This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do

Acting like a "lady", smiling at strangers while walking down the street, looking like you just stepped out of a magazine cover — these are just a few things society assumes women want to do every day. Of course, it would be wrong to say that expectations for women haven’t changed in recent years. They certainly have, and for the better. But there’s still plenty of room for improvement.

Rubbergloves44 asked women of Reddit to share some of the outdated things they are expected to live up to, and they delivered. More than a thousand comments flooded the thread with subtle and not-so-subtle ways people set ridiculous presumptions about female behavior.

Whether it’s believing all women want children or need to be devoted to their lousy husbands, Bored Panda has selected some of the best answers from the thread. Upvote our favorites as you go, and let us know in the comments the outdated beliefs you personally think need to change right away.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Policing the way women dress instead of policing the way men react to it

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Automatically assuming all women enjoy, want and will have children.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being docile and passive. We’re expected to take so much c**p on a daily basis without complaining. Sexual harassment? it’s just a compliment. Sexual assault? you had it coming. do you really want to ruin his life? Periods or any type of pain/illness? it’s not that bad. The amount of mental labor we’re expected to do is exhausting, but we have to do it or nothing would get done. And then men get offended and call us names when we assert ourselves or express any emotion other than happiness. Our boundaries are constantly trampled and we’re supposed to just take it with a smile. It’s so frustrating!

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Taking care of a husband like he is an overgrown toddler incapable of doing anything for himself

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do A woman must be lady like

You know how I feel about that one? (Farts loudly) that’s how I feel

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Having to defy the normal process of ageing and that ageing somehow diminishes our worth.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do A man can walk away from a pregnancy or a family and go on with life without a bat of an eye from society but heaven forbid a woman ever walk away from her kids

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El muerto 2 years ago

this!

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Jo Choto 2 years ago

Yeah, I have known so many single mothers in my life, where the father is just not interested (despite wanting the kids in the first place). I have met some men who call themselves single dads. But then I found out that they are single dads two days a week or every other weekend, because the mother has the offspring the rest of the time. That's not what being a single parent is. I have never met a single father who had sole responsibility for the care of his kid(s), but I have known many, many dozens of women.

15points

Rahul Pawa 2 years ago

That's not always the man's fault. Women get primary custody by default in a lot of the US. The mom has to be really f****d up for a man to get primary custody. I know two such cases personally. I've heard some of the more progressive cities will recommend a 50/50 split. But the places that are not progressive will give Mom primary custody. I don't think there's any part of the country that would start with the assumption that the father should get primary.

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Two_rolling_black_eyes 2 years ago

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Alex 2 years ago

my moms boyfriend is technically one, he wants full custody of his kids but his wife is a raging witch. He has main custody of my sibling now, and see's his son every other weekend

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LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago

And somehow the mother is looked down upon for being a single mother. Like, where does that makes sense? The man is allowed to leave but the woman must have done something wrong!

14points

Jane Jane 2 years ago

Neither parent should walk away. Male or Female. To be fair, most do judge the mother harsher than the father.

12points

Isabella 2 years ago

Allow abortion to women and they will not walk away. A person is not walking away if they wanted the kid on the first place

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Dominika 2 years ago

No child came into this world voluntarily. Maybe think before having a child and not walk away? For me it doesnt matter which parent walks away. The kid is scarred for life.

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StarmanWaitingInTheSky 2 years ago

I don't really think society is unbothered with a man leaving his family. It just happens so often everyone just thinks "There goes another one. Great! Now this single mom is gonna burden the taxpayers." Which is just as frustrating because single moms are always being the ones to blame for everything, from putting her kids in "60% more at risk for abuse" (according to Dr. Phil's statistics. EVERY. DAMN. EPISODE), to having to work and pay "someone else having to watch their kids." People still expect mothers to do it all, on their own, with no help and no support. Apparently demanding child support is the same as using a man for money.

11points

Rosemary Booth 2 years ago

Dr. Phil is an idiot. I don't disagree with the point you're making, but there's got to be a better source of relevant information and/or statistics than Dr. Phil.

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Two_rolling_black_eyes 2 years ago

There should be no stigma for admitting you cannot handle raising a child and being responsible enough to find someone who will. Every child deserves a loving home and realizing you can't do that is ok. We need to fix the other side of it - its not ok to just abandon you kids, regardless of gender. Just dropping them off at grandma and leaving doesn't count. If you can't handle the pressure for whatever reason, you need to make sure they are taken care of, be it finding appropriate adoptive parents or providing financial help to the caregiver who accepts responsibility. If grandma wants to raise them, her kid needs to provide child support to the grandkid.

7points

Lemonclouds20 2 years ago

Well there's a bit of a difference, you carry the child, nurture with milk. Do everything for the child. So ofc it seems harsh when mum walks out. It doesn't happen in the animal kingdom either. Men are expendable.

6points

Nandina 2 years ago

Imagine how many men have no idea how many offspring they actually have out in the world. And some do know at least one offspring and has never had any responsibility to provide or care for or have a relationship with their biological child.

2points

Sapna Sarfare 2 years ago

Exactly

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It's Me 2 years ago (edited)

Hey. I got flack from people for leaving my pets behind when I got separated. I was forced to (pets are legally property and they aren’t part of the visitation process usually). And when people found out that I was the one who initiated the divorce, “don’t you miss your dogs though?” Was often the response. It was like they all thought I should sacrifice everything so i could see my pets. Didn’t matter why I was divorcing.

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The swede. 2 years ago

Or - she want to do an abortion and so, so, so many people think she is a criminal that could end up in prison for "murder." THAT is freaking wrong! Ugh.

1point

Kathy Molley 2 years ago

I hate the term,”single mothers’,NO, they are just mothers doing their job, when the wimpy blokes just bugger off.

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Wednesday 2 years ago

Even if it's only for work - traveling for work.

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Leara Bridges Brown 2 years ago

You probably walked away from yours didn't you?? Is that why you're so quick to be bitcμ

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Leara Bridges Brown 2 years ago

Wow you're a troll!! I bet youre a cun+ to be around too!! People like you that just have to put your a*****e two cents in die lonely and miserable.

0points

GramDB 2 years ago

Sad but true … but it's still wrong!

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Veronica Sjöberg 2 years ago

You shouldn't walk away from your kids no matter of gender but yes, women will be judged more for it. Like you are mentally ill for "abandoning your kids" vs men who often "didnt like the relationship" or something similar. Women are often expected to stick out in relationships for the kids as well and that's expected because it's "better for the kids" (doesn't matter if she's happy or not). Or look at the view of men being heroes for "babysitting" the kids for 2hrs vs the woman who takes care of them the other parts of the day are just doing what's expected. Or when mothers wants to focus on their work vs when fathers do. Kids reinforce gender roles to the extreme and was one of the most sad and challenging things for me with parenthood.

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Naesil 2 years ago

I still judge fathers walking out on their kids for selfish reasons.. but on the other hand if the guy is like that its probably better for the kids to have him out of their life for good

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Brent Hollett 2 years ago

As an addendum to this, when a couple breaks up the courts almost always give primary custody to the woman, fit or no. Many men don't want to walk away from their kids, but the courts can insist on it if the mother doesn't want him in *her* life.

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Nojman 2 years ago

You shouldn't walk away from your kids in general but yes I agree

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Brian Bennett 2 years ago

Sorry to say this but some women should have the guts to do this! But you will still be looked down on! It's foolish!

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Barbara Skolly 2 years ago

I judge men very harshly who abandon their family

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Rachknits 2 years ago

I worked with a family where the mum had walked away (she had addiction issues) and the dad was left with 4 boys who were being significantly neglected. Social services wouldn't do anything because they thought a man staying to look after his kids (although that's a stretch) was amazing

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DeeDee M 2 years ago

its actually terrible to abandon children regardless of gender, but I understand the irritation over the double standard.

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Dee Hartley 2 years ago

I did this in 1985 I'm still pilloried

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phil blanque 2 years ago

Well, while it is clear that the genders are not viewed the same in this regard, a male abandoning his family is still breaking societal norms and will be sanctioned for it....maybe not by everyone, but by many.

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Beeg Wang 2 years ago

They do tho.

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Carter 2 years ago

It's less likely. Women have a greater connection to their children due to 9months of carrying them. It's a psychological fact. So for a woman to up and leave is much less likely.

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Ashley Shaffer 2 years ago

I mean how does either parent just walk away from their kids. I just don't get it and don't want to honestly. I love my kids.

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shodokai 2 years ago

Right?

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Chris M 2 years ago

I can't speak to society at large, but I feel like deadbeat dads are at least side-eyed.

0points

LuckyNumbers 2 years ago

This should be higher.

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Rahul Pawa 2 years ago (edited)

I don't totally buy this one. I believe a man would be judged for abandoning his family.

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miss miss 2 years ago

Both parents should not do this and I'm sorry but especially mom

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Keith Mitchem 2 years ago

When is it ok for a man to walk away from his family? Deadbeat dads are useless garbage, deadbeat moms too. It takes two. I have never seen this as being as okay. Fact is usually the man loses the ability to see his child because of the courts giving mothers more rights than a father even when she is unfit.this one is garbage.

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Frankenfrog 2 years ago

Nah, it's true

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Leara Bridges Brown 2 years ago

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Frankenfrog 2 years ago

But that really isn't other women's fault or responsibility. We don't owe you anything.

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Eric r 2 years ago

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Frankenfrog 2 years ago

That's... that's the point

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Healing Moon Breezes 2 years ago

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Yes, but not statistically to the same degree as men - and it's a significant difference.

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Clark 2 years ago

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Isolde Leeuwen 2 years ago

He can always wear a condom or..you know...not have sex... Your choice man

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Asalyn Lemont 2 years ago

The my body my choice movement is about legislation on women's bodies. The government had no right to ban abortion based on religious beliefs. As a woman who has had one. I am beyond grateful I had access to a safe abortion. While I do agree that men should have the choice to sign away their rights and not have to pay child support, bodily autonomy is the purpose of our, 'our body our choice'

10points

Say What 2 years ago

There is such a thing called a vasectomy. If you choose not to get one, you are rolling the dice. That's on you, not women. And men routinely evade child support.

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Frankenfrog 2 years ago

Then get snipped my dude. You're just as responsible for avoiding unwanted pregnancies as she is.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That all women want a man/relationship.

I'm happily single for years and don't want to be in a relationship. I don't get why people assume that single women aren't as happy as the ones in a relationship, when it was proven that single women are the happiest population out there.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That doctors STILL do not provide adequate health care for us. And the fact that we still don't have autonomy of our bodies (in the US)

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That we shouldn’t show anger. Men always talk about how hard it is that when they cry, they’re called a pussy or something like that. I agree that that is a valid issue and I wish it weren’t that way, but I also wish that women could express anger without getting called a b***h or being called irrational. We get asked if we’re menstruating, we get told we’re overreacting. Just once I’d like to feel free to be angry.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being ok with getting paid less than men for the same job

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Dressing for men. I see many people tell women that they should not dye or cut their hair, not get tattoos, or wear certain fashion because it is unappealing to men. However, a lot of women nowadays (like me) dress for themselves and not for male pleasure.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That vaginas should be smooth always

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women should do all the cooking and cleaning.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Ugh, I live in the Southern US & the whole “wife must fix husbands dinner plate before hers or the children’s” is strong here. I get in debates all the time about this—it agitates me to no end. I don’t know why. It just comes off very misogynistic.

The reasoning I’ve heard from people I know is that “if your husband works hard then he should not have to fix his own food when he comes home” as if women don’t also work hard & almost always have to pull the second shift if kids are involved. I don’t understand why it’s such a debate. If it matters who eats first, then it should be the kids. If there’s no kids, then who cares? Both spouses can make their own plate or one (either one) can make both plates. I’m not a housewife or a waitress for my husband. We are equals, we both work & gender roles are outdated as hell.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do The concept of virginity.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That they need to wear makeup to look presentable — think a professional setting, a lot of people have the notion that it is lazy for a woman to not have ANY makeup on.

Now I wear makeup sometimes and sometimes I don’t, I just think it’s an outdated expecting that half of the population has never had.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Vulgar language is not feminine.

Stopped counting how many times I was told that but I always told them to f**k themselves

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Be thin.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women can’t do anything. Fixing things, manual labor, etc. I hate when my girlfriends say “I’m waiting on him to do this or that and it’s frustrating.” How about you get off your a*s and figure it out like he did. Lol

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being event coordinator, sender of household thank you notes, purchasing holiday gifts

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That we all have a maternal instinct. Hahahaha NOPE.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do We are the emotional ones

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being devoted to shi**y husbands

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women automatically make better caregivers (children or the elderly).

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Having to smile and accommodate other people’s awkward and rude behavior. The- “I’m sorry I can’t help but to say or notice” and what they is creepy, unwarranted, intrusive, interrupting, offensive etc. Get out of my space! I don’t care that my voice is unusually high pitched or that whatever you noticed or have to say about me.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Sex isn’t a right when you’re in a relationship. You have to maintain other parts of the relationship to keep that flame alive. “You must be cheating” isn’t going to make the situation any better.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That woman have to take birth control (hormonal) in a long term relationship

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Giving birth. It is the second most terrifying and painful thing a person can go through, the first is burning alive. The industry is great at hiding the many difficulties of pregnancy just to further the human race. You can permanently lose grey matter in your brain, weaken your bladder, develop allergies?? during and after pregnancy. Don't even get me started on the labour itself- i have no idea why any informed woman would want that. just google 4th degree tears and you'll be put off for life

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do It's mind blowing how many guys expect you to be a free therapist to them. Like, uh, I didn't sign up for this.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women should be physically smaller than men/petite/dainty/etc in order to be feminine

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do So many men view you differently when ur unapologetically yourself. I’m loud and stand up for myself when I need to and men give you that ‘how dare you look’ and it just fills me with power.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That we shouldn’t want/need rest while we are on our periods. Just because we have one every month for years doesn’t make it any less uncomfortable. I’m not saying mine is horrible every month but sometimes it hits me hard and it gets exhausting pretending like I’m not hurting.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do We will do domestic labor

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Our focus is only his pleasure

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do We don’t like/ want sex as much as men. I personally have a much higher sex drive than my SO.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Providing free emotional labor.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That I'm gonna look good before bed. Like i dont sleep in makeup sorry

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being expected to bend or compromise in a situation. Being the one to suck it up for the sake of everyone else.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do If you do have one child, you have to have another. You know, for reasons.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Having children. When I tell people I don’t want kids, they always look at me like I’m crazy and then tell me I’m still young and I’ll change my mind

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Men paying for dates/drinks

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Putting up with any kind of abusive behaviour from their husband. Abuse isn’t just limited to your husband just beating the c**p out of you he could be emotional, mental, or verbal abuse! The same thing goes for women who just stay with a man because they want to be a happy family with their kids even though their husband is cheating on them constantly.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women over 50 can't wear skinny jeans or be trendy.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women are just dying to get married before 30.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Having to push though feeling sick, tried, or in pain to get stuff done.

I have 3 chronic conditions (endometriosis, adenomyosis, and pelvic floor dysfuntion) and im being watched for a 4th (possibly lupus). Ive had to work while in pain, get up and go do housework despite being exhausted or having a migraine. Ive had people accuse me of faking my pain or exhaustion to get out of doing stuff. Bosses have made me break physical therapy orders and make my pelvic floor worse cause they refused to give me help.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Our lives and identities being structured around and based upon motherhood and relationships.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That older women are automatically jealous of, and are competing with, younger women.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do We're always competing with each other

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Shaving

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being the "peacemaker" in a situation usually including men. Always disliked how women were seen as the "heart" of the family, the one keeping it all together. They want it to sound noble, but it sounds exhausting as hell and unfair. Like no one in a family can function without a woman doing the emotional labor.

I have been a woman of chaos for several moments in my life LOL, not a troublemaker (all the time) but one to stand up for myself in ways that are not expected. They assume I'll be a peacemaker because I am a woman. HAHA!

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Staying home and belonging in a kitchen

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#53

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That all women love sex and are "great" at it.

Alot of women hate sex and are not "great" at it.

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women over 40 have to cut their hair short, like up to their ears.

wavyheaded , Christina @ wocintechchat.com Report

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That women can't be genuine friends with each other.

wavyheaded , Priscilla Du Preez Report

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This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being delicate and quiet = being lovable

Altruistic-Swing2253 , Pâmela Lima Report

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#57

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do The pressure to conform our bodies and our sexual behavior, in time consuming, ridiculous and even harmful ways, to whatever unrealistic standard is in style at the time.

lastseenhitchhiking , Romina Farías Report

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28points

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#58

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That we are expected to smile all the time to everyone for no reason at all. Men don’t do this, aren’t expected to and don’t get approached unsolicited from strangers in public with advice to “smile more.”

Ld862 , Lesly Juarez Report

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#59

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do I’m tired of having to be “nice” just because I’m a woman. Especially in the workplace where all the men are “allowed” to be jerks.

jenneschguet , Siora Photography Report

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#60

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do The automatic assumption that a woman will take her husband's last name upon marriage

tearsofhunny , Drew Coffman Report

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#61

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Giving a c**p about social anything. Chatting like everyone else when in a new environment. Hosting dinners. Holiday parties. Sending gifts, reminders, thank you notes, etc.

There's being polite and then there's expectation. No thanks to expectation.

MikkiSticky , Lee Myungseong Report

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#62

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do The concept that women should work-outside the home and do most of the housework. The idea that a stay at home woman is less than a woman who works and has a home.

We went too far the other way with the whole women working concept.

Irishsetter14 , Dan Gold Report

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#63

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Our appearance is for men. I couldn't care less what they think. I am who I am and they can suck it.

philosopherlogic , Gian Cescon Report

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#64

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Anything that is expected of a woman just because she’s a woman.

Relative_Dimensions , Stacey Gabrielle Koenitz Rozells Report

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#65

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Any expectations for women to wear make-up, heels, skirts, etc. in order to “appear professional.”

Vienta1988 , Dane Deaner Report

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#66

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Not an expectation so much as a societal view: I think the lack of dignity given to jobs related to childcare and education, and the expectation that women who are serious and driven won’t work with children, is messed up.

My take is that raising the next generation of humans is extremely important work, and the only reason people don’t dignify it is BECAUSE it’s associated with women.

Instead of fixing that societal misperception and dignifying that work, people just avoid it (myself included; I ended up teaching/working with children as a last resort after avoiding it because I saw it as “womens work,” but I have found that I actually LOVE it).

ResponsibleFinance11 , FeeLoona Report

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#67

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Having to be perfectly groomed all the time

aimeed72 , Valeriia Kogan Report

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#68

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That we have to strive to be likable. False!

Oh, also that because we are women, we are drawn towards children and mothering them. I’ve never felt maternal towards any human child I’ve ever met.

_so_anyways_ , Christina @ wocintechchat.com Report

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#69

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do ALL OF THEM!!!!

The ones I hate the most are: women shouldn't even want to be physically strong. F**k that, it sucks not being as strong as a guy, and I will go to the gym and lift weights.

Women are supposed to want to be sexy and find being objetified empowering. Or they have to be modest and prudish. I really hate that, can't I just be a normal human with sexual desires without having to either be prudish or overtly sexual

Women aren't supposed to really have hobbies or passions. I am into things women are really not supposed to be in: welding, magic, basketball and woodworking. I really hate that women aren't really supposed to have these interests and when we do it is simply because we are trying to impress men or some s**t.

Having to cook and clean to please men. I have no problem doing some cooking and cleaning, but I am not some guys maid.

Stargazer1186 , Sven Mieke Report

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#70

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do To never care about a man's looks, only his heart or wallet. Looks aren't everything but for some reason women are expected to put sacrifice their sexual attraction to man just to get one.

ButterScotchMagic , Elizeu Dias Report

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#71

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Looking nice all the time. Sometimes I just wanna be in my bath robe and slippers. I shouldn't have to doll up all the time.

dictatemydew , Adrien VIN Report

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#72

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do To be caring and nurturing. To bring cooked food and cakes to the office.

schwarzmalerin , NordWood Themes Report

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#73

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Asking men out...Apparently, that's too "forward" and you come off as "creepy" and "clingy" for asking a guy out, despite it being 2022. But then, men don't ask women out anymore.

What are we supposed to do? This makes bringing back arranged marriage in the Western World look better every single day.

mlo9109 , Priscilla Du Preez Report

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#74

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That we are somehow better human beings than men, so should behave better than them.

Simple_Employee_7094 , Kinga Cichewicz Report

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#75

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Wearing stockings/tights at work.

yellodello1221 , Rikky_Satin Report

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#76

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Cooking for a man

How come every time someone asks me about romantic relationships they bring up me cooking for a man?! If I learned how to cook, he can learn how to cook. There are too many resources to not know how.

AccomplishedWing9 , Jason Briscoe Report

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#77

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do We must initiate everything. sex. talking about relationships. planning

christine-fights , Yolanda Suen Report

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#78

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Being tidy and organized. Not just at home, but even in office settings.

FreezingDrizzle , Volha Flaxeco Report

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#79

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do Shaving my legs. Thankfully my husband doesn't care or I wouldn't have married him. My chronic pain makes it difficult to shave and legs just say my first adventure in waxing went horribly

BakedTaterTits , Billie Report

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#80

This Thread Has Women Sharing 30 Outdated Things Society Expects Them To Do That exposing my ankles means I'm easy or not "in tact"

LezPlayLater , Barbora Polednová Report

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Ivana Bašić 2 years ago

I cut my hair from a longish Bob to a buzz cut. Everyone asked how my husband would feel about it, what if he preferred long hair. If he prefers long hair, he can grow his own!

21points

Novel Idesa 2 years ago

When I cut my hair short I remember a family member said "You know, men prefer long hair," and I said, "Well men should grown their hair long then." That shut them up.

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InvaderZim 2 years ago

Same here. I’ve had my parents be like “what if men think you’re a lesbian?” Bruh I’m ace anyway I don’t want a relationship

1point

Pepinie Tojetajne 2 years ago

Oh my, heard that too. Like if he can stand it he can shove in up his ...

1point

Yumiko 2 years ago

the future will look upon is and our time and think we were barbaric middle ages. what's the justification for paying women less than men again ?

18points

Immortal Emperor Paradox 2 years ago

The level of order determines the the amount of equality between the majority/stronger/oppressor group and the minority/weaker/oppressed group in a society/community. This may apply to almost all facets, like race, caste, sex, culture, ethnicity, etc. We've come a long way from when women were treated as objects, to chattels, to humans, although not absolutely. It's a given that the far future would be a much better place for everyone, including women. For our descendants, we would just be inferior, savage old farts.

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Eepe 2 years ago

Right?! I’d really like to know what people in 100 years will think. They’ll definitely wonder what we were thinking and allowing.

1point

Monilip 2 years ago

1) women work less hours 2) women take jobs paid less in the first place (for example: less dangerous ) 3) women don't ask for rise as much men (for different reasons)

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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The Starsong Princess 2 years ago (edited)

Being called a Karen if you stand up for yourself or express any discontent. Send your undercooked chicken back in a restaurant? You’re a Karen. Want a company to honor their warranty? Karen. Expect a clerk to wait on you instead of the man who arrived after you? Karen. And on and on.

13points

Kristin Ingersoll 2 years ago

That's... not what "Karen" means - it's how you go about things. And the fact that you're that clueless means... you might want to take a look at how you complain.

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Si 2 years ago

Yep. The new misogynist surge, now that online shaming of brides, mothers, Instagram models has worn thin. Online shaming of women who’ve had plastic surgery or use filters still got some mileage tho.

1point

Gabby M 2 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

I'd like to publicly thank my mom, who managed to uninstall a lot of this in me before I even hit puberty, despite it being prevailing thinking of the time, and it being how she was raised.

10points

Viney24 2 years ago

this is one my sister got a lot... shaving. women are expected to shave their legs armpits and other parts that they should only shave if they want to

9points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

I never understood this one. How has "hair" become ugly? Some covergirl stereotypes make sense to me, but not this one.

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MichiShmichi 2 years ago

Stop seeking approval. Life is so much easier. Trust me.

6points

Kensi 2 years ago (edited)

I got one too. I enjoy going to events (theatre for example) by myself (I am a woman) and for many men so far it has been like an invitation to come to me and (and I quote): "to keeping me company because I'm there alone". I never noticed it would happen to my male friend. I don't go there to meet men but simply to enjoy time there by myself.

6points

whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

I was taught to be submissive to men growing up, and to always look pleasing to men. F**k that. I'm still recovering from my misogynistic upbringing.

4points

Enby.Minecraft.Bee. 2 years ago

If yall liked this yall should probably read the book "Cinderella is dead"

4points

Jo Choto 2 years ago

Almost all of these issues relate to how the woman is perceived by the man for doing/not doing a thing. Fact is, the second women stop wanting the approval and desire of men, they will stop caring about doing or not doing most of the things on this list. We have the power. We have the choice.

4points

Ashlie 2 years ago

Except when it comes to employment. The majority of higher management positions, boards of directors, etc. are held by men. Every time diversity is brought up, I get tepid agreement and then treated to a monologue about the need to hire quality candidates, as if hiring mostly white men meant that the company was hiring quality candidates.

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Purple Gerbil 2 years ago

Can I add babyshowers to this list? Yawn.

3points

whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

Also, that all women want to and should get married. And that all women should only be wives and mothers.

2points

Tom 2 years ago

Some of these are just plain toxic. Preferring to be overweight rather than healthy is insane.

1point

Joyce Blodgett 1 year ago

The entirety of mankind/humankind is in for such a huge shock in the near future.

0points

Monica Pryts 2 years ago

Ok but the vagina is inside the body. Please don't try to shave it.

0points

Christoph 2 years ago

WHAT? Empower YOU! Be strong, wear "B***h" as a badge of honor. Do you. Have pepper spray. Carry on.

0points

Brian Bennett 2 years ago

Men and women should not CONTROL each other. If this is happening in your life - either male or female get the hell out of that relationship. There is a difference between give and take, some people can't or don't want to realize the difference! Control is just the start of future abuse. Get out while the gettin's good!

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Pepinie Tojetajne 2 years ago

Yeah, experienced lot of that. Sorry, not there for this. And I will let you know. 35 without childern and my hubby has hands. So stop your nonsence. And I have hairy legs :D

0points

Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

I sing in bars and clubs. When a man is interested in me, he thinks I'll quit this job. When I sing a love song, every man thinks I'm going home with him. Every man thinks I am just singing until I find a man to support me. That my singin/writing songs/recording albums and jingles is just something fun I do until I find "a real job."

0points

jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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Robert 2 years ago

So where's the thread about men? Expected to pay for women, protect them, be the breadwinner, not allowed to show emotion, supposed to drink beer, watch sports, be handy, it's always the man's fault a divorce happened, supposedly men always cheat, men are always child predators, the list goes on and on. Women think they have it bad but believe me, there's s**t on both sides

-3points

Ally MacMann 2 years ago

I'm going to agree with you here (albeit not on every point). BP has had entire articles on toxic masculinity and there's lots to suggest that outdated stereotypes also harm men. Let's be clear - they don't harm men as much as women but suggesting there is a problem shouldn't be controversial!

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Pisco 2 years ago

Its in all the posts that feminists write about how sexism harms men. But misoginistic men like you hate those posts and pretend that they dont exist.

1point

Monica Pryts 2 years ago

Triggered!

0points

Tami 2 years ago

So true. Men have a lot of pressure on them. And women probably reject non-conforming men more than men reject non-conforming women. So that can make life extra frustrating for men.

0points

Steven 2 years ago

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Actually, it's the product of sexism and misogyny, but thanks for playing!

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

I see. Complaining is narcissism now?

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Clark 2 years ago

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musical-trash 2 years ago

These are not complaints, they are issues. Real life issues. How would you feel if everything on this list happened to you?

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Ivana Bašić 2 years ago

I cut my hair from a longish Bob to a buzz cut. Everyone asked how my husband would feel about it, what if he preferred long hair. If he prefers long hair, he can grow his own!

21points

Novel Idesa 2 years ago

When I cut my hair short I remember a family member said "You know, men prefer long hair," and I said, "Well men should grown their hair long then." That shut them up.

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InvaderZim 2 years ago

Same here. I’ve had my parents be like “what if men think you’re a lesbian?” Bruh I’m ace anyway I don’t want a relationship

1point

Pepinie Tojetajne 2 years ago

Oh my, heard that too. Like if he can stand it he can shove in up his ...

1point

Yumiko 2 years ago

the future will look upon is and our time and think we were barbaric middle ages. what's the justification for paying women less than men again ?

18points

Immortal Emperor Paradox 2 years ago

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Eepe 2 years ago

Right?! I’d really like to know what people in 100 years will think. They’ll definitely wonder what we were thinking and allowing.

1point

Monilip 2 years ago

1) women work less hours 2) women take jobs paid less in the first place (for example: less dangerous ) 3) women don't ask for rise as much men (for different reasons)

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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The Starsong Princess 2 years ago (edited)

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Kristin Ingersoll 2 years ago

That's... not what "Karen" means - it's how you go about things. And the fact that you're that clueless means... you might want to take a look at how you complain.

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Si 2 years ago

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Gabby M 2 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

I'd like to publicly thank my mom, who managed to uninstall a lot of this in me before I even hit puberty, despite it being prevailing thinking of the time, and it being how she was raised.

10points

Viney24 2 years ago

this is one my sister got a lot... shaving. women are expected to shave their legs armpits and other parts that they should only shave if they want to

9points

Robert Thompson 2 years ago

I never understood this one. How has "hair" become ugly? Some covergirl stereotypes make sense to me, but not this one.

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MichiShmichi 2 years ago

Stop seeking approval. Life is so much easier. Trust me.

6points

Kensi 2 years ago (edited)

6points

whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

I was taught to be submissive to men growing up, and to always look pleasing to men. F**k that. I'm still recovering from my misogynistic upbringing.

4points

Enby.Minecraft.Bee. 2 years ago

If yall liked this yall should probably read the book "Cinderella is dead"

4points

Jo Choto 2 years ago

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Ashlie 2 years ago

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Purple Gerbil 2 years ago

Can I add babyshowers to this list? Yawn.

3points

whodunnitfan2013 2 years ago

Also, that all women want to and should get married. And that all women should only be wives and mothers.

2points

Tom 2 years ago

Some of these are just plain toxic. Preferring to be overweight rather than healthy is insane.

1point

Joyce Blodgett 1 year ago

The entirety of mankind/humankind is in for such a huge shock in the near future.

0points

Monica Pryts 2 years ago

Ok but the vagina is inside the body. Please don't try to shave it.

0points

Christoph 2 years ago

WHAT? Empower YOU! Be strong, wear "B***h" as a badge of honor. Do you. Have pepper spray. Carry on.

0points

Brian Bennett 2 years ago

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Pepinie Tojetajne 2 years ago

Yeah, experienced lot of that. Sorry, not there for this. And I will let you know. 35 without childern and my hubby has hands. So stop your nonsence. And I have hairy legs :D

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Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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Robert 2 years ago

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Ally MacMann 2 years ago

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Pisco 2 years ago

Its in all the posts that feminists write about how sexism harms men. But misoginistic men like you hate those posts and pretend that they dont exist.

1point

Monica Pryts 2 years ago

Triggered!

0points

Tami 2 years ago

So true. Men have a lot of pressure on them. And women probably reject non-conforming men more than men reject non-conforming women. So that can make life extra frustrating for men.

0points

Steven 2 years ago

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Tamra Stiffler 2 years ago

Actually, it's the product of sexism and misogyny, but thanks for playing!

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jonathan rasco 2 years ago

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El muerto 2 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

I see. Complaining is narcissism now?

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Clark 2 years ago

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musical-trash 2 years ago

These are not complaints, they are issues. Real life issues. How would you feel if everything on this list happened to you?

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