Took a woman on a date years ago who did that. Had our waitress constantly attending our table, you could tell she got off on having a "servant." It was a major turnoff. Didn't go out with her again after that.

Definitely a red flag. One of the best/most telling too.

Taught my children from an early age that every job is important. Even the most wealthy CEO would have to clean their own office and toilet if it were not for the lowest paid person.

How you treat people in customer service is a true test of character.

Or as a very sweet (and very posh aristocratic) old couple I had staying in a nice hotel I managed many years ago said ' never trust anyone who is rude to the servants' ...... They were always delightful. One of the things that always made me laugh was that if someone was being demanding or difficult in public, they would remark, rather loudly, that "the lower middle classes are in the room" ...

I was traveling by train with a friend. For me, it was the first time on the train in the first class. Didn't know that they hand you free newspapers. My friend threw the paper on the floor after reading it because "The Cleaners will pick them up!". Never been so ashamed in my life.

My ex cussed out a waitress on one of our first dates. I was shocked and should’ve just got up and leave then and there

Hear, hear!

also service workers being rude to customers, goes without saying

Psycopaths, all the times.

When you always have to repeat everything you ever told him because he never listened.

Yup

I have always wondered why people think that it is alright to say that they hate cats. The general response would be "Yeah, I get it. Cats are assholes." If you say you hate a dog, then the whole world is against you. "How dare you hate a dog? What sort of sub-human are you?" To cat-haters: what in the world did a cat ever do to you? So, yes, I'd run far, far away from someone who would harm a cat, or any animal, really.

this is such an incel thing to say

Oh god.. Wolf pack leader, awooo.

There's some sense to this statement. You can have respect for your fellow human and also respect the roles that different people have. If you make a big spill in a mall or airport, will you get a mop or a janitor? Just apologize and show gratitude.

Fact: All drama magnets are negative polarity.

omg - the most violent person I know is a huge litter bug - flings stuff all over the place, disgusting...also a serial domestic abuser and physically violent

Those people also often can't stand jokes of similar type aimed at them.

Took my date to a great restaurant where one of my best friends was our waiter. I introduced them to each other. On the ride home my date said to me " I cannot believe you would introduce me to a waiter... and what is it with you wearing a trench coat to a luxe restaurant.. don't you have anything nicer?" LAST DATE.

That's part of someone's identity, It's important you get it right to respect them if they are sensitive or feel more comfortable with you doing so.

Disgusting.

Yeah, I've never understood people who bond over and constantly talk about things they hate instead of things they like. Sure, it's fine to mention it when it comes up...But to actively seek out things to hate is sad.

A basic apology demonstrates remorse for something you did or didn't do. You start by saying "I'm sorry." Then you identify what it was that you did or didn't do to offend, you show you understand it hurt or offended the other person and how it hurt or offended them, and you tell them what you will do to avoid repeating it in the future. For example: "Hey, John- I'm sorry I told Mike you were getting divorced. You told me that in confidence and I know I betrayed your trust by sharing it with him. I value your trust, John, and promise you that if you ever confide in me again, my lips will be sealed." Notice I didn't offer an excuse like "I did it just that one time" or " I didn't know it wasn't public info." OWN IT when you apologize. Explaining yourself can come later if THEY request it. Otherwise, you're just throwing out excuses and not owning it.

Ex friend kept doing this to me. I would start a conversation that she would wave away with with the comment 'oh, you and your x idea' as though it was weird when it was usually just something I'd seen in the news and wanted to share thinking she'd be interested. She'd roll her eyes and pull faces if she didn't understand or agree. She would demean compliments I got from people to make them appear worthless. I realised her low self esteem got a boost from belittling me. People who only feel better when they try to diminish you are not genuine friends. Real friends would want to listen and support you. Even if you miss the fun times (I do) it's truly not worth the other times when you go home upset and thinking 'what on earth was that for?'.

People who won't apologise. Accept it if you have stuffed up. There is no weakness in recognising that and saying sorry to those you have hurt. It is weak to try and hide it, cowardly to try and pretend you did nothing wrong.

In UK, in most supermarkets, you have to put a £1 coin to get a trolley. If you want your coin back, you must return the trolley. (and yes, we call it a trolley!)

Like when you dont drink alcohol and people keeps pushing you to have one.

She obviously doesn't drive all day for a living

Or not saying thank you when someone holds the door for you

Similar to "if they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you."

My sister would believe 100% every critical story about every new boyfriend's exes. Boyfriend after boyfriend - they all had evil exes. Then, shock, discover that her boyfriends were actually the people with the problem. Not saying that applies in all cases but be wary if it's a trend in the partners you pick.

What about a woman thinking it's "cute" when a man cooks them dinner? Are we throwing those women in the trash too or is this a gender specific thing?

100%. It tells me they are more a fan of cults than sports.

I see narcissistic behaviour is rising among people, or maybe it was always there any social just makes it more evident.

Just a quick remark: men are not the only ones who do this

I used to work as a cleaner. I couldn't understand why some people would leave their lunch rubbish on the table when you had to pass the bin to leave the room!

I feel like this might also be the influence of movies showing that you have to be persistent and if you keep trying he/she will fall in love with you so "don't give up".

IMHO? We have to be careful what we mean by "drama", as in, do we mean overexaggerating small problems, or do we mean the person is a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom, or do we mean that they had bad luck and are feeling crappy about it?

I barely work and barely play, i mostly take depression naps. Is it ok?

I've never been religious, but I do like that line in the bible about how when you do good deeds it doesn't count if you brag about it afterwards. Because it's true - you should do kind, charitable things for their own sake, not just to make yourself look good.

Again, TRUMP!

I hate this one. People have always been having their feelings hurt by insensitive (and bigoted) comments. It's just that nowadays it's much more acceptable to call people out on it. For example, decades ago, women had to just quietly take workplace harassment or be fired.

I disagree with this one. There is a lot of politically correct racist and misogynist things said and there are a lot of not politically correct things which are not racist and misogynistic. The preamble is to recognize that you may not agree with what they are saying. That doesn't make it automatically wrong.

Or... I'm a nice person.... it's not for them to judge, it's for people who know them to decide if that's what they think.

actually it means something worse : "they don't want to see their kids"

It's easy to assume women who don't have women friends must not like women. When really tons of us are just too f*ckin shy ^.^;;

Wtf is a ride or die woman?

No generation is soft. Those who suggest it should stop paying attention to silly Daily Mail nonsense.

I think the key of the OPs concern is that the men who say she's perfect barely know her... a bit premature to make such an evaluation. Plus those men probably have unrealistic expectations about a relationship with her...