40 Times People Gave The Most Condescending Advice
Interview With ExpertI have always hated being given unsolicited advice. If I ask for your opinion, I will welcome what you have to say. But if I haven’t opened up the floor for others to share feedback, I’m probably not interested. Especially if you want to be extremely patronizing!
One curious Reddit user asked others to share the most condescending advice they’ve ever received, and people did not disappoint. From strangers making assumptions about anything from a person’s income to their physical strength, we’ve gathered the most infuriating stories below. Keep reading to also find a conversation with Modern Therapy's Gabriela Ortiz, LPC, and be sure to upvote the condescending tips that would make you roll your eyes!
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My mom runs into this all the time. No specific examples exactly, but people will talk down to her or treat her badly because all they see is a jobless single mom on disability. What they don't know is she got her undergraduate summa cum laude, and then her MALS from Dartmouth College while she was pregnant with me. This was while being married to a toxic, abusive jerk and struggling with physical and mental health issues. She is my hero and I'm very proud of her.
I'm a film producer. I look 20yo but I'm significantly older and more experienced than I look. I'm also a woman which can get you mixed results on the best of days.
On set, I just type away at my laptop and do menial work just to make sure all the holes are plugged up and no one is s******g the bed. I guess one camera assist saw this and thought I was a PA. His response was to flash me a handbook for the fancy camera we were using and tell me to "read up, so you'll actually learn something". I asked him what the f**k he thought I was doing, asked his name, and made it clear that I paid his bills.
Gig night, still a few bands to go before we go on stage. I'm at the bar checking people out and having beers, because stuff's boring. Guy comes up to me, sees my band shirt, doesn't recognize me (which is totally OK, I like it better that way), proceeds to nag my ears of about our music, trying real hard to go into technical musicalities, which again, is OK, you do you.
Up until the point where he slams one of my songs, saying he doesn't get why the f**k it's in F# minor. I tell him he must be mistaken, because the song is very much in A minor. Douche says "Um, you obviously don't have the necessary musical capabilities to recognize the correct tonality when you hear it. Come back when you've actually taken some music lessons."
B***h. I wrote the thing. It's in A minor. I've been playing it for years. In A minor.
To learn more about condescending behavior and where it comes from, we reached out to Modern Therapy's Gabriela Ortiz, LPC, who was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda.
"Condescending behaviors can be a defense mechanism used by individuals who have insecurities, are afraid to show vulnerability, or want to assert superiority (due to underlying feelings of inferiority)," Gabriela shared. "Individuals with condescending behaviors might use this as a method to draw attention away from their own insecurities or gain a sense of control in social interactions."
I studied music and guitar making for years, which means that I know how to use a band saw, and many other wood tools. I can literally make a guitar out of a bunch of logs.
Everytime I meet a guy who plays guitar he tries to explain me how it works and how it’s made and even after I tell them that I’m a guitar maker, they still try to prove that they know better. (I’m a girl)
Same when I say anything related to wood working, nobody will take it seriously. I was often told to “go back in the kitchen”...
Wonder how many times Linda Manzer and Kathy Wingert had to deal with that
I chose to live with my parents even after I finished my education and had the means to move out on my own because my mother was always ill and needed the help. An acquaintance mentioned to me one time at a party in front of everyone that she earns 65,000 a year which is why she's able to live on her own and I should aim for a salary like that so I could "finally be self-sufficient" - I smiled at her.
I was making 6 figures.
When the time comes, if ever, that when OP does decide to buy her own home, I'm sure she will make sure to buy a house that will really shock tf out of her acquaintance and hopefully learn to keep her mouth shut, especially when you have no idea what you're talking about.
I wouldn't waste money and time thinking about her
Load More Replies...The person making $65K is also probably living beyond her means, while OP, making six figures, is being smart and living below her means. Which one do you think is going to end up better off in the long run? Also, before all the “Me Generation” horseshit, the US had a good percentage of multigenerational households. The generation that’s retired looked after the children and the house while the working generation is at their (sometime multiple) jobs, so they don’t have to pay for childcare, their kids have family in the home to look after them, and their parents/grandparents have a secure home—-which is most likely already fully paid for, so no mortgage, just taxes and upkeep—- and family with them if they need care. It’s actually a win-win-win situation.
OP will most likely inherit her parents' house, have a healthy work-life balance and live comfortablly. That's not even mentioning how much quality time she gets to spend with her mom...
I know an engineer who didnt move out of their parents home until 29 (now 32), and had over 400k saved up at that point, and today rents a small apartment in a nice area for a very low fee, saving up even more. Even after expenses, vacations, etc, this person puts away tens of thousands of dollars a year, and says when she is ready to start a family, she can buy a nice house with a large yard in the suburbs, and have savings to send the kids to private school. Saved a ton living at home for all those years, and has her life on track
I never finished college even though I was just shy a few credits because I chose to go home and care for my dying father. After he died, I had to hustle to make ends meet and never went back for my degree or apply to graduate school. Sometimes life derails your plans and you have to make new ones.
Should have said if I earned only $65k, I'd have to take a 50% pay cut.
Yeah, my 6 figure income gives me the opportunity to take care of my Mother, while putting 70% in my 401k.
This happened a week ago.
I'm a 30 year old woman and I manage a grocery store. Our store got lucky and we were chosen to host a hiring event for assistant department managers because our office is a bit bigger than most of the stores in the area. An older guy was peering at the meat counter and I walked up to him and asked him if he needed help because I didnt see anybody behind the counter and he said, "I doubt it. I'm waiting for my interview for assistant manager and I have an insane amount of experience."
He then spots the meat department manager behind me (who happens to be another guy in his 40s) and dismisses me entirely.
I shrug it off and head to the back to get the interviews started.
Guess who my first interviewee was?
I am a man in my 50's who manages a store. My assistant manager is a woman in her 30's. Thankfully it doesn't happen often since most of our customers are regulars, but every so often we'll get someone with that "I need to deal with someone (a man) who knows what they're talking about." I really want to tell them, "You dunb@$$, she's been with the company three years longer than I have."
Gabriela also noted that we often assume that condescending people intend to insult and hurt others, but in reality, it can also be done unintentionally. "This is because people who condescend have little to no self-awareness of why they're even doing it in the first place. They lack the consciousness of monitoring themselves to learn healthier ways of confronting their insecurities," the counselor explained. "Therefore, they often do not realize that their behavior is problematic and hurtful to others."
God every time I tell people I work from home as a romance author. You can see in their faces they mentally adjust my IQ to something significantly below zero. I then get to listen to their oh so original ideas for the novel they’re either going to write when they retire, or have been “working on” for the past 5+ years. Men especially love to give me writing tips and advice and suggestions.
I’ve been writing for 20 years. I’m very niche (queer fantasy romance) but good at what I do and popular in my tiny circle. I seldom make less than 5k a month and have several awards to my name. But thanks for the advice, bro.
I've been using a specific software 35+ hours per week since 2009 at work. I've written blog posts to help people learn to be better with it, been sent on trips by company that makes the software, and been one of the top contributors on the company forum. It's a small audience, but there are people all over the world who recognize my name. I still get people who will say "Obviously you don't know what you're talking about" when i try to help them
Not exactly a normal answer but...
I’m a stripper. I’ve been working as a stripper for almost five years. The club I work at is very alternative so most of the time I wear converse, which actually makes me more approachable and popular.
New girl (I mean new to dancing not just the club) told me that if I really wanted to make money I should “grow up and wear some heels.” I get this pretty often.
I’m consistently the top earner at our club. She lasted less than a month.
Just smile and laugh your àss off, on the way to the bank girl.
A lady at an office job I had for a short time saw that I was new and decided to try to teach me how to copy and paste on the computer since "we use it a lot". She got mad and accused me of "not listening to her" when I did it by using ctrl+c / ctrl+v instead of her method, which was Edit>Copy, put cursor in desired spot, then Edit>Paste. She wanted me to do it again, so I did ctrl+z to undo everything we had just done. Got mad and started screaming at me "UNDO!!! UNDO!!!" not realizing I had literally just done that, since the only correct way is Edit>Undo!!
She then brought in a younger person to teach me how to set up my email signature. I simply went to the icon that had a dropdown that said "Edit Signature" or something similar and brought up the window. The younger person said "No, that's the wrong one, let me show you where it is" and went through at least 3 different menus only to get to the exact same window. She insisted that was the right one and denied it was the exact same one.
The older lady brought the younger lady in to teach me because "she's the best here at computers". They both got mad at me for "not listening". Older lady went to complain to my supervisor about my unwillingness to learn how to use the computer. I was only in that job while I waited to hear back from developer jobs.
We were curious about the impact that condescending behavior can have on people as well. "Condescending advice limits their overall relationship with others. It can create miscommunication with others, undermines their confidence, promotes defensiveness/dismissiveness, and hinders growth," Gabriela says. "Some people might ignore this type of behavior, but others may also respond argumentatively, sarcastically, use humor, or passively accept the behavior."
There was a time in my life when I was working 100-115 hours a week. 2 full time jobs, roughnecking and welding.
My dog got really sick during this time. So I was in the vets office waiting on the vet, holding my dog.
Had a guy in a suit walk out with his dog, took one look at me and said, “son, if you’d lay off the d***s and ate a little more life wouldn’t be so hard.”
F**k that guy.
And it wasn’t like I was skeletal or anything. Skinny for my frame, sure. But not skeletal.
"If presumptive a******s like you would just shut up, life wouldn't be so hard."
I was 16 and working a retail part time job after highschool hours, so it was like 5pm. A 30s something woman came in with their 10 ish year old child and said "see honey, this is why you stay in school and go to college, so you don't end up like her." Then she came up to me and said "I'd advise you to stay in school but clearly your parents didn't raise you well enough.".
This is part of how we pay for college. I'm sorry I know it was easier 40 years ago.
I managed to try to explain variance is swing time to one of the worlds greatest Jazz drummers on Instagram. In my defense he asked a very basic question and I didn’t know who he was. I was definitely not condescending but still feel like an idiot for trying to explain a basic concept to one of the greatest jazz drummers of our time.
He was VERY cool about it. I had a lot of people clowning me and I deserved it.
I was a mathematician. Any conversation about math was interesting to me no matter what the level.
If you're wondering how to respond to condescending people to protect yourself and your mental health, Gabriela says that you first have to notice that someone is being condescending towards you. "Then you pause and tell yourself that it is not about you," she shared.
"This will remind you to stay calm to avoid escalating the situation. It is very important to stay calm so that you can respond logically rather than react based on your emotion," Gabriela continued. "You can then ignore the person so that you can detach from the situation, acknowledge the advice (without fully agreeing, which can defuse tension), express your feelings politely, or redirect the conversation."
"Honey, do you know what a millwright is?" Asked some guy after I told him what I did for my job (as a millwright).
I had to look this up because I didn't know what a millwright was so for those like me, as millwright is a skilled tradesperson who installs, maintains and repairs heavy machinery in a variety of industrial settings. Aka industrial mechanics or machine technicians. They can work with very expensive machinery costing millions of dollars.
I was admiring a Steinway concert grand piano on display in a hotel lobby.
Not realizing that I had advanced degrees in music and that I was a professional pianist, a woman said (with her nose in the air), "Work hard and save up your money - maybe some day you'll learn how to play.".
After graduating college I took a part time job at a bar to help pay off student debt and buy some snazzy car parts. This was on top of my full time well paying tech job.
Someone made a mess in the men’s room and I was tasked to clean it up. As I’m doing that one of the patrons looks at me and says “you know if you’d have gone to school you could be doing better than this”. “Yeah I did go to school, and I have a great job in a related field, and I’m here paying off my debt in advance. But I’ll remember that hot tip, thanks”.
You just can't win in service jobs, can you? Either you're a loser who's too stupid, lazy or uneducated to get a "better job", or you're a bully who didn't give Karen free s**t when she turned on the waterworks.
Gabriela says you can also question a condescending individual about their behavior or use statements such as the following: "So what I am hearing is ______, did I understand that? Let me take a moment to rephrase what you said because I don't believe you intended to talk down to me. Did you realize that what you said hurt?"
"It is important to always remind yourself that it is not about you, and if you can try to have some empathy for these individuals, it can help redirect your own thoughts and prevent you from feeling any less than others," the counselor says.
I bartend so I get a lot of that s**t. It used to annoy me because it was always unsolicited. I understand it though especially from people who have never been a bartender before so they don’t understand how much money you can make.
One time though I actually had to laugh at that guy. He was a regular and came in for lunch with his employees atleast twice a week. Friendly bunch and always tipped well. We started talking about the kind of work they did and what not. They had a small company that did residential electrical work. Said that I should come by and drop a resume off if I ever wanted to get a “real” job. I entertained him and asked about pay, hours, benefits etc. he then told me I could start out at $11 an hour and with in a year or two be up to $14 an hour. Which isn’t terrible. But it was the way he said it that pissed me off.
Normally I don’t tell patrons what I make but this time I had to because he was coming off like he’d be doing me a huge favor. So I told him thanks but no thanks, even at $15 an hour I’d be taking a 50% pay cut. Sure there were benefits which he reminded me of but I’m sorry. $15 at 40hrs a week is $600 before taxes, I could make that in less than two shifts.
I bet the condescending man would be reduced to tears within his first hour of bartending.
I finished uni and starred working as a nurse in an operating theatre. I was only 21 at the time and male so everyone assumed I was an orderly and not an RN. First day an older lady who was an orderly starts giving me advice on how to do really basic things and bossing me around. I didn't let her in on my secret. Just let her go on in her condescending way. Boy did she get her nose out of joint when they let the new orderly scrub in for an op. She really was a b***h.
*An orderly is an attendant in a hospital responsible for the nonmedical care of patients and the maintenance of order and cleanliness.
A former boss when I was waitressing told me that I "don't have the right temperment to be an accountant".
I've been an accountant for 25 years now.
I was the cadet (intern) on a container ship. The captain liked good coffee, and our order didn’t show up before we left for a pretty remote part of the world. He handed me $2,000 from the safe and sent me to Starbucks.
I’m a dirty 18 year old kid, haven’t shaved or gotten a haircut in two months, wearing work boots. I walk into Starbucks and ask if they’ll take 100s. Manager thinks this is some kind of joke. I tell her I need a bunch of coffee. We go back and forth, she tells me to leave the store, and there is a short line forming behind us, she just can’t take me seriously.
I put 2g’s on the counter and said “please convert this into coffee beans.”
She was shocked.
I posted this like a year ago:
So I was at a bar with a friend of mine and we got to talking with this girl who was there on her twenty first birthday. We congratulate her and buy her a round.
Shortly thereafter we get into a conversation about the peopling PEOPLING of South America. She then, incredibly arrogantly, explains that there were people there and that I'm white washing history. I explain, again, that I'm not, and that there were no human beings there until they migrated there at a time we're still trying to figure out.
No she insists, these invaders wiped out the indigenous populations.
No, I say, that happened thousands of years later.
She accuses me of mansplaining. I'm like, at a loss, and am like "ok well I'm sorry." She yells at my friend (female) and is like "how are you friends with him?" And is like "God what do you even do, like, sell f*****g stocks?"
I'm a geographer.
A co-worker treats everyone he works with as a first year apprentice and talks to people like they are stupid despite having the lowest level of education i.e. he just has his basic trade certificates while those around him have all gone on to higher education. He also has the least amount of skills and experience as in he is an average welder/fabricator whereas those around him can also do fitting work and/or machining.
I had just started with the company so I got the job of working with him because no one else would and he tried to explain to me how to use a bandsaw like I was a child, I told him to f**k off and that I would do the job myself. So far he hasn’t spoke to me since which is a bonus in itself.
If someone was hired as my coworker for a skilled position, I would hope that if the company hired someone to work with me, who doesn't know their àss from their elbow, they would let me know before the first day. Otherwise why say anything unless and or if you think you have to, for maybe safety or protocol not be followed type of situation or something?
At age 19 (2005) I was replacing the fuel sending unit in my mothers car on a Saturday afternoon. Pretty standard job; disconnect the lines, drop the tank straps, tank basically falls out in your hands. Easy Peasy. It's an intimidating task for the first two or three times but then you figure out the secret to all mechanicdom; there's not a single part on an automobile you can't remove and reinstall successfully if you're reasonably detail-oriented and cautious.
One of my uncle's friends, classical "greatest generation" a*****e, showed up to visit and quietly (by deaf senior standards) asked my uncle "He's always struck me as kind of useless, all I've known him to do is computer stuff. Does he know what he's doing?"
Meanwhile, three weeks earlier he'd brought his prized vintage (and very rusted out/worn out) 1960 Chevrolet C20 pickup to a local mechanic's shop to have it fixed. It'd spun (stacked) a bearing and he'd opted to have the engine rebuilt while it was in the shop.
If Mr. "Greatest Generation" had bothered to speak to the lowly mechanic rather than just hob-nobbing with his wealthy pal who owned the shop, he'd have learned that ****I**** was the mechanic who had rebuilt the engine in his prized clapped out shitbox pickup.
Man, people get really mad if you're not immediately deferential to certain people online, huh?
A dude was trying to explain to me how "historical military" communicated when things like radios didn't exist. He was going on and on about the drums and these little wooden flute things called fifes and how the songs played by them now a days were once used to relay commands on battlefields.
I play the fife in a fire and drum corps. The majority of the songs he was mentioning were jam tunes played for fun to lighten the mood. Some were even freaking sea shanties.
I was a reference librarian for many years (I'm retired now). While on duty one Saturday afternoon I was approached by a gentleman accompanied by a young woman. The guy was obviously trying to impress the lady with his superior intelligence and research skills. He was certain the such as such a resource existed and he had used it right there in my department many times. I was certain he was confusing it with something else. But I was super courteous, of course because that's my job.) He was obnoxious as hell, kept interupting me while I was trying to explain what was what. The lady seemed real embarrassed. Finally I started ignoring the guy and just addressed the lady. The guy stomped away into the book stacks to find it himself. Without his interference the lady and I were able to figure out what she needed - it was in a totally different section of the library - and they left. On her way out the lady shot me a captivatingly beautiful smile which I remember to this day. On his way out he slipped two bucks into my shirt pocket "as a tip". He thought he was insulting me. Being right is the best revenge!
If people want to 'insult' me by giving me free money, they can go right ahead.
When I was working as a gardener, by boss was picking up a bag of mulch from home depot, when someone said, "you need help carrying that to your car, little lady."
The "little lady" got to her. She runs her own gardening company, and will regular haul 50 bags of mulch in an afternoon.
Shìt, I probably would have said yea sure that would be great, thanks. Then have him load that into the bed of your company truck with your name and logo or whatever on it. Even if the guy doesn't realize that you are the owner of the gardening company, you at least got to carry one less bag of mulch that day.
That I need to get some nutritional education. I'm a nutritionist.
I can't remember which one is the bullshitty one, dietician or nutritionist. I just remember one has all the merit of calling yourself a life coach.
Not really advice but one time I told a girl I really enjoyed the book Animal Farm and she just turned to me and said something like “but you don’t study history so you don’t understand all the complexities in it like I do so you couldn’t possibly enjoy it”.
Not that it matters, but history was mandatory at our school.
Don't know where you're from, but I'm pretty sure history is a required subject In just about every school in the US. As is reading Animal Farm.
This isn't quite what the post says but I have a black belt in a martial art thing. I went to a class on a different day than I usually go, and wasn't wearing my belt. Some d******d kept trying to teach me basic blocks during drill and being really condescending about it.
I work in a high SES area and live in a low SES area.
We hired a new employee who lives in the wealthiest suburb of this area. We were casually talking and she asked me where I live, I told her and her whole demeanor towards me changed and she started giving me money saving advice so I can "get out of there" and then started grilling me on where I plan on moving to when I have the money.
I love where I live. I'm looking for a job closer to home. I have no intention of moving any time soon.
SES? Not familiar with that term--can someone clarify please?
A store clerk told me I should save for a car because I went to the store while it was raining. I just said "yeah maybe".
I have a car, I just don't like to drive for less than 2 blocks.
That simply working "real hard" would guarantee I'd get rich and have a good life.
As the saying goes, "when I was young I was very poor. Now, after forty years of hard work, I am no longer young".
I worked as a retail manager and one of my staff asked me how to input a %off coupon in the till, as they had only done $off coupons before. The customer asked us for a calculator to show us how to calculate a percentage. I was going to a top engineering school at the time and my staff member went to a prestigious university as well. We just gave each other a look and I taught her how to enter the discount into the till. The assumptions made by the customer that we were uneducated pissed me off, but I don’t mind being underestimated.
If the OP doesn't mind being underestimated but the customer assumed OP wasn't educated and OP was pìssed off? I don't know how you can be both?
Told to look into a profession more suited to my ‘shy disposition’ when I said I wanted to become a therapist. They suggested something like a librarian. I’m currently studying psychology and plan to pursue therapy after my undergrad and PhD.
I've been working in restaurants for years now. Barman and server, mostly. There's this one guy who comes in super often, very haughty, very self-important. Runs some kind of business, import-export of something I cannot be bothered to care about. Anyways, I'm glad to allow him to pontificate about his Important Business-icity(TM), as he tips well.
Anyways, one day, he just turns to me and says: "see, the problem with you, u/el_pobbster, is that you work too hard for your money. What you need to do is to make your money work for you!"
...I had to hold back *so hard* about telling him about my roughly 25k investment portfolio.
I read 'Batman and server' instead of 'Barman and server.' Time to go to sleep...
Straight out of college, I worked in a management training program where the company made us do every single grunt job to really learn the ropes for the first 4-6 months. My aunt was dating a nice older gentleman who had a daughter my age who worked as a receptionist somewhere. We had a family get-together right after I got off work, and this man saw me in my grubby clothes, not knowing the backstory of my chosen career path. He asked if I had even finished high school and suggested I might be interested in a “nice office job” like his daughter had.
Posted on Facebook asking about deodorant that won’t irritate your underarms. Someone younger than me commented and recommended a product, I thanked him. He continued to comment 2-3 more times about “tips”.
“Oh and just so you know old spice is juvenile”
“And axe body spray won’t make the ladies come running, it usually makes them run away”
Yes, thank you I am a 22 year old college grad. I survived middle school, I know axe doesn’t make panties drop.
Unpopular opinion apparently, but one of the Axes smells really good to me, like a sophisticated forest or something. Problem is, I never just catch a whiff, it's always full-on chemical warfare.
My username is PokemonTrainerLily. Some time ago a guy posted a photo in a random sub with a Pokémon t-shirt and I commented "I love your shirt!". Some dude then replied to me "that's the Pokémon mimikyu on the shirt, did you know?" or something like that.
Should have said then started to rattle off bunch of Pokemon facts to him. I know about Pokemon but never got involved with that genre.
My son’s girlfriend likes to hear herself talk so she speaks on EVERYTHING. She tried to give advice and tell me what I should or shouldn’t do when discussing topics. I finally had to sit her down and say listen if I need your help I’ll ask. I’m 40 years old. I don’t need to be told how to do anything. Thanks for the advice but please just keep it to yourself unless I ask for advice. I’m not a total b***h. She just talks way to much and I don’t need her help.
Imagine being 40 years old with absolutely nothing left to learn.
Bosses friend Went on about fish that can breath air and how they are so exotic when I literally have kept them for 2 years, I told him that I have kept them and he realised I know my s**t when it come to aquariums.
I worked at a grocery store once. A group of me and a few other emoyees were entertaining an older man when he suddenly asked about the frequency of how often we get our paychecks. We kind of awkwardly answered, and he got a little twinkle in his eye and he threw a little " what a great lesson in saving and money management that must be". We were all in our mid to late twenties, and didn't really say anything until he walked away. He seemed a bit ignorant to the fact that we kind of had to be experts in that field in order to pay our bills every month or we were f****d out a place to live.
Our new principal - one with no degrees in education, no professional licenses, and zero experience - was explaining to me a school policy I had written. When I informed him that I was the author, he kept explaining it to me. I had written the policy to be idiot-proof, and the fact that he understood it established that I had succeeded.
I'm a published author with degrees in chemistry and physics. I currently work in retail because I actually enjoy it and many of the magazines I used to write for have gone out of business. Early in my career I also did research for a number of sci-fi and thriller authors. One time when I was working at Barnes and Noble, I was putting up a display of staff picks and some random guy started hectoring me in a very condescending manner about how I should read the books by his favorite author because the science was so accurate and compelling. One of my co-workers chimed in and said something along the lines of, "yeah, you should check the acknowledgement pages--he's the one who taught it to her."
Most satisfying one for me was when a young woman started explaining skin care to me, "for the future". When I asked her how old she thought I was, she was 17 years off :)
There’s a peculiar personality trait that makes some people unable to acknowledge that anyone they don’t already know and respect might know anything about anything they think they know about. It’s clearly viral, and is probably a major contributor to the Dunning-Kruger effect. Worst of all, it appears to be almost incurable.
I'm guessing this is something that happened to a lot of us a few years ago: You're out and about and end up in a discussion with some moron who repeatedly insists that "COVID isn't real" or "It's not as bad as they're making it out to be" because, "I had it and was just a bad cold." You disagree, and they tell you that "You need to do some more research" or "You shouldn't believe everything you hear on the news" or some other kind of "You don't know what you're talking about" kind of BS. Well, you pompous a*s, maybe YOU are the one who needs to do some research... because I happen to be a nurse... who is currently working on a COVID unit. Most people just mumbled into a change of subject, but there were still some real ignorant ones who would keep up their delusional nonsense. The worst was when someone said that a surgeon had told them it's "not that bad." Really? Well that's probably because his patients were tested / excluded before elective surgery... and anyone with bad COVID needing non-elective surgery was likely too unstable to actually be operated on. 🙄
My neighbor on one side wouldn't get the vaccine because he wasn't going to put unknown substances in his body. But does he ever get vaccines? Or take any meds, even OTC? And has he studied the pharmacology of all those & feels confident in having them in his body? The neighbor on the other side invited us (& a # of other people) to Thanksgiving dinner, saying not to worry abt being around groups of people - COVID would be over by January - surprise! It wasn't. But the prize goes to another neighbor's friend, a nurse in an oncology practice. She told my neighbor that quite a few people she worked with had had some form of cancer which "proves that cancer is contagious." Sadly, now my neighbor is convinced & won't budge on that being true.
Load More Replies...I'm 170cm (5ft 7in), which is just below average for a man in my country, but I live in the US now, so I don't talk down to anybody. My neck gets tired during conversations
I'm 5 ft 5 in and get "stand up when you talk to me" from time to time, while I'm standing, of course
Load More Replies...I look about half my actual age and I have autism as well, so this sort of thing happens to me fairly often.
Why does Wyatt Bower still have an account? BP admins are asleep at the switch.
I've been in the auto parts business for 35 plus years. At least two or three times a week some nitwit will challenge my knowledge and experience. It ranges from calling a part by the wrong name because that's what the guy in the you tube video called it to questioning if I looked up the correct part based on the information they gave me. I love it when some know it all challenges me and I get to prove him wrong in front of the girl he's desperately trying to impress with his extensive automotive knowledge.
I'm somewhat of a subject matter expert in my field. I don't know everything, and I absolutely know who in my company knows more than me. Sometimes I have to explain technical stuff to people, and I don't know their level of experience or knowledge in the field. I will always say something like, "I'm sorry if you know this already." or "Please stop me if you know this." Or sometimes I'll just ask, "Do you know XYZ?"
My son does this. He's 17 and a complete history nut. He will talk your ear off about so many different areas of history. When he's talking to me he always says, "Sorry if you know this already." Or he'll ask, "Do you now about such and such?" I've told him many times he's pretty safe schooling me on anything history related. I only have average knowledge--basically whatever i learned in high school. I've learned a ton from him. But I do think it's good he doesn't want to assume people don't already know something.
Load More Replies...I've had fun when abroad listening to people speaking their native languages to each other, thinking that I don't understand them (which is quite likely, since I'm British). I have however studied French, German and Spanish. Education is a wonderful thing.
I am a qualified horticulturalist (female now retired). At a job interview this guy walks me around the grounds of the zoo. Points to a ride-on lawnmower asks me if I could manage it. Said I have a 650cc BSA parked in College Close so pretty sure I can manage a lawnmower. Bit later shows me the mess room. Says you'll be responsible for cleaning including the toilets. Asked him why there wasn't a rota. I taped him when he rang to tell me I hadn't got the job. He had to compensate me under the equal op's legislation. Later on I ran the propagation unit for a Russell Group University. New gardener tells me the sexist interviewer got sacked after he managed to kill off the beautiful orchid collection.
Back around 2001, I was 34 and working two jobs as a forklift driver. A manager at my part time job was several years younger than I was, but also a total bonehead--he'd lost forklift privileges twice for having his driver's license suspended. But since he was a manager and I was a lowly driver, he felt obliged to give me lots of unsolicited life advice. Five years later I was a co-owner of a repair shop in Manhattan, and if he was lucky, he was still a night manager. Also, my step-sister-in-law apparently thought I was developmentally disabled until she heard me discussing Mao and Napoleon with my dad
Some rando creep added me on Snap the other day. I have to have snap for my work groupchat that's on there, but I don't do streaks or anything that people typically use the app for. However, sometimes I'll add back creeps to waste their time. Anyways, he asked for a nudе and I refused, explaining that it was against my religion. He then proceeded to tell me "good. If anyone asks for one, don't send that. It's a sin" and kept yapping. Then he randomly asked for more pictures and when I again refused saying that I was a minor, asked me if I knew the age of consent and told me to never date people above the age of consent and never go too far physically. Like, don't explain the law and my own religion to me. Oh, and he wasn't even the same religion.
I don't understand p00ping on people in retail and service. So what, if someone is a barista or cashier?
It's the whole "oh you work a service job that requires no education therefore you must be uneducated and beneath me" mentality that some personality-challenged people have.
Load More Replies...I have been a (F, 70) bass player off and on for 50 years. 99% of the men in bands are cool, and we collaborate. I take direction well. But there is always that one puffed up fool who thinks he needs to teach me how to fret and hold the guitar, or offer to teach me a song I already know. One look usually shuts them up. The other male band members tend to tell them, as well.
A lot of the people here with their noses out of joint are entitles Karen’s. They don’t walk around with a big sign over their heads announcing their qualifications or their battle to get where they are. Sure, some people don’t have the respect they should for other people, but that’s no reason to get on your high horse and expect everybody to immediately bow and scrape when y
Most of these smell like: In this weeks episode of "Stuff that never happened"
Our new principal - one with no degrees in education, no professional licenses, and zero experience - was explaining to me a school policy I had written. When I informed him that I was the author, he kept explaining it to me. I had written the policy to be idiot-proof, and the fact that he understood it established that I had succeeded.
I'm a published author with degrees in chemistry and physics. I currently work in retail because I actually enjoy it and many of the magazines I used to write for have gone out of business. Early in my career I also did research for a number of sci-fi and thriller authors. One time when I was working at Barnes and Noble, I was putting up a display of staff picks and some random guy started hectoring me in a very condescending manner about how I should read the books by his favorite author because the science was so accurate and compelling. One of my co-workers chimed in and said something along the lines of, "yeah, you should check the acknowledgement pages--he's the one who taught it to her."
Most satisfying one for me was when a young woman started explaining skin care to me, "for the future". When I asked her how old she thought I was, she was 17 years off :)
There’s a peculiar personality trait that makes some people unable to acknowledge that anyone they don’t already know and respect might know anything about anything they think they know about. It’s clearly viral, and is probably a major contributor to the Dunning-Kruger effect. Worst of all, it appears to be almost incurable.
I'm guessing this is something that happened to a lot of us a few years ago: You're out and about and end up in a discussion with some moron who repeatedly insists that "COVID isn't real" or "It's not as bad as they're making it out to be" because, "I had it and was just a bad cold." You disagree, and they tell you that "You need to do some more research" or "You shouldn't believe everything you hear on the news" or some other kind of "You don't know what you're talking about" kind of BS. Well, you pompous a*s, maybe YOU are the one who needs to do some research... because I happen to be a nurse... who is currently working on a COVID unit. Most people just mumbled into a change of subject, but there were still some real ignorant ones who would keep up their delusional nonsense. The worst was when someone said that a surgeon had told them it's "not that bad." Really? Well that's probably because his patients were tested / excluded before elective surgery... and anyone with bad COVID needing non-elective surgery was likely too unstable to actually be operated on. 🙄
My neighbor on one side wouldn't get the vaccine because he wasn't going to put unknown substances in his body. But does he ever get vaccines? Or take any meds, even OTC? And has he studied the pharmacology of all those & feels confident in having them in his body? The neighbor on the other side invited us (& a # of other people) to Thanksgiving dinner, saying not to worry abt being around groups of people - COVID would be over by January - surprise! It wasn't. But the prize goes to another neighbor's friend, a nurse in an oncology practice. She told my neighbor that quite a few people she worked with had had some form of cancer which "proves that cancer is contagious." Sadly, now my neighbor is convinced & won't budge on that being true.
Load More Replies...I'm 170cm (5ft 7in), which is just below average for a man in my country, but I live in the US now, so I don't talk down to anybody. My neck gets tired during conversations
I'm 5 ft 5 in and get "stand up when you talk to me" from time to time, while I'm standing, of course
Load More Replies...I look about half my actual age and I have autism as well, so this sort of thing happens to me fairly often.
Why does Wyatt Bower still have an account? BP admins are asleep at the switch.
I've been in the auto parts business for 35 plus years. At least two or three times a week some nitwit will challenge my knowledge and experience. It ranges from calling a part by the wrong name because that's what the guy in the you tube video called it to questioning if I looked up the correct part based on the information they gave me. I love it when some know it all challenges me and I get to prove him wrong in front of the girl he's desperately trying to impress with his extensive automotive knowledge.
I'm somewhat of a subject matter expert in my field. I don't know everything, and I absolutely know who in my company knows more than me. Sometimes I have to explain technical stuff to people, and I don't know their level of experience or knowledge in the field. I will always say something like, "I'm sorry if you know this already." or "Please stop me if you know this." Or sometimes I'll just ask, "Do you know XYZ?"
My son does this. He's 17 and a complete history nut. He will talk your ear off about so many different areas of history. When he's talking to me he always says, "Sorry if you know this already." Or he'll ask, "Do you now about such and such?" I've told him many times he's pretty safe schooling me on anything history related. I only have average knowledge--basically whatever i learned in high school. I've learned a ton from him. But I do think it's good he doesn't want to assume people don't already know something.
Load More Replies...I've had fun when abroad listening to people speaking their native languages to each other, thinking that I don't understand them (which is quite likely, since I'm British). I have however studied French, German and Spanish. Education is a wonderful thing.
I am a qualified horticulturalist (female now retired). At a job interview this guy walks me around the grounds of the zoo. Points to a ride-on lawnmower asks me if I could manage it. Said I have a 650cc BSA parked in College Close so pretty sure I can manage a lawnmower. Bit later shows me the mess room. Says you'll be responsible for cleaning including the toilets. Asked him why there wasn't a rota. I taped him when he rang to tell me I hadn't got the job. He had to compensate me under the equal op's legislation. Later on I ran the propagation unit for a Russell Group University. New gardener tells me the sexist interviewer got sacked after he managed to kill off the beautiful orchid collection.
Back around 2001, I was 34 and working two jobs as a forklift driver. A manager at my part time job was several years younger than I was, but also a total bonehead--he'd lost forklift privileges twice for having his driver's license suspended. But since he was a manager and I was a lowly driver, he felt obliged to give me lots of unsolicited life advice. Five years later I was a co-owner of a repair shop in Manhattan, and if he was lucky, he was still a night manager. Also, my step-sister-in-law apparently thought I was developmentally disabled until she heard me discussing Mao and Napoleon with my dad
Some rando creep added me on Snap the other day. I have to have snap for my work groupchat that's on there, but I don't do streaks or anything that people typically use the app for. However, sometimes I'll add back creeps to waste their time. Anyways, he asked for a nudе and I refused, explaining that it was against my religion. He then proceeded to tell me "good. If anyone asks for one, don't send that. It's a sin" and kept yapping. Then he randomly asked for more pictures and when I again refused saying that I was a minor, asked me if I knew the age of consent and told me to never date people above the age of consent and never go too far physically. Like, don't explain the law and my own religion to me. Oh, and he wasn't even the same religion.
I don't understand p00ping on people in retail and service. So what, if someone is a barista or cashier?
It's the whole "oh you work a service job that requires no education therefore you must be uneducated and beneath me" mentality that some personality-challenged people have.
Load More Replies...I have been a (F, 70) bass player off and on for 50 years. 99% of the men in bands are cool, and we collaborate. I take direction well. But there is always that one puffed up fool who thinks he needs to teach me how to fret and hold the guitar, or offer to teach me a song I already know. One look usually shuts them up. The other male band members tend to tell them, as well.
A lot of the people here with their noses out of joint are entitles Karen’s. They don’t walk around with a big sign over their heads announcing their qualifications or their battle to get where they are. Sure, some people don’t have the respect they should for other people, but that’s no reason to get on your high horse and expect everybody to immediately bow and scrape when y
Most of these smell like: In this weeks episode of "Stuff that never happened"