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There are rules, stupid rules, and rules that nobody argues about. Like, the one where you don’t answer out loud if someone whispers to you. Call it common sense, human behavior at its best, or an unwritten rule, that doesn’t change it—you just whisper if someone whispers at you.

So what are these unspoken rules that never get written down and are considered logical arguments or actions? Are they that different when it comes to various people?

A person on r/AskReddit dared to find out as they posted the seemingly simple, yet very illuminating question “What is one 'unwritten rule' you think everyone should know and follow?” 44.7k upvotes and 18.3k comments later, we’ve got some of the most interesting replies. They show some rules worth respecting don’t need to be carved into stone and can perfectly live in the part of the brain where “it’s just like this” is enough to explain why.

#1

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Never make fun of someone else's laugh — be it how they sound or how they look. Laughing is the most natural expression of joy and happiness, and for someone to feel self-conscious about that because of other people's comments is so brutal.

ArthurMcSlothington , Quinn Dombrowski Report

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Vic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I absolutely agree with this.. never take the freedom to express..

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don’t put your music on speakers when in a public space. It’s not like everyone wants the same genre or was in the mood for music. Get your headphones.

MedschoolgirlMadison , saturnism Report

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don’t ever say ‘oh, you’ve only got one child. That must be so lonely for them.’

Because maybe that person tried for years to have that one child, maybe they chose one for good reasons, maybe that had another child that died that you don’t know about.

Or, maybe it’s none of your business how many children people have. Actually, it’s definitely not your business. So, shhhhh.

debbastar , TheVirtualDenise Report

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TexasWoman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My opinion is the only time you need another 'child' is when it's an animal; example: I have 3 leopard geckos--not just one--so they have friends.

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Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Daniel Wendler, a therapist and author of “Improve Your Social Skills.” According to Daniel, the unwritten rules are really just an expression of the golden rule, “which is to treat others as you would want to be treated (or even better, to treat others as they would want to be treated).”

Dr. Wendler continued: “Many of society's unwritten rules are simple expressions of empathy and courtesy, a way to put yourself in someone else's shoes and realize what you can do to be kind to them.”

However, if you’re worrying about whether you or someone else lacks common sense, the therapist suggests not worrying about something “so vague that it could mean any number of things.” “Instead,” he suggests, “it's better to focus on the things we have control over—like trying to be a little more kind today than we were yesterday.”

#4

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Be kind to people who are working: food staff, medical staff, etc. Don’t take your bad day out on someone else.

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Rebecca
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We do not get paid enough for your rude/mean/ignorant comments, but we have to put on a brave face or risk getting fire.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” For buses/trains/any other public transportation, let people exit first before you get on.

miaowies , Oran Viriyincy Report

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Vic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even in lifts.. if this happens in a lift and it's a friend I say "do you think I was in the lift to kidnap you?" Specially if it's the first or last floor..

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#6

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't say s**t about someone's appearance if it can't be fixed in less than 30 seconds. Spinach in someone's teeth? Let a homie know. Body type? Bad haircut? Worn-out clothes? Don't need to mention it.

vaguelyhumanpotato , jessabean910 Report

Dr. Wendler also said that there are many people who struggle to pick up on the unwritten social rules. “Sometimes, this is because they didn't have a lot of opportunity to socialize with others growing up, so they never got experience in putting themselves in someone else's shoes and learning what was expected.”

Other times, “it's because they have a condition such as autism or social anxiety that makes it more difficult to read other people and learn how to interact socially.”

Dr. Wendler claims that the good news is that whether it's easy for you to pick up on social rules or difficult, everyone can get better at it. “Just try to challenge yourself to get 1% better each day—maybe learn one unwritten rule, or practice one social action—and before you know it, you'll see dramatic improvement,” he concluded.

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#7

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Do not swipe left or right if someone shows you a photo on their phone.

whattheheckisdecaf , Alan Levine Report

#8

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” I live by this rule I made after thinking about things late at night.

If someone does something that makes them happy and confident. If it doesn't hurt them or anyone else, animals included. Then leave them alone, let them do that thing. Let them be happy.

SpottyBoi , Benjamin Linh VU Report

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#9

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't propose at someone else's wedding.

LongliveLazarus , Robert Kintner Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s a given, the only time it is okay is if the bride and groom are happy with it. Also don’t wear a white dress.

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Meanwhile, Lynn How, a life coach and author of “Positive Young Mind” who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues, told Bored Panda that unwritten rules are important to establish a certain culture, whether it is in a sports, company, or societal context.

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“They are needed to ensure at least a basic level of expected behavior. For example, your boss has never said to you that you can't drink alcohol at work, but you know this already without needing it written down or having verbal clarification,” the author explained.

While most people do share a common understanding of unspoken rules, some have more difficulty picking them up. “We need to take time for a more detailed explanation of something we feel doesn't need to be said where required,” Lynn suggests.

#10

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” You can be wrong. It isn't a bad thing, either. And when you are wrong, acknowledge it, and learn from it, you don't need to dig down in your beliefs to try and comfort yourself because you can't handle not being right all the time.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Always say please and thank you. Just because your an adult doesn't give you the right to stop practicing manners. Drives me crazy.

sa-c-baker , Michael Livsey Report

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Jacob Allen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guys they made a good point, whether or not they spelled "you're" correctly. Maybe we should learn some manners like the author suggested and stop rudely pointing out other's grammatical mistakes.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Chew with your mouth closed. Shocks me how many adults i see chewing with their mouth open.

knasty015 , Peter Hellberg Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree for the most part but in some cultures it is a show of appreciation. We have a friend that is Chinese and he is an extremely loud chewer and chews with his mouth open and that is the way he was brought up. So whilst it maybe annoying for many we just have to deal with it because that is his culture.

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“Perhaps the person has a particular additional need that would require a more detailed explanation or it may be that the person in question did not have good role models growing up, which means they may find that many things that were acceptable in their family are not acceptable to the wider world.”

Alternatively, there may be a solid reason why one unspoken rule or another has not established itself among groups of people. Lynn suggests various causes may be at play, like “maybe your company’s unspoken rules are quite strict or perhaps there is an unwritten dress code?” In that case, Lynn recommends turning this sort of unwritten rule into a written one.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” There was only 1 rule in my house growing up...do not wake anyone up. My parents worked shift work. Its amaZing to me now how many people don't respect sleep.

tonineri31 , Toshiyuki IMAI Report

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#14

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” There are 2 people in your life you NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LIE TO. Your doctor and your lawyer.

Dancersep38 , DarkoStojanovic Report

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Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES! Your doc doesn't care if you used drugs, he just needs to know so other procedures do not kill you because of that. Also, he's not even allowed to report you to police.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” If you're borrowing it for a third time, you need one of your own.

Kayge , Thomas Quine Report

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True but for some things the other person may not be able to afford one of their own. We have lent our lawnmower out to a friend a few times but he can’t afford to buy one for himself. He is trustworthy so we have no issues lending it to him.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” FFS be self-aware. I mean, be aware of the space you occupy, of your movements, of where you are. Don't zig-zag on sidewalks, don't fill the entire width of the sidewalk. Be aware of your kid moving their arms like a helicopter. DON'T STOP IN YOUR TRACKS TO CHECK THE F**KING PHONE, walk slower, or step aside but don't be that kind of person.



Just be aware of your body and don't be a dummy. This applies to whole families too, and people in cars, in supermarket lanes, wherever.

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Karl Baxter
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should apply to big family groups walking at a snail’s pace in staggered formation through IKEA. Why on earth have you taken 3 generations there for a day out anyway? IKEA is a terribly disorientating circle of hell anyway without making it worse.

Aunt Messy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or on the street. I've lived in three large cities where tourists congregate. I would also add; Get your camera out of my face, do NOT demand that I "get out of your view" (i LIVE there, you don't), and no, I don't have time on my way to work to give you a city tour.

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Chriscella
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to hate this. Then I had a stroke and now I do it but can't help it. My balance has gone, so I lurch and stumble and I 'suddenly' have to stop cos I am so very, very tired! I'm so sorry for being this person now :(

Ksenia M
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't need to apologize, it's pretty easy to tell apart people with medical conditions from a-holes though.For example, I wouldn't get mad at a 80 year-old lady with a cane slowly moving on the street, but a teenager looking at their phone would really piss me off.

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J. Zingler
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I learned this working at the local steel mill. They had a course (1 full day) and signs everywhere. The sign shop here really is a multinational now. So, the signs: Do not block entrances, do not stand in certain areas that are marked in certain colours etc.... And then they showed us our opponent. 30-40 metric ton coils of steel. Some as hot as 800° C. They do not argue, they do not talk, they do not bully. They just follow their automated way of transport. You become self aware there very quickly or you die.

J. F.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2 or more people walking in the opposite direction on sidewalks and not walk behind each other to make room -.-

Peko
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you stop in front of me I will walk in to you. I'm massive enough that you will notice.

El Dee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't REALLY about self awareness, it's about being willing to consider other people and their needs as opposed to only caring about yourself. They are just selfish..

Steve Haigh
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't stop to check your phone or chat to someone when you're in a doorway! I regularly see people exiting shops and stopping to pull out their phone, blocking the door for everyone else. I also worked at a company where people would stop in doorways to chat about all sorts of stuff because they saw a colleague coming from the opposite direction. Stand to one side and conduct your conversation out of the way!

CatWoman312
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate slow walkers. They usually occupy a lot of space on top of that so you’re having to do the awkward “excuse me” when you pass them

Caroline Nagel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At the bottom /top of escalators or stairs, or in doorways - there's always big gathering of bodies. Why?!

Lola
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s something you need to be taught as a child. I can’t tell you how many times my parents used to say be aware of the surroundings. Their voice still echoes in my head.

Sherryist
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this the most. Have self awareness. This is a commonality in tourist cities. Try to be respectful of your community or the community around you. It's for your safety too.

Seabeast
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially don't walk six abreast down the MUP, forcing people to go onto the grass to pass you.

Biljana Malesevic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many times I just got furious because of this! We have many narrow sidewalks in my town so when someone just stops in the middle and talks on the phone what are we supposed to do? To get on the road and risk getting killed, to stop and wait for them to finish the call...? Just move into some entrance nearby! Also, people talking to each other on the sidewalk and they stand one from each side so I have to just walk between them and be sprayed with their spit! People who go in three or two and just occupy the whole sidewalk and we have to be like spiderman and climb the facades to avoid them.

François Carré
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get the impression most people live in complete solipsism : they act like the whole universe is a movie about them alone, only they exist and matter, all the rest is a giant movie set filled with vague silhouettes of fake people.

Bob McChesney
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be aware when wearing a backpack that you are hitting people behind you when you turn

Walter Brameld
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't stop just inside the entrance to look around. Get out of the damn way first.

Ozacoter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need to admit that I am always annoying because I have zero self awareness. I really try but I get distracted and I end up annoying people

Marianne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Especially on train platforms. The platform is full of people, there is only one way where you can walk and the person in front of you walks super slowly and suddenly stops because they decided that this is the perfect spot for them to stand.

Johanthan Ingensson Logan
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOL. Welcome to Seoul. People have no peripheral vision and zero f***s to give.

Tricia F- S
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter was in a wheelchair PPL stopped I would ram them and sweetly say OH IM SO SORRY

Lynne Harbison
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many people out together walk in a line ACROSS the sidewalk, forcing others to go out onto the road. They JUST WILL NOT MOVE. Don't be an entitled brat.

Simon Cataudo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stopped dead in my tracks when my best friend called me to tell me his son had died. I couldn’t have cared less if I inconvenienced anyone else. Sometimes people have good reason to do what they’re doing.

okpkpkp
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because I have major problems with my getaway sticks, I walk very slowly with a cane. I stay to one side yet everyone zooms in front of me, to the sides, and behind me. I'd get back in my wheelchair if I could get into more stores, buildings, sidewalks, and bathrooms. And I am aware of my areas.

Susan Moore
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an electric wheelchair and if the sidewalk is narrow I take up most of it. I always say sorry but get some nasty comments.

bill marsano
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That kind of persona is defined in "The Laconic Lexicon" as "having his face in his phone and his head up his ass."

Adrienne Kushner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when you are in a line to pay at a restaurant (remember when we used to go out to one?), and 3 people are in line when only one of them is paying. Stay seated at your table, visit the restroom, stand some other place!

Mike Rodrick
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Supermarkets are where people truly piss me off. The best is the person in line who has to argue with the cashier about a 50 cent coupon. That's asking for a throat punch.

Caroline Driver
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, this photo is London, so there are no sidewalks, only pavements

Isabel Care
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have shouted "Charge" for years, when a polite "Excuse me, I need to get past" is ignored. When they turn and look I smile and wave. When I could manage to walk with a trolley I would pull faces and hunch over with my elbows out and pretend to aim at them. I also shout "Run for your lives, woman driver" to the teenagers that deliberately stand in the road, they move instead of swearing and staying put.

Kyra DarkStar
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't be those two people who block an entire store aisle with shopping carts so they can talk.

christie lowe
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LADIES, stop dragging your husband/boyfriend with you to go shopping. He does not want to be there, and he is usually in the way of other shoppers. This also goes to people who drag their small infants/children out late at night. They are crying because they are hungry/tired/need to be changed and really should not be out past 8:00pm!

WhatEvenIsLife
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another one where my husband drives me nuts lol. He's oblivious in the grocery store and will stop in the middle of an aisle and hold up a whole group of people. I'm forever moving the cart out of the way with a sigh.

Demetri Bryant
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Virtually NO ONE is aware in this way. People act heavily entitled in their self-absorption

EQXL
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is so bad. Just be a bit more forgiving to one another. Shared responsibility which everyone should take.

Jill Tremblay
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is along the lines of #1 - common sense. #2 - having manners.

Sue User
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I try to be aware. But for some reason, some days I have absolutely no sense of where my body is in relation to other things. I will run into the door frame, misjudging the opening.

Paradise
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YUP. My kids were running around on their scooters down a pathway today and we practiced staying on our rights when someone is walking by. Have to teach them in the house all the time to not just stop. The dog does it, too.

Nico C
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't get in someone's bubble.. used to frustrate me even before the pandemic and back then my "bubble" was only about 3 feet, not 6 as it is now. People who have a history of trauma and anxiety can feel very uncomfortable with people appearing inside their bubble or jostling them. It often happens to me at the grocery store, especially standing in line at the check out. There's plenty of room, you don't need to be literally breathing on someone.

Synsepalum
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, when in a group, don't walk shoulder-to-shoulder when walking down a sidewalk. It takes up the whole sidewalk, and it's a tell that you're a tourist from a small town in a big city, making you a target.

Stephanie Hatton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor self-awareness and poor spatial awareness can part of Executive Disfunction in people with certain diagnoses. Like Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, Intellectual Disability, brain damage, just to name a few. Of course this isn't the case across the board. But also be aware that people may be doing the best they can. Your job is to be kind.

Kimberley Gayle Thomas
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I learned this when I was 4. I’m still in shock there are those older & younger than me that weren’t taught the same.

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Yvette Desmarais
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially when traveling and at the airport. Get out of other people's way.

Black Panther11
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In india a lot if places Dont have sidewalks (most places do in big cities) so the government puts some sand on the side of the road and after that we have to zigzag and adjust to the circumstances.

Dav Carro-Ripalda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do not agree with this. We are not robots going from one place to another at same pace. If you do not like people or cities go and live on the country side. If i want to stop while walking on the street, you should keep enough distance to be able to see me and avoid me. I do agree there is other people and i should not occupy the whole sidewalk, but i am not in a car, looking for a roundabout to change direction.

Lisa Yario
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate the people who wander down the middle of the parking lot. Wandering like cows in a field. I moo at them.

Logically Reasonable
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

COVID = stay 6 feet away from others. When I was young, this was called MANNERS and SOCIAL ETIQUETTE!!

Angus Carnegie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

is this an American joke that I'm too new Zealand to understand?

Alice Teasdale
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, how acutely aware I am of my autistic son's lack of self awareness. He's over 6 ft, intelligent as, but NO IDEA about his body in space and how it effects those near him.

Will Ivansco
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's mine, when you're biking, and there's a group of people who walks shoulder to shoulder, and doesn't want to move.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don’t leave your shopping cart in the middle of the grocery aisle!

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don’t mess up an apology with an excuse.

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Julie C Rose
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I moved back to New Zealand from Japan, I noticed that we tend to give a reason more than Japanese people do. I don’t dislike that; in fact, in a lot of cases I think just think “S**t happens; you don’t need to offer the reason for my approval”.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Wash your hands after the toilet. Walkouts are shocking.

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Little Ms. Quirky
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

surprising how many people don't wash their hands after using public toilets even in covid

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” If you borrow someone's car, fill up the tank before you return it.

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Remi Flynne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only borrow if you are insured to drive that car. Uninsured drivers are breaking the law.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Announce your visits.

You can't be offended that nobody is home when you decide to drop by at random.

Plus it's super unfair to the host since it gives no time to prepare anything and they might have to drop everything they were just doing just to entertain you or cancel their plans.

Dionysus24779 , AFL-CIO America's Unions Report

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Peko
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really hate it when people do that. I have a phone, you have a phone, everyone and their uncle have a phone, just give me a heads up.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Leave it in a better condition than you found it.

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#23

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't let friends drive drunk. Maybe offer to get an uber or something for strangers, too, if you can

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't start drama at a funeral.

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#25

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Always ask if a dog is friendly. You never know what kind of weird behavior things a dog can have, even when they appear friendly at first.

I had a dog who would be fine until someone bent down to pet him. He was very protective and nearly bit a few people. I'd they has asked first we could have told them that he doesn't like being pet by strangers.

I would hate to have to put my dog down because you are an idiot around animals.

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Jen Gem
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, please put your dogs on a leash! I can't tell you how many times I have been walking my dog and someone's off leash dog has come charging at us. "Don't worry, he's friendly" they always yell. Well good for you, but my dog is not. He was bit by a "good dog" who was not on a leash and is traumatized by strange dogs running up to him. Just because your dog is well behaved doesn't mean everyone's is.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Turn down your bass! Be more considerate of your neighbors in apartment complexes.

I'm tired of people sitting outside my window in their car with their bass on full blast...at 2-3am! ((That's why I'm awake right now.)) I'm also greatly annoyed at my neighbors turning up their music (bass) to the point where it's rattling things on my walls. After getting multiple complaints you know it's a problem thus are choosing to be bad neighbors. *Also they have a lot of small children who should definitely be asleep but of course arent.

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Kristal
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This includes bass in a sound system for TVs when in apartment living.

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#27

Be kind to strangers even if you’re having a hard time

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Buy a plunger before you need a plunger.

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#30

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” When driving a car, dont be nice, be predictable. People being nice leads to a s**tload of accidents.

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elStiJneriNO
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

be predictable = use your blinkers and use them before your car is already turning

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” When out to dinner with a group, only the person who ordered the least expensive meal/combo of things can offer to split the check evenly.

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Vic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But then it puts pressure on the person and makes it awkward. The person with most expensive bill should offer that everyone pays for their own.. or as we say India TTMM: Tu tera, mein mera (roughly translates to: you pay yours, I'll pay mine)

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#32

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” I have two:

1. do not wear perfume or cologne if you’re getting on an airplane.

2. do not use speaker phone or play videos on your phone without headphones in public places. Especially in public transit.

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María Hermida
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why not perfume or cologne? I'd say "do not pour half the bottle" as many people do, but a little? Everything smells, really, and I think the smell of "people", like sweat or God only knows what else, is far more annoying than perfume.

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#33

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” If someone asks you a question, finish what you’re saying with, “what about you?”

Enjoy noticing how many people actually don’t do this.

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#34

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't look through the f**king gap of bathroom stalls.

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#35

DON’T USE THE URINAL IN YOUR DREAM! You’ll thank me later.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have done this once as a teen but instead of a urinal it was a toilet, and of course I ended up wetting the bed. I have had many dreams about toilets but they are usually gross, have no doors, flooded, full of crap, covered in toilet paper etc so I never use the toilet in those dreams and don’t wake up needing to pee. Bit of a gross dream I know but I can’t help it lol.

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#36

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” If you have to cancel on a friend, it should be your responsibility to reschedule.

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Elizabeth Stewart
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exception to this: chronic or severe illness (ex: cancer) I am in and out of the hospital frequently and am sick quite often. My brain is also drained dealing with appointments and treatments and such. The friends who understand when I have to cancel AND ask me again in a few days to reschedule make a huge difference. They are some of my biggest support while I am trying to fight this.

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#37

If your going out to dinner with other people, and theyre paying, dont order the most expensive thing on the menu, go cheap

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Jo Johannsen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

With one exception: if a billionaire ever takes me out to dinner, I am gonna enjoy. Yes, I know it's not gonna happen, but being honest.

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#38

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” If someone whispers, you whisper back.

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#39

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” If you're going to listen to music, videos, or anything else on your phone that requires sound and isnt a phone call, either wait until you get home or invest in some headphones.

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40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't talk to anyone at the urinal.

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#41

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Don't ask for something if the person only has one left (gum, cigarette, piece of cake, etc.).

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#42

Dont sneeze directly into another persons face.

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#43

Not pointing out flaws in someone’s physical appearance

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Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unless they can fix it in 30 seconds (like clean teeth, spritz a deodorant)

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#44

Don’t just say things like “I love your baby bump!” to some random person.

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#45

Raise your children in a loving environment, but always make sure you respect them as individuals as well. One day they’ll be living their own life and might have to decide whether or not they personally want to take care of you when you’re old/sick/deteriorating.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with the start but not the ending. I don’t want my kids taking care of me when the time comes that I can’t look after myself.

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#46

40 Of The Best Answers To “What Is One 'Unwritten Rule' You Think Everyone Should Know And Follow?” Stand up when you shake someone's hand.

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#47

Knock twice before opening the door.

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Truthsayer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should be “don’t open the door until you have been given permission or you have made absolutely sure no-one is in the room before you open it.” Knocking and opening before giving some a chance to deny or pause entry is makes the knocking moot

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#48

The probability of meeting someone you know increases dramatically when you are with someone you don’t want to be seen with. Don’t do it.

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Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one makes no sense at all. If you are embarrassed by being seen with someone, you should be extremely ashamed of yourself for being so shallow and rethink your decisions why to hang out with that person at all.

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I have 2...

1. Don't touch someone you don't know; you might get throat punched. And for that matter, if you DO know the person and KNOW they don't like to be touched, just because you're their mother doesn't give you the right to touch/hug them - and saying "I'm going to touch you" before you do it, just makes us tense up. And when you feel that tension, don't start to rub our shoulders to relax us. Respect boundaries.

2. Just because you're elderly and think you have the right to speak your mind doesn't mean you actually should. Keep your trap shut and mind your own business, you old biddy.

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Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one is weird and very personal. Not a general life rule at all

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