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Being the oldest child in a family can sound pretty nice in theory: you have younger siblings you can boss around whenever you need, pull the seniority card if they try to rebel, and you get to know you had at least one year where your parents gave you their full attention. However, the reality is there are plenty of negatives, too.

Comedian and writer Abby Govindan just tweeted one of them. It's the annoying special treatment of the younger brats you have to witness. You had to save up $60 for a Nintendo when you were 7? Your brother gets an Xbox when he's 7. You're threatened you'll be kicked out of your house if you don't make your bed? Your sister lets food rot in hers and no one says anything. That kind of stuff.

Abby's tweet has accumulated nearly 500K likes and 46K comments, many of which were written by other older siblings and detail similar struggles. Here are some of the best ones for you to enjoy scrolling through!

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Also, parents should be careful about this. If children feel they are getting unequal amounts of your attention, discipline, and responsiveness, it can lead to sibling rivalry. It usually continues throughout childhood and can be very frustrating and stressful to the whole family.

According to Sara Laule, MD, the best thing parents can do to avoid this is not playing favorites. "Try not to compare your children to one another," she wrote. "For example, don't say things like, 'Your brother gets good grades in math—why can't you?'"

Enjoying each of your children’s individual talents and successes is important as well, however, it should not get in the way of them forming a team. "Set your kids up to cooperate rather than compete. For example, have them race the clock to pick up toys, instead of racing each other."

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Batty
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am in this picture & I do not like it. Being the oldest sucks balls.

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KaPOW
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of the time I think parents learn from their bad decisions next time round, perhaps they realised forcing you into picking the harder subjects clearly didn't make you happy and they are trying not to do the same with your brother?

Lucas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then they should say sorry and explain that they stuffed up. A lot of things are forgivable if a person apologises and parents shouldn't be immune to that.

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AQUINNAH POLOZOLA
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom hates me literally upvote if u think that ur parents hate u(its not that shes strict)

L McN
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As the eldest, this happened to me. And I hated everything about it! But, now as a parent...I have to admit that a LOT of mistakes are made with the first child that you correct on, and each child is different because of (in part) that learning.

Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tell your children that. Most parents don't bother explaining themselves and the child will harbour grievances.

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Amy Broderick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brother came home with a couple of Cs and got praise and money as a reward. I was straight As and National Honor Society but 'you're always doing that it's what's expected of you."

Theresa Carroll
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And it truly hurts it cuts to the core to see your parents giving all the love and affection and attention to your younger siblings and you never once got half an ounce of that...

Theresa Carroll
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just love how I was the oldest daughter are feelings and our thoughts and our needs don't matter compared to our siblings.. it's like night and day man

AdrianaG
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents say that I can choose what gymnasium to go, but... it has to be a maths gymnasium. They said, that my little sisters can choose when they get older where to go, so why not I?

Jennifer Sacrison
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I graduated my Mom got drunk...she was celebrating cuz she didn't think I'd graduate. Males no sense to me cuz I had giod grades!!!

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Tenay Douglas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PREACH. Thats ALL my siblings say whenever I FINALLY get something of my own

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AV7
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was most likly already dead inside after the vodka incident.

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Olga Posedaru
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You must've gotten a pretty awesome tattoo if you changed your mom's mind about them :)

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Abby
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. If I want a friend over, I have to clean up the whole house by myself. If my younger brother wants a friend over, I have to help him clean the house and he doesn't help at all

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Helena R
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This resonates with me, no matter how nasty my sibling is to anyone it was always their/my fault. I'm the older bad one. In their twenties now and they still live/scrounge off her but I'm still the nasty ungrateful one

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Helenium
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeh been there grounded from being at college too long was 18 , the only time i was grounded ever

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Shawn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First kids are just for practice and getting the screw ups outta the way

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Martha Meyer
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How does someone who is legally an adult let their parents dictate them a curfew and rules about drinking?

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom did the same thing to me and said I'd never get a job or amount to anything...unbeknownst to me, a few years later I came to visit and accidentally happened upon her and my step-dads weed stash. Double standard. Now, my 18 yr old daughter moved in with them....they said "no smoking at our house" so when my step-dad found her stash, he stole it, smoked it and lied about it. Then bought weed from her bf. Idiots....

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Heidi Geary
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok but....kick her out? In 8th grade? Maybe I'm lazy but sometimes I forget to do my homework and my Mum usually just asks me a bunch of questions such as 'What was stopping you from doing it?' or 'Do we need to do anything to help you be more responsible?'

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Lizzy Potter
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same with me! My mom monitors everything I do, random checks, ect. I'm 16 ! I caught my 7 year old brother watching porn on the family Ipad and took the Ipad away from him and brought it to my mom... I got grounded for 1 week from "yanking it out of his hands". -Edit- we yank things out of each others hands ALL THE TIME and my mom hates it. Also he didn't get any punishment.

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my older sister wasn't allowed to dye her hair until 8th grade and my parents helped me dye mine in 6th and do it all the others times ive done it too

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Francis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i am the younger sibling and when i felt left out, my mum said that i have to wait as well as my older brother did. and so i waited until i was old enough for a phone... WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE PAERENTS IN THESE STORIES?

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Nikki D
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am honestly amazed that parents allow "sleepovers" like this. Is this normal?

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DrBronxx
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"My parents didn't get me my first car until I was like 17" Is that really supposed to be a hardship? Your parents bought you a car. At age 17.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you don’t get the difference between intoxicating yourself and intoxicating others (perhaps even without their knowledge), well...

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Tenay Douglas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love euphoria! My younger sister (16) introduced it to me (18) yet my parents are all on me like oh isnt that too mature for you like WDYM.

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