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Raising tiny humans is hard, there’s no doubt about it. My utmost respect goes to the loving parents and dedicated educators out there who are helping to mold a brighter, better future for us all.

But putting all the accolades aside, parenting in itself is one hell of a strategic set of moves where small steps go a long way. And there are so many tactics from ‘how to’ and ‘what not to do’ when raising kids that they inevitably stir some debate. I mean, some parenting trends are really controversial—just think of family TikTok accounts. Some say it's an awesome way to communicate and spread the message, others think it may promote negative experiences often tied with social media.

So who’s right? We may not exactly know, but we can find out what common parenting trends people see as nonsense. “What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?” asked a Redditor called Qquackie and the answers started pouring in. Below are some of the most interesting ones!

It seems like there are as many parenting tactics as there are parents. This year, we see new trends emerging, from mindful usage of the internet to parents getting support from online groups, and gender-neutral parenting. The last trend is especially liked for millennial parents who are no longer willing to fit their children in society's predefined boxes but want to allow them to experiment, experience and express themselves.

Other new trends include “baby budgeting,” with parents of newborns getting a whole more money-savvy. Baby budget calculators and charity shops are on the rise as parents seem to have finally realized you don’t need to spend a fortune on shoes every other month as your child is growing.

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Letting your kids run amok everywhere and then being furious when other people are annoyed. I'm an older mom. I was raised with the idea that you have a social contract with others to not be a pain in the a**. I don't let my kids go nuts in public. When they are having a hard time, we leave. I don't expect them to be angels for hours in adult situations, but being told to not be loud and crazy at the grocery or in line somewhere is not child abuse. Letting your kids be a hellion that everyone else cringes to see is so unfair to your kids.

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Lou Cam
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So agree with this. So many parents let their kids scream and throw things in stores or public places and hold to their "let them scream it out" philosophy. No, the kid has had enough of being in that situation, you take them outside. I also have an ASD and ADHD child so yes it is possible to remove them from a situation they are not enjoying whilst also being mindful to people around you also. I've had to pack up and leave so many situations for this reason, restaurants, shops, public transport (and walk a couple of miles in the rain instead). It is possible and you learn what the tolerances of your kids are, noisy bright places were generally no go areas for me.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Loud cartoons and games on tablets in public places

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With not educating your kids about sex because it's an "uncomfortable topic"

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's better teaching them properly than them learning about it in the school yard from other kids. I sat down with my daughter when she was 8-9 and watched "What is happening to me" and "Where did I come from". They are cartoon style but informative and then afterwards we had a chat about what she saw and if she had any questions. I also made sure she knows she can come to me and ask me anything and I will answer the best I can. I believe it is important to have open lines of communication.

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According to Parent Circle, a new parenting trend that emerged during the pandemic has to do with dads. Turns out they too had an opportunity to rethink work-life balance, made better use of the situation and established a new approach to parenting. The extra family time was not just rewarding but also an eye-opener for the men regarding the responsibility of childcare and household work. Prior to the pandemic, mothers were taking on the biggest share of those responsibilities.

A study run by the scholars of the University of Utah, Ball State University and the University of Texas showed that the number of couples who split childcare duties rose to 56% during the pandemic in the US. The percentage was only 45% before the pandemic hit.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With All of the "wine mom" merch, down to shirts for children that say horrible things like: "I'm the reason Mommy drinks"

Like, dress it up as much as you want, but "alchololism" isn't cute, as much as you want to convince yourself of it. Let alone, clothing for your CHILD who didn't ask to be born, to be treated like their existence is a burden to you. I've seen stuff like this in the kids section, from infancy to middle school sizes.

That's a trauma trifecta right there.

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Ozacoter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is sad and concerning how much normalized is being an alcoholic. Its very obvious in TV and movies; everytime the main character (or a friend) has a rough patch the only solution is to get wasted. I am sorry but having a bottle of wiskey in your working desk or drinking every day is not cool is an adiction that should not be encouraged.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With When I was a teenager my parents took away the door to my room.

It's normal for teenagers to pull away from their parents, I guess this wasn't acceptable to her and she wanted to keep an eye on me at all times.

I still have severe issues relating back to this one action. This is after years of therapy and no contact.

To anyone considering this as some form of "punishment", Let me stop you right there. Nothing will get your child to disown you faster than not giving them privacy.

I think she got the idea from Dr.phil Useless c*nts, the both of them.

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Kriti Avantika
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

privacy is not a privilege it is a necessity that everyone deserves

Rose Golden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ngl, I saw the first part, got mad, saw the second part and calmed down

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Roxy Eastland
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a specifically American thing and I did wonder where it come from. Hanging doors properly is really hard, so no sane Brit would take one off unless there was a much better reason than humiliating your teenager.

Babsevs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the UK too...didn't know this was even a thing until I saw some posts form USA about it! Invasion of privacy is not ok, don't care what age your kids are. My doors only ever changing me off for painting/changing hardware etc.....

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Wistiti
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privacy is important and that children should learn early on that they deserve it. I knock on my 9's door, whether its open or close.

Louloubelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're a parent doing it right. We had 5 kids growing up, and my mother NEVER walked into our rooms without knocking.

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Sofie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happened to me too, it was so humiliating. I can see why mom did that, since I was seriously suicidal, but it only felt worse after she did that. I wish mom would have just showered me with love, that would have helped me and our relationships. Just comforting me by saying nice things and hug me, be soft with me when I was going through hell. Not punishing me while going through hell. I will never forget this. What did help was therapy and medication. I'm also a Mother of 2 now and will never, ever put them through what my mom did to me. I was raised to be obedient and still find myself worrying about what mom will think/say of me though it has gotten better. She wanted to have a well behaved daughter, and I was that. Sadly I didn't and still don't feel loved by her because of this. Don't be hard on people having a hard time if you want to help them.

Who Panda 420
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad it sounds like you're doing much better. Sorry I'm sure it still hurts

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John L
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My father forbade me from locking my door. I could understand this, except the reason I started locking it was that he would refuse to knock. His house. He kept wondering why, till his dying day, why I refused to visit and left at 17.

lenka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't let the kids lock their doors either for fire safety reasons but we do knock. I hope I never break their trust in such as way as to make them feel like they need to lock their doors and leave home :(

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never even consider doing this to any of my kids, everyone deserves privacy.

Jo Choto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember reading a post about a girl whose mother did that, so she just went about naked all the time until the mother put the door back on because she didn't want her own boyfriend looking at the daughter naked. (The boyfriend was a good guy and did everything possible not to look at the daughter. The mother was the problem, not him.)

Bender Bending Rodríguez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so first world problem. I grew up in poor country in Asia, I didn't even had my own room.

Paula Marowsky
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So USA problem. Many children, teenagers in the real world don't have their own rooms... or the rooms have courtains, and no doors...and to many have no home at all. Most of these people strugle even to have a safe place to sleep...

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Vicky Zar
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is only one thing I can think of where this is a proper punishment. There was a story not long ago where a stepbrother bothered his stepsister by always entering her room unannounced and uninvited. Even her bathroom. I think he once nearly caught her naked even. If I am not mistaken, his punishment was to take away his door to show him how no privacy feels.

Louloubelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too many parents view their children as their possessions. The old, my house, my rules, nonsense. And they don't stop to think about what is going on in their kid's head or life. They simply don't talk to them - they talk at them, and that never works.

Peej Maybe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, talk about a loud-hailer way of announcing to your kids that you don't trust them...

Heather Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jeez... this is really messed up. Privacy is something everyone needs sometimes. I wouldn't do this to my 10 year old, let alone a young adult. You didn't even DO anything, just the normal teenager stuff 😔

Martha Meyer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I keep reading this from Americans and I think this is really f****d up. I really wonder how this became a thing over there. Who came up with this crazy idea?

TheReader19
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd never heard of this growing up till I watched Freaky Friday. So strange to me, but; I'm from the UK

Michael Sanders
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an awesome way to kill trust. If you can’t trust your kid they won’t trust you. If you don’t respect your kid they won’t respect you. Anything you think you are keeping them from doing in their room they may find a place to do it. The kid down the street has a door and probably better drugs too.

lenka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never remove a door from a teenager to keep an eye on them. They absolutely have a right to privacy and the sanctuary of their own space. But I have removed the kids doors for slamming them. Taking their anger out on the house and things around them is not ok and if they slam their door, I take it off for 24 hours and goes back on the next day. Privacy is a necessity but so is treating things around them with respect. They are not yet teenagers though....

Frau von Düh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No offense - have you shown them healthy and safe ways to handle their anger? Like pillow fighting etc? Most of the time parents tell what kids don't have to do but forget to tell them what to do INSTEAD.

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Frances M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even kids that share a room need to learn to knock before entering and I’ve enforced this with my kids. You never know who’s getting dressed or changed through the day.

Paweł Duda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Invading child privacy is abuse, and should be guaranteed jail time.

HarriMissesScotland
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did this to my daughter after she hit me. Her grandfather actually removed the door, but I did put up a sheet.

Justin M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad did this to me and my sister too. It took more than 10 years for him to repair the damage he did trying to get us to "behave".

Paul Davis
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dr. Phil shouldn't be allowed to use that title in his show or anywhere ... we know they say it's for "entertainment purposes" but everyone involved (except his clueless fans) understand he really is scamming people that he is a medical doctor.

Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've admitted I did this before. And people here have turned me around on this as a punishment. I'll stand by my choice not to replace my kids door after he broke it by slamming it though. Still there but doesn't latch shut and can open when the heat comes on. He's a teen now though so I feel since he broke it he can do the work to fix a problem he caused. I told him he can either save up to replace or I will coach him through repairing it while he does the work

Oopsydaisy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. You never, ever take away a child's bedroom door. I can't believe how often I read references to this happening. It's disgusting. You want your kids to go no contact when they leave home, that's the way to do it.

Liseliz Rodriguez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just regional. Some houses dont have doors to the rooms. In some cultures there is no such thing as a childs private bedroom. My grandparents had a 1 room house, everything was in that room except the bathroom. All of them slept in the same room until they were in their mid or late teens. Privacy is totally a privilege. The house im in now still has 0 doors to the rooms.

Bj Burns
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mine didn't. I'm kinda shocked at how scarred everyone is by this. It wasn't even a question/ issue / concern for us. Even when we did move to a place that had doors on the rooms they were usually open. It never even occurred to me that my parents would need permission to enter "my room" in their house.

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Leah Reid
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Such a violation. Children don't belong to us parents. They're only small for so long and they remember. I try to think about how would this be a positive in his adult life and skills.

Rei
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mental abuse, that's what it is. You should go into their house and remove all the doors, especially the one for the bathroom to see how it feels like.

MaggieWest
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We are big on privacy in my house. Kids are a little older and have their own rooms, and I knock on their door before I come in. HOWEVER, I have warned my middle kid that I would take away their door if they continued to slam it in a fit of anger. Respect goes both ways.

Carrie de Luka
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This might not help but I was a door slammer. What stopped me was my parents taking no notice of it. Sometimes making a threat actually gives the child power you don't want them to have. You don't like the behaviour, say so, and so they use it against you. That was me! Removing the door takes away the power but the frustration they feel remains. Middle kid might need an alternative to vent, it is awful feeling full of rage and not knowing what to do with it. For me it wasn't a lack of respect you see, I just didn't know how to express myself. It felt harmless to me but being ignored meant I had to rethink. This isn't me telling you what to do, just wanting to share how it can feel. Your middle kid might well be motivated very differently of course. Best of luck and I hope you didn't mind my sharing. Kiddies can be tricksy beggars! 🙃

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Wesley Lucas
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

JFC I didn't realize how common this was until I started seeing other people talk about it. My mom ripped the doors off in our home as well. We weren't allowed privacy because it was "a privilege and not a right"...even though no matter what we did, we could seemingly never earn that privilege 🙄 It's a messed up thing to do and it seriously warped all of us in my family. I also have a severe aversion to keeping a journal because every time I did, my mom would find it, read it, and then use that information against me.

Erin Mitchell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Surprisingly my mom never took our doors but her husband would regularly unlock our doors from the outside for no other reason than to just to flex that he could and be a d**k. and before anyone comes at me with the "children dont need locks on their doors unless theyre paying the bills!" well children dont need to be woken up with a beating either and yet...

AliJanx
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok to remove the lock, but to remove the door is unacceptable. And parents, always knock before going into the room, even if you're giving your teen just a millisecond before entering.

deanna woods
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Doing this to your child is completely ridiculous. I understand being concerned about your child, but not allowing them to have a door is over the top.

Run
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've only watched snippets of a few Dr. Phil episodes, but the first (and last) time I saw a full episode, it left a bad taste in my mouth. It felt like Phil was desperately trying to find someone to insult this guy, and when it became evident that none of his acquaintances had anything bad to say about him, Phil just brought in people who've never met him.

I’m Always Tired
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm just not allowed to close it unless I'm recording something for school but it's no privacy

Sandra Gronvold
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but I don't agree. My daughters used to slam their bedroom doors when they were mad. We'd ask them repeatedly not to do that. After the 5th time, the doors came off. You're not going to disrespect the rules because you're a teenager.

Nikki Mayu Gualandi
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have a right to privacy while doing anything that requires a bathroom (changing, showering, using the toilet). Other than that, if you show you can’t handle “privacy” or you try breaking my doors, I’m taking the door. You can have a curtain. Knock on the door jamb. But my teen was raised by her dad for the last 6 years so his awful habits and poor parenting have put us here. Nothing else including therapy works for this kid. My other kids though? I always knock and wait for an answer unless it’s dire.

Sophia L.
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never do that to my kid. If she misbehaves, the consequences will be appropriate for what she did.

Deb Dedon
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please note that c*nt is an old Anglo-Saxon word meaning 'woman'. That's all. Dr. Phil is many things, but certainly not a woman. If he was, he'd have a much different point of view.

Lena Flising
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents did the complete opposite. By the time I, the oldest child, was near being a teenager, they moved us all to a bigger house, where all four children could have their own room. Before we moved, I shared rooms with two of my siblings (I had my bed with one sibling and my desk with the other sibling). Privacy is important even for adults. Husband and I have a large enough house, that he has a "man-cave" and I have a little parlor.

Emma Kunze
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happened to me a couple of weeks ago and reading all the comments is so validating 😂 definitely abusive, don’t do this folks

Emma Kunze
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This exact thing literally just happened to me last week 😂😂 yeah it’s abusive, don’t do it folks

Anne McKinney
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter in law had to go an entire summer without her door. She now laughs about it and says what a valuable lesson it was. Grow up for pete's sake.

Hannah Kirtley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the ONLY reason i can think of taking away a door/privacy is something like a child being suicidal and being at risk for locking the door to "make sure" no one stops them. normal teenage rebellion... find a better way to redirect the kid

Takirosh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dr. Phil is a Doctor of Psychology, but he's not a licensed psychologist.

Jaice Terry
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, this is a real thing?!? I've only seen it once, and that was in the movie "Freaky Friday" with Lindsay Lohan. I didn't think people actually did this.

Flibbel's Follies
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yeah, been here can top it! My parents went so far as to take my keys away from the house and would not allow me in without them present. Real fun doing your homework out on the front porch while it's snowing.

Edie Hart
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My teenage sons had privacy.....except when there was a girl in the room. That's when the door had to stay open.

Not You
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had that happen to me it was torture not having a door so I put up a ugly tarp when I got my car license good bye much of a thank you push never made contact with them again much happier I have a good life and a happy family now My mother was a sick women trying to protect me from life Punishment because she had no freedom to do what she wanted

Dani Pret
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you for this because I think I'm my future annoyance or anger I could pull a stunt like this on my kid and now I definitely won't

Janna Kepley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privacy isn't a privilege but having your own room and door is. My parents took mine away too. Didn't impact me for longer than it took for me to earn it back.

Tina Shafer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I took my daughter's door away because she kept slamming it. I tried other things to get her to stop, she lost it for few hours first time, second time was 24 hours and was told third time would be a week. There was no third time .

Cattress511
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Knocking as you open a door, or failing to wait for permission to enter, yes permission from your child, is nearly as problematic. My mom would bang a single knock as she swung the door open, simply because it was her house and she didn't care if it bothered me. Eventually I bought a handle that locked and put it on. Before that, way back before ordinary people had cell phones or even beepers, My dad wouldn't let me have a phone in my room, that is he wouldn't install a jack. So I bought a phone with memory speed dial, a spliter that made a single jack 2, and a 50 foot cord- which was plenty long. Earning your own money, I babysat starting at about 12, can really frustrate parental control, and it's responsible so they really look like jerks if they still fight you about it.

Veronica Vatter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just get a non locking door k**b if you are sooooooo worried about your kid. They shouldn't have to get dressed without a door

Paul Richards
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also sometimes the one thing that will make them understand that actions have consequences

Steve Fischer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No wonder why we have a generation of kids that are all f****d up. Stupid parents passing the stupid gene to their kids

James Tuthill
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree it's invasive but if the teen's a brat that is constantly slamming their door to the point that it's bothering everyone else in the house? My dad took my sister's door away because she would constantly huff off and slam it to the point that things would fall off the walls. It probably wasn't the best way to handle it but she was so annoying about it that I didn't really care at the time. There's letting them express themselves but there's also teaching them to be respectful of other people.

Derek Clark
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the way to teach them anything. You're only teaching them that they should leave as soon as possible.

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Marion Goriak
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why parents would victimize their children, and basically set them up to be victimized throughout their lives.

Tan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read that this happened to someone and then they started being naked in their room and then their mom's boyfriend got uncomfortable and installed the door back on

Sara Farms
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have the same parents my mom took me out of the house and then made all of my family dig through all my stuff and take everything out but the mattris no sheets no anything and they took my door my closet door everything nothing was left no furniture they gave it to my siblings and when i went in the room and didnt cry my mom asked why i didnt and she says now you know how it feels to be invaded of privacy and everything taken away

Cee Mor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it is the worst. I knew a kid who's dad took off the bathroom door...nope never went to that house again.

Frannie Kaplan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mine stole all the keys because when they would fight they would play with the doors and it's dangerous. I think it's pathetic

King Kashue
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad did this but it was solely as the punishment for slamming the door - nothing else. If I slammed it, it went in the garage overnight and came back the next day. As a general punishment or as a 'we don't trust you so we have to see everything' idea, obviously super bad, but I've always thought that it was a perfectly fitting punishment for me slamming it in anger - I 100% knew what would happen, it was directly related to my act, and always had a time-limited element since it was back the next day. Even when I was a teen I was like 'yeah, this seems about right.'

Jordan Wardle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only reason to remove the door should be as punishment for continuing to slam it shut

troufaki13
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I don't agree with taking away the bedroom door, but parents should always keep a close eye on their children. Especially because teens tend to pull away from their parents, it's this time that they're more vulnerable to bad situations.

MiriPanda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keeping an extra close eye on your teen is setting them up to fail in the real world as adults or a fast track to even lose contact later on. There is a middle ground between keeping a close eye and letting them completely lose.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With That thing where they pretend they got their kids a ps5 for example, the kids are freaking out with excitement, but then its just a ps5 box filled with books or something.

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troufaki13
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why don't you just show children how to love books instead? Books are not a punishment or should be part of a prank

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No wonder so many parenting tactics and trends are so controversial. Not only do parents argue among themselves over who’s right in adopting the best method to raise their kids, childfree people are often equally opinionated. But whatever parenting method mom and dads would choose, we like to think they all know what’s best for their kids. But is it really true?

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Well, to find out, we spoke with Susan Petang, a certified life coach who runs The Quiet Zone Coaching. Susan is helping those who struggle with stress find relief, manage their fears, and build self-confidence so they can wake up happy in the morning. “As our children grow, they slowly start to separate from us,” she told us. “From the 'Terrible Twos' to the pains of adolescence, the purpose of the journey is to teach our kids how to be independent, happy, and healthy adults who give something to the world around them.”

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With I don’t know how much of a trend it was but on TikTok, there was a trend of parents throwing away their kid's art in front of them and the parents would like laugh while the kid was sobbing.

That’s f**ked up! Of course, you can’t keep every artwork your kid makes but you throw it away when they aren’t home or asleep. My mom used to wait until I was asleep and throw it away in the outside can

The kids I babysit their parents ask me to take their art they do with me so it doesn’t pile up but I tell them I’m keeping it because it’s so good

There’s no reason to make your kid feel like they aren’t a good artist or just feel like their parents don’t care for some TikTok views

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Arieke
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who does that? Seriously......my child knows I can't keep everything but I have terabyte full of photo's you know........

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Making children hug people they are not comfortable with.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Letting the kid make all the choices. I believe kids should have reasonable choices, like what their snack is and the character that's on their bedspread, but you can't let your 3 year old decide when you're allowed to leave your house. The world doesn't work that way.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read that you have to teach your child to make a decision, but limit their choices. Like per example, you let them pick out which pants to wear, but you cant let them wear summer dress or short in december.

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Susan explained that if you're making all the decisions for your children, they're not learning how to make decisions for themselves. “You're not going to be around forever to advise and guide them; they have to learn to do it alone.”

“Let your kids have some control over things in their lives that are appropriate to their age. For example, even a 7-year-old can decide what they want to wear (as long as it's weather-appropriate and clean). The idea is to let them learn how the world works, how to interact with others, and how to make wise decisions,” Susan said and added that they'll never accomplish that if you make all their decisions for them.

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#11

People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With 'My son/daughter is my best friend.'

No, they aren't. They have their own friends and have the agency to choose them for themselves. Over the course of a lifetime, they will have several 'best friends' but they will only have one father and mother.

Your job is to be a parent. You can't do that properly if you are trying to be a friend.

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Yllix
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom n dad became my best friends about a year after I left the house, they have been for years now ❤️

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Creating social media channels for your children where they proceed to upload videos and photos of their kids. Perfect place for pedophiles.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Parents who punish their kids for speaking up or otherwise explaining something, saying that they're "talking back". I honestly don't get why most parents refuse to admit they're not always right sometimes. Besides, what if their kid one day comes up to them and says another adult is touching them inappropriately?

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Susan argues that when people feel their lives are out of control (even teens), they will get super stressed out trying to find something they CAN control. So she invited parents to stop and ask themselves, “is that what you want for your kids?”

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Oh man, I’m a nanny and work in daycare. I can talk so much about this.

One is late potty training. Waiting to potty train a child is more and more common. Which I generally agree with. Wait until they’re 2.5-3 and knock it out. Some take longer, some are probably ready earlier. Better than rushing it and causing issues.

What this has turned into. Not potty training. I nanny a 4 year old that is still in pull ups. She is more than capable of using the potty.

Our 4 year old classroom just installed a diaper genie because so many 4 year olds are starting preschool in diapers.

My best friend who is a Kindergarten teacher had 2 kids start kindergarten in diapers. Luckily they’re potty trained now.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son wasn't toilet trained until almost 5 and that wasn't due to lack of trying. My friends daughter was still wearing pull ups to bed at the age of 8 and again that wasn't through lack of trying. Some kids have developmental issues that make things a bit harder or takes them longer to learn.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With The “bulldozer” parent - ie the parent who removes all obstacles/challenges from a child’s life so they don’t learn about perseverance, problem solving, failure (sometimes you can try hard and still not get the reward) and learning from mistakes - unless the goal is to develop a highly anxious person - then, being a bulldozer parent is great.

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Elsker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Heard something like this called curling parents. Love the phrase, the behavior bot so much

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Abusing the talents of your child just to boost your self image in society

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Trisha Howson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lot lot of parents do this. And think of how the child feels sometimes they don't want to do that sport but.....their parents make them. And it got to make them unhappy

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With The social media trend that keeps upping the expectations for birthday parties and any celebration connected to a kid.

When I was a kid, birthdays consisted of a handmade invitation made by me, a cake from the grocery store, food that my Mom cooked and then inviting some friends and family over for games.

Today's expectation is that every monthversary and half-birthday consist of a huge arch of balloons that will end up in the trash, a customized three-tier fondant cake, gift wrapping that color-coordinates with the themed party favors and of course, a very intentional outfit for the numerous photo ops that will take up most of the day. Anything for the 'gram, right?

Don't even get me started on gender reveal announcements.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was on a mums group and one of the mums was asking about what people did for their child's first birthday or christmas and some of the suggestions was insane. Like a 1 year old doesn't need a bouncy castle, farm animals etc. A 1 year old doesn't understand. For both my kids first birthdays AND christmases, they received necessities like clothing for the following year, shoes, bedding, 1 or 2 age appropriate toys and a couple of books. And definitely no birthday party. Just some family for coffee and cake with a store bought $5 chocolate mud cake. In saying all that, each to their own. If they want to waste their money then that is their choice.

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Allowing kids to constantly mess with pets, even when the pet is giving warnings that they'll attack soon.

Parents, this is a pretty solid way to start teaching kids about consent from the get go.

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Mermaid Elle-Jaye
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And at wildlife parks, and aquariums, I’m constantly drilling parents about things like - your 5 yr ok’d just threw a live starfish from the touch pool - maybe teach your little s**t how to handle a delicate animal and maybe both bond over learning about the starfish. Don’t just sit on your damn phone and let your C. Goblins run anarchy in the touch pools. They aren’t stuffed animals they are living beings

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Not setting clear boundaries. You are the adult, not the kid. Children benefit sooo much more from clear rules and consequences.

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Haunting Spirit
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Setting boundaries isn't normally the problem. Keeping the boundaries (by both parents) is.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Not believing the teacher ever. “My kid never lies to me”.

Seriously. Parents absolutely should be their kid’s biggest supporter. But support sometimes means holding the kid responsible when they don’t do the right thing.

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Susie Elle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A kid is a kid, and kids will tell lies. Not to be malicious, but because their brain sometimes just goes 'which outcome will get me in the least amount of trouble?'.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Fake “Gentle Parenting”

You hear and see so many parents letting their children do whatever they want, no matter how destructive, rude or hurtful their behaviours are. Parents find themselves beholden to the whims of their childrens’ emotions in the name of gentle parenting, instead of true gentle parenting where (so I hear) boundaries are set alongside validating emotions.

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troufaki13
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS!! Life is full of boundaries, of no's, of not always getting what we want. Children MUST learn this

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Pretending that not parenting is parenting.

'I wont tell my child to stop kicking your leg repeatedly because i don't want to crush his spirit!'

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#23

People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Not saying no to your child. They have to learn to deal with a no sometimes, and having a chat about why it is no and whether it could be a yes another time is also an important part of them learning to deal with no.

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Paul C.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Life is often filled with failures, that is what makes success all the sweeter. I don't understand the "everyone is a winner" thing. All that does is make it more difficult to overcome disappointment later in life, such as not getting a job after an interview. I just don't get it.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Talking down to kids and making them feel stupid. Sure maybe at 5 they aren't the most intellectual people, but 9/10 year old are smarter then people give them credit for. Don't talk to then like they are stupid because they are not. The only thing that does is lower their self esteem and makes them feel small.

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Helenium
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Growing up I wastold I I was stupid and destructive. I wasn’t. I was taking radios and video players apart to see how they worked then put them back together. I wanted to be an engineer but girls have to work in offices. So I work in an office.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Saying “what goes on in this house, stays in this house.” I know hundreds of victims of abuse, go through years of pain because of this phrase.

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Julie C Rose
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, that’s part of how abuse works. Abusers aren’t going to say “feel free to tell everyone that I’m beating the s**t out of you”, you know?

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#26

People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Making your child terrified to fail. I remember constantly being told if I ever even got a “C” or below— on even something as minor as a pop quiz— I would be “flipping burgers for a living.” I was so unmotivated to even try by the time high school came, because it had been drilled into me that I was destined to be a loser.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Nonstop supervision. Hovering over them at every turn. Whatever happened to tossing them in a play area in another room and letting them create, explore, and get the occasional bumps?

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom prevented me from having friends because of this. I was a kid when cellphones were just starting to be an item everyone had and my household hadn't picked up the trend yet. My mom tried to keep me inside as much as possible otherwise, with every move I made outside, I was expected to run home and tell her where I was going in the neighborhood. This wasn't realistic and no kid wanted to waste time constantly running/biking to my house with me to tell her I'd be at X, then Y, then Z. We're not talking about being extremely far away from home; just within the confines of the neighborhood. Kids were starting to ditch me so I decided to not tell her once. My mom had been secretly checking up on me all this time and called the police when I wasn't where I said I'd be. That was basically the end of my friendships as a kid unless they wanted to play indoors at my house.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With always letting kids win/do what they want, its unfair on older siblings because i get given chores and my little sister gets to sit about doing nothing and getting whatever she wants completely free

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#29

People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Making your kids spend time with family even though they get treated bad. Like inlaws who would rather spend time with their other grandkids and not yours.

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Trisha Howson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care who is anyone treats my kids bad is gonna get mouth full unless they are getting on to them for a good reason.

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I guess the overall trend of prioritizing academics/extracurriculars and college admissions over everything else. Give your kids some chores and let them hang out with their friends outside of structured sports and musical activities!

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Ozacoter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And let them have vacation jobs for pocket money. It will be great experience once they are older. I never worked because my parents were all "you need to study 24/7' and then could not find any low job like waitress or cleaner because i had no experience.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With The thing every parents including mine said. "Finish your plate" or "Finish your plate or you won't get any dessert".

It gave you an unnecessary goal to shove food you don't want down your throat and made that into a lifelong habit. Fortunately I've always been into sports but many aren't, so now obesity is everywhere.

I knew it was a bad habit and I wouldn't stay fit for my entire life if I kept eating until I get a stomachache every single meal so I worked hard for years to finaly get rid of this habit in my early 20s when I moved into my apartment.

I will never do this to my kids.

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Lou Cam
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Generally a behaviour that started in the generations before when food was sparse and snacks not available. My parents held to this and my Dad will clear off his plate and anyone else's for that matter. He really struglles with his weight. I had an ED growing up so I let my kids decide when they're full. Also giving them age approproate portion sizes to begin with helps.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Denying your kid any negative experiences or emotions.

They are a normal part of being a person, teach them to handle negative emotions now before you send them out into a world they are not prepared to handle.

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Hamilfan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom always said that I could talk to her about any feelings I had, but when I did she would tell me that i'm lying and trying to get more attention. because of this I was afraid to admit if I was ever in pain or feeling depressed/suicidal. my mom never seemed to understand that that is why I never trusted her.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With Helicopter parenting, kids need freedom to explore the world, get dirty, engage in free play. I am not advocating putting the child outside o a Saturday morning and telling them to come home when the street lights come on, but an age acceptable level of freedom.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

hahaha, that's how i grew up- get out or help clean the house. come back for lunch and then out the house again until dinner. rainy/snowy days were excepted though.

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Pushing them too hard in sports, academics, etc. Like pushing til they need therapy or get injured, no free time, no downtime. FFS, they only get to be young & without excessive responsibilities once.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not a huge believer in homework coz I believe kids need to have their own downtime but also time to spend with family and doing their responsibilities around the house. They go to school for about 6 hrs a day, 5 days a week. Give the kids time to be kids for crying out loud. The only homework I can support is reading and for the younger kids, sight words.

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People Share 35 Parenting "Trends" They Strongly Disagree With telling kids that studying is the only thing that they do in choldhood and that everything else is just useless stuff

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J. Normal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did tell my Son that during his childhood, that school was his JOB. and he needed to do his best at it.

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#36

The trend of never telling your child “no”. Apparently you’re supposed to reframe your objective with things like “yes, but”. Like instead of “no, you can’t have any candy”, you say “yes, but only after you eat your dinner”. Um, no. Kids need to hear and learn the meaning of no, because sometimes the answer is just NO. This trend is only going to lead to entitled adults.

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#37

The one where everyone feels entitled to judge your choices. The thing I’ve learned as a parent is that every kid is different so you have to adapt. Don’t want screens/allow your kids reasonable screen time? Great. Breastfeed/formula feed? Great. Sleep train/don’t sleep train? Great. If you are a parent that is judging other parents for things that are reasonable (I am not referring to people who are being ridiculous or not parenting altogether) you’re a jerk.

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#38

Parents incorporating personal wellness buzzwords into their excuses for being neglectful and sometimes even abusive to their kids. Like "I shouldn't have to owe my own time and money to somebody whose behavior just isn't contributing to my happiness and positive energy blah blah blah they're exploiting the legal and societal pressures on—" sir that is a fourteen-year-old you literally chose to raise and no amount of talking like a self-help book will change thay, grow up.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the same vain, people who inflict their own personal 'holistic' versions of medicine on their kids when they need serious help. I knew a woman who's son had allergies, like really major ones, and used to make him wear a crystal around his neck to combat the 'natural forces of the earth' and redirect allergens away from him. I'm just like...this poor kid. Same with ...I think they're called Christian Scientists. They don't believe in medicine only prayer. That's a criminal offense to me.

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#39

Starting a kid in a single sport from an early age and making that their whole life for some goddamn reason

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Hamilfan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my parents tried to do this with cheer, every year no matter how often I begged and pleaded to be allowed to stop they would sign me up for it again and again. eventually they let me quit and now I wont try another sport for fear that if I do I will never be able to stop even if i'm not enjoying it.

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#40

Never letting your children assert their own independence or experience things on their own. Congratulations, you've raised an anxious mess of a human being with zero life skills and no ability to cope in the real world.

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Kai David
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Laundry day, the boys did their own laundry ( age appropriate skill level as they grew), each son had a once a week turn planning and cooking a meal-age appropriate supervised as they grew. The boys learned how to make bread and pasta from scratch etc. Why learn when you can buy it from the store they would ask. Sometimes there is no store to buy it from. When that snow storm hit the NE a few years ago and shut everything down for over a week; they were so proud because they knew how to make bread etc from scratch.

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#41

demanding that other people do the parenting for them. whether it's shoving the burden onto teachers that are busy trying to teach them academics, or the newer "waaah, the internet needs to be regulated so my precious tots never see anything inappropriate on it! what do you mean i should supervise their use of the internet or wait until they're older?"

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Kate Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This applies to forcing siblings to take the brunt of the parenting as well. I'm a firm believer that if you can't afford children, you should stop having them. Accidents happen but if you're already struggling, stop inflicting that on the rest of your family. Grandmothers get it a lot, too. Some kids, in particular those who have single parents, are forced by that parent to take care of the siblings that the parent is too busy to take care of. I knew a girl whose mother didn't understand birth control and had 8 kids, no father in sight. The older girls were basically the children's mother because mom was never around. I know some boys deal with this too but I feel like the girls in the house get this more than the boys in most cases. So many teenage boys get to go out and hang out with their friends while the girls are forced into a day care role for the younger kids.

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#42

The whole “hands off parenting approach” drives me nuts to see parents never tell their kids no and just let them do whatever they want.

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Kai David
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yet these same parents are quick to call the police when they see kids outside playing without adult supervision

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#43

Either telling kids to do anything because "I told you so" or comparing them to friends/siblings

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#44

Trying to be your kid's "friend," not a parent. A parent is there to provide guidance and responsible behavior to model. Yes, sometimes making their actions have consequences and setting boundaries can be difficult and they'll not be too happy with you. That's part of the job. Ultimately I think that will result in a healthier relationship than being the "cool" permissive parent. I've seen results of that style of (not) parenting with very sad outcomes.

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#45

Constantly telling your child that they’re the only reason for your existence and stuff like that. My mother does this cause we have both been mentally abused by my father. But this puts a s**t load of pressure on me. It also made me super anxious about anything I did. They’re also strict so when I moved to college I went wild. I would do what most college students did and had fun but during the nights I wouldn’t be able to sleep thinking about how she would be CRUSHED if she knew. I am anxious to the point I can’t tell her that I am sick and possibly dying. I love her but her way of showing her love suffocates me.

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#46

Perpetuating the myth that one's children are somehow special. With about 97% certainty, they are not. Teaching them that they are just sets them up for crushing disappointment down the road. It's far better to raise kids to believe they are ordinary people with a few gifts, but also some flaws and weaknesses.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tbh, I say this because she is special to me. She knows she's not to other people, but to those who do love and value her she is special and precious.

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#47

Over scheduling

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Wistiti
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let them breathe! You are tired from driving them from one activity to the other? Imagine how they feel - the one who has to actually do those activities!

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#48

Forcing your kid into every activity possible. It doesn’t create the structure they think it does.

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#49

Treating a child like they’re dumb for things that are perfectly normal for their age.

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#50

Calling you kid your “mini me.” It just makes me cringe every time I hear it.

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#51

Having no discipline over your children BEFORE leaving the house. I hate to be THAT person. But I just remember growing up, that well before my parents even thought of, taking me to the grocery store or restaurant, I was well schooled on how to behave. And this was rather in front of company or not.

Now days and especially when I worked in retail, it just seemed some parents were trying to make everything a teachable moment on the spot or either damn near threatening to ring the kid's neck, cause they weren't listening to them. Like dude, start disciplining the kids early and at home. When family or friends are around and you might not have to struggle so hard or be so embarrassed, when little Johnny takes more than one cookie or won't stop running around the store.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sounds more like an angsty retail worker who doesn't have kids. Children are unpredictable. What I do notice is parents bringing their kids out on an empty stomach, for too long (they need more of an outlet throughout the day than just following you around as you browse) and too late. Especially when it's past 7pm and you hear shrieking throughout the mall. Or even past 9pm. Yup, the kid is tired and hungry. Time to go home.

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