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Researchers rarely collect data that distinguishes between the involuntarily childless and the consciously childfree. The 2014 census figures, however, revealed that 47.6 percent of women between age 15 and 44 have never had children ― the highest rate ever tracked. According to a 2014 Pew Research Center report, 19 percent of women remain childless by age 40 to 44.

We've been married twenty years. We are both 50. Neither of us wanted to bring children into our family.

I spent a WONDERFUL afternoon with my 16 year old niece yesterday. We talked about her boyfriend, picked blackberries and discovered a woodland clam [fingernail mussel] living in a mud puddle [vernal pool] in the woods, which we named Fred. It was magical. I just adore her.

Not having kids is just as normal as wanting kids, I've always felt.

Zero regrets.

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Elizabeth Shaaber 5 years ago (edited)

i fully agree... my decision to not have kids has nothing to do with how i was raised or my feelings towards children in general. it was just the natural decision, like others make when choosing to have kids, it just wasn't meant for me.

41points

Amy Blackstone, a gender sociologist at the University of Maine who specializes in childfree research, hopes that her work at least helps question the assumption that little boys and girls will grow up to become parents. "Right now, girls in particular, but girls and boys both, are raised to imagine themselves as parents of children," she told Huff Post. "But if we more critically thought about the question of whether or not to parent, then everyone would have the opportunity to make the choice that’s right for them."

"Of course, the childfree would benefit... if we made it a choice rather than an assumption,” Blackstone said. "But I think parents would benefit, too."

No regrets. Not everyone wants them, and if you're not sure, it's best to hold off. Having ambivalent (or worse) parents does a real number on a kids self esteem.

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The Girl on Fire 5 years ago

The last part is very true

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Blackstone conducted 60 to 90-minute interviews with 31 people (21 women and 10 men) about their decision to live childfree. The small qualitative study found out that the choice is not spontaneous but rather a complex and ongoing conversation. This pushes back on critics, saying that childfree couples are selfish or flippant.

Since publishing her research, Blackstone has interviewed 44 more people, expanding the diversity of her participant pool. She wishes to continue her research in the future as well, which will hopefully create a world where childfree people don’t have to defend their choice to others or suffer socially for it.

Well...I'm a dude in a relationship with a dude. 26 years. We could have had children but didn't. Have plenty of nieces and nephews to spoil.

Also...we've been able to save and we are retiring this week. I'm 54.

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Mary Jaye 5 years ago

My significant other and I have been a couple four 36 1/2 years. We don't even live together. In fact we live 15 miles apart and that's why we are together so long. Michael has an ex-wife and a son with her. I have no children and never had a desire. I am almost 67 years old I have absolutely no regrets. Some people are made not to have kids and they don't know it. I knew that it would not be the right thing for me or the kids.

4points

Mid-40s, married for 22 years. No regrets. We’re both extremely happy - we have a great marriage, fulfilling jobs, money (and time) for all the fun things we want to do, and as much travel as we want (currently on week 6 of a 7 week road trip). I have never felt a lack in my life for not having children, and have always felt that having children would be detrimental to my happiness. I’m sure it’s great for those that actually want kids, but I’ve never been one of those people.

I also have around 16 nieces and nephews, so we get to sort of experience that whole "having a kid" thing for a week or two at a time...and then send them home, which works out perfectly.

Our two cats and one dog are as close to having kids that we will ever have, and trust me - that’s about as much responsibility for someone else’s life as we should be given. I love our pets, but having a dog has very firmly shown me that it’s a good thing we never had kids.

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SBW71 5 years ago

No regrets at all. I got a husband and 2 fur babies. That's all I need.

37points

henrythethirteenth Report

My husband and I are 48. Not having kids is a huge relief, still. We get to travel, have a nice house, walk around naked if we want, and I have disposable income to support causes that are important. My life is fulfilling and happy.

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103points

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Foxxy 5 years ago

I never understood the people who say that if you don’t have kids you aren’t fulfilled. Not everyone wants kids (as this post shows) and that is fine. They can still live very fulfilling lives.

83points

Every kid I don't have is like $186,000 I don't need to make.

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Id row 5 years ago

Amen. Plus you don't have to worry about them screaming at you that you ruined their life when you say no to the thousand dollar iphone they want. The entitlement of kids today makes me double glad I didn't have them.

28points

I love my life. Kids never factored into it. I never wanted them, so simply didn't have them.

Having never wanted them, I don't think about having missed out on anything or that I'm lesser for it.

Children aren't mandatory

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Jaguarundi 5 years ago

I love that last line.

21points

I'm not a couple, just a person. I've been in lots of relationships and was married twice. I would not have made a good parent. Regret sometimes I wasn't born into a different life, but given the cards I was dealt... I think I made the right choice in that department and have no regrets.

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Michyle Glen 5 years ago

Same here,,, Most of my relationships were short term, and I was always afraid I would be like my Father (he had a temper) and that I might put one of my kids into a wall. Better not to have kids if you you have a temper. Because Kids love to push the envelope to see how far they can get away with anything.

29points

#10

I'm a 49 year old female and have never regretted my decision to not have kids. I think I've always been missing the mommy gene. I like not having the responsibilities and obligations (and expenses!) that go along with having kids.

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Nancy Jeckells 5 years ago

I am missing the mommy gene as well, although I like babies and little children, but when they start to talk back, forget about it, I just want to run for the hills. I was engaged at 26 but he wanted kids. turned out it was a deal-breaker . I could just see that it wasn't the life I wanted. this was in canada. because I wasn't tied down, I was able to move to england in the 80s, where I met a wonderful man who has been my husband for over 20 years. Luckily, he didnt want children either,. we have wonderful lives down in cornwall. be true to yourself. always......

34points

#11

We're both in our mid 40s. When we got married in our mid 20s we were trying to have kids, until we realized that we were pretty much just doing it because it was expected of us by family. I decided to not get pregnant and my husband has supported my decision.

After a few years my husband started having spotty employment due to health issues and ended up on disability. We don't know if he'll ever be able to work again or what his long term health will be like. We were concerned that he wouldn't be able to contribute to a child's life, either financially or by providing care. Plus I found out I have fertility issues and it would be very expensive and difficult, if not impossible, for me to get pregnant. Also I've realized in the last few years that 1) my upbringing qualifies as abuse and I'm more like my abuser than I'm comfortable admitting; 2) I don't want to treat a kid the way I got treated but I'm afraid it would be inevitable without a crap ton of ongoing therapy for the entire family; and 3) I realized that I just don't really like kids that much. Having a kid around for a couple hours? Fine. 24/7 for minimum 18 years? No thanks.

Sometimes I worry that when we're old we'll be alone and regret it then, but we have plenty of nieces and nephews, and the fear of the possibility of regret thirty or forty years from now isn't a valid reason to get pregnant IMO.

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TD Baker 5 years ago

shouldn't worry, there are people with children, and the kids don't care or visit or ship them to a home and wash their hands of it. there are no guarantees in life, make the best of what you love starting with yourself.

24points

#12

I'm going to give you the different answer. I met my guy at 26. I was ready for kids at 32. He started stalling, hoping to run my clock out. I thought I was 'too old' to find someone new in time to have kids.

I tried to accept it. To find something else to give my life purpose. I have a fulfilling professional career. I donate. I volunteer. I care for my older family members. I have friends.

But, you know what? I never got over my anger and resentment of being denied children. Last year, after 20 years together, I ended things.

Now I'm back to looking at ways to become a Mom, however that happens. I have my own frozen eggs. I'm open to fostering or adopting.

And I don't regret leaving my ex, not even a little. I feel resentment, and cheated.

For what it's worth, Embryo adoption is also a thing. It's far more cost effective than domestic infant adoption, and you can generally do it until age 55, after that on a case by case basis.

Some people can move past it, others can't until they have exhausted every possible outlet. I'm in the latter category. I wish you peace, with whatever you decide.

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Kimberly Young 5 years ago

Wow, her ex sounds like an awful human.

23points

#13

I'm approaching 60, husband is approaching 70, and we get that question a lot. We know we made the right choice. I'm a teacher, so I've spent my life working with wonderful kids, but simply never wanted to go home to more kids after work. We don't know who will take care of us when we're decrepit, but adult children are no guarantee of having care in old age.

However, I think we both miss having grandchildren to take places, Christmas is quiet, and family barbecues are non-existant. That part is a bit sad.

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JP 5 years ago

There are more ways of having 'grandkids' than having grandkids. So many organizations out there that help kids and need volunteers. You don't have to become foster parents to change a child's life. A 'family' is what you make of it, so if you want family barbecues, full Christmas's and taking children to fun events, then become involved and create a family.

52points

#14

I always thought I'd wake up one day and be clucky and ready to start a family. That day never came and I'm pushing 50 now so I've missed my chance.

I sometimes wonder if I made a mistake not having kids but its not something i really regret.

On the plus side, I am looking at retiring with a 6 figure income at 52, regularly donate and do charity work. In-fact I am looking at starting my own charity at the end of the year to dedicate more time to when I retire.

In some ways not having children has/will allow me to help more people than just my immediate family.

My suggestion is do what feels right, either way its a big decision that only you and your partner should make.

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Alex Bailey 5 years ago

If there is already a charity that covers the area you want to support then please don't start another. Doubles the admin and halves the support. Also, people don't usually understand the role trustees have to play. It's more convoluted than people realise.

17points

#15

I'm 41 and chilling, do what I want when I want, no money issues, so I'm happy. I never felt like I wanted kids, I just didn't feel I would be a good parent, so I think it would be irresponsible on my part. People still like to tell me I just "haven't found the right girl yet" but I tell them the right girl is one who doesn't want to have kids. Not sure why it's such a big deal, but no one has ever said "good for you, that's awesome". Kinda f**ked up there's enough people on this planet already.

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Jessica Bertram 5 years ago

"Good for you, that's awesome!"

34points

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#16

I’m not that old (37) and I’m not a couple, but I didn’t have kids and I can say undoubtedly, I wouldn’t have accomplished the things I am very proud of in my life if I’d gone down the family route.

My nieces and nephews are enough for me, and I can give them back and won’t be held responsible for how they turn out. It’s honestly not a bad deal at all.

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51points

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Erika Jones 5 years ago

I like how many people mention their nieces and nephews - spending time with other people's kids, family or otherwise, can be great, and much less of a commitment than having your own! I'm sure the kids appreciate the attention, too. :-)

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#17

I’m 60 now, been married for 29 years. God did not provide me with the proper temperament to raise children. Have never regretted our decision to be child free. We’re good

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48points

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Id row 5 years ago

Same. A crying baby would have made me have a nervous breakdown. I just don't have it in me.

11points

#18

My husband and I have been together for 27 years, and we originally said we didn't want kids. Then we thought we should have some, and tried for a decade with no luck. So we had a serious talk, and decided we didn't really want them after all, and stopped trying. Now that the pressure is off and we both feel nothing but relief, we are enjoying life so much. It's wonderful to just be selfish without having to make excuses or feel resentful and be able to travel on our own schedule and make decisions that just impact us. If we could have had kids naturally, no harm, no foul, and we would have loved and accepted them, but it didn't happen, so no worries. And we also don't have to worry about f*cking up another human accidentally. Life is good, and we have the finances and resources to take care of ourselves. The only negative is that we are both the end of the line for our genetic ancestors. But that doesn't seem like a good enough reason to try the crazy fertility treatments beyond what we already did.

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48points

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TD Baker 5 years ago

if you don't want children you are not selfish. you are realistic. there are a lot of people who have children and they are very selfish-the child suffers, and the world proves it with a lot of messed up families.

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#19

My wife and I are in out mid 40's. I hope that counts as "older".

We're very happy with our decision. We have the ability to live a pretty comfortable lifestyle, and I think we generally have a lot less stress than our child-having peers, and we'll be able to retire earlier.

Our lives are full and fun, and I get to spend a ridiculous amount of time with my wife (which is the best thing ever).

Also, there are some things that you may not think about. For example, I recently had some changes at my job that created a lot of potential income stress. I was flipping out pretty hard. If I had a kid in (or nearly in) college, I might have gone full meltdown.

Many of the concerns that went in to our decision not to have kids were centered around our own personalities, so I'm not a "child free" advocate, or anything, but I do think that many people have kids because they are "supposed to" or because the want "someone to take care of them when they're old," which I think is a terrible reason to have kids.

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FloC 5 years ago

I do agree with this about all the wrong reasons to have kids. I am childless myself (never wanted any). When people tell me "who will take care of you ?" I think that is very selfish to put this strain on the children.

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#20

I fear the answer to this. I'm ambivalent about kids. But I'll never forget holding the hand of a man on his last day in hospice as he said " Oh God, I wish I'd had a child."

He was married to one woman for close to 50 years, taught for nearly 40. His room was filled with cards and photos from former students, friends, and family. It's impossible to say if he was lucid, but the regret in his voice was heartbreaking.

I say now I'd be happy with children or none; biological, adopted, or step, but until the end I won't ever know.

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Id row 5 years ago

And even if he had kids, there's no guarantee they would have been there at the end.

30points

#21

My wife and I have been married for 12 years - I am 36 and she is 40, so, yeah, likely not in the cards. It is a reality that, while tough, I am slowly learning to accept.

I realized that as a guy, I always look at having kids with rose-colored glasses - ball games, working on my classic car with them, dad jokes, the fun stuff. That's easy for me as it's not my body and sacrifice. My wife is not on board and it's her body and I love and respect her to much to force her hand. If either one of us are not 100% ok with a major decision, we don't do it, end of discussion.

I look forward to spoiling my nieces and nephews and spending more time with my wife and continuing to make our world about us, forever.

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Demi Zwaan 5 years ago

This is bad for your relationship. One person definitely not wanting kids and the other does, but goes along with the decision. In the end, he will resent her for taking away his chance to have children away and it WILL come up in an unrelated fight. You should really be on the same page on big things like having children and not just ‘respect her decision’.

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#22

No regrets.

Until I was in my mid-20s I always thought I wanted kids. Then I stayed with a couple I knew who had toddlers. They were nice kids, but I remember one Saturday morning they poked me awake for cereal. It was an epiphany. I remember thinking "I will never want this."

Fast forward several decades. Not too long ago I was at a family function with an 8 year old. He's not a bad kid, but Christ it was just...loud. Everything was just really loud. XBox, talking all the time, interrupting with questions. Mind you, I'm not complaining about the childrens behavior. They were better than average, from what I can tell. I'm just celebrating my decision not to get involved.

I am soooo happy I did not subject myself to that.

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Id row 5 years ago

Those kettle whistle shrieks they do...makes me want to jam an oyster fork in my ear.

13points

#23

I wanted them but never met the right person. I'm REALLY glad I didnt have any of my previous partners- they would either have made terrible mothers or we just did not make for a healthy couple.
I have the perfect partner now, and she did fall pregnant, but we lost the baby to Dandy Walker syndrome. Getting a bit too old to try again now. I am very upset that I will not have children, but I don't regret not having children with anyone but my current partner.

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Lousha 5 years ago

I always thought that if one day I'd feel that way, realising I wanted kids but by then being "too old" I'd just adopt a slightly older kid. That way a kid with very slim chances of a family would get one, and I'd get to be a mom still. A good deed and a blessing all in one. By now I know that this won't happen, I simply don't want kids. But I don't think those who want them shouldn't have one just because they waited too long or had issues getting a biological one. DNA would not mean anything for me. Apart from my parents I don't keep any contact with any of my family members because they are not worth one moment of my life. So much for blood and all that...

19points

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#24

I go through phases where I regret not having a kid, I still have plenty of time: My wife and I are 36, but we made the decision to be childless a decade ago, maybe more.

I understand the appeal of having children and feel it on some primal level, but logically the pros vs. cons of having a kid... there are just far too many cons.

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Wizardbg 5 years ago

This. This is exactly my thoughts on it. There is definitely this inherent feeling when I see my friends with children or see the students in my classroom, but at the end of the day the cons are far too much. If I ever decided to have a child, I would gladly foster kids who need a home.

16points

#25

I’m sad and in many ways I think my husband is also. He is terrific around our friends’ kids. Me not so much. But I see the unbelievable love that my friends have for their children and that is something I will never know. We’ve had great careers and have a wonderful life together. But it is also true that we also are very much alone without family. Our siblings all live far away and parents are gone. So when we die,that’s it. We have lived a self absorbed life is my guess. It doesn’t feel that good deep down.

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Katchen 5 years ago

This is so sad.

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#26

I go back and forth. My SO has some significant mental health issues and I know that I would be alone doing much of the emotional labor of raising a child, and I know I'm not really capable of doing it alone. Sometimes I worry very much about what I will do when I am old. I'm an introvert and dont have many friends and am not overly likable, so I assume I will be alone. I just hope that there are some kind robots to take care of me, and that I'll die before the robots turn on us.

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Alex Bailey 5 years ago

That is sad but it doesn't sound ideal for a child to be brought up in.

18points

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#27

I love our decision not to have kids. I’ve always had trouble adulting well and the idea of spending all my spare cash on diapers and bottles didn’t appeal to me. I’m selfish, so is the husband, and we are okay with that. I have to prepare for old age because I’m not going to have any kids to look out for me when I’m frail and senile, which sometimes worries me, but then I remember that I didn’t have to raise kids and I smile a bit.

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TD Baker 5 years ago

why people say they are selfish? no, they are practical, realistic and self-aware. do you know how many children are raised by selfish parents. messed up for life, then the kids that survive being emotionally abused are either duped into taking care of them or abandoning them. stop saying you're selfish if you don't want kids. i say bravo to you for being responsible. btw, i love kids but grew up in a phyisical and emotionally abusive family, i couldn't run the chance of putting children through that, plus i do have the option of adoption.

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#28

For my spouse, I can only say that they have physical and psychological issues that they've mentioned that they'd rather not pass on to a child.

For myself, I've always said that while I'm occasionally afraid that someday I might regret not having children, that's not the same as wanting children, and that's an important difference to me. I have my own reasons to believe I'd probably not be a good parent.

Yeah, we both get concerned sometimes whether anyone will be arsed to care about the sole survivor once the other's gone or incapacitated. But this thought is the result of our decisions, not a basis for changing our minds about having kids, which we will not. Having kids or not is no guarantee that you’ll end up cared for or not anyway, though it does probably move the needle on your odds.

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katarina 5 years ago

"I'm occasionally afraid that someday I might regret not having children, that's not the same as wanting children, and that's an important difference to me." - agree completely!

15points

#29

Not older, I'm 34 and my wife is 31. Our lives are pretty f**king awesome. We do whatever we want whenever we want, and our focus and attention is on one-another. This really is the life for me, and she would tell you the exact same thing about herself. We are also the super-cool-but-quirky aunt and uncle that spoil the nieces and nephews, take them to do s**t their parents wouldn't usually/ever do... I mean it's great. I feel I'm surrounded by far, far too many people who are far, far to envious of us when they hear about our lives vs theirs, completely consumed by their children.

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misteriosa 5 years ago

To be honest, I too would be a little bit envious while hearing such stories of awesomeness because I am supertired, chronically lacking sleep and my patience is stretched to the limits, but then again, when I come home and put these three monkeys to bed, I know there's no place I'd rather be at that moment but beside them. Sounds a bit masochistic, haha.

24points

#30

We are in our late fifties, we earn average money but because we don't have kids we have a lot of disposable income. Also I don't think I could have coped with the worry of having a child in today's horrible world. Both our mothers are in homes. We still make sure they're ok. There's no one to look after us. I sometimes want to ask my wife if she regrets not having kids but daren't. If she said yes it would destroy me.

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Katchen 5 years ago

The average age of a child in the American foster care system is 8. If they wanted to they could positively impact the life of an older child without the 18 years and biological hardship of having their own children.

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Daniel R. 5 years ago

Great post, seriously. It's OK not to want kids - can we normalize that already? Especially within other cultures, it's almost a sin to not want kids. I should forward this to some people.

19points

John Louis 5 years ago

It's nobody's business whether you have children. End of story! I am 57 and never regretted never siring offspring. I know plenty of people who feel otherwise. There's no reason to even discuss it except to make this point: It's your decision and no one else need express or have an opinion on the matter.

15points

B 5 years ago

My ex and I decided we wouldn't have children (because, reasons). Then later she decided she wanted them, and for the sake of contentment and keeping our marriage happy we had them. The stress and disagreements that they caused (not their fault, of course, but different parenting methods) was one of the reasons she is now my ex. My advice: think very carefully wbout WHY you're having kids if that's what you decide. If it's 'because that's what everyone does' it's not a good enough reason.

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KrisF 5 years ago

Just had a conversation with my dad last night about how I don't want biological kids and am kind of ambivalent about having them at all if I ever meet someone (which is something else I've always been ambivalent about). I have had lifelong health issues that are genetic, and it has always made basic things difficult. I don't want any child to go through what I did and it's pretty much a 50/50 chance that any kid I have will get it to some degree (all of my siblings have it, though not as severe). He doesn't get it and spent most of the conversation trying to talk me out of it.

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Catffirmations 5 years ago

I agree completely. I think more people should be more aware of their physical, mental, and emotional limitations. I have a myriad of health issues and I would never want to pass my bad genes to someone else, knowing they will spend their lives suffering. I am shocked how many people have children despite knowing the high likelihood of passing on genetic conditions or diseases; to me, that is true selfishness.

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Katinka Min 5 years ago

martha Meyer: You watched too many movies. We can't genetically modify our embryos (yet)

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Martha Meyer 5 years ago

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Slinkman 5 years ago (edited)

And still.. i'm 31 and still not sure if i want children, my girlfriend is on the same page. I work every day with children and love my nephew and niece (very happy about the fact there will be a third one later this year), but i don't feel the need of having children of my own. When you share this thought with other people, they often look at you as if you slapped them in the face. Like they are saying : 'No children of your own in your life, that's just not done, what abnormal person are you?! But still, i'm not going to raise a child when i'm not ready for him or her, that''s not fair to them and not fair to myself. I very much enjoy children, but i also very much love my freedom and the fact i'm not 24/7 responsible for a life i helped create. Downvote me if you think it's what you have to do, but that's how i'm feeling. Maybe it sounds weird but i rather have a dog to care for instead, and that is definitely going to happen. Love animals ;)

6points

Isabella 5 years ago

That look on people's face, when you state you don't want or need kids? It's often jealousy. People have kids because "it's the right thing to do" or "because I am an adult" or "all other people have kids" or "a natural way of things to go..." and other b-s**t. Most of them have kids for wrong reasons. And then they regret this. But it is socially unacceptable to state that you regret having a kid. So they suffer. Alone with their feelings, unable to share. There was work about how many women regret motherhood - over 56% regret it and asked if they had knew what it is to have kids if they had them again - they always say no. One lady even stated she had suicidal thoughts because of regretting motherhood - she lived with believing that she is a bad person when it was her husband who forced having kid. Mind that in many countries abortion is not an option, sadly. Only small percentage of people have kids for right reasons.

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Lara Harris 5 years ago

I'm 45 he's 50. We made the decision together or rather... We both discussed it one day (well before marriage) and realised both of us weren't interested in having kids. Interestingly, I have 4 siblings, only one has kids (and he was tricked into that), my hubby has two siblings. Both of us really like our lives. We're happy as we are.

5points

Elizabeth 5 years ago

Everyone I've ever met without kids has a list of very good reasons why they didn't. Few people I've met with kids have any sort of list as to why they had kids. This really should be the other way around. I know we need children to continue our species but we don't live in biblical times, we have antibiotics and medicine. We need to control our population growth!!!!

5points

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Excellent thinking, Liz.

2points

Zoe's Mom 5 years ago

62, single and no regrets.

5points

Demi Zwaan 5 years ago

I never liked to play with baby dolls, never pictured a future with children and as I aged, I really didn’t like children. I see a kitten, I awww. I see a baby, I feel nothing. Kind of like how most people would feel about a pet snake. They look nice, you know the owner loves them, so you say nice things and you’d never want to harm them, but there’s no fuzzy warm feeling. Luckily, my husband feels the same way, so we never even considered having children. We’re 43 and 48 now, no regrets.

5points

Noez 🇸🇪 5 years ago

I'm a 36 y/o woman. Never wanted kids, ever. My own violent childhood is most likely the main reason, but I also see having kids as an ineffective choice... They're loud, take wayyy to long time to grow and be born and even longer time to make it on their own, they're expensive, they seem to absorb all energy from the parents, and the world is sometimes a nasty, horrid, awful place! There's not even a guarantee that a kid will grow up to be a good person, no matter how much love and support they get they can still become fools (I consider at least half my relatives to be quite foolish) that people wouldn't want to be with if they weren't related. How anyone despite all of this would even think to have "one of those" (kids) and take on the hard work and time and worry to take care of them is beyond me. I do salute you who do this and actually succeed with it YOU ALL DESERVE A PRIZE, but secretly I'm gonna wonder if you're insane..... As I said, I see kids as an ineffective choice.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Lots of parents who are trapped by their circumstances in here jealously downvoting anyone who planned better and chose not to reproduce.

4points

Jo Choto 5 years ago

A lot of these people are still quite young. What I have discovered is that with two of my mother's friends, who are single, childless and in their 70s, that their lives have become more and more empty over time. They don't have a partner for support and as they suffer the onset of various health issues, they have no one to help them, the way a child might. I don't think anyone should have kids if they don't want, but I think the answers you get from people in their 40s and 50s is going to be radically different than asking people in their 70s and 80s, especially when they have lost their partner.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I don’t think so. Children don’t fill an empty life, spouses and friends do. If that person had kids, their kids would be in their 40’s living their own life when the parent is in their 70’s. That won’t change the emptiness. The answer for those people is to get remarried or move to a 55+ community.

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Vi. B. 5 years ago

No one should have kids just to take care of them when old, it's most selfish thing in the world !

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Janelle Collard Premium 5 years ago

I had my "tubes tied" when I was 27 + have never regretted it. (I'm over 70 now.)

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optional 5 years ago

This question tends to be framed around how you feel when you're about to die or getting close. Why compromise 30+ years of your life just in case it'll maybe make you feel better for a very short time later on? Is feeling regret for a few days or weeks really worse than decades of struggle, compromise, and suffering? And for all you know you'll regret having kids just as much. Also, if someone's reason for having kids is to avoid potential regret later on, well that's a terrible reason, and that person will probably be a terrible parent.

3points

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Good point.

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April Simnel 5 years ago (edited)

Just turned 50, and no, I have no regrets about not having kids. My bio family was a shitshow of abuse, and for a long time I picked men to be in relationships with who were too similar to people who abused me in childhood, so I was basically replicating the pattern. That would have been horrible to expose a kid to. With the way things are going, I'm glad I don't have a child who would be in their mid-to-late 20s now, and who would have to live through what's coming. I have friends and younger cousins in that age group and into their 30s who are starting to pair up and have kids, and I'm so worried for them all.

3points

Michelle Watler 5 years ago

no kids, no regrets

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Isabella 5 years ago

Some people do regret kids They just don’t talk about it. In 1975, advice columnist Ann Landers asked her readers, “If you had it to do over again, would you have children?” Nearly 10,000 parents replied on handwritten postcards, and a few weeks later, Landers shared the survey results in an article headlined “70 PERCENT OF PARENTS SAY KIDS NOT WORTH IT.” https://medium.com/@krisgage/read-this-if-youre-not-sure-you-want-kids-c24c7895ebd5

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Isabella 5 years ago

https://www.amazon.com/Regretting-Motherhood-Study-Orna-Donath/dp/1623171377 “Donath breaks open what she describes as an ‘unspoken taboo,’ bringing the notion that women regret becoming mothers into the public discourse with her latest research.… The most valuable elements of the book are the different perspectives provided by the interviews, which reflect a striking amount of self-awareness (and, often, suffering) from women who have otherwise largely kept silent.” —Publishers Weekly

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Robyn Rob 5 years ago

I know a woman who never wanted kids, married a man who felt the same. He ended up cheating on her and told everyone the reason why they divorced was SHE didn’t want kids and he did (lies.) went on to have kids with the mistress and his family took his side because they blamed the ex for not wanting children.

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D. Pitbull 5 years ago

I need to forward this to **EVERYONE** - stop telling me "you'll regret it!" and stop telling me "You're so selfish"... and stop telling me that I'm "UNNATURAL"... also ... stop posting f**king articles/opinion pieces stating that it is impossible to live a FULL LIFE and properly "grow up" unless you have children. It's demeaning and it's bs.

2points

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Nobody on Earth who decided not to have kids regrets it later. That only happens the other way around. In fact I think almost all parents regret it in one way or another.

2points

Isabella 5 years ago

I stated it in a comment that was downvoted... there were studies about that. 56% of women [who were part of study sample - several hundreds from different countries and backgrounds] DO regret having kids.

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Terd Fergison 5 years ago

I'm so glad bored panda is promoting this line of thinking. Not everyone should have kids. Think long and hard before you make a decision that affects a lot of peoples' lives. There are environmental factors that all human beings need to consider also. People are judged very harshly for not having kids (especially women), but it may be one of the most moral things that you can do.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

How does judging people for having kids (what you are doing) make things better? Let’s just not judge either way, ok?

2points

Max Hallsett 5 years ago

Wow. A trend here. If you say something positive about not having kids, you are down voted. If you say something positive about having kids you are up voted. Can't we respect all people's choices? Who is so insecure about their choice to have kids they have to down vote others? Or is there some fringe "pro-life" group that wants to force people to have children even if they can't get or never have been pregnant?

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OCDRobot 4 years ago

My partner and I are going on 10 years in January and both very much agree that our cats are good enough. Despite the nagging from other family. We like our peace, and I know how I get with a lack of sleep, so parenting just wouldn't work out. I have a huge amount of respect for those who do parent well. It's the most important job in the world. It's just not for me, and I don't see that ever changing.

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Gracie Mae 5 years ago

I will never understand why it is so widely thought that everyone should have children; even more so, why people that don't are made to feel like they are in the wrong. I have always admired those that have made the decision not to have kids, regardless of their reason! I'm sure some do regret not having them, but that's something they have to make peace with. I would much rather have people decide NOT to have kids they don't want rather than keep reading about parents killing or abusing their kids (or vice versa) because they were 'in the way.' I admire people that make this decision!

1point

Krysta Pandoo 5 years ago

This is really interesting. the range of stories and outcomes really is an insight into others' lives. It's a bit sad that people with no kids need to explain themselves because of society, but i enjoyed reading the stories.

1point

sh 5 years ago

This post gives me peace. I'm 99% certain I don't want children, but that 1% nags at me, for fear that I'll have regret one day.

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Sardonic Scribe 5 years ago

I have lived my life knowing I only had 25% chance of every conceiving naturally. My ex and I had a rather miraculous moment 8 years ago, and my beautiful daughter Marlowe was the result. Tragically she was taken from us after only 4 and a half months due to SIDS. At that moment I knew I would never have another child. Contemplating my life and circumstances, I knew it would be irresponsible to try again - I had a s**t show of a childhood (abusive & manipulative father), and I suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as other genetic issues, which I would never want to pass on to another human being. I'm 42 now and have zero regrets about not having another child, and I utterly treasure the time I did have with my daughter. Please try not to judge those of us who have consciously made the choice not to procreate, just as we don't judge those who have chosen to do so. If it's not your life, why should it matter anyway?

1point

Maria Rohlen 5 years ago

I'm glad I don't have kids and I have never regretted my decision to not have any. My ex wanted kids and his parents wanted us to get married, he knew I didn't want any and didn't want to get married either. We were living together for nine years before I broke up with him. A year later he met a 10 year younger woman and is married with here, but he didn't want them to have kids and now I think he is to old, he's 55.

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Callie Dryer 2 years ago (edited)

Sometimes I think to myself, “…I should’ve had kids….” Then something happens in the family, someone says something that’s a little bit off…or something happens in the world and I remember: some people in my direct bloodline are nuts as in certifiable what if my kid turns out all kinds of messed up? Oh and the world’s a pretty messed up place, don’t even get me started on the problems with my country, gun violence, racial issues, etc.. Holy c**p am I glad I don’t have kids, I’d never let them out of the house or near half the family and that alone would mess them up. 😵‍💫

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Kara Smith 2 years ago

Newsflash. Not everyone wants kids. People that insist that you can’t be happy without kids are projecting their own issues such as they have nothing at all outside of their kids. That’s your problem not mine. I also don’t like when it’s presented that you need a reason. There is no reason other than I don’t want it. I am successful, I can afford it. I simply don’t want to. I made it completely on my own with a career, not a job. I met my husband at work and now we can enjoy all of our time to ourselves which is what we want. We don’t have debt, i’m not missing out. And people arguing with us that we are missing something are the reason that these arguments occur. You do you. I’ll do me.

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Kara Smith 2 years ago

Love that I knew that not having kids was a choice. It’s not for everyone and the assumption that people who don’t have kids are miserable is just the self projection of others who maybe don’t have anything going on in their life. I’m not saying that parents don’t love their kids but you don’t get to decide what makes other people happy just because that’s what makes you happy. Being self-sufficient was some thing I needed and I did that and succeed it. I have a career, not a job and I was making it completely on my own buying my own house and cars prior to meeting my husband. Now we get to enjoy life together, we don’t have debt and get to just enjoy our time the way we want to. I also don’t like the perception that people aren’t having kids because of a reason. there is no reason other than I don’t want it. I can afford it, I am mentally stable and intelligent it’s just not what I want. And peoples refusal to accept that is what starts a lot of these arguments. You do you Ill do me.

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Monica Pryts 3 years ago

I'm not sure why some of these people think you can't have a nice house, money, travel, etc., simply because you have kids.

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Noe Raya 4 years ago

The true answer will come to us on our death bed. Most people commenting here are for the most part in their 30s 40s and 50s. I noticed the older the person commenting the more real the answer was. All is nice and dandy, until. The only person holding your hand is a nurse to take your blood pressure. Fatalistic or realistic? Only time will tell. Peace out ✌️ Noé 39

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John ruth 4 years ago

Hey, I'm so excited my broken Marriage has been restored & my husband is back after he left me and our 2 kids for another woman. After 4 years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled withs sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr IYAYA can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a (Love spell) for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids

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Charlene Sanders 4 years ago

I don't recall ever wanting children. I am 66 and have zero regrets. My little sister was 10 years younger than I & we shared a room when she was a baby so, I was the one getting up in the middle of the night, not my mom. I hated babysitting but that was the only "approved" job my father allowed me during high school. There were few good men available who didn't want kids so you were left with other others. I married in the mid 70s and endured all the names, selfish, shirking my responsibilities, etc. My husband ended up being Manic Depressive so he would have made a poor role model. Noticed with friends/relatives that when the husband was tired, he checked out and left child care to the wife. No way I wanted to deal with that. Decision to be childless is one of the decisions I haven't regretted.

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Graham Brand 4 years ago

This was a great read after an evening and a Frank discussion with my partner to which I was only open and honest in my opinions and feelings to not want children,. Shes younger than me. And clearly does want kids. Me being honest about not wanting them puts a timeline on our relationship. That hurts.. but I would never intentionally waste someone's child bearing years.. I lost my mother at 17, shortly afterward my father moved on with his life disregarding me my brother and sister. At 21 I had a beautiful daughter who passed away and broke my heart. I have since not wanted anymore children. I'm a 33 year old man and content with my life at this point regardless of the past.. I have a great job.. I just brought myself a aston martin and I dont feel selfish. But my life style isn't suited for my partner in the long run.. will I end up alone,... who knows.. my dad didn't seem to care.. I will continue to be honest with my feelings and fears. And maybe someone will accept that.

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Erin 4 years ago

You know that thing that women have when they look at a child and think, "OMG I WANT ONE." I don't have that. I have never looked at a child or someone with a child and felt a sense of longing. I am 46 years old and happily child-free. I have nieces and nephews that I love more than anything in the entire world, but I certainly don't want a child full time.

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Carol Emory 4 years ago

The people that are most upset about couples not having kids are the would be grandparents. But my thought is, if you are still the type of people that have spoiling to do and love to share, foster or adopt. There are lots of kids out there that need a home. And, unlike having your own kids, fostering does not age discriminate. You can be in your 60's and still be surrounded by kids.

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Death Metal Kitty 5 years ago

I can't fathom why this is even a topic. Don't want kids? Good for you, and I hope you're happy. Want kids and trying? Good for you, and I hope you're happy. Have kids? Good for you, and I hope you're happy. So long as you're not trying to convince other people to follow your philosophy or are trying to convince others that you're happy, who cares. Live your life, and let others live theirs.

0points

Evripidou Maria 5 years ago

good to see ppl who don;t want children for whatever reason. I am 35 and never wanted, do not want, never will want kids. My dad thinks I;m crazy but that;s who I am

0points

Jovy Jergens 5 years ago

Our world is facing extinction due to human overpopulation. Unfortunately we are taking other species and our environment with us. If you don't want kids, it's not like we need more humans. Have had a VERY interesting life that would not have been possible if I had kids tying me down. No regrets.

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AnnieLaurie Burke 5 years ago

If your motivation for having children is that they will take care of you in your old age, you might want to rethink that. If you think choosing not to have kids is selfish, having them so they can serve you in old age has to be the epitome of selfishness. And, judging from current stats, it's not real likely your kids are are going to become your old-age babysitters. How about being responsible in taking care of yourself so you don't have to be a burden on anyone in your old age?

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Katinka Min 5 years ago

Good post. I do have one regret: I am really sorry to not have felt that incredibly love of a mother for her child. But other than that I'm just incredibly relieved. (No school issues, no f*cking brithday party mania. No digital predators. Raising kids in the 70s80s, ok, but today?? No thanks) I had a pregnancy scare this year (I'm 48) and freaked out - a good sign how happy and comfortable I am in my low-key life, nowadays.

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Astrid Nineor 5 years ago

You know how if you say "no" to people asking if you have kids is ALWAYS followed by 'why'? We should start saying 'why' back when they tell us they have kids, just to teach them to mind their own business

0points

Anna Ledwońska 5 years ago

I've had a s****y parents - father which was evil stalker. Very irresponible mum, which has now dementia so nope. My partner also never wanted children. Though he have great parents. We are together for 25 years. never regretted. My partner and are are enough for us. We have whole Universe together, and very close. We would probably forgot about children. Both additionally have jobs which are our hobby. I am a freelance artist... he is best in his job so spend a lot of time on advicing others and at work. Yes, I tend to focus so much on work that I forget about world... Child woudn't survive in such evironment. We are relieved not having any children...

0points

Jus 5 years ago

This is about me and I like it.

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Hollie Newton 5 years ago

My partner has autism and together we have s**t genetics and health issues it is beyond unfair to allow a kid into this world with that mixed bag. We are 24/25 and decided at 20 children is not for us we would be awful. Even our family is starting to realize we would be real bad parents. Our motto is WE ARE THE CHILDREN WE NEVER HAVE 😆

0points

anarkzie 5 years ago

Reading everyone's unique personnel experience on the subject probably made for one of the most interesting reads I've had on Bored Panda, good question good submissions by everyone.

0points

Artex Gorilla 5 years ago

Bit of a pointless feature to be honest.

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Vivek Mhatre 5 years ago

The big reason for having kids(especially male) in developing / undeveloped countries is "old age support". Taking care of our parents is a given and hence joint families are still the norm in my country (India). The logic taught to us is simple. In your early years you needed to be taken care of. Now in their later years, they need to be taken care of. In developed countries, you have the infrastructure, facilities and a supportive government that ensures that people are taken care of. This is not true in my country. So in most developing/developed countries, this choice does not exist. The social stigma is another factor as people tend to view you as weak or physically impaired if you don't have kids. The constant nagging by relatives/friends is another minor reason.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

That’s extremely selfish no matter where you are from.

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PandaManda 5 years ago

Most of those are millennials I guess.

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PandaManda 5 years ago

Only true egoists choose not to have children. The good part is that when you are gone, you'll be forgotten. Which, I guess, is the best thing you could have done for the world.

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Caroline Driver 5 years ago

We had a couple of friends who had decided not to have children, and that was fine, except for the fact that she would tell us at every opportunity, (especially after we had our daughter) that she had known when she was 14 that she didn't want children because she'd had to look after her younger siblings. Every. F£$%ing. Opportunity. It's not like we ever tried to argue the point or change her mind.

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Givalle Williamson 5 years ago

Ive not had the best of lives but one thing i can say is even though im not with my childs mum and not a traditional family my daughter is worth the world times over the clichè saying would be you dont know until you have or had everything about your creation is just amazing love my baby & people in general breed love & unity x

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

No, you can know you don’t want kids. You are happy with your choice but most people aren’t. x

1point

Kris 5 years ago

The whole 'wait til you get older' (I look considerably younger than I am) is annoying and the whole 'wait til you find the right guy' (one instance, my fiancé was standing RIGHT next to me!) is infuriating. I relish when I just state I don't want children, they say some form of annoying thing above and THEN I come in with the whole can't-have-kids-cause-my-ovary-committed-suicide-and-the-other-side-is-blocked story and their face becomes deep with pity and shame. Of course, they then rally and bring up adoption. Still say flat out no, but man ... that look of shame is pretty awesome.

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Miriam 5 years ago

I was so relieved by reading of so many people who do not want to become a parent because they were raised in an abusive household or had difficult parents and are afraid to replicate the pattern. It's the same with me. I am now 39 years old. I never really wanted a child and also was afraid I would be too much like my emotionally-abusive mother. I also got/get the question "And don't you want children?" a lot. For a time, I was honestly answering: "No, because I don't think I would be a good mother or the mother I'd like to be due to my own upbringing". There was always astonishment all around. People were like: "Oh no, you would never be like that, you are making this up". That really frustrated me. Now my husband is sterilised, so I say we decided against and point to that as an answer. Still, the reactions I get are mainly of the "This is so sad" kind. Some even suggest that the sterilisation is reversible. Most people really miss the point that it is a personal decision entirely.

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Ozacoter 5 years ago

I already need to do all the chores in the house: cooking, cleaning, laundry, gardening, caring of the dog... If we had kids I would be the one doing 99% of the work. I already have little free time for myself, I really dont want to spend it raising kids.

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Burk Billin 5 years ago

I wonder how many people here wish their parents didn't have them. Not many I suspect.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

Their parents gave them the gift of life, and they are appreciating that gift properly by living on their own terms.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I bet a lot of them actually. What a terrible and childish argument you’re trying to make though lol. Most people are leagues past this small level thinking.

3points

Slinkman 5 years ago

I'm understanding what you are getting at. But the sad part is that on the other hand, there are lots children who are unwanted and neglected because their parents had kids without really wanting them (by accident or by choice).They don't love their children, and the kids are the victims of that. I'm not sure if i want kids, but i'm sure that i don't want to become such a parent. Having children because my parents had me, is not a reason for me to start a family. I only want kids when i'm truly sure and truly ready, otherwise i don't think i'm becoming a great parent. And i do want to become one if i ever change my mind. Hope you understand my point of view on this.

2points

Sardonic Scribe 5 years ago

That's not really a fair statement. Think about this... is it responsible for people to have children who A) Don't want them; B) Aren't financially stable and able to provide basic needs; C) Have severe mental/genetic issues which can be passed down; D) Are in an abusive relationship, etc? Just because you CAN have children, doesn't mean you should. There are simply some people who aren't cut out to be parents... why is that so hard for people to grasp?

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Hello Dolly 5 years ago (edited)

I wish my mom wouldn’t have had me. On the other hand I am truly thankful and wish everyday of my life that the parents I do have now would have been my biological parents! I still take care of my bm on a regular basis to this day. Just because someone gives you the gift of life does not meant that they were destined to be the caregiver for such life.

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Biljana Malesevic 5 years ago

I accidentally noticed my comment was deleted. I guess it wasn't PC enough for Bored Panda. So "thank you" very much for hating my horrible opinion once again! Want PC? I don't care what other people do with their lives, do they want children or not. I wouldn't want anyone telling me what to do with my life so why would I do that to someone else. Is this politically correct enough for you people?

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

That’s not what “politically correct” means and you don’t even know why your comment was deleted.

1point

Gisele 5 years ago

I'm sure everyone here is glad to be alive

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

Yes, so they can live their life however they want.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I doubt that. I’m sure most people here aren’t this shallow of a thinker like you. You’re wayyyyy behind.

1point

R.s. Potter 5 years ago

Those of us who grew up in screwed up families with abusive parents have had times in our lives when we were not glad to be alive. There are more than 7 billion people on the planet, it's a good thing if the only people who have children are those that genuinely want them.

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Starbelly Eleven 5 years ago

After reading a lot of these stories, and considering my own upbringing, a lot of our parents DIDN'T feel differently. They had kids anyway because of limited choices for unwanted pregnancies, societal expectations, or family pressure. Thank God we have better choices, at least for now.

14points

Aunt Messy 5 years ago

I'm with Starbelly. I know a LOT of women in the 45-70 year old age groups and almost all of them would have chosen to have their children later in life, had fewer kids, or had none at all. It's not that they don't love their kids, they just had no choice in the matter.

3points

Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Why?

1point

NoJo 5 years ago

I'm with Starbelly and Aunt Messy on this one. Kids are great if you actually want to have them. I think childless people are criticized as somehow not doing their part, when in fact they don't drain society's resources as much. It's important that we have the ability to choose for ourselves which path we will take.

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R.s. Potter 5 years ago

I was born in the era when birth control was somewhere between non-existent and hard to get, when women had few options of jobs to support themselves, and when social pressure to marry and have children was enormous. I'm quite sure that my mother, and many other women of her era, only had children because otherwise they'd have been pitied and scorned as abnormal. It was pretty obvious, from an early age, that she wished she'd never had any. Instead she had five that she could barely cope with. You seem to think that people have always gladly chosen to have children - well, that hasn't always been the case.

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Croline Lason 5 years ago

Why so? I have always wanted kids (and have been blessed with two), so I was curious to get to understand the people who never felt like having any... It's great to have other points of view :)

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Bibs 5 years ago

Ya, why? I am happy reading most of these, giving me the feeling I'm not alone with my (atleast current, but thing lifelong) decision not to want kids eventhough everyone seems to expect it.

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Ksenia M 5 years ago

Why?

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Lisa Onitnelot 5 years ago

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Arno Nüüm 5 years ago

"not having kids" "being alone"

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Daniel R. 5 years ago

Great post, seriously. It's OK not to want kids - can we normalize that already? Especially within other cultures, it's almost a sin to not want kids. I should forward this to some people.

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Katinka Min 5 years ago

martha Meyer: You watched too many movies. We can't genetically modify our embryos (yet)

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Lara Harris 5 years ago

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Elizabeth 5 years ago

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Excellent thinking, Liz.

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Zoe's Mom 5 years ago

62, single and no regrets.

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Demi Zwaan 5 years ago

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Noez 🇸🇪 5 years ago

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Lots of parents who are trapped by their circumstances in here jealously downvoting anyone who planned better and chose not to reproduce.

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Jo Choto 5 years ago

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Vi. B. 5 years ago

No one should have kids just to take care of them when old, it's most selfish thing in the world !

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Janelle Collard Premium 5 years ago

I had my "tubes tied" when I was 27 + have never regretted it. (I'm over 70 now.)

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optional 5 years ago

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Good point.

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April Simnel 5 years ago (edited)

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Michelle Watler 5 years ago

no kids, no regrets

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Isabella 5 years ago

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Nobody on Earth who decided not to have kids regrets it later. That only happens the other way around. In fact I think almost all parents regret it in one way or another.

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Isabella 5 years ago

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

How does judging people for having kids (what you are doing) make things better? Let’s just not judge either way, ok?

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Max Hallsett 5 years ago

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sh 5 years ago

This post gives me peace. I'm 99% certain I don't want children, but that 1% nags at me, for fear that I'll have regret one day.

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Sardonic Scribe 5 years ago

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Monica Pryts 3 years ago

I'm not sure why some of these people think you can't have a nice house, money, travel, etc., simply because you have kids.

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Evripidou Maria 5 years ago

good to see ppl who don;t want children for whatever reason. I am 35 and never wanted, do not want, never will want kids. My dad thinks I;m crazy but that;s who I am

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Jovy Jergens 5 years ago

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Jus 5 years ago

This is about me and I like it.

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Hollie Newton 5 years ago

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anarkzie 5 years ago

Reading everyone's unique personnel experience on the subject probably made for one of the most interesting reads I've had on Bored Panda, good question good submissions by everyone.

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Artex Gorilla 5 years ago

Bit of a pointless feature to be honest.

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Vivek Mhatre 5 years ago

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

That’s extremely selfish no matter where you are from.

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PandaManda 5 years ago

Most of those are millennials I guess.

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PandaManda 5 years ago

Only true egoists choose not to have children. The good part is that when you are gone, you'll be forgotten. Which, I guess, is the best thing you could have done for the world.

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Caroline Driver 5 years ago

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

No, you can know you don’t want kids. You are happy with your choice but most people aren’t. x

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Kris 5 years ago

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Burk Billin 5 years ago

I wonder how many people here wish their parents didn't have them. Not many I suspect.

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

Their parents gave them the gift of life, and they are appreciating that gift properly by living on their own terms.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I bet a lot of them actually. What a terrible and childish argument you’re trying to make though lol. Most people are leagues past this small level thinking.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

That’s not what “politically correct” means and you don’t even know why your comment was deleted.

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Gisele 5 years ago

I'm sure everyone here is glad to be alive

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Nia Loves Art 5 years ago

Yes, so they can live their life however they want.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

I doubt that. I’m sure most people here aren’t this shallow of a thinker like you. You’re wayyyyy behind.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 5 years ago

Why?

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Croline Lason 5 years ago

Why so? I have always wanted kids (and have been blessed with two), so I was curious to get to understand the people who never felt like having any... It's great to have other points of view :)

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Bibs 5 years ago

Ya, why? I am happy reading most of these, giving me the feeling I'm not alone with my (atleast current, but thing lifelong) decision not to want kids eventhough everyone seems to expect it.

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Ksenia M 5 years ago

Why?

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Arno Nüüm 5 years ago

"not having kids" "being alone"

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