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People Share 30 Signs That Scream Someone Is Having A Secret Affair
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Most of us would really want to believe that most folks are, at the end of the day, good, honest, and loyal. If this is the case in your life, congratulations, appreciate the people you keep around you. Because, unfortunately, some people have learned the hard way that their partner is up to no good.
Someone asked, “People who have been cheated on, what was the red flag that gave it away?” and netizens shared their personal stories. From catching them in the act to piecing together the clues, be sure to upvote your favorites as you scroll through and comment your own thoughts and experiences below. We also got in touch with HappyBean248 who made the initial post.
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#1
She started spending a lot of time at her ‘cousins’ house. Seemed obvious she was secretly meeting up with a dude and using the cousin as a cover story so I checked her phone and was shocked to find I was wrong. She was actually just banging her cousin.
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#2
Hiding her phone when texting. And also, weirdly our cat who would never sit on anyone's lap was constantly sitting with me and on me and then stopped shortly after I found out. Figure the cat was ratting her out. Good cat. I kept the cat.
#3
I showed up at her house to suprise her after work but to my suprise a guy answered the door. Turns out he was her fiancé who was working abroad and had decided to come home early to suprise her also.
I had no idea she was engaged.
Bored Panda got in touch with HappyBean248 who initially posed the question to the internet, and they were kind enough to share some more details. “Curiosity prompted me to ask this question,” they shared, a common thread in many of the posts made in this particular internet group.
Since making the post, it has amassed over 2.1k comments, so we wanted to know if HappyBean248 had any insights into why it ended up being so popular. “I think people found it interesting because it lets them tell their stories of how they found they were being cheated on.”
#4
She had been having an emotional affair with a guy from work but said she wasn't talking to him anymore. We were on a road trip, she was driving, and I was using her phone for GPS since mine was messed up. She got a text from a phone number about seeing her tomorrow. She tried to play it off like it was a wrong number but I recognized it was his and called her out on it. A few days later, on the advice of multiple friends, I went to our cell phone company and got a copy of her call logs. She'd been calling him many times over weeks (not to mention how many times he called her). It was always when she'd "go on walks" by herself at night because she "likes the quiet alone time." Yeah, and the selfies she had on her phone of her looking sexy in a bikini or laying on bed were just because she liked how she looked. I can't believe how stupid I was to believe that lying cheater.
Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 1 year ago
It's not stupid, if you're not that kind of person you believe them, the other way around I see many insincere people being paranoid because they can't imagine others people being trustworthy
#5
Her side piece got tired of her telling him she'd leave me and her not doing it so he contacted me himself and told me.
#6
The friend she previously had a crush on moved back to town, I half-joked that our relationship had an end date.
Suddenly she ignores me every night, her snap maps are turned off for the first time ever (normally not something I care about nor check, but her acting sketchy made me curious), and showed up to work with a hickey on her neck.
Told me she was leaving me to "be closer to God". Turns out God's name is Kevin.
#7
Phone bill showed she was texting this other number 600 a month. It looked familiar so when I dialed it it was a buddy of mine.
#8
The old “working late” chestnut, blowing v hot and cold, encouraging me to go out with the boys, then coming home early and finding her on her back getting banged kinda confirmed my suspicions…
#9
The dead bedroom that lasted 7 years. Each year was some form of excuse involving some sort of medical issue that would just resolve itself without requiring any sort of medical treatment.
The last straw was buying a house in her hometown where all of her childhood friends were a part of a large-ish (for the total population) swinger community.
One of my friends from work came up to me while we were on a break and asked me, “How come I never see you at any of Kay’s (her best friend and host of 90% of the swinger events) bonfire parties?”
I was like, “What bonfire parties?”
Their reaction and the look on their face ((immediately embarrassed and pitying mixed with horror and fear) told me absolutely everything I needed to know. She had been doing this for years. I was clueless because I was convinced that she was completely loyal. I was in an incredibly difficult and traumatic marriage to my son’s mom, my first wife. She committed many felonious acts and was eventually convicted of grand larceny for stealing large sums of money from developmentally delayed adults.
She got caught in a sting operation by a joint task force of FBI and county sheriff. I was not involved and only ever spoke with law enforcement over the phone
She kidnapped our grade-school child, during his recess period, told no one and ran to her daddy, who lives in the next state over from us, presumably believing that she was safe because she crossed state lines…? My take, anyway.
She received 6 whole days in a county jail and then got her rich daddy to expunge her record. We were divorced a year later and it ruined me.
So! I filed for divorce from my second wife immediately and completely lost my s**t on her in the comments section. 🤷🏻♂️
She got the house.
I got my dog, my truck and my trailer and live at my mom’s house again. I just turned 50.
#10
She was really hot then cold, she'd ignore me for days then all of a sudden want to be with me non stop, then after a while she'd ghost again. I thought she just needed some alone time after we spent so long together, which I understand and appreciated, but I later found out that she would start to be distant when she made contact with someone else, then have this hyper fixated mini relationship with them, usually culminating with her cheating. Then she'd come back and be all over me, I suspect out of guilt.
Then other weird stuff, she'd be really cold on me for a while, she went to some camp as a counselor and was really distant the whole time, then randomly sent me a bunch of naked photos of herself, then not answer my texts "because of the bad signal" but by then I had caught on, those pics were for someone else and I was getting second hand nudes of my girlfriend from my girlfriend. We didn't last much longer than that.
#11
Treating me like s**t then being suddenly sweet and interested in my day. Phone was always facing down and hated when I would hold it for any reason. Never wanted sex. Would be in the bathroom for an absurdly long time. There’s a lot more. When you’ve been cheated on as many times as I have, it’s like learning another language.
#12
My young children telling me they saw him kissing our neighbor and my best friend.
#13
The big a*s hickey she had on her neck that our coworkers noticed. Our coworkers were joking around about the kind of weekend we had. Problem was that i didn't give her a hickey. She didn't even deny it when i confronted her about it. To add the hell cherry on this c**p sundae, all of this happened on Valentines Day. It's why I hate that blasted holiday.
Samantha 1 year ago
That is really tacky and sounds like teenage behaviour, and I hope you have found some special lady. Not quite the same but it reminded me of a Valentines day a long time ago. I was with my ex husband and we went out to a very nice romantic restaurant. Once we had talked about our daughter, we both knew that there was nothing to talk about and we both sat there feeling uncomfortable, every one around us were happy and in love, and I felt so empty inside. I still remember that every Valentines day, it was a light bulb moment especially when he said 'I forgot to get you a card' with a couldn't care less look.
#14
She forgot her phone home and a guy sent her a message reading ''your dumbass bf home? finish work at 2''.
She got home to an empty appartment and a note detailling what happened. Packed a go bag, laptop, clothes and paid for the next 4 months of rent. Scorched earth. Never saw her again. Hope I never do.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago
Shouldn't have bothered with the rent but good for you for leaving bad rubbish behind.
#15
The last guy to cheat on me, I remember the first sign vividly... we were out bowling with friends, he had been on his phone more than usual, and then I saw it, he smiled at his phone. Not in the " haha my friends are funny" kind of way, you know the smile. I got that awful feeling in my chest. After he denied anything going on, I went on his phone while he was asleep ( I'm not proud of it) I saw the messages, I had met the girl that night too.
Nae who and where 1 year ago
Heartbreaking is what it is. I know the smile, if you ask what they're smiling about "just saw something funny/cute" or "I'm just reading something" or "playing my game, I just won big". I've heard them all
#16
Crazy jealousy, and rules that only applied to me but not him( couldn't have a lock on my phone, wasn't allowed to have Snapchat, had to share my location, etc). I'm not a jealous person so I never snooped, and I ended up finding out by complete accident.
#17
It's all so cliche. He started caring about his clothes after years of sweats, ripped jeans and old band tees, he shows up in Tod's shoes and a Ralph Lauren sweater. Suddenly his phone is on silent and never out of his hand or pocket. Missing and unaccounted for periods of time. Serious manscaping.
Nae who and where 1 year ago
Ahh, yes the new serious manscaping that they never cared to do before. I'm so sorry you went through this, it's devastating.
#18
Change in communication patterns is a big one.
I’ve been cheated on 5 times and every single time they start showing a lack of interest beforehand. They’ll distance themselves and stop checking in, almost like they’re trying to limit the damage done by forcing distance between you.
But in the end it’s more-so about them protecting themselves and their own interests than you. If they really cared about you, they would break things off before it even reaches the point of cheating. And that is something I wish I realized sooner.
#19
When I came home early from work and there were men's boots by the door that weren't mine.
Plus, them f*****g in the bedroom was pretty good confirmation.
They're both very lucky they aren't dead right now. That was my first instinct.
#20
Her mom asked me to come over, and showed me screenshots from her computer of her making plans to meet up with a guy while I was at work. Her sister confirmed that it was her boyfriend, and she was planning on confronting both of them, and asked me to be there.
I declined, and ended the relationship with a phone call. Her sister was more my type anyway. The jealous looks from my ex when I came over to see her sister *were priceless*.
#21
"My friend that I met online from another state is coming to visit me. Don't come over that night. He wants me to finally watch (that one studio ghibli film. name escapes me. castle in the sky or something?)" I was so naive it barely bothered me at the time. It hit me later 💀💀💀
#22
I think that learning to differentiate between our anxiety and our gut is crucial. My spidey senses went up, and I remember we were kissing and he kissed me differently or touched me differently…. *something* was different and I just knew and called him on it.
ravenhorse 1 year ago
Upvoted for, "learning to differentiate between our anxiety and our gut is crucial."
#23
The person she cheated on me with messaging me on Facebook saying “nice ring you bought her, felt good up my a*s”….. funny in retrospect.
#24
Meeting her boyfriend gave it away for me. Apparently I was the side piece the whole time. First girl I really fell for and she absolutely crushed me.
#25
The knot in my stomach. Gut feeling. Intuition.
Fun fact it's right about 80+% of the time. Give it a search.
But it was how he'd always answer curiosity with anger and anything but an actual answer. Also dreams and achievements were downplayed or insulted.
Nae who and where 1 year ago
Yeah, that feeling is real. It's literally a deep pit in your stomach with a bizarre feeling when something is up. Generally there are other clues as well, like hiding the phone/tablet/computer/etc, defensiveness, distancing themselves then being overly affectionate. So many clues
#26
Started becoming very distant, as if he was not in the relationship at all anymore. Would disappear in a room for a while, to obvs have text chit chats. Our relationship was already getting to its end though, we both knew. He was just a coward and couldn’t be alone for a second and had to find the next person before breaking it off.
Best way to put it though, you can kind of tell if your relationship is not going well. You would hope they won’t be weak enough to cheat and just tell you they are unhappy in the relationship. But if you are seeing no return in a relationship, better to break it off. It’s never worth dragging a dead horse.
Samantha 1 year ago
I agree with this. I had a very strange break up recently. My ex was loving and sweet and spent a lot of time with me (always being very affectionate) then one day without any warning (after he stayed the night) I got a nasty and very vindictive email from him ending out long relationship. I think he found someone else, but his behaviour has me puzzled so much I became really ill. Would have been much better if hadn't dragged things out and ended it in a nice way. Sending a hug x
#27
Less sex was happening and she blamed it on meds. She constantly reassured me and I didn’t pressure her. After like 2 months without sex I mentioned maybe bringing it up to her doctor and she said she would… slowly became less affectionate to the point where she seemed repulsed.
But she kept reassuring me.
It took me taking her out to a nice lavish dinner only for her to get straight to bed and go on candy crush when we got home for me to finally snap. I waited until she went asleep, looked through her phone, and got what I needed.
She still denied and reassured me even in the face of evidence to the contrary.
A week later she told me that she fell out of love and hadn’t loved me for “months”. But she never made me the wiser.
Still icing that wound. 2.5+ year relationship.
I’ve learned in the future that if a relationship doesn’t work for me, I don’t need to justify it or expend energy trying to fix it. Sometimes it just stops working for me and I need to nut up and cut the losses. But it’s just like… you think you can trust someone :(
#28
Writing in her diary that she thought it was a "woman's right to sleep around and play the field" in modern times even while in a committed relationship, then leaving said diary open to that page on her desk in plain view, after having asked me to check her physics assignment for her.
SheamusFanFrom1987 1 year ago (edited)
Write in plain sight "It is a person's right to break up with unfaithful partners regardless of rhymes or reasons offered" and make sure she sees it! -_-
#30
I'll offer three:
1) We had vacation for two all planned, last minute invites a friend. Not the guy she was sleeping with but a platonic friend who just by being there c**k-blocked the whole trip.
2) Off-hand casual remark, 'I thought the inside of a Mercedes would be fancier.' No one we both knew drove a Mercedes.
3) We had our own apartments but I was at hers frequently (3-4 nights a week). Suddenly, she was too busy, and it wasn't a good time to come over.
What do you think ?
Michael Hunter 1 year ago
What I learned from this article is I show all the signs of cheating but I am not. I like my phone face down bc if I can see the screen I tend to look at it even if it's not on and I don't like people, even my wife, using my phone to google bc....I look up weird stuff. Thought pops in my head and I google it.
Wintermute 1 year ago
Here's a fun one. She admitted it to me because she thought I'd find it sexy, though I think that was just an excuse to unburden herself of guilt without repercussions.Short story, she spent a big chunk of family savings to go "visit friends" across the country, which was actually true, except "visit" meant "have lesbian sex with." A couple months later she dropped the bomb like I should be turned on by it. I wasn't.
R Dennis 1 year ago
I was "the other guy"... and knew it. I kept a journal and their son (2) gave it to their dad because he wanted him to read him a story. It was basically about how uncomfortable I was with the situation and that even though he was abusive, I felt guilty because that wasn't who I was. They both knew I had feelings for her - I told them I was uncomfortable being the third wheel when they hung out because of it. They both separately told me that I was the buffer that kept them together (WTF!). She made a move on me one night and I didn't say no. It blew up and they separated. Because they had two young kids, she went back to him and got pregnant with their 3rd child. He abused her again and was abusive towards the kids and she left him for good. We got back together and raised our four kids - together 33 years, married 24 so far.
xczechr 1 year ago
How does her kid get your journal to be able to take it to the dad?
Load More Replies... Squishy 1 year ago
My partner is very open about literally everything, sometimes I laugh and am like "why did you even feel the need to say that", I on the other hand am very reserved, I like my privacy, even from him with some things. I keep a journal that is for me and only me as I deal with a lot of shame because of childhood stuff as many of us do lol, and I can't fully be myself around anyone until I work through it. I feel most comfortable with my partner more than anyone else on the planet for sure, but just because I like to keep secrets doesn't mean I am cheating! Heck I can't imagine loving anyone else the way I love my partner, it's just not possible. But I am fortunate enough that he knows that, so even though I show all the signs of a cheater at least he knows I am not one haha
The Doom Song 1 year ago
My ex cheated on me and I guess I just kinda knew. After a few weeks of them acting weird and distant I finally asked "is there someone else?" I got no reply and we broke up a week later.
Nils Skirnir 1 year ago
1. Porking a groomsman 2. Fellating same on beach in Ensenada 3. 3 day trips each month to see friends 4. One of your friends seeing her going down on someone in a car Divorced in less than a year
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Donna Harris 3 weeks ago
The couple who used to come into the tavern I worked at...every day for lunch. Corner booth, holding and pawing at each other the entire lunchhour (who does that after being married for years) The old cliche of the makeup, hairdo, weightloss, clothes transformation....
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Michael Hunter 1 year ago
What I learned from this article is I show all the signs of cheating but I am not. I like my phone face down bc if I can see the screen I tend to look at it even if it's not on and I don't like people, even my wife, using my phone to google bc....I look up weird stuff. Thought pops in my head and I google it.
Wintermute 1 year ago
Here's a fun one. She admitted it to me because she thought I'd find it sexy, though I think that was just an excuse to unburden herself of guilt without repercussions.Short story, she spent a big chunk of family savings to go "visit friends" across the country, which was actually true, except "visit" meant "have lesbian sex with." A couple months later she dropped the bomb like I should be turned on by it. I wasn't.
R Dennis 1 year ago
I was "the other guy"... and knew it. I kept a journal and their son (2) gave it to their dad because he wanted him to read him a story. It was basically about how uncomfortable I was with the situation and that even though he was abusive, I felt guilty because that wasn't who I was. They both knew I had feelings for her - I told them I was uncomfortable being the third wheel when they hung out because of it. They both separately told me that I was the buffer that kept them together (WTF!). She made a move on me one night and I didn't say no. It blew up and they separated. Because they had two young kids, she went back to him and got pregnant with their 3rd child. He abused her again and was abusive towards the kids and she left him for good. We got back together and raised our four kids - together 33 years, married 24 so far.
xczechr 1 year ago
How does her kid get your journal to be able to take it to the dad?
Load More Replies... Squishy 1 year ago
My partner is very open about literally everything, sometimes I laugh and am like "why did you even feel the need to say that", I on the other hand am very reserved, I like my privacy, even from him with some things. I keep a journal that is for me and only me as I deal with a lot of shame because of childhood stuff as many of us do lol, and I can't fully be myself around anyone until I work through it. I feel most comfortable with my partner more than anyone else on the planet for sure, but just because I like to keep secrets doesn't mean I am cheating! Heck I can't imagine loving anyone else the way I love my partner, it's just not possible. But I am fortunate enough that he knows that, so even though I show all the signs of a cheater at least he knows I am not one haha
The Doom Song 1 year ago
My ex cheated on me and I guess I just kinda knew. After a few weeks of them acting weird and distant I finally asked "is there someone else?" I got no reply and we broke up a week later.
Nils Skirnir 1 year ago
1. Porking a groomsman 2. Fellating same on beach in Ensenada 3. 3 day trips each month to see friends 4. One of your friends seeing her going down on someone in a car Divorced in less than a year
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Stannous Flouride 1 year ago
If you know anyone who writes country music or blues songs, send them this article. It's a gold mine for both.
Donna Harris 3 weeks ago
The couple who used to come into the tavern I worked at...every day for lunch. Corner booth, holding and pawing at each other the entire lunchhour (who does that after being married for years) The old cliche of the makeup, hairdo, weightloss, clothes transformation....
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