Holy s**t what a crappy human.

As I say if you can't afford or won't pay a sitter a proper rate then stay at home and look after your own kids

If this is real, she’s truly too stupid to procreate

These people are just awful humans. Can we return 1/3 of America and get our money back?

Sounds like momma wants some action, while daddy is maybe missing in action.

My current boss has literally done this to other staff, deliberately tried to underpay them and push them into collecting Centrelink to "make up the rest, so it'll be just like you're getting paid normally!". She's a cow.

The baby won’t even accept that pay to watch itself

Getting paid? For a job?! Ridiculous!

Nope.

This person was being very logical. But unfortunately with family a lot of times they don't care about logic, relationship is supposed to be god. So they all flipped out completely ignoring the fact they were asking this person to lose money. I hate that families treat people with no children as if they're not allowed to have needs, preferences, or good pay. I experienced this prejudice at my job, when I had questions about whether I was being paid my true value. My boss went on this rant about "if you need more money to take care of your family, fine, go," knowing I didn't have kids. Just being married and having kids does not automatically make you more important than the next person who doesn't. I say that as someone who is now married. I hope I never make anyone feel like that.

Well, calling your would-be sitter a "stupid girl" is a sure fire way to change her mind. /s

So exactly at what age are you allowed to ask $35/hour?

Girl, you should have upped the price every time they insulted you. You have all my respect, and even more love for knowing that you're an engineer, go and slay!!

Why do people think they can insult you into changing your mind? Does that actually work?

35 a hour for family seems a bit rough to me but it is your time so you can ask for whatever you want, but me personally wouldn’t even accept payment for doing family members a favor, but we have different family’s and values, yours seems to be more about money where as mine is more about helping family when I can, nothing wrong with either of our approaches, just depends on the person

I get asking for a relative with nothing planned to watch the kids for a day for little to no pay, yes it is a sacrifice to some degree but that is what family does and getting to know your young relatives is a good payoff. Of course "no" should always be a graciously accepted option, and if it was my kids, any hesitation I would take a sign that it is probably not a great arrangement. I want someone who is comfortable and willing to be with my kids, wouldn't want it to be a drag for them or the sitter. But for 3 FULL DAYS with no prior arrangement, even for pay, that is total overkill. They are the entitled ones for asking for that, for any pay. And why would old friends not want to meet the kids? That makes me suspicious, there is plenty to do that is child friendly, so it makes it sound like the kids are a handful as well.

Not an a**hole for asking to be paid. However different jobs have different rates. I don’t know the hourly rate for babysitting in the US. Then you can decide if its worth it or not.

3 kids all day long!!! good gawd she'll age 30 years. Their kids, their responsibility.

wow i would love to find inner strength to do freelance side projects like that. Anyway nta

No. You value your time and appreciate it. If that's not a characteristics of a responsible adult, I don't know what is.

Nope stand your ground.

Nope. They were irrespetuous for cslling you all names, rather thsn trying to understand. Was nobody else there, like another family member? Like your parents? Why did they not di it?

Not the Ass-ole

She should have said no to begin with. Take care of your own kids. They fooled around now take care of them.

Nup, your reasoning is spot on but I woud have said $40. Family is no excuse for expecting a free ride when you need to earn a living.

So why didn't they just find another babysitter instead - because they are the ass*****

I think you should have asked for $60/hr. You were being too nice to them.

Yep! We make exceptions for family. Should not compare your work rate with babysitting for relatives.

Yes. You were available or not. A cousin remains family.

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Why is hole the part of the word that got censored? Lol

Nope. I have this problem with my sister in law too. She recently started a small business doing birthday parties, which is super great!. She has three children 7mnth, 4 years and 6 years. She messages me last minute asking if I can babysit the kids while she does a party. No, actually I cant - I have my own work to do and a client deadline the next day. She gets upset and says but you will have your kids anyway, so what difference does it make. Alot actually, my kids are 8 and 10. They can can go to the playground across the street where I can see them from my home office. They can independantly go to the toilet or get a piece of fruit without my input. Your children are not capable of any of those things and would require me to give up my whole afternoon and push my client deadline back a week and risk a signifcant contract penalty, so unless you are willing to pay me the value of the contract penalty then No. Apparently I am the selfish and entitled one?

I would of just told her I'd babysit for one day, since she's family. Her asking for three days is ridiculous and selfish on her part, but I would of done it for free. You don't really charge family

You could have just said no experience ..!

I would ask for $60. It's a polite way of saying no.

Not at all. It comes to about $11.50/hour +/- per child per hour. If it was just one kid, yeah $35/hour certainly would be outrageous. But I’ll tell you, if it was me, I’d tell them they’re getting off cheap at the $2520.00 combat pay they’d have to pay me to look after their THREE kids for SEVENTY-TWO hours straight—-since I wouldn’t put it past them to not come home at all for three days—-all by myself, with no breaks.

lol "work for me for less and be happy doing it" , no not the ass , they don't value you giving up half your pay almost to do them a favour , you are not the ass far from it

Why should you take on THEIR kids when you don’t want to?

“Sorry, I’m working.” There. Problem solved.

This is my first and only son so naturally I'll only leave him with ridiculously underpaid sitters who will grow to resent their job a little more every day.

screenshots should be evidence of agreement for suing her

Little angels they all seem to be. She wants to pay almost nothing the sitter must provide quality vegan food out of what she earns is not allowed to study is not allowed to watch tv. Jeez lady,, do you think maybe you aren't a little certifiable. Your supposed to prize your children over everything yet you seem to value the mighty dollar more. Even a homeless person wanting to keep warm and dry wouldn't abide by this.

Are you insane??? You want them watched at someone else's home? Do you not love your kids? Holy s**t. Not even the insulting amount it's the fact that IF someone has good results in their papers you are willing to just hand your kids over into their care in those home. No. No way. You must not watch the news much to realise how many kids go missing.

Where I live it is required to stay the f**k at home when someone in your household has covid. It's called quarantine. Ask a neighbor or someone to do the shopping.

I don't understand why are kids as old as these still in diapers? Is this like normal in US? I've already read it in several posts and I'm getting seriously confused...

Oh dear. Do you really not understand why your last sitter stopped texting you!!!

That's a little over 50 cents per child per hour... you'll earn more begging in the street

Slave wages

Not only is she not paying properly, she doesn't even have the decency to ask 'are you available to babysit tomorrow?'. So many adults need a lesson in manners.

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I'm confused!! Did she or did she not ask this person to come cat sit in the initial text??? Then to say her cat doesn't need watched as she is quite used to some routine but turns it around that she was offering a play date for her cat and the sitters cat!!!

They sleep and eat all day?? thats the first I ever heard of kids eating while sleeping