I suspect that the 'porcelain empress' may have racist reasons for opposing inter-racial adoption, but there are some things to be aware of. First, if you are going to adopt a kid from a different culture/race, you need to preserve their connection to their culture of origin and prepare for them to have different needs. For a very basic example, a black child is likely to have much curlier hair than a white person is used to dealing with, so their parents will have to learn how to take care of it properly. The child may also have to deal with racism on an axis their parents don't have to. The parents should be prepared to support and protect their child when this happens. There's also cases of unscrupulous international adoption agencies taking children out of foster care (some of these children have loving parents who cannot take care of them at this time, and plan to take them out of care once they're back on their feet). It's not as simple as draumbouy makes it out to be.

Ughhhhhh I hate that so many people are against transracial adoption. It's true that when a white family adopts children of color, it is especially important for them to understand their white privilege first and to work really hard to understand the experiences of people who are not white, but that is no reason to NOT adopt children that need a loving home.

When I adopt kids skin color is the absolute last thing I am gonna look for in a child and the last thing I am going to see. That child will enter my home loved and cherished no matter what. Now I just need to grow up.

I'm about done with racism. We're all the same, we can all live together. People need to get the sticks out if their butts and move on.

If you asked the child(ren) adopted by people of a different race, I think you’d find they really could care less about the skin color of their parent(s). Even the kids too young to talk will strongly indicate, by their actions and body language, the same thing. And yes, you read that right, I said parent(s), the people who love them and are raising them to be good people, instead of letting them potentially suffer in multiple foster homes (some may be great, but there’s also a risk they won’t be), or with the parents who couldn’t—-or wouldn’t—-take care of them.

If white people didn't adopt non-white kids, there'd be a lot more kids without families. I once heard a black adoption agent say that black couples have turned down black children because their skin was "too dark" and wouldn't look good in family photos.

There is also criticism for white people who only adopt white kid.

Skin doesn't mater. As long as the kid's been raised in a nice household then thats all it needs. Love.

Ideally it should not matter. In most cases it can be overcome, no pun intended. A few malcontents may place culture over a loving home with room, food, and care.

Ahh reddit.

Okey so it is better for a kid to not having parents than have parents with a diffrent skin tone? WTH is wrong with this person?!? I would not be surprised if he also believe that it is better for a kid to have no parents than having 2 mommy s/daddy's. Also if they have the same skin color as the child. Man, if I had to give away my kid for some reason, i would not even think about skin color to the adoptive parents. As long as the kid getting adopted by a loving family who are kind, understanding, supportive, make sure the kid have everything needed, that is what matters. If he mean something else he have problems for real.

A loving family is better than no family at all. A loving family takes no notice of race or colour, unless it is sunburn.

My doctor in the hospital was of East Indian descent. I asked if he was born in the U.S. or moved here. He moved here when he was 10 with the missionary family who adopted him. He had lived on the streets since his father died when he was six. I asked what the hardest part was about coming to the U.S. He said, "People who judge with no context." Blew my mind.

Racism will never end unfortunately :(

so, once again we talk about colored and not colored people... but REALLY skin color does matter? if a "caucasian" remain at sea on boats for work a lot of years, and his tan become VERY dark, he's colored? a different "species"? ahh, what a shame all these years wasted talking about it...

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The concerns are real and have played out in real life. White people have no clue what it is to grow up non-white in a majority white society and therefore are not equipment to help their children handle what they are going to go through, or even acknowledge it. This doesn't mean they don't love their children to pieces and aren't able to be great parents in other ways. I don't know about the US but in the UK now social services are trying to better educate and support white parents of non-white kids (having had a policy of only placing children with parents of a matching ethnicity and finding that they were struggling to place kids) with all of this.

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"Draumbouy" was right.

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"parentless" gtfo white people love to split up families it's a war tactic