14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present

Holiday gift-giving is something many people enjoy doing. However, when it comes to the workplace and presents for the head of the company, it can get tricky. There are quite a few factors you need to consider: the relationship you have with them, your income, whether you feel appreciated or not... the list goes on.

Unfortunately, many employees end up being pushed into chipping in for the CEO's or company owner's gift and sometimes don’t know how to refuse. Some feel annoyed since they make several times less than their rich bosses, others fear that declining might affect their work relations. Whatever the reason, a few people took it upon themselves to share their experience on Reddit, sparking a very relevant discussion on the page.

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14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present This is so frustrating. My wife works for a doctors office. Her supervisor, the office manager, is organizing this collective gift for the doctors. My wife is front desk. Her and her coworkers make around $15/hour. The supervisor wants everybody to contribute $30. That’s two full hours of work. My wife wants to keep her job, and her $30 but doesn’t know how to get out of it without looking bad.

And I just know the supervisor is organizing this to suck up to the doctors and take credit for organizing this gift for them.

She’s probably going to end up having to give the $30, but I just needed to vent about it.

I should mention, she gets no Christmas bonus, she’s part time, and her job doesn’t offer benefits. Only managers and supervisors are entitled to healthcare benefits

**UPDATE: After showing her this thread, she decided not to give the money. She just told her supervisor that it wasn’t in her budget as there isn’t enough left over from her paycheck to contribute with her own personal holiday shopping she needs to take care of. Her supervisor sounded disappointed and said something like “Alright we’ll just leave your name of the gift”. My wife said “Sounds good, thanks!”. I’m so proud of her. No telling how that affects her relationship with the supervisor. But she wasn’t trying to move up there anyway. She’s just working there to make a couple extra bucks for a few months until she goes back to school.

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

There should be a law against this kind of thing! Infuriating.

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One user, Purepk509, posted in the r/Antiwork online community about an email where they were asked to pitch in on buying the owner of the company a $900 gift for Christmas. We reached out to the user to talk a bit more about how this issue affects their work-life.

When employees are being asked to pay for their boss' Christmas present while earning way less, it just seems wrong. And the user agrees: "I feel it's a common trend that has been around for years that needs to go away. It's a mindset that people near the bottom of the totem pole need to appease the higher-ups."

Although, if you have doubts about pitching in, it may be hard to refuse the request. More often than not, it affects the relationship you have with colleagues who agree to contribute. The user mentioned that co-workers often try to push you into doing it, even if you do not feel comfortable.

14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present I just f*cking can't. That money is going to my kids, not to the fat cats at the top who make at least 5x what I make on any given month.

Buy your own damn presents.

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KJ 2 years ago

It's amazing how clueless some folks are about the value of $20 to people that live pay check to pay check.

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In the post, Purepk509 wrote that "everyone at my work is going to throw in $40 but I can't bring myself to spend even a penny on this guy." You should be able to stand your ground and choose for yourself if you want to chip in or not without feeling guilty about it. Unfortunately, the user told us that the decision they made raised some tension between them and other employees.

"I had one co-worker specifically tell me it was flat out rude I didn't donate," they told us. "The crazy thing is since I didn't donate towards the gift, the rest of my coworkers had to bump up how much they were putting towards the gift. So they inevitably had to put $70 towards the item for our boss."

14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present I was 20 years old working at a 2 month long sleep over summer camp for kids aged 8-13 or so. I was one of the head staff, but a junior head staff. My job was to make the daily schedule for several hundred kids and ~60 staff for 6 periods every day in addition to teaching archery lessons for the first half of the day. The camp is a non-profit, and only paid me about $2500 before taxes and only had 3 days off, and 3 evenings off. The camp was in the middle of nowhere so the staff lived on site too.

On the last day, as I was about to leave the camp for good, I was approached by one of the more senior head staff about contributing $20 to a gift (spa day) for the director of the camp. This was the director who had given a closing speech to the entire camp the night prior. In that speech, she went through each of the head staff one by one (except me of course) thanking them for their hard work. My decision was already made for me, I had no intention of coming back the next year and I was still pissed about being forgotten.

My response: "Why would I bother giving up any of my tiny pay check to pay for my boss to go to a spa when she doesn't even remember I exist. I've literally spent 2 months working late into the night, in an office meters away from the directors desk, doing a job that no one else here knows how to do. This place would have burned to the ground without me and I am literally forgettable to her." I left without contributing anything to her spa day.

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Ben Moss 2 years ago

I can tell that every one of these stories probably comes from the United States. I can’t wait to watch capitalism f*****g die

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14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present I'm a receptionist in a doctor's office at a hospital. Not a terrible job, but it's more so a holdover while I work toward other goals. It pays $15/hr which I guess is to be expected for this kind of job in Kentucky. Recently I received this email from our manager:

"It's time to collect money for buying the four doctors in our office a gift card for their Christmas gift from us. I'm asking for $25 from each of you all for these. Money due to me by Tuesday December 14. Thanks."

Not a big deal, but I mean, in the two years I've been here, we have never gotten a holiday bonus. At the last doctor's office I worked at, staff got a holiday bonus, which is pretty standard. I know for a fact the manager makes around 80k a year (she oversees more than one office & it's a big hospital) and the doctors are surgeons, so I can't imagine they make any less than 200k at a minimum, though I don't know their exact salaries. So why am I buying these people things? Especially with no holiday bonus. Seems like bullsh*t to me.

Just had to vent.

I just ignored the email. With or without a bonus I was never going to gift money to DOCTORS.

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

I agree, you all don't need to buy them presents...that should be the other way around.

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This year, consumers in the United States are expected to spend approximately $886 on Christmas gifts on average, Statista reports. Alongside buying presents for your partner, children, parents, other family members and friends, thinking of whether or not you should pitch in to get something for your boss can make you feel stressed.

14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present How about he gets a $20 Target gift card and stale candy like the rest of us instead?

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

How about he just gets his employees to show up and work, like they do every day, to make his business successful? Problem solved, buddy - Merry Christmas!

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14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present I am a salesperson at a company that is going to make $22 million this year. We're a decently small company in a major US city (about 40 office staff, with ~150-200 staff in the field). The company has done very well during the pandemic, although my department suffered a lot this summer. I singlehandedly worked my a*s off to keep certain operations running when my direct manager quit without notice. I spent my summer getting screamed at by angry clients and working 12-14 hour days with limited OT pay, all with none of my usual commission because the department was in such bad shape. The owner took multiple vacations during this time. While my department is back on its feet, and I'm able to pay my bills again, getting a message from our sales director about "everyone pitching in for [Owner's] holiday gift" just made me so angry. He owns a $6m house, multiple cars, and sends his kids to private school. What does he need us to chip in for a staycation at a 5-star hotel for?

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ShriSha Kamboj 2 years ago

if it were the other way round....the company giving something small...like a box of chocolates or such....it'll barely cause a dent to d company but will make the employees feel seen n appreciated.....they might give a gift willingly too.........talking s**t abt d person then demanding a gift....a big nuhhh

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You should really think twice before agreeing to get your higher-up a gift. According to one survey, 31 percent of people said that they would give their boss a gift if they received one in return. "But of those, 11 percent said they would be expecting a raise in return," NBC News wrote. "That kind of thinking is what gets workers who give a present to their managers in trouble."

14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present Everyone at my work is going to throw in 40$ but I can't bring myself to spend even a penny on this guy. I mean he hasn't done me any wrong but he's literally a multi millionaire. Should I just spend the 40 dollars? Everyone at work suddenly thinks I'm being a prick when I basically said this guy can kick rocks.

Just to clear some things up, the item they are wanting to buy my boss is a "ZIPLEVEL EZDepth for Excavators - EZD-30". I work at a company in Ohio with a sh*t ton of boomers. I also make 27.50 an hour. I am 29.

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

You made the right choice. That's ridiculous.

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14 Employees Left Speechless After Being Asked To Pay For Their Boss’ Christmas Present I'm genuinely lost for words here. Our company is pretty big, our one group spans roughly 100 employees, and they sent a mass email out to all of us, or what I assume is all of us. (I didn't go and ask every 100+ people, but several different groups within the 100 got this email, so I'm mostly just assuming).

It's just absurd, we tried to figure out what they were trying to get him, and we all had decided that it must of been a new Mustang from how much they were expecting to get. This actually prompted us to do our own secret santa instead. F*ck that guy, we deserve presents more than him.

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ShriSha Kamboj 2 years ago

so like contribute money from UR own money to a person u barely know so that ur supervisor can take the credit? sus...I'll pass

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Members of the r/Antiwork subreddit backed up the people who refuse to buy gifts for their bosses

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Kitty Jordan 2 years ago

As a boss: gifts flow downward. Always. I give all my employees gifts for the holidays, but they are NOT expected to reciprocate. When I have received presents in the past, I've usually tried to give them back by saying that it's a very kind gesture that I appreciate, but their hard work is more than enough for me, and I would prefer they give their gift to someone they feel could truly use it. I don't make a ton of money, but I make more than them, and I know what it's like to be in that position.

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Kitty, your response just made my day. I also was a boss-company owner. I have always made sure the employees did NOT buy me presents. It's true what you said: gifts flow downward. Bless you.

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Pat Bond 2 years ago

Every company I've ever worked at, it's the boss who gives me a Christmas present every year, nothing ridiculous, a nice bottle of wine or two. They gave everyone who reported in to them this gift.

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Martha Meyer 2 years ago

That's the way it should be, not the other way around.

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Where’s The Shovel? 2 years ago

Is this an American thing? I've worked a lot of places in the Uk, and apart from the usual, birthday/pregnancy/leaving presents, I've never been asked to do anything like this, usually your team leader might pop a bottle of wine or box of chocolates to us at Christmas time to thank us for all our hard work. As a company (>400 staff), we have a Christmas raffle where our staff numbers are automatically entered and drawn, the prizes range from nice food hampers to a box of Maltesers, it's kinda nice to 'win' something tbh. I find myself looking forward to what I'm going to get, this year I got a small bottle of raspberry gin, so result!

Auntriarch 2 years ago (edited)

Exactly! The only time you get something for your boss is when you want to because they are over and above wonderful. A bit like tipping. Ah, I see a connection here....

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Frannie Kaplan 2 years ago

No it's not American it's delusional bosses

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Mari Bryant 2 years ago

It's not an American thing.

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