50 Of The Most Entitled Interactions That People Had With Their Exes

There’s nothing more beautiful than being in love. The world is a little bit brighter when you have someone to cuddle up with each night, and knowing that you always have someone ready to provide support and laughter is a wonderful feeling. But when what was once a “perfect” relationship crumbles, it can be challenging knowing how to pick up the pieces and move on. 

No matter how many times we remind ourselves not to make that phone call, send that text message or respond to our ex’s Instagram story, it seems that many of us can’t resist. In fact, research has found that 40-50% of people have reunited with a former love to rekindle their relationship. But that doesn’t mean this is a good idea, as people in these on-again relationships tend to report lower satisfaction, feeling less validation, less love, lower sexual satisfaction and less fulfillment of their needs. 

So why do we reach out to our exes anyway? Isn’t trying the same thing and expecting different results insanity? According to Master Certified Relationship Coach Amie Leadingham, relationships end for a reason. "However, there are some circumstances where exes might reach out to each other," she told Bored Panda. "Maybe a partner realizes they were wrong about the breakup and wants to rekindle the relationship, or they know they are better off as friends than partners."

So if you're going to reach out to your ex, Amie says to be sensitive. "Ask yourself, what is the purpose of me trying to connect again? Is it to build a friendship or more? Lower your expectations of the outcome as well," the expert shared. "Your ex has the right not to be on the same page as you. If your ex has told you they no longer want you to reach out. You must respect their boundaries."

While it's not the case for most relationships, Amie says she has seen some exes get back together after a long breakup. "They both did their own journey of healing, developed themselves and got back together as a healthier version of their relationship," she explained.

But if you're struggling with an ex who won't stop contacting you, Amie says it is essential to have your boundaries respected. "Let your ex know you no longer want any more communication. Be direct and clear with your communication."

"If your ex will not stop contacting you, then you must create those boundaries yourself," Amie continued. "Blocking their number could be a good start. If you fear for your safety, it's important to contact local authorities to help create stronger boundaries and learn ways to protect yourself."

If you'd like to hear more words of wisdom from Amie the Dating Coach, be sure to visit her website!

We were also lucky enough to get in touch with UK-based Dating and Relationship Coach Rachel New to hear her thoughts on the topic. “After breaking up with someone, it’s a good idea to take time to process the emotions and the thoughts. We might feel grief, sadness, anger, fear, depression, anxiety as well as relief, excitement, exhilaration and hope,” the expert told Bored Panda. 

“There will be all the reasons why we broke up, but there will also be other voices in our head saying, ‘Now I’m all alone’ and ‘What is wrong with me?’ and ‘Maybe I should’ve tried harder to make it work.’ Getting in touch with our ex often happens when we’re feeling despondent, alone or just miss them,” Rachel explained. “But that’s not a good time to do it. We are just trying to give ourselves instant relief from the negative emotions, instead of letting ourselves sit with and process them. It’s very painful but essential.”

Alongside the grieving and processing, Rachel recommends that people fresh out of relationships make a list of what they want for their life and what kind of partner will support that journey. “Who will bring out the best in us and allow us to be ourselves? What kind of shared journey could we have together? Then when you start thinking about getting in touch or getting back together, use this list to help you decide whether your ex fits with your values, dreams and aspirations,” the coach shared. “Only make decisions about contacting them when you’re feeling good and with evidence from your list!”

Rachel says we also need to be honest with ourselves about the reasons why we want to get back in touch. “Is it because you miss them and need quick relief from that, or is it because you are serious about exploring getting back together and need to have some purposeful conversations about how things would need to be different if you did?” 

If you just want relief because you’re feeling lonely, Rachel says it’s probably not the best time to reach out. “The need for a warm connection with your ex is like an addiction and you’re going [to have to quit] cold turkey,” she explained. “Instead of getting a hit from your drug, you need some strategies to meet your emotional needs in other ways, such as cuddling a teddy bear, seeing a good friend, starting a new hobby, or walking a dog.”

But if you are actually serious about getting back together, Rachel says you’ll need to plan what to discuss, what your needs are, what you’d like to change, and what other information you’ll need from them. “This decision shouldn’t be a spontaneous one, but something considered and well-thought out,” she noted.