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Mom’s Quest For Perfection Fails After Surprise Plastic Surgery Consult Sparks Kid’s Self-Love
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Mom’s Quest For Perfection Fails After Surprise Plastic Surgery Consult Sparks Kid’s Self-Love

Interview With Expert Rare Birth Defect Becomes Person’s Pride After Surprise Plastic Surgery Consult Takes A TurnStruggles With Perfectionism Resurface After Parents Schedule Plastic Surgery Consult In SecretPerson Is Against “Fixing” Their Birth Defect, Mom Secretly Signs Them Up For A ConsultationPerson Finds Out A Fun Fact About Their Birth Defect, Resists Even More When Mom Says To Fix ItSurgeon Is Fascinated By Person’s Birth Defect Healing Itself, Makes Them Not Want A SurgeryPerson Learns A Fun Fact About Their Face After Parents Take Them To See A Plastic Surgeon“Healed In The Womb”: Mom’s Obsession With Symmetry Ends As Rare Birth Defect Sparks JoyMom’s Quest For Perfection Fails After Surprise Plastic Surgery Consult Sparks Kid’s Self-LoveMom Bothered By Child’s Birth Defect Making Their Face Asymmetrical, Drags Them To A SurgeonMom’s Quest For Perfection Fails After Surprise Plastic Surgery Consult Sparks Kid’s Self-Love
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In your parents’ eyes, you should be seen as absolutely perfect. Your mother and father love hearing the sound of you giggling, even when it’s a little too loud, and they find it adorable how your hair frizzes up in the rain (no matter how much you hate it). To them, you’re a masterpiece. 

So when one person’s parents surprised them with a plastic surgery consultation, they began to wonder what exactly their flaws are. But thankfully, the visit took a wholesome twist. Below, you’ll find the full story that was recently posted on Reddit, as well as a conversation with Suwan Mehra, MD.

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    This person was less than thrilled when their parents made them an appointment with a plastic surgeon

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    But they were surprised to learn some exciting information about themself during the visit

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    Image credits: Andrea Piacquadio/Pexels (not the actual photo)

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    “Cleft lip is a common anomaly when the tissues forming the upper lip fail to join completely, occurring in one in every 700 live births worldwide”

    Image credits: Tatiana Syrikova/Pexels (not the actual photo)

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    If you had extremely supportive parents, there’s a good chance that they told you how special you are when you were growing up. “There’s no one else in the world exactly like you, so be yourself!” 

    But the reality is that most of us are actually very similar. We eat the same foods, experience the same frustrations every single day (the water filter is empty again?), and you might even have a doppelganger out there who bears an uncanny resemblance to you. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!

    However, there are some people, such as the author of this story, who actually do fall into a unique category. According to the World Health Organization, approximately 6% of children around the world are born with a congenital disorder. These include heart defects, neural tube defects, Down syndrome and more. 

    To learn more about cleft lips and cleft palates specifically, we got in touch with Suwan Mehra, MD, Chicago’s leading fetal surgery specialist. He was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and explain just how common these conditions are.

    “Cleft lip is a common anomaly when the tissues forming the upper lip fail to join completely, occurring in one in every 700 live births worldwide,” Dr. Mehra shared. “It is more commonly seen in males and affects certain ethnic groups more than others (1:600 Asians, 1: 1000 Caucasians and 1:2500 African Americans). 80% of babies with cleft lip also have a cleft palate.”

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    “What is described in the story is a case of congenital healed cleft lip”

    So where does this anomaly come from? “It’s related to an abnormal development of the human embryo around the 6th -10th week following conception,” the expert says. “The earlier the insult, the more likely there is a cleft palate.”

    “We describe the occurrence as multifactorial (genetic predisposition, environmental factors and nutritional deficiencies). Usually, there are multiple exposures such as smoking, alcohol use, exposure to chemicals, nutritional deficiencies (zinc, folate) and exposure to certain medications such as retinoids and anticonvulsants leading to this in a genetically predisposed individual,” Dr. Mehra continued.

    We also asked the expert if he had ever heard of someone managing to heal their cleft lip before. “What is described in the story is a case of congenital healed cleft lip,” he noted. “This is a rare situation when the cleft lip spontaneously heals in the womb, however leaves a visible scar.”

    And what is typically required to repair a cleft lip or palate? “Generally, there is a multidisciplinary team of plastic, maxillofacial surgery, orthodontic dentistry, ENT, genetics, speech and audiology that would follow a patient,” Dr. Mehra says.

    “At birth, the lip is taped, and jaw expanders may be needed if there is a cleft palate. The cleft lip is repaired surgically between 2-3 months, and the cleft palate between 9-12 months,” he explained. “The wider defects require a delayed repair with most individuals having 2-3 operations in their lifetime.”

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    There is no reason to get plastic surgery unless you truly want to

    Image credits: cottonbro studio/Pexels (not the actual photo)

    However, one thing to note is that almost nobody needs plastic surgery. Although it’s become normalized in recent decades, and it can be a godsend for people who have experienced traumatic injuries or want to repair deformities, undergoing cosmetic surgery is not something to be taken lightly. 

    Even the American Society of Plastic Surgeons warns on their website that these procedures certainly aren’t for everyone. First, the experts point out that if you have unrealistic expectations, you should not go through with it. Understand that even the final outcome may not be “perfect,” and do not expect to suddenly look like someone else.

    On that note, don’t go through with surgery if you’re doing it for someone else. Never feel pressured by your partner, your parents, your friends or your boss to have a cosmetic procedure done. You’re the one who has to live with the results, the entire operation should be your choice from the beginning. 

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    If you don’t have a good support system or you suffer from body dysmorphia, those are two more signs that you probably shouldn’t have surgery. And if you already have health issues, the risks of these procedures may be elevated for you. Be honest with your doctor and understand that surgery might not be a good idea.

    We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. And do you have any rare congenital anomalies? Feel free to weigh in, and then if you’d like to read another Bored Panda article discussing similar themes, check out this piece next!

    Readers shared their reactions, as well as some similar stories of their own, and the author joined in on the conversation

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Adelaide Ross

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    Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok but can we talk about how mean it is that throughout this poor person's life their mother constantly spoke about how she wanted to fix them and moved their face around to be "better"?? Like, what the f**k. Im glad OP grew up to like themself despite the constant negativity from your own mother!!!

    Abraxas59
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    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly Also my point exactly it’s the stuck up mother with the problem not the beautiful op

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    Susical
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    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I smile, my right eye squints more than my left. Many years ago when I did professional theatre, I had a photographer make several comments that left me feeling really insecure about it. But then I noticed that Sir Patrick Stewart's right eye does the same thing! So I figured if it's good enough for Patrick Stewart, it's good enough for me. :)

    Karl der Große
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    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a distinct ridge on the top of my nose. I didn't have it until puberty. I asked my mother about whether other people have it (you couldn't just Google in those days). She asked around and found out there is cosmetic surgery for it. I don't think she meant anything bad by it, I asked about this feature, and she thought I was trying to find a way to get rid of it.

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    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
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    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok but can we talk about how mean it is that throughout this poor person's life their mother constantly spoke about how she wanted to fix them and moved their face around to be "better"?? Like, what the f**k. Im glad OP grew up to like themself despite the constant negativity from your own mother!!!

    Abraxas59
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly Also my point exactly it’s the stuck up mother with the problem not the beautiful op

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    Susical
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I smile, my right eye squints more than my left. Many years ago when I did professional theatre, I had a photographer make several comments that left me feeling really insecure about it. But then I noticed that Sir Patrick Stewart's right eye does the same thing! So I figured if it's good enough for Patrick Stewart, it's good enough for me. :)

    Karl der Große
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a distinct ridge on the top of my nose. I didn't have it until puberty. I asked my mother about whether other people have it (you couldn't just Google in those days). She asked around and found out there is cosmetic surgery for it. I don't think she meant anything bad by it, I asked about this feature, and she thought I was trying to find a way to get rid of it.

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