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To hear how this conversation started in the first place, we reached out to the Reddit user who posed the question, “Why did you need to cut off a friend?” The OP, An_epiphany, shared that they’ve seen many friendships form, break and reach unexpected places. “Despite this, I always felt like an outlier because my friendships didn't last that long compared to many people around me,” they noted. “I asked this question to not just hear from a diverse group of people, but to also reassure myself that not all friendships are everlasting and sometimes that's okay for your own wellbeing.”

An_epiphany also shared that they’ve had to cut off close friends before too. “Over time, I felt like my friendships with some people were draining,” they explained. “At a certain point, I was even convinced I was just a nuisance between other people and realized only until I took a break from pushing myself to be noticed, that I was just not somebody they cared enough to include.”

“I often asked myself, ‘Am I the issue?’ or ‘Was this inevitably going to happen?’” the OP added. “Questions with no answers are frustrating, but I just kept moving on. Grappling onto expired relationships rarely got me anywhere.”

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50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them 6yrs ago my “best friend” held a firearm to me and told me to “put out or get out.” I obviously left immediately. We were severely addicted to painkillers and that was basically the only reason that I stuck around with him for so long. His actions that night actually saved my life. I’ve been clean 6yrs at the end of the month. I never spoke to him again after he traumatized me like that. He passed away about a month ago from a drug overdose. I just hope his mom is okay.

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Final score:

205points

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Lost Penny 1 year ago

Drugs/alcohol always kill compassion, friendships, and quite often basic humanity.

68points

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them I finally figured out that all that good natured ribbing he did all the time was him just being a bully. He had issues and I was his favorite punching bag. I finally wised up and got rid of his a*s.

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Final score:

178points

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Sahil Islam 1 year ago

Nice one

20points

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50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them All we ever damn did was go to karaoke at night, get hammered, she got into fights, I babysat her, and we were both hungover all the next day. I begged her to do things during the day, lunch, the beach, events, anything! I was so tired of drinking myself to death and protecting her dumb violent drunk a*s, so I just stopped going. After the third night I didn't show, she called to yell at me about how I never want to do anything... I reminded her of the several texts asking to do things during the day. Then she did something stupid while drunk, had a very public ugly cry panic breakdown, called every person we know and told them I abandoned her at the bar or something and whatever she did was my fault somehow. We were damn 30 years old. A mutual friend and her mother were angry with me to the point of telling me off via text.

About 3 months later, her mom calls me in tears, begging me to help her alcoholic daughter. I gave her phone numbers, and said I was not going to be involved.

Final score:

167points

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Caro Caro 1 year ago (edited)

Sometimes, letting them hit rock bottom is the best help. Alcoholics always blame others. They need help but not you.

13points

We were also curious what the OP thought of the responses to their post. “[They] told me a lot, with some being a bit freakier than others, but reading them made me feel less ‘abnormal’ than I thought I was,” An_epiphany shared. “There were responses talking about putting more effort into the relationship than their friend (ex-friend if you will) and others talked about how their friend tried to disrupt their happiness for the benefit of their own.”

“I've seen too many about how their friend was trying to steal from them or used them to make themselves feel better, which I largely resonated with in the past,” the OP continued. “A surprising response I saw was how a friend ended up being convicted of raping a minor - definitely not something I could handle hearing, even from a distant classmate I knew.”

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them She told another friend… right in front of me… “yeah, if (my name) didn’t keep in touch, we’d never see each other.” Light bulb went on.

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Final score:

164points

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Ryan Edwards 1 year ago (edited)

It's a debilitating hurt to realize you are the only one keeping any type of relationship going. It hits hard right between the eyes when you realize after 3+ years that you are the only one who reaches out to talk or connect; You are the only one who makes the other feel important or special; You are the only one who makes sacrifices for the other or goes above and beyond for the other. It hits differently when your plans to get together (after you have not seen each other for 2 months) fall apart and you're about to say "I'm really sad you can't make it. I really wanted to see you. I've missed you." - but they say something dismissive like "It's no big deal. My friend got tickets to a basketball game and he's paying for the beer. You and I can get together some other time. Enjoy your weekend. Bye." It's heartbreaking when you decide to not initiate a call or text and 7 weeks later they finally randomly text "Hey, what's up?". It SUCKS feeling so small, unimportant, & forgotten.

70points

He confessed he liked me, and when I said "no" because I'm straight and I have a girlfriend, he kept pushing to "just try" "pretend to be gay and date me". I said no "I'm just a friend and I'd like to keep it that way, we will never be morethan that" I treated him like a brother. We were friends for almost 6 years at that point, so it was a hard decision to cut him off. But I had to because he just kept pushing and pushing to the point I became uncomfortable and felt pressured.

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Final score:

142points

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deanna woods 1 year ago

NO means NO no matter who you are or what sexuality.

166points

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them Let's just say I began to suspect his obsession with the Confederate flag had to do with more than his family's heritage.

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Final score:

141points

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UpQuarkDownQuark 1 year ago

I didn’t realize that “traitorous losers” was a heritage.

130points

LooseSeal's $10 Banana 1 year ago

As a born and raised southerner, maybe I can offer some insight. I'm a 33 year old white dude, and in my experience I grew up thinking of the Confederate flag as a sign of home. The inescapable racist nature of the flag was never mentioned. Rather it was presented as a symbol of the place I loved and called home. So, in many ways, my primary introduction to the Confederate flag was as purely a symbol of heritage. BUT, it doesn't take anymore than 2 minutes of thinking to realize it was the flag of a racist traitors. So while I still deeply love the South and never want to live anywhere else, I will never associate with someone who clings to that flag.

60points

Der Kommissar 1 year ago (edited)

The fact that Confederate generals used that flag to lead troops into battle to attack their country should have tipped you off.

2points

Andy Frobig 1 year ago

I like the meme that's a white rag on a stick, captioned "The only Confederate flag that matters"

6points

Sahil Islam 1 year ago

3points

Strings 1 year ago

Lots of people have ancestors that fought for the South. And nothing wrong with being proud of them

0points

deanna woods 1 year ago

The Confederate flag represents nothing more than racist losers.

18points

Solangelo4life!!! 1 year ago

The confederate flag does not show heritage. Ever.

13points

Michael Largey 1 year ago

The life black people lived in the South both before and after the Civil War shows that this inhumane and morally twisted flag does represent a significant heritage of the region.

3points

Xenia Harley 1 year ago

I hate this "family heritage" excuse. People don't fly the Nazi flag for the same reason they don't fly the confederate flag. It is a blot on humanity. Nothing "heritage" about that.

11points

Lady Miss Pie Premium 1 year ago

The Confederate flag being present in ANY WAY should be an immediate dealbreaker

10points

similarly 1 year ago

I grew up in the deep south back in the 70s and 80s, and back then, there were confederate flags EVERYWHERE. There was a gas station in a town I lived that had that as the company logo. People back then would say it represented "resisting authority" or the "rebel" mindset, etc etc etc. One of my brothers had one in his room, now that I think about it. I think he thought it looked "cool". I don't think he has a racist bone in his body. However, after I left The South, I got a different mindset. Now I understand why that flag (and statues of those leaders) don't deserve display.

8points

JelliTate 1 year ago

Me too! I don’t live there anymore but when I visit they are hundreds more flags than when I lived there. Drump gave them “permission” to be out loud racists. Again.

7points

PolymathNecromancer 1 year ago (edited)

It's very sad that so many folks don't really understand what Systemic Racism really means. In oversimplified terms (this is lacking MANY nuances, but/and intended to START conversations) it means this: generally, folks ON THEIR OWN actually *are* likely to be "without a racist bone in their body", BUT the Racism lives in the energy/mindset of a place or a group, and in the vast majority of cases, anyone a part of place/group WILL behave subconsciously in a racist manner. This is STUDIED and SCIENTIFICALLY VERIFIED as a human trait and behavior, for ANY applicable dynamic. At the same time, I know that for those who reject the science because of their own fears/egos/hurts/lack of open mindedness & introspection in their upbringings, trying to beat it into them *absolutely will never work*. The only way is to try and bridge the gap with conversations, connections, and a LOT of f*cking work, that, yes, no one should have to do, but this is the way of the human condition, whether we like it or not. I am not happy about these truths, but folks helped me see differently when I had to, so I must try to pass it on. Sometimes with clenched fists and a**s.

4points

Huddo's sister 1 year ago

This is what the Eureka flag is like in Australia!

-1point

Manny 1 year ago

As usual from most of the comments on this thread most of you don't know your history. This flag does not stand for racism. That is something the left came up with years ago as they did with slavery and blame other things and other people for their own mistakes. Do some research. Just because it was around during slavery doesn't mean it's a racist flag.

2points

Manuel Delgado 1 year ago

The Dukes of Hazzard used to be my favorite show when I was a kid. My parents hated it. Little I knew.

2points

YetAnotherSarah 1 year ago

BAD IMAGE CHOICE

2points

Rostit . 1 year ago

I dont get that. The confederacy lost thoroughly. They were only around a few years and were never powerful. They were pummeled to a fine paste of nothing yet so many dopey cletus m***********s seem to think the stars and bars are something to be proud of. Not to mention they usually use the wrong flag. Just stupidity.

1point

similarly 1 year ago

A lot of it is because of a very, very long and largely successful campaign by The United Daughters of the Confederacy. After the war, they created pamphlets, newsletters and even textbooks that essentially rewrote the war to make the South look better. Claiming that the war was about "states rights" is part of that campaign (and for those who doubt that it was about slavery, read the actual documents of secession by the Southern States). As well, there was a large campaign to paint Robert E. Lee in the most positive light possible. Don't get me wrong: I think he was a good general. I just think he was a bad man whose misdeeds were swept under the rug. Today, I consider all of the rebel leaders to be traitors to their nation and, honestly, traitors to humankind. Their war for slavery was an abomination. We should remember our history, but statues and monument? No. Tear them down.

0points

Chrille T 1 year ago

That photo?

1point

Michelle C 1 year ago

Yeah. Racism in any form is unacceptable.

0points

JP Purves 1 year ago

Yeah a heritage of slavery, racism and hatred. Real southern family values.

-1point

M F 1 year ago

'Heritage' is just the cover. The real answer is always racism. There is no non-racist reason to publicly display a Confederate flag.

-1point

Whitey Black 1 year ago

The irony here is hilarious. MAGA geniuses representing the flag of a "country" that no longer exists, in the country that defeated it no less, and are 100% against immigration.

-1point

An_epiphany also shared some wise words for anyone who’s in a friendship they’re considering ending. “If you feel like you'll have more ‘freedom’ (say being able to freely express your feelings and emotions without fear of judgment) by cutting off a friend, by all means pull the plug,” they told Bored Panda. “Friendships aren't supposed to be chores, nor should you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around them. If it's emotionally taxing for you, that should say enough about the healthiness level you have with that person/those people.”

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them He hit on my wife, and tried telling her first that I said it was okay, and then tried to say I was having an affair with his wife, none of which was true.

CorvidLupus , Alex Green Report

Final score:

139points

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Rain Anderson 1 year ago

🙄

19points

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them My best friend in high school was a chick. She dated one of my other buddies through high school.

When I first met her I had wanted to date her but she liked my buddy so I moved on. Well later on I introduced her to my buddy and she introduced me to her friends. I had a blast.

Several years go by we graduate. My buddy and my best friend go to college together and move in together. I go somewhere else.

They don’t do well together and break up. By this point I have a girlfriend. She’s great and she gets along with best friend.

Several more years pass we are still friends she gets married gets pregnant, has some great kids looks to be having an awesome life. I also got married had kids so and so and anyway.

Well then we were having a conversation about how things turned out how cool it was that we were still friends after so long.

Then she turns to me and says she made a bad mistake back in the day. She should have hooked up with me and had kids with me so I would marry her and we would grow old together.

She said this while rubbing her hand on my thigh. My wife and kids, her husband and kids were in a different room. She shot her shot 8 years too late. If she had asked before dating my buddy maybe. However I love my family and my wife so it was a no brainer. She insisted and tried to kiss me. I said no. We finished out the evening went home and I haven’t talked to her since. That was 8 years ago.

She was my friend and tried to get me to cheat on my wife, while also cheating on her husband while also telling me she should have trapped me when we were in high school. The person who I thought had been my best friend who I thought I had known was actually a terrible person.

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Final score:

132points

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Valdemar 1 year ago

She realized way to late that she had loved you all this time, it doesn't make her a terrible person. It's not good that she tried to get you to have sex but it's obvious that she was going through an emotional situation. It's good that you stopped it but you obviously have had strong feelings for her as well considering that you had stayed as close to her as you did.

8points

#10

I had just gained confidence to wear shorts and skirts (i have/had very noticeable scars all along my thighs and legs) and she pointed them out and asked what was wrong with me. She said it in a very rude tone and just stared at me as I cried. Needless to say, I didn’t wear shorts or skirts for years and I stopped talking to her after that.

renya1544 Report

Final score:

132points

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Justin Smith 1 year ago

Those scars are just the proof of what you have survived in life.

13points

We also got in touch with Zencare counselor Corey J. Flanders, LMHC, who was kind enough to share his thoughts on ending friendships. Corey is based in Providence, RI and has expertise in existential challenges, spiritual guidance, loss of meaning, anxiety, depression, and trauma. He combines excellence in evidence-based therapy techniques with his lifelong experience as a mediator to help clients move beyond symptoms and lead more fulfilling lives.

Corey first shared with Bored Panda that he’s not a fan of the phrase “cutting off,” because we want to be careful about turning former friends into “bad guys” in our minds. “However, we will all eventually need to draw boundaries and set limits in our relationships,” the counselor says. “This is necessary for our well being and often necessary for the health of the relationship. Some boundaries may need to be firmer or more strict depending on the circumstance. With some people, our boundary may need to include no contact for some duration. Sometimes we need to stop focusing on others and start focusing on ourselves. Other boundaries are made within ourselves. An example would be learning to say no in relationships or not answering the phone just because someone is calling.”

#11

Trump, conspiracy theories, Covid denier, the usual modern American story.

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Final score:

131points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

that effects us here in UK too,along with UK issues in the similar vein....absolutist thinking I believe it's called, total lack of critical thinking

42points

#12

He tried to tell me that his work stresses were more stressful than me losing my child, and that's why he wasn't available to offer support when i needed him in my darkest hour.

Don't plan on ever speaking to him again.

miatamanuk Report

Final score:

119points

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MINNI THE HAMSTER 1 year ago

...well hugs? ❤️‍🩹

29points

#13

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them My so called friend spread rumors about me so bad, it got to a point where jobs refused to hire me. I was unemployed for almost two years because of it.

anonymous_girl1227 , Anna Shvets Report

Final score:

117points

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Lost Penny 1 year ago

Wouldn't that be slander or defamation? Wonder if suing them would be an option.

94points

As far as how we know when it’s time to end a friendship, Corey says we need to listen to ourselves and pay attention to how we’re feeling. “How does being with this person make you feel? Some relationships start wonderfully but end up being toxic,” the expert shared. “The friendship might not serve us any longer. We stop feeling good around the person and over time end up feeling used or belittled. I think if you ask yourself honestly, some part of you knows if enough is enough. Listen to that part.”

“Another big indicator is communication,” Corey added. “Does your friend really listen to you and do they respect what you say? I mean, there will always be some amount of conflict or misunderstanding in friendships; we're only human. Look to see if the friendship is a place where the two of you can work on these misunderstandings and grow from them, or is it a place where you feel unheard and pushed around? If your friend isn't interested in working on it with you, it may be unsalvageable. But it takes two to tango. It's a two way street. So make sure you're also willing and able to own your part and learn about yourself.”

#14

Got the call that my dad had suffered a stroke and I needed to get to the hospital ASAP. I lived two states away and got the earliest flight I could which was at 5 am. Asked my then roommate if he would be willing to drive me to the airport in the morning. The way he reacted told me it was just the biggest inconvenience for him to wake up early to drive me to the airport so I could make it to my dad before he died. I ended up taking an uber. From that moment on I just could not look at him in the same light. Still had a few months left on our lease but once it was over, I moved out and never spoke to him again. He never tried to reach out either so I guess we weren't as good friends as I thought to begin with.

Karakara16 Report

Final score:

116points

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Nicky 1 year ago

I am so sorry. That was a terrible action on his part and I hope you are rid of him.

34points

#15

Kept saying the n word like dude I invited you to hang out with this diverse group of friends and you say my n^#&% at least 20 times a minute. Every single one of us could have kicked his a*s and this kid just stood there trying to challenge everyone to a fight after being told he should watch his mouth. Dumbass kid. Is a born again Christian pastor now but i don't buy it. He's just unemployable and has kids.

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Final score:

104points

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Sandy Kavanaugh 1 year ago

Yep, in jail or need money? Find Jesus! That wasn't a friend. You tried.

36points

#16

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them She was using me for my money. She had a plan for my paycheck every paycheck.

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Final score:

95points

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Jayne 1 year ago

Had a "friend" like this. She would ask if I wanted to get drinks, then mysteriously had no money on her, yet always talked about what dress/bag she bought. Would take my cigs (no longer smoke them now) because she ran out. Half the time she would be on her phone pretending to listen, or on her phone "working". Good riddance!

4points

When it comes to making healthier friendships in the future, Corey noted that it’s important to work on yourself first and foremost. “Try to understand how you may have contributed to the failed friendship. Were you rigid, judgmental, sensitive, jealous, etc. Again, it takes two to tango,” the counselor says. “Hopefully, we're all trying to better ourselves and seeking to grow and change for the better. Therapy can help. Or developing a spiritual practice, like meditation, to help with self-awareness and developing a sense of which of our behaviors feels right at this stage in our life.”

“For example, maybe we notice that alcohol intake is making us feel worse and discover that we can work to let it go,” Corey continued. “Or maybe we notice that we have been excessively needy in our friendships and then work to set better boundaries and become more comfortable in our own skin and less reliant on others to make us feel happy and complete. Ultimately, changing one's life starts with you. It's an inside job. As you grow and change and become more healthy, you'll naturally attract friends on that wavelength. Find new hobbies or go back to school. Meet people with similar positive interests.”

#17

Best friend of over 30 yrs. I considered and even called him my brother. I caught him trying to hook up with my wife when she was too drunk to resist. I kicked him out of my house and haven't spoken to him since, and have no intention of ever doing so again.

Chris71Mach1 Report

Final score:

94points

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The Ace Writer 1 year ago

That's not just "trying to hook up with her". He tried to rape her. If she was too drunk to resist, she could not consent. That was sexual assault

167points

#18

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them She was an emotional vampire. Everything was either a pity party for her or a celebration of whatever achievement she had gotten. But if I or anyone else needed sympathy or anything, we were obviously very selfish people and were complaining too much. Or if anyone wanted to celebrate an achievement, we were rubbing it in her face.

Also, she was super flakey. Once, we planned to meet at the gym and she never showed. I texted and called but got nothing until about 2 hours later when she said she was at another friend's house.

duckface08 , SHVETS production Report

Final score:

93points

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Blaine's the Middle Name 1 year ago

Sooooo much this. My "friend" of 20 years was/is like this. She has borderline personality disorder and is a narcissist. I didn't realize that everything she gaslit me for were her own failures or insecurities.

23points

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#19

He kicked me out of a band without actually kicking me out. He just stopped inviting me to gigs. If you wanted to kick me out, then kick me out, but at least have the common courtesy to tell me face-to-face that you’re kicking me out. Don’t ghost me.

Final score:

93points

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Sandy Kavanaugh 1 year ago

He's a coward.

43points

Corey also wants to remind readers to avoid turning other people into monsters in our minds. “If a friendship isn't working any longer, that doesn't have to mean that your old friend is horrible and needs to be disliked,” he told Bored Panda. “Try to develop compassion and empathy. Understand that we're all in this crazy life together and you never know what might be happening inside another person. People who are afraid often display confusing behaviors and emotions like anger, defensiveness, and lack of trust. Sometimes that isn't about you and there's nothing you can do about it. Let the friend go if it's not working for you, but do so with grace. Wish them well and then work to see if there's something you need to learn about yourself.”

#20

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them He started doing Amway. Every call, every time. Amway. He was my best man and me his. Done, over, after 20 years.

YorkshieBoyUS , Ketut Subiyanto Report

Final score:

87points

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Barbara Kayton 1 year ago

MLMs - destroying families, friendships and finances for decades. Sadly I got duped, and paid the consequences.

61points

#21

When I was a single mom, I had a bartending job where I worked every Friday night until quite late. Another single mom and I had become friends after our kids did, and I knew she was a lot more financially strapped than I was. So I made a deal that on Fridays, she would pick my kid up and keep them until Saturday and I’d pay her. A couple of years later, my workplace shut down for remodeling, and I didn’t need her to babysit any more. She went off on me, saying she relied on that income, and how dare I take food out of her child’s mouth, blah blah blah.

Yeah, that was too much for me. No more friendship.

missoularedhead Report

Final score:

86points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

And maybe not the best person to leave your children with in the first place.

5points

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#22

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them he used pictures of me to catfish men

Final score:

78points

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Sandy Kavanaugh 1 year ago

I'm sorry, can other Pandas help explain the term?

15points

#23

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them After 17 years of being "Best friends" I finally figured out that she only kept me around to tear down my self esteem to make herself look better. She never considered anybody else's feelings in what she did or said. If you tried to make plans and she couldn't come, she would bully you into changing it or make a big deal of how you must hate her.

Worst part was she was related to some big wigs in town so if you pissed her off, good luck keeping or finding a job.

Nairadvik , Liza Summer Report

Final score:

69points

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ShyWahine 1 year ago

Sadly, she gets away with that deplorable behavior because of her connections....

1point

#24

Every time I mentioned a girl I was talking to or was even slightly interested in he would go out of his way to chat her up, ask her out or try to shag her. He even messaged my ex (who he didn't even know) on Facebook a week after we broke up trying to get with her. Weird, weird bloke.

Jamezmcc Report

Final score:

64points

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Lost Penny 1 year ago

Had a 'friend' like that. She'd go to ridiculous lengths, not just with people I found even remotely attractive but with people I would simply talk with. Once, at a party, I was talking to a guy about music, something we both found interesting. Not flirting, not hinting at anything, just talking. 30 minutes later, she was sitting on that guy's lap, giggling, and trying to pour shots from her mouth into his. I got embarrassed just watching her.

11points

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#25

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them Because they were the biggest narcissist known to man. Some examples include:

1. Constantly referring to themselves as iconic, gorgeous, a legend, a celebrity
2. Posting 700 selfies with a filter everyday, clearly thinking people are obsessed with them
3. They would call me constantly just to talk about themselves. When I would speak, they would yawn or interrupt me, or just start texting on their phone and ignoring me altogether
4. They talked s**t about other people and were really nasty to strangers, acting very entitled
5. They had no empathy and did not take accountability for their nasty behavior. Nothing was ever their fault, they were perfect and it was everyone else who was the problem.
6. They were very shallow, vain, and only wanted to hang around pretty people
7. They used people to social climb

I can go on and on. But basically every symptom of narcissist personality disorder...they had.

Final score:

63points

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Sandy Kavanaugh 1 year ago

Was this person your friend or a punishment?

38points

#26

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them Old roommate. He backstabbed me with some harsh words all because of a girl. Then almost frontstabbed me with a knife while I was sleeping. Seemingly had a semi-sober moment in his drunken rage and took it out on my bedroom wall instead.

Chozo-trained , Scott Warman Report

Final score:

61points

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Sahil Islam 1 year ago

Whoop whoop where's the sound of the police whoop whoop we need the sound of the police

46points

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#27

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them I was fed up with walking on eggshells around him all the time.

Sunk cost had me sticking around in that friendship for way too long, but having the pleasure of knowing what actual great friends are like, I made the decision to pull the plug. I wish him well. I still want to see him eat, just not at my table anymore.

Oapy , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

59points

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Stuart 1 year ago

Dropping a Tupac quote at the end there.

3points

#28

She never wanted to talk about my problems and life, only her own. When I’d try to open up, she’d shut me down by saying the subject was “awkward.” The final straw was when I tried to tell her that I was experiencing PPD and I needed someone to listen, and she wouldn’t let me talk.

villettegirl Report

Final score:

58points

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Em 1 year ago (edited)

Whats PPD?? Edit: thanks juice and pandapoo (It is Postpartum Depression, Depression after giving birth that a lot of women experience)

6points

#29

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them Trauma dumping.

I became a therapist at some point and definitely wasn't qualified to deal with incest, SA, money problems, etc.

Cyn113 , Polina Zimmerman Report

Final score:

54points

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Em 1 year ago (edited)

I only trauma dump if the other person is ok with it and or they have done the same (i try not to make it all about me)

7points

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#30

Drugs and alcohol. Eventually you need to just walk away.

Confident_Exercise_4 Report

Final score:

53points

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The Doom Song 1 year ago

I was atna "friends" house one day and a bunch of us were all just hanging out and all of a sudden the crack pipe comes out and everyone starts getting high. I made some excuse about having to go home and I got up and left. It's been about 15 years since I saw any of those people.

13points

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#31

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them They were unbelievably toxic and annoying to even be around. Ruined my reputation and my general self-being, and made me feel like s**t for something I wasn’t even at fault for.

Final score:

53points

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Sahil Islam 1 year ago

Ik the feeling. This one classmate of mine who I've known since kindergarten all the way to Grade 10 has ruined my reputation and social well-being within our class group during the pandemic. Lots of fights occured after I realised how much of an a*s he was. He would try to get me I to verbal arguments with him, taunting me everytime I'd chat in our group chat and would constantly spread false rumours such as judging his father's skin color when I used the phrase "You should have seen the look on (A*s's father) face, dam I feel sorry for him" and all the people who are like cult followers of this a*s confronted me of this as if they never even heard of this phrase and since then all the boys (minus the girls and two other boys who were completely against this) started to bully me until I broke down or something. Ofc didn't work and I just cut ties off with them. 3 yrs later I'm happy and better than ever. I do talk with the girls and the other two boys becuz they are truly my BFFS

11points

#32

He let his family’s wealth entirely define who he was.

swaytan66 Report

Final score:

51points

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Daniel B 1 year ago

donald????

22points

#33

I couldn’t keep propping him back up. I love the guy, but he’s gotta live his life. I got him jobs, moved him in with me several times, he ate my food, used my wifi, drank my booze, and just quits on everyone. I’m good homie. I’ve got mouths to feed.

Hamburglarsdad Report

Final score:

48points

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kansasmagic 1 year ago

I read "used my wifi" as "used my wife", and thought OP was strangely low key about that.

45points

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#34

50 Brutal Moments When People Realized Their ‘Friends’ Didn’t Actually Like Them They got a new job and almost immediately their personality shifted. They started getting randomly paranoid, sharing memes and constantly talking about incredibly racist stuff, and not wanting to go to certain areas. Even though we'd just been there weeks before, all of a sudden they were rampant crime areas. It became impossible to have a conversation with them without it becoming some rant about how his rights were gone and the world was terrible.

Maybe it was always there, but it felt like one day, they're my friend that I've known for decades, and a few months later I'm dealing with a delusional wannabe survivalist.

Cyanora , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

47points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

what was the job 😮😮😮😮 ..... nothing wrong with being a "prepper" as long as one stays objective and rational and don't start pulling questionable beliefs and political ideology into it

8points

#35

After 15 years, I was still on friend probation. She was still deciding whether she would continue to be my friend or not. Every once in a while she would ghost me. And she wouldn't communicate, but would do passive-aggressive things to try to hurt me so I would get mad enough to say something and THEN she would tell me what was wrong.

I realized I would have never treated her like she was treating me, and I deserved better.

Botryoid2000 Report

Final score:

47points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

you let that happen for 15yrs !!! ....glad you got your self respect and esteem back

5points

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#36

He used to tell me all about taking advantage of opportunities and "not being an angel" and praising the idea of being selfish.

I didn't realize he was warning me.

Fake-And-Gay-Bot Report

Final score:

46points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

Like taking advantage of the opportunity to run, not walk, to the nearest exit.

1point

#37

Friend was always kind of snarky, but their life got screwed up, I hung in and helped as best I could, including lending money(repaid). Helped them avoid some bad consequences of avoidant behavior. They became really b****y, mean and even stole some stuff. After a while, they realized I stopped visiting, declined requests to get together and pushed back hard on rude, unpleasant comments. Now they're polite, but I've moved on. We have friends in common; I don't tell others about the bad behavior. I understand that depression and anxiety can make people irritable, but it went way too far.

theora55 Report

Final score:

43points

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C.S. E. 1 year ago

Downgraded from friend to acquittance

0points

StoragePretend8829 Report

#38

It's been 10+ years since we've left high school. They still have the same mentality now that they did then.

Final score:

42points

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Dre Mosley 1 year ago

Many people peak in high school, mentally.

25points

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#39

She went full maga. You’d disprove something, she’d just charge off on the next nonsense. She can make up s**t faster than you can disprove it. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

zenos_dog Report

Final score:

42points

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Dre Mosley 1 year ago

MAGA people can’t be reasoned with. They don’t trust science, reason, and actual facts, just their conspiracies and what FoxNews tells them.

44points

#40

She was abusive. Yes, I was her friend between the ages of 11 and 16, so I know this sounds extreme, but she actually displayed all of the signs of an abuser. She manipulated me and lied to me, gaslit and guilt-tripped me constantly, called me names sometimes and insulted me, would turn all my friends against me if she perceived any wrong from me, straight up bullied and alienated me for a year, took advantage of me and guilt-tripped me some more when I started having trauma responses around her, and then would flip to a nice and caring friend at random, especially when I'd pull away, and suck me right back in. Eventually an altercation happened where I was in gym class while injured without a doctor's note, and she yelled at me for not participating in the game to her satisfaction (i.e. running full-speed like everyone else) because my injury was hidden under my clothes, and accused me of lying even though the gym teacher himself okayed me taking it easy as long as I was participating. Then she hunted me down after class and told me we were gonna have to have a serious talk because my behavior has to stop like a disappointed parent scolds their child and made an insult to my intelligence. (I'm really insecure about that because I'm autistic, and anyone who knows me knows to never go there.) Then she strung me along with fake apologies and c**p when I got really upset and then turned around and made it out like I was the one who was causing trouble and didn't want to fix what happened.

I couldn't take it anymore. We sat down a little over a month later and ended the friendship. The last time I spoke to her, she tried the whole guilt-tripping me for avoiding her and talking down to me like a parent does their child, and I flatly informed her that I don't think she knows me anymore and walked away. She tried harassing me via text and email (I had her blocked on social media so she couldn't try that) and it fell through because I didn't respond.

I'm 24 now. I've been through worse, and I've grown up. I've managed to heal, and distancing myself from my classmates really really helped. If you're reading this and know who you are, I know that I was toxic too. I was young and immature and dramatic and didn't treat you so good either, and I'm sorry. I hope you're well, and I hope you got therapy and learned how to properly treat people with love and respect. But I will never forget how you treated me, I was already going through enough without your bologna, and I wish you never moved to town. I hope to God I never have the misfortune of ever laying eyes on you again.

alcatrazz2468 Report

Final score:

39points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

sounds like my mother!!!! thankfully my mother is good and dead, likewise my father...both narcissists,one covert one overt 👍

13points

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#41

When her venting became toxic dumping. I would always try to listen to her. Sometimes I would tell her what I thought might help in whatever situation she was dealing with. She never took my advice and continued to toxic dump. Also she was rich and I was struggling through college and we would go get dinner and she would order apps and dessert and an expensive entree. I would get a cheap entree and this girl really made me split the check with her 50/50. SMH thinking about it.

lizziepaige95 Report

Final score:

38points

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Ima Manimal 1 year ago

Nope. Separate checks. Period. You can speak up for yourself.

10points

#42

One was a manipulative thief.

The other is a raging alcoholic who's still really into all that Qanon s**t.

Sea-Kitchen3779 Report

Final score:

36points

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Imran Faizal 1 year ago

what's Qanon?

1point

#43

She moved into my house, drank shitload of vodka and took pills, invited internet strangers over at the beginning of COVID, and revealed herself as a f*****g sociopath. When I kicked her out with 30 days’ notice, she told people I was in love with her.

slipperytornado Report

Final score:

35points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

of course she did to deflect and detract from her own behaviours,it's more common than it appears

19points

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#44

Disregarding my boundaries. She was going through a lot but hearing about it made me stressed, which is on me, but it caused us to argue more and make me more antsy. When I asked for a day apart because I needed some space, she constantly claimed I would just ghost her and ignored my desires for space. It definitely wasn’t all one sided - I struggle to maintain my mental health when faced with other people’s problems, which is something I need to work on. But insisting I’d just leave and not listening to my needs? At that point our five year friendship wasn’t worth constant stress.

Also not to get too into it but I have come to the realization that there were some really toxic behaviors with us. We met online when I was 16 and she was 20, I believe - I didn’t know at the time but it wasn’t a very healthy friendship.

stefsnacks Report

Final score:

33points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

sometimes toxic behaviour is very subtle and can take years to put it all together, often hindsight is our best friend though sometimes that it too late

16points

#45

Disrespect disguised as flakiness.

xP628sLh Report

Final score:

30points

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Super Beast 1 year ago

THIS. you cant pretend having time for someone.

5points

#46

Acted like everyone else was the toxic one. Always asked for money, never gave anything in return. Came up with sob stories as a way to take advantage of the kindness of others.

CrapFilledBalloon Report

Final score:

29points

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#47

She wouldn't stop being clingy and bordering obsessed. I asked her multiple times to please not worry about me or think I was mad at her if I didn't respond to e-mail messages or texts right away, but to no avail. It didn't help that she'd call or text multiple times a day.

dbzgal04 Report

Final score:

28points

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Dolevaal 1 year ago

I know that fears a little bit tbh (but I didn't texted or called in such a extreme way but the fear of f*****g up my old friendships or that people will leave me) Sounds like someone with low confidence and like she needs professional help.

15points

#48

Talked behind my back. Changed their voice around dudes that I liked.

Mjgoingbrazy Report

Final score:

25points

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#49

relationship became one sided... I was giving it my all, she was just taking...plus, found out she keeps me a secret but at the same time, I'm her emergency contact...

No_Finish_2144 Report

Final score:

25points

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Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 1 year ago

Why are you still her emergency contact? I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just genuinely curious.

0points

Kangaroowrangler_02 Report

#50

Used me and took advantage of my kindness. Then lied about it all.

Final score:

21points

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Andy Cran 1 year ago

all to often people take kindness for weakness rather than a strength.... always be kind but have very strong boundaries,if they don't respect your boundaries them f**k em off they ain't worth it, also never give/lend more than you're prepared to lose

10points

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Stephanie Did It 1 year ago (edited)

I went through a very dark time during a divorce, losing my job and having health issues. Basically just shut down and felt paralyzed with severe depression. My so called good friend in another state got offended that I wasn't giving her juicy daily updates on the divorce and instead of offering emotional support, announced she wasn't going to waste any more of her time on me. Never heard from her again. (Yes, I sought & received treatment)

17points

Emily 1 year ago

Drinking one night, passed out in my “friends” bed. One of the guys who she was attracted to came in and tried to s assault me. She came in and started yelling for both of us to get the f out. I was drunk and had to call another friend to pick me up. I was telling her that it was not mutual and she said that she knew I wanted it. Days later another of our “friend” group called me and asked me why I didn’t say no and told me that I deserved whatever happened because I was drunk. It was very traumatizing, the entire thing. Never spoke to either of them again.

10points

Doctor Strange 1 year ago

Its already rather like pulling teeth to get my friends to spend time with me. I try to spend time with them, invite them for adventures, or just to hang out. I even run an online movie night, where literally all they have to do is go to their computer and not even leave their house and still have trouble getting them to show. But the real sign? About 2 years ago, I ended up in the ICU. Turned out what I thought was food poisoning was a viral infection that caused organ failure. I didn't find out till later, but the hospital staff told my aunt that another hour and I Definitely would have died. And as it was they told her that she should start preparing because they didn't think I would make it. I was there for about a week. Not a single one of my friends visited. I was literally dying in the hospital, and not one of my friends was willing to make the hour drive to visit me. Even on the weekend when they weren't at work. Sends a pretty clear message.

8points

Tamra 1 year ago

I'm so sorry. That must have felt absolutely awful. I hope your health has improved, at least. And I hope better friends come your way soon.

0points

Frances Pitchoune 1 year ago (edited)

I already had a moment in my life which was very hard (family and job), so hard that I had a serious depression. My "best friends" let me down saying (dixit): "We won't see you while you're depressed. You'll let us know when you're better." We weren't careless teenagers, we were adults. They are no longer my friends today and I am now very selective in friendships. The important thing is not the quantity, it is the quality.

8points

D. Pitbull 1 year ago

Yeah, two "friends" who I think i stuck with because they'd keep reminding me for how LONG we'd been friends... then finally.... one of them, who I had stuck by and defended even though he didn't earn any of that (told me every chance he got how ugly I was... how hot other girls were... how much cooler than me he was... etc.), stayed friends with him when he was in/out of jail... then finally came a day when I actually needed him to be supportive (bad breakup of a long term relationship)... and his sole response was to 'joke' about how physically unattractive I was (again) - then deem me horribly ungrateful when I said "What the *** are you talking about?". The other one, was an 'okay' friend until she found 'younger, cooler' friends.. then I found out what she's really like. She asked her 'new friends' to RATE me... then told me about it afterwards. She then proceeded to 'pity-invite' me out... and let me know it was a pity invite.

6points

Racing Tadpole 1 year ago

Emotional vampires 🧛‍♀️

6points

MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 year ago

She slept with my (now ex) husband when we allowed her and her husband and little son to stay with us after they were evicted. It didn't come out until months later. When it did, I kicked him out and never spoke to her again. Her betrayal hurt more than his. We were like sisters. 😢 She did try to apologize via a tape she sent me, but I couldn't respond. My heart was broken.

3points

V 1 year ago

Dropped a friend of 20+ years. She was always Christian. No problem. She became the ' no one should ever have an abortion for any reason even if the foetus is dead or dying, the mother is dying or will die if they don't have an abortion, or a child gets raped' type of 'Christian'.

3points

The Doom Song 1 year ago

Lost many "friends" over the years. Some to drugs, some were just plain old toxic. I don't have any friends but I'm a lot happier and way less stressed out. All I need is my partner, my dog and my parents.

3points

3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat 1 year ago

She just… stopped liking me I guess. She was new to our school and I’d befriended her pretty quickly as she was in a few of my classes. We talked about books and choir, she told me about ballet and I told her about orchestra. She made friends in her other classes too. And then something happened, I can’t really pinpoint when it started. I guess when she started sitting with her other friends, which was fine with me. She was allowed to have other friends. But then she stopped waiting for me after class, stopped acknowledging me when I saw her, anytime I’d try to talk to her she’d just give a short answer and end the conversation. Any time I was around her I felt like I was being annoying and she didn’t even want me there. It was like we were never friends at all. It hurt a lot because I genuinely wanted to be her friend. I feel like I did something wrong and I honestly can’t figure out what it was.

3points

Mir Adwari 1 year ago

I know it doesn't help much but she wasn't the person you hoped she was. Too immature or just not kind enough. It can take a while to see that about a person though and it hurts. Too many people don't think about the consequences of their actions.

1point

ThisIsMe 1 year ago

I was suddenly unemployed for about 3 months, and my best friend was a SAHM. I was stressed about finding the right job, and she had something planned for us every day. When I went back to work, she couldn't accept that I wasn't just endlessly available anymore. As I started seeing more and more how one-sided the relationship had become, I stopped being available at all. Eventually she stopped calling.

3points

GB 1 year ago

I watched sadly as my friend lost her sanity. She was always "high strung" and, I strongly suspect she is bipolar, so she was always a bit difficult to get along with. But after she suffered a couple traumatic events she became paranoid/delusional. It's been about three years since her delusions started and she now full-blown insane. She is convinced that "they" are stalking her and leaving "signs" of their presence that only she can see/interpret. It's really sad but I can't be around her because she has become such an angry person.

2points

Lori w 1 year ago

Friends are just people that haven't betrayed you yet

1point

Super Beast 1 year ago (edited)

she sent me a voice message which didnt listen. she then texted me and asked me to listen to it. she was crying, asking to come over. she could just text that but then i wouldn't have heard her crying. manipulative, and not smooth.

1point

Courtney Christelle 1 year ago

Someone I thought was my best friend, knew each other literally our entire lives- 20 years! They got married and didn’t even tell me, saw the photos on face book. That one hurt my heart.

0points

brittany 1 year ago

was friends with a girl since 6th grade. i was a very shy kid and abused as a child, so she was basically my only friend all through middle school, high school and college. i got involved with a guy who over time turned abusive in every way and manipulative. had me convinced he'd unalive himself if i ever left or didnt do what he wanted, including bedroom activities. i lost all confidence in myself and became a recluse and started to self harm. eventually i woke up and left him and the nightmare life behind. i reached out to her and explained what was going on. no support or kindness. got told if i had followed god i would have been protected from him forcing himself on me the way he did and i should be ashamed for what i did (the self harm). years of friendship gone.

0points

Mindghost 1 year ago

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0points

Lene 1 year ago

I got a friend the first years of uni and we would hang out together on a daily basis and go out together every weekend and all that. In the weekends she'd usually end up really drunk and I'd help her bf carry her to bed and then I'd spend a few hours talking with her bf. The way he expressed his love for her was so moving. We also talked about other stuff. But it seems she never knew that we'd have those long talks when she'd passed out. She had 2 other friends that she'd known for years and they were often with us when we went out in the weekends. I didn't like them. Well, after my friend and her bf broke up she sorta changed? I had tried for a looong time to get her to do other things with me besides going out to dance (she'd dance to attract guys) and get drunk but she always declined. When they'd broken up I ran into the ex-bf who was crying over the break-up. So we sat down and I let him talk about it. Her 2 friends came in and saw us talking and sat at this other table....

0points

Lene 1 year ago

....and started to text my friend that I was flirting with her ex and trying to get with him. She bombarded me with angry texts. She didn't believe that I felt bad for this dude that I considered my friend as well as I considered her my friend. Sure, I should have picked sides when they broke up. But I do not believe that should be necessary if you have a friendship with both parties. And I am aware that that could be wrong on my part. Either way. I decided to end the friendship with the girl and texted her to find a time to sit down and talk face to face. She just couldn't meet up at any of the times I offered. Because she was going to visit her mom and party with the 2 friends. I even offered to meet her at the railway station before they left to visit the mom. Well..... she agreed to put my stuff in a bag and place outside her department and I'd replace that bag with a bag of her stuff and in the bag I put a note telling her to read her emails. I had written a long email....

0points

Pie 1 year ago

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0points

Brainmas 1 year ago

I was kind of friends with this one girl, but there were already some red flags. The first time we tried to have a one-on-one night out, we were having a casual conversation that somehow turned to religion. She actually said, "I think you really do believe in god and you just don't want to admit it." That was it for me. Believe what you want, but don't try and tell me what I think!

0points

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Stephanie Did It 1 year ago (edited)

17points

Emily 1 year ago

10points

Doctor Strange 1 year ago

8points

Tamra 1 year ago

I'm so sorry. That must have felt absolutely awful. I hope your health has improved, at least. And I hope better friends come your way soon.

0points

Frances Pitchoune 1 year ago (edited)

8points

D. Pitbull 1 year ago

6points

Racing Tadpole 1 year ago

Emotional vampires 🧛‍♀️

6points

MaryHadaLittleLamb 1 year ago

3points

V 1 year ago

3points

The Doom Song 1 year ago

3points

3 Trash Pandas in a Trenchcoat 1 year ago

3points

Mir Adwari 1 year ago

1point

ThisIsMe 1 year ago

3points

GB 1 year ago

2points

Lori w 1 year ago

Friends are just people that haven't betrayed you yet

1point

Super Beast 1 year ago (edited)

1point

Courtney Christelle 1 year ago

Someone I thought was my best friend, knew each other literally our entire lives- 20 years! They got married and didn’t even tell me, saw the photos on face book. That one hurt my heart.

0points

brittany 1 year ago

0points

Mindghost 1 year ago

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0points

Lene 1 year ago

0points

Lene 1 year ago

0points