That should be child abuse

So agree with this. So many parents let their kids scream and throw things in stores or public places and hold to their "let them scream it out" philosophy. No, the kid has had enough of being in that situation, you take them outside. I also have an ASD and ADHD child so yes it is possible to remove them from a situation they are not enjoying whilst also being mindful to people around you also. I've had to pack up and leave so many situations for this reason, restaurants, shops, public transport (and walk a couple of miles in the rain instead). It is possible and you learn what the tolerances of your kids are, noisy bright places were generally no go areas for me.

Headphones exist

It's better teaching them properly than them learning about it in the school yard from other kids. I sat down with my daughter when she was 8-9 and watched "What is happening to me" and "Where did I come from". They are cartoon style but informative and then afterwards we had a chat about what she saw and if she had any questions. I also made sure she knows she can come to me and ask me anything and I will answer the best I can. I believe it is important to have open lines of communication.

It is sad and concerning how much normalized is being an alcoholic. Its very obvious in TV and movies; everytime the main character (or a friend) has a rough patch the only solution is to get wasted. I am sorry but having a bottle of wiskey in your working desk or drinking every day is not cool is an adiction that should not be encouraged.

privacy is not a privilege it is a necessity that everyone deserves

Why don't you just show children how to love books instead? Books are not a punishment or should be part of a prank

Who does that? Seriously......my child knows I can't keep everything but I have terabyte full of photo's you know........

Thanks COVID for this... No more hugs or kissing hello or goodbye for everyone

I read that you have to teach your child to make a decision, but limit their choices. Like per example, you let them pick out which pants to wear, but you cant let them wear summer dress or short in december.

My mom n dad became my best friends about a year after I left the house, they have been for years now ❤️

Nooooo, and parents who post every.single.thing about their kids

Would their kid even feel like they could tell them?

My son wasn't toilet trained until almost 5 and that wasn't due to lack of trying. My friends daughter was still wearing pull ups to bed at the age of 8 and again that wasn't through lack of trying. Some kids have developmental issues that make things a bit harder or takes them longer to learn.

Heard something like this called curling parents. Love the phrase, the behavior bot so much

Lot lot of parents do this. And think of how the child feels sometimes they don't want to do that sport but.....their parents make them. And it got to make them unhappy

I was on a mums group and one of the mums was asking about what people did for their child's first birthday or christmas and some of the suggestions was insane. Like a 1 year old doesn't need a bouncy castle, farm animals etc. A 1 year old doesn't understand. For both my kids first birthdays AND christmases, they received necessities like clothing for the following year, shoes, bedding, 1 or 2 age appropriate toys and a couple of books. And definitely no birthday party. Just some family for coffee and cake with a store bought $5 chocolate mud cake. In saying all that, each to their own. If they want to waste their money then that is their choice.

And at wildlife parks, and aquariums, I’m constantly drilling parents about things like - your 5 yr ok’d just threw a live starfish from the touch pool - maybe teach your little s**t how to handle a delicate animal and maybe both bond over learning about the starfish. Don’t just sit on your damn phone and let your C. Goblins run anarchy in the touch pools. They aren’t stuffed animals they are living beings

Setting boundaries isn't normally the problem. Keeping the boundaries (by both parents) is.

A kid is a kid, and kids will tell lies. Not to be malicious, but because their brain sometimes just goes 'which outcome will get me in the least amount of trouble?'.

THIS!! Life is full of boundaries, of no's, of not always getting what we want. Children MUST learn this

That's okay, I will tell them off instead.

Life is often filled with failures, that is what makes success all the sweeter. I don't understand the "everyone is a winner" thing. All that does is make it more difficult to overcome disappointment later in life, such as not getting a job after an interview. I just don't get it.

Growing up I wastold I I was stupid and destructive. I wasn’t. I was taking radios and video players apart to see how they worked then put them back together. I wanted to be an engineer but girls have to work in offices. So I work in an office.

I mean, that’s part of how abuse works. Abusers aren’t going to say “feel free to tell everyone that I’m beating the s**t out of you”, you know?

That is sad to do to your child it puts pressure on them.

My mom prevented me from having friends because of this. I was a kid when cellphones were just starting to be an item everyone had and my household hadn't picked up the trend yet. My mom tried to keep me inside as much as possible otherwise, with every move I made outside, I was expected to run home and tell her where I was going in the neighborhood. This wasn't realistic and no kid wanted to waste time constantly running/biking to my house with me to tell her I'd be at X, then Y, then Z. We're not talking about being extremely far away from home; just within the confines of the neighborhood. Kids were starting to ditch me so I decided to not tell her once. My mom had been secretly checking up on me all this time and called the police when I wasn't where I said I'd be. That was basically the end of my friendships as a kid unless they wanted to play indoors at my house.

They need to learn that failure exists

I don't care who is anyone treats my kids bad is gonna get mouth full unless they are getting on to them for a good reason.

And let them have vacation jobs for pocket money. It will be great experience once they are older. I never worked because my parents were all "you need to study 24/7' and then could not find any low job like waitress or cleaner because i had no experience.

Generally a behaviour that started in the generations before when food was sparse and snacks not available. My parents held to this and my Dad will clear off his plate and anyone else's for that matter. He really struglles with his weight. I had an ED growing up so I let my kids decide when they're full. Also giving them age approproate portion sizes to begin with helps.

If ya don't eat yer meat, ya can't have any pudding!

Again, there is a line here. Being made to finish a large plate of food just because, not a good tactic. Have your child take a bite of everything or in my house we have to take a bite and finish one part of the meal. We also aren't allowed snacks if we don't eat. I've also never been worried about my child not eating enough - no child has ever voluntarily starved themselves to death.

Our rule with my ten year old and us parents is, better to have many smaller servings you can finish than to have a one large serving you can't.

This one got to me. My parents were really strict about eating your whole plate of food. They kept me at the table till my lunch was done (I might be giving away my age but my mom and dad came home in their lunchtimes). So I would force down the food. When I got older I suffered from eating disorders.

Yes! This impacted me especially in lockdown..i still had huge meals as i was very active before. But i did literally nothing. I gained a huge amount of weight which did nothing for my already low self esteem. This isnt to say my parents are terrible but i wish theyd been clearer with 'its ok to stop eating if ur full'

Never did it to mine. I don't understand the issue. Just pack it up for them to eat later.

Trouble with this is people will only put on their plate what they're prepared to eat and not leave and then don't try other foods.

Thank God my parents never did this. And eating new things, moms rule was always you had to try it. If you did t like it fine, but you had to try it. And if we didn't eat a lot, it was always x amount of bites (2 meat and 2 veg-small pieces) then okay. People don't realizes food habits overflow into adulthood and it causes issues.

I do tell my kids that have to eat or no dessert/candy. This because sometimes they eat one bite and 0 veggies. But the amount of food I "force" then to eat will definitely not give them obesity...

i would say this depends on the child. for example i was very picky and I ate almost nothing so they had to "made" me eat my food. but still you should know your child and see if there is something they particularly hate or if they are really full. but still the child needs to eat at least something, not necessarily clean the plate

My parents' admonition was take all you want, but eat all you take. You can have seconds if you wish. A much better solution to this issue.

When They're Full They're FULL

Once i couldn't finish my lunch, but wanted the cake as dessert, so I finished lunch and of course threw up. The teacher (1st grade lunch time) asked me why, i told her, she said but why didn't you say you felt sick? Well i didn't till I obayed your rule to finish everything...

People forget that up until the late 50's/early 60's that fast food was a novelty, and processed food wasn't really available widely. Our parents didn't eat trash, and most of them came from large working class families where you couldn't afford to waste anything. In the past 60 years, everything has become processed, preserved, treated with fillers, pumped with antibiotics and filled with sugar. Yet because of how our parents grew up (barely getting enough to eat, and not liking it even if they did) they've overcorrected by by overserving, because processed trash is cheap but maintaining the habit of "clear your plate" The rest of the world looks at american portions, and is equal parts confused and repulsed. Go into a McDonalds in Romania for chicken nuggets and all you can buy is 4, 6 or 8 piece....they can't imagine anyone would want more than that.

I believe this is partially the reason I'm obese. I wasn't allowed to leave the table until I'd cleared my plate. Now I find it very difficult if not impossible to leave food. This lead to an unhealthy relationship with food. My mum suffered from an eating disorder whilst I was growing up and was constantly obsessed with putting weight on and would panic if I was slightly heavier than I should be (I'm talking maybe 2 or 3 pounds) and put me on a diet until I was down to what she perceived to be healthy. I saw all my friends eating normally and getting the breakfast cereal they wanted (my fave was coco pops, I was only allowed it as a treat at Xmas), eating white bread, whole milk etc. When I moved out and lived on my own, I went overboard on everything I wasn't allowed to have as a kid. Yes the majority of my issues are of my own choices but I do think at least some of it is from early childhood.

My mom belonged to a Clean Plate Club (with a certificate). She grew up during WWII. I cared for children when I was in college The mom told me that her kids did not need to clean their plates. BUT if they wanted cereal 10 minutes after dinner, I shouldn't give it to them. I saved any leftovers so if the kids were still hungry they could eat the leftovers, not sugary cereal.

This teaches children unhealthy habits, they should be allowed to stop eating when they are full.

I have no problem with "finish your plate" but it needs to be coupled with "don't get so much, you can always get more". It's a fine line to walk.

It trains children not to listen to their bodies.

As kids, we always filled our own plates and ate what we took

On the other hand, there should be limits to that as well. My sister tried the "I will never do this to my kid", and ended up dealing with the kid, who takes a tiny nibble (and I mean tiny - one bite of an apple, a single french fry) and runs away, only to ask for a snack later, also left half eaten. Age appropriate portion - sure, but we sit down and eat together.

I fill the plates for my kids with a normal portion that they always eat. They ´have´ to eat that at least. This will not trigger obesitas with them. The portionsize mathers. If you teach them to eat more than they need...

We had to finish our plates if we filled them ourselves. If others filled them for us, we didn't have to finish. I think it's a good angle.