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People Who’ve Been Single For A While Now Reveal Why They’re Glad To Not Be In A Relationship (30 Pics)
What do actresses Emma Watson and Jennifer Aniston have in common? They are both single. "I never believed the whole 'I'm happy single' spiel," Watson said in a 2019 interview. "I was like, 'This is totally spiel.' It took me a long time, but I'm very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered." And they are not the only ones who manage to enjoy life without a partner.
Recently, a now-deleted Reddit user posted a question on the platform, asking: "What is a reason you are glad to be single?" Answers immediately started flooding in. As of now, the thread has over 13,000 comments, providing an interesting insight into the lives of singles. From being able to sleep in the middle of the bed to not being forced to hang out with someone else's friends, here are some of the most popular replies.
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#1
God, I remember rushing home every day because if I was even 5 minutes late getting in the door, I would have to explain myself. Then I would walk in perfectly on time and he’d still be in a horrible mood. Now I can spend the whole day driving around doing absolutely nothing and I don’t have to explain it to anybody and going home is actually an enjoyable thought.
Bella DePaulo (Ph.D., Harvard, 1979), a social psychologist and the author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After, believes that some people really wonder whether it's normal or not to be single.
"To be single is utterly ordinary, more so now than any time in recent history, not just in the U.S. but in many places around the world," DePaulo writes. "In the U.S., for example, nearly as many adults 18 and older are unmarried as married."
"Staying single for decades, or for life, is also becoming more commonplace. A Pew Report estimated that by the time today's young adults reach the age of 50, one in four of them will have been single all their life. That's a lot, but a United Nations report shows that North America and Europe are behind several other regions of the world in that regard. In Australia, New Zealand, Latin America, and the Caribbean, a greater percentage get to their late forties without ever having married."
#2
I don't like spending time with people. I have 1 friend I see once every 2 weeks and that's enough socialising for me
Powerful institutions such as religion and politics often prop up the perceived normality of marriage beyond what it has actually earned by its numbers—even without assists from religion or ideology, perceptions don't always keep up with the changes that have already occurred. It's what sociologists call "cultural lag."
In the end, we all are responsible adults who craft their own life and if someone finds their fountain of joy, it doesn't mean that it will soothe others too. But not everyone understands that. "When I show that single people are doing well in some way, someone often comes up with a way of explaining it away. Those kinds of discussions can be enlightening, but I'm skeptical," DePaulo says. "They seem to go in only one direction. I don't hear the same kinds of attempts to undermine claims that married people are doing well. It is almost as if some people are invested in putting single people down and dismissing them as not really normal."
The social psychologist said there are, in fact, documented psychological dynamics involved in the stigmatizing of single people. "They include feelings of insecurity in the people doing the stigmatizing, as well as their self-concepts, their search for predictability and control, and their attempts to justify the prevailing social system."
#3
I read this article a while ago that really clarified my feelings on this. Studies show that people who are married are, on average, slightly happier than people who are not married. Which has been known for a long time, so people have sort of internalized the idea that marriage equals happiness. But when you break down the numbers in that, what it actually looks like is that people in happy marriages are much happier than everyone else and people in unhappy marriages are much less happy than everyone else. So being in a good relationship is the best situation. But being single is the second-best, and far better than being in a bad relationship. So to me, it’s like not the very best, but it is the second-best and that’s pretty good. It’s like you don’t have a Jaguar but you have a Honda, and it’s reliable and gets you where you need to go. And at least you’re not driving a car from the ’70s with a leak in the fuel-line and a plastic Jaguar-sculpture taped on the hood.
#4
I was engaged but broke it off in July after putting up with a lot of disrespect from him and his family. I had quite a bit of money put aside for our wedding, but now I can spend it on things I’ve wanted for a very long time. I am finally taking care of myself and learning more about who I am as an individual instead of being someone’s fiancée.
Chris Challis 3 years ago
Yes the huge costs of weddings that is expected is just crazy.. One day and it is gone.. One door closes and another opens. So who knows for the future but at least you are free.
#5
Honestly, being single allowed me to put more focus on finishing my undergrad degree, which I just did last week.
#6
I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. If I want to stay up late, I can. If I want to buy something, I can. If I want to watch a movie, I can. If I feel like listening to music, I can. If I feel like reorganizing or redecorating my apartment, I can. I can choose how I use my time. I can choose how I spend my money. I can choose how I save my money. Do I feel lonely? I’ll admit it, sometimes I do. But I have good friends. If I feel like hanging out with my friends, if someone wants to hang out with me, I can. If I don’t feel like going out, I can stay home.
#7
I never want to turn the key in the door and have to worry about what is going on, on the other side again. I don’t want to have to manage another’s emotions or walk on eggshells. I love the peace that my space is mine alone. I also hate the obligations that tend to come with relationships. I don’t want to attend other people’s events, or buy presents for in-laws, etc. Basically, I’m selfish.
#8
Call me selfish, but I like the freedom to wake up and go to sleep when I want to, to decorate and organize my home (that I bought and paid off on my own) as I like, to make my plans and schedule as I see fit, to watch/read/play whatever I want, to buy and wear whatever I want, to cook and eat whatever I want (and not have to share), and to make long term financial and career goals without having to worry about it conflicting with someone else’s.
#9
I have been single most of my adult life and I find it really annoying when I am living with a partner. I had a partner who snored and that really affected me with the lack of sleep I was getting. You get set in your ways then all of a sudden you have someone wanting you to do a whole bunch of things another way. I don’t necessarily prefer to be single, but I prefer to live on my own.
#12
I have been single for the last 10 years. All my money is mine. All my time is mine. All my attention goes where I want it to go. I just try to get fulfillment in life.
#13
Learned to love myself without needing anyone else’s words of affirmation after being single for the first time in a few years.
#14
Wanna watch a movie? I pick what I want and don’t have to debate what we’re both in the mood for, or whose turn it is to pick, or “I don’t like scary movies, let’s watch a rom-com!” Wanna get something to eat? I go get what sounds good to me and don’t have to hem and haw for an hour over what sounds good to you but not to me, then me but not you, and then finally settle on something that neither of us really wants but we can both deal with when all I want in this world is sushi. Wanna sleep till noon on my day off then get up and just play video games all afternoon? My choice and mine alone and nobody can try to shame me for it, or complain that I’m not paying attention to them. Having an off day and don’t feel like talking at all or expressing my feelings? I don’t have to talk to anyone or feel pressured to “open up” to them because we’re dating.
#15
I’d rather be single than be with someone who doesn’t appreciate my love and affection.
#16
As someone who got out of a 3-year-long relationship about 4 months ago, I would say one of the biggest things that makes me happy about being single is being able to see myself clearly again, you don’t realize how much being in a relationship can blind you to how you’ve changed, or how love can numb you to certain things. When I got out of that relationship and once the initial crying and being depressed phase ended, I slowly realized how much happier I was and how much I’ve changed, some of it good and some bad, but it was like being able to see myself through a clear lens and not through a distorted one.
#18
That fear of coming home just for the sake of not knowing your significant other’s mood and being extra cautious to not trigger anything in any way. Then struggling to find out if it’s a good day and I am expected to say hi with a kiss or a bad day and I’m expected to not interrupt them at all, such a bad feeling. I am just learning to love coming home again.
#20
I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, without checking in with anyone. Also, no woman should have to be subjected to my toxic family.
#21
I can talk to myself aloud and it won’t seem weird to anyone. If someone else is around when you talk to yourself, you’re a nutcase, but if no one hears you, it’s fine.
#22
I don’t have to worry about what I look like or what I’m wearing while I’m just chilling on my days off. Hair up in a messy bun, no makeup, no pants, no problem.
#23
Got off work at an indecent hour? I don’t have to sneak into bed and then have an awkward conversation that I’m too tired to have when I wake them up and they ask what time it is, and why I’m so late, and what kept me, and how was my day, when the only thing I want to do is close my eyes and rest.
#24
I can sleep in the middle of the bed with the fan on if I want. I can also leave something on the table, come back 2 weeks later, and it is still there.
#25
I learned who I am after I decided to stop dating. It’s been 4 years being single, and I really love who I’ve become. I was able to establish myself, my goals, and who I want to be.
#26
Stuff in my home is exactly where I left it. I’m not actually single but this is what I remember from when I was. Other people have all kinds of weird habits that make your life difficult. Want to wash a pan? Someone’s filled the sink with plates! Go to find your keys? Someone couldn’t find theirs and has borrowed yours and thinks they may be in their coat pocket! Where’s the coat? They can’t remember!
#27
I have so many hobbies. When I was in a relationship I couldn’t do any of them. I even had a hard time making time for school work. Now that I’m out of a relationship, I’ve been playing music, painting, coding, etc. Literally today I finished designing and making the wooden case for some headphones I’m making.
#28
I can only hang with my friends when I want to. I am an introvert and used to date an extrovert who couldn’t get through one weekend without going out/socializing at least 5x. He’d insist on dragging me along on or invite his friends over. That was horrible for me, I just wanted to relax on my own or spend quality time together instead of having to entertain guests that weren’t even nice to me half the time.
#29
I’m not a huge fan of the single life, but in the past when I’ve been in a relationship, I always felt like I needed to check my phone 24/7. I like being able to just chill and play video games, watch a movie, or hang out with friends without checking my phone constantly.
#30
The only things stressing me are my own stressors. I don’t have to help support someone else through theirs.
What do you think ?
Red rockin lobster 3 years ago
It is obvious that most of these people where spending time with the wrong person.
Daria B 3 years ago
Not to brag, but, reading these entries, I realise I'm in a nice and healthy relationship that I'll never take for granted. I'm glad these people left these mostly abusive relationships. Random thought: the entries that talk about how they don't need to worry about their looks and others' affirmation, a (married) friend of mine and I had a chat about that the other way around. Like, now that we're settled, we only worry about our looks for as far as health is concerned, but we don't feel any stress about these trivial things and are much more comfortable with ourselves now. If your partner feels this way too, that's how a healthy relationship looks like.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Exactly! I read these aloud, and both my husband and myself said, "Wow, that's creepy... Who *are* these people they were with?!" If I want to eat popcorn for supper, I do. He watches whatever movies he wants. We give each other space to be individuals *within* the relationship. Maybe b/c we're friends, not just "marrieds".
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Cynner 3 years ago
After 11 years of being single and living alone, i now have a relationship for 18months and moved in with him last August. I still have loads of freedom and we always let each other the choice in joining whatever kind of Social thing the other is going to. BUT ohh how i miss my evenings alone on my couch in complete silence, with my book and cat. Night after night silence, no tv, no music, no shooting games. I love my man, but i also loved being by myself. Oh and the food, he is a pickey eater and dislikes a lot of my favorite dishes. Hate it.
Ljdia 3 years ago
One of my dreams is to have my own place, as small as it is, and him having his own place. We could even be neighbors in the same apartment building!
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Alexis draskinis 3 years ago
Granted ive been married almost 14yrs & we've been together almost 16yrs but i can see where some of these are coming from. Not in an abusive or mistreated sense but i still get it. Me & hubs got together right after college & both lived with our parents before that so we've always had someone to "answer to" if you will. Ive never had the opportunity to just do what i want & answer to just myself. Like if i smash my car, its not just my problem, its both of ours to deal with. Or if i want a new pet, i cant just run off & buy it. Between parents, spouses, & roommates theres always been someone else that can/will be affected by my decisions or choices. Love hubs to death & wouldnt change us BUT wish i had had a bit more "independent" time before we moved in together & got married & had our kid
TrashPandaru 3 years ago
I have Borderline Personality Disorder which I live with pretty well, but I find relationships incredibly difficult. I used to be a serial dater and went for alpha males because I had no self worth or esteem, so I attached myself to 'cool' people to kind of live vicariously through them. I wasn't aware of this at the time. Eventually I couldn't maintain the chameleoning and ended up wrecking the relationship. I've been single now for a couple of years and finally I mostly know who I am, and have found my self love, respect and worth within myself without pinning it on anyone else. Now, I know how I like my life, I know what I will and won't compromise on, and have things just how I like them. At this point, I don't see any real benefits to being in a relationship. I'm not lonely, I can support myself, I am loved, and I'm not overly physical so I don't crave sex or cuddles. I'm incredibly content and don't want anyone messing my s**t up 😂
I want cake 3 years ago
That's an incredibly healthy attitude, I'm so happy for you that you learned all these things and used it positively to grow and nurture yourself. These things are so hard to learn and accept about ourselves, a lot of people never do.
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Stille20 3 years ago
I have spent the vast a majority of my life single (I'm in my late 30s) Being single allowed me to move forward in my career, care for my friends and family and be as free as my job and income would allow in my 20s and 30s. I got engaged last week. I'm happy I didn't settle out of a need to be "with someone"
Ileana Sky Aviles 3 years ago
A lot of these people are in unhealthy, unstable relationships, with partners that are mentally unfit to be in one. If you're not thriving and learning and happy with someone, it's best to enjoy you.
Toasty 3 years ago
There are some valid points made. The only thing I really miss is being able to stay up late and sleep in. Other than that, having someone else in my life has made me a better person 100 times over. I wouldn't trade if for anything. Honestly, many single people want to be in a relationship, and many married people reminisce about how it was when they were single. Human nature.
CorgiGirl 3 years ago
But why, if that is the only thing you miss, can you not stay up later or sleep in. Both of these are such small things to make you happy.
Load More Replies... Kari Panda 3 years ago (edited)
I‘d like to see a "Reasons why I‘m glad I am in a relationship" post for once... If you don’t want to be in a relationship, that’s entirely fine, but there‘s so much attention on the awesome benefits of being single or not having kids on BP lately... Relationships are not a bad thing by nature.
I want cake 3 years ago
I think that there is som much attention for the single and no kids things because it's against the norm. People who choose to stay single and/or childless get so much s**t for it and that's why it needs to be normalised. Posts like that do a little bit towards normalisation of the fact that it's completely fine and normal. We don't need that for relationships. I would like to see more content about healthy relationships though, without the stupid 'never go to bed angry' advice.
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Aroace tiger 3 years ago
I'm cool not being in a relationship tbh! Not for any of these reasons I just don't get crushes and don't feel the need to be in a relationship. FRIENDS ARE JUST AS GOOD MAYBE BETTER
Noel Benavente 3 years ago
I'm married and i would like to have more time to do some other stuffs, true.. but you can do a lot of these things while married too. I do hang out with my friends, i do watch what i want on Netflix, i do play videogames, i do eat sandwiches for dinner... most of the time what stops me to do these things is not my wife, but my job.
Kari Panda 3 years ago
Exactly. My husband and I have games and Netflix shows that we watch/play together, and then there are games/shows that only one of us likes so we watch/play them separately. Relationships don’t mean you forcibly have to do everything together. Also, in terms of shows/games/food: My husband has introduced me to so much stuff I never tried before and vise versa.
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HissyFitzz 3 years ago
All of these reasons plus well the fact that I am Ace and Aro are why I'm single and totally loving it! When I was little I thought crushes were not real and were just stuff in the movies. >w<
El Dee 3 years ago
Quite a mixture of people. Some who've been in toxic and abusive relationships and a lot of people who are just plain selfish..
Mal 3 years ago
Just wondering how deciding to live as a single person is selfish?
Load More Replies... qwertyuiop 3 years ago
I absolutely love being single as well. Male, also a hermit monk, in my early 30's. Can do whatever I want, whenever I want, in the order I want, have perfect solitude & silence 24/7, nobody annoying. I also work from home, part time, so I rarely see others, some of the time I enjoy online gaming, when not working or reading prayers. Definitely agree that there are people who are glad to live this way, I've been single/alone for a long time. Would never imagine my life being any different, I would simply go mad if I had to live with another person or take care of children, not for me.
Faith Hurst 3 years ago
Most of these aren't about how being single is better than being in a relationship but how being single is better than being in a bad relationship. Everyone should believe that. I can do everything these people can do in a healthy relationship. Some of it I probably couldn't have done in some I've been in in the past. That's why they are the past.
Stephen Foley 3 years ago
Been single now since Jan 1994 and loving it. I am an introvert and an only child so happy in my own company, with only my cat as a companion although I do have a small but very precious circle of true friends. In my home fortress I can eat what I like, when I like, cooked as I like it, wear what I want or very little as few people visit me and the Covid-19 Lockdown has been a plus for me not a minus it must be for many Extrovert people. I don't have to socialise at events I don't enjoy or with people I'd rather not be with or go to boring Meetings when an e-mail would cover the subject instead. Wordsworth spoke of The Bliss of Solitude and I am living and loving it.
CorgiGirl 3 years ago
I'm another one that thrived being in lock-down. I get to spend all this time with just the dog and me and don't have to make up excuses for loving it !
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*sigh*, The Yellow Teletubby 3 years ago
A lot of these make me really sad. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm young, so no one really takes me seriously. I'm apparently a pretty good source of relationship advice though, as my friends, and then I, have found out. It just makes me sad how many people on this post were clearly damaged by someone they loved, and continued to let the other person distort their view of love and relationships. I'm lonely asf, and I REALLY want to know what it's like to be in a loving relationship, but I know what to look for, and I know what signs will mean I have to end it. I know I'll be able to end it, too, because I don't want to do what my parents did, and their parents, and their parent's parents before them. I'm taking my family's misfortune in love, and I'm trying my best to learn from it, because I, unlike my ancestors, want to know clearly when to end things. I don't want to end up marrying someone who doesn't make me happy just because it seems like the next logical step.
Susan Stead 3 years ago
I didn't marry until I was in my mid-30s, so I had plenty of time to learn to enjoy being single. I took myself out to the movies, bookstores, and even restaurants (I brought a book along to enjoy while I was eating). People might come over and try to talk to me when I was sitting at the pub with my book and a pint, but I thought their pity was kind of amusing--I was having a nice time. Although I've been happily married for a couple of decades, whenever someone tells me that they're not sure if they ever want to get married, I totally agree with them. Being single is one of those situations that is entirely what you make of it, and if they're happy being single, they're doing it right, as far as I'm concerned.
Wouldn't You Like to Know 3 years ago
The inability to form lasting intimate relationships is a sign of emotional immaturity. Grow up already.
Olivia Payne-Alatsari 3 years ago
I'm glad these people left unhealthy relationships and/or are happy being single. Reading the majority of these are already how I live my life and I've lived with my bf for 6 years. We're like flatmates in that we just let each other get on with stuff, we are involved with one another's life, we watch stuff together but if he gets up before me and decides he wants to play video games all day I'll just do something else or stay in bed all day if I want. If I want to watch crap TV or he does we'll respect each others choices and just wait till it's out the system haha. If one of us really wants to do something else we'll suggest something and I guarantee you either one will make an attempt to compromise because we respect each other and want to make each other happy. We share so many interests and usually hate the same things so life is easy. We're not bothered about what others think and we do our own thing, it's great! Like living with your best friend ☺️ I feel blessed 🙏🏼
DDmaybeandor 3 years ago
I've never been single, and I would really struggle. I'm glad these posters are working on themselves because if my husband dies before me I won't know how to cope. It's nice to see people living their best life in a way that suits them. Someday I hope to be a more stable, grounded, and whole individual. Honestly, I have a fantastic marriage, but we are alone when we enter this world and alone when we leave it and I recognize my shortcomings.
Hans 3 years ago
Most of these entries really just express that these singles did not have a relationship with someone compatible with them, in some cases who would not care, and in some even a toxic relationship. I am convinced that most people enjoy affection, and most people thrive when experiencing unconditional love.
CorgiGirl 3 years ago
I doubt that there is such a thing as unconditional love. I guess I just never found it.
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 3 years ago (edited)
So the most important reason for people to be alone is because they come from a relationship with a controlling or abusive partner. Who could have guessed....
King Joffrey 3 years ago
Apart from the few introverts who don't like spending time with other people, most of these people were in what I consider highly toxic relationships.
Wayne Dorman 3 years ago
I'll be honest, this just seems like a whole bunch of bitter people who've been in unsuitable and in some cases abusive relationships. I've been with my partner now for nearly 10 years, she doesn't tell me what I can and can't do, nor do I her, we often spend time together or she'll do her thing while I do mine. She see's her friends while I frantically dodge social obligations. we've both got scars but rather than seeing it as "having to deal with other people's baggage", we've picked each other up and made each other stronger. A good relationship should not make you want to be single, if that's the case it's not a healthy one.
Susan Spiegel 3 years ago
Great I am single, 73, divorced. Love dating younger men. Don't even care if they spend the night!!
Justin Moloney 3 years ago
Most of these seem like personal preferences that they weren't able to voice to their partner (excluding the shitty partner ones)
Celeste Grant 3 years ago
These posts are not about why it's good to be single, they are about why it's good not to be in a toxic, damaging or abusive relationship. A loving relationship does not make you feel like this!
Hodor! Hodor? 3 years ago
I get lots of peace & quiet, be a lazy f****r, drink lots of beer and have sex with a variety of girls
Maiun 3 years ago
A lot of these posts are about abusive relationships. To understand different types of controlling/ abusive behaviour and to learn about early warning signs you have started dating an abuser check out www.freedomprogram.co.uk. Healthy relationships should be taught in schools, those brought up in abusive households need to learn that is not normal or acceptable behaviour to make your family live in fear.
Red rockin lobster 3 years ago
It is obvious that most of these people where spending time with the wrong person.
Daria B 3 years ago
Not to brag, but, reading these entries, I realise I'm in a nice and healthy relationship that I'll never take for granted. I'm glad these people left these mostly abusive relationships. Random thought: the entries that talk about how they don't need to worry about their looks and others' affirmation, a (married) friend of mine and I had a chat about that the other way around. Like, now that we're settled, we only worry about our looks for as far as health is concerned, but we don't feel any stress about these trivial things and are much more comfortable with ourselves now. If your partner feels this way too, that's how a healthy relationship looks like.
Leo Domitrix 3 years ago
Exactly! I read these aloud, and both my husband and myself said, "Wow, that's creepy... Who *are* these people they were with?!" If I want to eat popcorn for supper, I do. He watches whatever movies he wants. We give each other space to be individuals *within* the relationship. Maybe b/c we're friends, not just "marrieds".
Load More Replies... Cynner 3 years ago
After 11 years of being single and living alone, i now have a relationship for 18months and moved in with him last August. I still have loads of freedom and we always let each other the choice in joining whatever kind of Social thing the other is going to. BUT ohh how i miss my evenings alone on my couch in complete silence, with my book and cat. Night after night silence, no tv, no music, no shooting games. I love my man, but i also loved being by myself. Oh and the food, he is a pickey eater and dislikes a lot of my favorite dishes. Hate it.
Ljdia 3 years ago
One of my dreams is to have my own place, as small as it is, and him having his own place. We could even be neighbors in the same apartment building!
Load More Replies... Alexis draskinis 3 years ago
Granted ive been married almost 14yrs & we've been together almost 16yrs but i can see where some of these are coming from. Not in an abusive or mistreated sense but i still get it. Me & hubs got together right after college & both lived with our parents before that so we've always had someone to "answer to" if you will. Ive never had the opportunity to just do what i want & answer to just myself. Like if i smash my car, its not just my problem, its both of ours to deal with. Or if i want a new pet, i cant just run off & buy it. Between parents, spouses, & roommates theres always been someone else that can/will be affected by my decisions or choices. Love hubs to death & wouldnt change us BUT wish i had had a bit more "independent" time before we moved in together & got married & had our kid
TrashPandaru 3 years ago
I have Borderline Personality Disorder which I live with pretty well, but I find relationships incredibly difficult. I used to be a serial dater and went for alpha males because I had no self worth or esteem, so I attached myself to 'cool' people to kind of live vicariously through them. I wasn't aware of this at the time. Eventually I couldn't maintain the chameleoning and ended up wrecking the relationship. I've been single now for a couple of years and finally I mostly know who I am, and have found my self love, respect and worth within myself without pinning it on anyone else. Now, I know how I like my life, I know what I will and won't compromise on, and have things just how I like them. At this point, I don't see any real benefits to being in a relationship. I'm not lonely, I can support myself, I am loved, and I'm not overly physical so I don't crave sex or cuddles. I'm incredibly content and don't want anyone messing my s**t up 😂
I want cake 3 years ago
That's an incredibly healthy attitude, I'm so happy for you that you learned all these things and used it positively to grow and nurture yourself. These things are so hard to learn and accept about ourselves, a lot of people never do.
Load More Replies... Stille20 3 years ago
I have spent the vast a majority of my life single (I'm in my late 30s) Being single allowed me to move forward in my career, care for my friends and family and be as free as my job and income would allow in my 20s and 30s. I got engaged last week. I'm happy I didn't settle out of a need to be "with someone"
Ileana Sky Aviles 3 years ago
A lot of these people are in unhealthy, unstable relationships, with partners that are mentally unfit to be in one. If you're not thriving and learning and happy with someone, it's best to enjoy you.
Toasty 3 years ago
There are some valid points made. The only thing I really miss is being able to stay up late and sleep in. Other than that, having someone else in my life has made me a better person 100 times over. I wouldn't trade if for anything. Honestly, many single people want to be in a relationship, and many married people reminisce about how it was when they were single. Human nature.
CorgiGirl 3 years ago
But why, if that is the only thing you miss, can you not stay up later or sleep in. Both of these are such small things to make you happy.
Load More Replies... Kari Panda 3 years ago (edited)
I‘d like to see a "Reasons why I‘m glad I am in a relationship" post for once... If you don’t want to be in a relationship, that’s entirely fine, but there‘s so much attention on the awesome benefits of being single or not having kids on BP lately... Relationships are not a bad thing by nature.
I want cake 3 years ago
I think that there is som much attention for the single and no kids things because it's against the norm. People who choose to stay single and/or childless get so much s**t for it and that's why it needs to be normalised. Posts like that do a little bit towards normalisation of the fact that it's completely fine and normal. We don't need that for relationships. I would like to see more content about healthy relationships though, without the stupid 'never go to bed angry' advice.
Load More Replies... Aroace tiger 3 years ago
I'm cool not being in a relationship tbh! Not for any of these reasons I just don't get crushes and don't feel the need to be in a relationship. FRIENDS ARE JUST AS GOOD MAYBE BETTER
Noel Benavente 3 years ago
I'm married and i would like to have more time to do some other stuffs, true.. but you can do a lot of these things while married too. I do hang out with my friends, i do watch what i want on Netflix, i do play videogames, i do eat sandwiches for dinner... most of the time what stops me to do these things is not my wife, but my job.
Kari Panda 3 years ago
Exactly. My husband and I have games and Netflix shows that we watch/play together, and then there are games/shows that only one of us likes so we watch/play them separately. Relationships don’t mean you forcibly have to do everything together. Also, in terms of shows/games/food: My husband has introduced me to so much stuff I never tried before and vise versa.
Load More Replies... HissyFitzz 3 years ago
All of these reasons plus well the fact that I am Ace and Aro are why I'm single and totally loving it! When I was little I thought crushes were not real and were just stuff in the movies. >w<
El Dee 3 years ago
Quite a mixture of people. Some who've been in toxic and abusive relationships and a lot of people who are just plain selfish..
Mal 3 years ago
Just wondering how deciding to live as a single person is selfish?
Load More Replies... qwertyuiop 3 years ago
I absolutely love being single as well. Male, also a hermit monk, in my early 30's. Can do whatever I want, whenever I want, in the order I want, have perfect solitude & silence 24/7, nobody annoying. I also work from home, part time, so I rarely see others, some of the time I enjoy online gaming, when not working or reading prayers. Definitely agree that there are people who are glad to live this way, I've been single/alone for a long time. Would never imagine my life being any different, I would simply go mad if I had to live with another person or take care of children, not for me.
Faith Hurst 3 years ago
Most of these aren't about how being single is better than being in a relationship but how being single is better than being in a bad relationship. Everyone should believe that. I can do everything these people can do in a healthy relationship. Some of it I probably couldn't have done in some I've been in in the past. That's why they are the past.
Stephen Foley 3 years ago
Been single now since Jan 1994 and loving it. I am an introvert and an only child so happy in my own company, with only my cat as a companion although I do have a small but very precious circle of true friends. In my home fortress I can eat what I like, when I like, cooked as I like it, wear what I want or very little as few people visit me and the Covid-19 Lockdown has been a plus for me not a minus it must be for many Extrovert people. I don't have to socialise at events I don't enjoy or with people I'd rather not be with or go to boring Meetings when an e-mail would cover the subject instead. Wordsworth spoke of The Bliss of Solitude and I am living and loving it.
CorgiGirl 3 years ago
I'm another one that thrived being in lock-down. I get to spend all this time with just the dog and me and don't have to make up excuses for loving it !
Load More Replies... *sigh*, The Yellow Teletubby 3 years ago
A lot of these make me really sad. I've never been in a relationship before and I'm young, so no one really takes me seriously. I'm apparently a pretty good source of relationship advice though, as my friends, and then I, have found out. It just makes me sad how many people on this post were clearly damaged by someone they loved, and continued to let the other person distort their view of love and relationships. I'm lonely asf, and I REALLY want to know what it's like to be in a loving relationship, but I know what to look for, and I know what signs will mean I have to end it. I know I'll be able to end it, too, because I don't want to do what my parents did, and their parents, and their parent's parents before them. I'm taking my family's misfortune in love, and I'm trying my best to learn from it, because I, unlike my ancestors, want to know clearly when to end things. I don't want to end up marrying someone who doesn't make me happy just because it seems like the next logical step.
Susan Stead 3 years ago
I didn't marry until I was in my mid-30s, so I had plenty of time to learn to enjoy being single. I took myself out to the movies, bookstores, and even restaurants (I brought a book along to enjoy while I was eating). People might come over and try to talk to me when I was sitting at the pub with my book and a pint, but I thought their pity was kind of amusing--I was having a nice time. Although I've been happily married for a couple of decades, whenever someone tells me that they're not sure if they ever want to get married, I totally agree with them. Being single is one of those situations that is entirely what you make of it, and if they're happy being single, they're doing it right, as far as I'm concerned.
Wouldn't You Like to Know 3 years ago
The inability to form lasting intimate relationships is a sign of emotional immaturity. Grow up already.
Olivia Payne-Alatsari 3 years ago
I'm glad these people left unhealthy relationships and/or are happy being single. Reading the majority of these are already how I live my life and I've lived with my bf for 6 years. We're like flatmates in that we just let each other get on with stuff, we are involved with one another's life, we watch stuff together but if he gets up before me and decides he wants to play video games all day I'll just do something else or stay in bed all day if I want. If I want to watch crap TV or he does we'll respect each others choices and just wait till it's out the system haha. If one of us really wants to do something else we'll suggest something and I guarantee you either one will make an attempt to compromise because we respect each other and want to make each other happy. We share so many interests and usually hate the same things so life is easy. We're not bothered about what others think and we do our own thing, it's great! Like living with your best friend ☺️ I feel blessed 🙏🏼
DDmaybeandor 3 years ago
I've never been single, and I would really struggle. I'm glad these posters are working on themselves because if my husband dies before me I won't know how to cope. It's nice to see people living their best life in a way that suits them. Someday I hope to be a more stable, grounded, and whole individual. Honestly, I have a fantastic marriage, but we are alone when we enter this world and alone when we leave it and I recognize my shortcomings.
Hans 3 years ago
Most of these entries really just express that these singles did not have a relationship with someone compatible with them, in some cases who would not care, and in some even a toxic relationship. I am convinced that most people enjoy affection, and most people thrive when experiencing unconditional love.
CorgiGirl 3 years ago
I doubt that there is such a thing as unconditional love. I guess I just never found it.
Load More Replies... WilvanderHeijden 3 years ago (edited)
So the most important reason for people to be alone is because they come from a relationship with a controlling or abusive partner. Who could have guessed....
King Joffrey 3 years ago
Apart from the few introverts who don't like spending time with other people, most of these people were in what I consider highly toxic relationships.
Wayne Dorman 3 years ago
I'll be honest, this just seems like a whole bunch of bitter people who've been in unsuitable and in some cases abusive relationships. I've been with my partner now for nearly 10 years, she doesn't tell me what I can and can't do, nor do I her, we often spend time together or she'll do her thing while I do mine. She see's her friends while I frantically dodge social obligations. we've both got scars but rather than seeing it as "having to deal with other people's baggage", we've picked each other up and made each other stronger. A good relationship should not make you want to be single, if that's the case it's not a healthy one.
Susan Spiegel 3 years ago
Great I am single, 73, divorced. Love dating younger men. Don't even care if they spend the night!!
Justin Moloney 3 years ago
Most of these seem like personal preferences that they weren't able to voice to their partner (excluding the shitty partner ones)
Celeste Grant 3 years ago
These posts are not about why it's good to be single, they are about why it's good not to be in a toxic, damaging or abusive relationship. A loving relationship does not make you feel like this!
Hodor! Hodor? 3 years ago
I get lots of peace & quiet, be a lazy f****r, drink lots of beer and have sex with a variety of girls
Maiun 3 years ago
A lot of these posts are about abusive relationships. To understand different types of controlling/ abusive behaviour and to learn about early warning signs you have started dating an abuser check out www.freedomprogram.co.uk. Healthy relationships should be taught in schools, those brought up in abusive households need to learn that is not normal or acceptable behaviour to make your family live in fear.
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