That should be child abuse

So agree with this. So many parents let their kids scream and throw things in stores or public places and hold to their "let them scream it out" philosophy. No, the kid has had enough of being in that situation, you take them outside. I also have an ASD and ADHD child so yes it is possible to remove them from a situation they are not enjoying whilst also being mindful to people around you also. I've had to pack up and leave so many situations for this reason, restaurants, shops, public transport (and walk a couple of miles in the rain instead). It is possible and you learn what the tolerances of your kids are, noisy bright places were generally no go areas for me.

Headphones exist

It's better teaching them properly than them learning about it in the school yard from other kids. I sat down with my daughter when she was 8-9 and watched "What is happening to me" and "Where did I come from". They are cartoon style but informative and then afterwards we had a chat about what she saw and if she had any questions. I also made sure she knows she can come to me and ask me anything and I will answer the best I can. I believe it is important to have open lines of communication.

It is sad and concerning how much normalized is being an alcoholic. Its very obvious in TV and movies; everytime the main character (or a friend) has a rough patch the only solution is to get wasted. I am sorry but having a bottle of wiskey in your working desk or drinking every day is not cool is an adiction that should not be encouraged.

privacy is not a privilege it is a necessity that everyone deserves

Why don't you just show children how to love books instead? Books are not a punishment or should be part of a prank

Who does that? Seriously......my child knows I can't keep everything but I have terabyte full of photo's you know........

Thanks COVID for this... No more hugs or kissing hello or goodbye for everyone

I read that you have to teach your child to make a decision, but limit their choices. Like per example, you let them pick out which pants to wear, but you cant let them wear summer dress or short in december.

My mom n dad became my best friends about a year after I left the house, they have been for years now ❤️

Nooooo, and parents who post every.single.thing about their kids

Would their kid even feel like they could tell them?

My son wasn't toilet trained until almost 5 and that wasn't due to lack of trying. My friends daughter was still wearing pull ups to bed at the age of 8 and again that wasn't through lack of trying. Some kids have developmental issues that make things a bit harder or takes them longer to learn.

Heard something like this called curling parents. Love the phrase, the behavior bot so much

Lot lot of parents do this. And think of how the child feels sometimes they don't want to do that sport but.....their parents make them. And it got to make them unhappy

I was on a mums group and one of the mums was asking about what people did for their child's first birthday or christmas and some of the suggestions was insane. Like a 1 year old doesn't need a bouncy castle, farm animals etc. A 1 year old doesn't understand. For both my kids first birthdays AND christmases, they received necessities like clothing for the following year, shoes, bedding, 1 or 2 age appropriate toys and a couple of books. And definitely no birthday party. Just some family for coffee and cake with a store bought $5 chocolate mud cake. In saying all that, each to their own. If they want to waste their money then that is their choice.

Apparently I loved my first birthday! My parents sat me in my highchair, put the entire cake infront of me and I got to mush right into it. Both hands, sometimes up to my arms. Let me have a couple of fist fulls of cake and that was it. Hilarious pics!

When I was kid, birthday party meant "kid will invite friends to their house, everyone will eat piece of cake, and then they will play."

One other thing we did was a celebration for my son’s 1000th day. Got him a Colin the Caterpillar cake, some candles just had a little thing for the 3 of us. I thought it would be somewhat unique as I don’t know anyone who has done this.

I had birthday parties up to when I was 10. Arts and crafts, cupcake decorating, and playing in the yard with the fun sprinkler thingies were what we usually do. When I was five, though, my dad decided to rent a water slide and I was so happy

i love seafood so each time my birthday comes around its always seafood. last year we had a louisiana boil (con, shrimp, clams, oysters, lobster, and potatoes) with crablegs

will never understand putting all that money and effort into a bday party when the kid isnt even old enough to fully appreciate it. Im especially talking about toddlers and babies.

We did a cake smash for my son’s first birthday. Since his birthday is right after Christmas it is so hard to give him a birthday party as his friends are not available.

When did birthday parties become competitions? Is there a prize? /s

I only had one birthday party in my life. I went to a private school and that was the norm, even with the kids of wealthy parents.

Until a child is 3 or 4, his/her birthday is always on Saturday!

Dude. I am so sick of gender reveals. YOU! DO NOT! GET TO CHOOSE! YOU’RE KID’S PRONOUNS/IDENTITY! You can’t make them non-binary! You can’t make them be a girl or boy! You can’t make them gender-fluid! It’s they’re choice!!!

In my experience, birthday parties for babies/toddlers are really for the parents, not the kids. I once went to a 1st birthday party that was held in a banquet hall with 100+ guests. It was more like a wedding reception than a child's birthday party. Lots of people brought their own babies, and there were activities for the kids who were slightly older, but mostly it was an adults party.

The smash cake. Just.. why?

I found it insane when my BFF spent around $1300 for her son's first birthday and more with each following year. But to each his own.

I Was raised At ages 1, 2, 3, family attended was just like a coffee party for the grown ups and I got presents and a cake! When I got older and went to school learned to make my own invites I could have just friends not the whole damn class! As I got older I could have as many friends as my age if I was 10 I could invite 10 kids. Food and plain pan cake all done by mom but I had to help! Only had them up to age 14 when I went into high school!

I’ve had so many kids have a total blast for our simple parties. Cake, dollar tree decorations and simple snacks. One kid looked disappointed when I told him there weren’t goodie bags. Then he got over it.

Oh, the one I really detest is the Smash Cake for the 1st birthday! I've seen some where the little 1 year old doesn't instantly bury their face in the cake so mom or dad actually pushes the kid's head into it. Why do people think this kind of abuse is cute & funny?

This is not new. A D**k Van Dyke episode showed this phenomenal back in the early 60s

Gender reveals, baby showers etc were not so much of a thing in the UK... We are keeping up with other countries by doing these silly events, much like proms etc. Congratulations on having a baby, but doesn't mean you need endless parties and gifts because you chose to create another human to live on this already overcrowded planet

And at wildlife parks, and aquariums, I’m constantly drilling parents about things like - your 5 yr ok’d just threw a live starfish from the touch pool - maybe teach your little s**t how to handle a delicate animal and maybe both bond over learning about the starfish. Don’t just sit on your damn phone and let your C. Goblins run anarchy in the touch pools. They aren’t stuffed animals they are living beings

Setting boundaries isn't normally the problem. Keeping the boundaries (by both parents) is.

A kid is a kid, and kids will tell lies. Not to be malicious, but because their brain sometimes just goes 'which outcome will get me in the least amount of trouble?'.

THIS!! Life is full of boundaries, of no's, of not always getting what we want. Children MUST learn this

That's okay, I will tell them off instead.

Life is often filled with failures, that is what makes success all the sweeter. I don't understand the "everyone is a winner" thing. All that does is make it more difficult to overcome disappointment later in life, such as not getting a job after an interview. I just don't get it.

Growing up I wastold I I was stupid and destructive. I wasn’t. I was taking radios and video players apart to see how they worked then put them back together. I wanted to be an engineer but girls have to work in offices. So I work in an office.

I mean, that’s part of how abuse works. Abusers aren’t going to say “feel free to tell everyone that I’m beating the s**t out of you”, you know?

That is sad to do to your child it puts pressure on them.

My mom prevented me from having friends because of this. I was a kid when cellphones were just starting to be an item everyone had and my household hadn't picked up the trend yet. My mom tried to keep me inside as much as possible otherwise, with every move I made outside, I was expected to run home and tell her where I was going in the neighborhood. This wasn't realistic and no kid wanted to waste time constantly running/biking to my house with me to tell her I'd be at X, then Y, then Z. We're not talking about being extremely far away from home; just within the confines of the neighborhood. Kids were starting to ditch me so I decided to not tell her once. My mom had been secretly checking up on me all this time and called the police when I wasn't where I said I'd be. That was basically the end of my friendships as a kid unless they wanted to play indoors at my house.

They need to learn that failure exists

I don't care who is anyone treats my kids bad is gonna get mouth full unless they are getting on to them for a good reason.

And let them have vacation jobs for pocket money. It will be great experience once they are older. I never worked because my parents were all "you need to study 24/7' and then could not find any low job like waitress or cleaner because i had no experience.

Generally a behaviour that started in the generations before when food was sparse and snacks not available. My parents held to this and my Dad will clear off his plate and anyone else's for that matter. He really struglles with his weight. I had an ED growing up so I let my kids decide when they're full. Also giving them age approproate portion sizes to begin with helps.