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Don’t put your music on speakers when in a public space. It’s not like everyone wants the same genre or was in the mood for music. Get your headphones.

MedschoolgirlMadison , saturnism Report

Final score:

553points

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Yugan Talovich 3 years ago

Ditto for talking on your phone!

157points

Don’t ever say ‘oh, you’ve only got one child. That must be so lonely for them.’

Because maybe that person tried for years to have that one child, maybe they chose one for good reasons, maybe that had another child that died that you don’t know about.

Or, maybe it’s none of your business how many children people have. Actually, it’s definitely not your business. So, shhhhh.

debbastar , TheVirtualDenise Report

Final score:

548points

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TexasWoman 3 years ago

My opinion is the only time you need another 'child' is when it's an animal; example: I have 3 leopard geckos--not just one--so they have friends.

101points

Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Daniel Wendler, a therapist and author of “Improve Your Social Skills.” According to Daniel, the unwritten rules are really just an expression of the golden rule, “which is to treat others as you would want to be treated (or even better, to treat others as they would want to be treated).”

Dr. Wendler continued: “Many of society's unwritten rules are simple expressions of empathy and courtesy, a way to put yourself in someone else's shoes and realize what you can do to be kind to them.”

However, if you’re worrying about whether you or someone else lacks common sense, the therapist suggests not worrying about something “so vague that it could mean any number of things.” “Instead,” he suggests, “it's better to focus on the things we have control over—like trying to be a little more kind today than we were yesterday.”

Be kind to people who are working: food staff, medical staff, etc. Don’t take your bad day out on someone else.

sas1013 , Chris Report

Final score:

545points

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Rebecca 3 years ago

We do not get paid enough for your rude/mean/ignorant comments, but we have to put on a brave face or risk getting fire.

131points

For buses/trains/any other public transportation, let people exit first before you get on.

miaowies , Oran Viriyincy Report

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504points

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Vic 3 years ago

Even in lifts.. if this happens in a lift and it's a friend I say "do you think I was in the lift to kidnap you?" Specially if it's the first or last floor..

61points

vaguelyhumanpotato , jessabean910 Report

Don't say s**t about someone's appearance if it can't be fixed in less than 30 seconds. Spinach in someone's teeth? Let a homie know. Body type? Bad haircut? Worn-out clothes? Don't need to mention it.

Final score:

488points

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TexasWoman 3 years ago

Or about someone's medical problem(s) because they can't control it.

182points

Micheal With A B 3 years ago

THANK you!!!

18points

Ozacoter 3 years ago (edited)

And don’t ask I’ll people why they don’t lose weight. First it is none of your business. Second they are probably struggling with it. And third losing weight while being sick can be very difficult.

12points

Gab s 3 years ago

exactly @Ozacoter and the other way round maybe. Telling people to eat a burger when they don't know what they medically or otherwise struggle with or it's just their body type. None of their business.

6points

Jacob Allen 3 years ago

I personally would want my friends/family to tell me if I looked bad (or worse than usual). Even if it's something I can't immediately fix I would rather that than them lying to me and pretending I look perfect.

6points

Andy Acceber 3 years ago

I mean, if you ask them directly, sure. But I think this means unsolicited opinions. If no one says anything about how I look, I assume I look "fine" -- not "perfect." I think most people probably think that way.

13points

Rae H 3 years ago

I just had this conversation with the kids I nanny for.

3points

DotC 3 years ago

Shirt tags are ok to let them know about too but do not fix it without permission

2points

judy baker 3 years ago

People belittle others in an attempt to make themselves look good. Esteem issues cause the 'misery loves company' effect. Feel bad yourself and invariably find fault with others.

2points

Linda Haney 3 years ago

I love this!

1point

Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

Something in their teeth? I quietly tell them, "go look in a mirror and smile". They usually know what I mean

1point

Jyri Hakola 3 years ago

It think mentioning things like a ripped seam in the bottom of trousers or bird poop in the back of the shirt is still polite to inform even if the situation cannot be immediately fixed. But I see well your point and agree.

1point

Ducks Who Don’t Have A Ducking Clue 3 years ago

I think they were meaning if their haircut was bad, or like if they thought their forehead was to big. Stuff that can't be fixed right then and wasn't an accident

0points

MAKtheknife 3 years ago

What about is someone's zipper is down? I usually mention that because I would not want to be in that position.

0points

backatya 3 years ago

kotex sticking out is another one not to mention or a blood spot on her white jeans

0points

Tiffiny 3 years ago

Sometimes they bring it up, I usually try to talk about a similar experience. I had a nurse who got dizzy and sat herself on the floor so she didn’t fall. Then apologized and said she felt embarrassed, I told her it was fine and I totally understand. I walk with a cane and that usually stops my falls but not always.

0points

Steve in Denver 3 years ago

I like this one.

0points

lemsip 3 years ago

And point things out discretely not out loud.

0points

Iggy 3 years ago

Why would someone mention it?

0points

Monic Krugell 3 years ago

Golden rule: If you don't have anything nice to say then keep it to yourself.

0points

I’m A Black Cat 3 years ago

I had a friend who thought it was a good idea to tell me "you look tired" when we met in class at university. That really brought me down every time, cause I thought I looked bad. It was especially harmful when I actually felt good and had had a good feeling about myself

0points

The_tattered_hippie 3 years ago

Yes!!

0points

Keyy 3 years ago

i get the gist of what this person is saying but sometime someone might have a hole in an article of clothing that they don't know about

0points

Esca Sav 3 years ago

I don't know why this was downvoted, my friend literally had his pants rips where his crotch was. Dude was mortified when I told him because he had no idea and walked to his lecture like that. Another friend had a plad shirt and he ripped it by accident when leaning on a brick wall. I think it's common decency to mention it to them privately at least...

2points

infinite upvote 3 years ago

This is actually really good advice

0points

Damon Tripodi 3 years ago

yeah, just letting you know about your pear-shape...?

-2points

Jarrod Nichols 3 years ago

Apparently it's perfectly acceptable to make fun of gat people. OP didn't get the memo

-3points

Dr. Wendler also said that there are many people who struggle to pick up on the unwritten social rules. “Sometimes, this is because they didn't have a lot of opportunity to socialize with others growing up, so they never got experience in putting themselves in someone else's shoes and learning what was expected.”

Other times, “it's because they have a condition such as autism or social anxiety that makes it more difficult to read other people and learn how to interact socially.”

Dr. Wendler claims that the good news is that whether it's easy for you to pick up on social rules or difficult, everyone can get better at it. “Just try to challenge yourself to get 1% better each day—maybe learn one unwritten rule, or practice one social action—and before you know it, you'll see dramatic improvement,” he concluded.

Do not swipe left or right if someone shows you a photo on their phone.

whattheheckisdecaf , Alan Levine Report

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457points

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RiverStyxJix 3 years ago

THIS!

106points

I live by this rule I made after thinking about things late at night.

If someone does something that makes them happy and confident. If it doesn't hurt them or anyone else, animals included. Then leave them alone, let them do that thing. Let them be happy.

SpottyBoi , Benjamin Linh VU Report

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456points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I cannot agree with this more. I wish more people did this.

138points

Don't propose at someone else's wedding.

LongliveLazarus , Robert Kintner Report

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449points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

That’s a given, the only time it is okay is if the bride and groom are happy with it. Also don’t wear a white dress.

166points

Meanwhile, Lynn How, a life coach and author of “Positive Young Mind” who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues, told Bored Panda that unwritten rules are important to establish a certain culture, whether it is in a sports, company, or societal context.

“They are needed to ensure at least a basic level of expected behavior. For example, your boss has never said to you that you can't drink alcohol at work, but you know this already without needing it written down or having verbal clarification,” the author explained.

While most people do share a common understanding of unspoken rules, some have more difficulty picking them up. “We need to take time for a more detailed explanation of something we feel doesn't need to be said where required,” Lynn suggests.

#10

You can be wrong. It isn't a bad thing, either. And when you are wrong, acknowledge it, and learn from it, you don't need to dig down in your beliefs to try and comfort yourself because you can't handle not being right all the time.

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Final score:

439points

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Kate 3 years ago

This should be higher

82points

#11

Always say please and thank you. Just because your an adult doesn't give you the right to stop practicing manners. Drives me crazy.

sa-c-baker , Michael Livsey Report

Final score:

425points

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Jacob Allen 3 years ago

Guys they made a good point, whether or not they spelled "you're" correctly. Maybe we should learn some manners like the author suggested and stop rudely pointing out other's grammatical mistakes.

51points

#12

Chew with your mouth closed. Shocks me how many adults i see chewing with their mouth open.

knasty015 , Peter Hellberg Report

Final score:

422points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

I agree for the most part but in some cultures it is a show of appreciation. We have a friend that is Chinese and he is an extremely loud chewer and chews with his mouth open and that is the way he was brought up. So whilst it maybe annoying for many we just have to deal with it because that is his culture.

60points

“Perhaps the person has a particular additional need that would require a more detailed explanation or it may be that the person in question did not have good role models growing up, which means they may find that many things that were acceptable in their family are not acceptable to the wider world.”

Alternatively, there may be a solid reason why one unspoken rule or another has not established itself among groups of people. Lynn suggests various causes may be at play, like “maybe your company’s unspoken rules are quite strict or perhaps there is an unwritten dress code?” In that case, Lynn recommends turning this sort of unwritten rule into a written one.

#13

There was only 1 rule in my house growing up...do not wake anyone up. My parents worked shift work. Its amaZing to me now how many people don't respect sleep.

tonineri31 , Toshiyuki IMAI Report

Final score:

407points

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Little Ms. Quirky 3 years ago

sleep is precious~

31points

#14

There are 2 people in your life you NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LIE TO. Your doctor and your lawyer.

Dancersep38 , DarkoStojanovic Report

Final score:

390points

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Anne 3 years ago

YES! Your doc doesn't care if you used drugs, he just needs to know so other procedures do not kill you because of that. Also, he's not even allowed to report you to police.

128points

#15

If you're borrowing it for a third time, you need one of your own.

Kayge , Thomas Quine Report

Final score:

380points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

True but for some things the other person may not be able to afford one of their own. We have lent our lawnmower out to a friend a few times but he can’t afford to buy one for himself. He is trustworthy so we have no issues lending it to him.

143points

#16

FFS be self-aware. I mean, be aware of the space you occupy, of your movements, of where you are. Don't zig-zag on sidewalks, don't fill the entire width of the sidewalk. Be aware of your kid moving their arms like a helicopter. DON'T STOP IN YOUR TRACKS TO CHECK THE F**KING PHONE, walk slower, or step aside but don't be that kind of person.

Just be aware of your body and don't be a dummy. This applies to whole families too, and people in cars, in supermarket lanes, wherever.

wastakenanyways , Free-Photos Report

Final score:

370points

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Karl Baxter 3 years ago (edited)

This should apply to big family groups walking at a snail’s pace in staggered formation through IKEA. Why on earth have you taken 3 generations there for a day out anyway? IKEA is a terribly disorientating circle of hell anyway without making it worse.

91points

#17

Don’t leave your shopping cart in the middle of the grocery aisle!

M3ggsandbacon , Polycart Report

Final score:

355points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Omg yes, I find this super frustrating.

81points

#18

Don’t mess up an apology with an excuse.

MHE17 , Matus Laslofi Report

Final score:

332points

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Julie C Rose 3 years ago

When I moved back to New Zealand from Japan, I noticed that we tend to give a reason more than Japanese people do. I don’t dislike that; in fact, in a lot of cases I think just think “S**t happens; you don’t need to offer the reason for my approval”.

42points

Master_Structure , Alabama Extension Report

#19

Wash your hands after the toilet. Walkouts are shocking.

Final score:

323points

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Little Ms. Quirky 3 years ago

surprising how many people don't wash their hands after using public toilets even in covid

105points

#20

If you borrow someone's car, fill up the tank before you return it.

simplypsyched , Mike Mozart Report

Final score:

318points

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Remi Flynne 3 years ago

Only borrow if you are insured to drive that car. Uninsured drivers are breaking the law.

7points

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#21

Announce your visits.

You can't be offended that nobody is home when you decide to drop by at random.

Plus it's super unfair to the host since it gives no time to prepare anything and they might have to drop everything they were just doing just to entertain you or cancel their plans.

Final score:

318points

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Peko 3 years ago

I really hate it when people do that. I have a phone, you have a phone, everyone and their uncle have a phone, just give me a heads up.

95points

#22

Leave it in a better condition than you found it.

Essexal , Elizabeth Backus Report

Final score:

289points

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Gandalf the Pink 3 years ago

Looks eerily like the room in the beginning of portal 2

37points

#23

Don't let friends drive drunk. Maybe offer to get an uber or something for strangers, too, if you can

M31K_ , Quinn Dombrowski Report

Final score:

282points

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Peko 3 years ago

I can't afford that, but I might carry you home.

70points

#24

Don't start drama at a funeral.

mattcruise , carolynabooth Report

Final score:

278points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

It’s sad that this even needs to be mentioned.

147points

Hotlikessauce69 , Maya ALESHKEVICH Report

#25

Always ask if a dog is friendly. You never know what kind of weird behavior things a dog can have, even when they appear friendly at first.

I had a dog who would be fine until someone bent down to pet him. He was very protective and nearly bit a few people. I'd they has asked first we could have told them that he doesn't like being pet by strangers.

I would hate to have to put my dog down because you are an idiot around animals.

Final score:

278points

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Jen Gem 3 years ago

Also, please put your dogs on a leash! I can't tell you how many times I have been walking my dog and someone's off leash dog has come charging at us. "Don't worry, he's friendly" they always yell. Well good for you, but my dog is not. He was bit by a "good dog" who was not on a leash and is traumatized by strange dogs running up to him. Just because your dog is well behaved doesn't mean everyone's is.

49points

#26

Turn down your bass! Be more considerate of your neighbors in apartment complexes.

I'm tired of people sitting outside my window in their car with their bass on full blast...at 2-3am! ((That's why I'm awake right now.)) I'm also greatly annoyed at my neighbors turning up their music (bass) to the point where it's rattling things on my walls. After getting multiple complaints you know it's a problem thus are choosing to be bad neighbors. *Also they have a lot of small children who should definitely be asleep but of course arent.

Komikazekitten , Rob Wall Report

Final score:

276points

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Kristal 3 years ago

This includes bass in a sound system for TVs when in apartment living.

24points

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#27

Be kind to strangers even if you’re having a hard time

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Final score:

274points

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Peko 3 years ago

Be kind, period.

115points

#28

Don't cook fish in the office kitchen

TiNYWalL , claire rowland Report

Final score:

266points

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kasa alex 3 years ago

Or boil eggs!

32points

#29

Buy a plunger before you need a plunger.

olafthebent , Gary J. Wood Report

Final score:

252points

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Sum Guy 3 years ago

I don't have a plunger in my house... should I worry?

70points

#30

When driving a car, dont be nice, be predictable. People being nice leads to a s**tload of accidents.

Tauqmuk181 , Yonkers Honda Report

Final score:

238points

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elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

be predictable = use your blinkers and use them before your car is already turning

56points

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#31

When out to dinner with a group, only the person who ordered the least expensive meal/combo of things can offer to split the check evenly.

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235points

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Vic 3 years ago

But then it puts pressure on the person and makes it awkward. The person with most expensive bill should offer that everyone pays for their own.. or as we say India TTMM: Tu tera, mein mera (roughly translates to: you pay yours, I'll pay mine)

122points

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#32

I have two:

1. do not wear perfume or cologne if you’re getting on an airplane.

2. do not use speaker phone or play videos on your phone without headphones in public places. Especially in public transit.

Final score:

227points

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María Hermida 3 years ago

Why not perfume or cologne? I'd say "do not pour half the bottle" as many people do, but a little? Everything smells, really, and I think the smell of "people", like sweat or God only knows what else, is far more annoying than perfume.

78points

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#33

If someone asks you a question, finish what you’re saying with, “what about you?”

Enjoy noticing how many people actually don’t do this.

thakrustykrabpizza , Pedro Ribeiro Simões Report

Final score:

213points

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Truthsayer 3 years ago

The police interviewers really like this one

160points

PatricktheVieiraYep , Ben Schumin Report

#34

Don't look through the f**king gap of bathroom stalls.

Final score:

198points

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Sum Guy 3 years ago

Why do you have gaps in bathroom stalls?

129points

#35

DON’T USE THE URINAL IN YOUR DREAM! You’ll thank me later.

Yhslaw1 Report

Final score:

196points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

I have done this once as a teen but instead of a urinal it was a toilet, and of course I ended up wetting the bed. I have had many dreams about toilets but they are usually gross, have no doors, flooded, full of crap, covered in toilet paper etc so I never use the toilet in those dreams and don’t wake up needing to pee. Bit of a gross dream I know but I can’t help it lol.

67points

#36

If you have to cancel on a friend, it should be your responsibility to reschedule.

Havoo , Stephanie Kier Report

Final score:

195points

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Elizabeth Stewart 3 years ago

Exception to this: chronic or severe illness (ex: cancer) I am in and out of the hospital frequently and am sick quite often. My brain is also drained dealing with appointments and treatments and such. The friends who understand when I have to cancel AND ask me again in a few days to reschedule make a huge difference. They are some of my biggest support while I am trying to fight this.

3points

#37

If your going out to dinner with other people, and theyre paying, dont order the most expensive thing on the menu, go cheap

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Final score:

192points

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Jo Johannsen 3 years ago

With one exception: if a billionaire ever takes me out to dinner, I am gonna enjoy. Yes, I know it's not gonna happen, but being honest.

125points

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#38

If someone whispers, you whisper back.

GalvanizedRubber , Olichel Report

Final score:

170points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

But don’t whisper around other people coz it is rude.

71points

#39

If you're going to listen to music, videos, or anything else on your phone that requires sound and isnt a phone call, either wait until you get home or invest in some headphones.

MartyMcMuffin , Tal Atlas Report

Final score:

170points

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Deborah B 3 years ago

and understand that noone wants to hear your phone convo either.

53points

#40

Don't talk to anyone at the urinal.

MustBeTheMeds , Mike Mozart Report

Final score:

127points

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Aaron Kara 3 years ago

"Hey man. Nice testicles" - Was the last thing Aaron said before he died

6points

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#41

Don't ask for something if the person only has one left (gum, cigarette, piece of cake, etc.).

Final score:

49points

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Anne 3 years ago

Well you don't necessarily know if it's their last..

16points

#42

Dont sneeze directly into another persons face.

ThanosIsDoomfist Report

Final score:

46points

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RiverStyxJix 3 years ago (edited)

How would you even-

16points

#43

Not pointing out flaws in someone’s physical appearance

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44points

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Anne 3 years ago

unless they can fix it in 30 seconds (like clean teeth, spritz a deodorant)

21points

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#44

Don’t just say things like “I love your baby bump!” to some random person.

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Final score:

42points

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RiverStyxJix 3 years ago

That can lead to some pretty awkward situations.

21points

#45

Raise your children in a loving environment, but always make sure you respect them as individuals as well. One day they’ll be living their own life and might have to decide whether or not they personally want to take care of you when you’re old/sick/deteriorating.

VolatileJellyBean Report

Final score:

42points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I agree with the start but not the ending. I don’t want my kids taking care of me when the time comes that I can’t look after myself.

20points

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#46

Stand up when you shake someone's hand.

Final score:

40points

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BOU 3 years ago

After you are vaccinated. Until then please stand up an bow.

23points

#47

Knock twice before opening the door.

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Final score:

28points

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Truthsayer 3 years ago

Should be “don’t open the door until you have been given permission or you have made absolutely sure no-one is in the room before you open it.” Knocking and opening before giving some a chance to deny or pause entry is makes the knocking moot

44points

#48

The probability of meeting someone you know increases dramatically when you are with someone you don’t want to be seen with. Don’t do it.

TielKishou Report

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21points

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Anne 3 years ago

this one makes no sense at all. If you are embarrassed by being seen with someone, you should be extremely ashamed of yourself for being so shallow and rethink your decisions why to hang out with that person at all.

17points

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#49

Pee first. No matter what it is, pee first.

ChompyNuggets , EG Focus Report

Final score:

13points

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Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Ummm how about whatever comes first.

19points

#50

I have 2...

1. Don't touch someone you don't know; you might get throat punched. And for that matter, if you DO know the person and KNOW they don't like to be touched, just because you're their mother doesn't give you the right to touch/hug them - and saying "I'm going to touch you" before you do it, just makes us tense up. And when you feel that tension, don't start to rub our shoulders to relax us. Respect boundaries.

2. Just because you're elderly and think you have the right to speak your mind doesn't mean you actually should. Keep your trap shut and mind your own business, you old biddy.

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8points

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Anne 3 years ago

this one is weird and very personal. Not a general life rule at all

19points

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Wendillon 3 years ago

Well...I guess these are no longer "Unwritten Rules" huh?

56points

Nicola Roberts 3 years ago

You deserve more upvotes for that!

10points

ℜ𝔬𝔟𝔢𝔯𝔱 ℭ𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢 3 years ago

Yes there are.

1point

TheSneakyNinja 3 years ago

Nope. They've been typed, not written. Technically they're still unwritten.

0points

WilvanderHeijden 3 years ago

This is a basically a list of do and don't in normal every day life when you don't want to come across as a total uncultured rude swine. It's sad that this list exists. Just goes to show that there are people out there who need to be reminded.

24points

Javiera Gotelli 3 years ago

I agree with you

5points

Javiera Gotelli 3 years ago

Most of these are so obvious, it makes me wonder what kind of rude as-sholes some of you hang out with...

9points

Kristal 3 years ago

They are called 'humanity'

14points

Franc Esca 3 years ago

We don't hang out with them, we've lived all over the world and take public transport

4points

Jeff Diamond 3 years ago

Americans. And children.

0points

Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

If you wish to speak to person A but they’re currently engaged in a face-to-face conversation with person B, don’t walk up and interrupt the conversation, cutting off person B so you can ask your question or speak to person A. And if you’re person A, don’t allow this to happen. Tell the intruder to let you finish with person B first - then you’ll address their matter.

6points

Si 3 years ago

A few of these are intolerant

6points

Shelp 3 years ago

How?

3points

Damon Tripodi 3 years ago

which?

2points

Jane Alexander 3 years ago

Si, -and how shall we not be intolerant of what amounts to a physical assault. You have no idea how much damage and suffering those clods with their stinky stuff cause. It's like being hit in the face. It hurts, it causes breathing problems, vomiting, headach pain, vision trouble. -and all because they have to puit their stank on everything. Intollerant? Why in hell should we have to tollerate it?

-1point

The_tattered_hippie 3 years ago

Ask before giving hugs!!!!

4points

Lucas 3 years ago

Puts people on the spot though. If I don't want one some people are going to be offended if I say no. Maybe, if you care enough to want to hug a person, find out how they feel overall about it in a general conversation first.

1point

BonnyDK 3 years ago

Perfume should be worn for a close encounter with your special partner in that it should be light enough for them to smell it only if they are close up to your neck or hair. A nice pleasant surprise. It should not fog a room.

4points

M.A.D. 3 years ago

Most of this is, like, common sense, or simply good manners?

4points

Isabella Vega 3 years ago

It is good manners but should just be common sense yeah

4points

ZooMom 3 years ago

If someone you are speaking to offers you a breath mint, take it.

3points

marianne eliza 3 years ago

Be as polite to your friends and family as you would be to an important client.

3points

kjorn 3 years ago

never ask "how do you do?" or "how are you?" if you don't want to know. because people ask this only to get a: "fine" answer

2points

Jay Weigel 3 years ago

If it ain't yours, don't mess with it. Probably the first one I taught my kids, and I'm surprised this one didn't come up in some form.

1point

Coo Dat 3 years ago (edited)

Unwritten rules are generally such because they are too dubious to go into print.

1point

María Hermida 3 years ago

Some of these depend a lot on the situation

0points

Steve in Denver 3 years ago

My rule: RESPECT IS MY BASELINE: it is not "earned," it is where I begin with everyone, unless they show that they don't deserve it.

1point

Baking Cactus 3 years ago

Don't talk to somebody about their mental illness. Things like depression and anxiety can't be rushed through, so don't try to rush anybody. This is different from talking somebody out of suicide. Just know they will still need help if you have talked somebody about their mental health.

1point

Kevin Hickey 3 years ago

If you're not passing, get out of the left lane.

1point

Lucas 3 years ago

Unless in a country that drives on the other side.

1point

M Dream 3 years ago

do not try being good, just be mentally healthy

1point

Gene Perry 3 years ago

Never do anything you'd be embarrassed to admit to the ER doctor.

1point

pusheen buttercup 3 years ago

Unwritten rule... You don't go through a purse or bag when the owner is not around to watch you, even if you are dating.

0points

María Hermida 3 years ago

Obvious! Even if you are dating, or it's your mother's. Only if the owner tells you to get something there, or if it is an emergency.

0points

Norart 3 years ago

If we all obeyed these the world would definitely be a better place!

0points

23AClark 3 years ago

Not only did I enjoy this, I agree with quite a few of these.

0points

Shelp 3 years ago

Never have I agreed more to a BP article! I upvoted every single entry.

0points

Lsai Aeon 3 years ago

1. if you are in a group chat like discord NEVER use the @everyone unless it's very seriously important. 2. If you are in a voice chat like zoom or discord etc, don't just sit there with your microphone on when there's lots of background noise, especially a crying baby/barking dog. 3. Again on voice chats, mute your microphone if you are eating, don't chew/slurp/smack your lips in other peoples ears

0points

Octavia Hansen 3 years ago

My unwritten rule (guess it's written now): If you don't invite me to holidays and parties, don't call me when you need to be bailed out of anything.

0points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

Or what you need to do if you have common sense

0points

Sean Harrison 3 years ago

I would add "Think with your intellect before you react with your emotions".

0points

More Thinking Needed 3 years ago

There is only 1 way into a pool, and it is NOT the stairs.

-1point

Morgan 3 years ago

You're missing "if you feel the need to keep something a secret maybe you shouldn't be doing it"

-1point

Aliquid A 3 years ago

Not necessarily. If you keep a secret because you are embarrassed and don't want to be judged... you need to either stop hanging around judgmental people, or stop caring what they think.

3points

Logically Reasonable 3 years ago

The problem is, most all breeders can't be bothered to teach their little abominations Social Manners or Social Responsibility. It's all "GIMME, GIMME, GIMME", "MINE, MINE, MINE", "What **I** want"!!!

-2points

John Ford 3 years ago

All of these sound extremely obvious. Not one did say oh wow who knew? I only got to like 17 and realized the trend

-2points

Christina Brundage 3 years ago

Tip mainly for restaurants, having a group of us elderly women having lunch together often called "you guys" by the staff doesn't go over well.

-3points

John Ford 3 years ago

It doesn't mean they think less of you as women, it's just a casual saying.. Oh hey what's up guys? There is nothing negative about it.

1point

Druth Vlodovic 3 years ago

Depends on your problem with it. If you don't like being treated informally you need a classy (ie expensive) restaraunt. Everywhere else they aim for friendly and quick/efficient. As far as gender goes "guys" has always been a weird combo of gender neutral and masculine depending on grammer. Likely depends on local culture which includes time period.

1point

V Martinez 3 years ago

I try to say gals, or guys & gals if mixed company. But also try to get a read on your audience if poss & then go from there. Gals, guys & gals, ladies & gents, etc. on occasion, I've even said kids bcuz the senior citizens have a fun vibe & good sense of humor. Just playing it by ear

0points

Patrick McKemie 3 years ago

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Wendillon 3 years ago

Well...I guess these are no longer "Unwritten Rules" huh?

56points

Nicola Roberts 3 years ago

You deserve more upvotes for that!

10points

ℜ𝔬𝔟𝔢𝔯𝔱 ℭ𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢 3 years ago

Yes there are.

1point

TheSneakyNinja 3 years ago

Nope. They've been typed, not written. Technically they're still unwritten.

0points

WilvanderHeijden 3 years ago

24points

Javiera Gotelli 3 years ago

I agree with you

5points

Javiera Gotelli 3 years ago

Most of these are so obvious, it makes me wonder what kind of rude as-sholes some of you hang out with...

9points

Kristal 3 years ago

They are called 'humanity'

14points

Franc Esca 3 years ago

We don't hang out with them, we've lived all over the world and take public transport

4points

Jeff Diamond 3 years ago

Americans. And children.

0points

Nevits Yibble 3 years ago

6points

Si 3 years ago

A few of these are intolerant

6points

Shelp 3 years ago

How?

3points

Damon Tripodi 3 years ago

which?

2points

Jane Alexander 3 years ago

-1point

The_tattered_hippie 3 years ago

Ask before giving hugs!!!!

4points

Lucas 3 years ago

1point

BonnyDK 3 years ago

4points

M.A.D. 3 years ago

Most of this is, like, common sense, or simply good manners?

4points

Isabella Vega 3 years ago

It is good manners but should just be common sense yeah

4points

ZooMom 3 years ago

If someone you are speaking to offers you a breath mint, take it.

3points

marianne eliza 3 years ago

Be as polite to your friends and family as you would be to an important client.

3points

kjorn 3 years ago

never ask "how do you do?" or "how are you?" if you don't want to know. because people ask this only to get a: "fine" answer

2points

Jay Weigel 3 years ago

If it ain't yours, don't mess with it. Probably the first one I taught my kids, and I'm surprised this one didn't come up in some form.

1point

Coo Dat 3 years ago (edited)

Unwritten rules are generally such because they are too dubious to go into print.

1point

María Hermida 3 years ago

Some of these depend a lot on the situation

0points

Steve in Denver 3 years ago

My rule: RESPECT IS MY BASELINE: it is not "earned," it is where I begin with everyone, unless they show that they don't deserve it.

1point

Baking Cactus 3 years ago

1point

Kevin Hickey 3 years ago

If you're not passing, get out of the left lane.

1point

Lucas 3 years ago

Unless in a country that drives on the other side.

1point

M Dream 3 years ago

do not try being good, just be mentally healthy

1point

Gene Perry 3 years ago

Never do anything you'd be embarrassed to admit to the ER doctor.

1point

pusheen buttercup 3 years ago

Unwritten rule... You don't go through a purse or bag when the owner is not around to watch you, even if you are dating.

0points

María Hermida 3 years ago

Obvious! Even if you are dating, or it's your mother's. Only if the owner tells you to get something there, or if it is an emergency.

0points

Norart 3 years ago

If we all obeyed these the world would definitely be a better place!

0points

23AClark 3 years ago

Not only did I enjoy this, I agree with quite a few of these.

0points

Shelp 3 years ago

Never have I agreed more to a BP article! I upvoted every single entry.

0points

Lsai Aeon 3 years ago

0points

Octavia Hansen 3 years ago

My unwritten rule (guess it's written now): If you don't invite me to holidays and parties, don't call me when you need to be bailed out of anything.

0points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

Or what you need to do if you have common sense

0points

Sean Harrison 3 years ago

I would add "Think with your intellect before you react with your emotions".

0points

More Thinking Needed 3 years ago

There is only 1 way into a pool, and it is NOT the stairs.

-1point

Morgan 3 years ago

You're missing "if you feel the need to keep something a secret maybe you shouldn't be doing it"

-1point

Aliquid A 3 years ago

Not necessarily. If you keep a secret because you are embarrassed and don't want to be judged... you need to either stop hanging around judgmental people, or stop caring what they think.

3points

Logically Reasonable 3 years ago

-2points

John Ford 3 years ago

All of these sound extremely obvious. Not one did say oh wow who knew? I only got to like 17 and realized the trend

-2points

Christina Brundage 3 years ago

Tip mainly for restaurants, having a group of us elderly women having lunch together often called "you guys" by the staff doesn't go over well.

-3points

John Ford 3 years ago

It doesn't mean they think less of you as women, it's just a casual saying.. Oh hey what's up guys? There is nothing negative about it.

1point