“I Throw Away Stained Tupperware”: 50 Generational Curses People Are Enjoying Breaking
InterviewHow parents treat their children has a massive impact on their mental and emotional well-being. Parenting is a huge responsibility. Kids learn from their environments, and eventually, they’ll pass on those same traditions and behaviors they picked up to their own kids, and then they will pass them on to their kids, and… you get the idea. So it falls to parents here and now to take an honest look at what traditions they’re passing on and to adjust them. The goal? To raise healthier, happier, more confident children.
Digital creator Taylor Drayton went viral on the internet after sparking a fun discussion about all the ‘unserious’ generational curses that folks were breaking now that they’re parents themselves. Getting rid of useless food containers is just the tip of the iceberg! Check out the awesome things people shared below.
Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral post, Taylor 'That's Tee' Drayton, and she was kind enough to share her thoughts on generational curses, parenting, and the importance of compassion and communication. Scroll down for our full interview with Tee, who describes herself as a conscious and gentle parent.
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Listen when your kids tell you that they don’t want to go to certain family’s house
I let my son have boundaries because it's his body and i'm not forcing him to give anyone a kiss, hug or go to anyone no matter the family relationship. he said no then no. he's 2 btw
The author of the post, Tee, told Bored Panda via email that she has built up a community of parents who aim to break generational curses. "A lot of the questions I pose to my followers are ones that are seen as 'taboo.' I was inspired to ask this question because typically my videos or posts are heavy. I wanted to stay on trend with my content but also lighten it up a bit," she opened up about the inspiration behind her post.
"While I was unloading the dishwasher one day, I casually began to throw stained Tupperware away. I realized this was something I’ve been doing for years now. Thinking back, my mother and my grandma would never! I always hated using stained bowls for cereal as a kid, so now, I’m ditching them. I love that the post has gotten the traction it has. I’ve had tons of posts on Facebook, TikTok, and Instagram go viral but I knew I was onto something with this post within the first 10 minutes; there were over 100 comments."
You don’t have to eat it if you don’t like it, and stop eating when you’re full not when your plate is clean
The speed at which her post went viral was nothing short of astonishing. "I have a following of over 130k on TikTok and before I could take the post and post it to my account, it had already gone viral. That tickled me. I believe it resonated with so many people because it’s real. I feel as though it opened people’s eyes to the things they are doing differently than their parents and families," Tee told Bored Panda.
"Often times when breaking generational curses is discussed it's in reference to education or careers. No one talks about not eating hotdogs and hamburgers on regular sandwich bread. Instead, breaking that tradition and buying hamburger and hot dog buns because no one likes soggy bread."
Mental health days! Some days I just don't have the energy to cook a meal, so I eat popcorn for dinner. And I just don't have the mental capacity for doing dishes, so they sit there until the next day. I used to get yelled at for dishes in the sink and not eating a proper meal. While I try to take care of my body as best as I can, my mental health definitely inhibits that sometimes, and that's okay. Also, taking rest days. I'm not doing chores, I'm not working out, I'm not doing homework, I'm just resting and lounging around. I'm sure all of these will change when I have kids, but for now they're what's helping me.
For Tee, conscious parenting (aka gentle parenting) is absolutely key. And its core you'll find compassion and communication. "In my opinion, when I think of a great parent, I think about one that can flex and flow. Be adaptable. Children/teenagers go through so many phases in their adolescent years and they need a parent that will be supportive and open to them going (flowing) in a different direction than what they would’ve chosen. This is not to say we as parents shouldn’t guide them, but we should foster an environment for them to feel like they have a safe space to make decisions."
According to the digital creator, some other signs of a great parent include being compassionate, showing empathy, being respectful, and setting boundaries,
Clothes are clothes meaning - I don't care if they get dirty. Kids are going to outgrow stuff quickly, let them play
Saying I love you to my kids, apologizing to them when I’m wrong, not making them eat food they don’t like, no they don’t have to finish their meals, allowing them to voice their opinions about things they like and don’t like, giving them plenty hugs and kisses and words of encouragement
"It is my passion to help others create a safe space for their child and to help them better communicate with them. I self-published parent/child shared journals that are available on Amazon earlier this year. This is something my mom and I did when I was a child/teen growing up. We wrote in a notebook and passed it back and forth. It was a great way for me to express myself and ask hard questions," Tee pitched the idea that some of the parents reading this might want to embrace.
"This truly helped me as a child to communicate and it helped my mom to understand me better. All in all, my goal is to give today’s children the opportunity to say how they truly feel about situations unlike a lot of millennials were able to do growing up. Another generational curse broken!"
If we're shopping and I pick out something from my kid and they say it's ugly - it's ugly, end of the story. We're not getting it
Tee’s Facebook post made huge waves on social media, as well as other corners of the net. The topic she drew attention to resonated with people so much that even TikTok and media outlets picked it up. TikToker Christal Luster's video which incorporated Tee’s post ended up getting over 716k views and inspired other platform users to make their own clips.
The topic that Tee drew attention to might sound lighthearted on the surface, but it’s actually very serious. It speaks volumes about all the different behaviors that people unknowingly adopt from their parents while growing up, and how they automatically pass those on upon having kids themselves. Some of these might be very healthy. Others… less so.
Boys can wear what they want
Dresses? Cool
Lipgloss? Wonderful
Nail polish? AWESOME
Girls DO NOT HAVE TO WEAR SLIPS OR STOCKINGS
My son can drink before, during, and after his meal. He does not have to clean his plate
My child does not have to eat all their food. If you're done you're done. My parents had pictures of me asleep at the table because they wanted me to finish
It’s completely normal that different families will have different approaches to parenting. And it’s important to recognize the fact that, so long as nobody is being neglected or abused, it’s fine to raise kids one way or the other. Parenting is a touchy subject, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.
However, certain styles of parenting are known to be more effective than others. Case in point, research shows that authoritative parents tend to raise children who are the most self-confident, successful, and self-reliant. Despite the somewhat imposing name, authoritative parents strike a balance between setting and enforcing healthy boundaries and communicating with their kids.
Authoritative parents focus on providing their children with structure and support while maintaining as much transparency as possible. Contrast that with authoritarian parents who don’t explain their reasoning and expect their kids to do what they say, when they say it.
I let my kids ask me a million questions and I try to answer them without the "because I said so"
My children are allowed to call me out respectfully. I'm only human and make mistakes and they have their own minds, they don't have to think and feel the same way I do
Two other well-known parenting styles are permissive and uninvolved parenting. The former is all about giving kids the freedom to do what they want without micromanaging them. The drawback, however, is that there’s often a lack of boundaries and rules. This, in turn, can make it difficult for children raised this way to thrive in more orderly environments as they grow up, like university or work.
Meanwhile, uninvolved parents often neglect any and all responsibilities and leave their kids to fend for themselves. They might be uninterested in parenting or they might simply not have the time to be more involved. In short, children thrive when there’s structure, but not to the point where it becomes suffocating. Too much structure, like too much freedom, can backfire.
Similarly, kids need emotional support, but not to the point that their parents forbid them from making mistakes. So-called helicopter parents tend to be overbearing, and they restrict their children’s activities far too much and often won’t let them behave like, well, kids. By protecting their kids from any and all possible discomfort, helicopter parents can cause a lot of harm. That’s because their children don’t develop useful life skills like the ability to think and act independently. They also tend to be bad at handling stress and failure.
Fostering positive traditions with your children comes down to spending quality time with them. It doesn’t quite matter what you do, so long as you do it together. So your family traditions can end up being quite fun and quirky. One of the upsides is that you create a sense of predictability and routine in your lives. And it’s often something to look forward to. However, parents ought to remember that they might have to modify these routines and rituals as their kids grow, change, and mature.
I let my kids be grumpy / snarky in the mornings.
I'm not nice when I wake up either.
Serious, but: My kids are able to have opinions out loud. They are SEEN and HEARD, and I love that for them
Which of these ‘unserious’ generational curses did you find to be the most witty and weird, dear Pandas? Do you have any bizarre traditions that have been passed down from generation to generation in your family? What kinds of new traditions have you developed at home since you’ve become parents? Drop by the comment section to share your thoughts!
Washing on Sundays & holidays. I wash whenever I want! No rules here. I also don’t make my bed everyday. The only time I make it up is when I change the linen
If my child says she's not hungry, I don't make her sit down and eat anyways. She's learning how to listen to her body
I allow my child to eat "adult food". He likes steak and sushi and I don't try to tell him he has to wait until he is an adult to have them
I'm throwing away food packaging like yogurt containers, instead of using them for leftovers. I bought myself glass containers
Snacking when you are hungry and not shaming others for not waiting until mealtime
I allow my children to take personal days off from school. So many times I've went to school sick or was being teased relentlessly and I couldn't do a thing about it. And my babies can wear hoop earrings
We eat dessert whenever we want and we don't make our son finish his meals
If I bought my child clothes and they want to wear them tonight, they can put them on tonight. Have fun, they're new. Everybody likes new stuff
If the clothes are worn next to the skin, it is best to wash before use.
Yeah I'm with you on this, too many chemicals, other people trying stuff on, touching it, purchasing it then returning it. You don't know where stuff has been! Just wash it.
Load More Replies...I read this as 'my kid sleps on her new stuff' xD
Load More Replies...I once got new shoes when I was three and I put them on in the parking lot of Walmart. My mom even let me take my nap with them on.
My school had registration for the new school year this past week and I was assigned to sell t-shirts. One woman came up with her very young son and asked if he wanted a shirt. He looked down, grabbed the shirt he was wearing, and looked stricken. He vigorously shook his head "no" and kept holding onto his own shirt. Lol
You allways have to wash new clothes, it's full of cemicals - the kids can enjoy helping to put the new clothes in the washingmaschine
I get this unless the clothes are bought for a particular event. My daughter used to get Easter dresses each year. I would let her try them on and prance around the house for a few minutes and then they were put away until Easter... usually just a couple weeks. After they were worn for that holiday she could wear them whenever she wanted, even just in her room playing.
Whistling in the house my grandma and mum never let me. I whistle inside around them and they still cringe but don't say nothing
I didn't kick my daughter out when she turned 18. I never made her eat meat if she didn't want it I never made her finish her food She said the word lie and other curse words but never got in trouble for it Her room is a mess but I didn't make her clean it (I'm about to start that lol) She wore her hair however she wanted We fine dined all the time She didn't have to go over relatives house if she didn't want to No crack of dawn weekend cleaning sessions If I'm up early, I don't feel like everyone else in the house needs to be up doing something I don't make up s**t for her to do. She can just "be"
My kid only has to tell me they don't like something one time. You don't have to eat it no more. We can find something else. You know how many fruits and vegetables there are, you ain't gotta like that one
Enjoying my Sundays instead of cleaning the house and so what if we got food at home I’m stopping to get me a burger. Oh and letting my clean laundry sit for days Instead of folding my clothes.
I take the little paper part off the cream cheese spread ….not just peel it back lol
I don't save every plastic bag that I bring home. I do not have a bag full of other belled-up bags underneath my kitchen sink or in a drawer. I throw them away or recycle them
So many of these seem to be about trying to get past the stresses and anxieties of growing up poor..........but somehow blaming their parents for having weird rules? Oh, children, your parents used the grocery bags and margarine containers because there wasn't money to buy Tupperware, etc.
Yeah some of these just seem like blaming their parents for being poor :/
Load More Replies...And everyone throws stuff away and doesn't bother to mention recycling.
Load More Replies...Reading this you realise that rampant capitalism has done quite the number on us. So many posts about not getting the 'right' brand of clothes/food/whatever, and other post celebrating wastefulness.
COMPLETELY AGREE. It's sad. Let's complain about the economy as we demand to be wasteful and gluttonous. Im glad I was raised by people who taught me to be grateful and respectful for all I have.. and I'm in my 20s for the person who's going to call me a boomer lol.
Load More Replies...A list of wasteful, snobby people, for the most part. If that’s what breaking generational ‘curses’ means, then consider me ‘cursed.’ 90% of this list completely missed the bar though, and is not even close to the right definition of what a generational curse is, which we have many of.
Not everything about past generations were wrong. There is nothing wrong about teaching your childeren to not waste (food) or be respectfull. But you have to respect the child as well. Teach your child to express their opinion and their needs but also teach them to do that in a matter that they are not spoiled brats. And there is certainly nothing wrong with making your kids consious of the environment, as they enherit that environment one day.
some of these are "i dont care for the environment" or "I like to waste money" and "i'll let my kids do whatever they want!" Serious??
We had to learn when our son was saying he was full because he was full and when he was saying it because he wanted to do something else. He has grown out of that so now if he says he is full, he is full.
Exactly!!! I have two kids and they both do this. They would say they're full just because eating is boring. And then 30 minutes later they come back bagging for snacks or candy.... No way... I don't force them to eat everything off their plate, but i do require them to eat reasonable amount (and 3 bites are not reasonable)....
Load More Replies...Midway through this list just got weird. Like some sort of confessional.
Hahaha millennials have a lot of strange baggage
Load More Replies..."I let my 5-year-old run around the neighborhood until midnight, and she can eat cotton candy every day instead of dinner, because I need my mental health days and I'M not going to be like those dummy-dum-dum generations that came before us!"
Where was that in the list? Sorry we don't want our kids growing up with a twisted knot of anxiety in their stomachs because we don't need to control and enforce ridiculous rules on them like a lot of our parents did. No need to make fun you had your chance and when our kids grow up they can complain about all the ways we ruined their lives as is their right.
Load More Replies...Most of these posts are by people with the me me me attitude; a huge problem with the younger generation. Do the least amount of work possible but for the highest pay possible ad oh, don't forget my "me" days.
These people will have been brought up by parents who impressed upon them that children and their preferences don't count. So they went the other way when they got the chance.
Load More Replies...There are two culture barriers (I guess?) I always stumble upon, and both keep popping up in this article. The first is the "making your bed" one. I "make" my bed everyday, but I consider an "open" bed with the duvet folded back for freshness reasons a "made bed", especially because I fluff the pillows and make everything neat. But a "made bed" doesn't seem to mean the same to everyone, because everytime someone mentions making your bed, people get on their case? The other one is about recycling. Everytime someone mentions throwing plastic away, people will get on their case about recycling, but over here that means the same? We have a bin for plastic, so throwing it out IS recycling. Any light?
Two interesting points! I'm guilty of telling people not to make their beds to air it out, never realised this is also a way of making your bed. Noted! The other one I agree with, when I say I throw something out, I always mean recycling it if it can be recycled. I think the problem with some of these things is that they can't be recycled, and would better be reused or repurposed.
Load More Replies...Some of these are horrible, teaching selfishness. But I guess that's the generation. " I won't answer your call unless I "feel" like it". Yeah, YTA
I buy more underwear and socks and chuck the old stuff as it gets shabby. Even if that means I buy underwear twice in the same year. Also, five pairs of underwear and four pairs of socks is not "plenty". You shouldn't have to search through the dry laundry to find a clean pair of undies every fricking week. Also, why should kids only have one pair of school shoes? What's wrong with a kid having two pairs of black shoes, when that's what they're supposed to be wearing five days a week? Shoes get wet, and dirty, and wear out, or break. When there's a hole in the sole it shouldn't be an emergency "Why do you have to be so hard on your shoes?!"
Well, congratulations on earning enough money to be able to do that, I guess!
Load More Replies...A lot of these sound like Americans having grown up with strict, conservative parents, and now they're getting their revenge by being wasteful and letting their kids run wild. Great plan.
I get a lot of these things. Using the special china just because you want to.. this makes sense. But other things do concern me that they are letting their children not being encouraged to keep trying different foods, that can lead to deficiencies in their diets... you can still get scurvy and rickets now, poor diet will do it. Expand their food options. Also allowing kids to not learn living skills will handicap them as adults. Yes some rules like eating everything on you plate is silly. Also so many people seem to be throwing out stuff.... I mean throwing out a okd foid container to buy Tupperware us not exactly eco friendly - use something until it's worn out then get new stuff
I'm a minimalist, majority of my older family verge on being hoarders. It makes me feel SO claustrophobic in their homes because of the "well we might need it later" c**p. My great aunt was a MAJOR hoarder and when she passed (I was 12ish) I remember how much work it took to clear out her house and TWO storage units! I think that had a major impact. It's a bit morbid but outside of my possible future kids/family, who is REALLY going to care about my stuff when I die? They'll keep what they want, sell or donate stuff they don't. May as well make it easier for them.
I don't keep hair loom antiques or china I don't like. I sell it, donate it or give it away. Just because great aunt Jane had it in her home doesn't mean I have to live it.
It seems like a lot of people have kids to show their own parents how they should have done it. I guess you could say that's one reason I never had kids
I don't get why a lot of people say these are because of money then why would you force your kids to eat everything on their plate instead of wrapping it up for later? That saves money right there
So many of these seem to be about trying to get past the stresses and anxieties of growing up poor..........but somehow blaming their parents for having weird rules? Oh, children, your parents used the grocery bags and margarine containers because there wasn't money to buy Tupperware, etc.
Yeah some of these just seem like blaming their parents for being poor :/
Load More Replies...And everyone throws stuff away and doesn't bother to mention recycling.
Load More Replies...Reading this you realise that rampant capitalism has done quite the number on us. So many posts about not getting the 'right' brand of clothes/food/whatever, and other post celebrating wastefulness.
COMPLETELY AGREE. It's sad. Let's complain about the economy as we demand to be wasteful and gluttonous. Im glad I was raised by people who taught me to be grateful and respectful for all I have.. and I'm in my 20s for the person who's going to call me a boomer lol.
Load More Replies...A list of wasteful, snobby people, for the most part. If that’s what breaking generational ‘curses’ means, then consider me ‘cursed.’ 90% of this list completely missed the bar though, and is not even close to the right definition of what a generational curse is, which we have many of.
Not everything about past generations were wrong. There is nothing wrong about teaching your childeren to not waste (food) or be respectfull. But you have to respect the child as well. Teach your child to express their opinion and their needs but also teach them to do that in a matter that they are not spoiled brats. And there is certainly nothing wrong with making your kids consious of the environment, as they enherit that environment one day.
some of these are "i dont care for the environment" or "I like to waste money" and "i'll let my kids do whatever they want!" Serious??
We had to learn when our son was saying he was full because he was full and when he was saying it because he wanted to do something else. He has grown out of that so now if he says he is full, he is full.
Exactly!!! I have two kids and they both do this. They would say they're full just because eating is boring. And then 30 minutes later they come back bagging for snacks or candy.... No way... I don't force them to eat everything off their plate, but i do require them to eat reasonable amount (and 3 bites are not reasonable)....
Load More Replies...Midway through this list just got weird. Like some sort of confessional.
Hahaha millennials have a lot of strange baggage
Load More Replies..."I let my 5-year-old run around the neighborhood until midnight, and she can eat cotton candy every day instead of dinner, because I need my mental health days and I'M not going to be like those dummy-dum-dum generations that came before us!"
Where was that in the list? Sorry we don't want our kids growing up with a twisted knot of anxiety in their stomachs because we don't need to control and enforce ridiculous rules on them like a lot of our parents did. No need to make fun you had your chance and when our kids grow up they can complain about all the ways we ruined their lives as is their right.
Load More Replies...Most of these posts are by people with the me me me attitude; a huge problem with the younger generation. Do the least amount of work possible but for the highest pay possible ad oh, don't forget my "me" days.
These people will have been brought up by parents who impressed upon them that children and their preferences don't count. So they went the other way when they got the chance.
Load More Replies...There are two culture barriers (I guess?) I always stumble upon, and both keep popping up in this article. The first is the "making your bed" one. I "make" my bed everyday, but I consider an "open" bed with the duvet folded back for freshness reasons a "made bed", especially because I fluff the pillows and make everything neat. But a "made bed" doesn't seem to mean the same to everyone, because everytime someone mentions making your bed, people get on their case? The other one is about recycling. Everytime someone mentions throwing plastic away, people will get on their case about recycling, but over here that means the same? We have a bin for plastic, so throwing it out IS recycling. Any light?
Two interesting points! I'm guilty of telling people not to make their beds to air it out, never realised this is also a way of making your bed. Noted! The other one I agree with, when I say I throw something out, I always mean recycling it if it can be recycled. I think the problem with some of these things is that they can't be recycled, and would better be reused or repurposed.
Load More Replies...Some of these are horrible, teaching selfishness. But I guess that's the generation. " I won't answer your call unless I "feel" like it". Yeah, YTA
I buy more underwear and socks and chuck the old stuff as it gets shabby. Even if that means I buy underwear twice in the same year. Also, five pairs of underwear and four pairs of socks is not "plenty". You shouldn't have to search through the dry laundry to find a clean pair of undies every fricking week. Also, why should kids only have one pair of school shoes? What's wrong with a kid having two pairs of black shoes, when that's what they're supposed to be wearing five days a week? Shoes get wet, and dirty, and wear out, or break. When there's a hole in the sole it shouldn't be an emergency "Why do you have to be so hard on your shoes?!"
Well, congratulations on earning enough money to be able to do that, I guess!
Load More Replies...A lot of these sound like Americans having grown up with strict, conservative parents, and now they're getting their revenge by being wasteful and letting their kids run wild. Great plan.
I get a lot of these things. Using the special china just because you want to.. this makes sense. But other things do concern me that they are letting their children not being encouraged to keep trying different foods, that can lead to deficiencies in their diets... you can still get scurvy and rickets now, poor diet will do it. Expand their food options. Also allowing kids to not learn living skills will handicap them as adults. Yes some rules like eating everything on you plate is silly. Also so many people seem to be throwing out stuff.... I mean throwing out a okd foid container to buy Tupperware us not exactly eco friendly - use something until it's worn out then get new stuff
I'm a minimalist, majority of my older family verge on being hoarders. It makes me feel SO claustrophobic in their homes because of the "well we might need it later" c**p. My great aunt was a MAJOR hoarder and when she passed (I was 12ish) I remember how much work it took to clear out her house and TWO storage units! I think that had a major impact. It's a bit morbid but outside of my possible future kids/family, who is REALLY going to care about my stuff when I die? They'll keep what they want, sell or donate stuff they don't. May as well make it easier for them.
I don't keep hair loom antiques or china I don't like. I sell it, donate it or give it away. Just because great aunt Jane had it in her home doesn't mean I have to live it.
It seems like a lot of people have kids to show their own parents how they should have done it. I guess you could say that's one reason I never had kids
I don't get why a lot of people say these are because of money then why would you force your kids to eat everything on their plate instead of wrapping it up for later? That saves money right there