Yes, it's petty. And yes, it's deserved. Like a couple of commenters pointed out the OP couldn't control why they needed housing. The SIL could, and choose not to.

Nta but don’t let this woman move into your house for any price . She will never pay you and she will never leave. Tell anyone who gives you a hard time that sil can move in with them and they can treat her like a queen. You owe her nothing more than you owe any previous landlord.

Petty? Yes. Understandable? Absolutely.

Rarely does someone get such perfect comeuppance... Well done!

I would ask the family who think OP is the AH why it was okay for the SIL to do what she did, but not for her to return the favor? You reap what you sow.

If I could ask OP one thing, it would be this. Considering the horrible way SIL treated you and your family, combined with the fact that she doesn't pay her taxes... what other crimes beside food stamp fraud was she planning to commit while living under your roof? SIL can kick rocks.

I wouldn't want a tax cheat, on top of someone who has no problem defrauding SNAP, anywhere near my property. Especially one that ripped me off before. Family is family, but trash is trash.

NTA. Unlike your situation, hers is 100% due to her own negligence and irresponsibility. Sounds like you paid her for a decade worth of land taxes and she blew it frivolously and claimed food stamps (welfare fraud) on top of that it. Distance her from you and your children. She did not treat you as family, why should the relationship change now when it is convenient for her? Users gonna use. Remove them from your life.

Why are they still even talking to any of those people? SIL and anyone who'd actually support her position would be dead to me.

HOW DARE YOU NOT TREAT ME BETTER THAN I TREATED YOU?!?! Even though OP's stipulations are literally better than SIL did. F**k people like that.

NTA. I wouldn't even call what she did, petty! She simply made an offer using her SIL's own standards. Not only that, but she actually even charged less. How is that petty?

Petty? Sure. But why the hell not. It's not often you get to serve some much deserved comeuppance for kicking you when you're down.

Nope, not petty. If it were free, that woman and her step daughter would have moved in and never left! The SIL did the right thing!

A little childish but i would do the same. Maybe if i'm really in a very good mood i would use the situation to show my sil how it's done right, like family has to help each other. But i understand that those lessons are most overlooked or the other person is too self entitled to notice.

I love this one! Every family has at least one of these people. It is all about them. Usually, you can never get your reputation back with the family, even after their guile has been revealed. I would not worry about this SIL, just make sure she does not steal you blind while she is there.

Vengeful, yes, but NTA. If you are not a Christian, there is no reason why you should be forgiving. I'm not sure I'd have let her stay at all. (Also not sure why you stayed in that one room for 1000/month for 8 months isntead of moving to an appartemtn or a trail. i'm guessing you were strung along by the insurance?)

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Nope, NTA...OP & her family were treated quite poorly by the SIL when they genuinely needed help. P**s poor IMO. I would've given the stepdaughter a spare room. SIL...perhaps a cot in the garage?

NTA at all. Family can be horrible. She got a taste of her own medicine and hopefully learned from it.

Most a$$hole people don't like it when the tables are turned and they get the sh!tty end of the stick.

Look, I get SIL did the OP dirty, but OP herself says she's being petty. IF YOU'RE BEING PETTY YOU'RE BEING AN A*****E!

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Petty? Vindictive? I'd say that, yes, she is a giant a*****e - just own it - but the SIL totally had it coming.

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Ok I have to play devil's advocate. The poster is a family of 5. The sister in law basically charged $50 per person per week. 5 people using the shower or bath every day, toilet, laundry, stove oven and all the electricity, basically more lights, tv and computer running at all hours when the SIL might not have used any of that a third or less of the time. SIL then expected a $50 per head rate in return. In her mind, right or wrong she was being charged double on utility and services bills that were only being increased by the power of 2 not 5. Wear and tear on all the household stuff also at entirely different levels. I really don't have the full story here, just one side. Can't judge who the AH is based on the little available but I just added some food for thought.