Join the Fun!

#2

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship He said my feminist ideas are like a disease and patriarchy is norm

No_Cranberry3306 , ron-lach Report

Final score:

204points

POST

jjdubs W 11 months ago

You dodged a bullet!

102points

#3

He was diagnosed with a nasty case of lyingbastarditis

GraceAnneFavour Report

Final score:

188points

POST

Jeff White 11 months ago

I hear that one is difficult to cure

106points

#4

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship We had too much in common. I liked women and she liked women.

8675201 , camilablando Report

Final score:

184points

POST

Adrian 11 months ago

Yeah, that'll do it, LOL!

59points

#5

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Together for 3 years and I broke up with him because he had an affair for many months and decided to tell me at the begining of our 3 months trip to Central America.. He said he wasn’t sure if he loves me or her, he also blamed me for my depression and for not going to concerts with him ( that was his reason to find someone else).
So I broke it off, traveled solo for the rest of the trip..

Orlacutebutpsycho , atoms Report

Final score:

173points

POST

jjdubs W 11 months ago

Great call!

64points

#6

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She got into a car with 2 men she met at a bar on a whim and drove 300 miles with them to a party city. Later, she bragged to me about how adventurous she was.

I'm glad she was ok, but I knew at that moment that she wasn't right for me.

Cosmicpowa , leoniezettl Report

Final score:

169points

POST

Adrian 11 months ago

Yeah, that's a clue, dude...

54points

#7

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship I dated a girl that pulled the old "It was a test" thing. One night she told me she wanted to go out drinking, but didn't want me to have sex with her when she got drunk. I agreed. She got drunk and threw herself at me. I refused and put her to bed. She was pissed. The next day she said it was all a test and I passed. I told her if she ever did it again, we were done. I wasn't going to be toyed with. Well, we're not together now. Guess why.

Spodson , johnarano Report

Final score:

157points

POST

Papa 11 months ago (edited)

Yep. I may get down voted for this, but if a woman "tests" her man she's playing games and setting him up to fail. Edit:. The same is true for a man setting up tests for the woman in his life.

212points

Sonja 11 months ago

Men too. Don't 'test' your partner out of the blue by generating problems or traps. Do something nice for them if you want to see who they are, that's telling. And it's not a test either, it's more like doing a normal thing with situational awareness. For example, plan something for them you know they'll enjoy or want. Don't put in inconveniences or traps, just be very kind and do your best dor them and then look closely. If they truly enjoy it and let you see that, you're good. If they act entitled and nag about it although you did good or behave as if you did the bare minimum, or if they don't recognise your part in it at all, just like they expect you to serve them hand and foot, keep watching out, it won't be the only red flag. Everything people think they need tests for, can be watched in normal everyday interactions. You don't need to set up traps. And if you think you need to, then think hard if you're not the problem.

33points

Load More Replies...

Lauren Caswell 11 months ago

Agreed. Any 'player' or any 'games' = nope. Feelings aren't a toy or game.

16points

Pedro Badan 11 months ago

It's nothing to do with being a woman! If any person "tests" their partner they're playing games and setting the whole relationship up to fail.

14points

Jesha 11 months ago

I think we can all come together, panda hand in panda hand, and agree that the whole TikTok relationship test fad needs to end.

10points

Joshua Seaman 11 months ago

Tests like these are a form of manipulation. Being straight-forward and vulnerable are difficult for people who have learned unhealthy ways of relating.

5points

Bella 11 months ago

Ok please don’t downvote me and feel free to comment if you feel differently. I feel as though this itself as a “test” is to see if he respects her boundaries. She set a boundary and when she was incapacitated she wanted another thing but he respected her boundary. A better response from her wouldnt be “it was a test, you passed lol” but something more like “thank you for respecting my boundary, sorry for getting mad at you when I was drunk” because almost all of us have done things we wish we didn’t while incapacitated. I also have been with people who didn’t respect boundaries I set while sober, and crossed them while I was drunk or high. This is just how I see it though.

2points

laura lee 11 months ago

Yes let's please set the games aside

2points

Randy Sanders 11 months ago

No down vote from me! I'm right there with ya.

2points

DarkViolet 11 months ago

Judging from the number of upvotes, I'd say that most everyone here is in agreement with you.

1point

Scott Rackley 11 months ago

Again? No, you leave immediately after that statement.

2points

Shaunn Munn 11 months ago

People just don't do that to those they love and/or respect.

2points

T Smith 11 months ago

I agree with Papa. Women like that p/&s me off. I hate women that play games. They leave a bad taste in the mouth of men when they do meet a genuine woman. Same goes with men. I'm very leary in relationships as I have been gamed too many times. No games, no drama!

2points

Bella 11 months ago

Ok please don’t downvote me and feel free to comment if you feel differently. I feel as though this itself as a “test” is to see if he respects her boundaries. She set a boundary and when she was incapacitated she wanted another thing but he respected her boundary. A better response from her wouldnt be “it was a test, you passed lol” but something more like “thank you for respecting my boundary, sorry for getting mad at you when I was drunk” because almost all of us have done things we wish we didn’t while incapacitated. I also have been with people who didn’t respect boundaries I set while sober, and crossed them while I was drunk or high.

1point

Boo-Urns 11 months ago

NO FUQQING GAMES

1point

Oskar vanZandt 11 months ago

Head games are NOT cool or acceptable...

1point

Natasha Arruda 10 months ago

I'd be the kind of butthead that would "test" her right back but write actual grades and give feedback. "D-, I left a mess on the floor to see if you'd clean it up for me and you didn't even notice it. Poor attention to detail, do better in the future or you'll end up failing out of this relationship and another semester costs 10k."

0points

Tobias Reaper 11 months ago

i aint got time for that sort of toxic behaviour

0points

Xitxarel•lo Panda 11 months ago

I didn't understand this one

0points

JayWantsACat 11 months ago

It's basically her setting a boundary, breaking that boundary but getting mad at her boyfriend for respecting the boundary she herself set, and then claiming it was all a test. Nobody should have to deal with being constantly tested, the resulting emotional whiplash/control/games, trying to figure if what she says she wants is what she actually wants, etc. There''s nothing wrong with her setting that boundary but, regardless of whether you're drunk or not, you don't get to then get mad at your partner for respecting that. Who wants to deal with that in a relationship?

5points

Load More Replies...

#8

He choked me in front of my son, so out the door he went. Zero remorse for that jack**s

Ineffablepeach69 Report

Final score:

140points

POST

Lunaofthenest (She/they) 11 months ago

I hope you're safe now and filed charges.

66points

#9

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Because I was immature and thought that my ex was a bad person but it turned out that I was the bad one.

Mmillis1111 , alex-green Report

Final score:

139points

POST

Mel Colley 11 months ago

You learned about yourself, onwards and upwards from here.

81points

#10

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Because I like my women like I like my coffee. Without 4 other guys d**k in it.

elvarg9685 , tabithabrooke Report

Final score:

136points

POST

SCamp 11 months ago

Kudos for retaining that humour my man 👍

73points

#11

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Because his hobbies included saying hurtful s**t to me 😉

Aliszhe , rdne Report

Final score:

135points

POST

Astro 11 months ago

This comment has been deleted.

9points

#12

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Cheated. F****d me out of 2 grand. Ruined my life.

Then she married a redneck, ballooned up to 300 pounds and had 3 ugly kids, so I guess I won in the end.

hyugafan , Rawpixel Report

Final score:

124points

POST

Realistic Optimist 11 months ago (edited)

I sense some unresolved, but justified, anger here 🤔.

130points

ThatOneGuyNumberTwo Report

#13

I closed myself off. I stopped going to her about issues, hopes, aspirations - I self sabotaged and convinced myself that it wasn’t working, which caused a spiral of other issues to become much more prominent.

Looking back, I think it would have been okay if I’d seen that and fixed it, but it was my first truly serious relationship, and I learned all this far, far too late. That being said, I think I’m glad I broke up with her - if I wasn’t fulfilling such a basic part of a relationship, and not smart enough to realize that, nor that it was stemming from internal issues, I was harming her more than loving her.

She has a new partner now, and she’s been a fairly different person with him. I think that’s a good thing, she seems happier. I hope that continues, and that they blossom.

Final score:

121points

POST

Sonja 11 months ago

This is a good one. Best of luck to you OP. But with such self awareness, you too have good chances to succeed one day

53points

ElderberryFlashy3637 , ingoodhands Report

#14

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Because he downloaded Tinder where he met a girl, was texting with her for over a month, told her he was living with his cousin (we were living together) and then went on a date with her.

Final score:

108points

POST

HelluvaHedgehogAlien 11 months ago

That’s called ‘cheating’

95points

#15

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship The nail in the coffin was her making me pay for my birthday dinner at place she knew I didn’t like. I kinda realized that she didn’t actually care enough or thought doing the bare minimum was ok. We had other issues but it became obvious that she wanted someone to take care of her and I wanted someone who actually be my wife/partner/friend for life.

thevoidthoughts , elina-sazonova Report

Final score:

107points

POST

Sally Close 11 months ago

Well good on you for recognising that. You deserve to be seen and heard

36points

#16

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She wouldn't stop having sex with other people even though I specifically asked her not to.

RandoAtReddit , womanizer Report

Final score:

88points

POST

Adrian 11 months ago

This is a weird thread. I'm only on the third one and they have all been about cheating. Isn't that, like, the top reason NOT to stay with someone. I know some couples have open relationships but most of the time don't you expect your partner won't have sex with someone else?

51points

#17

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She cheated on me with a coworker and with another guy I thought was a friend. She was unable to comprehend why I'd throw away the 4 years we had together. Yeah, that was her frame of mind - not sorry about what she did, but upset that I couldn't just accept it and move on.

Evidence-Timeline , alex-green Report

Final score:

87points

POST

jjdubs W 11 months ago

Logic wasn't her strong suit.

41points

#18

After 3 months I asked if we could sometimes hang out on a week night if we were both busy during the weekend. He freaked out and ended things because it was moving too fast. Then sent me multiple texts and calls 3 days later begging for another chance.

I gave him one because he told me his previous partner a year before me had died and he was nervous about getting into a relationship again but really liked me. I understood that he had trauma and agreed to take things slow. We talked about trying to see each other more often agreed to be exclusive, but absolutely nothing else changed. I gave him another 3 months and saw him maybe 3 times? He just wasn’t ready for a relationship yet and I was fine to take things slow, but as soon as I felt like a side piece he only saw when it was convenient, I couldn’t do it. Even if he had a good reason to be hesitant, I couldn’t ignore that I felt disrespected.

Glum-Ambition-614 Report

Final score:

85points

POST

Sonja 11 months ago

Excuses, excuses. Whenever someone tells you in whatever context that their s****y behaviour is because they can't treat you fairly because someone else did something bad or something bad happened to someone else unrelated to you, run. It's one thing to say: hey, I have baggage, give me some room to work on it, but if you don't see them truly and actively working on it with progress to show, it's the victim strategy to get out of behaving decently. It's one form of weaponized incompetence. Especially when they blame you to 'trigger them' or 'making them doing things' while the only one doing bad things is them.

35points

#19

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship I was a fool and didn’t try to reignite our spark when I knew I was fully capable. I guess I chose the easy way out but it was an L on my end and I regret it. I wish I could start over or try again because she was always unconditional and I didn’t appreciate it like I should’ve.

PmMeUrTits4Science , neonbrand Report

Final score:

75points

POST

Kanzi 11 months ago

Oh! The story of old

20points

WhenAllElseFail , mimagephotography Report

#20

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship i came to her asking to talk about our problems and things i can do to help and in return i asked her for help. She laughed at me.

There were other problems but that was the nail in the coffin

Final score:

68points

POST

MontanaMariner 11 months ago

The laugh of someone that has checked out long ago. Same laugh I have at work.

15points

#21

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship finally i get to talk about it LMAO: - way too h***y (so much so to where he would try to sext me every day) - unfortunately leading from that last point, took advantage of me because he was so h***y. - never tried or put any effort into the relationship, i always had to go and see him but never him come see me. - never gave me gifts. (and not in a materialistic way, i just mean when you see something at a store or think of your partner and you’re like “oh, i’ll get that for them.”) - always wanted me to do things and try things for him, but never the other way around. (example: always gave me a song to listen to or show to watch, but would never take any of my recommendations). - towards the end of the relationship, he purely based how much i “loved” him on how well i could pleasure him sexually. yeah, f**k you man.

owo-o3o , alexbeware Report

Final score:

63points

POST

jjdubs W 11 months ago

Good riddance!

40points

#22

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She wanted to downgrade from being girlfriend to being my exclusive bang buddy right before her bday, she got a lot of gifts from guys I never heard about including a trip to Bali from Texas, told her that wasn’t for me.

travelincp , snight Report

Final score:

61points

POST

Candid Panda 11 months ago

Sounds like she had a bunch of sugar daddy's and those gifts are never free.

41points

#23

A few reasons.

1) He had anger issues-which spread to a lot of other stuff

2) Inability to properly communicate (also linked to anger issues). I would do something (unknowingly) that annoyed him and instead of of telling me, he’d bottle it up and then use it as ammo in disagreements. Like…I can’t work on what I’m doing wrong if you don’t tell me what that is..

3) His parents are quite wealthy and they also come from quite a traditional background. His mom took care of everything. He didn’t know how to cook, clean, didn’t know simple things like debit cards having limits, etc. He was also ungrateful. He’d blow up at his parents a lot and then expect them to like buy s**t for him. He also said his dad should get him a job because “it’s the least he could do”. This was after he berated his dad for trying to help him find jobs cause he didnt like the ones his dad was selecting…

I could go on…

Beepbeepboobop1 Report

Final score:

61points

POST

Mike F 11 months ago

That is one miserable individual.

40points

#24

She wanted to have kids I did not

SnooLentils7751 Report

Final score:

60points

POST

Sonja 11 months ago

Good reason

34points

#25

He was an abusive alcoholic who’d p**s the bed every time he drank too much, which shocker, was every day

clichestonergirl Report

Final score:

60points

POST

Nicola Mawson 11 months ago

Alcoholism is a disease, like any other. I hope this person found recovery

31points

Rheaismymami , tima-miroshnichenko Report

#26

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship He got a sex worker pregnant while he was stationed in Germany.

Final score:

59points

POST

Kanzi 11 months ago

One of the many dark sides of the military. Some of the women left behind are as equally guilty as of entertaining other men.

26points

#27

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship So many people in here broke up due to a big mistake their partner made, mine was different.

I broke up with my partner because we couldn’t see eye to eye on many fundamental values that made us who we are, and the changes to fix we tried to implement were never lasting.

I also felt a sense of disrespect from her, that she didn’t prioritize me/us. I want to be treated with the same love and respect I showed, and she just wouldn’t do that for me. After four years, when I broke up with her she just accepted it, barely any fight for us, that’s how I know it was over. I wasn’t her priority, and that’s okay. Our relationship died to a thousand paper cuts.

I wish someday I can ask her why she didn’t prioritize me/us, but I may never know the answer.

godage , christianlue Report

Final score:

59points

POST

Lunaofthenest (She/they) 11 months ago

Sometimes people just don't fit together. She might not even know why.

29points

#28

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Cuz I'm a dumb**s and didn't want to marry her after two and a half years of perfect relationship I didn't want to have kids at that time and she got really depressed and we broke off.. I was 27 when we broke off and sometimes I feel regret everything was going super good we done lockdown 24/7 together never one dispute.

moisebucks , jvkeus Report

Final score:

58points

POST

Realistic Optimist 11 months ago

Not wanting to get married and have kids are solid reasons to break up. Even if you get along with someone, having compatible life goals and values are essential to any relationship. Otherwise, you'll just end up resenting each other.

80points

Hamlindigo_Blue , priscilladupreez Report

#29

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She deiced we were in an open relationship behind my back.

Final score:

44points

POST

Melissa Harris 11 months ago

That's just cheating with a side of self delusion.

38points

#30

She felt she didn’t need to reciprocate as much. I planned the dates. I paid for the dates. Even planned hikes and picnics. She never offered once to pay except for my birthday. Never planned anything. We were on our way to my birthday present but traffic was bad and we ended up going to her favorite restaurant. Still haven’t had the cryo sesh. Told her that as a feminist she claims to be and the equality she desired it felt more like she wanted me to be a traditional man so she could excavate my resources like I wouldn’t notice after 1.5years. Thank god it was only that long.

ImSometimesGood Report

Final score:

44points

POST

Mike F 11 months ago

This was hard to read.

46points

#31

She cheated on me. The guy she cheated with wound up regularly beating the hell out of her, and when I gave her three number to an abused women's shelter instead of a key to my house to help her she tried to act like it was all my fault.

B***h,***you*** sucked his d**k. Not my fault.

KhaosElement Report

Final score:

43points

POST

LavenderHippoInAJar 11 months ago

Covering up some negative comments. Have a great day everyone!

6points

Suspicious-Rain6234 Report

#32

We were only together 7 ish months but we were like an old married couple. No sexual attraction anymore and zero banter. I feel bad cause he was happy. I just know he'd be happier with someone else

Final score:

42points

POST

Lunaofthenest (She/they) 11 months ago

You did the right thing, for both of you.

21points

#33

He didnt love me anymore, and did not have the courage to break up himself. So I did.

Miews Report

Final score:

42points

POST

Black Cat 11 months ago

Why do people do this? Instead of breaking up with someone, they behave really badly hoping the other person will end it. Why?

16points

#34

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She asked to take a break and then when the break ended and we got back together I was just no longer interested.

wastrel2 , a-darmel Report

Final score:

40points

POST

Lunaofthenest (She/they) 11 months ago

This is what a break is for- to see if you want to continue forward together or move on. Really, the break worked perfectly.

49points

#35

I met someone else that showed me how bad my current situation was. Made me rethink my entire life. And a week later I broke it off after 15 years together.

Tireirontuesday Report

Final score:

39points

POST

Lunaofthenest (She/they) 11 months ago

Aka, rebound. That's not a judgment thing- sometimes we have to see ourselves through someone else's eyes to remember our worth.

1point

#36

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship 1. Codependency
2. Poor communication
3. Sexual incompatibility
4. A lack of willingness to seek care for mental health

ricecrisps94 , ozmundaregalis Report

Final score:

38points

POST

Lunaofthenest (She/they) 11 months ago

The toxic relationship starter pack. I've also purchased one of these. 2/10- do not recommend.

29points

#37

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship I always knew she wasn’t the person I wanted to marry, but we had a very comfortable, loving relationship.

Then she told me she was moving to the other side of the country, and that it was a “her” not an “us” move. Took a few months to knock that one around the old noggin and then realize it was better to be single and alone then be in a relationship and be alone.

She was somehow completely surprised and completely heartbroken when I said I didn’t want to keep dating lol.

Bucketsdntlie , vlada-karpovich Report

Final score:

38points

POST

Sonja 11 months ago (edited)

I somehow doubt the last part, I think you got dumped bro. She dumped you so hard that the momentum drove her a whole country away from you and you fool no one into thinking you dumped her. I'm also pretty sure that only she was loving and only you were comfortable and that's why she left you.

19points

#38

Because she cheated multiple times, and still (for some reason) decided she still had the moral high ground. An awful human, with such a high opinion of herself

EarlyElk9 Report

Final score:

38points

POST

Clown fish 11 months ago

Sounds like one of my ex's. They said they cheated because I wasn't having sex with them enough! Like oh sorry I have to work

14points

#39

Because she was very possesive and controling, so much that she got to the point of being aggresive when she didn t get what she wanted

blackraven097 Report

Final score:

37points

POST

Black Cat 11 months ago

Sounds like she took entitlement to a whole new level, you dodged a bullet.

9points

#40

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship I could tell how many other partners she had every week by the different smells.

Dariaskehl , LesiaScotch Report

Final score:

37points

POST

Helena 11 months ago

nope

24points

#41

I truly grew to hate him. Even the sight of him made me wanna break his neck.

Brave-Topic-8931 Report

Final score:

37points

POST

LaserBrain 11 months ago

If you hold someone in contempt who loves you, please let them free. It's not fair and often turns into abuse.

17points

#42

She was texting the whole time we were together but would take her hours to text me back. Pretty self explanatory

Snakedoctor404 Report

Final score:

37points

POST

LavenderHippoInAJar 11 months ago

Yikes

1point

#43

She was selfish, emotionally immature, and very manipulative

grxthy Report

Final score:

36points

POST

DarkViolet 11 months ago

A one-woman red flag parade.

6points

#44

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Because she was only at her best when she wasn’t the sickest in the room. When I got better she was left with herself. Neither of us liked who we saw but she was married to the destruction of alcohol because she thought it was the best she deserved.

She drank herself to death a couple of years ago.

Rounder057 , nina_p_v Report

Final score:

33points

POST

Nicola Mawson 11 months ago

That is incredibly sad

24points

Financial-Cancel7799 , mart-production Report

#45

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She did not appreciate the things i did for her. She didnt make me feel loved. And no more sex

Final score:

32points

POST

laura lee 11 months ago

Good reasons to leave

3points

#46

Because i tried for 8 years and nothing was changing, underlying issues that were never resolved. i wanted that nuclear family but realized it's not worth dealing with the arguments and the hostility from her. i was unhappy and she blamed me for it. plus BPD ADHD and Bipolar. and then she brought up her BFF male to stay with us to help us out since i gave up. and then she suggested a "trouple". i almost considered it because she broke me down to that point. The last straw was when it was after covid restrictions i went to a friend's housewarming and she gave an ultimatum to come back immediately or else i'll be locked out. so i got locked out from my own place and she had her BFF male stay inside with my child. now they are married within 7 months of leaving and i'm happily spending my weekends with my kid and with someone who helped give me my sense of self-worth back.

TorontoRin Report

Final score:

32points

POST

HelluvaHedgehogAlien 11 months ago

Cheating?

6points

#47

She was just too childish. She had no direction in her life and really just hard to think of as a long term SO.

NewsboyHank Report

Final score:

30points

POST

#48

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship Her filing for divorce to marry a priest she had been flirting with was the last straw--I had to put my foot down and say that if she continued on that path I just didn't think I could be with her anymore. Probably a bit harsh, but you have to respect yourself, you know?

Horaenaut , cottonbro Report

Final score:

28points

POST

Papa 11 months ago

He put his foot down AFTER she filed for divorce? A little late there, aren't you?

90points

#49

“It Was All A Test”: 50 Reasons People Are No Longer In A Relationship She had WAY more life experience than me, she wasn’t getting much out of the relationship

SelfSaucing , a-darmel Report

Final score:

27points

POST

Okiedokie 11 months ago

Okay, as someone with several degrees who has had partners break up with me for being ‘too nerdy’ or ‘just plain intimidating’ bc of how I use my mind…this just sounds like insecurity. Unless she’s actively throwing it in your face there’s no reason not to embrace someone with a bigger knowledge base & learn from them while you bond. Sounds like there was an emotional literacy gap & they made it a problem.

42points