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Mom Sparks A Debate If Employees Should Be Treated Differently When It Comes To Time Off Depending On Whether They Have Kids Or Not

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Many companies proclaim that equality in the workplace is important to them. However, practice doesn’t always match theory. And fancy words and promises don’t always result in the right actions.

Even though discrimination based on someone’s family status is illegal in many places (though completely fine in others), some managers still give preferential treatment to those employees who have children. One mom, who goes by the name KwestTurkey on Mumsnet, called out this practice, despite being a parent herself. She said that it is was completely unfair to prioritize parents’ requests for time off and that everyone should be treated on a ‘first come, first served’ basis. Her post started a discussion and got people debating this topic.

Bored Panda reached out to financial expert Sam Dogen, the founder of the Financial Samurai blog, to chat about what to do if we feel discriminated against in the workplace and how we ought to convince ourselves to take a break from everything over Christmas. Scroll down for his insights about how employees have quite an advantage right now if they're seeking to change their jobs.

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#1

I have always gone out of my may to allow colleagues with kids to have Christmas etc - but to be honest it is starting to annoy me.

With working from home I now find parents seem to believe they have an automatic right to disappear for the afternoon school run. If I said I am going for a non negotiable walk for half an hour at 3pm every day I would quickly be told i am required to attend meetings.

I do think work should be flexible, but I think some parents expect far too much.

Having children is a choice and a privilege. I shouldn’t have to work harder and longer to allow other people time off to enjoy family life simply because I don’t have children.

Final score:

69points

Flopsy 2 years ago

I work with a colleague who is not available after 4pm because of childcare. And with another one who doesn't have kids but is only available at certain times (don't know what she is doing). We manage, understand and help each other. Maybe I'm privileged for working in Europe for a company with a nice culture, but it's really not my business how others manage their time and when they are available.

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"Since the job market is now very hot, employees have more options and more leverage. If the workplace environment doesn't improve after you bring up an issue, then most definitely look for a better fit elsewhere. Job hoppers are getting paid healthy premiums in this market," financial expert Sam, who created the Financial Samurai project, told Bored Panda that workers should realize they have an advantage in the current job market.

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I was also interested to get Sam's take on how we can talk ourselves into relaxing over the holidays if we're used to working lots and might feel guilty about taking some time off. He said that we should look at this as an opportunity to recharge and gather our strength for the long road ahead.

#2

I don't think parents should have preferential treatment, or it should be first come first serve. Things like Christmas should be shared equally, if you don't have one Christmas off you can have the next instead etc. Otherwise you get the individual who books all the 'best' days off at the start of the year and screw anyone else who can't make plans that early

Final score:

65points

Karin Jansen 2 years ago

Yes, parent should get preferential treatment in the sense that they should get maternity/paternity leave, they should get some benefits from the state to help care for their kids, free Healthcare for their children, free education. These are all things we as a country should provide young families with so these kids can get a jump start on life and turn into productive members of society. It's another question as to whether childfree people should in turn sacrifice their time, holidays, or energy for you. The answer to that is a clear nope.

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#3

Being a parent is my choice, it’s not for that choice to impact on other peoples ability to take annual leave. If you have to work holidays you have to find childcare, just the way it is.

Final score:

54points

WilvanderHeijden 2 years ago

Totally agree. Having kids doesn't automatically give you a special status which guarantees you days off and vacation which are perfectly in sync with school vacations. Some leniency in case of sick children, dentist appointments, school meetings and that sort of things should be normal, but that's it. I never understood why I couldn't have my vacation in summer because I didn't have kids.

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"The best time to actually unwind is when your co-workers and your bosses unwind. That means during Christmas and other major holidays. Your boss will be busy spending time with their family and won't notice your absence as much. Another good time to take a break is the period right after year-end bonuses are decided," the expert said.

"Generally, 1Q is the busiest and most important time of the year. The more you can recharge during the winter holidays, the stronger you can come back and make things count when they count the most!" Sam explained that we should get ready for the first financial quarter.

#4

People keep mentioning childcare and it may be a problem for some. But that doesn't make it your colleagues problem or mean they can never get Christmas off because of your childcare issues.

But also, the vast majority of parents wanting Christmas off, want it off to spend time with their kids, not because of childcare. Which is fine. But other people want to spend time with their families too.

In summer, they want to spend time with their kids and save on holiday clubs. But also other people want time off in the summer.

Final score:

37points

Rose Rosee 2 years ago

Funny comment "childless people are babied and coddled". You don't know what the eff you are talking about. Childless people don't get out of work time everytime your child sneezes, school plays, parent teacher meetings etc. Childless people don't get any damn money on tax returns unless you happen to make a bundle. Now I am not saying that taking care of children is easy because we all know that it's not. But folks who don't have children work just as hard if not harder, have responsibilities of their own as well. Many times they watch kids that belong to friends and family. Even if they don't have kids they earned the time off as much as anyone else. Plus it can be so soul draining when you know you are about to be guilted or shafted by those who have kids. Frankly there is a lot of discrimination towards the childless and it needs to stop.

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#5

Yanbu I'm child free and have worked in jobs where parents got priority for summer and Christmas. I don't mind summer so much, but I have family (including family children) that I'd like to spend a decent amount of time with at Christmas.

It's also just as bad when you do get time off and then people automatically assume you'd be willing to swap with them because they have children.

Final score:

35points

Rick Hoppenbrouwer 2 years ago

The word NO can be a wonderful word.

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#6

I agree, having children doesn't give you any rights to specific time off. Ultimately having children is a choice and where I work it's first come first served

Final score:

31points

13 2 years ago

Hey @BigFootToo let's play a game of spot the troll shall we? Tag, you're it.

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The mom’s post on Mumsnet got quite a bit of attention online and in the media. It reminded people of the fact that, in some companies, employees who have children can sometimes get to call the shots when it comes to picking first when they’ll be going on vacation. What’s more, this preferential treatment can extend to better shift times and even getting to pick up extra shifts for additional income, too.

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In short, some managers tend to give preference to workers who are most like them. If your boss has kids, odds are that they’ll be more sympathetic towards employees who are raising children of their own. However, this shouldn’t be an excuse for discrimination against workers who don’t have children (or choose not to, embracing the childfree lifestyle).

#7

I have only ever had 1 family Christmas 3 years ago when my brother was 40 because of those with kids made it impossible for us to actually be able to get time off so I think it needs to be fairly shared not people making lame excuses about childcare.

When I was little the same people got the time off and stamped their feet over Christmas and as a child both parents worked so we often spent time alone. As we grew up and my parents retired, me and my siblings who are childfree were then in a situation where we were unable to get time off as people demanded their time was more important.

People who are childfree also have families and it is sad we have never developed traditions or spent a Christmas ever with cousins etc and extended family.

Final score:

30points

smugdruggler 2 years ago

Yes, this exactly.

6points

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#8

I don't disagree, however as the parent of disabled DC which means it's nigh on impossible to use school holiday clubs, me not being able to take any leave in summer because all my single child-free colleagues booked it before me totally f**ks me over.

Their disabilities also make it more challenging to book things very far in advance, for a few different reasons.

Yes it was my decision to have children, it was not my decision to have children with disabilities.

I'm the only person with primary age DC at my workplace, and the only person with DC with disabilities, it wouldn't hurt the company or my colleagues if my holiday were prioritised some of the time.

Final score:

22points

WilvanderHeijden 2 years ago

It's the risk that comes with having children. Although I would support policies that would make life easier for parents with disabled children, I'm not for policies that would discriminate against people with healthy kids or people without kids. And let's not forget; positive discrimination is still discrimination.

21points

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#9

Plenty of people without children might wish to have school holidays off, maybe their partner is a teacher so that's when they can go on holiday together, maybe try want to visit family with children when the children are off school.

I've seen people be particularly nasty about single people requesting leave over Christmas, when surely they might be traveling to visit family as logistically easier.

Final score:

21points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

Even those who aren’t seeing family don’t necessarily have their own problems. I’ve had to deal with childhood brain cancer since August 2013, and epilepsy since May 2020. I’m now 18 and in college, but I remember having to go to the ER twice during my 15 months of chemotherapy back in 2016 and 2017.

0points

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Eddy Ng, the Smith Professor of Equity & Inclusion at Queen’s University, formerly the James and Elizabeth Freeman Professor of Management at Bucknell University, told me some time ago that employers (this includes managers and HR) can be held responsible for inaction if there is discrimination at the workplace. For instance, if you find that you or a colleague of yours suffer from derogatory comments, you might want to consider making a human rights complaint.

"If repeated complaints about the toxic workplace to the manager or HR fall on deaf ears, then it is indicative that the employer is not taking the concern seriously and it's the cue that you should switch employers/workplace," the professor told Bored Panda.

#10

YANBU! A couple of places I've worked have given priority to parents for time off during summer holidays, Christmas etc - or the parents have sulked about it enough that the line managers have given in.

If it were made clear from the outset that I didn't have priority for those dates, I'd understand and never work there but it's not - it just rolls round to "Oh, you want that week off? Well, it's half term and Sarah has two little ones" or "I need to you to swap Boxing Day with me, we have a tradition with the kids and it's really important, you wouldn't get how important it is"... well, I have a life too, so no. F**k off.

(This is a point of personal annoyance, can you tell? Where I work now, only 2 people in 20 have kids and holiday is done by team, so it's not been an issue, but I always make sure my team get equal opportunity to take between Christmas and New Year off regardless of home situation).

Final score:

21points

Bexxxxx 2 years ago

YANBU = “You Are Not Being Unreasonable.” (Sorry I’m old and had to Google it.)

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#11

Everyone should be treated fairly in the workplace. Childcare is not the responsibility of your colleagues or employer to manage for you. I had a colleague ask me to cancel my wedding as she had a childcare issue…my f**king wedding! I was off circa week but we were eloping so hadn’t told bc anyone. After being badgered by her fid 2 weeks I finally had to tell her ‘I will be 3 hours away from home, I’ve actually booked my wedding for that day!’ She then said ‘well can you cancel’ when I said no it is my WEDDING and bc everything was booked, paid and arranged she still saif ‘I’m sure you could shuffle it around a bit..,’

Final score:

20points

rumade 2 years ago

In this instance the parent is being beyond unreasonable. No one is going to cancel a wedding for you

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#12

You're being facetious.

It's about the expectation to be given first dibs just because they are parents that puts them firmly in entitled territory.

Final score:

19points

Blind Oracle 2 years ago

I think it sounds like an excellent reason to have kids /s

2points

The expert noted, however, that we should be on the lookout for signs the company is making positive changes and responding to employee feedback. “If management makes an effort for change, then it would be an opportunity to assist with that change,” he said that some organizations are addressing systemic discrimination and are engaging with employees while others aren’t.

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"Generally, it is easier to look for another job while you are still in one, so you don't have to explain gaps in employment or past problems with a prospective employer," the professor said that we have to be strategic about how we switch jobs if we find ourselves in a constantly toxic environment.

#13

I'm an RN and we rotate holidays off. It's fair to everyone. If you work this year Christmas, you get it off next year. Nurses can trade holidays if they desire. It's fair for everyone. Everyone has a life, whether they have kids or not. If you work Christmas, just get up early to open gifts, and have a meal after. Or celebrate the day before. You make it work. It's not that big of a deal, kids or no kids.

Final score:

18points

#14

Hmmm on the fence here as a parent, you have to accept to a degree that people will want that time off at certain ages. Equally, as someone who pays for a lot of childcare on holidays, it shouldn't be all the time. But what I don't understand is why people without kids would want to take holiday when the kids are off! I'd be avoiding it like the plague ;)

Final score:

17points

Diane Abplanalp 2 years ago

Perhaps some of the people who don't have kids DO HAVE parents, siblings, nieces, and nephews. In fact, they may even want to spend time with them at Christmas. Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't have famlies.

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#15

I've been told by my work that they give Xmas off to those with children first. Whilst I may not have children, I shouldn't be penalised for it. I enjoy seeing family just as much as others do. I don't mind taking my turn to work but it shouldn't be expected.

Final score:

17points

Bexxxxx 2 years ago

I wanna play with my nieces and nephews and see my twin who lives far away and my aging parents and grandparents at least once a year. I don’t mind letting parents have some priority sometimes, but not all the time at every holiday. That’s just not fair.

4points

However, he also pointed out that switching careers can be an opportunity to take some time off, “take stock, engage in career planning, and exploration and transition to new careers.” In other words, whether or not you choose to immediately jump into a new job or need some time to focus on a new plan depends entirely on your unique circumstances.

Bored Panda has touched on the topic of employees with and without families just last week in an article right over here that might interest you when you’re done reading this one.

#16

Once my kids were grown, I volunteered to work EITHER Christmas Eve or Christmas day each year. I garnered a lot of good will doing that.

Summer holidays are a bit different, and yes, EVERYone wants off in a short period of time. For those with children, it is the ONLY time to book a holiday, so there is that. However, some schools here in the USA (and not nearly enough of them, in my opinion) have started going year round. They go six weeks, then have two weeks off. After some initial mumbling and grumbling, parents found it easier to schedule holidays, and opened up things for them that they could never do before, such as skiing trips and such.

Final score:

16points

Bobby 2 years ago

I would love xmas off every year but that just isn't feasible or fair. I have a sister that lives far away and rotates coming in for thanksgiving and xmas. I volunteer every holiday that she won't be in to ensure I get the holiday she will be there off. Sucks to have to adjust the xmas morning activities every other year, but my kids and I are used to it now

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#17

I once had a rota that meant I got Christmas Day, Boxing Day, NYE and NYD off
My colleague kicked off as I don't have children and was moaning how unfair it was I got the whole time off
Manager pointed out loudly I had worked every Christmas and new year for 8 years running and if she wanted to do that for the next 8 years then of course she could have a full Christmas off in year 9. She piped down then luckily as I was fuming
It was just the way my rota fell but after her moaning and the fact she hadn't ever worked a Christmas and NY, I wasn't swapping shifts!

Final score:

14points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)

Had a shift job—-luckily a government job with a union—-where the bitch who was cozy with the female supervisor was also suffering from the delusion she was untouchable. My second year there, my days off just happened to fall on both Christmas Eve and Day, New Years Eve and Day. Oh. That. Just. Set. Her. Off! Let me just say, they were not weekend days and were considered shitty the rest of the year. Biatch always managed to be off at least one weekend day every week. Anyway, she and the supervisor put their heads together, and suddenly there was a change to the already posted and finalized schedule. Lo and behold, I was working all 4 of those days, and Biatch had them instead! I decided Oh. Hell. No. I called the Area Manager and told him what was going on, and that it needed to stop, or the union would find out about it. Needless to say, the original schedule was restored, both Biatch and supervisor got a stern talking-to about favoritism, and that s**t stopped cold.

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#18

I don't have kids of my own and I lost count of how many times parents asked me to change leave dates. It's like parents think that childless/free people have no life outside of work.

If parents expect the fact that they have kids not to be taken into account when applying & being considered for jobs, then they should not expect them to be taken into account at all at work.

YANBU at all, OP.

Final score:

14points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago

The way I see it, kids or not, if you expect to have every evening, weekend, and holiday off, plus any vacation time you want during peak vacation season, then you should work in a field/for a company that has those perquisites baked in. Don’t apply at a 24/7/365 job if you’re just going to pitch a raging hissy fit at having to work evenings, weekends, and holidays, and face the possibility that you might not automatically get your peak vacation week(s) off.

8points

Lily8 2 years ago

I had a co-worker who didn't have kids, but who's spouse was a teacher. Since she could only really take holidays the same time kids are off school, that is when he would book his time. Always had clashes with other co-workers with kids saying they should get priority since he didn't have kids. It was ridiculous.

0points

Debbie 2 years ago

"f how many times parents asked me to change leave dates" They asked you, right? Does it hurt to ask? They can't know your plans indeed. But they probably know the other parents are in a tight spot as well, and if they don't know your plans, why can't they ask?

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#19

I think there should be flexibility for working parents but I do draw the line at annual leave.

Annual leave should be first come first served. If your a parent who struggles for childcare during holidays etc, you need to be organised months in advance. Simple as.

My both worked, and they still book all there annual leave a year in advance to ensure they get it.

Final score:

13points

Sally Horrocks 2 years ago

When I was at work it was done on length of service - we had to apply for our main 2 weeks in about September of the year before, after that it was first come first served. If you wanted to take your main 2 weeks at Christmas to ensure you had time at home that was fine, but you had to take the leavings in summer. The usual scramble for Christmas started in the autumn as well (we were a bank call centre with 24/7 cover) and it was done on who had worked previous christmases.

1point

#20

I agree, first come first serve and I'm a parent.

Before I had kids I was working full time as a nurse. One of the other was the managers favourite and her rota basically dictated ours, she got exactly whatever shifts she wanted and the rest of us had to work around her. Drove me mad!

Final score:

11points

#21

Don't know if you are in England but as soon as I wasn't tied to school holidays I loved it, June and most of July are generally better than late July and August in my opinion. Longer days for a kick off. Obviously awkward if your partner is a teacher.

I used to do rotas in my old job, staff needed 24 hrs a day 365 days a year. We couldn't let everyone have holidays at Christmas obviously but it normally worked out with:
1. Young staff were often willing to do a Christmas shift so they could have New Year off.
2. Orthodox staff would work Christmas and New Year so they could have a break for Orthodox Christmas.
3. Jewish staff would swap Hanukkah for Christmas.
4. Some staff who would be alone for Christmas/New Year would volunteer to work, maybe the money or maybe they didn't want to be home alone or maybe they were just being nice to other staff.
5. Some staff without children would volunteer to cover staff with young children.

I think in 20 years I had one Christmas where I got down to the last place for Christmas Day and had two staff who wanted it, we agreed one would work the morning and the other than afternoon so both got time with their families.

It was a mammoth task and obviously can only work if someone is prepared to take that on.

Final score:

11points

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#22

I had an issue around ten years ago - I didn't get any time off over Christmas but I had covered a few shifts for a colleague to help him out with Ramadan and Eid. He ended up having a few days off rota over Christmas and immediately offered to cover some of my shifts. Well, the murders it caused! He was called all sorts for not offering to cover a childed colleague, I was called all sorts for refusing to let this colleague have the free time instead of me. It's worth pointing out that my Dad was dying at the time! Moral of the story? Never give in and always do favours for colleagues of different religions.

Final score:

11points

Bexxxxx 2 years ago

Well the guy you helped out sounds like a real good person at least :)

3points

#23

YANBU. Childcare problems are for parents to sort, the onus isn’t on childfree colleagues to solve them.

Similarly, you can’t demand someone else sacrifice for you, ‘for the greater good’ (mentioned earlier in the thread).

Final score:

11points

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#24

Some jobs you can sell a certain number of your holiday days (think it was 5 a year) at a fixed rate to your colleagues. I thought that was quite a good idea.

As a parent myself finding childcare can be brutal, sometimes it's not as simple as pay a childminder/ holiday club as there aren't any so it's nice if employers show some flexibility.

Final score:

10points

#25

I don't think first come first served is fair, we al know the people that jump on it otherwise, but a rota system of sorts, so I always made sure we took it in turns to work in the bit between Christmas, regardless of family circumstances (was quite easy to do in a low turnover environment, appreciate that might not work everywhere). That was a few years ago, thankfully it's not too much of an issue now though I offer to leave my work phone on if everyone is off

Final score:

10points

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#26

Morally, no I don’t think they should get priority. I do see why some employers allow it though.

For some parents, paying for childcare for most of the holidays would be impossible, they may even have to leave their job if it comes to it.

This mostly affects mothers and good employers want to support women returning to the office… it’s a difficult situation.

Final score:

10points

#27

I don't think parents should get preferential treatment but I don't think it should be first come first served either.

We don't allow Christmas leave booking until Octoberber, and we ask everyone to submit their preferences. We have minimum safe numbers of staff so have to refuse some people. Who gets refused is based on who worked the previous year as some people want the full 2 weeks off every year and it's simply not equitable

Final score:

10points

Dave Notold 2 years ago

At my partners store, in the Autumn, the manager tells the staff that he'll open the holiday booking for the following year in a weeks time. They all have to hand in their forms with specific dates they'd like, noting any special reasons e.g. wedding, school holidays, and he then sits down with all the forms and works out a fair outcome. For day to day shifts, staff are free to swap shifts if someone agrees but if not then "tough, you're working that day", chldren or not. The staff all respect each others faiths and it all works pretty well.

2points

#28

Perks of working in a school! You are on the same schedule as your kids! Never have to work a holiday AND you get summer break, spring break, winter break, and here we even get fall break (separate from Thanksgiving break!).

Final score:

9points

Debbie 2 years ago

You are not a teacher I presume? As teachers still have to work during holidays, they need to prepare, review etc. (Not all of the holidays-days, but still)

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#29

Having children or not first come put your holidays in straight away dont moan if you cant have certain dates off especially xmas all know them dates when you dont put holiday dates in early simple

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9points

#30

The school holidays are basically the whole summer, by the time schools go back in Sept, the nights are drawing in. DH always needed some time in summer because he was a cadet instructor and wanted to take other people's kids away, DF needed school holidays because he was married to a teacher...

The rules should apply equally to everyone IMO and no one person should get to book all their holidays until everyone has had the opportunity to book at least 2 weeks

Final score:

8points

#31

I don't think it should be expected but I do think it's nice for colleagues to consider each other. Before I had kids I would leave Xmas eve for people who had young kids as I do think it's a special time of year for them, and you don't get many years of them being excited. Now I have young kids my colleagues have said I should get priority. I wouldn't kick off
if I didn't but I do really appreciate it.

Final score:

8points

Debbie 2 years ago

This is how it should be. Respect, communication, compassion, empathy, from both sides.

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#32

So what are you childcare options then OP?

Do you have family to help, a healthy salary so that nursery or holiday club fees are manageable? Do you work full time or are you p/t or stay at home?

These things make a difference to our opinions don’t they.

Some people can fully afford childcare for the majority of the school years then lose their job, partner, health and circumstances change.

It’s very basic to say people should think of their childcare solutions before their have kids, without any consideration to the fact that circumstances can change significantly between trying for a baby and having a 12 year old with 6 weeks of holiday club to pay for.

All that said, I agree that it should be managed fairly so that parents and child free can take the holidays they want or need and no one gets to nab all the best leave every year.

But the blame doesn’t necessarily sit with the parents, it sits with the totally s***e attitude this country has towards childcare cost and options for working parents (let’s say women, bc the majority will fall to us let’s be honest)

Final score:

7points

Bexxxxx 2 years ago (edited)

I sort of agree, that would really suck as a parent. This whole subject is a crappy gray area. I still think parents and child free folk should have a more even split of time off, but I have no idea of if there’s even a fair way to implement that in every industry. Both sides are presenting really valid arguments….

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#33

As a parent who had only had the last 2 Xmas days off thanks to Covid and redundancy I do not understand the concept of parental preference!

But I agree. My DD works in the NHS and its her turn to have Xmas day off and got told "but as you havent got kids we put you on anway" and got no end of s**t when she said no.

As for summers off, well when my lot have all finally buggered off I shall do what my best friends do and sod off to somewhere hot in the winter for a month each year! Summer holidays are for those who have no choice imo

Final score:

7points

#34

I worked in the care sector my whole life and only the last few years of it in a job that we closed for Christmas. We sadly don’t have children and yes I know Christmas is all about children however it’s unfair to expect those of us without children to always work Christmas. I always thought the fairest way was year about. 1 year you have Christmas off & the next year New Year.

Final score:

7points

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#35

I'm on the fence as well. Before DD was born I was happy to let parents and work colleagues who were married to teachers have first dibs on school holidays. Pre children we didn't want to holiday when the school children were off.

Final score:

6points

#36

People don’t need to not have babies, they just need to organise and pay for childcare. It’s what most working parents do.

Final score:

6points

#37

Yanbu. I say that as a parent.

I run several teams and we work it out between us. But there's no expectation that anyone has to not have leave because they don't have kids.

We have grandparent. Grandparents who live far away from their kids and grandkids and want to stay with them for a week. People with no kids that just want to enjoy the break and Christmas. People with no kids who will be travelling a long way to be with family. As well as parents

We are closed between Christmas and New year, so it's usually the days leading up to Christmas eve that's popular.

I took some last year. So am not this year. Luckily everyone on my teams seem to be really considerate of eachother and like to make sure it's fair.

That said, not at this job, but in my last one the only person who got arsey about having every Christmas off (we were open in between Christmas and New year) was someone without kids, as she wanted to go home for 2 weeks, every Christmas.

When she was told it had be granted to she could go for one, it's caused a huge amount of drama.

Final score:

6points

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#38

I'm a paramedic and the fairest system I've come across for summer holidays was
13 people on rota, 2 allowed off at any time, 6 weeks summer holiday, names would get drawn out of a hat, and assigned a week each, so one person each year would not get a week during the summer holidays. It then got put on the noticeboard for a period of time so that we could negotiate and do any swaps before being finalised. Generally if someone with kids landed the week outside the school holidays, someone without kids would swap (it's a tourist area, so being off in September is better if you don't have kids).

Sometime childfree staff would give up their week completely to a colleague with childcare issues, but there was never any pressure to do so. I think once a fair and transparent system is in place, staff are more inclined to help each other out.

Christmas on the other hand..... It's an annual battleground!!

Final score:

6points

#39

I give single people priority at Christmas, as they often have to travel to stay with parents or siblings.

Final score:

6points

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#40

I don’t think parents should get preferential treatment but nor does first come first serve always seem fair.

I didn’t mind working Christmas Day etc when I didn’t have kids if somebody really wanted it off with their kids. I definitely prefer not working Christmas Day but if I am then I just get on with it and don’t assume I have any more right to be off than anyone else

Final score:

6points

#41

I hate when people think they have more dibs than others with holidays.
I used to work every Xmas day and it really annoyed me as I still had family! Just because I didn't have children at the time didnt mean I wanted to spend year after year alone Xmas night.
Now when taking leave I try to be as fair as possible when requesting even though it's kinda my turn to be the asshole

Final score:

6points

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#42

Our holidays are first come, first served, except for school holidays. We have set days to request them by, and they will all be reviewed together. This can be a problem for people who would prefer to book holidays in advance though (like me! I need to confirm with DH and my parents etc) but it does mean that the allocations are fair.
Christmas and New Year are very strictly monitored for fairness because everyone wants time off regardless of kids.

Final score:

5points

#43

I've never found this to be a problem tbh.The vast majority of child free people I've ever worked with prefer to take holidays outside of peak season - it's far cheaper and less busy.

Over Christmas, most people I've worked with behave like adults and accept rotational cover.

Final score:

5points

Debbie 2 years ago

"Over Christmas, most people I've worked with behave like adults and accept rotational cover." :D :D :D

1point

#44

I think the rigid structure of set term times and holidays is just s**t for everyone. Everyone with kids rushing to have a holiday in only certain weeks of the year, with astronomical holiday prices where you’re surrounded by millions of other families and kids. If there was more flexibility for everyone, there would be a lot less competition for holiday approval at work.

Final score:

5points

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#45

YANBU. I think there are 2 issues though - lack of childcare over holidays such as Christmas means a lot of parents would struggle for childcare is one.
The other is specifically with CF colleagues who feel entitled to that time off and kick off about it, which is very different to situations where parents ask if anyone will swap or accept offers from colleagues who are happy to work.

Years ago I was a carer and had my Christmas holiday requests initially approved then taken back because one person kicked off and announced I didn't need time off as I wasn't a mother.
I had been given Christmas shifts for the previous 2 years and when I spoke to bosses I was told they basically asked all parents who was willing to work Christmas Day then put together the rota using any worker who didn't have children to get to the right numbers. I think that was beyond unfair and it resulted in my resignation.

Now my DH is a teacher so we have no choice but to take my leave during school holidays but do a completely different job now (where we close for bank holidays) and there's never been any issues. We work as a team and make a plan together so everything is covered and everyone is pulling their weight.

Final score:

5points

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#46

I agree with this in principle, but I will never book time off over Christmas for this reason, I dont have children! It comes back to the principle of treat others how you wish to be treated, I'd like to think that if I had children I would be able to be there for them, so I personally do my best to allow my colleagues to be there for their children. I do think it comes down to personal preference though.

Final score:

5points

Helen Haley 2 years ago

You've never wanted to spend christmas with your own parents? Or nieces/nephews, or your siblings? Wanting to spend holidays with family isn't limited to your children.

2points

#47

As someone without children, there always seems to be the tacit assumption I'll work during the school holidays, giving priority to those with kids. To be fair, I don't mind - my commute is easier, work is quieter and enjoy the peace when I holiday when the kids are at school. But I do find it irritating when things like shift patterns, on-call, attendance at certain meetings falls to me because I'm the one who'll be available and won't have to dash off or work around the school run etc. It does feel like you get taken for granted.

Final score:

5points

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#48

I took a position a number of years ago on a 6 month "contract to hire" basis. I was told this was the only way the company hires. OK, fine. Fair treatment for everyone.

The next person they hire is someone that I recommend from my old job. They said the only way they would accept the job if they are directly hired from day 1. Reason being is they have 6 kids and cannot wait the 6 months for health insurance (this is the US). Company agrees to it.

I ended up doing the math for what I "gave up" by doing the 6 month contract and it was well over $10,000 in direct (unpaid overtime since we worked 50 hours on an average week and my contract said I would only get paid for 40) and indirect pay (no retirement contributions, paid time off, etc).

All because I didn't have children as leverage. It's been years and the difference between employees that have children and those that don't still bothers me.

Final score:

5points

#49

In theory, absolutely yes. I do not believe free time or holidays are more inherently valuable to parents.

However… we live in a country/world where the vast majority of mothers cannot afford to NOT work, yet school is 9-3, term-time only.

Unless you’re lucky enough to have a retired grandparent who is happy & capable to look after the children, what is the alternative?

Final score:

4points

smugdruggler 2 years ago

It's basically a living wage issue. You need a wage that enables you to afford these normal expenses.

3points

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#50

YANBU. My life is not less important because I don’t have children.

But what I don't understand is why people without kids would want to take holiday when the kids are off! I'd be avoiding it like the plague

Because our lives still happen in school holidays - mid week weddings, needing a morning off to take the car for its MOT, wanting to go away with friends/family who have children, that sort of thing.

Final score:

4points

#51

I do mostly agree but I feel with children - with any caring responsibilities - there sometimes come clashed where there has to be give and take. For example, I will and do try to work my share of the Christmas period (office job) but DH has the kind of 24/7 shift work job and if he'd rota'd to work Christmas when there's no childcare available I'm screwed, and Will petty much beg for time off.

Final score:

4points

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#52

It never bothered me when I was child free. My folks both worked so I knew how much of a PITA it was to get childcare or be able to go to Nativity plays and the like.

No one ever asked me for my actual holiday entitlement though. That is cheeky in the extreme.

Final score:

4points

#53

If it allows more women to stay in the workplace and not get priced out by childcare costs then I think its for the greater good. That being said, if its shift work and Christmas day that should definitely be taken in turns or that seems quite unfair.

Final score:

4points

#54

Parents shouldn't get priority but hopefully one's colleagues might be generous if it doesn't matter to them regarding half terms and the summer. I don't really think Christmas is the same; most people want time off then if for no other reason than the way the bank holidays fall.

Final score:

4points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago

TBH, most companies should just close for Christmas and, if actually necessary, institute a fair on-call schedule (to be worked from home, ffs). No one has to go in and sit around doing nothing, and everyone has their turn being on call, in case there is a bit of work to do. Those that logistically can’t do that should offer good incentives—-like double time and a half—-to get people to volunteer to work. You would be amazed just how many people with kids would fight to work it for the chunk of extra pay they’d get!

2points

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#55

*I once had someone work for me like this, always getting in first and booking the best dates (including Christmas) on the first day the coming years holiday system opened.

He wasn't happy when I told him it didn't work like that and we had to be fair to everyone and allow people the same chance to take Christmas off.*

But surely that is how it works if you have a holiday system that ‘opens’ on a certain day? That’s the downside of a first come first served system, if you’re not the first to come you’re not the first served.

I think it should be allocated fairly and decently rather than FCFS - in my work we can mostly all be off at Christmas but we need one person working remotely on each of the non-bank holiday days (nothing proactive, just keeping an eye), and we generally just discuss our Christmas plans as a team and work out who can cover when. I’m one of the only ones with young children currently but I’m also on the management team, so I’d be first in line to volunteer to be on duty at Christmas because I get paid more/am more responsible for things being covered than my direct reports. Admittedly it’s easier with remote working, hopefully the new prevalence of that will help lots of people cover Christmas where they’d have struggled before. My other team member with young DC is Muslim but I don’t think she’s any keener to work at Christmas for that - it’s still the only time you get a decent cluster of bank holidays that might allow you to see family further afield and so on (also, she seems wildly excited for Christmas anyway! I think most people enjoy it as a secular celebration these days.)

Final score:

4points

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#56

YANBU

However as a single parent with no support, I work out when I need holiday at least a year in advance and book it before anyone else.

I hope none of my colleagues thinks I get preferential treatment, I really have already booked next Christmas eve.

Final score:

4points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago

No, you’re fine. We don’t have any problems with an organized early planner like you. You plan well in advance and, fair’s fair; if your company has a first come/first served policy, you’ll already—-legitimately—-be the first in line before everyone else even starts thinking about vacation. Kudos to you!

2points

#57

We have an April first deadline for vacation/holiday requests. If you request the day by that date the requests are granted by order of seniority. Because we are a 24/7/365 operation Christmas and the other holidays must be staffed with at least a skeleton crew and it may take years to achieve the seniority to guarantee Christmas off. This may seem harsh but everyone knows the rules.

Final score:

4points

#58

I always feel for the people that can’t have children that are made to work each Christmas ie Nurses. It’s one of the reasons why I changed career

Final score:

4points

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#59

Summer I agree first come first serve there are options available for childcare but Christmas is a different story.

There are zero childcare options available if you have no family nearby (which we dont). I am working 2 days between Xmas and New year on the 2 days that my DH isn't but it'd far from ideal and if I was a single parent then I wouldn't have this option.

Some parts of the country nurseries are open but none up my way are.

Final score:

3points

#60

Sort of. But there are also times when childcare isn’t available and so someone has to look after the kids. We juggle it between us, but sometimes it has to be me. So I think YAB(a bit)U. Also - all of my annual leave is taken up dealing with the kids. I have no time to myself at all. It’s swings and roundabouts really!

Final score:

3points

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#61

Yabu

If you are a lone parent without a support network and there is no childcare physically available as it's all shut Christmas day what do you suggest?

And before you say it people's circumstances change after they've had children.

The same argument would also apply to carers. Anyone with young kids/disabled/elderly dependants should take priority over someone with no caring responsibilities at those times of the year when it could be impossible to find an alternative.

Final score:

3points

Nicholas Selke 2 years ago

Wanting preferential treatment is being unreasonable. If you have kids or are taking care of an elderly/disabled person, that’s a choice YOU made. I’m not going to voluntarily give up my only opportunity to visit extended family just because YOU couldn’t keep it in your pants or keep your legs closed. Your choices come with consequences

0points

#62

If I didn't have children I would never book time off in school holidays. The prices are ridiculous especally in England! Personally I would let parents have the summer/easter etc but Xmas is slightly different as most people want that off.

Final score:

3points

#63

Where is all this paid childcare over Christmas? My sons school and nursery are both shut, do your children’s nursery’s stay open over Christmas?
I work in a school so thankfully doesn’t apply to me. But my husband worked nearly every Xmas day before we had kids so that none of his colleagues missed out on Christmas with their children. This was including the year when he lived away and he ended up having dinner with his bosses family.

Now we have kids and thankfully his colleagues are doing the same for him. I wouldn’t be so bothered about teenagers but ages 0-10 you really don’t want to miss.

The summer is surely a childcare issue, the amount of threads I’ve seen of people desperately looking for play schemes etc for their kids. It’s not that easy to just pay for it and every time the suggestion is to use your holiday. Seems very privileged to say “use childcare not holiday”

I don’t think parents are to blame in this but the school.childcare set up is still aimed at families with a stay at home parent so not fit for purpose nowadays.

Final score:

2points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago

So what you’re saying is that since you had it shitty until you had kids, then every generation following you should have it shitty too. Nothing will improve because nothing will change. That. Is. Bullshit.

4points

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#64

I don't think it should be an actual rule that parents get preferential treatment but on the whole I'd hope most people were flexible. I'm not taking time off this Xmas to let others in my team with kids have the whole week off. When I was a child I liked to have my parents around over Xmas. If I had something on then fair enough a bit of flexibility both ways but I don't want to stand in the way of a family Christmas to watch re runs of Jingle all the Way every day

Final score:

2points

#65

Parents should absolutely not get preferential treatment. Time off during popular holiday periods should be discussed with the whole team beforehand. I canvassed my team about Christmas to see what everyone was wanted before holiday requests were put in. If there had been clashes, I would have tried to spread things as evenly as I could.
For general holiday requests, I treat them as first come first served. In the event that someone wanted to book off a week that was already booked out, I'd be willing to have a conversation with the people involved to see if anyone is in a position to be flexible and expect my team members to be considerate to each other, but if that's the time they want off, and it's already approved, I wouldn't try to force the issue.
A person being a parent would not come into it. They get flexibility if they need unexpected time off in the form of dependant leave, but having a child is their choice and other people are not responsible for them.
If you want the holiday, book it in before someone else does.

Final score:

2points

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#66

Easy greed. Pay the people that are covering those days more. Okay this is an union idea so it must naturally just US slapping again

Final score:

2points

#67

I am an actual fully grown adult female mammal. It is literally in my DNA (and that of all females of every species ) to reproduce.. it's a thing called 'biology'

Yes there are people who choose to buck biological functions.. that is the beauty of 'higher functioning' mammals...but in the main. We reproduce. If we didn't there would be no more pensions, and we (the childless by choice ) would have no one to support us and we would need to be working until we die in our late 80s ...

I think it is the least we can do -
To support the people who have kids ..
They support me..

Final score:

1point

Donna King 2 years ago

Some people can’t have kids.

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#68

Yes, it should be first come first served with no preference for parents. Having said that, the healthcare provider I work for closes over Christmas, usually from 21st-22nd December to 3rd-4th January. We do not provide urgent care so there is no need for us to provide any appointments over the Christmas period.

Final score:

1point

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#69

If you have kids you are stuck with paying over the odds and competing with all other parents for time off during the holidays. As for organising in advance, depends where you work. Some companies don't allow you to book more than 6 months ahead.

So it depends on the circumstances and the job. You simply can't make a sweeping statement like the OP did. When I was single, I didn't mind parents booking time off over Christmas whilst I worked. My plans were flexible.

When I was a parent, I knew that guilt of having to be there for every Christmas play, every school performance, every special assembly, every Christmas Day. Juggling all that with work was a nightmare and you did rely sometimes on the goodwill of colleagues - that you would pay them back for.

Everyone has an opinion on this and everyone will have a story, which goes to show that there is no right or wrong answer. Be kind, be understanding and try to put yourself in their shoes before you judge.

Final score:

0points

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#70

Geez....cmon guys. Kids are little for such a short time and all of us should be sympathetic to the problems working parents have to balance.
I'm unable to understand the sour grapes surrounding being flexible for parents.
I had my child when I was 38 so spent 15 years in the working world always volunteering to work holidays. After I had my daughter we celebrated holidays on my off days. But when she hit school etc she was very aware of Christmas day and I insisted on having the days off when they were crucial for her.
But being flexible and kind to our fellow humans are important for our own well being.
Resentment always damages ourselves.
Just my two cents.
Recognizing there are always selfish manipulative people who get a thrill each time they get their own way by lying and gaming the system.
When I'm around those kind I send a prayer of thankfulness that I am not living in their skin. I can't imagine them in their home. They are exactly the kind of people who thought rush Limbaugh was funny.

Final score:

-4points

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David Houde 2 years ago

I was raised by a single mom who was a nurse. To this day, I do not celebrate major holidays on the holiday. My mother got massive incentives to work on the holiday, so she would take it whenever she could. I'm glad you were able to spend the actual holidays with your daughter, but the memories I have from celebrating a couple of days before or after the holidays are just as good as the times we actually celebrated on the holiday. It was about the people, not the day.

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KMill 2 years ago

I am childless not by choice. My first child died and my next 8 pregnancies ended in miscarriage. Denying me time off because I “don’t have children” is incredibly hurtful.

15points

Diemond Star 2 years ago

My deepest sympathies to you:(

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Jarrod Nichols 2 years ago

I don't understand why child-free people have to financially subsidize other people's kids? Total bullshit!

12points

J B 2 years ago

Simple economics. Unless you are a multi-millionaire who will need nothing from anyone to survive when you retire, when your and my child-free selves withdraw from the workforce those childrens’ taxes will pay for whatever government pension we will receive. They will pay for the public health care that we will likely both need as we age. They will pay for the public infrastructure we no longer contribute to but have the use of. I’m grateful every day to those who choose to reproduce so I could choose not to.

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Becky Samuel 2 years ago

I don't understand why people are so selfish as to prefer that their country treat the next generation as disposable garbage rather than treat them as what they are - your future wealth and society. Who do you think are going to be looking after you and doing all the work once you retire? Don't you want them to have the best start in life so that your country doesn't go down the toilet?

0points

Jarrod Nichols 2 years ago (edited)

You are arguing a different point. I never said children should not be educated. But why is it MY responsibility to educate YOUR child? You are the selfish one thinking everyone else owes you. Total bullshit. I wish YOU had been better educated

2points

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jammer 2 years ago

Abusive employers best assets (i.e. pawns) are employees who believe their problems are caused by other employees.

10points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

Yep, as usual, the capitalist blames the workers for his utter incompetence at doing something as trivially straightforward as managing staff and ensuring a staff complement is capacitated for the business. Also, if he's running his business on the 25th, he's nothing short of an exploiter of the workers and needs to be reminded of Red October.

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elSti 2 years ago

As long as you don't have kids that have to go to school, best option to go on holiday is just before and after school holidays in my opinion.

4points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago

Taking the kids out of school like that isn't legal in the UK.

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John Dough 2 years ago

Your value to the company is not defined by whether or not your have kids. It could even be argued (but shouldn't) that kid free workers are more valuable. They don't have to modify their schedule around daycare. They aren't calling in because of a sick kid. Etc. Anyone with kids in the workplace who thinks they are entitled to special treatment needs a reality check.

2points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

Summary: America has no parenting laws or labour laws to protect workers and give them guaranteed leave. In any civilised country you have these things and you can take leave.

2points

Becky Samuel 2 years ago (edited)

Sssshhh. They don't much like the truth round these parts.

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Bill Black 2 years ago

I can't recall how many times that I've seen bumper stickers that read 'It takes a village to raise a child'. Is it just politically correct BS? .

1point

STINY 2 years ago

why is it always 'what if people want to spend Christmas with family' what if they want to spend Christmas alone with their hobbies or their cat

0points

KimB 2 years ago

I had a coworker once tell me I " wasn't a real mother" since I only had my two step children and I didn't have my own biological children. Ok I can do everything their mother does but I'm not real since I didn't give birth? I reported her to my manager who ended up giving me the day I requested anyway

0points

Craig Reynolds 2 years ago

NO. You never should get special treatment because you chose to breed. Personally, I would quit on the spot if any employer ever tried to give priority to a parent over my request and I have. Your choice to breed is your problem, not anyone else's.

0points

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Ripley Dog 2 years ago

I wish instead that it was standard for non-essential jobs to be closed on Christmas. I work in a retail pharmacy up the road from a hospital. Why tf are we open on Christmas?! The hospital has its own pharmacy, and only 10 people showed up on Thanksgiving so the store is going to be paying the staff more than they make in sales. But god forbid they might miss out on $20 because they were CLOSED FOR THE HOLIDAY. The way literally every other pharmacy is going to be closed. To add insult to injury, my store manager scheduled me until 9 pm tonight, then has me working 9-5 on Christmas. RIP my holiday, I guess.

0points

Lillukka79 2 years ago

The should be a roster so everybody can have a free christmas.

0points

v 2 years ago

What happened in the last 10-20 years that made parents believe they are more special than anyone around them? I mean, they've definitely done nothing new and they've had a far easier time at it than literal millions before them. Oh yeah! I remember now! We are now living in the time of the first generation of "Blue Ribbon" kids coming to adulthood and having children. Mommy and daddy always told them how special they were so now they expect it from everyone around them.

0points

Isa Trip 2 years ago

I have no kids, so I always volunteer to work the holidays so ppl with kids can request off knowing there is coverage. They should spend time with them. I will stay working and making double. If I were to request off, I would have to do it in advance and there would be no questions asked whether I have kids or not. *everyone at work knows i have no kids, and i hate all children.*

0points

AnnaBanana 2 years ago

I reckon it's every man/woman for themselves. Whomever gets their leave request in first, wins. I'm childless by choice, but I work bloody hard throughout the year and I NEED a break at Christmas just like everyone else. Most companies in Australia (aside from retail or hospitality) have a shutdown period at Christmas anyway. Besides, the entitlement shown by modern parents is absolutely sickening and I do my best to stamp it on the head!

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Homer Jay 2 years ago

Basically in Murica they give day off just for taking care of childrens parents pets but not for private life?

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KT 2 years ago

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Cuddly Panda 2 years ago

The onus should never, ever be on someone else to appease your familial needs. When I need time off to be with my family, it is my responsibility to figure out how to make that happen. Toxic (and quite frankly entitled) thinking is that you are owed any special consideration simply because of your voluntary family planning choices.

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KMill 2 years ago

I am childless not by choice. My first child died and my next 8 pregnancies ended in miscarriage. Denying me time off because I “don’t have children” is incredibly hurtful.

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Diemond Star 2 years ago

My deepest sympathies to you:(

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Jarrod Nichols 2 years ago

I don't understand why child-free people have to financially subsidize other people's kids? Total bullshit!

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J B 2 years ago

Simple economics. Unless you are a multi-millionaire who will need nothing from anyone to survive when you retire, when your and my child-free selves withdraw from the workforce those childrens’ taxes will pay for whatever government pension we will receive. They will pay for the public health care that we will likely both need as we age. They will pay for the public infrastructure we no longer contribute to but have the use of. I’m grateful every day to those who choose to reproduce so I could choose not to.

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Becky Samuel 2 years ago

I don't understand why people are so selfish as to prefer that their country treat the next generation as disposable garbage rather than treat them as what they are - your future wealth and society. Who do you think are going to be looking after you and doing all the work once you retire? Don't you want them to have the best start in life so that your country doesn't go down the toilet?

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Jarrod Nichols 2 years ago (edited)

You are arguing a different point. I never said children should not be educated. But why is it MY responsibility to educate YOUR child? You are the selfish one thinking everyone else owes you. Total bullshit. I wish YOU had been better educated

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Isa Trip 2 years ago

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jammer 2 years ago

Abusive employers best assets (i.e. pawns) are employees who believe their problems are caused by other employees.

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

Yep, as usual, the capitalist blames the workers for his utter incompetence at doing something as trivially straightforward as managing staff and ensuring a staff complement is capacitated for the business. Also, if he's running his business on the 25th, he's nothing short of an exploiter of the workers and needs to be reminded of Red October.

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elSti 2 years ago

As long as you don't have kids that have to go to school, best option to go on holiday is just before and after school holidays in my opinion.

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Becky Samuel 2 years ago

Taking the kids out of school like that isn't legal in the UK.

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John Dough 2 years ago

Your value to the company is not defined by whether or not your have kids. It could even be argued (but shouldn't) that kid free workers are more valuable. They don't have to modify their schedule around daycare. They aren't calling in because of a sick kid. Etc. Anyone with kids in the workplace who thinks they are entitled to special treatment needs a reality check.

2points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

Summary: America has no parenting laws or labour laws to protect workers and give them guaranteed leave. In any civilised country you have these things and you can take leave.

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Becky Samuel 2 years ago (edited)

Sssshhh. They don't much like the truth round these parts.

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Bill Black 2 years ago

I can't recall how many times that I've seen bumper stickers that read 'It takes a village to raise a child'. Is it just politically correct BS? .

1point

STINY 2 years ago

why is it always 'what if people want to spend Christmas with family' what if they want to spend Christmas alone with their hobbies or their cat

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KimB 2 years ago

I had a coworker once tell me I " wasn't a real mother" since I only had my two step children and I didn't have my own biological children. Ok I can do everything their mother does but I'm not real since I didn't give birth? I reported her to my manager who ended up giving me the day I requested anyway

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Craig Reynolds 2 years ago

NO. You never should get special treatment because you chose to breed. Personally, I would quit on the spot if any employer ever tried to give priority to a parent over my request and I have. Your choice to breed is your problem, not anyone else's.

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Em. 2 years ago

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Ripley Dog 2 years ago

I wish instead that it was standard for non-essential jobs to be closed on Christmas. I work in a retail pharmacy up the road from a hospital. Why tf are we open on Christmas?! The hospital has its own pharmacy, and only 10 people showed up on Thanksgiving so the store is going to be paying the staff more than they make in sales. But god forbid they might miss out on $20 because they were CLOSED FOR THE HOLIDAY. The way literally every other pharmacy is going to be closed. To add insult to injury, my store manager scheduled me until 9 pm tonight, then has me working 9-5 on Christmas. RIP my holiday, I guess.

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Lillukka79 2 years ago

The should be a roster so everybody can have a free christmas.

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v 2 years ago

What happened in the last 10-20 years that made parents believe they are more special than anyone around them? I mean, they've definitely done nothing new and they've had a far easier time at it than literal millions before them. Oh yeah! I remember now! We are now living in the time of the first generation of "Blue Ribbon" kids coming to adulthood and having children. Mommy and daddy always told them how special they were so now they expect it from everyone around them.

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Isa Trip 2 years ago

I have no kids, so I always volunteer to work the holidays so ppl with kids can request off knowing there is coverage. They should spend time with them. I will stay working and making double. If I were to request off, I would have to do it in advance and there would be no questions asked whether I have kids or not. *everyone at work knows i have no kids, and i hate all children.*

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AnnaBanana 2 years ago

I reckon it's every man/woman for themselves. Whomever gets their leave request in first, wins. I'm childless by choice, but I work bloody hard throughout the year and I NEED a break at Christmas just like everyone else. Most companies in Australia (aside from retail or hospitality) have a shutdown period at Christmas anyway. Besides, the entitlement shown by modern parents is absolutely sickening and I do my best to stamp it on the head!

0points

Homer Jay 2 years ago

Basically in Murica they give day off just for taking care of childrens parents pets but not for private life?

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KT 2 years ago

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Cuddly Panda 2 years ago

The onus should never, ever be on someone else to appease your familial needs. When I need time off to be with my family, it is my responsibility to figure out how to make that happen. Toxic (and quite frankly entitled) thinking is that you are owed any special consideration simply because of your voluntary family planning choices.

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