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A rare workaholic aside, there's more to people than just their job. I know, it sounds like a non-controversial and non-provocative thing to say, but often the most difficult parts of life are not the "in-your-face" type of challenges, but those that seep into your everyday routine and become rituals and habits. Like earning your bread and butter.

At a time when the term work-life balance has become a bookselling catchphrase, many are realizing they don't have one. Even more, people don't see a way to achieve it. They're stuck feeling that the system they're a part of has been designed to maintain itself at the expense of its "screws" — human capital — and have nowhere to turn to express their anger and frustration but the internet.

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    As you can see from the posts, the pressure of an increasingly demanding work culture can be a huge burden on our mental health.

    And while a healthy work-life balance means different things to different people, it's usually not so much about splitting your time 50/50 between career and leisure but rather making sure you feel fulfilled and content in both areas. A healthy balance might look like this:

    • meeting your deadlines at work while still having time for friends and hobbies;
    • having enough time to sleep properly and eat well;
    • not worrying about work when you're at home.

    "I used to use alcohol, junk food, television, video games – whatever I could to avoid facing the fact that I was an unhappy employee who felt caught in a rat race," career and business coach Ben Fitzgerald told Bored Panda.

    "I thought a lot about work-life balance back then. In reality, I had tons of time to myself and the real reason I felt worn out was that I was faking enthusiasm for the work I was doing. The performance of it all was exhausting."

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    "If you feel like you need more work-life balance and you're not putting in 10+ hours a day, it might be a sign you need to take responsibility for defining what you enjoy, what you don't enjoy, and then make significant changes to how you spend your time," Fitzgerald explained.

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    There are plenty of people who glorify the grind; it can be tempting and even easy to normalize long hours at the office or being under a toxic boss, facing an extreme amount of stress, especially if you've been doing it for a long time or all your colleagues are in the same boat. Our assumptions and habits around work can become deep-rooted unless we take a step back once in a while.

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    Plus, it can be hard to make changes: if you're on a zero-hours contract you might not feel comfortable speaking up, for example, or you might need to put in extra hours to earn enough money to pay your bills. But for those who can do something about their predicament, recent research suggests regularly checking your work-life balance.

    Pause and ask yourself questions like: what's currently causing me stress or unhappiness? How is that affecting my work and personal life? What am I prioritizing? What am I losing out on? Be honest with yourself. We often don't take the time to reflect on work until something major happens to us, like the birth of a child or the loss of someone close to us. But just pausing and thinking about your priorities and values can help you discover whether the way you’re living and working fits you.

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    Acknowledge your feelings. Now that you're more aware of your current situation, how does it make you feel? Are you fulfilled and happy, or sad, angry, and resentful? Being aware of your feelings can help you decide which changes you want to make.

    Reprioritize. Think about what you need to change. For example, you might want to ask yourself if working long hours is worth losing out on family time, or whether working weekends is worth sacrificing your hobbies.

    Consider the alternatives. Is there anything at work you can change to meet your (new) wishes and goals?

    Finally, make changes. Whether it's asking for flexible hours, being allowed to use all of your annual leave, or disconnecting from your corporate email at the weekend, chase what's important to you.

    Ben Fitzgerald said there's a lot to gain from realigning your work to your personal and professional development goals. This introduces challenges, activates your curiosity, and shifts the focus to one of personal responsibility - instead of working in service of someone else's vision you're working in service of your own. Just a simple tweak in mindset can work wonders.

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    "Devoting your time and attention in service of someone else without any expectation of reciprocation is a great way to feel more purposeful and fulfilled," Fitzgerald explained. "Try adopting this mentality with your manager in mind and see what happens."

    There's a huge difference between living to work and working so that we can live.

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    Daria Z
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you. My only 4 week vacation was in 2009. My last 1 week vacation was in 2018. It sucks.

    Fritz Baumeister
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    Cry me a river. I haven't had more than a week's vacation at one time since 1992.

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    Lady Lava
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's sad... I'm so happy to live in a country where employers are obliged to give a minimum of four weeks vacation, and often more. In many workplaces you can have three weeks in a row off during summer. Employers even encourage you to take all of your vacation days. It's very beneficial for your physical and mental health to have the opportunity to take breaks. Healthy and properly rested employees are happy employees, and that will often make them even more loyal and productive.

    Silviu Leibovici
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    have a kid then and you'll be in a 24/7 job without break and with a boss that's way more unreasonable and demanding... just kidding, you don't own a company anything, go have your time out whenever you want, there will be other jobs, your health is more important. just don't waste your money on things that don't matter that will give you a 2 min moment of joy

    Ryan O'Neill
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am taking my first vacation ever in FEB. I have worked since 16 and even when I didn't I was looking for work and doing odd jobs. I literally worked my 20's away and for what?

    Daria Z
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you'll have wonderful time and lots of fun during your vacation, Ryan!

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    Lioness Nature
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just can sense the baby boomers and some gen Xers coming in with that "back in my day" lecture BS to just basically called new millennials lazy. Knowing good and well the hoops they had to jump through to put food on the table was less than half of the obstacles the new working generation (gen Y) has to go through now.

    Lynne Harbison
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In New Zealand...3 or 4 weeks compulsory holidays per year. Minimum wage $23 an hour. 37 1/2 hour working week, unless otherwise stated.

    MonicaChicagoGal
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah same here I'll probably drop dead at my desk wasn't even able to buy my first house until I was 52..

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    Tjeezers
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    working since 13, do not know breaks, and I am 45 and suicidal. This planet is a prison, what did I do to deserve this punishment.

    Lijo Kim
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know life is hard but you are so strong and I respect you so much for working so hard for so many years. Taking breaks sometimes sounds scary but please do take one when you feel like you can't take it any longer. The world would be a worse place without you. Sending you much love

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    Raphael Biock
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree. Had the worst year of my life, got very sick and had a lot of personal problems. I wasn't able to take a single day off the entire year until xmas. I send a newsletter to all my customers, that the last year turned my life into a catastrophe and I urgently need those days to recover at least a bit. About 20% of my customers ignored my condition after a year without breaks and send me 'urgent' stuff to do during those days... If this kind of behaviour will not stop, I will become more sick and have to stop working at all, so we all will lose...

    L. Murphy
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have been working since I was 15 too, but I am 54. I'm really f**king tired.

    Rebecca Olds
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I took 1 week in june to vacation with my fiance. Ended up being a very good mental break. I later asked for less than a week to go see his parents at the end of October. Was told afterwards that i couldn't take anymore vacation time for 10 months.

    Flash Henry
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I haven't had a break from work longer than one week since.... 2002?

    Cynthia Gane
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hear you! My last holiday was in 2003 and now I'm retired on a pension (can't afford anything but necessities), tied up with community responsibilities and solely responsible for my 98 yo mother and partially disabled husband, I'm tired.

    Ashlea Saunders
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I went to America on a 5 week holiday 2 years ago. Every time I met someone and they asked how long my trip was they firstly were amazed my job let me take 5 weeks vacation and then doubly shocked when I informed them I was still being paid my weekly full wage while on holiday. We get 4 weeks paid vacation every year and they roll over if you don't use them all. And if you don't take a vacation for a while your boss basically starts begin you to take one because businesses don't like employees to have too much time banked. Additionally if you have more than 4 weeks banked you can cash them out if you want and maybe need some extra cash.

    Bobby
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am married since 15 years, and i regret (but love my wife) that i haven't took my wife on vacations once. But she is Queen, never ever protested about it. But still what am i ? A Crusher Bull?

    Brandy Grote
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same, started working at 15. Felt guilty about retiring, utterly disabled and used up at 40 - until I realized that was 25 years. If I'd been at one single company that whole time, I would have had a great retirement and been honored. But I worked 3 and 4 jobs at a time just to keep things going.

    Bilja M
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have 26 years of working, one break when I had a baby. I am sooooo freaking tired and if I live long I will probably work until I die.

    Richard Portman
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We were kind of hoping you younger people could figure this out. It is very disappointing to see you go and say ok boomer, Without thinking about things. The last time i had a job, i was doing laundry at a 2nd rate hotel. It paid the rent. I am too old to work, they used me until i could not walk. That is the truth. So if you want to know, i rely on social services. Is there a problem with that?

    Kelley Hudson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now imagine doing all that while paying for social security the government is saying You won’t get and also student loans because of course you have a degree and are working in a laundry room at a hotel, it’s America.

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    Aleksandra Szpigiel
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Worked 9 years in one place. Longest " vacation" was a week. Thru all my work years in that place i had 13 free days. Thru nine years -13 days. Not counting free wekends of course. And i can easily prof that woth the note you het when you end working somewhere xD beat that.

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