It's kinda weird to me how human bodies are seen as something to be ashamed of. It's simply a vessel for your journey on earth. Everyone has one, come on. Plus, at school the worst that could happen is everyone would go "haha penis"

I personally wouldn’t stop apologizing if I was in those shoes. I’m like that with everybody, really, but you can believe it’d be even more so with my kid especially.

In kindergarten my teacher filmed me having a meltdown because I couldn’t get my ski pants on, you know instead of helping me. Then showed it to me and told me off for having a meltdown. So having both home and school be places I couldn’t cry really helped me stop having meltdowns /s

There's a lot of abuse behind the scenes. Putting your kids lives out for everyone to see, it's disgusting. Looking at you, DaddyOFive

parenting my sibling at home, parenting my friends at school, parenting smaller relatives under the age of 12 at events… can’t people understand that i wanna put my feet up with a drink in one hand and a bag of dry roasted nuts in the other?!

My mother grew up with a friend who had a mother that was like this, he could do no wrong in her eyes, he was her “golden child”. It got to the point it ending up being where it was his friends, and his friends parents, who would scold him whenever he did something wrong because his mom would always just defend him; enable him if you will. I never understood parents like this. These same parents, later on in life, wonder why their kids treat them like s**t -_-

Say whatever you want about me but not to or around our kids.

So sorry you went through this

So common in my household when I was a child,cry for no reason ?easy solution ..a parent would whack you so you had something real to cry about.Hated it so much.

I once got told off by a teacher when I was in the seventh grade for having clothes that smelled like cigarette smoke. Both of my parents smoked, my older brother smoked. It was almost impossible to have anything in that house that didn't smell like cigarette smoke. My mom had to tell my teacher that the reason why I smelled of smoke was because of them.

We've known about the dangers of secondhand smoke since the mid 80s. Anyone smoking around their kids after that knowingly endangered their child's health.

I f*****g hate seeing parents carrying babies while smoking. Or even just smoking around them. Poor kids.

I remember being a young girl and both my parents smoking in the car with the windows up...yet if I smoked anywhere near my child (I wouldn't) I know for a fact my mam with go mad at me.

If someone's kid smells like cigarette smoke, I presume the parent wouldn't be able to smell it, because that smell is around them all the time.

Weed...

I'm shocked that people even smoke anymore. I did it for a long time and quit years ago. I can smell them 100 miles away. Disgusting.

There's a kid who comes to school and his backpack, coat, and everything smells so bad of it.

I just know that my brother and I smelled like a full on ashtray! So embarrassing, but sad too.

I was the kid who always smelled like an ashe tray, and got called the smelly kid for it. I begged my mom to smoke outside but she said it was her house and her rules. Jokes on her now SHE lives in MY house and not only is there no smoking allowed, if there were it would still be outside.

Smoking and having children don't go together full stop. It's bad for your health but also for your children. Even if you do not smoke around them. Your body still releases tar, nicotine and other nasty chemicals through your breath and even your pores and your kids breathe that air too. Not to mention the bad example you set for your kids...

My mother smoked three packs of unfiltered Chesterfields a day. Also, she was a terrible parent.

True, there ist some misogyny in the Term though. You rarely hear complaints about "Whiskey dads" or guys(often with children) flexing their brewery knowledge. But moms cant enjoy a glass of wine in a thursday evening? Sure, some may have a problem, but this label ist too focused in women. Some women usw the term ironically.

Like if your kid has a medical condition that makes it easy to gain weight, or whatever, as long as you try to keep them healthy despite that medical condition, you’re an alright parent! But if it’s the fact that your kid picked up YOUR habits and you don’t care whether they eat healthy, then yikes. Source: got bad eating habits from my parents :/

Not disciplining kids is a form of benign neglect. Sooner or later in life they will face repercussions for bad behavior.

Depending on how old the child is

This is so true,I grew up being abused everyday imaginable,it nearly took my life a couple of times.But I can very proudly say my children had the opposite childhood that I did and they have grown to be loving caring men ,one who is now a fantastic father .I didn't think I would survive to be 16,let alone 53 ,married for 34 years with my soul mate and 2 sons and 2 daughter in laws that I love like my own...you have to brekq the Cycle

Also my mother 🖐️

If it's for cultural name it should be given a pass. Other people can learn the proper pronunciation and learn to just accept that there are other languages out there than English, French, Spanish and Hebrew. I worked at a job where I had to ask for people's names and got a lot of Indian, Sri Lankan, Thai, Mandarin, Cantonese, Russian, names that looked like someone just smashed a keyboard "efiefhuifuireer" and called it a name. Still had to make an attempt with a "I'm apologize if I mispronounce the name..." https://globalnews.ca/news/9587949/indigenous-name-bc-birth-certificate/

I've seen this go way too far the other way though - outright cruelty and coldness because "I'm your parent, not your friend". Horrid mindset to go into raising a person who cannot leave you. There is a balance in being friendly and being a parent.

THIS.

Some parents go to the opposite extreme, with every response to the child being 'no.' For me as a child, it automatically generated a "why?" for which I was lectured for back talking. Please teach children that there are reasons for decisions, and consequences for both cooperation and disobedience. Discipline literally means to teach, not punish. Children deserve to know how and why things work.

This was my mom. My brother and I got yelled at constantly just for giggling and playing and having fun. She treated it as if we were being out of line and needed to be adult-like and quiet at all times. We were kids that weren't allowed to be kids.

who does this??

When I was 10 I got Roblox but only got to play for 2 days before it was banned for being an online game (as a young kid I raged a lot, you know, from anger issues caused by trauma). Anyways I played it in secret and would shut my door to do so everyday. My parents would get annoyed. And unrelated but yesterday I was watching videos on my phone in the dark (was still daytime) my mom comes in to grab something then starts questioning me about it like I was using my damn phone to run a drug dealing ring.

Neglect=abuse

My father did this half the times we were out in public

I used to get in trouble for stuff *other* people did. Example - Mom arranged for me to spend the afternoon at a classmates house. We weren't even friends, but she was nice enough. Her mother told us to go play outside unsupervised. My mom came to pick me up and found out the adult didn't know where we were and hadn't even tried to look. *I* got in trouble. I was maybe 7 or 8 years old?

My mom has ADHD and likely some other mental illness from her terrible childhood. She denies she has it. Would likely deny I have it. I’m pretty sure I have it because my two siblings do. I’ve taken multiple self assessments all suggesting I have ADHD. At some point me and my sister will try to get a doctor’s evaluation. So many hoops to jump through for an official diagnosis all because my mom is ignorant.

He will not give a f**k when I leave and I will want nothing to do with him either. Sometimes cutting out family is best for everyone.

Several years ago was a Disney land in one of the restaurants. Large family group of about 25 sitting nearby. Kids running around bumping into people and never saw any parents trying to control them. Left a huge mess, too