From time to time, we all think of how unfair the world is and how much we’d like to remove all the suffering there is. The truth is, we cannot do that and we have to find ways to live in these difficult times, with all the ups and downs.
Or we can do the opposite and embrace the sadness and despair. We can look into the eyes of whatever it is that causes us pain and stand strong. In fact, there’s this whole corner of Reddit titled “Make Me Suffer” that does exactly that.
The group which is home to a whopping 1.1M members is dedicated to sharing pictures that capture anything from wholesome suffering to sad moments of reality. Scroll down through this new batch of “Make Me Suffer” examples below and be sure to check out Bored Panda’s previous feature with more pictures from the community.
Meanwhile, to find out more about our inner fascination with dark material such as serial killers to violence to disasters, we reached out to Helen Marlo, a licensed clinical psychologist and Jungian psychoanalyst who provides psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, and consultation. Helen is also a Professor of Clinical Psychology and the Department Chair at Notre Dame de Namur University. She was happy to share some very interesting insights into this compelling topic.
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“First, most of us are painfully aware that darkness, what some call evil, exists. We may satisfy some human, psychological needs when we engage with it through the news, movies, or documentaries,” Marlo said.
Marlo argues that “when watching another story, and in particular, these dark and traumatic stories, we witness another person’s narrative. Narrating one’s own story, especially if we have a story that includes trauma, is emotional and hard.”
Meanwhile, “watching another’s story can give us a sense of gaining understanding or relief for ‘free,’ because we are hearing about another’s story but not doing any of the hard, psychological work to create our own story.”
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Marlo explained that “it is a little like someone who reads a self-help book and imagines they will get better by reading about another person’s process. This is especially true if the story that we are fixated on has personal or traumatic meaning for us.”
Moreover, becoming immersed in another’s dark story can be a vicarious version of what psychologists call, ‘identification with the aggressor.’ “Rather than being the victim, one identifies with the aggressor and their story, and can displace unthinkable, dark impulses onto the person they are viewing, who may be doing things they may not be able to think about but wish to do.”
Marlo explained that “they may also feel more powerful, safer, strong, dominant, and in control by viewing another doing unthinkable things but they are watching and don’t have to act it out in their real life where it would have negative consequences internally and externally.”
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The Jungian psychoanalyst argues that “by watching about another’s story, we may gain a sense of control, understanding, or vicarious mastery over our own aggressive fantasies and anxieties about evil, whether we imagine ourselves in the role of the perpetrator and/or victim.”
This could explain Netflix’s hugely popular docuseries “Dahmer – Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story” (2022). Arlo argues that the Jeffrey Dahmer story, for example, gives us at least one version of a real-life story of a serial killer.
“We may feel as if we have a better understanding of senseless violence and the irrationalities of evil by becoming immersed in learning about one person’s story. His story is a mixture of elements—some common and some uncommon—which enables us to compare and contrast this story with our own life story and our own fears, wishes, and/or fantasies.”
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But how can we explain our fascination with this kind of raw, violent, and unpleasant material? Well, Marlo says we can look for answers in the psychological mechanism of displacement.
“We all can feel some sense of vulnerability in knowing we could be the target of random violence or evil. We may feel a fascination and some voyeuristic pleasure in seeing another’s story and hearing how it happened to someone else. I am not suggesting that many of us wish harm on another person or even get sadistic pleasure in others’ suffering, although some people do.”
The Jungian psychoanalyst continued: “Rather, knowing that humans can hurt and inflict suffering on one another, and that irrational and uncontrollable things happen, becoming engrossed in another’s dark misfortune can help us feel less vulnerable and find some relief.”
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Surprisingly, watching such stories may, actually, increase our empathy for others’ suffering. “In the story, we might imagine this misfortune came from natural consequences, poor choices, genetics, karma, bad luck, or the fickle finger of fate. And becoming fascinated by another’s story may help us feel, irrationally, that we can protect ourselves from it; or are inoculated from it and/or that we can learn from it and escape this misfortune.” So in the end, it likely has a completely opposite effect than the material itself.
Another explanation for our fascination with the dark side of life can be found in a basic law of psychic behavior known as “compensation,” Marlo told us. “This is especially true when we are surprised by someone that we may not think would be utterly fascinated by stories of dark news. The law of compensation posits that when one attitude and approach to life is overdeveloped in consciousness, then a corresponding compensation emerges from the unconscious to help bring the psyche back into balance.”
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Marlo argues that “this other side compensates for thoughts, perceptions, and emotions which fail to reach consciousness because we may dissociate, repress, or defend against them in a variety of ways.”
She gave an example: “a pacifist may have flashes of violent imagery, thoughts, and dreams that they banish from awareness. These flashes can be their psyche’s way of raising their awareness about this other side of life, to gain more balance, and become more whole. The pacifist may become fascinated by these dark stories as a way of bringing some of the dark, aggressive, combative energy into their otherwise peaceful life as a pacifist.”
Marlo recounted how she had a patient who loved watching true crime. “In her professional work, she had to be very responsible, personable, kind, and empathic to many underserved people. Watching true crime helped her have an outlet from her otherwise kind and generous life spent serving other people.”
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And if you ever wondered if something’s wrong with you because you’re drawn to dark material, you’re not the only one and it can also be perfectly explained. Marlo argues that being human also means having dark impulses or undeveloped, “hurt part of ourselves that Jung called our Shadow.”
Marlo explained Jung’s theory of Shadow further: “We all have a shadow that expresses itself in moments of pain, stress, and unconsciousness. Typically, objects of fascination on crime shows or social media are people whose shadows are big; out there; exposed for our viewing.”
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Think of it as a public display of impulses that most of us usually keep inside and underground, Marlo argues. “It can be fascinating for us to see others’ shadows out there whether their shadow is familiar or foreign to our self. In addition, we stay fascinated with their story because it gives us an opportunity to see what happens when one lives out this dark side—something that some individuals could not even imagine let alone dream of doing.”
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The guy also complained because he's unable to find a job. Should try haunted houses
How you can afford modifications in this scale without job?
Load More Replies...Just pay a look on him before all these "modifications" (search for Anthony Loffredo)
My thoughts exactly. It jumped right out at me that there was a odd indention where his nose would have been. I'm honestly creeped out by this guy's appearance. I'd hate to meet up with him in the dark, especially if he were an unfriendly person.
Load More Replies...He'll lose his teeth eventually too if he's not meticulous and careful - them gums are gonna dry up, shrivel, and soak up every bacterium on the planet. :/
Load More Replies...Poor people out der have to get arms legs amputated for medical reasons and are devested and this dope thinks hopping around on 1 leg is COOL🤦♀️🤯🤷
My arm, including shoulder was amputated and I have pain every day of my life. This guy is a fool.
Load More Replies...Of course! Because people who don't conform to your personal ideals of normality are obviously mentally ill.
Load More Replies...Every time I see this sort of thing, I'm sure they don't like themselves very much...
Nope, in fact I’m sure they absolutely loathe themselves that’s why they try to hard and spend so much time, money, energy, pretending to be something they’re not.
Load More Replies...How does he go outside? How can he breathe? This is the scariest thing I ever saw. Make a horror movie about this guy
I just read an article and apparently he even has a hard time speaking due to the fact that he removed his upper lip. This is just sad.
Load More Replies...He also sharpened his teeth. I believe he only considers himself like 30% complete or something? Even with the other modifications, I wonder if he’ll consider himself complete.
I don’t know if someone like this will ever be satisfied. It seems like an addiction.
Load More Replies...I guess if you want children to run away screaming at the sight of you... mission accomplished?
They may not be doctors. They may be "body modification" practitioners.
Load More Replies...Surgeons who go along with this kind of mutilation should have their medical licences revoked.
According to July 2022 interviews, he’s having a hard time finding a job bc people “judge” him. No kidding, buddy.
I'm not a psychologist, but I think he might have body integrity disorder /gen
and finally , he will cut off his head, hoping to be best in his niche
I don't have an issue with Body's modification but this is mental illness. Does he hate himself so badly that he would on purpose destroy his health this way?
The surgeons responsible for this should be in prison in my opinion... gross misconduct.
I remember years ago you got looked at funny for having a tattoo especially being female, people have to go further and further now to try stand out plus advances in technology etc. I try not to judge if they're happy and not hurting anyone let them carry on. The person who may end up saving your life could look like this, who cares?
This weirdly copy-flipped image of one side of Anthony's face is kinda...eh. Otherwise I dunno, let him live his life. But yeah I mean, I can't imagine cutting parts of my face off being very comfortable...
Not to mention the tip of his nose... That's a punishment in some cultures.
I imagine it might be some sort of surgical addiction
Load More Replies...I wonder what he thinks when he gets up in the morning? "I'm too sexy for my face..."
The so called doctor. Needs. Arrested and disbarred. Do no harm is the FIRST rule of medicine.
He doesn't sound very well, seriously I think he needs to spend some time in a mental health facility
This man should've been institutionalized before he did that much mutilation
I try not to judge because I have learned in my rather lengthy life that we don't all March to the same drummer and that's not necessarily a bad thing but every now and then I am blown away by what someone will do to garner their 15 or so moments of fame. I have a hard time believing that any reputable doctor in the civilized world would perform this for any amount of money and should be investigated by whatever medical board of ethics governs them.
He also does not live in America. So in France they may have different rules about body modification.
This is sad on so many levels! Looks like his nose is off as well as his eyeballs tattooed. Teeth sharpened! WHY?? Do you really not like what you look like that much? You want to be someone, something else?
It's actually most likely a disorder called "surgical addiction". I believe it's compulsive.
Not only is this against a Hippocratic oath. But whoever did this the doctor is more likely going to be sued by the entire surgeon organization that they work for.
He’s going to end up looking like that character in Beetlejuice that’s sitting in the lobby waiting for their name to be called when it gets of old age..
Just why just why hasn't mental health professionals stepped in yet?
But if I want to remove my uterus I need a psych eval and my husband’s input 🤦🏼♀️
I bet his mouth and nose are extremely dry (which can cause A LOT of many different infections)
Why in the world would anyone want to do such a thing. Sounds like the guy needs to be put in a psych ward for some serious issues.
This is the Mom that the little girl in #20 drew!!!!!
Wonder how he makes enough money to support himself and pay for all this? I imagine getting a job could be rough.
To each their own...however: how does he hold down a job? And just like that I'm thinking like a middle aged-conservative. I guess, jobs come in all ways, shapes and forms.
AND WHO AGREED DO THESE PROCEDURES?! please tell me this is fake. I beg of you. Lie to me if you need to.
He cut off his nose also. To me in my humble opinion he has carried it a bit too far.
OMG - this is a real person??? And as a tattoo artist he gets rid of his fingers?!?
The bigger question is when can we ask just be happy in our amazing bodies that carry us around every day and are gifts?
WOW! All of the judgement coming from folks. This gentleman isn't mentally unwell and has thought out carefully what he is doing to HIS body. I bet a bunch of you are all for a women's body autonomy, right? So what's the problem when someone wants to modify their looks? It sounds like a bunch of you are #1 judgmental and #2 hypocritical.
When people are so addicted to body modification that it affects their health, there is something mentally wrong. He can't hear properly (the outer ear helps gather sound), speak properly (lips are necessary to form certain sounds), and his dental health must not be good if he can't close his mouth (dry mouth contributes to decay). And the outer nose has health functions as well (filtering and warming the air, preventing infection) I'd hate to see what he looks like when he gets a cold and the mucus just flows all over his face. And fingers are rather necessary things as well. And apparently he is complaining now that he can't find a job, either. That isn't surprising.
Load More Replies...Is this the guy who cut off his ears to celebrate the end of lockdown?
If we're all products of our childhoods this guy's must have been pretty disturbing. Good lord.
Wait a minute. Are you telling me that that profiting on a person by cutting pieces of his body, because he think, he is someone else. Is bad thing? Wow very problematic.
The truly sad part is that they aren't even an alien. Just a stupid human.
Don't be absurd. This has nothing to do with transgender people. But you managed to get one thing right, they do deserve compassion. Not judgment from fools.
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My wife had to ask me if I was okay as I couldn't breath after reading this. I may have broken a rib laughing.
Load More Replies...Regarding the comments, I'm obviously not the only one feeling uncomfortable right now, so I‘d really like to know: What is your default sensation while looking at posts like this? For me it's always a tingling in my feet.
Idk, came straight to the comments to confirm I should NOT look at this list! 😅 (Tingling in feet is a flight response though, I think? Like you want to run away...)
Load More Replies...Who hurt you BoredPanda, who hurt you? This has to be one of the more disturbing things that has been posted on this site.
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I should not have read that. I'm still shuddering and trying not to puke.
Go ahead. I've already vomited so you won't be alone (it was the mold behind the fridge that did it for me).
Load More Replies...Nothing. Don't worry about it. Eat these chips, you don't need more trauma.
Load More Replies...Then throw it all outside and stomp on it, right? That's the next line, right??
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I made it to the end! It's time to go to bed now and my retinas have been burned and my brain is fried. I'm calling work, maybe it's not too late to take that overtime since sleep isn't happening.
My wife had to ask me if I was okay as I couldn't breath after reading this. I may have broken a rib laughing.
Load More Replies...Regarding the comments, I'm obviously not the only one feeling uncomfortable right now, so I‘d really like to know: What is your default sensation while looking at posts like this? For me it's always a tingling in my feet.
Idk, came straight to the comments to confirm I should NOT look at this list! 😅 (Tingling in feet is a flight response though, I think? Like you want to run away...)
Load More Replies...Who hurt you BoredPanda, who hurt you? This has to be one of the more disturbing things that has been posted on this site.
This post was a train wreck, on top of a car wreck on top of plane crash, you just couldn't look away. 🤦
I should not have read that. I'm still shuddering and trying not to puke.
Go ahead. I've already vomited so you won't be alone (it was the mold behind the fridge that did it for me).
Load More Replies...Nothing. Don't worry about it. Eat these chips, you don't need more trauma.
Load More Replies...Then throw it all outside and stomp on it, right? That's the next line, right??
Load More Replies...BP tricked us with showing the tamest pics on the main page & then showing us these horrors!
I made it to the end! It's time to go to bed now and my retinas have been burned and my brain is fried. I'm calling work, maybe it's not too late to take that overtime since sleep isn't happening.