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Man Creeped Out By Older Female Neighbor Showing Up At His House Unannounced, Finds Out Why
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Man Creeped Out By Older Female Neighbor Showing Up At His House Unannounced, Finds Out Why

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When you move into a close-knit neighborhood, it’s important to tread carefully as you find your place in the community.

Because of this, Reddit user Throwra_Age7950 made an effort to meet the residents as he was settling into his new home. Initially, they seemed warm and welcoming, and one married woman appeared especially eager to form a connection with him.

But as time passed, her behavior became increasingly puzzling—while she sometimes involved her family in their interactions, her actions also suggested she might be flirting with him.

Since her unexpected visits didn’t stop, the Redditor turned to r/relationship_advice for guidance to navigate the awkward dynamic.

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    After moving into a new neighborhood, this man noticed odd behavior from the HOA president

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    Her unwanted visits and mixed signals got so bad that he turned to the internet for help

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    As much as people might value their neighbors, privacy remains a top priority

    This story illustrates why so many people want to maintain some distance between themselves and those who live around them.

    According to 2024 data collected for Top Rail Fence by SurveyMonkey Audience, 65% of Americans admit to hiding from their neighbors.

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    The most common avoidance techniques are:

    • Pretending you don’t see them (37%);
    • Staying inside when they’re outside (34%);
    • Acting like you’re not home (26%);
    • Wearing headphones while outside (21%);
    • Acting like you’re on the phone (21%).

    81% of respondents said they value privacy from their neighbors and they take the following steps to achieve it:

    • 26% installed a fence or privacy screen;
    • 24% planted trees;
    • 15% arranged their patio furniture or patio layout in a particular way;
    • 6% of respondents added soundproofing materials to their patio or yard.

    As the story went viral, its author provided more information on what was happening

    Among the reactions that poured in, there was also some practical advice

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    Later, the man published an update, saying the neighbor was indeed flirting

    Image credits: Image by Freepik (not the actual photo)

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    Image credits: Throwra_Age7950

    Young men often deal with unwanted sexual advances from women

    When we think of receiving unwanted sexual advances, we usually picture women. But according to some research, young men also suffer from it, and women act as the aggressors.

    A survey of nearly 300 male college and high school students across the US discovered that 43 percent had been the victim of unwanted sexual attention, and, just as was the case in our story, 95 percent of the perpetrators were women they knew.

    The study’s authors looked at various types of sexual victimization. They found that more than half of the young men who’d been coerced said the advances were verbal or communicated through seductive behaviors. A smaller group—18 percent—said the women tried to use physical force to initiate sex, and 7 percent of the men said the female perpetrators plied them with alcohol or drugs before initiating the seduction.

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    Half of the victims said they wound up having sex with their aggressor, and 40 percent said they ended up kissing or touching instead.

    Let’s hope this time things won’t come to this.

    People believe the author of the post should, nonetheless, remain careful

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    Glenn Cuneo
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she's batshit crazy. Time for some 50,000 volt electrification.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I literally LOLed at this commenter’s solution: “Sleep with her husband to assert dominance”.

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    Traveling Lady Railfan
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hm. The last post I read was the younger sister who was attending a college job recruitment Fair and was being solicited by a older man who was creeping her out. No we have the same thing happening, only to a guy. Geez what's wrong with people? In a world of mail order vibrators and 24-hour a day p°rn access... Aren't there enough ways to get your jollies without being a s€xual predator?

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know much about the HOA (we don't have anything like this in the UK - the closest is Neighbourhood Watch, but no one has 'teeth'), but can he make a complaint about her? That she basically sexually harassed/hounded him & after he made it clear he wasn't interested, she started using her 'position' to punish him? There should be some rights for peeps in these kind of environments?

    Pyla
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    HOAs take on what local municipalities shirk at doing. So laws about how your home looks, cleanliness, compliance with parking and other rules fall on the HOA leaders. Most of the time it’s about leaves in the fall, and small stuff, but there are several power mad nuts in these organizations.

    Load More Replies...
    Gwyn
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go to the HOA early and often about her behavior. Establish documentation with them about what she's doing. With enough evidence you can probably get her kicked out of the position.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be? Peeking into his windows, prowling in his shed and inviting herself over when he had company. I'd say that if she hasn't got the stalker thing down, she's at the head of the class!

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    Id row
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two things in life will get you far: Never buy in an HOA and use your damned voice. You get someone trespassing on your property, you tell them to not do it again. Grifters show up to scam food while you're on a date? You tell them it isn't a good time and to please call next time. If they get offended by that, good. They'll stay away. Never get overly involved with neighbors, it never ends well. Familiarity breeds contempt.

    Heather Dwyer
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The "sleep with her husband to assert dominance" comment was GOLD!!! lolll

    Surly Scot
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thumbs up for the girlfriend putting Dana in her place. Gentlemen, when you have a problem like that with a weird woman, call in one of us other ladies to go deal with her, then you don't have to worry about any inappropriateness, we'll rip the b*itch a new a-hole on your behalf.

    Linda Riebel
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And now we know why the previous people sold their house and moved.

    Ghostpotato
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "this is not the behavior of a mentally stable person." This comment hit the nail on the head.

    Spittnimage
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Call her Mrs. Kravitz, she's old enough to know who that is (nosy neighbor on Bewitched).

    JD
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because she has money, doesn't mean anything. She could still very much enjoy the thrill of taking things that aren't hers. Especially if she has a crush on a certain young neighbor. Trophies from your house to hers. She showed up with the kids to c**k block the girlfriend. Oh look, your date is now a family dinner, no nookie for you guys!

    Glenn Cuneo
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she's batshit crazy. Time for some 50,000 volt electrification.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I literally LOLed at this commenter’s solution: “Sleep with her husband to assert dominance”.

    Load More Replies...
    Traveling Lady Railfan
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hm. The last post I read was the younger sister who was attending a college job recruitment Fair and was being solicited by a older man who was creeping her out. No we have the same thing happening, only to a guy. Geez what's wrong with people? In a world of mail order vibrators and 24-hour a day p°rn access... Aren't there enough ways to get your jollies without being a s€xual predator?

    StumblingThroughLife
    Community Member
    3 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know much about the HOA (we don't have anything like this in the UK - the closest is Neighbourhood Watch, but no one has 'teeth'), but can he make a complaint about her? That she basically sexually harassed/hounded him & after he made it clear he wasn't interested, she started using her 'position' to punish him? There should be some rights for peeps in these kind of environments?

    Pyla
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    HOAs take on what local municipalities shirk at doing. So laws about how your home looks, cleanliness, compliance with parking and other rules fall on the HOA leaders. Most of the time it’s about leaves in the fall, and small stuff, but there are several power mad nuts in these organizations.

    Load More Replies...
    Gwyn
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Go to the HOA early and often about her behavior. Establish documentation with them about what she's doing. With enough evidence you can probably get her kicked out of the position.

    Mike F
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be? Peeking into his windows, prowling in his shed and inviting herself over when he had company. I'd say that if she hasn't got the stalker thing down, she's at the head of the class!

    Load More Replies...
    Id row
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two things in life will get you far: Never buy in an HOA and use your damned voice. You get someone trespassing on your property, you tell them to not do it again. Grifters show up to scam food while you're on a date? You tell them it isn't a good time and to please call next time. If they get offended by that, good. They'll stay away. Never get overly involved with neighbors, it never ends well. Familiarity breeds contempt.

    Heather Dwyer
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The "sleep with her husband to assert dominance" comment was GOLD!!! lolll

    Surly Scot
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thumbs up for the girlfriend putting Dana in her place. Gentlemen, when you have a problem like that with a weird woman, call in one of us other ladies to go deal with her, then you don't have to worry about any inappropriateness, we'll rip the b*itch a new a-hole on your behalf.

    Linda Riebel
    Community Member
    1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And now we know why the previous people sold their house and moved.

    Ghostpotato
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "this is not the behavior of a mentally stable person." This comment hit the nail on the head.

    Spittnimage
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Call her Mrs. Kravitz, she's old enough to know who that is (nosy neighbor on Bewitched).

    JD
    Community Member
    2 days ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just because she has money, doesn't mean anything. She could still very much enjoy the thrill of taking things that aren't hers. Especially if she has a crush on a certain young neighbor. Trophies from your house to hers. She showed up with the kids to c**k block the girlfriend. Oh look, your date is now a family dinner, no nookie for you guys!

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