Took a woman on a date years ago who did that. Had our waitress constantly attending our table, you could tell she got off on having a "servant." It was a major turnoff. Didn't go out with her again after that.

I have always wondered why people think that it is alright to say that they hate cats. The general response would be "Yeah, I get it. Cats are assholes." If you say you hate a dog, then the whole world is against you. "How dare you hate a dog? What sort of sub-human are you?" To cat-haters: what in the world did a cat ever do to you? So, yes, I'd run far, far away from someone who would harm a cat, or any animal, really.

this is such an incel thing to say

Oh god.. Wolf pack leader, awooo.

There's some sense to this statement. You can have respect for your fellow human and also respect the roles that different people have. If you make a big spill in a mall or airport, will you get a mop or a janitor? Just apologize and show gratitude.

Fact: All drama magnets are negative polarity.

omg - the most violent person I know is a huge litter bug - flings stuff all over the place, disgusting...also a serial domestic abuser and physically violent

Those people also often can't stand jokes of similar type aimed at them.

Took my date to a great restaurant where one of my best friends was our waiter. I introduced them to each other. On the ride home my date said to me " I cannot believe you would introduce me to a waiter... and what is it with you wearing a trench coat to a luxe restaurant.. don't you have anything nicer?" LAST DATE.

That's part of someone's identity, It's important you get it right to respect them if they are sensitive or feel more comfortable with you doing so.

Disgusting.

Yeah, I've never understood people who bond over and constantly talk about things they hate instead of things they like. Sure, it's fine to mention it when it comes up...But to actively seek out things to hate is sad.

A basic apology demonstrates remorse for something you did or didn't do. You start by saying "I'm sorry." Then you identify what it was that you did or didn't do to offend, you show you understand it hurt or offended the other person and how it hurt or offended them, and you tell them what you will do to avoid repeating it in the future. For example: "Hey, John- I'm sorry I told Mike you were getting divorced. You told me that in confidence and I know I betrayed your trust by sharing it with him. I value your trust, John, and promise you that if you ever confide in me again, my lips will be sealed." Notice I didn't offer an excuse like "I did it just that one time" or " I didn't know it wasn't public info." OWN IT when you apologize. Explaining yourself can come later if THEY request it. Otherwise, you're just throwing out excuses and not owning it.

Ex friend kept doing this to me. I would start a conversation that she would wave away with with the comment 'oh, you and your x idea' as though it was weird when it was usually just something I'd seen in the news and wanted to share thinking she'd be interested. She'd roll her eyes and pull faces if she didn't understand or agree. She would demean compliments I got from people to make them appear worthless. I realised her low self esteem got a boost from belittling me. People who only feel better when they try to diminish you are not genuine friends. Real friends would want to listen and support you. Even if you miss the fun times (I do) it's truly not worth the other times when you go home upset and thinking 'what on earth was that for?'.

People who won't apologise. Accept it if you have stuffed up. There is no weakness in recognising that and saying sorry to those you have hurt. It is weak to try and hide it, cowardly to try and pretend you did nothing wrong.

In UK, in most supermarkets, you have to put a £1 coin to get a trolley. If you want your coin back, you must return the trolley. (and yes, we call it a trolley!)

Like when you dont drink alcohol and people keeps pushing you to have one.

She obviously doesn't drive all day for a living

Or not saying thank you when someone holds the door for you

Or getting all worked up about the fact that someone's holding the door for you and react like they just did something inexcusably demeaning and offensive to you.

God if you did that here you'd be glared down with the fury of a thousand suns. Everyone just does it, natural, I think

This should be taught to EVERYONE as simply good manners..

I can’t hold the door anymore, it’ll partially disclocate my hip. The force of holding the door and turning does it. Sorry to everyone behind me!

In high school, nobody held the door for anyone really so the teachers would just put something in front of it to leave it open if the whole class was going. But then I went to college and was amazed by how literally everyone would hold the door for you. They'd walk though and check back behind them quickly to see if anyone was coming, and if you were just a couple of metres away, they'd wait for you. :0 High school sucked man. Also if a large group is coming outside and I'm going in, I'd hold the door for them, and after half of them went through, usually they would hold the door and the others would wait and make room for me to go through so I didn't need to wait any longer.

Yeah since the start of covid I’ve stopped holding doors for people. It’s nothing personal I just don’t want someone walking that close pass me with or without a mask on.

Why should I? They're perfectly capable of opening it themself, so it's not like I'm doing them a favor. There's no point

I do if they don't have arms, otherwise why would you.

Just had that happen the other day. I was walking from the gas pump and I have a broken foot so I'm in an aircraft (boot) and this guy walked right past me and he was a few steps in front of me and he let the door slam in my face. He saw I had the boot on. There was a woman behind me and I held the door open for her and she thanked me.

I actually saw an older man squeeze thru an almost closed door. All I could think was he must have OCD because there is no way someone can be that rude and that petty.

That one - sometimes these days, better make sure it is not considered offensive in any shape, either by some kind of unspoken way to somehow belittle the person behind by implying they are unable to hold up their own door, or possibly being an inappropriate gesture towards the person, while on the other hand, not doing it, could be seen rude, offensive and insensitive, heck, even racist or any other ism-ist, should heaven forbid it, the person be of some other minority than your own. It's a mine field these days, either way, holding the door or not, you are bound to step in it, and get blown up, rapped for something, so i can see where that is coming from. Among everyone else, It's just common courtesy holding the door open for the people behind and passing the buck backwards. Nothing more, nothing less.

Hold it against them if they have health problems ... like back or shoulder problems?? That’s a d**k move if having a handicap is a red flag.

I'm just a seventh grader but EVERY time someone is behind me i leave the door open for them so that they dont need to open the door again

I would like to put forward an exception: not holding doors for people who don't wear masks, because f*ck those guys, they don't care about others and I'm not going to waste any courtesy on them. Everyone else who is close enough I hold the door for, though.

This could be cultural, though.

I wonder what's the limit on that. I work at a tele survey place a few years ago. To leave you went down a fairly long and narrow hallway. I'd hold open the door for about twenty people behind me. After a few weeks there was a caution wet sign holding the door open. I guess someone complained? I was never talked to directly, but that sign never left the door.

Similar to "if they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you."

My sister would believe 100% every critical story about every new boyfriend's exes. Boyfriend after boyfriend - they all had evil exes. Then, shock, discover that her boyfriends were actually the people with the problem. Not saying that applies in all cases but be wary if it's a trend in the partners you pick.

What about a woman thinking it's "cute" when a man cooks them dinner? Are we throwing those women in the trash too or is this a gender specific thing?

100%. It tells me they are more a fan of cults than sports.

I see narcissistic behaviour is rising among people, or maybe it was always there any social just makes it more evident.

Just a quick remark: men are not the only ones who do this

I used to work as a cleaner. I couldn't understand why some people would leave their lunch rubbish on the table when you had to pass the bin to leave the room!

I feel like this might also be the influence of movies showing that you have to be persistent and if you keep trying he/she will fall in love with you so "don't give up".

IMHO? We have to be careful what we mean by "drama", as in, do we mean overexaggerating small problems, or do we mean the person is a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom, or do we mean that they had bad luck and are feeling crappy about it?

I barely work and barely play, i mostly take depression naps. Is it ok?

I've never been religious, but I do like that line in the bible about how when you do good deeds it doesn't count if you brag about it afterwards. Because it's true - you should do kind, charitable things for their own sake, not just to make yourself look good.

Again, TRUMP!

I hate this one. People have always been having their feelings hurt by insensitive (and bigoted) comments. It's just that nowadays it's much more acceptable to call people out on it. For example, decades ago, women had to just quietly take workplace harassment or be fired.

I disagree with this one. There is a lot of politically correct racist and misogynist things said and there are a lot of not politically correct things which are not racist and misogynistic. The preamble is to recognize that you may not agree with what they are saying. That doesn't make it automatically wrong.