Not a day goes by where I don’t bash myself for what I did.

I was 11 years old and my dad had been sick for 2 years. Countless surgeries and admissions to the hospital. I was left in the dark, my mother and father did not want to tell me what was really going on with my dad. They didn’t think I could handle it. One day while my dad was hospitalized, I roamed the hospital hallways. I began glancing at nurse stations and their computers where I read my fathers name, and that he was in his last stage of pancreatic cancer. I cried so much. I associated cancer with dying. As I approached my dad’s hospital room one of his doctors stopped me and asked me not to cry in front of him, that his body was under a lot of stress to begin with. So to counteract my tears I went in his room furiously. He asked what was wrong, upset. Then for 5 minutes he looked at me and didn’t say a word. His eyes said plenty. He was weak and I hurt his feelings by treating him so cold. He gave me a kiss on my forehead. He only did that twice in his life. Post surgery and this night. I just said I didn’t want to speak to him and stormed out of the room.

4 hours later at 3:29 on December 31st 2009 am my brother wakes me and my mother up saying my family members arrived to pray. I shouted “It’s 3 am, why…” I yelled at him as to why he left my father alone in the hospital. Someone should be besides him always. My mom looked at me in the eyes dull, and dreary and said “he was in a lot of pain”.

My father passed away and the last thing he remembers about me is me being mean and dismissive. I wish I gave him a big hug, and thanked him for being the strongest dad I could ask for. Thank him for being the most selfless father. Tell him that I love him with all my heart.This secretly eats away at me.

I think a part of my heart didn’t just break that day, it died. Sometimes when we are the cause of our own wound, time doesn’t help.

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It is obvious he loved you. And any parent that loves his child will love him too much to care about a teenager's tantrum.

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Not listening to my intuition.

I went out with an a**hole last year who seemed kind of off. I tried to break things off with him after the second date because it seemed like he just wanted one thing, while I wanted something with more of a commitment. He then laid on the charm and told me exactly what I wanted to hear. I decided to give him another chance.

I should have stuck to my decision and GTFO.

The whole relationship was a nightmare, and his constant lying made me spin in circles. The chemistry dwindled after the first couple of months, and became more of a comparison session between me and his exes (with his exes being “better than” me in all the ridiculous ways you can think of). He would put me down in other ways and then tell me that my self esteem was super low. It was slow torture for me but in a twisted way, I’m sure he enjoyed causing me pain. I can’t think of any other reason why someone would say such awful things if they didn’t secretly enjoy it. For the life of me, I don’t know why I didn’t break up with him.

It’s been months since it ended, but it’s been rough. I feel like my soul has been stolen from me, and I’m trying my best to find my way back. People say that even bad relationships are good life lessons, but I wish I had never met him. I was fine before I met him. Now I’m lucky if I can get through a day without crying. Today was not one of those days.

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This sounds like the cycles of the shared fantasy with a narcissist. Narcissistic abuse is a horrible thing that csn have lifelong consequence if left unadressed in some firm of therapy with someone specializred in abuse trauma.

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I have an overbite.

Thanks to genetics, I have straight teeth. But because I have an overbite, the dentist required I have braces. With the braces, they special ordered an orthodontic headgear that I was supposed to wear while I slept every night so that it could shift and correct my useless overbite.

(The headgear in this picture is actually smaller than what I had)

My regret is that I never wore it. I shared a room with four sisters and I was so embarrassed to put it on. My sisters would never dare make fun of me, but I was too self-conscious. I know I would be sleeping while it was on, but I just couldn’t bring myself to get over it and use it. I was a freshman in High School and in the midst of puberty. When I would go back to the dentist for the follow ups, my doctor would just know that I wasn’t using it. My poor momma would get in trouble and so would I.

My mom begged me to put it on and I tried, I really did; but I would take it off in between my snoozes. I regret being so insecure and not using my headgear. I am now stuck with an overbite and permanent retainers because my dentist did not trust me with removable ones. The older I get, the more I regret it.

Kids, follow your dentists/doctors orders.

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I wore my headgear for 6 years. Perfect teeth. Then I lost my retainers....and now they're shifting back to their pre janky locations.

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I wish I came out sooner.

I didn’t really know about being trans until I was around 12, but I really wish I made it more obvious when I was younger that I didn’t feel like a girl.

If I showed I felt that way before I basically had freedom on the Internet and could explore as I pleased, then my parents would probably see that nothing influenced my feelings and would accept me more.

Also, if I came out sooner, that would give them more time to accept it, and that means me possibly getting help and hormones sooner. Right now I’m in some weird limbo where my parents “accept” me but they aren’t doing anything to help. If we dealt with that limbo before I hit puberty then where I’m at right now would probably be much better.

But it’s too late now. I came out three years ago, and it looks like I’ll have to wait another 3 to get hormones, assuming I can afford it.

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Lots of people have regrets after having drastical, ireversable such procedures. Adolescence is a very confusing time.

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I wasted 2.1 Millions of minutes of my life by Choosing mechanical engineering over Computer Science.

4 years

1,462 days

35,088 hours

2,105,280 minutes

126,316,800 seconds were wasted.

Yes, I could not fight with my parents and well wishers to choose a branch which I wanted to.

I wanted to become a software engineer but I was forced to study Mechanical engineering, I could not find anything interesting in my entire engineering except spending leisure time with my computer science friend @Sai Kumar

I was totally f**ked up.

Decided to get rid of it.

Improved my basic programming skills and communication skills while trying to pass mechanical engineering subjects.

Finally this is me placed in a MNC and working as software engineer but I always regret about my 4 years of life which I had lost.

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I went to my sister’s new apartment to visit her for the first time in a while and to see where she was now living. At the time, I was in college and she was living in a cr*ck-addicted nightmare. Her apartment was in a terrible neighborhood, and the belongings inside made it very obvious she was down to practically nothing both literally and figuratively. I had my boyfriend with me at the time and for both of us, the experience was very uncomfortable. She was clearly “cr*cked out” and it was really sad to see, but we still managed to giggle together and enjoy each other's presence just like we normally did growing up as sisters.

My boyfriend, who is now my husband of 6 years, gave me a nod like “let’s get the hell outta here!” So, I told my sister we had plans and we’re going to get going. She sadly asked me to stay suggesting she loved me being there and was really lonely. I felt bad about saying no, but at the time, pleasing my boyfriend and removing him from this awkward scenario was more important to me, so we left.

That was the last time I saw my sister alive as she died from a heart attack/drug overdose the day I moved to Madison, WI after graduating college. I will obviously never forget that last memory of her and knowing I could have stayed to spend more quality time with her regardless of how awkward it was for me makes me feel terrible and selfish.

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Pinging “hi” on fb to my crush during my final year (2012) of college.

She was an intelligent, classy girl and I was always in awe of her during my entire college days. I never had the guts to start a conversation with her though. Somehow gathered courage and sent a hi along with congrats on the day she got a placement offer.

That is how it all started - She replied and the conversation began. We would chat almost every other day on Fb on some random topic from then on and the chats were never ending. There were days I slept on my laptop itself while chatting. From fb we graduated to whatsapp slowly and started becoming good friends. Friendship started showing sudden signs of possessiveness 6 months down the line; We both knew we weren't just friends anymore, but we did not accept it for a long time because of our orthodox family backgrounds which would fail to understand love.

Two years later during some random fight she confessed that she loves me and we can't be just friends anymore. I loved her throughout these years, it was our family backgrounds which stopped me from taking it forward. But, now with she conveying her feelings I wiped all such thoughts and said a yes to her. We began our relationship with lots of hope and love about our futures.

The relationship lived through all tough situations for 2.5 years. I started thinking of her as my wife as opposed to girl friend as we were so hopeful and blinded by love. I had imagined a whole life with her all these years.

I convinced my family somehow and they were ok with my love, but she couldn't do that. Her parents gave emotional tortures and she went through a lot of trauma. It was a disastrous three months in our relationship. She tried her best - she had to choose between her parents and me. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her, anything to make her feel better. All I wanted was for her to be happy after those emotional tortures she went through. We cannot live happily knowing her parents would be unhappy - so we ended our relationship.

Little did I know what this would cause to me in the upcoming months as all I wanted at that moment was her to be relieved from the pressure her family was exerting on her. Initial days post break up were fine as I spent a lot of time in office and with friends. Slowly but steadily breakup started having its effect on me. 3 months post breakup I felt like visiting the places I went with her. I started going to these places often from then. I started missing her terribly. I reduced talking to people, I started spending times alone staring at the plain sky every evening.

6 months post breakup I somehow figured out she had been married. I was happy for her and her parents. At the same time i understood breaking up and watching them belong to someone else are two entirely different things. I felt numbness in me - something which belonged to you all through had suddenly been ripped off you. I fell sick, lost weight, lost hope in life, almost lost reasons to genuinely smile in the consequent months. Am trying hard to cope up with life. I will live through for the sake of my parents.

Its been more than a year since we broke up and here I am (at 3 AM) trying to retrospect what would have happened if I had not pinged a “hi” 5 years back. May be I wouldn't have inflicted pain and emotional burden on her peaceful family. May be I would not be missing someone else's wife now. May be I would be sleeping peacefully now without worrying about anything. Yes, I truly regret pinging her that day.

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🎵 I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance... 🎵

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Not been able to help my mother in her last time of life.

My mother passed away on 4th of may 2021 due to sudden drop of her oxygen saturation level .

On 3 rd of may 2021 everything was well ,she was advicing me to take care of myself isolate myself completely amid covid situation ,since I was away from my home 120 kms due to work but time changed drastically she left this world on the same day im my arms late at night all alone in an ambulance.

Things happened at such a pace that I was left completed shocked and devastated.

I would never be able to forget that black day of my life .I was all alone with my dead mother and even Close relatives didn't show up.

Things haven't improved slightly after my mom left this world, nothing is left in my life except pain , suffering and loneliness.

My mom was robbed out for her life ,In a single day she left me all alone in this world.

I would say this is the biggest regret in my life to not lived with my mother for much time. I wish i could have talked to her much ,could have cared for her much , could have made more memories,i just wish my mother could have lived more.I just wish these things now although i know nothing can happen.

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I bought Bitcoin nearly three years ago when it was trading at $256.31 per BTC.

I remember being the only person at my school with any understanding of what the new technology was. I was so excited about it that I wanted everyone to be a part of it. I told all my friends and teachers about Bitcoin and wanted them to invest in it and understand it just like myself.

Any person that would take the time to listen to my Bitcoin spiel and download the app Coinbase I would give a small reward. I sent $1 worth of BTC to everyone that would do so.

I also wanted the ladies to know that I owned a fair share of the new technology. I purchased a gift card to the movie theater with Bitcoin so that I could take a few different dates out to the movies. I went to two different movies using my purchase and payed for my date both times, so it was 4 tickets total.

Those were both VERY big mistakes.

The $1 I sent everyone? I was really sending them each around $55. These are students that I barely knew. $55 is a big chunk of money to be handing out at 17 years old.
And the two movies I went to? Each movie ran me about $1200. Each ticket cost me $600. I spent roughly $2400 on two movies. THOSE ARE THE MOST EXPENSIVE MOVIE TICKETS OF ALL TIME.
At this point I have no recollection of who I sent $55 to and I’m not even sure which movies I saw for $1200 a piece. I definitely regret it.

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Is this Paul? Because my friend Paul sent me a Bitcoin back in...2011? I want to say. Told me I should invest in it. I didn't. I still have the Bitcoin, Paul literally lives on his own little island in Puerto Rico.

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I taught my dad how to video call on WhatsApp.

I didn't teach him when not to.

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I’ve been struggling with depression for the past 4 years.

There was this girl that I had. We were in a relationship for 1 year. Not a lot, I know but I gave literally everything, and she did too. We brought out the best in each other and would do anything for each other.

Here comes the bad part :

She shifted. From place A to place B. Place was real bad. Place A was near to my home. So when she shifted to B we started a long distance relationship. I was ok with it but she couldn’t cope with it.

We used to argue a lot and then one fine day she did something she never ever did before and I never imagined she would do. She abused me. Verabally. She was very innocent first.

So we broke up and all.

Then occasionally she messages me , makes fun of me sometimes, abuses me sometime, apologises sometime, sometime says she loves me, sometimes lies to me.

AND MY BIGGEST REGRET IS THAT I REPLY TO HER MESSAGE all the time. I can’t abuse her. She uses me always and uses me a dumping ground for emotion. Then acts ignorant and just then leaves. Then says she loves me. She fucks with my mind so much.

And I can’t tell this to my parents. Conservative family. Can’t eat or drink or sleep or think or work properly. Trust lifted off of love. Developing anger issues . Losing my sanity. All alone. No real help around. Totally demotivated and depressed. Can’t drag my feet out of the house to seek counselor help. Dying a little bit everyday.

So now, she has changed totally. And my regret is that I reply to her message whenver she messages cuz I still love her, I sometimes regret loving her.

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My biggest regret in life is getting married. Before marriage, I was a fun-loving guy who enjoyed the little moments in life. I worked on weekdays, relaxed on weekends, and loved to travel. Life felt balanced and fulfilling.

But after marriage, things changed drastically. Now, I find myself happy only 2-3 days a month. Even on those days, much of my time is spent trying to figure out why my wife is upset, handling household tasks like taking out the trash, making sure the bedsheets are in order, and so on.

Marriage has taken away a lot of the freedom and joy I used to cherish. It's frustrating, and I miss the person I used to be.

PS - This is for fun. If my wife finds out then I’m gone :)

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With not knowing the wife's side of the conversation, sounds like they are both unhappy. So either counselling or divorce but that last sentence doesn't make sense if he's so unhappy. Maybe it would be a god send if the wife knew.

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I'm actually a student studying far away from my home .I had a diseased sister who had no chances of surviving. EVERYBODY in the family except my little sister knew about her ill health.Even I was told about this long after my parents came to know about it. Whenever I came home from holidays I used to bring her chocolates but that time she asked me to bring something which is very special at the place I'm studying whenever I come home.

During Dussehra I didn't have a plan to go home as there were only a few holidays and all the time would be gone in travelling.But I felt homesick and suddenly made up my mind .I didn't even have a reservation . So in a hurry,I reached home and forgot to bring her any gift.

But the next day I brought her ice cream(a big family pack) .She felt happy for it and I left for my college. Unfortunately the ice cream that I brought her was the only food she had eaten after I had left .Three days later I came to know that she was dead. I felt ashamed of myself for not bringing the gift she wanted. I still regret it and cry sometimes.

Sorry my lovely sister.

She though was 12yrs old but had a maturity of an adult .Everyone remembers her for her respectful and polite way of speaking which children of her age would never do.

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My only regret in life so far:

Last year, I received a marriage proposal from a young doctor and I REFUSED!!!!!!!

I was 24 years old and a 4th year university student graduating in two months. It was sort of arranged proposal, which could have led to an arranged marriage (which I am okay with). I had never seen the boy nor communicated with him, nor has he ever seen me. My mom called me to tell me about it. She said that because he is not from our tribe she did not like him but told me the decision is up to me. My aunty knew the boy, so she communicated to him and he sent his picture and I sent mine. When I saw his picture, I decided there and then that it was a NO. He was tall and dark, not a handsome face but just a so-so. Both my uncle and aunty praised the boy and said he was a treasure and would make a good husband.

I did not even think about it twice and said a straight NO. Of course, my mom was happy to deliver the NO to the proposal.

1 year later and am still not married (not even a suitor). He got married earlier this year and I am here regretting. How I wish I had never judged him. Maybe this would have been a different story.

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I have to think NO was the right decision. If that is what you feel then it is the right answer.

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Last night, I slept around 9 PM as I was extremely tired.

Then Mom came and woke me up and made me eat my dinner. I quickly finished that while half-sleep.

I got back to sleep and then even when I was not fully sleep, I felt a blanket over me. Oh! this must be Dad. He switched on the mosquito repellent, switched off the lights and then during midnight, I noticed that he came to accompany me in my room.

Now, when the Mom's love is loud and clear. I fail to notice that Dad is loving and probably he loves me more than he loves my siblings.

That blanket reminded me of thousands of similar incidents since childhood. His love and care is mute and hence often go unnoticed.

I also didn't realize that he has taken leave as I came home after long time.

He did that as he wanted to spend some more time with me.

Love of a Dad is often underrated. I regret taking his love for granted. I Love my dad :)

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Story goes like:

Me and my gf, 2 years back we were in a relationship. I had a decent job and she was also building her career.

After 2 years of realtionship she just left me, it shook me deepest inside. I quit the job and cut up from the world. And spend days thinking of past memories and watching shows and movies. Led to depression and loneliness.

That was really a regret, i didn't know how to handle that and pitfall, physically I've reached a state where i was about to die and mentally so sore too, later with hard work i achieve so much in life now I'm in great shape, and good mental state with help of friends trying to make carrier as entrepreneur.

The reason i write this article to show how meaning of relationship change and how vulnerable relationships could be, we should never take things for granted and keep working on relations everyday. Second reason for writing is how people waste their lives in past memo and future prediction, if relationship break we should teach and learn how to move on. Plz share your stories too and this could be anyone's story, I've wasted 2 years in such a relationship story and came up strong. Thanks for reading and support.❤️

But lost 2 years in darkness ( regret i have too). But happy now.

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Well we purchased our first four wheeler when I was forty years old.

I did learn driving. My husband was my coach.

Though we had small fights now and then, I could drive up to 40km with husband sitting beside me.

One day I escaped an accident. I could have hit a stationary truck parked on roadside.

But some how I could manage to control the car.

That incident made a deep impact in my brain.

Then I refused to drive on my own.

And the need never arose to drive a car.(mostly we travelled on two wheeler)

That was the biggest mistake I made.

When I was alone in Bhubaneswar for two and half years I had to entirely depend on autos for my travel.

Though I became self sufficient in all other aspects, this one thing made me immobile some times.

And now I have the problem of Vertigo. So, no way of learning car driving.

So not driving in my prime time was my biggest regret.

So don't neglect learning any thing which helps you to move forward.

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I’m 18 years old and i’ve always been a moody and rude person. I have a 34 year old sister who i’ve grown up around. We’ve never been close. As a teenager and pre teen I was rude and moody, but to be honest it was because I was going through a lot. My sister would also make fun of me and it would cause me to become more upset and not want to talk. My point is that I have never been close to my sister. We don’t do sister things, but I do love her very much. She’s getting married in two days and she didn’t ask me to be her bridesmaid. It hurt my feelings deeply when I found out, but I know that we aren’t close enough for her to want to ask me. During college my best friends sister got proposed to, and I remember sitting in her dorm as she called her. They were so close and she had even confided in things I would never tell my sister. Her sister has even asked her to be her maid of honor. I wish we had a relationship like that. I regret being rude to her and never trying to get close her. I’ve been reflecting and I realize my actions years ago will be the reason me and my sister will never be close. Please be nice to your family members.

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People say mistakes are meant to teach us lessons. But some mistake are way too big which leave us only with regret.

My biggest regret in life is going to kota for neet preparation in 11th grade. I was good student till 10th with study fun balanced. When i went to kota i had no idea what it's like to be there. I was just clueless. I was doing good for quite sometime and then my health deteriorated. I missed my classes for like a week or two and if you have studied there you'll know the value of single class. I missed on a lot of chapters and then came the phase where i just stopped studying. Started bunking classes. Binge watching web series. Basically i fuc*ed up.

I thought i would manage it in 12th as they teach 11th again. But then covid hitted and everything shifted online. And then i wasted 12th too.

I decided to take a drop from physics wallah online coaching which was also a major mistake. Studying online isn't really my thing and i should have known that by then. I wasn't able to solve doubts nor was I able to manage my time. I made another stupid decision to go back to kota but study online to get that environment. I was so isolated there and wasn't able to study. Later i was diagnosed with depression the same year (which isn't a excuse) and another year wasted.

Now the thing is once you start preparing for this competitive exams there's no going back. Drop after drop. I took admission in Allen's achiever batch next year and studied consistently but couldn't score enough to fetch a government medical College.

I didn't wanted to drop another year but i had already invested this much of time and if not neet then what was the thing which led me again to it. I decided to do self study with offline test series as my concepts were clear. And finally I am getting 665 marks this year.

Though i cracked this exam but it really doesn't needs this many years to do so. I just wasted three precious years of my life for a single exam. When my batchmates are graduating this i would be starting my college. I regret every moment i wasted watching series, hanging out with friends which no longer are my friends, wasting my parents money and my precious time.If you're a aspirant just give your best for once and all. Do not waste your time.

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Not keeping my head down.

I moved from a relatively nice, working class area in Birmingham to a rough area in Swansea. When I say rough, I mean that you got into the habit of looking where you step in case you step on a used needle rough. I was eleven.

Well, me being me I went into school and tried to get as much attention as possible. Talk to everyone, get my name out there, build a reputation. That's how I always handled new schools in the past. Trouble is, I didn't realise how much of a target I was. English, new, not from around here, ‘posh’, overweight, nerdy, naïve, loud, all these things painted a huge bullseye on my back. It started with teasing, then moved to shoving, then got progressively worse. I was out of my depth, I wasn't able to understand that shutting up would get me less attention, so I continued being my loud self.

It got worse and worse. I developed anger issues, trust issues, and depression. My dad and brother taught me how to fight, and for years thats what I had to do just to survive without a beating. I did a lot of shit I'm not proud of, made some bad friends, and ultimately became more and more like them. As a teenager, I became the total opposite of who I was as a kid: violent, touchy, scared, unpopular, lonely, paranoid. I withdrew from my family, and did damage that to this day I cannot heal. I think only my brother actually understands why I did and said the things I did, he's just like me.

I'm not that person anymore. I recovered from my depression, I learned to control my anger, I learned to deal with my emotions. I don't have to fight anymore, I've gone over a year now without getting into a scrap. That's good for me I guess. People wonder why I am the way I am, so confident, so full of myself, uncaring of what other people think. I guess I'm just trying to be as unlike who I was as I can be.

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I had s*x with my girlfriend. Okay so I understand it’s a norm in many countries to be physically intimate with your significant other but I’m from Pakistan.

The atmosphere here is considerably conservative. Moreover, any physical relations with the opposite gender out of wedlock are deeply looked down upon and carry severe punishments with them.

The reason why I did this was because I thought she was the one. That I was going to get married to her. That she was going to be my first and last. It was an in the moment thing but when things took a down turn and we broke up, it killed me. I felt a sort of deep responsibility towards her and just felt like a sh**ty person.

One thing that she said to me before our break up was “Now that you’ve had me, you’ve stopped loving me”. That killed me. I still love her and just yesterday tried to patch things up with her but she isn’t interested. She still means the world to me and I feel like a really shitty person for letting the break up happen even though it was due to the both of us.

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I promoted the wrong guy over the right guy.

When I was a platoon commander, I had the opportunity to send a select group of my soldiers to commander course.

I chose, following several discussions with my platoon's NCOs, 7 guys, and then there was the 8th spot. It was down to two guys:

One who was really motivated and a really great guy, but who I felt was still too soft and unready, and another candidate, who was more assertive and at least at face value, appeared to want to go for it.

The NCO of the first guy wasn't too pro or against his candidate, but then Gilly, the NCO of the second guy told me:

“Noam, he is bluffing, I found out he has family connections in the base where commander course is held, the second he reports to that unit he'll drop out of the course, and be stationed in a base close to his home, where he can go live on easy street - you're wasting a spot, don't do it.”

It was my call, and I made the wrong one.

I did not listen to my NCO as I should have and went with my gut feeling. I told guy number 1, I don't feel he is ready but there will be other chances. Eventually there weren't and the IDF missed out a great commander.

I told guy number 2 I'm giving him a shot and I trust him to justify the trust - two days later, he got repositioned to a nice office in a base near his home. The IDF wasted a spot in commander course.

So Gilly - Guy Number 2's NCO, I'm sorry I didn't trust your judgement, you were right, I was wrong. (BTW I did admit my mistake and apologize to Gilly later)

And Gilboa, guy number 1 - I'm sorry I didn’t give you the shot you deserved. You deserved it, and I messed up.

Incidently, thinking back of this I searched and found Gilboa. I will reach out to apologize.

It's been 19 years, but it's never too late to own up to your mistake.

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Introduced my mum to a game on her phone. She has barely turned it off. Biggest regret was loading her debit card so she could buy the occasional item. $1000+ later.... But it's her money and I won't prevent her from spending what she likes at 71 years of age, as long as she can afford to do so. If she gets under 20K savings, I'll be taking the card off lol

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Getting drunk and making out with my best friend.

My best friend(who's a guy) threw a house party at his flat. Obviously, there was booze and stuff. After everyone left, me and my best friend were talking and suddenly things got intense and we started kissing. We were really wasted. I don't remember what happened next but after like 10–15 minutes when I came back to my senses, I was giving him a blow job. I was in a relationship at that time and he was engaged.

I lost my senses again. After a while when I woke up (I guess around 20 minutes later) his dick was inside my vagina. We were having sex and we got loud, really loud. My friend's fiance came back from work and saw us having sex and enjoying it. She called off the wedding. Since we were old friends our family knew each other and now they know we had sex. And if you're an Indian you'd know how embarassing that is for your family to know that you had sex.

Me and my best friend fought after that and we don't talk now. I miss him and I regret that day.

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I can live with having wasted 4-ish years of my life as a drug addict. It sucks. I hate it, but that is an experience that has made me into who I am. I cannot imagine being someone else because that was a vital experience in refining me as a human being. My biggest regret is that I didn’t go to college when I was in my early 20’s which kind of goes hand-in-hand with being a drug addict. They’re inseparable because they’re mutually exclusive experiences (given the degree to which I was addicted). While the drugs were bad, not getting a good education in a field I would have loved (maybe medicine, maybe software engineering, maybe something else) stings to this day.

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My biggest regret is raising my step daughter. She’s 21 and I’ve raised her as my own from 2 years of age. She’s grown up to be like her biological father. Heartless and a absolute a*sehole.

Me and her mother had a big fight. A divorcable fight. We pulled through. She took her moms side, now me and my wife have patched things up but my daughter is still staying away from me.

I love her so much but she distances herself from me now. She’s forgotten all those sentimental moments we had together and me being her dad.

I’m so angry, hurt, upset. How can she turn so cold and spiteful.

It’s true what they say about the apple I suppose.

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I never told anyone about this. I destroyed a happy marriage of people I cared for.

Around the time I out of high school, I had a very good friend who I hoped to one day became my girlfriend. Long story short, it never panned out - I was too shy and unsure of myself. On the day I planned to try to move things forward, she started showing a great deal of interest in some guy we met, and I lost my courage. This was devastating to me, and I lost the last shred of self-confidence. Soon after we lost contact after I moved to another city.

Later I have been always seeing this as a pivoting moment in my life, the last and biggest of the adolescent relationships disappointments. The moment when I started believing I’m unworthy of someone good, that I will never meet anyone nice. The mythical day, the end of hope for ever being happy. The death of self-esteem that pushed me into a relationship with someone who I didn’t really care about, and then a loveless marriage - only because I was so convinced I don’t deserve happiness and that I should be content to find anyone who would want me.

Stupid and selfish, now I know.

Many years later, out of the failed marriage, I met her again. The old friendship rekindled. I met her husband and their four kids. We were meeting often, over drinks or board games, or going out for day trips. I became a friend of the family. We were watching movies together. I taught her to drive and helped to pass driving tests. We had fun and it was great. I know they were happy. I felt great in their company.

Then one night when her husband was away for a business trip, the unimaginable happened. We met, had a few drinks, and then we got too close. My old, adolescent love blinded me to the reality of today - I only remembered the desire to be with her, the disappointment of this not happening… but it was happening now. We started kissing. We realized it was wrong. I went home. Next day we met again to discuss what happened. We tried to be strong and still we failed - and so we become lovers.

The worst part?

I was still meeting with them both like nothing has ever happened. I still considered the guy to be my friend… heck I loved him like a brother.

She wished for a way for all of us to be together. She loved both him and me. If any of us heard of poly relationships before - maybe it would be possible at that point?

Instead she talked him into a threesome. It was fun and hasn’t changed anything. I think it was all salvageable at this moment, or maybe not, not with this deceit and betrayal in the background.

Then we two became reckless. We started showing signs of affection when he could see them. It was inevitable after this intimate moment shared by all three of us… but also it was cruel. He started to be suspicious. And this led to him finding evidence of our affair.

They had a big fight. He met with me a few times trying to figure out what has happened. I tried to take all blame on myself. Nothing helped. They both asked me to disappear from their life. She was crying, because she loved me - but she had to choose. It didn’t help.

Today all I know is they are divorced and I was the reason. Almost 10 years have passed, but this is still my biggest regret, the worst, most cruel, most selfish, most stupid thing I’ve ever done. I have made a lot of effort to fix my life, to rearrange priorities, to live more for others, less for myself. I’m now in a happy relationship and everything seems to be going well with my life.

But deep down I know what I did. What damage I caused - for them and for their kids. I will probably never forgive myself. I just hope they have found their happiness, but I’m too afraid to reach out and ask.

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I have rejected an offer of photoshoot from Bollywood Hunts.

Yes !! This is my biggest regret in life because the model who got my offer became the biggest model of product & offers in Flipkart.

Actually i have rejected this offer because of my sister’s birthday, which was in the same week as of offered date.

Finally when i realized my fault, i started working hard & applied for many photoshoot offers. Lastly i got selected by cloudtail (Amazon’s biggest seller) as their lead model for products.

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…and then i sent my nudes

Yes, this is the biggest mistake i have ever maded in my life till now. I play an online game (quite addicted to it). One day i met a guy, i used to play with him everyday. He became my friend. After two months i felt that i started liking him (sounds childish). I was very naive that time and didn't knew much about this world. One day he asked me out. I was overwhelmed with happiness. The more i talked to him the more i started liking him. I wished to marry him and he wished the same (atleast that's what i thought). After one month he asked me for nudes (indirectly), and this is what i can't think of doing even in my dreams. I said him that i can't do this. He replied “what's the meaning of relationship if i don't trust him". After this we started having arguments over this. I was in deliemma. The only thing i knew was that i can't lose him. Then one day i sended. After this everything was going smoothly then one day he said that he can't marry me coz of family problems (religion). I was broken, hurt and angry (not on him but on myself that how can i do this). I felt like i was toyed by him.

It was so stupid of me to do something like that but i did this because i was all alone that time no friends, no attachment with family. It may sound like I'm making excuses.

To most of the readers this incident will make no sense of what i did back then. And i don't blame anyone except myself for this all. It was all my foolish mistake that i sent nudes and I'll regret this my whole life.

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I wonder how old was she.

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I'm 23 years old female. I fell in love with a guy who did not gave a sh** about my love. We used to be in the same school from class 5. Class 9 onwards i started developing feelings for him. First i thought it's infatuation but later i was sure because i wanted to share my everything with him. We never dated. After clas 12th he moved to new city for his engineering.. i used to count days to see him again in vacations. He said that he never loved me but he used to talk to me a lot. He used to share his personal problems also. But i never got the opportunity to be his gf. He stopped talking to me according to his mood. Later i came to know about his gf. I was in tears. My 10th and 12th got hampered. I could not score well in graduation also. Now I'm feeling like a garbage who is good for nothing. I'm 23 still no job. I always read our old conversation. . Look at his pictures etc.. we have not spoken for more than a year now. He is now doing really well with his new friends and job.. doesn't even bothered to check whether I'm dead or alive.

And here I'm lying down in bed with pain in heart tears in my eyes. It has been 8 years now.. still i don't know why I'm not able to get back to life. I have wronged my parents. They don't deserve this. My biggest regret ever.

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Sounds like the guy clearly told OP he wasn’t interested and he also didn’t treat her very well….he doesn’t sound all that great

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Not saying yes to a boy who asked me to a high school dance.

That happened to me at my senior year in high school. It was almost over ten years ago, and I still think about it.

I remember being in high school and that boy I really liked asked me over one day. I was stoned and declined. He started dating another girl of my friends a few weeks later.

He may be married now. And I absolutely love all of my life right now. But I still wonder what might have happened.

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Loosing my virginity to a wrong guy.

I met this guy on Facebook in 2016 and I was in a girls school that time with strict family at home so online platforms were the only way I could meet people especially the opposite gender. I was just 16 that time and this guy pinged me and we started talking. After a month or so I met him and I fell in that trap. I thought it's all lovey dovey things he's doing for me that means he really loves me. Poor me! I had Littrellly no idea that time what actual love feels like. I was just a dumb asshole with a immature and innocent heart. Oh lord why!! Anyways, that online dating turned real but I was too stupid to notice that this guy only texts me during nights, he calls me only to talk dirty, most of the time our talks were sexts. I had all the red flags in front of my eyes but Me being totally inexperienced with the outside world thought it's all love.

He took me to his flat after some days and he did everything. I was closing my eyes and feeling him all over me being shy hidden and with pink glossy cheeks. I was having love in my eyes in my heart. But then when this guy was done sleeping with me. He dropped me to the nearest bus stand and he stopped calling me and texting me. That's when I realised ohh this chapter is over. I was sad and broken ofcourse and it took me 4 years to forget it all and get in the reality of this world. I did my schooling and college and now I was seeing the true world with my own eyes. Who is smart who is dumb what is right what is wrong I got to know it all later but I just feel it deep down that wish I could just stop it all and save my D day for my Mr. Perfect.

I just feel and regret it the most. I don't regret loosing my Virginity before marriage I just regret the fact that I lost it to the wrong man who wasn't even in love with me. And what makes it worst is the face that years later now I realized that even I wasn't in love with this man. I was moved on and did great in my life later and met so many nice people, experienced what an actual love feels like. So it makes even more worst that I lost my Virginty to a man whom even I didn't love.

Anyways I'm over it now but just sometimes deep down I always had this in my mind.

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At least she did not maried THAT guy. Count your blessings for that. I know what I am talking about.

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Regret of not checking my Facebook’s “OTHER MESSAGES” option.

No one could ever think that Facebook's other message’s tab could make a huge difference. It did to me, out of all the world’s luck.

It was few days back, precisely on Thursday last week when I had exhausted all my options of entertainment and scrolling down Facebook wall was also feeling humdrum. I opened my messenger and found an option of other messages. I was surprised to know the fact that I had so many messages there and I never bothered to check of course because of all the creepiness we witness always. I started reading all and was jolted by a message.

FLASHBACK 1 YEAR:

Well, last year I took part in a story writing competition for “WITTYFEED”, quite a famous content page on Facebook. I submitted my story and waited for 2–3 days but never got to know the results and forgot about it.

That day when I was checking my Facebook messages I found this:

I was dumbstruck!! I felt so bad and quickly I also checked witty feed's post regarding the winners and found this

YES!!! I had won the competition!! AND I regret it so much. Being the winner too, I couldn’t win anything. I so badly regret it.

It feels so awful but ecstatic at the same moment,knowing nevertheless I won :D

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“Being the winner too, I couldn’t win anything.” I’m having a hard time understanding that sentence

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One year ago, i fall in love with that super cool and very popular girl in my coaching class.

Yah I must say it's a love not the attraction. Beacause it's felt like love to me one year ago.

My father and her Father is good friends, so we talk and become great friend but because she is very popular in my friend circle so I fall for her.(i know that's stupidest thing done by me).

And due to this I lost my very great bro's beacause she didn't like them. One year ago she left me for some dude kind of guy who didn't show her any respect and I warned her about him but she refused to take my advice.

Due to this incident i stop talking to her.

My biggest regret in my life is to give respect and my time who didn't deserve my time and respect.

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It all happened when I went to my home during my vacation. When I first saw her, I fell for her. But I kept telling myself that its not love. After all how could there be love without knowing her. Slowly we became friends and the best of friends. We were more than just friends but we both weren't ready to accept that. She always told me how her friends tease her about me and how she scolds them. Over the period of time I got to know her. She is everything I could ask for in a girl- pretty, smart, intelligent. She is perfect example of beauty with brain. My heart was saying she also loves you but my mind never accepted. I never confessed because I never wanted to ruin our friendship. I used to read our chat when we were not talking. She always took me out for lunch, dinner. It was

I was pursuing my graduation then. We used to talk daily like friends and I loved that. But I never said anything to her. Meanwhile, my relationship status kept on changing from single to committed to single. I was in a series of relationships and all of them lasted for 5-6 months only.

After graduation I moved to kolkata. I got busy with work and new friends. My phone no. changed. We were not in touch for about 6-7 months. One day I got a friend request of a girlon fb. It was her but with another name. She denied that but with certain informations in her profile I was pretty sure that it was her. Later she also confessed.

Then we stayed in touch but I couldn't express my feelings for her. Time passed and in Feb she told me about her engagement. I was shocked. I never realized that time will change our course of relationship. I was hurt. I wanted to cry but I buried everything inside my heart. That evening I took out my bike and went on a long drive. I spent the night in a road side dhaba. I came back next day, congratulated her for engagement and said in my heart “ भुला देंगे तुमको सनम धीरे धीरे “.

But, sadly I can't. I cherish all those moments spent with her. I miss her everyday. I haven't talked to her since then. But I just wish may be in our next birth (if there is anything like that), we will be together.

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I am 24 years Old Indian Woman. I will turn 25 on June 2017. Old enough to get settled in life either by getting married(thats what people tell me) or by getting a job(which I have got when I was 23).

When I was in 12th standard, I wanted to join engineering. But due to lack of proper guidance and my persistence I could not get in IIT. Well I think I am not the only one, there are many like me. So I really don’t regret that. I studied my level best and Cracked WBJEE and got into a medium level engineering college. On the first year itself, I realised engineering is not my cup of tea. May be I will be able to complete it without any lapse of year(which I did), but building a career on it will only spoil my future because that will just be a negotiation with my life. I believe we should not negotiate with our life as we have got only one. So I decided to go for my love, management. Took money from father and got myself enrolled with well known coaching institute(my college was in Kolkata and hence this time I got opportunity of proper coaching and guidance). But I did not study. Wasted my father’s hard earned money. Lied to them that I am studying. I knew I am going to fail, still I again took the money to fill up the Common Admission Test exam form. As expected I failed,I can swear that I did not study, I did not study even for 1 hour if I sum up the whole time I invested on it. I was careless, reckless, did not understand the importance of the step which I took, did not know the importance of the money which my father gave without asking me a single question.

Fast forward to January 2016, I again spent the equal amount of money for CAT. This time the money was mine. I knew how much I had to work hard to earn it. This time I was serious. I started to love the study which I had to do. I came back from office everyday and gave 2–3 hours. I took a long leave before exam which caused me Loss Of Pay. I literally bought time from my employer.

I regret this a lot, even now, every moment. When I had ample amount of time, I could study whole day, my father was expecting something from me. I lost something which I can never get back, 2 years of my life. I broke my parents’ trust, I cheated them.

But now I am determined. I have promised myself to repay the same, not by paying the physical money but by gifting them a great result which will make them happy. If not this year, next year. But I will repay them with my hard work. Take a note Ma and Bapi…:)

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Maybe just get married...

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