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Man Orders Nachos And Causes A Family Fight Because He Couldn’t Get The Hint That His BIL With Autism Would React Badly
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Man Orders Nachos And Causes A Family Fight Because He Couldn’t Get The Hint That His BIL With Autism Would React Badly

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Having an autistic family member can be both rewarding and challenging. Individuals with autism often have unique strengths and abilities, but they may also face difficulties in daily life that require special attention and care. It can be an opportunity to learn about a different way of thinking and communicating, but it can also require patience, understanding, and flexibility.

However, recently, a guy on the internet shared a story about his autistic brother-in-law, who, according to him, exploits people’s perception in order to control them.

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When people are around certain health issues for long enough, it’s normal for some doubt to kick in

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Guy asked the community if he was wrong for ordering nachos after brother in-law caused a scene over the crunch

Image credits: u/Consistent_Cat_1126 

Image credits: Thanh Do (not the actual image)

The tantrum started after the crunch sound from nachos and seeing olives which don’t belong on them

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Image credits: u/Consistent_Cat_1126 

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The author ended up being the bad guy for not listening to his wife’s hints and ordering crunchy food

The Reddit user “Consistent_Cat_1126” shared his story to one of the Reddit communities for its members’ opinions on whether he was wrong for ordering nachos at a restaurant and causing his autistic brother-in-law to have a tantrum over the sound of the crunch. The discussion very fast went viral and reached over 15K upvotes and almost 4K comments.

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The OP introduces the narrative by stating that his 32-year-old brother-in-law has autism, ADHD, and set-point obesity. However, the author believes that he benefits from people’s perceptions of these things for his good. Now, the big event started when the man and his wife invited their in-laws to a restaurant for Easter dinner. These arrangements were ideal as the brother-in-law had other plans. However, unfortunately for the OP, these plans got canceled, which meant only one thing – brother-in-law was joining them for dinner.

Now, the family went to a restaurant best known for its bar cuisine, and the original author immediately ordered nachos. He recalls his wife telling him not to, but he wasn’t really aware of her cues. And here we go, the first bite prompted the BIL’s tantrum for two reasons—the crunch was “killing him” and the black olives don’t belong on nachos (Mexico and Spain, you know, it’s not the same). Following the scene, the author was criticized for causing another scene, just this time through his own words.

Well, regarding this part of the story, the author himself agrees that he was a jerk, as he called his brother-in-law a creep and claimed that the list of things you can not do near BIL is ridiculous. However, the evening finished with the in-laws leaving, a lecture from the wife that he should have noticed how they never have chips at home and the traditional silent treatment.

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The audience pronounced him Not The A-hole and in the comment section, a thread started making fun of the olives and nachos situation. One user went ahead: “I can’t believe your in-laws are jalapeno grill about some cheesy chip goodness.” “No wonder OP has beef with them,” continued another.

Additionally, the users were helpful regarding the situation as some of them were dealing with the same problem. First of all, sound-proof headphones could have helped to avoid this situation. Second of all, if the family is aware of his serious health-related issue, they could have avoided a restaurant that is famous for its bar food. Even if the author wouldn’t have ordered nachos, there is a very high probability that somebody else around their table would eat crunchy food.

Now, according to Sarah Barkely, 50% to 70% of autistic people eventually experience diminished sound tolerance, according to study. She provides a few methods that can ease the discomfort. First of all, to prevent sound sensitivity from being triggered, avoiding loud events or places may be the first step. Try visiting new places during the quiet time of the day.

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To avoid overstimulation, many people wear earplugs or noise-canceling headphones. These devices can help to visit spaces that were almost impossible before and increase the possibility to participate in everyday life. A 2018 study also discovered that wearing noise-canceling headphones boosted the involvement of autistic children in their homes, communities, and schools.

So, guys, what do you think about this situation? Maybe you have experienced something similar and how did you deal with it?

The community members defended the poster in this situation and shared their insights

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Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Monika Pašukonytė

Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Austėja Bliujūtė

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Hey there! I'm Austeja, a writer with a knack for capturing everything from family dramas to the latest meme trends at Bored Panda. Armed with a Bachelor's degree in business management, I blend expertise with creativity to deliver engaging articles. I love spicing up my pieces with insights from experts in the industry, ensuring the readers get interesting information. When I'm not typing away, you can find me jet-setting to sunny destinations, hunting for the perfect palm-fringed oasis, enjoying leisurely brunches with friends or binging various TV shows!

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Austėja Bliujūtė

Austėja Bliujūtė

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Hey there! I'm Austeja, a writer with a knack for capturing everything from family dramas to the latest meme trends at Bored Panda. Armed with a Bachelor's degree in business management, I blend expertise with creativity to deliver engaging articles. I love spicing up my pieces with insights from experts in the industry, ensuring the readers get interesting information. When I'm not typing away, you can find me jet-setting to sunny destinations, hunting for the perfect palm-fringed oasis, enjoying leisurely brunches with friends or binging various TV shows!

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Dddad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is autistic and since birth we've been teaching him that while having certain difficulties is understandable and if properly voiced they will be taken in account in order to avoid them. However, being autistic does not give him the right to be an a*****e and if a situation is getting too much for him it's totally OK for him to extract himself from the situation. He is on his way growing up to be an incredible decent and thoughtfully young man and we couldn't be more proud of him.

Noname
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kudos to you for not treating your child like their issues govern the world they live in, and that they must adapt as well. I'm sure that this has been a huge struggle for your family.

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Natalie H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. This sounds like a bunch of manipulative b******t to me. What, pray tell, would they have done if the table NEXT to them had crunched nachos with olives? If this were a true problem, it seems the family would’ve taken action by just getting takeout & eating at home🤷🏻‍♀️

Sad Quokka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. That's not how autism works. BIL knew the nachos would be crunchy yet he ate them anyway!?? Yes, OP might have been a bit nicer but as an autistic person myself, BIL, MIL and FIL TA. Maybe MIL and FIL need training on how to deal with autism...

Lakota Wolf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus in the comments OP mentions that BIL eats Takis chips constantly, so obviously it's NOT the actual crunching he has a problem with, since he apparently doesn't mind his OWN crunching sounds. Also, doesn't ANYONE in the family think it's just a bit gross and weird that 32-year-old BIL is obsessed with a 19-year-old GIRL influencer online? Or is that also just "accepted" because he's "autistic"?

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Dddad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is autistic and since birth we've been teaching him that while having certain difficulties is understandable and if properly voiced they will be taken in account in order to avoid them. However, being autistic does not give him the right to be an a*****e and if a situation is getting too much for him it's totally OK for him to extract himself from the situation. He is on his way growing up to be an incredible decent and thoughtfully young man and we couldn't be more proud of him.

Noname
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kudos to you for not treating your child like their issues govern the world they live in, and that they must adapt as well. I'm sure that this has been a huge struggle for your family.

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Natalie H
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. This sounds like a bunch of manipulative b******t to me. What, pray tell, would they have done if the table NEXT to them had crunched nachos with olives? If this were a true problem, it seems the family would’ve taken action by just getting takeout & eating at home🤷🏻‍♀️

Sad Quokka
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. That's not how autism works. BIL knew the nachos would be crunchy yet he ate them anyway!?? Yes, OP might have been a bit nicer but as an autistic person myself, BIL, MIL and FIL TA. Maybe MIL and FIL need training on how to deal with autism...

Lakota Wolf
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus in the comments OP mentions that BIL eats Takis chips constantly, so obviously it's NOT the actual crunching he has a problem with, since he apparently doesn't mind his OWN crunching sounds. Also, doesn't ANYONE in the family think it's just a bit gross and weird that 32-year-old BIL is obsessed with a 19-year-old GIRL influencer online? Or is that also just "accepted" because he's "autistic"?

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