That should be child abuse

So agree with this. So many parents let their kids scream and throw things in stores or public places and hold to their "let them scream it out" philosophy. No, the kid has had enough of being in that situation, you take them outside. I also have an ASD and ADHD child so yes it is possible to remove them from a situation they are not enjoying whilst also being mindful to people around you also. I've had to pack up and leave so many situations for this reason, restaurants, shops, public transport (and walk a couple of miles in the rain instead). It is possible and you learn what the tolerances of your kids are, noisy bright places were generally no go areas for me.

Headphones exist

It's better teaching them properly than them learning about it in the school yard from other kids. I sat down with my daughter when she was 8-9 and watched "What is happening to me" and "Where did I come from". They are cartoon style but informative and then afterwards we had a chat about what she saw and if she had any questions. I also made sure she knows she can come to me and ask me anything and I will answer the best I can. I believe it is important to have open lines of communication.

It is sad and concerning how much normalized is being an alcoholic. Its very obvious in TV and movies; everytime the main character (or a friend) has a rough patch the only solution is to get wasted. I am sorry but having a bottle of wiskey in your working desk or drinking every day is not cool is an adiction that should not be encouraged.

privacy is not a privilege it is a necessity that everyone deserves

Why don't you just show children how to love books instead? Books are not a punishment or should be part of a prank

Who does that? Seriously......my child knows I can't keep everything but I have terabyte full of photo's you know........

Thanks COVID for this... No more hugs or kissing hello or goodbye for everyone

I read that you have to teach your child to make a decision, but limit their choices. Like per example, you let them pick out which pants to wear, but you cant let them wear summer dress or short in december.

My mom n dad became my best friends about a year after I left the house, they have been for years now ❤️

I'm 60 and my son (26) is now my best friend. I'm talking about now, not for the time he was kiddo. I know I'm not his best friend and I don't want to be (he have to have more closer friends his age, I know that!), but he is mine bestie, for sure.

My mom became my best friend when I was 40, right after my dad died. Best 10 years of my life.

I like that my mom was my friend, but I agree that it did cause me a lot of problems. There's nothing wrong with being close but I feel like she was totally inappropriate with me as a younger kid. As soon as I was like 11 she would talk to me like I was one of her friends (she didn't really have any so I think that was part of the problem). I knew about my parents sex lives, personal issues and things I really shouldn't have dealt with. And it also made me respect her less as my parent. I was a really good kid who hung out in my room a lot so I didn't really need to be punished for anything, but if I had, I wouldn't have taken it seriously from her. We also worked together for a while so that made it worse. There was no escape. Now we're actually way less close. I love her still and we talk sometimes but I'm still her therapist, you know? I've been her shrink since I was 11. Even when I need to talk to her, she always turns it around to her own issues. I kind of don't bother anymore.

When they're children, obviously you're not friends. If you treat your children with dignity and respect, when they're adults, they'll want to be friends. My daughter and I have a fantastic friendship, because we treat each other as equals, since we're both adults.

I am best friends with both of my kids. They know they can come to me and tell me anything and I will give solid advice, so just listen to them. Sometimes a lot of "best friends" Don't listen to what the yare saying, I always listen. My duaghter told me this. She was like I can always come to you and you actually listen to me

my mum is a good friend now, but i'm glad she was a proper mum to me when i was young.

Maybe in their 20s, but even then I'd wait for the late 20s. Not because I don't love them, but because I do.

friendship comes later when they have grown up, it just an easy excuse to get out of parenting

My mom was both my best friend and my mother and still is and yes, I’m 26

My mom is and always will be my best friend. She’s so understanding and I love her more than anything. You can be your child’s best friend, just let them handle socializing on their own as well as long as they are good people. Kids who are mentally unstable in a dangerous way or are troublemakers are a hard NO.

Erm, I disagree but respect that's what you think.

I hate people who get pissy about this in any form. My mom has been one of my best friends since I was a small child. She could also be my parent just fine. I grew up with the line "There is NOTHING you can do that I haven't done. I don't care if it is late at night or you have done drugs, or gotten drunk. Call me and I will come get you. I won't yell at you, I won't get mad. I will be disappointed, but I would rather be disappointed than you be dead. But you commit a crime I will drive you to the station myself!" Did drugs a couple times, never had sex in my younger years, and never feared telling my mom stuff even when she stumbled. She knew exactly what was happening with my friends because I told her about my life completely. It led to me being the super compassionate and caring person I am. A lot of my friends benefitted from my mom being my friend. Because they knew mom was a safe place if they were in trouble.

It all depends how old the child is. Many many many children are best friends with their parents once they have left the house and have done a little bit of living.

For real, my dad is a grumpy old Italian man who dislikes everyone except my mum, he would make a s**t friend.

Bruhhh my mom said SHE was MY best friend… another way to say I’m lonely and have to friends I guess

I have always been great friends with my parents and I hope I can have the same with my daughter. Earned friendship leads to more trust and stronger bond.

i for a fact dont get allong with my sister and even had an argument again this morning

Eh. This one isn't so black and white. My dad was my best friend growing up and is still one of the first persons I call with anything. But he knew when he had to be "a dad". So perhaps a balance is appropriate.

YES!!!

Nooooo, and parents who post every.single.thing about their kids

Would their kid even feel like they could tell them?

My son wasn't toilet trained until almost 5 and that wasn't due to lack of trying. My friends daughter was still wearing pull ups to bed at the age of 8 and again that wasn't through lack of trying. Some kids have developmental issues that make things a bit harder or takes them longer to learn.

Heard something like this called curling parents. Love the phrase, the behavior bot so much

Lot lot of parents do this. And think of how the child feels sometimes they don't want to do that sport but.....their parents make them. And it got to make them unhappy

I was on a mums group and one of the mums was asking about what people did for their child's first birthday or christmas and some of the suggestions was insane. Like a 1 year old doesn't need a bouncy castle, farm animals etc. A 1 year old doesn't understand. For both my kids first birthdays AND christmases, they received necessities like clothing for the following year, shoes, bedding, 1 or 2 age appropriate toys and a couple of books. And definitely no birthday party. Just some family for coffee and cake with a store bought $5 chocolate mud cake. In saying all that, each to their own. If they want to waste their money then that is their choice.

And at wildlife parks, and aquariums, I’m constantly drilling parents about things like - your 5 yr ok’d just threw a live starfish from the touch pool - maybe teach your little s**t how to handle a delicate animal and maybe both bond over learning about the starfish. Don’t just sit on your damn phone and let your C. Goblins run anarchy in the touch pools. They aren’t stuffed animals they are living beings

Setting boundaries isn't normally the problem. Keeping the boundaries (by both parents) is.

A kid is a kid, and kids will tell lies. Not to be malicious, but because their brain sometimes just goes 'which outcome will get me in the least amount of trouble?'.

THIS!! Life is full of boundaries, of no's, of not always getting what we want. Children MUST learn this

That's okay, I will tell them off instead.

Life is often filled with failures, that is what makes success all the sweeter. I don't understand the "everyone is a winner" thing. All that does is make it more difficult to overcome disappointment later in life, such as not getting a job after an interview. I just don't get it.

Growing up I wastold I I was stupid and destructive. I wasn’t. I was taking radios and video players apart to see how they worked then put them back together. I wanted to be an engineer but girls have to work in offices. So I work in an office.

I mean, that’s part of how abuse works. Abusers aren’t going to say “feel free to tell everyone that I’m beating the s**t out of you”, you know?

That is sad to do to your child it puts pressure on them.

My mom prevented me from having friends because of this. I was a kid when cellphones were just starting to be an item everyone had and my household hadn't picked up the trend yet. My mom tried to keep me inside as much as possible otherwise, with every move I made outside, I was expected to run home and tell her where I was going in the neighborhood. This wasn't realistic and no kid wanted to waste time constantly running/biking to my house with me to tell her I'd be at X, then Y, then Z. We're not talking about being extremely far away from home; just within the confines of the neighborhood. Kids were starting to ditch me so I decided to not tell her once. My mom had been secretly checking up on me all this time and called the police when I wasn't where I said I'd be. That was basically the end of my friendships as a kid unless they wanted to play indoors at my house.

They need to learn that failure exists

I don't care who is anyone treats my kids bad is gonna get mouth full unless they are getting on to them for a good reason.

And let them have vacation jobs for pocket money. It will be great experience once they are older. I never worked because my parents were all "you need to study 24/7' and then could not find any low job like waitress or cleaner because i had no experience.

Generally a behaviour that started in the generations before when food was sparse and snacks not available. My parents held to this and my Dad will clear off his plate and anyone else's for that matter. He really struglles with his weight. I had an ED growing up so I let my kids decide when they're full. Also giving them age approproate portion sizes to begin with helps.

my mom always said that I could talk to her about any feelings I had, but when I did she would tell me that i'm lying and trying to get more attention. because of this I was afraid to admit if I was ever in pain or feeling depressed/suicidal. my mom never seemed to understand that that is why I never trusted her.

hahaha, that's how i grew up- get out or help clean the house. come back for lunch and then out the house again until dinner. rainy/snowy days were excepted though.

I am not a huge believer in homework coz I believe kids need to have their own downtime but also time to spend with family and doing their responsibilities around the house. They go to school for about 6 hrs a day, 5 days a week. Give the kids time to be kids for crying out loud. The only homework I can support is reading and for the younger kids, sight words.