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“Forgot To Take My Medication”: 50 Wildest Ways People Justified Their Affairs To Their Partners
Lying, cheating, and deceiving are human traits. They're bad, of course, but that's human nature for you. Cheating in a romantic relationship is probably the worst, as it's a betrayal of the most intimate kind.
It's hard to determine whether cheating is common. Many people don't want to admit they've cheated – for others, it's hard to describe what exactly is cheating: does texting count? Is flirting cheating? Not everybody draws the line at extramarital sex – for some, emotional infidelity is just as bad. However, researchers have attempted to do surveys on the topic. According to Professor Nicholas Wolfinger, 20-25% of married men cheat, and 10-15% of married women cheat.
But what this netizen was interested in wasn't how common cheating is. They wanted to know what reasons people had given their partners for having an affair. They asked: "What excuse did your partner give you after cheating on you?" And people came with some incredible, hard-to-believe stories.
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#1
"You just had a baby by emergency c section 5 weeks prior. I was lonely." Threw the whole man away and got a real one. So much happier now. Glad he did it otherwise I might have stayed.
#2
“She’s so much like you, it didn’t feel like cheating.”
“It’s your fault you found out, I did nothing wrong, I tried to keep you from knowing so you wouldn’t be hurt.”
“You weren’t in town, what was I supposed to do?”.
#3
I have a scar on my tummy from a C-section and he said he wanted to see a real woman's body. Gotta say that effected me for a long time.
#4
I was working 3rd shift to provide for our family. She said that it was my fault for leaving her alone at night knowing how horny she gets. I moved out so fast it made her head spin.
Vasana Phong 6 months ago
I can’t stand the reasoning for this one, so if he or she wasn’t providing then that’ll be the excuse
#5
“I forgot to take my depression/anxiety medication for the last week..I think I was hallucinating..”.
slappy_mcslapenstein: I've actually seen that happen. I worked in behavioral health. A woman came in during a manic episode and was hallucinating. She thought every man was her husband. We found her in the shower with another patient. She was mortified when she became balanced again and realized what she had done.
#6
"I NEED to have some form of polyamory, and I didn't think you'd be open for that"
after I said REPEATEDLY that I would be open to that, just to communicate. Turns out he just wants to f**k anyone they think is hot while his partners only sleep with him. F*****g bastard of a human.
#7
"My psychiatrist told me to." Yeah, sorry but no doctor is going to recommend that you cheat on your partner of 7 years. 12 years later and it still kills me inside.
𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐦-𝐏𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚 6 months ago
Sad to say, I HAVE heard of more than one therapist basically recommend cheating. I think those people need to lose their licence.
#8
"I thought I could do better". We'd been together over 25 years.
crazygirlinthehall: My husband said the same thing. Together for 27 years.
Brazen 6 months ago
First guy I lived with said "I'm only staying with you until I find someone better." He also said he didn't understand why other guys were interested in me and no girls were interested in him. Wasn't too long before I found someone who liked me for me and wanted to be with me. Men like that are sad little boys inside.
#9
“She was gonna k*ll herself” when he explained that he didn’t cheat he actually saved a life ❤️❤️❤️ with his penis.
flower petals 6 months ago
Do they have that treatment at the ER..? Are there penismedics..? 😳🫢
#10
“You weren’t acting like a wife” - i was the sole financial provider, stressed out, mid-pandemic, son was just diagnosed with Autism and I lost my father to Cancer.
#11
"It's a girl. I'm not into girls but I was curious." Nah, still counts.
SweetPotatoMermaid: I know, right?! I went through the same thing with an ex-girlfriend.
It took about a week to untangle myself from that mess. She managed to cheat again during that week, but with a guy this time, and assumed we'd just hit a rough patch and could work it out.
I had been adamant and very clear since I found out about the first cheating that this was the end and that I wanted nothing to do with her.
Like nah, girl, I value myself more than your nonsense. I cut all ties and contact. She's tried to reach out through various methods over the years and I've never replied to her.
#12
They came home one day with a huge hickey on their neck.
I asked,"So where did you get that?!"
They said, "I fell down and hit my neck on a curb."
I can laugh about it now. 🤣.
#13
"We had already kissed, I would've looked stupid if I stopped there!".
#14
"I figured you were already sleeping with someone else". I wasn't.
RudeTheories: This literally just happened to me today in a way. My fiancée and I broke up last year and I thought it was mainly us drifting apart. Found out today she was cheating and when I asked her about it she confessed it was because she thought I was cheating on her anyway.
Bullet dodged I guess.
#15
"You're too good for me".
thepumpkinking92: My wife is definitely way too good for me... which is why I do my best to not f**k up and make it last as long as possible before she realizes it and leaves me for someone better.
And if any of you tell her, I will hunt you down and catch you like a fish!
Thee8thsense 6 months ago
Well, if you cheated on someone, that excuse becomes a self-fullfilling prophecy, right?
#16
"I thought he was you."
I'm a tall white guy, she cheated on me with a much shorter black guy. Lol.
#17
Me: We've been dating for nearly a year, why haven't I met your friend Richard you always talk about?
Her: Because he's a guy and I know how guys don't like girls having guy friends.
Me: I've never had an issue with that, and as you know I have female friends, who you've met.
Her: I'm protecting you from your own anxiety!
- I get suspicious and look through her phone and find sexting, them meeting up etc and absolutely no mention of me ever, I confront her -
Her: if you wouldn't have looked through my phone you wouldn't have been hurt, that's your fault.
- I end the relationship, she hopes Richard leaves his wife for her, he doesn't, she gets back in touch with me-
Her: What you did was wrong, two people have to agree to end a relationship you can't just end it.
-i blocked her-.
#18
"We were on a break."
We were not. She just said she wants to go to her hometown because she missed her family and childhood friends and having a little me time would be fun. I don't know in what world that even indicates a break.
Zeikos: That's like saying you're on a diet between lunch and dinner, lol.
#19
It was a long, messy story. The short version is that my ex was suffering from depression (which I didn't really understand or recognize at the time), and she decided that I was part of the cause, so she started having an affair.
When the guy's wife found out about the affair, she call our house to confront my ex and to let me know about it. (The guy had started the affair with my ex because his wife was pregnant with their child. Lovely guy, right?)
Anyhow, that affair ended, but my ex still wasn't happy. In less than 6 months, she found another guy who was single and lived a bit further away. In early December, she told me she wasn't going to be home for New Year's Eve because she wanted to spend it with her new boyfriend.
By that time, I had already decided that it was over, so I just said, "OK. Now I can send the letter to the landlord cancelling the rent of our apartment, because I'm moving away." We divorced about 3 months later, and I moved from Germany to Switzerland. (It sounds more dramatic than it was - I only moved about 8 km / 5 miles from the old place, but on the other side of the border).
When I talked to my ex, she claimed that she had the 2nd affair because I wasn't jealous enough and didn't fight hard enough to keep her after the first one. We had been living in a dead bedroom situation for nearly 7 years by that time, and I was just f*****g tired of the whole thing. I never cheated on her, and she treated ME like I was the reason she had to go f*****g other guys.
#20
He said, 'I thought you knew?' What a bulls**t excuse.
Looking back, he probably was high. He turned it into this whole thing about how he thought I was so smart that I just must have KNOWN he was cheating, and since I wasn't angry since I had to have known, I must have been okay with it. The mental gymnastics of it all.
#21
Didn't give an excuse. After sleeping with her ex, she just said, "i had to scratch that itch." She was pretty damn cruel.
Horrendous at the time, but it turned out "that itch" was chlamydia.
Luckily, i wasn't touching her long before that point.
Every cloud and all that.
#22
"i was depressed" 🙄
He and my sister (who is 15 years older than me) had an affair in our home for 18 months. I hold them equally accountable and screamed at them equally before cutting all contact and ties to them.
I told her very crazy jealous boyfriend that she f****d my ex, and I told all of our friends and family that they mutually decided to carry our their affair. When the "please stop telling people what we did" calls came, I told them "no because I'm depressed" lol.
#23
She was supposedly "super christian" and told me she didnt think god would want us to be together. Immediately goes on camping trip after with 2 dudes and she ended up dating both consecutively. Cheated on me with one, then cheated on him with the other, then got cheated on by him when they got engaged.
#24
My ex gf said she was manipulated into having sex with the other guy. She went over to his house and she felt sorry for misunderstanding the relationship between them two. So she said to me: “ I felt sorry for him. So for making it up to him I had sex with him one time and one time only.”
I stood up and left. I never saw her again..
#25
"I didn't think that you would care." Was the first one.
"I felt trapped by him, and I didn't know what to do." Was the second one.
"Anybody would have have done what I did. You know how good he looks. Besides, I deserved to finally have sex with a hot guy." I will admit, that one stung a bit.
The Darkest Timeline 6 months ago
1. Justifying bad behavior; 2. Needs more context; 3. Disrespectful and cruel.
#26
She had room in her heart for two soulmates and wanted me to let it continue. We were married for 6 years. Still are, but Ive started divorce proceedings and she flew off home with him. Whatever, theyre both unemployed and shes been leeching off me for 10 years. I gave her everything she ever wanted; a house, a support network, my time and devotion, and she decided "fixing" this dying man was worth giving everything up.
#27
His words: because A. I gained weight while pregnant and, B. He was bored because he felt he knew all there was to know about me. Cue his 7 mistresses/misters over two years during the early AIDS crisis, so I (a virgin before marrying him) had to have an AIDS test.
#28
"You had a GF before marriage, while I had saved myself for you" (which she didn't, actually).
The Darkest Timeline 6 months ago (edited)
This is why you should never obsess over or be with someone that obsesses over your “number” or what kinds of sexual experiences either person has had prior to the current relationship. That sort of deep insecurity is a huge red flag. I mean, if you want to talk about it and you can handle it like an adult, go for it. But lots of people just can’t stand not being on “equal footing” when it comes to sex. Those are emotionally immature people that can’t make good partners until they learn to just let it go and be happy with what they have rather than worrying that they “missed out” or that they won’t be “enough”.
#29
Not partner but when I caught my father he just blamed it on being bipolar turned out he never even had it.
#30
Because I wanted a kid now and you haven’t gave me one, WTF.
hardrad2009 6 months ago
When my coworker learned that his son is not his he asked his then wife why. She simply told him that she just wanted the baby from “somebody more masculine and cute” and “who is ready to make baby’s anytime and don’t have fertility issues”. After this she was extremely surprised when she learned during divorce proceedings that she need to go for alimony money to the biological father.
#31
Being poly she loves everyone so she thinks it was a free pass despite being in a closed traid.
#32
“I wanted to see if my feelings for you were real”, so I brought home your roommate's friend.
#33
I know I haven't done anything wrong God knows my Intentions, whatever I did was to myself and not you bla bla, I was very young, all men do this etc.
#34
‘I’m human. I make mistakes. I was drunk.’
Yeah. Screw you.
#35
“I was so lonely and I just felt so disconnected from you.” Okay, she had an affair while I was in the hospital with staph infection in my spine. Honestly, the absurdity is kind o funny in hindsight.
#37
“I wanted to have the whole high school experience. His relationships only last a few months so we can get back together then.”
“I wanted something else.”
“I was having a good time in Vegas and I didn’t want the night to stop. But also I don’t love you any more, but we live together so I didn’t know how to break up with you.” - after going to a friends birthday party in Vegas and then being very cagey and vague about the trip when she got back and I asked how it was.
Three separate relationships.
#38
That it was my fault for being safe, boring and stable and not providing drama. That she has to seek excitement out elsewhere so this is really all my fault.
Alexandra 6 months ago
This is the world upside-down: safe, boring and stable is good for people and excitement is only moderately so. Yet people want to feel excitement and happy all the time. There is no such thing as being always happy. Sometimes you are but most of the time you are, I hope, content with your life and grateful for the people you love in it.
#39
"I don’t have to justify myself to you."
#40
From my wife of 10 years, not long after Christmas.
Day one “I feel like we are disconnected and we need to spend more time together. I feel bad because I have been texting someone at the gym for two weeks, nothing sexual but we need to work on us, I’ll stop talking to him.”
Day two: “it has been sexual, ok we will do counselling, I’ll stop talking to him” two hours later “I don’t want to stop talking to him”
Day three: “it’s actually been more Iike 2 months, we are over, I’m leaving and I don’t want to do counselling”
Guy was a member at her gym where she is a PT, nearly 20 years younger than me, lived at home with his mother still.
We have two kids. After he actually turned out to be an a*****e (surprising), she wanted to do counselling, the after a month or so she picked up with another member of her gym.
She has totally changed, doesn’t spend time with the kids anymore, is always too busy to actually engage with them, promises them activities and always disappoints them. Her personality/behaviour have shifted from being one of the kindest and most dedicated mothers I have seen, caring and loving towards me and dedicated to family, to never being home, ignoring the kids and just being cruel and deceptive. She hasn’t moved out even though she keeps saying she will, because I do all the house work and look after the kids and she gets to do what ever she wants.
#41
Him: "I didn't think you would mind."
Me: "You could have rolled over and asked."
My boyfriend and I had been together for about 6 months and things were going well in the relationship from my perspective. One evening, the two of us plus two of my friends all went out for drinks and ended up back at my bf's place. My two friends fell asleep in the living room, he and I went to his room.
I woke up to my bf and one of my "friends" fooling around next to me in the bed. They acted surprised and couldn't understand why I was upset when I stopped them. Before that event, he and I had never discussed activity outside of our relationship, but I naively assumed that meant it wasn't happening. The relationship between the friend and I ended immediately, while things between the bf and I broke off not long after.
Lesson was to always be clear about expectations, in this case - monogamous vs open relationship. Saves a lot of trouble later on.
#42
“I didn’t mean to”
B***h wym, you tripped and your d**k landed into her vagina?
Another good one (different person when I was much younger) was “we just made chicken nuggets!” That was it. That was the excuse. After I saw him texting her about their sex. Right in front of me.
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇵🇸🇩🇿 6 months ago
I never understood that statement 'i didn't mean to'. Why did they put themselves in that situation in the first place?
#43
"You weren't supposed to be home till tomorrow" was as close as I got to an excuse :(.
#44
“You work so much, and we work together, so I never got alone time away from you”
Funny, because she could have spent her nights when I worked alone… but instead she spent it with another girl. She would drop me off at work, go to the other girls house/meet up with her, and then leave to pick me up from work at the end of my shift. Oh, did I mention this girl worked with us too?
#45
I used to bartend. He said I basically cheated everyday and I deserved it.
#47
“You were so quiet and would rarely talk to me (I was an introvert in highschool) so I thought we wouldn’t last so I started dating her in secret so when we break up I wouldn’t be alone” 🤨.
#48
"I wanted to see if I could perform for someone else..."
#49
"I didn't mean for it to happen" Woman you slept with three dudes at the same time. She pulled a Bob Ross and had a happy accident. "It wasn't like that" Were you just trying to keep him warm inside of you? Dude must've been on the brink of death. " I just didn't feel the love anymore" You could have I don't know left me then did it but that's too easy. The excuses are always my favorite part.
#50
“It’s just a bad habit I have :(“.
What do you think ?
Ghostpotato 6 months ago
Hey I have one! "It wasn't cheating, we didn't take our clothes off..." (According to this idiot it only counts as cheating if you are fully naked when you do it)
Gavin Johnson 6 months ago
So many words for ‘I’m selfish and I don’t respect you’. Humans are thoughtless, lying, cheating, nasty, selfish beasts aren’t they?
Alexandra 6 months ago
In a general sense, yes, I think so too. It's astounding what people can come up with to justify their behaviour. No accountability at all and worse, no self-awareness at all. Maybe cheating would not be so pervasive if cheaters were more widely seen for who they are.
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Steve Hall 6 months ago
Several of these entries include more than one incident which indicates that the poster makes really bad choices.
Rachel Young 6 months ago
Putting aside all the other rubbish, cheating and abuse the most ludicrous was "it wasn't cheating as we were speaking Spanish" (we're both English but he's fluent). And she was my 'friend'.
Seanette Blaylock 6 months ago
Ouch. Insulting your intelligence on top of the cheating? PLEASE find an upgrade. You can and should do better than this loser.
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Amanda Lyles 2 months ago
"I just can't get over the fact that you've had relationships with men who aren't white." That was when I found out he was a white supremacist. And when I asked why he hid that from me he said "Beacuse you wouldn't have given me a chance. " No, I wouldn't have. F***ing idiot.
Raven DeathShade 5 months ago
So, my bf was in a toxic relationship for 3 years before we got together. She asked to follow me on Instagram, then concocted this sob story about how he was with me while they were "trying to fix their relationship". I asked when that was, she said January of 2023. I met him in February. Also, he's the most intensely loyal person I've ever met, and would rather die than hurt anyone like that, even her. She also tried to hook up with his best friend, so...yeah, he's DEFINITELY the bad person here /s
Nicoll Curtis 6 months ago
"I was confused and hurting, and she promised me she'd changed. But having sex with her made me physically sick, because I realized I loved you." "You came home from work early! You never do that!" (I was sick and undergoing IV and oral chemotherapy treatments... I felt like c**p and my unemployed ex was screwing another girl in my bed, in my apartment, telling her he was single because I was sooooo lazy.) "But I never actually said you were my girlfriend." (After he got into a fight with another guy who he thought was flirting with me... but he could take another girl on a multi-state road trip vacation with him because we weren't really dating... and he *did* call me his girlfriend all the time.) "I needed to be with someone more intelligent." (This mfer... he had to be waivered into the Army because he scored significantly below the minimum ASVAB score - 32 at the time... he scored in the high teens. My score was 98 out of 99.)
Ghostpotato 6 months ago
Hey I have one! "It wasn't cheating, we didn't take our clothes off..." (According to this idiot it only counts as cheating if you are fully naked when you do it)
Gavin Johnson 6 months ago
So many words for ‘I’m selfish and I don’t respect you’. Humans are thoughtless, lying, cheating, nasty, selfish beasts aren’t they?
Alexandra 6 months ago
In a general sense, yes, I think so too. It's astounding what people can come up with to justify their behaviour. No accountability at all and worse, no self-awareness at all. Maybe cheating would not be so pervasive if cheaters were more widely seen for who they are.
Load More Replies... Steve Hall 6 months ago
Several of these entries include more than one incident which indicates that the poster makes really bad choices.
Rachel Young 6 months ago
Putting aside all the other rubbish, cheating and abuse the most ludicrous was "it wasn't cheating as we were speaking Spanish" (we're both English but he's fluent). And she was my 'friend'.
Seanette Blaylock 6 months ago
Ouch. Insulting your intelligence on top of the cheating? PLEASE find an upgrade. You can and should do better than this loser.
Load More Replies... Amanda Lyles 2 months ago
"I just can't get over the fact that you've had relationships with men who aren't white." That was when I found out he was a white supremacist. And when I asked why he hid that from me he said "Beacuse you wouldn't have given me a chance. " No, I wouldn't have. F***ing idiot.
Raven DeathShade 5 months ago
So, my bf was in a toxic relationship for 3 years before we got together. She asked to follow me on Instagram, then concocted this sob story about how he was with me while they were "trying to fix their relationship". I asked when that was, she said January of 2023. I met him in February. Also, he's the most intensely loyal person I've ever met, and would rather die than hurt anyone like that, even her. She also tried to hook up with his best friend, so...yeah, he's DEFINITELY the bad person here /s
Nicoll Curtis 6 months ago
"I was confused and hurting, and she promised me she'd changed. But having sex with her made me physically sick, because I realized I loved you." "You came home from work early! You never do that!" (I was sick and undergoing IV and oral chemotherapy treatments... I felt like c**p and my unemployed ex was screwing another girl in my bed, in my apartment, telling her he was single because I was sooooo lazy.) "But I never actually said you were my girlfriend." (After he got into a fight with another guy who he thought was flirting with me... but he could take another girl on a multi-state road trip vacation with him because we weren't really dating... and he *did* call me his girlfriend all the time.) "I needed to be with someone more intelligent." (This mfer... he had to be waivered into the Army because he scored significantly below the minimum ASVAB score - 32 at the time... he scored in the high teens. My score was 98 out of 99.)
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