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No one is perfect; no matter how much we idealize a person—be it a family member, a partner, an idol, or someone else—they ought to have flaws. At least one. And even though it’s important to try and accept people for who they are—the good and the bad included—sometimes that one flaw can outweigh all the good qualities they possess.

Redditor u/WoodenInevitable1574 recently asked the ‘Ask Reddit’ community what is one red flag in a partner that negates all the green ones, and members had plenty to share. Ranging from dishonesty to the daily number of selfies taken, their answers covered all sorts of factors that would fend them off from otherwise even the most perfect of partners. Scroll down to find them on the list below, together with some of the OP’s thoughts on the matter, which they shared with Bored Panda during a recent interview.

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They voted for Trump. That shows a clear lack of kindness, integrity, and intelligence.

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Aaron W
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Supporting Trump is not a political position, it's a psychological one.

Michael P (Perthaussieguy)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From an overseas perspective, I see all the Trump supporters caught up in the grip of his cult leadership. He is very persuasive at his rallies. All the signs are there. Especially the one that he says he is always right and everyone who disagrees with him is wrong

Libstak
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How after all the "best people" he has had first being loyal and then being thrown under the bus can any trumper think he is a man of integrity? Don't get me started on the lies, his arrogance is so 6 year old flexing like he rules the world, I just can't comprehend how people can be this stupid.

Charlie the Cat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The worrying thing is the amount of people that did vote for him. That is a whole lot of stupid.

norabest321
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse when you see members of your own family support him and his monstrosities. It's soul-crushing to realize those people you respected were so full of hate and fear and you never knew it. And now you can never forget it.

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Kady LaHaie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also that they're wildly racist, homophopbic and feel it's ok to rape women.

Anthony Jordan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do away with the antiquated Electoral College. It's an outdated racist system that has allowed two Republican presidents who would otherwise not have won if we had in place a system that counts the popular vote, as every other developed country in the world does. The Electoral College is not democracy!

norabest321
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And then let's talk about American gerrymandering. It's almost as stupid as the electoral college.

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Kylie Burgoyne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can people still support him after he got his followers imprisoned, he lied, he put national security at risk, and more.

Bread
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love this game of 'spot the butthurt trump supporters" in this comment section. Beautiful. 🤌

Corvus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whatever personality they may have had, it's long gone.

George D
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this needs clarification. I have friends that are devout Republican and voted for him in '16. That's fine, freedom of choice. They have since moved on from him in every way. It's the ones that STILL back him to this day. They scream a bunch of false equivalencies and think he's being singled out, but the reality is this, say Obama lost his second election and instead of bowing out gracefully, he did exactly what Trump did on Jan 6 but with BLM protestors, and refusing to turn over ALL classified docs, and trying to coerce the state of Georgia into "finding" 11,000 votes. They would be rioting in the streets demanding his hanging, literally. It's the most egregious double standard in recent memory.

Corvus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love it when they complain about the media being against Trump. Ummm, that's literally their JOB, is it not? The media's role is to be a watchdog of sorts, to expose the wrongdoings of those in power, not praise them.

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Steve Robert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone who supports a pathological liar, bully, convicted sex offender, a willingness to destroy our country for personal power, and a truly evil person, is a person I don't want around me. It's not political, but a person that idolizes such an evil being is guilty by association, and has no place in a civilized society. Period.

b
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And people who can't answer this correctly: "January 6th was a...?" Anything other than an insurrection or coup attempt is a giant red flag and a hard no.

Andre Pomerantz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You feel the same about people that call Kenosha anything other than a rioting mob?

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Tim
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And many people voted for him twice. And then there are people who didn't vote in 2016 or even voted for Clinton, who voted for him in 2020.

Daniel Heys
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not that I’m for Trump, but I just wanna say that having a different political view is fine. I don’t think Trump or Biden is the right answer.

Tim
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Very true. But unless something unforeseen or very drastic hairball, we're stuck with Republicans and Republicans Lite(TM).

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lazypanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I do not support trump, I have to say that people who voted for him could be nice people who regret that decision. I'm gonna get down voted to hell, I know, but I do have to say this.

Saint Tim the Godless
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought the same after the 2016 election. I can no longer hold this view after 2020/2021.

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Saint Tim the Godless
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was an R for 30 years. I know these people. I hope the rest of you are ready to get off your moral high-horses and fight, because they'll never, ever stop until the rest of us are dead or subjugated.

FlatEarf2.0
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And people say the left is open minded, caring, and accepting. No they only accept you if you agree with them. Down vote me you leftist accepting people. Lord knows you won't agree with me so you'll silence me

Danielle Lee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who think our votes really matter and that we really have a say in who runs our country, it's all a facade to make us look like we have a choice

Jestinna Welch
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know, 2016 Trump was bad but I could at least understand why people supported him. Over the 4 years during his term I watched him destroy families, communities, and then managed to divide the entire country. Now, I just have no clue what on earth could possess someone to support such a deceitful, disrespectful, treasonous criminal!! S**t don't add up y'all...

Eat Dirt
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You guys do realize pretty much all politicians are garbage and trying to put down one side or the other just makes you ignorant or worse complacent in whatever stupid s**t the side you support is doing.

Kimberly Wiltshire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had a co-worker, not American, that supports Trump and the maga movement. He got fired. The people who didnt work in his section all thought, but he was good at his job and nice. He was bare minimum effort, act like a douche when the boss is gone, wants more pay despite half performing, not nice at all. Was glad to see him go. Sadly, he didnt leave before being the dirwct cause of another co-workers permanent injury out of spite. Not kidding. When my boss told me people complained about his dismissal siting he is nice. I said, no he isnt nice. The fact that he supports maga should be the first clue. Even if he is doing it semi-ironically supporting a movement that is demonstrably hurting a country and its citizens while your safe in your social democracy an ocean away where it has no direct impact on your life shows how little you care about people and how tone def you really are. It also tells everyone how you want to behave in the world.

Saint Tim the Godless
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey Trump supporters, thank you for teaching me how to truly, deeply hate a group of people! It's a new experience for me.

Maggie Fanelli
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Literally half of voters voted for him. It’s pretty arrogant to write off everyone that voted for him like that. Look at the mess Biden has caused, and that’s not even mentioning his flagrant corruption.

Haha Nope
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a hard time blaming some of his supporters, he promised the world to these people even though we all know that he can never deliver. That being said, there are some very dense people that just refuse to do their research and will just follow him blindly even as he makes the most bizarre claims. (like QANON level claims)

Christopher Follmer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His supporters have access to the same info we have. They are adult citizens of a republic and have adult citizen responsibilities toward democracy and their fellow citizens, which they have failed at respecting. Stop apologizing for people who willfully want to kill innocent people.

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Mer☕️🧭☕️
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a MAGAt is a huge turn-off, red flag, INCOMING ALARM, and everything else you can imagine. It takes an extreme lack of common sense, consideration, empathy, and intelligence to support that agenda.

LuckyTanuki
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell me which side you vote for without telling me which side you vote for lol. What clear bias. You are actually mentally deranged if this is a turn off for you. Not only thinking that all trump supporters lack the above-mentioned, but also the idea that anyone who doesn't share your political alignment is a "bad person". How narcissistic can you be lol. And before you morons scream trump supporter, no. Independent party valuing ideas from both sides.

Josh Lindberg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg no it doesnt just because some one votes differently from you doesnt mean they're bad pearson. Get your heads out of your a*s

Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. I actually posted this on another article, but when a friend decided to support that POS I realized we no longer had shared values. She went so far as to claim she was "Pro-Life". Oh, really? Did you decide that before or after I took you to the clinic for your SECOND abortion? Friendship terminated (see what I did there?)

Riley Quinn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since the Reagan 80's, I've loathed Republicans. That's when they went off the deep end into a hateful territory I want no part of.

Jay Mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow...that's about the most inarticulate account of the nearly 50% of our country that I have ever heard.

Brandon Parisien
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trump supporters hate liberals...guess who else hates liberals: facist dictators. Normal conservatives don't hate non conservatives.

Sam Kenith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So... Democracy and opinions aren't allowed?? I'm not a trump supporter, but this is just insane 🤦🤦

Sgraham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those poor stupid people who watched his hideous TV show thought they were voting for a strong smart leader. Now that he proved to be a vindictive twelve year old they can’t admit to themselves that they are wrong so they double down.

Ambry Petersen
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is a matter of opinion, and the false idea that in order to care or have kindness you have to agree with and submit to everything someone else says. I can care for others without being forced to, and enslaved to thier ideology. Kindness does not mean allowing others to run roughshod over me and my family. Recognizing others worth should never mean having to abandon my own worth and rights as a human being and as a child of God.

wesley wild
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Blue hair and being a 35 year old student/activist is another one

Lisa Bollinger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of us can separate our feelings from a logical situation 🤷🏻‍♀️

HD
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was a wasted vote, I admit, but the alternative? Ick!

SCP 049
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so sick of y’all. Trump is literally just a normal president like anyone else. I’ve asked anti-Trump people what he did before, they said he posted an offensive tweet BUT THEN WERE UNABLE TO GIVE AN EXAMPLE OF IT. Y’all are r******d. Get some help. This just shows how brainwashed we all are, that voting for a certain president is considered as bad as ABUSE. We’re over here worrying about who votes for some blonde orange while those ching chings over in China are boutta kill us.

SarahBee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, Trump has done a lot more than an offensive tweet. He admitted to "grabbing women by the pussy" when he didn't know he was being recorded. He had a "foundation" which was supposed to be for charity, but he was using as a way to get out of paying taxes, he filed bankruptcy six times to get out of paying businesses what he owed them. This is all before he became president. As president, he tried to blackmail a country (Ukraine, before the war) into investing Biden's son - that's very illegal. He totally f'ed up the Covid response.. He tells lies constantly - he says whatever he feels like, not caring that it's wrong. He lost the 2020 election, filed more than 60 accusations in the court over it, and had every one thrown out for lack of evidence. He tried to overturn a fair election, which is a very big deal. He even cheats at golf! He's really a terrible person. If you only watch Fox News, you aren't getting the real story on what a destructive, immoral person he is.

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Brenda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who exactly you voted for has nothing to do with it. It's the fact no one can agree to disagree anymore. Everyone gets so upset about every little thing it's ridiculous. Vote for whoever you want to, but if we can't have a decent conversation without you getting pissed because you don't like my OPINION on something, then you can shove your opinion up your own a*s. So many people run on feelings and opinions, not many actually focus on the cold hard FACTS anymore.

Susan Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sure the Trump voter in question was just as delighted to have what turned out to be a close-minded individual who judges people on surface qualities alone while believing their own opinions are always correct show their true colors prior to committing to a relationship with them.

BC
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As an historian, I’m torn. On one side, I genuinely can’t imagine what a rotten situation many Americans are living in. And yet, there were enough people to support him on his rise, both left and right (he had a cameo on SATC) that I also feel like the culture supported this from the start. Added to which, I’ve lived through watching the fall of Yugoslavia and the U.S.S.R., but I’ve never seen the fall of an empire… So…where’s the popcorn?,

Allen Packard
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Zephyr343
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not one way or another. I didn't like either candidate so I just didn't vote in that election.

Mia Black
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not sure how it's in America but if you don't vote in Germany this is bad because your vote will still be counted but given to a smaller party, which can then be Nazis. instead, invalidate your vote by ticking too many or too few boxes

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Noyoki Samuran
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop attacking people based on political beliefs people. It doesn't matter to you as a person if someone you know is a Dem or Rep. Both sides are equally frigging stupid in my opinion, and I'm personally offended that every election in the past 30 years has been voting between a poo sandwich or diarrhea soup.

Noyoki Samuran
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People turning political ideologies into reasons to find it OK to attack someone's sanity, psychology, or way of life is a sickness that needs to stop. The amount of over inflated hate towards EITHER group of stupid people who voted for Trump, or stupid people who voted for Biden, needs to stop. We are all stupid in our own way, stop attacking people for their own stupid choice.

Bill Marsano
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I voted for Trumps' policies, most of which were useful; and effective (e.g., controlling the border, amping the economy). It's a pity that his revolting personality was part of the package, but nothing to be done about that. Didn't;'t seem like such a bad deal considering Clinton and Biden, both of whom always have (and always will) escape being held accountable for their own crimes.

Brock Landers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're sad and petty enough not to date someone over a vote then that in itself is a red flag. Now if they personally espouse negative traits? Fine. Biden has said incredibly racist things, I would not assume all Biden voters are racist. Justin Trudeau wore brown face, is every vote for him a show of support for that? Is every Trudeau voter racist?

Slick Rick
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Voting for biden shows they are bigots. The country was great under Trump.

Just another dot of the masses
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't vote but I wanted to add a vote for Biden shows a blatant disregard for racism, political coruption, bribing foreign officials to protect your criminal activities. It's on video but nobody cares.

Jamicus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's rich coming from someone who voted for a pedophile

Alex Freetime
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Because supporting a senile pedo is better. When will you learn that politics is rotten in every side, you're dumber than a Trump supporter yourself

Boops
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Okay, but to be fair, Trump and biden are both pretty bad. Biden is a 80+ yo man who sniffs kids and trump is a big orange carrot who loves his money more than his people.

Corvus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The so-called "sniffing" was just a show of affection. If you find some sexual undertones in it, this is just your dirty mind at work...

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CIKLOP 420
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Shut up. Lame. Literally 3 years have passed and yet you irrelevant clowns still cry 😂

Sean Sean
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Unless it was a protest vote in order to show people that don't vote just how bad things can get if you don't participate in our political system.

Christina Watson
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Wow. President Trump did more for the American people than any other president. You should really do your research instead of expressing your emotions.

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It should say supporting any political figure. they are all garbage. Trump is human trash, Obomma allowed for complex monopolies to happen and to take over and is the reason we are in the state we are now. Bidien should be put down like an old dog. If we have a minimum age to run the county we also need a maximum again. Get off the two-party illusion of choice system people!. it's us VS the elite, stop falling into this us VS us b******t they want us to focus on.

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You can have a different political opinion and not be an idiot. I voted for Trump not because I think he’s better, but because both of them are old men who are mentally not capable of running the country. However, I feel like I can trust Trump more because he's running a business and knows a thing or two about being in charge. Plus, you can't blame all Republicans for what the stupid Republicans did or said. Therefore, you cannot blame all republicans as we cannot be held accountable for the stupid ones. Thank you.

norabest321
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you admit you voted for an old man who isn't mentally capable of running a country. You also voted for a man that has filed bankruptcy 6 times with hotel and casino businesses. You voted for a man that spoke positively about sexually assaulting women. He paid off not 1 but 2 women with whom he had adulterous affairs. ALL of this was out in the open in '16. And you voted for him anyway. As for good/bad republicans...you can 100% blame the moderates too. To quote Martin Luther King, jr. : "The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people." I can absolutely blame any and all republicans. Like you! So thank you for your help ushering in one of the darkest eras in US history. Now go back to 4chan where you belong.

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It's funny because red flagging someone because they have a different view is a massive red flag in itself

Mike Crow
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trumpism is a cult not a point of view. They forgive him for every crime even when he admits he did it.

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Danny rodreaming
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Supporting Biden. If after the past two years you still support the dementia riddle pedophile, there's no helping you.

SarahBee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you actually referring to the QAnon pedophile claims? You believe that shît? That's the scary thing - there Americans who can be so easily deceived!

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Judging someone by a single bubble they selected in a four year cycle shows your immaturity and inability to think outside your own narrative.

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Duckie Measles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah yes, here we have the example of the red flag of only respecting those they find attractive. Trump is the epitome of attractiveness and fitness./s

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Yeah, that posting is the brightest red flag, people who demand that only their political view is right are toxic AF. You can like, dislike, love or hate any political Leader. No matter if it's Trump, Clinton, Biden or even Hitler and Stalin themselves, that doesn't translate automatically to your character. If you are too ignorant to allow somebody else to have a different opinion that challenges yours That you by principle don't allow another person to have valid points to them for their view you are the red flag, and you are the one who lacks love and compassion. And you are even gaslighting the other one into being what you are: the brightest red flag walking on planet earth.

CP
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you think liking Trump is a political view, then you have no idea what is going on in this country.

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Boatswain Bill
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Or they felt he was the best choice for then, like anyone else running for office. Why would they support anyone actively hates them and would strip them of their liberties any more than you would for someone else and the same reasons?

CP
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trump supporters seem to support Trump hurting other people they don't like. If people think Trump is the best choice for them, then that is saying a lot about their personality.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones There's a lot, but the one I have that isn't here yet is animal cruelty, except if it's towards a cockroach.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Only respecting women they’re attracted to.

roasttrumpet , Tirachard Kumtanom Report

The redditor told Bored Panda that the reason they posed the question was an ended relationship. “I asked it as some surprising revelations came up from a failed relationship I was involved in, and I was curious if I was a unique case,” they said.

Professor of psychology at the Derner School of Psychology of Adelphi University, Lawrence Josephs, PhD., pointed out that sometimes people turn a blind eye to red flags and character flaws while in a relationship, especially in the very beginning. It is related to the phenomena of ‘the primacy effect’, ‘the confirmation bias’, and ‘motivated perception’.

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You know the ones that cozy up to their peers while yelling at the waiter that brings their food to the table, mocking a special needs customer on the other table for "fun" and/or talking trash about people with a different skin color behind their backs because how dare they?

I hate those people, and make it a point to avoid them like the plague.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones I have a bunch, but the one that'll get me downvoted to hell? Extremely devout in their religion. Doesn't matter what religion to me - if they're seriously religious, I'm gone.

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The primacy effect refers to people presenting the best version of themselves when they first start dating someone, in order to make a good first impression. Dr. Lawrence Josephs suggested that such a positive impression can influence our judgment and the way we perceive the person in the future.

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That often leads to confirmation bias, which means people tend to selectively look for evidence that could confirm their first impression. Similarly, they often choose to ignore anything that can challenge the positive impression, including all sorts of red flags.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Never admitting they were wrong, even in the face of evidence. Never apologizing.
No empathy for other’s distress.

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According to Josephs, cognitive biases are driven by motivated perception, as people are highly motivated to believe in the idealized image they’ve created of their partner (due to being tired of being single or lonely, and similar reasons). However, he believes that people do notice red flags despite the primacy effect, the confirmation bias, and motivated perception clouding their judgment.

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The OP revealed to Bored Panda what is one red flag that negates all the green ones for them: “I consider abuse of trust as the line that cannot be crossed under any circumstances. No matter what other qualities one may possess, once they break my trust, it's nearly impossible to gain it back.”

#9

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Anti-science.

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#10

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Cruelty. People can hide it pretty well sometimes but when you see it, it’s best to dip.

strawbisundae replied:

Especially animal cruelty. My old art teacher from the third highschool I attended told me (literally old, she was 72) that, how someone treats animals is often how they treat people and you do not want someone like that in your life.

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#11

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Absurd possesiveness („you can’t wear that“, „you cant go there“, „you cant talk to that guy“).

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The OP believes that sharing stories and discussing similar topics can help people dispose of certain negative emotions. “Human beings are social animals. They take no joy in loneliness, and I'm not just talking physically. If someone else shares your uneasy feelings, they dissipate faster. I make these claims from personal observation and experience,” they said.

#12

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Malicious manipulation of any form.

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#13

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones If they ever start bragging on how "fortunate" you are to be with them and how they have a roster of people they can be with at any moment.

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#14

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Victim complex.

kgriff112 replied:

Just ended a friendship I’ve had with someone since kindergarten due to this.

She was always the hero or the victim (ya know, always the martyr), and it was always about her. Sad that it ended after so long but I couldn’t take it anymore, and I hated feeling like a hypocrite, calling myself her friend while growing to resent her more and more each day.

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#15

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones How they treat boundaries. If you set one, someone is either going to test it, or they'll actively try to help you maintain it. And if they're the former, things will only get worse from there in how they treat you.

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People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones ABUSE

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#17

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Extreme outburst of anger.

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#18

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Overbearing jealousy.

No_transistory replied:

My ex. She would go through my phone while I slept and remove and block people on my social media she didn't want me talking to. Complimenting someone's hair? Flirting. Smiling while talking? Flirting. Liking a photo? Flirting.

She could not stand me having female friends. The irony being most of her friends were male. She also never had anything nice to say about anyone or anything. Left a few months ago and I miss her, but damn I tried and tried and just couldn't cope anymore.

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#19

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Dishonesty.

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#20

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones The older I get, the more there are. I'm not dealing with possessiveness, unkindness towards people or animals, gaslighting or other manipulative dishonesty, rage problems, irresponsible financial habits, excessive bathroom humor... I'm sure there's more. And I'm not in the business of changing people.

If we are talking early/first date stuff, though, I'd say being unkind or stingy with wait staff. Quick and easy pass.

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#21

Misogyny.

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#22

Overly sexualizing every interaction with everyone.

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#23

Following anyone in the manosphere. Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson/ Pearl for example.

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#24

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones What they say about people behind their back.

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#25

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Narcissistic behaviour/ manipulation. Doesn’t matter how perfect they are otherwise. Because chances are it’s not actually the real them.

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#26

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Quite a few. Just being rude to people. You can be nice to people in your life,but rude to strangers and I can't stand it.

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#27

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Addiction.

As a recovering alcoholic, that's no way to live.

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#28

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Finding out they want something like kids several months down the road, when in the beginning they swore not wanting any and you're concrete in not wanting any.

Like, I'm not changing my mind so make up yours and stop wasting my time and effort.

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#29

Smoking

(Sorry, but kissing a smoker is absolutely gross.)

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#30

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Lack of communication.

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The whole game mentality and trying to find things to be upset about so the other person has to make it up to you. Been with a few women who would try to make me feel guilty over nothing or just simple things like:

Me: Hey, sorry, I have to work tonight since my major project is due tomorrow, can we get together tomorrow for dinner?

Her: Oh, so what, you love your work more than you love me?!

Me: No, I HAVE to work (this is the first reschedule in months). Maybe I can make it up to you tomorrow?

Her: Yea, youll have to I guess...

Me: *feels bed like Im a bad person and a bad partner, when it is a simple 1 day reschedule for a basic date*

Like this s**t was exhausting and constant. Then for weeks after its brought up like it was a huge issue in our relationship and I still "owe" her something.

I was getting a brand new car which was my dream car, and was so excited, that when I spoke about it, my ex said "sounds like you like the car more than me..." and got moody. Like cant you just be happy with me?

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#32

How they treat people in the service industry/hospitality.
You can be the sweetest most caring woman I’ve ever met in my life that genuinely wants me to be better and is interested in my life and growing together as partners BUT the second they treat someone who may be serving us food or checking us into a hotel or restaurant and treat them like s**t for no reason, then it’s time to take my toast elsewhere.

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#33

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones My first serious girlfriend went on a three year campaign to change everything about me she could.

I started seeing a girl, beautiful, ambitious, came from money, our families had a long but good history together. About six weeks in its getting serious. She's talking about getting her dad to buy her/build her a location she can start a business near where I live and I'm a struggling video producer.

I asked her flat out, "What makes this work for you? You've got these things going for you and I have months I struggle to pay bills."

"You got a few problems but I think I can change you."

Punched out on that relationship a few days later.

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#34

Lack of empathy, impatient, selfish, to name a few.

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"Have you ever considered an open relationship"

Nope, goodbye.

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#36

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Arrogance.

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#37

- Lack of basic hygiene
- Lack of basic skills (how to do laundry, cook simple meals, etc)

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#38

Being domineering and controlling. Just absolutely f*****g no.

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#39

Disliking dogs (or animals in general).

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#40

Getting upset at every little thing. Like don't get me wrong, I understand some people are a bit sensitive or emotional, but you can't be asking for communication and then get upset at everything I say.

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#41

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Over the top solipsism. That "I don't perceive it that way, so it cannot be true" mentality.

chilledkitkat replied:

When I meet someone like that it reminds me of playing peek-a-boo with a baby and exploiting their lack of object permanence.

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#42

Not lack of knowledge but lack of open-mindedness to new ideas and cultures. Lots of people who work against generational teachings of subliminal prejudice do a lot of work but cut ethical corners. It's not about being good or bad, being right or wrong, or holding an opinion. But just generally being humble enough to approach something without assuming or having a stance before a full mental image is formed.

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#43

If they take more than 7 selfies a day... it's oddly specific in a number of ways but I find it says a lot about one's character.

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#44

Malice.

If they lie, it's usually because of trauma and trust issues. They fear the consequences of being honest. I can work with that.

If they cheat, again they don't feel like they can trust me to talk about desires and kinks.

I negate both of these by making sure we can say anything and we can talk about anything. A fling it's one thing. People have their own goals and desires, so long as we both have the same freedoms and understandings, we're good.

Malice however it's different. Their goal is to cause misery to others, manipulate others for their own gain or even just ruin the lives of others. When someone is malicious, you're not a person to them but just a thing to use. There's no value of growth or partnership.

There are people who seem to be straight up wicked beings that want nothing more than to harm others for one reason or another. You can't trust that. You can't work with people like that. They'll use you then blame you for trusting them.

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#45

Hoarding. I just can’t handle the whole illness on a day to day. I’m not strong enough. It’s a huge red flag and hard pass.

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#46

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones Doesn’t see his kid.

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#47

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones How they handle conflict and disagreement.

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#48

When they simply can't speak to you in a respectful way. And I'm not talking about RESPECT I'm talking about they just say hateful, impatient, rude stuff to you seemingly because they think that's what you deserve.

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#49

Nowadays for me the lack of a stable job or other clear way to support themselves.

A student in college living off loans is fine if they have a clear career path thought out. Somebody on their third job this year because every shift lead they’ve had was supposedly a b***h has some stuff to work out before they should be dating.

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#50

1) Being strongly conservative. It sucks, because goddamn do I love cowboys, but every time I've tried it our values are just too opposing and it ends with them mocking my thoughts/beliefs.

2) Becoming too attached/committed too quickly. Learned that the hard way - it isn't sincere overwhelming love, it's a manipulation tactic. Last ex remodeled a wing in his house just for me to use after 6 weeks of dating, and I seriously felt like I was Belle in Beauty and the Beast. It...didn't turn out well.

3) Focusing too much on my finances. I have a graduate degree and a financially comfortable job, which I'm proud of. I still had guys that wanted me to "prove" I wasn't a gold digger by making me pay for everything I wanted, even if it was to benefit us mutually. Vacations, home repairs, holiday gifts for both our families, cars, whatever. Turns out I was the diggee, not the digger. I agree with sharing expenses, but when my ex wanted to skip a wedding and have my dad "cut him a check" for the wedding fund my parents saved for me, I knew I was played.

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#51

Any personality switch - sign of love bombing.

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#52

Snobby to everyone but you.

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#53

When my ex gf would talk about her ex as if she wished things would have worked out.

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#54

When they answer most questions with a political statement.

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#55

Any previous infidelity. Once a cheater there is a large potential for them to repeat it.

Also, being unwilling to spend money on me from time to time (covering dates or whatever). Gold diggers are a huge red flag.

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#56

People Share The Ultimate Red Flag That Overshadows All The Green Ones, Here Are 30 Of The Most Accurate Ones cheating

disrespect towards me

disrespect towards others

disloyalty

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#57

Degradation. I don't care if it's in your nature to be the kind of comedian that always puts me at the butt of jokes or if you think it's sexy to emasculate me in bed, that is just a gateway to being a real d******d to me because I'm letting you get away with so much and there is no going back once I've let you have a few.

I've had friends like this as well, had is the keyword.

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#58

Using ultimatums to get their way.

"You have to choose between ____ and me"

"If you don't like me doing ____ then maybe this relationship isn't working"

"I don't like it when you ____, stop it or I'll dump you"

It doesn't matter what the blanks are, it doesn't even matter if she's 100% right with her ultimatums, this type of behavior is an immediate no-go.

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#59

Refusal to talk about certain aspects of their past. If your partner can't be open to you about their life, including their relationship with their parents, their siblings or other family members, or the fact that they may have been in jail/prison in the past, been an addict or alcoholic - walk away. Your partner needs to be open to discussion about things in their past that could affect your life with them.

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#60

Astrology.

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#61

Lots of exes and all of them being irredeemable people, never any mutual break ups or "I just didn't really feel compatible with them."

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#62

Poor money management skills. Like having an income that can support a domestic driving vacation once a year, but then throwing down 4 months rent on an international vacation and putting it on credit cards?

I went on a date with a chick, and she was telling me about her 3 week vacation to SE Asia. The flight alone would have been a months rent, let alone all the other costs. Then she drops "I had to max two credit cards, but it was worth it!"

I would have stiffed her with the bill after that. Instead I went to the bathroom a short while later, paid my half of the bill, tipped generously, and left.

I am not a sugar daddy, I do not want to be a sugar daddy, and money is probably like the 3rd or 4th most important thing to a functioning happy household.

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#63

Credit Card Debt.

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