It's kinda weird to me how human bodies are seen as something to be ashamed of. It's simply a vessel for your journey on earth. Everyone has one, come on. Plus, at school the worst that could happen is everyone would go "haha penis"

I personally wouldn’t stop apologizing if I was in those shoes. I’m like that with everybody, really, but you can believe it’d be even more so with my kid especially.

In kindergarten my teacher filmed me having a meltdown because I couldn’t get my ski pants on, you know instead of helping me. Then showed it to me and told me off for having a meltdown. So having both home and school be places I couldn’t cry really helped me stop having meltdowns /s

There's a lot of abuse behind the scenes. Putting your kids lives out for everyone to see, it's disgusting. Looking at you, DaddyOFive

parenting my sibling at home, parenting my friends at school, parenting smaller relatives under the age of 12 at events… can’t people understand that i wanna put my feet up with a drink in one hand and a bag of dry roasted nuts in the other?!

My mother grew up with a friend who had a mother that was like this, he could do no wrong in her eyes, he was her “golden child”. It got to the point it ending up being where it was his friends, and his friends parents, who would scold him whenever he did something wrong because his mom would always just defend him; enable him if you will. I never understood parents like this. These same parents, later on in life, wonder why their kids treat them like s**t -_-

Say whatever you want about me but not to or around our kids.

So sorry you went through this

So common in my household when I was a child,cry for no reason ?easy solution ..a parent would whack you so you had something real to cry about.Hated it so much.

I once got told off by a teacher when I was in the seventh grade for having clothes that smelled like cigarette smoke. Both of my parents smoked, my older brother smoked. It was almost impossible to have anything in that house that didn't smell like cigarette smoke. My mom had to tell my teacher that the reason why I smelled of smoke was because of them.

True, there ist some misogyny in the Term though. You rarely hear complaints about "Whiskey dads" or guys(often with children) flexing their brewery knowledge. But moms cant enjoy a glass of wine in a thursday evening? Sure, some may have a problem, but this label ist too focused in women. Some women usw the term ironically.

Oh for the love of god it's a joke!

OK holier than thou.

99% of things I regret doing/saying in my life are alcohol related - just saying. I quit drinking years ago.

When I was 34years old, on a two week holiday with my mom, she asked me why we weren’t close. I was astounded. I saw/see her everyday and talk to her about my life. I assumed we were closer than most. She pointed out that I stopped hugging her at 8, wouldn’t kiss her goodbye or goodnight, only said “love ya” in response & have never leaned on her or confided anything deeply personal since 10 or 11. I was close to her, but it was superficial & transactional. By 8 or 9, she’d often “joke” about needing a break from me, being melodramatic about needing a spa weekend or a bottle of wine and a bubble bath. She made me feel like I was an exhausting burden. She was none of that. It was the way women in her circle played up how exhausting & difficult parenting was. I was the most self-sufficient & low key. She also had more help than most. She never considered how I processed her “wine mom” exasperation. Neither did I. I just loved her & didn’t want to be in her way or a burden.

But weed mums are ok, right?

I know there's that double standard of dad's acceptably having a beer. But I don't hear many dads saying they need a beer just because they're having to look after their kids (at least for the dads who are present parents). But the amount of wine these moms are drinking is not good for the liver, and relying on booze just because they chose to be moms is not healthy or setting a good example for their kids.

They need to get a babysitter because there needs to be someone there incase something bad happens because of drinking alcohol slows your reaction time and even 2 glasses of wine makes you sleepy enough that if something did happen you wouldn't have a clear head to deal with the situation. If you can't be sober and "need" wine o'clock after the children fall asleep then you are giving the message that alcohol is more important than your children. Just don't! Your kids ought to come first not alcohol.

I watched alcohol slowly ruin my mom's life, her health, her relationships, and eventually kill her slowly and horribly. 'Mommy wine culture', trying to make alcoholism sound like it's something cute or quirky, enrages me beyond words.

Agree wholeheartedly to everything I have read. Alcohol creates an unsafe, unstable environment when parents drink. I saw the saddest thing recently, a strung out methhead couple, rail thin, dirty hair, with a 6 or 7 year old child in tow, equally thin pushing a stroller while the woman was talking about how she partied with ‘blank’ recently. I thought, those children don’t stand a chance. How many parents prioritize alcohol, drugs, work, their -insert whatever it is- over their children, or are s****y people towards their children? No s of this is okay, ever. I wish that ALL of these people, including the ones that abuse verbally, mentally or physically lose their children, forever. I wish so much that children only grow up experiencing love and safety from the people who matter the most.

I used to do children ministry at my old church.

When you chose to have a good, you chose to pick up the responsibilities that come with it. You aren't "dealing" with your kids, like you have no other choice, you are raising them.

Like if your kid has a medical condition that makes it easy to gain weight, or whatever, as long as you try to keep them healthy despite that medical condition, you’re an alright parent! But if it’s the fact that your kid picked up YOUR habits and you don’t care whether they eat healthy, then yikes. Source: got bad eating habits from my parents :/

Not disciplining kids is a form of benign neglect. Sooner or later in life they will face repercussions for bad behavior.

Depending on how old the child is

This is so true,I grew up being abused everyday imaginable,it nearly took my life a couple of times.But I can very proudly say my children had the opposite childhood that I did and they have grown to be loving caring men ,one who is now a fantastic father .I didn't think I would survive to be 16,let alone 53 ,married for 34 years with my soul mate and 2 sons and 2 daughter in laws that I love like my own...you have to brekq the Cycle

Also my mother 🖐️

If it's for cultural name it should be given a pass. Other people can learn the proper pronunciation and learn to just accept that there are other languages out there than English, French, Spanish and Hebrew. I worked at a job where I had to ask for people's names and got a lot of Indian, Sri Lankan, Thai, Mandarin, Cantonese, Russian, names that looked like someone just smashed a keyboard "efiefhuifuireer" and called it a name. Still had to make an attempt with a "I'm apologize if I mispronounce the name..." https://globalnews.ca/news/9587949/indigenous-name-bc-birth-certificate/

I've seen this go way too far the other way though - outright cruelty and coldness because "I'm your parent, not your friend". Horrid mindset to go into raising a person who cannot leave you. There is a balance in being friendly and being a parent.

THIS.

Some parents go to the opposite extreme, with every response to the child being 'no.' For me as a child, it automatically generated a "why?" for which I was lectured for back talking. Please teach children that there are reasons for decisions, and consequences for both cooperation and disobedience. Discipline literally means to teach, not punish. Children deserve to know how and why things work.

This was my mom. My brother and I got yelled at constantly just for giggling and playing and having fun. She treated it as if we were being out of line and needed to be adult-like and quiet at all times. We were kids that weren't allowed to be kids.

who does this??

When I was 10 I got Roblox but only got to play for 2 days before it was banned for being an online game (as a young kid I raged a lot, you know, from anger issues caused by trauma). Anyways I played it in secret and would shut my door to do so everyday. My parents would get annoyed. And unrelated but yesterday I was watching videos on my phone in the dark (was still daytime) my mom comes in to grab something then starts questioning me about it like I was using my damn phone to run a drug dealing ring.

Neglect=abuse

My father did this half the times we were out in public

I used to get in trouble for stuff *other* people did. Example - Mom arranged for me to spend the afternoon at a classmates house. We weren't even friends, but she was nice enough. Her mother told us to go play outside unsupervised. My mom came to pick me up and found out the adult didn't know where we were and hadn't even tried to look. *I* got in trouble. I was maybe 7 or 8 years old?

My mom has ADHD and likely some other mental illness from her terrible childhood. She denies she has it. Would likely deny I have it. I’m pretty sure I have it because my two siblings do. I’ve taken multiple self assessments all suggesting I have ADHD. At some point me and my sister will try to get a doctor’s evaluation. So many hoops to jump through for an official diagnosis all because my mom is ignorant.

He will not give a f**k when I leave and I will want nothing to do with him either. Sometimes cutting out family is best for everyone.

Several years ago was a Disney land in one of the restaurants. Large family group of about 25 sitting nearby. Kids running around bumping into people and never saw any parents trying to control them. Left a huge mess, too