People Are Sharing What Things They Love Doing Just For The Sake Of Annoying Their Partners (30 Tweets)
Some psychologists believe that teasing can be a great tool for building healthy relationships. Of course, it's not for everyone but couples who are satisfied with their partnership know how to poke fun at each other without hurting their loved ones.
In other words, if you want a quick and easy way to bring more fun into your already healthy relationship, amp up the teasing. "Being playful is such an important part of a relationship," Julienne Derichs, a licensed marriage and family therapist with Couples Counseling Today, told Bustle. "It helps couples connect, de-stress, and it acts [as] an important repair technique when couples are feeling tense over conflict. Laughter and teasing can help de-escalate the conflict and help you remember that you actually like each other."
And there's a viral Twitter thread that can give you some ideas on how to do it. After writer Sophia Benoit tweeted "Literally nothing on Earth is better than repeatedly doing a bit your partner doesn't like," people began sharing ways in which they tease their significant others. Here are some of the best ones.
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"What inspired me to make the tweet was doing a bit that my boyfriend hates, which was me saying the phrase 'slide in like a tuna fish,' a phrase I made up which means absolutely nothing, but which he hates," Sophia Benoit, author of the upcoming book Well, This Is Exhausting, told Bored Panda.
"He and I love doing repeated, sustained jokes that the other person pretends to dislike way more than they actually do. If either of us did something that actually bothered the other person, that would not be fun or connective or loving and we would not enjoy that!"
"I think the reaction was overwhelmingly positive and people loved sharing their own versions of this; I think it’s pretty universal for couples that actually like one another," Sophia said about teasing.
But since we all have weak spots in our self-esteem, even friendly, playful remarks can hurt your partner. If that happens, experts suggest keeping on the straight and narrow and apologize. Shifting blame and saying that they need to "learn to take a joke" or "shouldn't be so sensitive" could make the situation worse and damage an otherwise healthy relationship. You can find some valuable tips on how to make sure that teasing creates positive feelings for you and your partner here.
Personally, Benoit is pro-teasing, but she stressed there's a massive difference between teasing someone about something harmless that is not a trigger for them and teasing someone about something they're sensitive about.
"Everyone (even couples) crosses the line occasionally because they don't know that their partner is sensitive about something, but I think it's the response that really matters," she said. "If you continue 'teasing' your partner about something they genuinely don't want to be teased about (like their appearance or parts of their personality that they don’t want to be a joke for example), then you aren't teasing, you're being cruel. Teasing is for things like 'Haha, you leave half-empty water cups everywhere' or 'You are afraid of attics but you won't admit it.' Not serious stuff."
Relationships shouldn't be complicated. On the contrary. They should be fun, engaging, and above all, comforting. So get playful, enjoy your partner, and let them enjoy you too.
wait, now...she doesn't offer you her favor to wear? a scarf, a veil...something? jeeebus, chivalry really IS dead, then...
My husband and son do this to me with beef jerky - I hate the smell of it!
Years ago, my husband was talking about a movie that had just come out that he wanted to see. Couldn't remember the name of the film and somehow his brain decided it was called "The Hunter and the Rainbow." It was "Snow White and the Huntsman." To this day, any time he's trying to remember the name of something, I ask him if it's "The Hunter and the Rainbow" and I laugh every single time. He's such a good sport.
Peak dad joke. My dad said this to me and my sister anytime we saw an RV trailing a car. Like every time.
Every so often when my wife asks me to do something like make her a coffee I reply "What did your last slave die of?"
My favourite response is, "give me your lungs and I'll breath for you n' all!"
Load More Replies...I occasionally imitate Kreacher (from Harry Potter) when I'm asked to do something ("Kreacher lives to serve the noble house of ......."). I also ask $3.50 every time I hand him something....
I've taken to (loudly) calling myself Knobby the House Elf every time I pick up sh*t that my husband and 2x teenage sons apparently can't see 😡😠🤬
Load More Replies...Every time I leave my phone unattended for too long my wife likes to change the home screen picture. Usually I have a picture of all of us; me, wife, daughter. She likes to put pictures of BTS on my phone. I now have my phone locked with my thumb print. I did not know when you play Spotify it keeps your phone unlocked. Found that out yesterday lol.
Whenever we go swimming together I kneel down with just my head above the water, ask her if she’d ever date a short man and beg for a kiss.
My wife hates me using pet names in public. Probably because all her pet names are based around unfortunate events. Such as the time the dog shat on her head! She became affectionately known as 'poo-head'. She's also known as 'Tart-face', 'saggy knees' and 'my little vomit poker', each with it's own story. I sometime say random words for no reason (last one was flamingo collars) then question why she bought it up when she asks about it.
I am totally amazed by acrobats and what human bodies are capeable of. I've seen GOP and FlicFlac (germany) and look forward to the 'Monte Carlo Circus Festival' every year (in TV). Jumping, lifting, flying, catapulting, balancing..everything perfectly timed-this stuff. Aaaand every time I only shrug my shoulders and take my hands apart just to say 'Hmm, I don't know', spongebob's 'fantasy rainbow' appears between my hands, but 'shat on her head' is beyond my imagination..how? Wait..nevermind
Load More Replies...Whenever my dad would get a new pair of eyeglasses, he would put them on and look at my mom in fake horrified disgust, like he didn’t realize how wretched she looked before. I would nearly pee myself every time.
Really enjoyed reading these. I am a widow and it warms a special place in my heart to see the interaction of love between couples. One memory from our time when we would go out for dinner; he would leave the name: Senor Reech (His name was Richard), figuring no one else would use that name. His sister and I still laugh about it.
I do not get how it can be funny to (actively on purpose) annoy/ scare the person you love.
You generally do it BECAUSE you love them and they love you and you both find it funny on some level. Marry your “best friend” is the best relationship advice I ever heard.
Load More Replies...I feel so validated by these. We have too many too count. But the repetition doesn't become tedious. "What was I thinking?" "I don't know. If I did, that'd be creepy." "I love you!" "I'm marginally fond of you too." "You're my favourite husband." "How many do you have?" "Does it matter?"
Ever since we started dating whenever my now husband would ask what I want to eat I say "Your mom." It grosses him out every single time and after years he still hasn't chilled any in his reaction so I still so it because I'm sorry but how does it still bother you after a decade? The one time he tries it on me I went "of course you do, my mom's hot!" Because I look exactly like her. He hasn't tried to gross me out since
Every time I would yawn in front of my 1st husband he’d say “Yep. It’ll fit”.
I tell my husband he has to "pay the toll" any time he wants to walk by me in a tight space. If he asks me to do something I'll just say "no". And then I go do it for him anyway. I'll also do it and THEN say no.
My hubby loves to blast "Cotton Eye Joe" in my ear to wake me up. He thinks it's hilarious.
I have seen almost every example here between my children at some point, or I have either experienced it personally or gave it to or from my siblings. So, marriage is having an eternal sibling now?
Not to be a buzzkill, but this is pretty much only okay if both partners are okay with the bit. Otehrwise, you can hear your teeth grinding.
Oh, there are so many... going grocery shopping, he'll hold up a zucchini and yell "Is this big enough?" at me from the other side of the produce section, but I get back at him by following closely behind him by the meat counter while saying "Can we PLEEASE have meat this month?It's been so long!" Also he likes to startle me at inopportune times.
My dad always said "warsh", even though he hadn't lived in SW Pennsylvania since 1941. I suspect my mom pretended to be annoyed just to humor him.
When we were dating I told my husband I didn't like butter (I thought he meant margarine, it was 26 years ago) and Every Single Time we so much as walk by a dairy case he says in this really annoying sing-song voice "I don't like butter...". This is just one of many.
My OH hates the word 'beverage'. Every time I go to the kettle....for years now....
I hate shopping with my wife and pretend to arrest her, I put her arm up her back and put my finger in my ear “ yeh I’ve got the suspect” she loves it … not
I have three in my repertoire: 1) When talking with my wife I like to randomly look slightly to the left of her eyes - just half a centimetre or so. She moves her head to make eye contact and I shift a little further to the left. 2) Moving the shopping trolley just as she's about to put something in it while in the supermarket. 3)When walking up behind her I tap her on the right shoulder and stand to her left - without fail she always falls for it after 8 years of marriage.
Whenever my wife's period comes, i play the russian national anthem for her (you know, cause...the reds are coming). She hates it.
Every so often when my wife asks me to do something like make her a coffee I reply "What did your last slave die of?"
My favourite response is, "give me your lungs and I'll breath for you n' all!"
Load More Replies...I occasionally imitate Kreacher (from Harry Potter) when I'm asked to do something ("Kreacher lives to serve the noble house of ......."). I also ask $3.50 every time I hand him something....
I've taken to (loudly) calling myself Knobby the House Elf every time I pick up sh*t that my husband and 2x teenage sons apparently can't see 😡😠🤬
Load More Replies...Every time I leave my phone unattended for too long my wife likes to change the home screen picture. Usually I have a picture of all of us; me, wife, daughter. She likes to put pictures of BTS on my phone. I now have my phone locked with my thumb print. I did not know when you play Spotify it keeps your phone unlocked. Found that out yesterday lol.
Whenever we go swimming together I kneel down with just my head above the water, ask her if she’d ever date a short man and beg for a kiss.
My wife hates me using pet names in public. Probably because all her pet names are based around unfortunate events. Such as the time the dog shat on her head! She became affectionately known as 'poo-head'. She's also known as 'Tart-face', 'saggy knees' and 'my little vomit poker', each with it's own story. I sometime say random words for no reason (last one was flamingo collars) then question why she bought it up when she asks about it.
I am totally amazed by acrobats and what human bodies are capeable of. I've seen GOP and FlicFlac (germany) and look forward to the 'Monte Carlo Circus Festival' every year (in TV). Jumping, lifting, flying, catapulting, balancing..everything perfectly timed-this stuff. Aaaand every time I only shrug my shoulders and take my hands apart just to say 'Hmm, I don't know', spongebob's 'fantasy rainbow' appears between my hands, but 'shat on her head' is beyond my imagination..how? Wait..nevermind
Load More Replies...Whenever my dad would get a new pair of eyeglasses, he would put them on and look at my mom in fake horrified disgust, like he didn’t realize how wretched she looked before. I would nearly pee myself every time.
Really enjoyed reading these. I am a widow and it warms a special place in my heart to see the interaction of love between couples. One memory from our time when we would go out for dinner; he would leave the name: Senor Reech (His name was Richard), figuring no one else would use that name. His sister and I still laugh about it.
I do not get how it can be funny to (actively on purpose) annoy/ scare the person you love.
You generally do it BECAUSE you love them and they love you and you both find it funny on some level. Marry your “best friend” is the best relationship advice I ever heard.
Load More Replies...I feel so validated by these. We have too many too count. But the repetition doesn't become tedious. "What was I thinking?" "I don't know. If I did, that'd be creepy." "I love you!" "I'm marginally fond of you too." "You're my favourite husband." "How many do you have?" "Does it matter?"
Ever since we started dating whenever my now husband would ask what I want to eat I say "Your mom." It grosses him out every single time and after years he still hasn't chilled any in his reaction so I still so it because I'm sorry but how does it still bother you after a decade? The one time he tries it on me I went "of course you do, my mom's hot!" Because I look exactly like her. He hasn't tried to gross me out since
Every time I would yawn in front of my 1st husband he’d say “Yep. It’ll fit”.
I tell my husband he has to "pay the toll" any time he wants to walk by me in a tight space. If he asks me to do something I'll just say "no". And then I go do it for him anyway. I'll also do it and THEN say no.
My hubby loves to blast "Cotton Eye Joe" in my ear to wake me up. He thinks it's hilarious.
I have seen almost every example here between my children at some point, or I have either experienced it personally or gave it to or from my siblings. So, marriage is having an eternal sibling now?
Not to be a buzzkill, but this is pretty much only okay if both partners are okay with the bit. Otehrwise, you can hear your teeth grinding.
Oh, there are so many... going grocery shopping, he'll hold up a zucchini and yell "Is this big enough?" at me from the other side of the produce section, but I get back at him by following closely behind him by the meat counter while saying "Can we PLEEASE have meat this month?It's been so long!" Also he likes to startle me at inopportune times.
My dad always said "warsh", even though he hadn't lived in SW Pennsylvania since 1941. I suspect my mom pretended to be annoyed just to humor him.
When we were dating I told my husband I didn't like butter (I thought he meant margarine, it was 26 years ago) and Every Single Time we so much as walk by a dairy case he says in this really annoying sing-song voice "I don't like butter...". This is just one of many.
My OH hates the word 'beverage'. Every time I go to the kettle....for years now....
I hate shopping with my wife and pretend to arrest her, I put her arm up her back and put my finger in my ear “ yeh I’ve got the suspect” she loves it … not
I have three in my repertoire: 1) When talking with my wife I like to randomly look slightly to the left of her eyes - just half a centimetre or so. She moves her head to make eye contact and I shift a little further to the left. 2) Moving the shopping trolley just as she's about to put something in it while in the supermarket. 3)When walking up behind her I tap her on the right shoulder and stand to her left - without fail she always falls for it after 8 years of marriage.
Whenever my wife's period comes, i play the russian national anthem for her (you know, cause...the reds are coming). She hates it.