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It’s no secret that these days, more and more people are consciously choosing to opt away from childbearing. And while some still believe it’s a thing brought by new generations—millennials are eye-rolling right now—that’s not exactly the case.

Many people from generation X, which refers to those born between the mid-1960s and the early 1980s, have made the same decision. Falling between baby boomers and millennials, gen Xers are known for minimal adult supervision and thus for learning the value of independence and work-life balance. Some of them are also enjoying life childfree.

So when someone posted a question “People over 50 that chose to be childfree, do you regret your decision? Why or why not?” on r/AskReddit, it immediately turned into a very interesting thread. Below we collected some of the most illuminating answers that explain the decision and put it in a whole new light you may have never thought about.

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People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I’m 55 (F) and never wanted children. I just don’t much like them, and 20+ years of motherhood sounded (and still sounds) like a prison sentence. Maternal af when it comes to cats and dogs, but small humans? No chance.

And I’m very happy to be childless. Cannot imagine my life any other way.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I explain it to people like this - you know that feeling you get where you just can't wait to teach your kid how to play baseball? or whatever it is you want to share with them? I don't have that. Its basically a lack of parental instinct. Having children was never something I aspired to. My SO is the same way.

    Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against children. And I get really angry at people who harm them or mistreat them. I just never wanted my own.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, I too seem to have been born without parental instincts, but unlike you I actively dislike children! Better for everyone this way, really.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Not one bit. I have never believed that I would be a good parent. I have a short temper, and while I don't think I would have been physically abusive, my words and tone of voice would be harsh in a very similar way to my own father."

    "I wasn't happy growing up with that kind parent and I wouldn't want to subject any child to that kind of parenting.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I absolutely adore my niece and nephew, but my wife and I have never wanted our own kids. I'll tell you what though, if I could get my hands on child abusers (we've had a particularly bad case in the UK recently) I dread to think what I would do to them. Sad update: Yet another case today of a little girl of 16 months beaten to death by the mothers partner. I have no words.....

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    To find out more about the childfree life that more and more people are opting for these days, Bored Panda spoke with Zoë Noble, the founder of the “We Are Childfree” community that celebrates childfree lives, one story at a time.

    “In our world, becoming a parent is the default. It's not a choice or a conscious decision, it's not even visible—'everyone' just has children, because that's just what 'everyone' does,” Zoë told us. Meanwhile, childfree people challenge that idea and hold it up for everyone to see, maybe for the first time. “And that makes people uncomfortable,” she said.

    The creator of “We Are Childfree” said that “if it's not a requirement, or even a good idea, for everyone to have children, then that raises questions about parenting, motherhood especially, and sex, sexuality, gender... so many of the assumptions that our patriarchal, capitalist, religious, heteronormative world is built on.” Zoë continued: “If you're occupying a position that mainstream society still sees as radical, you're supposed to have a bunch of good reasons, to be able to justify and defend yourself in a way that those who follow the script never have to.”
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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) My wife worked at a nursing home for years. Imagine seeing for years that over 95% of old people never have family visit. Till they die and people want a piece of the pie. This when I learnt that the whole "well who is gonna visit you or take care of you when you're older" line is complete bullsh*t. We decided to not have kids ever after that. Made great friends and saw the world. No regrets.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having kids to ensure a happy old age is total BS. I get this. My mum and I were the only ones visiting my grandmother. She had 4 children and 7 grandchildren. So no, I wouldn't count on the kids or grandkids at all. I just hope I have close friends, new friends, people I can talk to when I'm old and grey.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) My wife and I chose long ago not to have children, but always left it open for renegotiation. We're 40 now and feel absolutely no regrets about not having children. Still feels like the right choice for us. Hopefully, we'll still feel that way long into the future.

    Lots of folks ask us questions like, "who will take care of you when you're old?" or "what if something happens to your spouse?" No judgement, but to us, those have always felt like pretty selfish reasons to have children.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess all reasons to have children are initially selfish. - I am really happy to have my daughter, but I’m (of course) fine when people decide to be childless. Good for the planet as well.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) F(56) No I don't regret it. I'm simply a loner by nature, and I'm happy hanging out with my cats.

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    According to Zoë, the reality is that most people just want to have children, “and that's great—and some people, a far smaller number, just don't want to—and that's great too,” she said. “I'd love us to get to a place where something like We are Childfree doesn't even have to exist, because people have learned to respect each other's individual choices.”

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    When asked how Zoë realized she wanted a childfree life, the author said that she always knew she didn't want children. “I felt alone in my feelings and scared to live my truth. I'd heard women without kids described as cold, selfish and career-obsessed, and worried that people would think the same about me. Growing up, I didn't see anyone like me in my life or in the media, so I kept that part of me hidden, tucked away in the back of my mind,” the woman recounted.
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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I'm 52 and I'm in bed watching the morning sky over the ocean with a mug of tea and a book. Quiet music and no one is demanding cereal or needs a diaper change or the car or to sleep in my bed.

    Later, I will walk around a museum without a stroller and a screaming, hungry, wet baby or a gloomy preteen. Yes, there would be times that the kids would behave, but what's the percentage? BI will cook for one, not one vegan, one who only eats chicken nuggets, and another who will burn water if I let them near a pot.

    I've never regretted my decision ever.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    relationship and children came up in a conversation with my neighbor last week. I'm female, 41, single, and childless. he's 58 male, divorced. he said he's met many women who didn't want children but changed their mind once they hold a baby. he kept saying I should be open to a relationship. I wanted to smack his head. I have a cousin in a different state and a friend in a different country, both around my age, 40s. my cousin has 2 boys, friend has a daughter; all around 10. reading/listening to their stories, getting photos and videos, picking random gifts.. are enough of "having children" for me.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Nope. I never had the urge to change diapers or lose sleep, free time and most of my earnings. Other peoples' kids are great. Mostly because they are other peoples'.

    When people ask "Who will take care of you when you're old" I tell them that when I'm 75 I will adopt a 40 year old.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Haaaahaha. Someone asked me if I wanted kids and I said "no but if I changed my mind I would adopt an 18 yo and send it to college" :D

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) 57 years old and childless. I don't regret it at all. I sincerely believe that I would have been a piss-poor mother. I'm an extreme introvert, and seeing my sister with her sprogs clinging to her all the time, wanting something or other -- food, attention, a toy, whatever -- and calling to her, mommy mommy mommy, convinced me of the wisdom of my decision. If I had had children, I would have been driven to suicide or homicide in short order. My sister's kids are grown into wonderful young adults, and I love them to death, but I need lots of alone time to remain sane, and you don't get that with kids. If I'd had them, I might have become one of those horrid humans who feed their kids Benadryl to make them sleep, just for some peace and quiet. Childless is better for me.

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    Things changed for Zoë when she moved from London to Berlin, Germany at about age 30. “I gained the confidence to embrace who I really am. A weight was lifted from my shoulders as soon as I started to say out loud that I didn't want kids. That's why, with We are Childfree, I want to empower people to embrace who they are, stand in their truth and live authentically—to know they're not alone, and there's nothing wrong with them.”

    Zoë explained that being childfree has enabled her to pursue a life path that's fulfilling for her, and the flexibility to change direction when it suits her. “It's given me the freedom to move to another country, to change careers, to travel as much as I could. It's absolutely still possible for parents to do those things, but it is harder,” she added.

    “I love the fact that I don't know what my life is going to end up looking like, and not having children has allowed me to pursue that sense of adventure,” Zoë concluded.
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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) No. I knew what I was getting into when I agreed to marry my husband. He had two sons from his first marriage and a vasectomy. He was worried because I was so young (comparatively, he's10 years older). I did think it over seriously and concluded that a life with him compared to a life without him but (perhaps!) with a baby I didn't even have yet was what I wanted. It worked out for us, we've been together for 26 years. As a bonus I have 9 grandchildren. All the fun without the work of the raising!

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Skipping kids and going straight to grandkids must be the dream. Too bad it's usually impossible

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Yeah same, it took me years to really come to terms with this whole "I completely lack a desire to have kids" thing. First i thought I would magically develop the desire when I got older, and then I thought I was broken in the head, and then I thought I needed to just "talk myself into it", or have a kid and hope the feeling came. But I'm in my mid-thirties now and still don't have ANY desire to have a child. People always ask "why" I don't want kids. Like, I have 100 reasons why. But the most important reason is literally "because I don't want them". As in: "I don't WANT them". As in: it is simply not something I actively want. Why would I force myself to do something that I have no natural desire to do. Seems like a good way to mess up my life and some poor kids.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Growing up I just assumed I would have kids, because that's what everyone did. I still find myself asking coupled up people, when they plan to have kids, just because it's so ingrained in me that that's the norm. I never wanted any, so why do I still assume that everyone else does?

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) No and I found a partner who feels the same. We are the cool aunt and uncle.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best one here. Just no. I love being an aunty. The oldest is 26 and the youngest 10. So it's shopping and pub or ice cream and zoo... I love these kids. My 2 brothers have given me 7 kids to cuddle, spoil and when ornery to give back to the parents. They love us back and the adult kids jump in the car and come to stay here with us for a weekend and we have great fun. Typing this makes me realize that I miss them around sometimes.

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    Bored Panda also wanted to find out what a Redditor who goes by the name tag IBeTrippin and made a decision to live life childfree had to say about their choice. In a response to the thread, the Redditor wrote: “I explain it to people like this—you know that feeling you get where you just can't wait to teach your kid how to play baseball? Or whatever it is you want to share with them? I don't have that. It's basically a lack of parental instinct. Having children was never something I aspired to. My SO is the same way. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against children. And I get really angry at people who harm them or mistreat them. I just never wanted my own.”
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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I'm 57 and do not regret it. My husband thought he wanted kids when we were in our early years together, but now he is very happy as well that we never had any. It's allowed us a more free, peaceful, and debt-free life. The flexibility to make life choices we couldn't otherwise make is so much better.

    I also don't think that people should have kids just so they have some sort of insurance policy in old age. It's wrong to bring other people into the world with the expectation that they'll serve you when you need them and, right now, I can't imagine any child is grateful to be brought into this world with what is surely coming due to climate change.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The financial thing isn't one of my reasons for not wanting kids, but watching how much worse off a colleague who makes the same as me, is financially, because she's a single mother, isn't making having kids any more tempting.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I don't necessarily regret not having them, but I regret the fact that I wasn't in a healthy enough relationship where I felt I COULD have children. I regret not being stronger to leave the abuse earlier, if I had been stronger, I think maybe I could have had the choice at least.

    So yeah... I have regrets.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also 'missed' my ideal window for having kids due to being in two bad relationships in succession. At the time I thought I wanted to be a parent, but I'm so glad that I didn't have a child with either of those people. As I got older I realised that my desire to have children was dwindling, and now that it's too late, I don't regret that I never had any. And I'm extremely glad that I am not tied to either of those men by sharing a child.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Best decision I ever made. However it waant so much a decision as a knowledge. I knew from a very early age i would not have kids, just didnt see them in my future and never wanted them. I love my solo, selfish life!!! Do what i want, when i want

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    IBeTrippin told us that they've never experienced pressure over children. “I can understand that there might be in some families, but there wasn't in mine.” When it comes to the decision not to have kids, the Redditor said that “neither of us were particularly interested in having children. It was not something we discussed and made a decision over. It was just the way it was.”

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    When asked how their life would have been different if there were children, the Redditor said that “certainly there would have been some career choice differences for stability.” Having said that, IBeTrippin made a point that “we weren't choosing not to have children so that we could live out some fantastic carefree life of travel and adventure” like it’s commonly assumed in our society. “It was simply because neither one of us were interested in being parents. It didn't appeal to us,” the Redditor concluded.
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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Absolutely not. Knew by my twenties I didn’t want to be a mother. Never had a biological clock go off (it’s a myth). Glad to have had a life free of reliving school bullies, math homework, and most of all, of having to be responsible.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The myth is "It's different when they are yours" or "You love them instantly". Hum, no. Cue parental abuse.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I wanted children but it didn’t happen for me. I had regret for years but now am at peace. I am 64

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wanted children but none lived. First was stillborn. The rest all late term miscarriages. 10 pregnancies in all. Like the op I've come to terms with it and both my husband and i are happy. Sometimes i wonder what life would be like but i don't dwell on it. We sponsor kids from his country and we have his sisters and brothers children so life gave us kids just not the way we thought.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I'm in my 60s, happily married for 30+ years, and without children.

    Most of the time, I'm happy about our decision. Sometimes, my husband and I both wish that circumstances had been different and that we had someone that we could count on to be there when we get old.

    However, our reasons for not having children still stand.

    We both felt the world was moving in a direction that can't be sustained. Research on global climate change wasn't part of the picture, but ecologically unsound practices were.

    We're both from families where there are plenty of children and grand-children. So, our genes will be represented, without more taken from the available resources.

    We both endured teasing about our physical appearances and didn't want our children to suffer the same.

    We'd both been exposed to more than average levels of radiation and didn't want to risk it.

    Personally, I was concerned about being a good parent. (My husband, on the other hand, would have been amazing)

    By the time we were in a position to support having children, I felt I was too old. I'm the child of a 40-year-old mother who had 5 children before me and 1 after -- and although I would never have told her this, I really felt that some of us didn't get the time and energy that her eldest got. I didn't want to do that to another being.

    So, instead of having kids, we participated in helping those already here, in a number of ways. In the end, we wish circumstance had been different, but in the main, do not regret our decision.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Not one bit, and with my medical and other problems, I know I made the right choice.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I'm almost 50 so I'll chime in. I never wanted kids, just never had the urge. But I wound up helping raise my niece and nephew after their mom, my sister, died in a car accident when they were 7 and 5 respectively. I didn't have the full time, but split housing them on weekends while their father worked and his b*tchass wife didn't want them around. I had them every other weekend and about half of each summer for years. They're now 21 and 19, so I wound up as more parent-ish than aunt. They were a handful so I'm glad I didn't have any of my own, it was exhausting enough being a part-time parent substitute and, of course, I wish their mom hadn't passed away. Full time parents, you're awesome, I couldn't do it. At least their dad gave me money for all the time I took care of them, sharing my sister's social security benefits so I could feed and clothe the kids and give them some fun activities and camps.

    I love the hell out of them, but still glad I didn't have babies of my own. They're good kids, I love them to death, but they've also broken my heart a fair few times acting up, making dumb decisions, but all kids do that. I'd beat the a** of anyone who messed with my niece and nephew.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Full time parents, you're awesome, I couldn't do it. YES you are awesome. I've seen some great parents (and a few crappy ones) and the time and effort and love they put into their children is amazing.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I work in education so I feel similar. I raise/ have raised enough people's kids at work. I don't think I have any energy to even think about adding my own in there. How coworkers can go home and parent after a long day of teaching, I'll never understand. At the end of the day I am peopled out and just want to sleep.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get this one. My best friend is a teacher and she has 3 kids, one of them is aspie. There was a period when the three kids were under 6 years old while she was working as preschool teacher. At a point she felt she was going insane. She was constantly sick, exhausted, had no patience or energy left when she came home. She loves her children but it all was (still is, although better as kids get older) too exhausting, draining and overwhelming. Seeing her lifestyle was the best contraceptive ever.

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    I'm child-free, retired and happy. How happy? Julie Andrews spinning on a mountain top happy. I have nieces and nephews (and now their kids) anytime I want to relate to kids.

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    51 here. Never really thought I would make a good parent so I chose not to have any.

    I'm glad I didn't.

    Would hate to see what kind of world they will be living in 10-20 years from now.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn right. I'm an antinatalist - I believe that life is just too hard to be inflicted on new people. Even if our world is 'probably the same old world' in 100 years, that's still, frankly, a bit s**t.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Wasn't by choice, but yes. I'm happily married and I worry about what will happen to my wife when I die. She'll be alone. Otherwise, it's fantastic.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kids aren’t always around when you feel lonely. You need a safety net full of friends and charities.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) My wife and I married when we were in college. After graduating we started our careers and some time later we wondered if we weren't missing out on something, like children, and decided No, this is great, let's keep going like this. That was 30 years ago and it's still great and we still keep it going.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My decision not to have kids has allowed me the space to create the life I want for myself. I suffer from very low self-esteem, and took longer to find a fulfilling career than most people I know because I didn't dare aspire to anything challenging. If I had had kids I, personally, would not have had the energy or motivation to make the changes I had to.

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    At 65 I have to say I have no regrets. I made the decision early in my life and I stuck to it, glad I did!

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told my mom, when I was 12, that I wasn't going to marry until I was 30 (death's doorstep to a 12-year old), and that I was never having kids. I married at 31, no kids. Most of the reason for that was Mom, herself. She'd had big dreams of becoming a professional dancer, but she married and had kids instead. She told me countless times, "I love your daddy and you kids with all my heart, buuuuut....". I've had a life of wild adventure, travel, and love. At 65, no regrets!

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    Hispanic Guy here, close to sixty years old, no I don't, the fact that I chose to stay child free is very unusual in my culture, and I originally did not intend to be child free I just avoided it having children because I knew I was not really ready, it just progress from there, still, now I know that most men are not entirely ready when it happens, I think I would been a great dad, still I have absolutely no regret!

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) Over 50 and child free. My only regret is that my wife would have been a great mother, and sometimes I feel like I deprived her of that, even though we both agreed we didn’t want kids. Sometimes I wonder if I pushed her into that decision. She works with the elderly every day and sees a lot of lonely folks so it gets to her sometimes. I was always afraid I’d screw up the parenting thing, so I was never really interested in the idea. I’m a loner by nature though.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I worked with the elderly also - a lot of people kids showed up only when it would impress the family and the reading of the will!

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I'm 40 I regret it. I can't imagine how horrible I'll feel at 50.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    40 isn't too late. You're a little.more exhausted during the early years than younger parents. My friend was 42. If you really want to, it's not too late.

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    No - I never wanted kids in any concrete way. I like kids, i have relationships with my nieces and nephews -this is absolutely fine for me.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I firmly believe that is wrong to expect children to take care of you in your old age. I would want any children of mine to live their own lives and not be burdened with my care. I didn't want children, and I had, for reasons of my mother having clinical paranoia - full mental illness, no desire to further the female line in my family. I am a loner by nature, and my husband and I are happy. I have adorable adult nephews, but they have their own lives. We travel, and have both spent our lives in the pursuit of learning. No regrets here.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) 47, no regrets. I did have stepkids who were 13/8 when I appeared on the scene, and even though their father left me for another woman, I still keep a relationship with them. I love them to death, always will, and will always be a part of their lives so long as they let me.

    But I’d never do step-parenting again. Too much stress, too much heartbreak. Now that the stepkids are adults, the benefits are showing themselves, and they will always be my family. But f*ck those years were hard.

    And I’m so, so, so f*cking glad I never had kid(s) with my irresponsible, cheating, emotionally/verbally abusive ex. It would have just repeated my own upbringing. Broke the cycle, finally, I guess

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have kids 😉 they're choosing you and you have felt heartache for them. Titles and marital status don't matter, you guys are family.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) 52 and I don’t regret it in the least. I had stepkids for awhile, and they were basically feral. That turned me off the idea of having any of my own.

    Combined with my wife’s health problems, and the fact that neither of us has the energy to deal with all that, childfree is the right thing for us.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes being childless is a blessing bc you need all your energy for other reasons (health etc).

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I like kids but never had a desire to have any of my own. I've never regretted it.

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    I'm in my mid 70s and happily child-free.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I have mixed feelings. I don't care much for children and I think it would have been disastrous for us to have them. I was also able to retire at 52. Pretty sure that wouldn't have happened with kids. So yeah, absolutely the right decision.

    But I love my family and I do wonder what it would be like to have my own, to teach my child the things I know and not to be without someone who cares about me at the time of my death.

    But again, absolutely the right decision and at 55 I'm very happy NOT to have them. This is reinforced every time I'm exposed to other people's kids.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is a very honest answer. I have never broken a major bone, and sometimes I get curious about what it's like, but that doesn't mean I actually want to, either! It's natural to wonder about the road not taken. It's not necessarily regret, just curiosity.

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    People Who Chose Not To Have Children Reflect On Their Decision Now That They're 50 And Older (30 Answers) I used to work in a Children's toy store (Mostly Christmas Casual work, but also during the year for a few years), and very, very few of the staff had children (at least young ones). The majority of staff were 20's without kids and slowly getting more afraid at raising them, a surprising amount of gay men in the company without children, and then a smattering of older women who has older children.

    We all liked kids, but the idea of raising them was terrifying.

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    So I’m nowhere near 50, but I’ve been childfree my whole life without any hesitation or 2nd thoughts. I’ve just never liked kids and never wanted any, for as long as I can remember. I love the CF lifestyle: I have tons of money and free time to just enjoy my life. I plan to continue that for the rest of my life, and just enjoy things. It’s great

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, that "tons of money" argument is crapola. As a single teacher, I live a paycheck to paycheck life. I have relatives and friends with kids who live much more comfortably than I do, often with one parent working. They have houses with pools in nice neighborhoods, take their kids on trips to Canada or Europe, send them to science camps at the NASA Space Center in Huntsville. None of which I resent: it just makes me want to throw the BS flag all over the claim that being childless means a person is more financially stable.

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    No regrets at all. Just said this to my older childfree sister today and we agree on no kids. There are enough responsibilities in life and the costs.

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    what are the other responsibilities? I only feel responsible for my kid as I've chosen to have it. Feeling responsible for things you didn't choose yourself seems even worse. And yes they are not free but I rather spend my money on my kid than on myself.

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    I never wanted children. I don't have the patience. I'd be a worrywart about my kids, too, if I had any, keeping an eye on them all the time to make sure they don't get hurt. There's also the fear that I would be the same as my father, and I wouldn't want to put any children through that.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the many reasons I didn't want children is that I was afraid of being my mother. No regrets here.

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    Ha ha ha no, not at all. My life is so much easier, carefree and simple that a few of my friends with kids have quietly admitted to me they wish they hadn’t done it, although they love their children. Not many admit it, but I’d bet most feel that way.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I found myself in the weird position of trying to convince my friend that she had made a good choice the other week. She was really regretting her 3rd child. Not feeling TOO smug because i can imagine feeling sad about not having kids when I am old, but maybe a little bit smug.

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    Near 50 and no regrets. And my sister just had a child, so I get the best of both worlds.

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