30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods

When I was a child, my mom always told me to learn to do math in my head, "because you won't always have a calculator with you!" Well, years have passed, I'm really good at mental arithmetic - but damn, the calculator on my smartphone gives me virtually no opportunity to improve in this skill.

Be that as it may, from childhood, our parents instilled in us many different points of view, advice and instructions, which may have been truly useful in their time - but as adults, we understand that it is unlikely that literally following these recommendations would have benefited us. Or maybe it even does harm. So here is a selection of similar stories from the corresponding viral thread in the AskReddit community.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods The need to always be productive. There is no sitting down. If you sit down you can be folding laundry, organizing something. The house must be spotless the yard must be pristine (even if there’s only one person to do all of it) and time for yourself is frivolous. Anything short of this is laziness. The ultimate sin.
I’m literally sick from living that way. The guilt of self care is gut wrenching.

jax9151210 , Annushka Ahuja Report

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R.A. Haley 1 year ago (edited)

The story I was told at various jobs was of the two woodcutters. #1 worked the whole day through nonstop while #2 took frequent breaks. At the end if the day, #2 cut more wood than #1, and #1 asked how. #2 said "while I was resting, I sharpened my axe." Always sharpen your axe, friends.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That the number on the scale matters.

My whole life I agonized about my weight. My mom kept telling me I should weigh 120 but I could never get there. But now I'm almost 40 and I've finally figured it out. I can run a half marathon in under 2 hours and my mom still gets after me for my weight being over 130 at 5'4". I'm healthy and strong. The scale doesn't matter.

savethetriffids , Ketut Subiyanto Report

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Luke Branwen 1 year ago

Being underweight is just as harmful, if not more, as being overweight, and yet skinny people aren't harrassed, shamed and dehumanized nearly as much as fat people. I wonder why is that so... I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with the fact skinny people are considered aesthetically pleasing...

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods Don't talk back.

I was just explaining my logic and my way of problem solving.

Sorry that it sounded like disrespect but that's your problem.

And my parents wonder why I don't share information with them anymore.

Because heaven forbid your daughter share actual information with you.

astrangeone88 , Timur Weber Report

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Richard Michael 1 year ago

One of the many reasons I cut my father off. I remember once when I finally stood up to a bully and gave him a verbal a*s whooping. When I got home they immediately started yelling at me and refused to listen to what I had to say. I was forced to sit at the dining room table from Friday night until Sunday night doing homework he made up. My father can rot as far as I'm concerned.

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No, in fact, life experience is an incredibly wholesome thing, and the ability to learn from your own and, importantly, other people’s mistakes is a skill of critical importance. But at the same time, it is important to realize something else - any generalization based on your own experience may turn out to be erroneous. For example, if for some reason you are unlucky with online dating, this in no way means that others will also be unlucky.

30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods “You can’t always get what you want!”

True Dad, but you keep forgetting the second part where if you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need.

fuktardy , Ketut Subiyanto Report

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)

My grandfather would tell me you can always get what you want as long as you’re realistic & flexible with what it is you actually want. Oh, & to never confuse wants with needs.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods All unions are bad. (my dad).

Refused to work a union job. Ended up with nothing but a life of financial struggles.

He was not thrilled when I took a union job.

Twenty years in a union (private sector). Good wages, vacation and traditional pension. It was not an easy job for me but at least I have something to show for it.

hdnpn , Sora Shimazaki Report

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WindySwede 1 year ago

What is wrong with more security, higher wages, vacation? 🙄🤨🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️ (it's not communistic..)

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That I HAD to hug any family (or friends) who wanted to hug me. Everyone else's feelings were more important than my own deep discomfort. I was constantly being forced to show physical "affection" because not doing so hurt my father's, grandparents', and little brother's feelings.

It really got kicked into overdrive when my mother realized that other people were noticing me cringe away from even the slightest touch from her. Who knew that if you badly abuse your daughter, she's going to flinch when you try to hug her??

anyesuki , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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Captain McSmoot 1 year ago

Say that louder for the people in the back. Adults: we need to be aware of these little cringe movements of children when their parents are around. It's our duty to be their voice when their parents refuse the privilege.

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“Almost any rule, any tradition and any advice from parents is nothing more than an extrapolation of other people’s life experiences,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch for a comment here. “The only question is the volume and representativeness of the statistical sample. In other words, if the formation of some folk tradition requires the experience of thousands and thousands of people, then parental advice is often the experience of one person. And not necessarily of the same generation.”

“I remember a semi-fictional story about a woman whose husband tried to find out why, when she boils sausages, she always cuts off the ends. She said that her mother taught her that way, and then, when the couple became interested and began to find out the origin of this idea, it turned out that the wife's grandma simply had a single сasserole dish - a very small diameter."

“In other words, someone else’s life experience is wonderful, but under two conditions. First, it should not clearly cause harm in changed life circumstances. Second, over time, it must necessarily be subject to critical revision,” Irina summarizes.

30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods I was bullied a lot growing up. I was a miserable little girl who heard "Boys you pick on you actually like you," and "Girls who pick on you are just jealous of you."

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)

Laziness! The adults who say this are accepting it as fact so they don’t have to take action. You know, actually parent. They’re also proving they will not protect you nor will they take your problems seriously. Instead they’ll gaslight you.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods “What will the neighbors think???” 🙄

Daffodils28 , August de Richelieu Report

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Nice Beast Ludo 1 year ago

Well as their neighbors, I think they should mind their own business.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods The whole make you finish what’s on your plate thing. Yeah I’m not hungry why you making me eat?

Zero-Sugah-Added , cottonbro studio Report

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Richard Michael 1 year ago

This is a had one, but as I was 100 lbs overweight it is something I had to change. Now, I stop when I am full and if there isn't enough to save it goes in the trash. I've lost 90 of the 100 so far.

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Another clear example is the famous advice of Thomas Edison: “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.” Advice that sounds cool, especially considering the scale of the author’s personality - however, if you look at it, it was only suitable for one person, Edison himself. After all, the great inventor always suffered from a lack of theoretical knowledge, which he covered with an incredible number of practical experiments. Fortunately, Edison himself had enviable health and truly inhuman perseverance and efficiency.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods "Never do a job unless you're gonna do it perfectly." Now as an adult, I've had to unlearn all this damaging perfectionism.

cabalavatar , Christina Morillo Report

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R.A. Haley 1 year ago

Yoda was nuts. "Try" is everything.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods Typical religious fanatic nonsense.

-My role as a girl was to prepare myself to be the best wife and mother.

-CSA is the victims fault.

-What I wanted didn’t matter, know your place.

-There’s no point in educating girls and women.

-If someone is a religious leader, they can do no wrong.

ThrowRA_hardtruths , Pavel Danilyuk Report

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago

Cults will do as cults do.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That it's normal to have something negative to say about everyone you know as soon as you leave any sort of gathering.

Prudent_Tourist8161 , Helena Lopes Report

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago

People who do this are sad & gross. It’s such an abundantly transparent self-esteem issue.

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Be that as it may, there are quite a few things in this collection that you may well consider to be sound ideas - even though some may find them useless. So now please feel free to scroll this list to the very end, comment the most interesting stories, and of course share your own examples of parents' advice which got only disproven by time in the comments below this post.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods "People making minimum wage are stupid and beneath us." "People on government handouts are a drain on taxpayers who work for their money." "Universal healthcare is communist and unamerican."

-My father who has never had a job interview or put together a resume in his life. He joined the army at 18 and is still in it over 30 years later as an officer. Whose entire salary is paid by taxes. AND has his healthcare and education paid for by the government.

It baffles me how he doesn't see his own hypocrisy. How he can think it's okay for these benefits to be given ONLY if you risk life and limb (and be overseas most of your child's life).

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109points

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Sami-Jo Ross 1 year ago

Sounds like my gym teacher. Bragged about never taking a sick day, said anyone on food stamps was lazy and didn't want to work, and so on. Never mind that my family was living on food stamps because the only money we had was my pop's SSI and one employed income (my mom), my dad was physically unable to work and is still fighting disability 14 years later, and I was NOT AT A LEGAL AGE TO GET A JOB.

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That I was completely indebted to them simply because they fed me and put a roof over my head. As if that isn’t the absolute bare minimum requirement of being a parent…

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Frey 1 year ago

My parents are sorta like this ( mostly my dad) and since they’ve given me food and a roof, when I get a job I have to take care of them, pay for all there trips(international) when all they’ve done is brought me into this heIIhole and done the bare minimum

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That I’ll quickly succumb to illness if I go outside with wet hair.

Ok_Comment_2100 , Nathan Cowley Report

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VioletHunter 1 year ago

This is reasonable in cold weather. Your hair can literally freeze on your head.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods “Everyone is more important than you.”

When I was a junior in high school she once quite seriously asked my best friend why he would be friends with me because she couldn’t understand why anyone would be.

DadsRGR8 , Karolina Grabowska Report

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99points

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)

Ya, FUUUUCK HER!!! What an absolute shameful & shìtty parent.

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#17

It is always my fault when something bad happens. Hence, I am still trying to quit my habit of saying sorry every time something bad happens or feeling guilty about things that went wrong.

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Janet Sparrow 1 year ago

Not sure if you're female or not but women traditionally say I'm sorry for everything. It's only made worse by someone like that.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods Always think the worst it’s usually not that bad . I think they thought it was a good message but it actually made me very scared all the time if I can’t get a hold of someone I think they are dead or hurt. Or if someone is having bad day I always think it’s something I did wrong. I am trying to change trying to look at things differently.

shellymaeshaw , Engin Akyurt Report

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Sami-Jo Ross 1 year ago

Had my first ever panic attack because of this. I was texting my now-ex one evening and she mentioned she was driving home. I told her to drive safe and text me when she got home. She didn't text me back and my mind immediately went to "oh my god she crashed she's in the hospital she's dead".

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods I’ve recently realized how much of my negative self-talk is directly from my parents. Something good happens and I STILL get negativity.

Zestyclose-Ruin8337 , Liza Summer Report

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82points

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Chocolate llama 1 year ago

Oh my husband grew up like this. He recently got a raise and we were already joking that his parents would still find a way to make it a negative thing and I'm not kidding, his mom really went "ah well but that means you need to pay more taxes now".

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That the important people in your life should read your mind and know what you want them to do without asking. Absolutely not true- you need to set boundaries, voice your concerns and desires, and communicate to get what you want. Not just expect people to do what you want and be mad when they don't.

ThrowRA43334 , Tirachard Kumtanom Report

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Temporary Dork 1 year ago

Ask culture vs. guess culture.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That I always have to explain/justify my mood if I’m in a bad or irritable or sad mood. No I don’t. Just let me be!

JammyJacketPotato , RDNE Stock project Report

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74points

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Sami-Jo Ross 1 year ago

My dad. He's apparently the only one allowed to be in any kind of a bad mood. If me or my mom have a legitimate reason for a bad mood, we get told we have no reason to be upset and he "deals with more sh!t than both of [us] combined". All he does is sit at home and play CoD.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That when you injure yourself, it’s 100% your fault and that the immediate response is to scold you for being injured, and worry 0% about the injury for a second or two.

EDIT: I remember being at the fair one time and got lost for about 10 minutes. My mom just ran crying to the car because she used to tell us that if we ever got lost, to return to the car.

Pops was still looking for me when I got to the car. My mom’s first words were “your dad is gonna be *pissed* at you!” and yanked my f-ing ear. My dad eventually shows up and his words were “why the f**k did you get lost???”

Curious_Working5706 , RDNE Stock project Report

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago

What is wrong with these people? I feel blessed to never have had such absolutely horrible parents. Just gross. When their folks are old and need care, I hope OP reminds them of this.

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That I should always smile and act as though everything is good in my life to people. What happens in our family should never be shared with people outside the family. That I should never share my personal business with anyone. Never be vulnerable or let people know they’ve hurt you.

Thanks for making me super stunted at making friends growing up mom. Turns out that talking to people about your life and struggles and being vulnerable forges deep relationships and is a lot healthier.

In retrospect it makes sense now how mom never had friends and still has none. She was shocked to see how many friends came out for our wedding and how much they genuinely love us.

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago

I feel bad for OPs mom. As in, pity.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods “The only people that sleep during the day are firefighters and [escorts] - and you aren’t either of those” I still can’t sleep/nap during the day. Lol Added note: The point my parents were trying to make - was sleeping during the day was lazy behavior. I didn’t have a night job (They used those two as an example) I was 10. Still stupid - yes, of course.

Hellokitten525 , EKATERINA BOLOVTSOVA Report

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Richard Michael 1 year ago

You were allowed in the house midday at 10? Pfft! If I wanted to take a nap I would have to curl up in an old racquetball court, or, if I was lucky, go over to my friends house who knew how batsh*t my parents were.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods Don’t ever ask for help.

As an adult I watched the end of “My Cousin Vinny” and realized how that had been holding me back.

Chillafrix , Samantha Garrote Report

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WindySwede 1 year ago

What is that ending?

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"Show up at least 30 minutes early to everything, it's better to be early than late and they'll appreciate your initiative to show up early".

Turns out showing up before people are even ready is quite annoying to people when you surprise them by showing up early.

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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

It depends. If you're meeting someone somewhere, showing up early is fine. If you're going to someone's home, yes, being that early is unwelcome

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods Not to cry because everyone will think you are weak

UrdreamWifey , Alena Darmel Report

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ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago (edited)

If someone thinks you’re weak from crying, that’s someone who you shouldn’t care about what they think. At all.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods The vast gulf between "adults" and "children." I'm in my early 50s and I still think of other people as "adults."

bullet_proof_smile , MART PRODUCTION Report

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Ozymandias73 1 year ago

It slightly annoys me when people call me "young man." I'm 50. Or when older older ladies are like "ohh, you're still just a babe." I'm like (to myself) Like hell I am! 10 years difference is a bit of difference when you are my age, but damn, I'm not a child.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods I can't wear white after Labor Day.

I can't ever weigh more than 120 pounds.

I can't go swimming after a meal.

I can't do this or that because yadda yadda blah blah blah.

GTFOakaFOD , Drew Dau Report

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61points

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WindySwede 1 year ago

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods My mom put a lot of stock into people who had a lot of money, drove fancy cars, took fancy vacations. As an adult who is struggling to get by - I realize how ridiculous she sounds/acts. Your friend from high school just
Bought a $3 million house. That’s great for them. I believe they had a large trust fund. I have to work for everything

UMDAlum2000 , Any Lane Report

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Vinnie 1 year ago (edited)

If the high school friend had a large trust fund, that begs the sarcastic response: "I'm struggling because I was too lazy to be born into wealth." Even if that friend made some of that money, they had a head start in life. Not knocking wealth - but I'd rather put stock in the in-law who grew up in privilege and now prosecutes sex offenders (not poor, but it pays a lot less than corporate law).

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Another one: "You can never stand to be a little uncomfortable."

My narcissistic mom's way of dismissing my need for anything (food, bathroom, warmth) that would inconvenience her. I still struggle with trying to ignore my own physical needs so I'm not an inconvenience, even if I'm all alone.

For example, sometimes I'll wait until I'm almost bursting to finally use the restroom because I grew up hearing, "Can't you hold it for a little bit longer? We'll be there in 20 minutes," or "You just went! How can you have to go again so soon?"

The other big thing was being cold all winter long, to the point of having a constant sore throat and getting strep throat at least once or twice every winter. The cold air would make me feel like I was swallowing glass. My parents refused to let me have a space heater or an electric blanket because "it's too expensive."

I still struggle with turning up the heat, even though I'm paying it myself. I feel guilty if anyone comes to my house, like they're going to judge me for wasting so much money to be warm. (My normal body temperature is also below 98.6, so I get a lot colder more easily than most people do.)

My parents always turned the heat off at night, no matter how cold it was. I finally realized, as an adult, that of course *they* weren't cold. They could cuddle up together and stay nice and toasty. They also didn't have sensitive throats like I do.

Anyway, money was a little tight, but looking back on it now, it wasn't *that* tight. We still did all the normal middle-class suburbia things. As an adult, I can't imagine letting my child be cold or denying them a bathroom break or forcing them to eat food they hated because it would inconvenience me to tend to their needs. Some people really shouldn't have kids.

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Brainmas 1 year ago

Wow, sounds like we had the same parents. I had strep every year as a kid. Was told at 17 if I got it again they were taking my tonsils. Moved out at 18 and haven't had it since (I'm 40) so it's an odd coincidence.

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My mom is a FIRM believer that *someone out there* is gonna poison Halloween candy or sneak [illegal substances] in it.

She's still f*****g convinced this happens.

There has never once been single a corroborated case of this happening ever in the history of mankind. Never.

Tootsie roll pops, smarties, Dum Dums, anything that could be easily "tampered with" we were ordered to throw in the trash. She watched us do it just to make sure and checked our candy to see if we missed any.

I'm 38 years old I have my own kids who are trick-or-treat age now. [Illegal substances] are EXPENSIVE nobody is putting f*****g pot into the Halloween cookies. Jail really sucks nobody is sneaking cyanide into the f*****g blow pops.

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Sonja 1 year ago

The only known case was a father who poisoned his own kid's candy to get rid of the child. Claiming he got it from someone else was his ruse to get away with it. But he gpt caught.

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You must deep clean the entire house a day before guests come over. (So it's freshly cleaned)

So any family gathering, visiting for the weekend, family dinners, etc....bleach everything, baseboards, kitchen grout, dust ceiling fans/vents, do all the laundry, etc. We talking hands and knees scrubbing.

We "spring cleaned" every month if not more.

It's crazy how people can actually visit a lived-in home where maybe the couch hasnt been vacuumed in the last week, or the porch hasn't been swept. People really don't care how clean the inside of your fridge is or if you wiped down the garbage can.

I still do it to this day, but not as neurotic.

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SlothyK8 1 year ago

I clean this way. I make no apologies. It's one less thing for someone with social anxiety to stress about. If the house is clean to my standards, I can concentrate on freaking out talking to my visitors and not on freaking out about the dust bunnies in the corner.

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That if you're yourself everyone will leave
My folks
They are afraid of themselves

I love my weird tribe of chosen family

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jdtimid123 1 year ago

I heard a quote once, not sure who said it, that went something like "my greatest fear is having everyone I know be in the same room with me, because I wouldn't know which mask to wear."

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You just have to suck it up. Life’s hard.

But I shouldn’t have to just stay quiet though. I should be able to speak up and let someone know when I don’t like something or disagree with it.

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Tabitha 1 year ago

Yes, life is hard. But there’s nothing wrong with speaking up and trying to change that, instead of quietly accepting it and not even trying to change it. People don’t understand that collectively we CAN change things for the better. Why do you think those with an agenda continually try to distract us and keep us fighting with each other instead of focusing on exposing that agenda? Divide and conquer. That’s what’s being done to us. If we could put all that b******t aside and come together, we could put all the evil a******s in prison, replace them with truly good people, and create an amazingly equitable world. Never just accept a s****y life, work to change it—-but please avoid becoming a s****y person yourself along the way.

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#36

30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods “It’s not worth the risk”

So much life missed out on not taking a small risk…and I’m not talking about skydiving…more like going into the city late at night to see your favorite band play “you might get mugged, it’s not worth the risk”

GrayBox1313 , Tom Fisk Report

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18points

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WindySwede 1 year ago

No that's called social anxiety and "catastrophic thoughts" (according to google translate, don't know if right words though?), ingrained into your kid!

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#37

30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods They insisted socks should always match. Turns out, mismatched socks bring a bit of rebel flair to life. haha

BewilderedMot , The Lazy Artist Gallery Report

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18points

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Daya Meyer 1 year ago

*staring at the one grey sock on the left and the blue one one the right foot* Mhm, but they both have stars and small moons all over, so they match.

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#38

30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods That they "have eyes on the back of their head" so basically to say they're always watching me especially when I was little so I wouldn't do something bad. I've never seen their extra eyes so I'm going with ridiculous.

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TheGoodBoi 1 year ago

My grandma would say this to me. One day she was turned away from me, so I went to grab a piece of candy from the little plate on the coffee table. "You haven't had dinner yet GoodBoi..." I was so shocked! SHE HAD INVISIBLE EYES ON THE BACK OF HER HEAD! Years later she laughed her dentures out and told me she used the reflection off a picture frame to see me -_-...

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#39

Don't complain

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Ge Po 1 year ago

Maybe, but please, do point out, if it is serious. Like: Help, I am drowning. Hey, that's a dangerous situation and should be addressed. Stop, you are hurting me.

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Paranoia and the worst possible scenario.

Me: "I'm going to go ride my bike"

My mother: "Make sure you don't get hit by a car. Drivers are reckless and they'll hit you if you're not careful"

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Captain McSmoot 1 year ago

Mother wasn't and isn't wrong.

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30 Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods You can't eat warm food for breakfast

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Daya Meyer 1 year ago

Sooo... better get rid of this fresh omelette then, eh?

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Tree P 1 year ago

A lot of these were very familar. Are we sure this post wasn't about my Mom?

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Isa's left eye 1 year ago (edited)

If I ever wanted something, "You think you deserve that?" I would like to say that I'm unlearning this but it isn't happening. If I expressed insecurity, "God made you the way he wanted you to look, you're saying that he messed up and made something ugly and that is very offensive to him so pray for forgiveness." If I wanted junk food, "You'll end up fat like me and your dad, and have a heart attack at 18, and die young." If I wanted to hang out with friends, "You don't care about us anymore and all you want to do is spend time with these satanic school kids." If I was in a bad mood, "You have such an easy life, you don't deserve to be upset" If I didn't want to be touched, "You're hurting my feelings." If I wanted my dad to stop singing because I was starting to overstim, "don't bridle his joy." If I wanted to buy clothes from the men's section or cut my hair, "You're trying to look like a boy and that will send you to hell." Parents: Please don't do this to your kids.

Honcho Chorcoran (who/cares) 1 year ago (edited)

I'm very sorry you went through this and are still going through it. Religion is the biggest curse on humanity of all time.

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waarimelone 1 year ago

I like to believe that extremist views do not depend *entirely* (a religion can have extremist views) on beliefs expressed in religious doctrines/ideologies but the strength of attitudes, which can align with existing religious beliefs. One can have a non-religious person who holds extremist attitudes simply because they have no positive experiences with, or have been exposed to propaganda/stereotypes about, the group in question. The attitude can then grow so powerful that they reject views that do not support it. Another non-religious individual can disregard extremist ideologies because they lack the tangible experience/evidence to form an attitude, or it is weak enough to allow the benefit of doubt. OP's parents can thus be said to be unsympathetic to views that conflict with their own. Narrow-minded, if you like. (Sorry for the post length; and you are all welcome to correct me on this/add something. I just feel like this needs to be said.)

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Sky Render 1 year ago

My parents tried very hard to get me to never question anything about what made me so different from other kids. It wasn't until I was in my 20s that they even let me know about the existence of Asperger's (which I very much have). And any questions about my very strange crotch were silenced immediately. They never wanted to talk about why I was born in a hospital known for neonatal care over 150 miles from anywhere they'd ever lived before or since either.

Logicgrrl 1 year ago

Your very strange crotch?

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