any tricks?
Swich back to reading in a browser. You cant edit you post in the spp, the content wont load, or the content is very out of focus and you have to click on it and it fixes it.
Load More Replies...Anyone with any decency knows not to have sex on your friends bed/couch without permission
Load More Replies...Had a big summer party and someone left bowling pins in various locations around the house ( oven, pantry, bathroom etc). At the same party, my friend left and said “Have a good evening…IN HELL!” I didn’t think much of it till the next morning when i walked in the bathroom (bowling pin in the corner) to brush my teeth and the toothpaste was liquid. I felt hot. He had set the thermostat over 100. I still never learned who left the bowling pins.
So you only find out about the thermostat because the toothpaste is liquid??
I feel hot when the house is at 75°F... Liquified toothpaste would NOT be my first giveaway that the thermostat was too high. It would probably be the SWEATING TO DEATH part.
I thought someone boiled the toothpaste after rereading twice. Too early
::slides a cup of coffee your way:: This might help.
Load More Replies...Okay not even. Toothpaste does not liquidate at 100 degrees.
Sounds like a good story. Hopefully you will find out before we find out where Ted got the pineapple...
so.... how did they just heat the bathroom and now the rest of the house, and how did OP no feel any heat until they saw the toothpaste..... a lot of this sounds .... well fake or just drunk
Some houses have individual controls in each room: baseboard heating or split ductless.
Load More Replies...Went to the corner in my dining room and immediately insisted the place was haunted and that someone had died in that spot. Refused to drop the subject. I kicked him out.
Took money out of my change jar, went and bought milk with it, came back, and ate a whole box of my cereal. They came over to hang out the night before and crashed on my couch. All this happened while I was asleep.
Honestly, am I the only weird one who locks the door? Is it normal for people to enter your homes and do anything without you even noticing?
The story says: " they came over... the night before"
Load More Replies...My friend slept over, took a shower, and used ALL of my salon-bought shampoo and conditioner. I had nothing to wash my hair with
Caught a close friend digging through my medicine cabinet. And he responded as if he was caught. It was weird.
He could have at least had the foresight to lie and say something like they were looking for aspirin or something for a headache. I mean, you still don't go through someone's stuff - you ask if they have anything for your headache, but at least he could've tried to act normal!
Load More Replies...Amy Sedaris says to fill your medicine cabinet with marbles before having company over. Nothing announces a gutter-hype like a cascade of marbles hitting the sink.
In college I had a party at my apartment. I'd heard friends rummage through stuff before. We were young and I was the first to move out of my parents house, in high school because they were abusive. So by college friends were still acting immature like this was their parents house or the dorm. Anyway, before the party, I got some poster board and opened the medicine cabinet and taped the board to the sides and bottom. I'd emptied the cabinet beforehand and removed the shelves.So with the board taped on and open at the top, I filled the cabinet with pingpong balls. Held the board in place, removed the tape, shut the cabinet door, then slid the board out. First person to rummage had eaten shrooms about 30mins earlier. Screamed the party to a halt and ran out of the bathroom and into a closet, where he pissed himself.
Ugh. I had an assigned college dorm roommate who boasted she would always look in bathroom cabinets of others. I was delighted when the year ended.
I'm getting a lot of second hand annoyance/disbelief from this post
Shared an apartment with some friends when young. Was having a party, then a big brother of a friend show up, drunk as hell, standing in the hallway making racial slurs about a friend whos parents are from Jordan, and saying things like "he has no right to be here". We opened the door and one my friends got infront of him, telling him to gtfo. The guy (who is pretty big) then punched my friend straight in the face and refused to leave. Another friend walked towards him, telling him to leave, and this friend is an absolut mountain of a man. The guy still tried to punch him too, but my friend ducked - and punched back - sending the guy flying through the open front door into the stairway and we quickly locked. After a while the police showed up - the guy had called the police and said he'd been assulted...
I hope the cops arrested him for being drunk or for the false complaint.
Load More Replies...One of my brothers-in-law has no social 'sense'. Two things always bothers me. If he comes over for a visit and your music is on he just walks over and turns it off without asking. And if he's hosting a diner, he always serves himself first. SMH
that's when you walk over and turn the music back on without asking.
Load More Replies...This happened when my wife and I were living in our first house together. Her dad has always tried to be controlling, of everybody. One day I’m in the house alone while my wife’s at work, and her dad who had apparently had our keys copied when he borrowed her car one day, walks into my house, looks at me, ignores me saying hi and asking what I’m doing, and sits at our table and starts reading his newspaper. After a few attempts to get him to acknowledge I even exist he gets told to quite simply F off. He leaves and pretends it had never happened.
Had guests over from another country.. the guest-husband shushed my 6 year old and me as we walked into the multiple rooms house and stories, because his wife had decided to take an interview/business meeting in our common room by the entrance. They moved out to a hotel the next day.
A friend from Italy, we grew up together, calls me out of the blue and asks me if he can stay with me "for a bit" in San Francisco. Knowing he was married and had a child, I said yes. He shows up and I had prepared out guest room for him. He also asked me if I could help with a job, which I did, but no job was good enough for him (his English was very poor). Then one day he starts complaining his room was too small and he wanted me to move my daughter (10 at the time) out of her room so he could take her room. I said no. He kept asking daily, all the while missing job interviews. Then one day, his wife and daughter showed up, explaining why he wanted a larger room. I felt really bad for both of them, but I just couldn't take on the family of the laziest, most entitled, man on Earth. Our friendship, or whatever was left of it, did not survive the next few days.
1. I wonder if some of these stories are made up ? 2. Are there really such AHs in this world ? 3. Never allow someone you don't know into your home. 4. Doesn't anyone these days have a sense of propriety ?
I'm getting a lot of second hand annoyance/disbelief from this post
Shared an apartment with some friends when young. Was having a party, then a big brother of a friend show up, drunk as hell, standing in the hallway making racial slurs about a friend whos parents are from Jordan, and saying things like "he has no right to be here". We opened the door and one my friends got infront of him, telling him to gtfo. The guy (who is pretty big) then punched my friend straight in the face and refused to leave. Another friend walked towards him, telling him to leave, and this friend is an absolut mountain of a man. The guy still tried to punch him too, but my friend ducked - and punched back - sending the guy flying through the open front door into the stairway and we quickly locked. After a while the police showed up - the guy had called the police and said he'd been assulted...
I hope the cops arrested him for being drunk or for the false complaint.
Load More Replies...One of my brothers-in-law has no social 'sense'. Two things always bothers me. If he comes over for a visit and your music is on he just walks over and turns it off without asking. And if he's hosting a diner, he always serves himself first. SMH
that's when you walk over and turn the music back on without asking.
Load More Replies...This happened when my wife and I were living in our first house together. Her dad has always tried to be controlling, of everybody. One day I’m in the house alone while my wife’s at work, and her dad who had apparently had our keys copied when he borrowed her car one day, walks into my house, looks at me, ignores me saying hi and asking what I’m doing, and sits at our table and starts reading his newspaper. After a few attempts to get him to acknowledge I even exist he gets told to quite simply F off. He leaves and pretends it had never happened.
Had guests over from another country.. the guest-husband shushed my 6 year old and me as we walked into the multiple rooms house and stories, because his wife had decided to take an interview/business meeting in our common room by the entrance. They moved out to a hotel the next day.
A friend from Italy, we grew up together, calls me out of the blue and asks me if he can stay with me "for a bit" in San Francisco. Knowing he was married and had a child, I said yes. He shows up and I had prepared out guest room for him. He also asked me if I could help with a job, which I did, but no job was good enough for him (his English was very poor). Then one day he starts complaining his room was too small and he wanted me to move my daughter (10 at the time) out of her room so he could take her room. I said no. He kept asking daily, all the while missing job interviews. Then one day, his wife and daughter showed up, explaining why he wanted a larger room. I felt really bad for both of them, but I just couldn't take on the family of the laziest, most entitled, man on Earth. Our friendship, or whatever was left of it, did not survive the next few days.
1. I wonder if some of these stories are made up ? 2. Are there really such AHs in this world ? 3. Never allow someone you don't know into your home. 4. Doesn't anyone these days have a sense of propriety ?
